Mohammad Elshinawy – [Ep. 09] Mind Your Head & Strategize – Managing Our Disagreements

			Sell on a calm Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah. While he was like vegetarian
Welcome back to managing our disagreements, this is going to be part two of Mind your head, we want
to be consistent. We want to be methodical, we don't want to just give into emotion or biases or
double standards on how to react to these four buckets of differences or disagreements or disunity
proposals. And so in the previous episode, we spoke about how to deal with differences of variety
except them all. They're all traceable to the Prophet salAllahu alayhi wasallam. And then,
disagreements clashing views two or more, that are all excusable, how to deal with them, the layman
		

			will, you know, accept the view because he has to have the scholar that knowledge has reached him,
but he has no right to promote it. The independent researcher will take the position that his
investigation delivers him to, and he will not impose it denounce or condemn those that have
alternative conclusions within the excusable pool of opinions. Now, let's move on to inexcusable
positions, things we know for certain are wrong. How do we deal with that once again, full stop this
person that is doing wrong, this group that is doing wrong? What is the ideal way? Well, what is the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi salam is way in dealing with it. You see the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
		

			salam dealt very differently, with inexcusable practices based on who was performing them. So for
instance, a person that did not know he would simply educate them and not hold it against them when
they had no way of knowing so people from out of town desert dwellers, one would come in and urinate
in the masjid, another would come in and speak during the prayer, not knowing these things were
prohibited or had recently been prohibited. And so he sallallahu alayhi wa sallam stop people from
wanting to chastise them. And he simply informed them that this prayer, this place of worship, this
is inappropriate behavior. This is inappropriate behavior in this context. And people their
		

			reactions are really beautiful. If you go back to that hadith, they say we've never saw a teacher
like him. So he would teach on a Salatu was Salam. A second group of people knew what they were
being held back by a weakness in their resolve or determination, some laziness of sorts. And so he
would motivate, incentivize and encourage them on a Salatu was Salam.
		

			And then a third group of people that knew what was right, but disagreed with it. And that
excessiveness He condemned that, you know, stepping stone to extremism, he shut down on a his salatu
salam with assertiveness. And there is a very famous Hadith that everyone should know when the men
came and asked about, you know, the private worship or the private affairs of the Prophet sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam It was as if they underestimated them. And so one of them said, No, I'm not going
to marry women at all. I'm going to devote myself devote myself to worship. Another one said, I will
not break my fast any day, I'll fast every day, unlike the Prophet SAW Salem. And a third one came
		

			and said, I will never sleep at night I will pray every single night from its beginning to its end.
And so they were undermining the prophetic ideal while knowing what the prophetic ideal was. And
they had a rationalization they thought was right, they said the Messenger of Allah salAllahu Alaihe
Salam is the prophet of God, the best of us. He's guaranteed forgiveness we're not so we need to do
more. That sort of giving precedent to this novel view or this rationalization. When the truth was
clear. This was seen as a form of rebelliousness that he shut down on a Salatu was Salam, but wisely
so he did not condemn them by name. He stood on the pulpit because other people men could fall into
		

			this. And he said, What is the matter with people that they have no interest or they disparage my
sunnah the prophetic example of prophetic ideal, whomever has no interest in my sunnah funny. 70 is
not of Me very strong language, very different language from the other two categories, the
uninformed or the unmotivated. The person who is being rebellious requires that tough love that is
part of the prophetic example. But at times also the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam when he
would see evil, what he would do was he would busy people with good because sometimes building
what's absent, filling the void with good is far more important and far more effective than being
		

			reactionary to evil, right. Demolishing the evil and other evil could take its place is very
different from filling the void with good so that nothing can fill its place and oust it. So that's
the inexcusable how to deal with it still requires a stop and you need some intellectual human
		

			ADC may be I have not assessed the situation at hand and the ideal response to it. And the same
could be said, by the way for the final category. When its pros and cons, they have inexcusable
positions, do I collaborate with them or not cooperate with them or not? The leadership has to make
a judgment call. And the leadership needs to be respected. They should give room for people to give
feedback for people to advise people to ask, Why did you do this. But at the end of the day, we also
need to say maybe we don't have enough of a vantage point we don't have enough proximity nearness to
the situation at hand, to say for sure that there aren't greater gains here, or this isn't actually
		

			the lesser of two evils. And so when it's variety, when it's excusable, they have a certain approach
we discussed in the previous episode, when it's inexcusable responding to that or reacting to that
or offsetting that has a certain protocol. And likewise, when it is judgment calls based on pros and
cons, you want to advice with you know, making sure the intellectual humility is there that maybe
there are dimensions behind beyond me at the moment and Allah Zilla Jen knows best