Mohammad Elshinawy – Best of Stories – Study of Surat Yusuf 04
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The speakers discuss the negative impact of giving children priority over their own children and the need for parents to be mindful of their emotions. They emphasize the importance of avoiding hiding from others and embracing envy. The speakers also stress the need for forgiveness and avoiding fear. They highlight the need for individuals to be open-minded and consider their intentions.
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Smilla hamdu lillah wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah Allah He also had to drain and begin the name of Allah All Praise and Glory be to Allah. Its finest peace and blessings be upon His messenger Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and his family and his companions and all those who dread his path. May Allah allow for us and you
a share and a space among the people of the Quran, Illuminati or Illuminate our hearts and our minds with his glorious book and help us rinse away the mud that accumulates day in and day out by our sins and our evil earnings. Through our humble weekly dedication to his words and reflecting on here again the words of Allah azza wa jal as he tells to us the glorious story of use of Alayhis Salam, the profound story of use of Ali salaam, we welcome everyone back. And I will in sha Allah Allah jump right into the ayat we are today studying is eight and nine and 10 of Surah Yusuf, we concluded last week with Allah azza wa jal saying I've had Kana for use of our quality, yeah, tune this alien.
Certainly there are in use of his brothers in the accounts of use of in his brother's many signs. For those who inquire those who are inquisitive, those who are asking for signs asking for guidance.
And so the conversation begins here. It's a new scene with use of Our Lady salams. Brother saying,
useful whoo hoo hoo Yusuf and his brother, have both been I mean, are more beloved or more loved by our father than us when Neurospora when we are a clan, when we are a strong clan. And so they are a clan of brothers and clan doesn't just mean a large number. They were a large number, they were 10.
And so they were larger number and they were also all from the same
mom and dad, they were full brothers to each other. And so they were closer. So a large number of more closely knit or so they perceive them brothers is what they mean by that because Yusuf and his brother are from a different mother. And so they're saying we are also you know,
and we can talk about the lessons of this in a second in sha Allah and then they say in Evanna Luffy abahlali Mubin, our father of overlays Salaam is in clear error.
lol here does not mean misguidance in the religious sense or else they would have been disbelievers to call the Prophet of Allah, religiously misguided but they're saying that he has just misplaced his his reasoning in loving use of and his brother more than he loves us when we are a large strong clan.
And so we are 10 Strong, full siblings and they are too dependent youngsters that don't even share our mom. And so this is the first lesson right when you confuse quantity for quality. When you think numbers mean anything no numbers can be very misleading Allah azza wa jal himself said lentil tag Fetterman Philately a little grandson Isla, if you were to obey most people on earth they would deter you are mislead you from the Path of Allah Subhana Allah Tada
and also when you have large numbers of like minded people
that's a way
that you delude yourself, you know, lots of days, lots of times nowadays with social media and otherwise, we're talking about the concept of echo chambers echo chamber is not a new thing, where you basically bring around you, the people that think like you, so that you're only your thoughts occur around you, only your ideas, your sensibilities are reverberated in your presence. That could be the beginning of the end, when you don't allow for dissenting voices, you don't allow for criticism and disagreement, to keep our thoughts
precise to keep them rightly guided. And so people do this all the time, and it sends them in very unfortunate places. I mean, just look at this here. Now, we don't need to go far away. Don't be surprised at 10 grown men
having such a crazy conversation, like a contempt filled conversation about the younger brother, how did that ever become? Well think about it. How could he even say these things in the presence of those brothers, except that he already knew that his brothers would never relay these words to the Father, he already knew that everyone would agree with him. And so when he said it, you get that echo effect of yah, yah, yah, yah. And so whenever you're in a place when you're when you're only surrounding yourself with voices that agree with you.
You should be scared, this should be a red flag for you always.
And
the second thing you want to say here is that they reinforced the wrong fact. Wrong fact. I mean, first of all, let us say it was true before we say it's not true or not justified, the favoritism of Jacobian is set up.
Let us say a whole rather He said I'm loved certain child more than another child. Is that wrong? No, it's not wrong. Because loving a particular person over others many times, is uncontrollable. And so if it's not controllable, you're not blameworthy for it in the sight of Allah azza wa jal, Allah owns the reigns of our hearts. And so he fashioned us in a way to love people more than others. You know, we love those that are more impressive, more than those that are unimpressive. We love those that are kinder to us and those that are cruel to us. We love those that are more considerate of us than those that are insensitive or inconsiderate of us. Our Prophet sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam did not love all his wives equally, he had unparalleled love for Khadija are they allowed to Atlanta. And then when she passed away, he loved I Chateau de la Juana more than any of the other lives wives after Khadija.
So we are not blameworthy for this even if it were true.
We are only blameworthy when that love translates into injustice against our objects of love. You know, and this could be even expand into a wider discussion to love your country or love your ethnicity, or to love your culture or to love your people.
More than others due to similarities due to just familiarity, all of this is totally fine. But when that leads you to feel like you are inherently superior than others or leads you to dehumanize others, that's when it becomes a problem. Likewise, with your children, if you find yourself loving one child more than another, whether you can pinpoint the the reason or not, there are reasons you just sometimes don't know them.
Make sure it doesn't cause you to swerve from justice. And remember that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to the father of a nomadic Vitiate fear Allah exactly left her
with our ideal, our ideal lubaina, Allah decom and be fair and just between your children, so be fair and just with everything possible for you. Even the division of hugs and kisses and quality time, do your level best to remember that the Prophet SAW Selim said fear Allah and be just unfair, because that is what is in your control being just unfair. And then we want to say let us say some sort of preferential treatment has to happen. Like you have a reward system at home, and you want to reward someone more than others because they they've earned it.
Or let us say you have a child that has a particular need at home. So that would be justified to give them preferential treatment or extra treatment based on need. That's the justification.
But what we want to say here is that I'm just saying that it would be justified to give use of either he said and his brother preferential treatment
because they're younger and they needed more it just natural and it makes sense and it has nothing to be held against you. I've already said it and I just internal love but even the expressions of care. It's a smaller child, a younger child.
out. But what we also want to say is, even though it's justified, the Envy between peers, siblings, or you know, whatever, anyone who shares a space with somebody else, that's where envy, the battleground for envy ensues. And we will get to that in a minute.
They may not accept that they may not understand that and so parents, even if he's justified in His sight of Allah, to give preferential treatment to one child or another, they should at times try to hide this from other children. Sometimes it can be an encouragement to other children, but you need to be aware of your children's demons, you need to be aware of your children's weaknesses. What if this causes animosity between them you need to know and be careful and be calculated? Maybe sometimes there's greater benefit in hiding some of this preferential treatment, even if it's justified, even if it's just I'm in for use of it sometimes not just he was young, he was also far
more virtuous than his brothers. I mean, can you imagine compare the difference between that statement we heard before? Yeah, Betty Oh my dear father, and between what this brother is saying in vanilla feedlot le Moby and my father is just he's lost he's so you know, lost about how he distributes his his attention and his care and otherwise so use the valet said undeserved on every level. But hiding it from the brothers as much as possible.
Is something that Yahoo probably did, but it wasn't enough. So you should try to minimize it when you can. Then the next verse we move on that the brothers said, Oh, Cthulhu use of kill use of just crazy kill our little brother.
And don't be surprised, right? Total use of kill yuzu Elettra who who outdone or just like cast him away to like a faraway land. Yes, Lulu Kumar, who are become so that your father's face will be all yours meaning undivided attention, you'll have undivided the undivided attention of your father, your father's face will be all yours. What are Kuno embody here, oh man solid in and you will be after that, you know, we'll just will purge that from our memories and you will you will be after that action or righteous people.
Okay, your father, first of all, your father's face will be all yours.
I want it my mind all to myself. Why? Because they can't all have priority with their father's attention. That is symbolic of everything in this world. Our impatience as human beings, the finite nature of this world. We can't all have it all whether we're talking about the tension, we're talking about fame, we're talking about the intelligence, we're talking about money, whatever we can, none of us can have at all. And so the nature of this world
and our impatience as human beings, this is what causes envy to be such a widespread problem in the human race. And even in the January's, and it was even triathlons problem, right? He couldn't be number one and add the Malay Salam couldn't be number one at the exact same time. And so whenever a person's piety or absence, or you know, God consciousness is absent or is shallow, we will fail at shackling the desire to always be on top, in every
category. And so
think about anything at all. Like it's not just you know, Yusuf Ali said I'm with his brothers Iblees. With Adam, we said, Cain and Abel, right, the brothers of the sons of AD and the two brothers that killed one another. The Prophet SAW Selim and his adversaries, it was jealousy at the end, how come you get the message? Or why not? Why not somebody else they meant themselves, right? Even happy marriages and other couples, why can't I have the happy marriage?
It can extend to like valedictorian, or like some award any award that's shared with people, every noticeable distinction, specifically enjoyed by one person in a group of equals people that could have potentially had it that spawns envy. And so envy exists in all of our nature, because it's the nature of this world and the nature of the human being lend themselves to envy. And that is why
one of the self said mahalo just has one min Hasidim, there is no just said there is no body except that it contains has it just as has it, except that it contains envy. He said the only difference is the pious person as I said, when piety is absent, the pious person suppresses it, and the wicked person expresses it
expresses it in so many different ways you can
you know, extend harm to people inflict harm upon people because of your envy. Physically or with the evil eye without even realizing it. Or you can
fail other people desert other people at upholding their rights with someone else's harming
Have them, you don't defend them or say tequila or otherwise because you're envious, right and so you may not harm them yourself but you may also not allot them their due right as a Muslim or as a human being of supporting them when they're oppressed. It just it needs to be suppressed. And that's where piety comes in. And that's why Allah also helped us by diverting our competitive nature to the hereafter, because that is an indication, as some scholar said, that you can't remove hesed like envy and jealous admiration wanting to be like others, you can extract it from the human being. And so Allah azza wa jal did not tell you remove it, he told you suppress it when it comes to this
world, and channel it into the competition's of the Hereafter.
And it was one set to a hassle Versary Rahima Hola.
I asked you the movement? Can a believer be envious because envy is so evil, it eats up your good deeds just it eats up your good deeds. It doesn't just like annoy you emotionally, which is part of the problem of envy. You know, envy the grudge you have against someone because they're distinguished or they're privileged. You're objecting to Allah, giving them that so you're objecting to his wisdom and you're also objecting to the most generous he may take it away from them and give them 10 times more so you'll never be happy. The solution is to get like to get this envy under control. And or else you know that grudge will make you more oppressed than that person. As you
know. I've allowed him to miss early on he said that I never saw an old presser that looks more like an old pressed person because like it's self inflicted harm. He said like the end of the year, the hassled
MRI to volume and I should wear aluminum and hustled back to hustle Versary sorry, Rahim. Allah, Allah, he said
that
I cannot believe or envy, like he said, Matt, and secondly, a call to use of how fast can you forget the brothers of use of meaning if people that are raised by a prophet
can still have this problem festering inside of him? And how can anyone else expect to just get a by get a pass away from it, he's not saying that you can be a perfect believer while envying, he's saying the baseline believer, obviously envy is haram. It's contrary to belief contrary to faith.
That is important to mention as well that no matter who you are, you don't want to be that parent that's in denial about the potential evil of your children in just embrace it, your child is not an angel. And you know, you'll be one step ahead of the game once you embrace that and you help to mitigate it and look out for it and Shavonne will not leave your kids alone, you know, and we're all human and so get past the denial and get to the the rehab or the the mitigation phase.
That's extremely important and I'll mention to two last things but before I move on to the next verse, notice number one he said we're gonna kill us Let's kill you so for let's throw him away like faraway land let's banish him. And then so we can have our father's face and you can be after that Holman Salim a righteous people. That's called premeditated. tilba. Okay, premeditated repentance. premeditated repentance is not repentance, okay? It's not repentance. It's you lying to yourself tricking yourself thinking you're tricking Allah subhanho wa taala. And since it's not true repentance, Allah will not reward you with the fruits of repentance, like turning a new leaf and the
determination to do better after and all of these things, all you're doing is just like
giving yourself a religious sedative to make yourself feel better.
Because you did something you think is good after you're doing something that that doesn't work like that. And everyone does this, by the way. It's not just shedding blood is going to be like,
remedied by an artificial intention to repent with these rallies, Sam's brothers, you know, missing the federal prayer is is justified by being punctual punctual with the other four. No, we need to be praying our Five on there times the same way I let us an acceptance Allah before its sign will not accept it after its time. You know, having unlawful income is, you know, buried by the fact that we take some of it and we put it into charity or we do Hajj or Umrah or otherwise, you know, silence about the oppression of others is remedied by the fact that we cry some crocodile tears, but don't do anything about it. And so the list of religious sedatives is actually endless. And we ask Allah
azza wa jal
To protect us from from fooling ourselves.
And then he said, we're going to be a righteous people. He didn't say we're gonna be righteous. After we kill yourself. He said, we're gonna be a righteous people.
And the scholars said, there may be a subtle secret here, there may be a reason why he worded it that way. And maybe it was suggesting that they will at large via righteous people. Meaning not necessarily every single one of them is going to be a righteous person.
And so it's as if perhaps Allah azza wa jal is allowing us to peek into his psychology that like the psycho spiritual state of this person, that he does not see himself can't even imagine himself being righteous after anymore.
And that is the reality of people that that don't repent properly, and those that, you know, have have fallen sunk into this state. Like eat murder is forgivable if you genuinely repent. Right? It is, anything is forgivable, even What's worse than murder she had, right. So it is in associating partners with Allah Azza wa jetsetting equals to God, if you repent while you're still alive, but the idea is your repentance
may not be genuine, you may not feel like I can actually do it. And so you don't intend on being determined and about your repentance.
Because of a very sad state of feeling pathetic that you fall into and that is of the of the greatest harms of sin, by the way, that you don't seek Allah's forgiveness because you feel like you can't be forgiven anymore, and you can but because of that feeling that you have about yourself, you project it on Allah and so you don't try. Allah didn't say you can be forgiven, you felt you can be forgiven. That's of the punishments of sin is that you don't
feel resolute about chasing after the door of Toba. before it closes. It hasn't closed, but you told yourself that did. May Allah protect us. So he's saying we're going to be a righteous people, as if saying, not every single one of us will, at least most of us hopefully will be.
Then the last verse to close up today.
One of them said, Colorado minimum last up to low use of don't kill use of wild goofy viability job and throw him into the depths of the world. He accepted tobacco sejarah. So that's some of the pasture advice can come pick him up in contempt, very lean, if you must do something. And I wrote this, some of you may see it floating around on social media that this verse, I've, I've still have not found closure on it. Like, why did he say don't kill use of throw him in the well? Was he feeling really bad for you? So far, they set up and he couldn't do any better? And so he said, Let me at least minimize the harm.
Or did he feel like I'm better than everyone else? So I'm not going to accept that ugly suggestion, I'm going to be the person that mentioned that less ugly suggestion. Meaning was it for use of either his setup? Or was it for him to silence his own conscience help him sleep at night? I can't tell. I want to lean to the fact that
he
wanted to help you survive a setup. Especially because at the end of the verse, he says, If you must do something like if you're gonna do it fine, do that.
In sha Allah, that's what it was. But in any case, even if his intention was to give himself a religious sedative, as we've been saying, Today, that's still fine. Like, don't be that person that's so worried about your intentions, that you don't actually do righteous actions, because he will always say how do I know I'm doing it for the right reasons. That's important. You always want to be questioning your,
your intentions within a healthy way. Because why does shaitan want to ruin our intentions, so that our actions would be worthless, right. But if you don't do actions in the first place, you just make a thens job so much easier. And so what you want to do is do the right thing, and never stop doing the right thing and continue doing the right thing, and continue being critical of your intentions throughout. And so whether or not he did it for use of to save a life doesn't matter if you can't remove harm, minimize harm, that's part of doing the right thing. Regardless of what his intentions were, and Hamdulillah. He said what he said. And also think about he just made a statement like he
made his statement in a very sinister gathering. We said the gathering, they knew beforehand that we would all be in agreement we're going to cover up on each other. That's why he even opened up the topic.
The first speaker, right? And so the fact that he had he found the guts if you're going to do something, and he said he throw that suggestion out there
was was a brave contribution. Because it is, you know, a disagreement of sorts. But Hamdulillah he did it. And so never underestimate yourself. Never sell it. Sell yourself short. Always make your suggestions. Always pass your ideas. Always, you know, share your constructive criticisms, always warn those who may be deterred by the warning, just say it could make a historic difference. I mean, that one suggestion is Hala it was so tied with the culture of Allah. He said a passerby will pick him up a passerby didn't pick him up. It's not guaranteed, right.
It could have been, you know, too late, but it's on the passerby came, or the passerby could have picked him up and, you know, brought him back to a passerby picked him up and took him to a place where he would make history where he needed to be, because a famine was coming right in the story that you know, in Egypt, all because of an utterance and so many events in the course of human history have been altered by Allah's permission because of a suggestion, an idea, an objection, a candle that someone lit in the darkness and So never underestimate yourself. Don't sit there on the sidelines of history always contribute even if you don't think your contribution can do much.
May Allah make us a new instruments have played or keys have played as the province outside them says, among Allah servants are those who are keys for blade locks for short. Meaning they unlock much good and they put a lock a preventive you know, seal on much evil. He said an among Allah's servants are those that are keys for shot or wherever they go, evil spawns and locks for good. They hinder so much good and So may Allah make us and you have the first group and we seek refuge with his, with his might from ever slipping into being the second group. The latter allow him I mean, that's all for one day. There's like a little play and everyone will see you all next week with the
next scene of the story when the brothers take this suggestion
to their father Subhana Allah whom they should have later learned Mr. fluorochemical will exact a little later on and don't forget our Jomar especially the locals online with us tonight at downtown said I want to go