Mirza Yawar Baig – Jumuah 012 Khutba Tul Wadaa Of Rasoolullah S Part 5
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The importance of men and women in Islam is discussed, including the need to fulfill certain conditions to achieve their goals and the need to be careful with what is given to one or the other. The speakers stress the importance of men and women, the conflict between men and women, and the need to be mindful of their rights and responsibilities. The importance of happiness and good deeds is emphasized, along with the need to be mindful of one's behavior and respecting women. The importance of having a fatwa and avoiding mistakes is also discussed, along with the need to stay within Islam law. The segment ends with a brief advertisement for a book and a discussion of the Sun airline.
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Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah.
Al hamdu. lillahi Rabbil. alameen. salat wa salam O Allah shuffelin via mousseline Allah Allah he was having he was right at the sun and
we will inshallah conclude the fatwa of
the FDA, which we have been doing for the last several weeks. Today inshallah with the last of his admonition and the last of his advice for his oma
very quickly to run over the list, there were seven
bits of advice that we identified.
That Rasul Allah, Allah gave us
the first of all, first of it was to the order to take or learn the rituals of Hajj from him. And this refers also to all forms or rather, the second one, the prohibition of shedding of innocent blood, irrespective of whether it is Muslim or non Muslim. The third one is the specific injunctions with regard to Muslims, the Brotherhood of faith, and the warning against fighting and killing of Muslims. And this also extends not only to the killing of Muslim, but also to the assassination of their character and of,
of speaking ill of them, and so on and so forth.
Fourth one was the nullifying of the validity of customs and practices and actions of the alien, the pre Islamic times, were so large, that everything that used to happen at that time we wipe it out to nullify it, and therefore the warning against adopting the waves of others of non Muslims, and bringing the waves of non Muslims into Islam. And as I explained, the biggest place where we seem to do this is in the issue of marriages, weddings, and in the issue of funerals, to places where we import all kinds of customs, from all sorts of people and all sorts of cultures and religions and communities, which is prohibited specifically
in the Sharia. The fifth one, which we did last week, was the prohibition on if taking off or dealing with interest in any form Riba whether it is a borrowing on interest, whether it is taking money on interest or lending money on interest, or dealing with interest in any way whatsoever, including working in interest in banks, which are on interest and working to do file, documents of interest, and so on, and so on. So we spoke about that and
the importance of leaving that system and making an attempt to live by the system of Islam.
The last one that inshallah we will do today is the issue the admonition to fulfill and give women the rights and the advice to strongly cling to the book of Allah subhanho wa Taala. Now, the issue of the rights of women that also Lazzara Salam gave,
has to deal and he's talked about, he said, give women the rights and deal with them in goodness. Now, again, we have to remember this was the last football than
the last big fortnight and not actually the last football game, some more football after that, but this was the the football of his Hutch, and therefore it was also the last football given to a gathering of that magnitude. So the other two are much, much smaller gathering. So this is a very important football, and these are the wasaga. So these are his, his legacy and his advice for us. So he
mentioned, the issue of being
kind to women and to dealing justly with them is a deal with women with justice.
There are many others in this in this context, but we'll start with the eyes of the first I have a forum that I want to put before you is the IRS organizzata first IRS, which you must have heard many, many times in it is a sort of standard is which is recited in every
footbaww of Nika. So depending on how many nickels you attended, you would have heard this ayah that many times. This is standard practice everywhere. Allah subhanaw taala said, Yeah,
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la la familia
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mean
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what topple la la
luna de
la la la primera Akiva. Allah said oh mankind, be dutiful to your, who created you from a single person Adam alayhis salam, and from him otherwise salami created his wife, our a salon and from them both. He created many men and women, Fear Allah have Taqwa of Allah, through whom you demand your mutual rights. This refers to the issue of nica, the niqab becomes, the woman becomes a law for the man and the man becomes a law for the woman only and only because you perform the *
if you did not perform Annika, then this one would not be helpful. For example, if you go and have a registered wedding in a court of before, justice, you know what is what is it called the
registrar or whatever before in a court that would not be helpful in Islam. In Islam, the only halal wedding is a wedding which is any gas which is done and then where real name Allah subhanaw taala is mentioned. Now the footbaww snuka is not followed on the kneecap. So let us be very clear on that. The Football Mecca is so nice, it is good to do that. But if you find that in a particular niche, there was no person standing up and making a photo that does not invalidate manikarnika is still valid, but we act we the giving of them, I have the witnesses and the valley, these are the three conditions of nica, there is no nikka without them. So therefore, and all these conditions are
conditions that invoke the the power of Allah Spanos Allah, Allah subhanaw taala made Anika Hara so therefore Allah is saying here, that you demand your rights in my name, therefore, fulfill those rights. And therefore the beautiful boys don't demand your rights in my name, and then deny the other person their rights because there are concomitant rights and responsibilities. It's not a one sided bargain. It's not that the woman has all the rights on the man and the man has no rights on the woman, it is not that the man has all the rights on the woman, and the woman has no rights on demand, that is not true. Both are equally important. And a very simple way of understanding this.
And one line is the thing which I which I always say and that is, forget about your rights. Think about your duties, because you will not be questioned about your rights, you will be questioned about your duties. I'm going to repeat that. Again. I'm saying, you know, you know, in a marriage between a husband and wife, I'm saying to the husband, and I'm saying to the wife, forget about your rights, think about your duty, because you will not be questioned about your rights, you will be questioned about your duties.
Now, both parties focus on the duties, automatically the rights will be fulfilled. But today we are we think more about the rights. What can I or what am I supposed to get out of this?
I'm not worried about what am I supposed to give to this? I'm worried about what am I supposed to get out of this? And so also the wife is worried about what am I supposed to get out of my husband? I'm not concerned about what am I supposed to give to him I am concerned or what am I supposed to get out of it as a consequence what happens there is strife there is conflict, because both are engaged in trying to get something out of the other. And that is a classic definition of a war and therefore the the marital home, the home becomes a battlefield where you do not live in the Old West used to gunfighters is top notch cut notches in the
in the grips of the pistols about for the number of people that kill so to start notching up, this is my Victoria, my husband, and this is my wiktoria my wife and I I was able to say this and I shut it off. I don't think that ever happened. But anyway you try you attempt and so on and so on. So this is the kind of thing that goes on, which is very sad because that is not what was supposed to happen in the for RND. In the tsunamis. In the tsunamis. what was supposed to happen was the hazard would be concerned about what is it that I have to give to my wife and how can I give that in the best possible manner and vice versa? The wife was to be concerned about what am I supposed to give
to my husband and how can I give it the best possible manner and as I told you, if two parties both of them are concerned about what they should give and not about what they should take, automatically you have a beautiful marriage because obviously you will get everything that you are supposed to get because the other person is focused on giving that you never have to ask for it. You don't have to ask for anything you will be given
Without asking for it and that is the thing that Allah subhanaw taala say
the rights of men and women in Islam as we know are equal there is no there is no differentiation between the man and the woman in terms of what rights Islam gives them. There is differentiation in terms of duties and responsibilities not in terms right. Now, one of the things that Islam gives is Allah subhanaw taala says, our move in Azerbaijan Alia yamamura del Mar,
Moon caribou t buena sala de una sakata y u t o de la sala la casa Hama Hama La La season Hakeem in Surah, in taba Allah, Allah Allah said the believers, men and women are Alia. They are the helpers and supporters and friends and protectors of one another. And what do they do? Both men and women, what do they do? They enjoy the arrows, they
will Morrow
and the forbidden all evil, and they establish a salah and they give Zakat and they obey Allah subhanaw taala and his name is Allah Salam. And when they do all of this what Allah says Surya, Hama Houma la
truly Allah Allah knows Allah will have mercy on them. Allah will have mercy on him and surely Allah is almighty and all wise. Allah subhanaw taala again, talks about the issue of piety which is which we should be our focus as far as Islam is concerned. Well Allah tala said
well, Allah Allah in total, and that is the, the Ayat of
Allah subhanaw taala talks about where Allah says all you believe, be afraid Allah tala Allah, Allah and give.
Okay.
So Allah subhanaw taala says, Whoever works in sort of the note, sort of
talking about again, the equality of rights and duties between men and women, so Allah say, mon ami, lasallian Minh, Zachary
The one who does good deeds, whether is male or female from within the men and the women.
And if that person is a believer for fall and ohana, who,
de Botton Walla Walla,
San Makana, Allah says, Whoever does good deeds works righteousness, whether male or female, whether he or she, while he or she is a true believer. So there are two conditions. One is that you must not be mad. And the other one is that you must do good deeds. Verily to him, Allah says we will give them a good life.
hire some favor, you know, we are very concerned in this world about how can I have a good life and our materialistic society tells us that you can have a good life if you have money.
That is the only sole criterion. The only requirement, if you want to have a good life is to have money, if you have money, you will have a good life. And if you do not have money, you will have a bad life. This is our mental thinking. And this is our mental conditioning from the materialistic society we live in. And a Ferrari of that is that to have a good life, if you have money, you must use that money to buy things to accumulate possessions. And the more possessions you have, the happier you are supposed to be.
So, if one watch is not enough, you must have 100 watches, one suit is not enough You must have a 10,000 suits, one car is not enough, you must have 50 cars, one house is not enough You must have a bigger house and you must have another 10 houses and so on and so on.
So the point is
the point is that
the issue of what brings happiness and what is what brings up
a man
an honor lasala
not money is there any secret of money in this? Why?
Where does happiness come from?
Allah subhanaw taala said we will give them a half and said we will give them a good life. thing for us to understand is a good life and happiness does not come by ourselves you can buy it, you can create it, you will have it if Allah gives it
not by what you have, if Allah gives it and what is Allah subhanaw taala his condition of giving it Eman, Rama, Salah,
Mr. And goodies. What is a good day? Good Deed is that which is defined as a good deed according to the Sharia
Good Deed is not what I may define as a good deed. Good Deed is not what may make me happy. There are some sometimes we do funny things, and we think that they are good deeds, because it makes me happier because the whole world is doing it all because my grandfather used to do it or something like this. That does not make it a good deed. A good deed is that which is defined as a good deed by the Sharia of Islam. In the name of doing a good deed, if I am committing
a person who's committing shares, what is he doing? What does he think he is doing a good deed or body?
If he thought he was able to stop doing it, he's not insane, right? Nobody does a bad deed knowingly. People do bad for two reasons. One is they do bad because they think it is good. And secondly, they do bad because it just makes them happy when somebody was drinking, for example, alcohol does not think it's a good deal. But he still does it because it makes him happy. And this is you know, well, I give them coffee. But there are people who do good, who do things, and they believe those things are correct. There are people who are
the people who make
stones and sticks and
to the gurus.
They're
not their thing they are doing
their thing they think they're doing a very good deed. This is the essence of Islam, the essence of the man is to make
the essence of Islam essence or
to ask, Allah
is the essence of
the essence of
who you want to follow
somebody else with following Is there a guarantee of Jana
or somebody else?
So
we have people who claim May Allah May Allah forgive us there are people who claim to be God.
We are people who claim to be the Messiah of Allah. They feel they believe that they are the manifestation of Allah on earth.
I'm not exaggerating. I'm not exaggerating.
I will show you printed cards with the title.
What is the title on the card says, Allah Mama.
What is the meaning?
Like Allah?
Like Allah, what do you call somebody who calls himself Allah?
By Allah nama what what should you do to me?
Then?
So Allah
or Brenda what rotten?
Well,
this is not
a human being and claim to be the manifestation of Allah.
I'm not even talking about the sidebar.
I am talking about those who claim to be Muslim.
If a Muslim can call himself Allah, then why do you Why do you
what do you expect?
So Allah
is a good deed is not what do you and I may consider to be good. A good deed is what is defined as good in the Sharia farmajo Rasul Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
So let us be very clear in our life. When we look at our own lives, let us make Bahasa before our Maha Sabha is made when multiple outcomes let us make our own masiva and say, am I on the right path or not? Believe me, you don't have to satisfy me. You don't have to satisfy your father or your mother or your sister or your brother or your wife or your husband, you have to satisfy yourself because when you and I stand before Allah subhanho wa Taala we will stand alone, nobody will be with us and nobody will be able to help us. So it is well within our interest and very important for us to satisfy ourselves that we are on the straight and narrow that we are on the right path, because
if we go away from that path, then it leads to the
Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam said very clearly the
Kitab Allah Recaro Javi Javi Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam
La la la la la la, la la la la la la la la la la
la sala de la
The best speech is the book of Allah. The best guidance is the guidance of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
It is incumbent
on
Muslims, and Allah says Allah on you.
There isn't the best guidance is the guidance.
And he says the shadow of the Omo, the worst of the things of the orders are the innovations da da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da, da dah.
And then what did you say? Did you say that some of them are in the fire and others are not in the fire? He said,
Bala misguidance.
Finance.
You don't have to blame anybody. It doesn't matter. The whole world and their grandfather is displeased with you. If Allah
if Allah is pleased with us, Alhamdulillah we don't need anything else, if Allah is displeased with us, and
is pleased with us.
And that is the thing that Allah is mentioning here. He says, two conditions for a good life, what are they? And the same conditions are for both men and women? What are the two conditions, Mr.
Mr. And goodies. And as I told you, what is the good deed that which is defined as good in the Sharia, not whatever we wish to believe,
gives women the rights.
He said you they have been made for you, because of Allah subhanaw taala. So do not deny them the rights. What is the right of the woman, the right of the woman is that she should be covered in kindness? What does it mean? It means that every possible form of comfort, every possible form of
every possible form of kindness and love and affection must be showered on your wife, she must be covered in it. She must start protesting and telling you don't give me so many times a day.
I'm asking you a straightforward question How many times a day Don't Ask, Don't answer to my dad, think about how many times a day and you kiss your wife.
Notice I'm not saying how many times a year.
serious
questions are no need for me or anybody to be ashamed about asking.
This question, people came to me.
Yes,
it is the right moment to do that it is the right of the women to get their inheritance. I am saying to the brothers who swallow the inheritance of the Father, and do not give it to the sisters.
That sister will get that inheritance.
And the excuse that you give saying that no. But you know I spent it on your wedding. Now you are admitted to two problems. Number one, you are not supposed to spend anything on that wedding in the first place.
So you did one thing which was private in this area. And then after doing that you follow her inheritance.
And you don't give her what the user
sees.
It is the right of the sister to inherit from our father and it is your right and your duty as a brother to ensure that she gets that. And what is the
criterion for giving
more,
don't give less, that give more.
If you're supposed to get something you give a little more play, say be on the safe side be able to get Allah Allah you said to give so much I have given more.
That's the right of the of the of the woman. It is the right of the woman who is your mother, to be honored, and to be respected, and to be taken care of. And for you not to show any sign of irritation to her whatsoever, no matter what she says unless
it is the right of the mother which comes before everything else, including the rights of the wife.
I was doing a seminar on marriage, our marriage on marriages is up in Malaysia. And somebody asked me a question. So I said
I said to the lady I said well your husband beneath his mother's feet is Jana, and beneath your feet is money
yes
So don't put him in that position.
The advisor, the sisters, don't put him in that position where he has to choose between his mother and you. That's a very stupid position to put your husband in.
People come and ask. One day somebody asked me a question.
One day somebody asked me a question, is it my duty?
Is it my duty to serve my mother in law? Is it my duty to serve my husband's mother?
What does the Sharia tell me?
The Sharia tells you that it is not your duty to serve your mother in law, you can absolutely flatly refuse.
You can tell your husband to his face, I'm sorry, I will not serve your mother. But the Sharia also then permits the husband to take a second wife and a third one and a fourth one to serve his mother if you want.
So it's up to you.
You want the Sharia you want the fatwa where your heart should work, where you should work, where your manners should work,
then you will have to live by the fatwa. Please don't do this to yourself. A Muslim woman or a Muslim man should not need to ask for a fatwa about serving an elder person in the house.
Where
you need somebody to give you a token to say you should.
What is this?
It is it is the beauty of Islamic law. That we serve those the elderly people in the house.
And it is the right of the elders of course, elders should be kind and so on and the elders should respect the youngsters as Robert also gets why'd you want to lie you've got a few liberties. And one of the liberties is that you can be you can be irritable, it's okay. And even if you don't have a beard,
they can also be irritable. It's okay.
It is
the youngsters to live with that irritability of the elders, you know why? Because the same elder
who is irritable
when he means draw for you, and
then you compare the two
was a man with a very short,
very short fuse.
And I was the eldest in the family. So I
bore the burden of that short fuse for many years.
And
he had a good beautiful vocabulary and he also had his arm was long and strong.
And I know that
if there was anything if I needed anything,
and
he will
tell me that one.
Is it worth that irritation or not?
So I have no one to ask today.
For that, except my mother, Angela mela alive and well. But people are different. People are different.
Think about that. Think about that. Don't get confused. Just because your mother or your father. Or somebody said something La quwata illa. Allah Allah. Allah Allah upset about the Muslim brother he's not talking about the relative the relative is talking about a stranger. He says forgive your brother 70 times.
How many times do you want Allah subhanaw taala to forgive us?
Do we want to be in a situation Swami I sometimes ask myself this question I dare not ask you I feel very hesitant and shy to ask you this. We're asking myself am I willing to stand before Allah subhanaw taala and say Allah
treat me like I treat others
Am I willing to say that
Yella treat me like
am I willing to stand before Allah and say Allah, give me try me and give me like I tired of
me to account like I avoid others.
Like I want my wife to walk out if she does something wrong. I buy what my brother or my sister taught our children but our parents were not if they do anything wrong.
In the same way, am I willing to stand before lunch?
And if you're not willing to stand before a lion say that, then please let me know what is it that we want to do with Allah?
Allah, Allah, Allah forgive.
I made a mistake of course I made a mistake Allah made to make mistakes, please
Allah, Allah.
But when it comes to others, so Allah
Subhana Allah Viki pecan, we give a better account of their problems than even the gentleman came in. I'm sure that Angel may have missed something, but we don't miss it.
We don't miss it, the angel master might have and maybe the angel needs to come to us and compare notes and say, You know what, I was writing something What am I? What do you whatever you want? Give me some whatever I missed out. I'll give you six points.
In the relay. Where is all this? This is the beauty of the of the Islamic law and the beauty of Islam with regard to marriages.
forgive, forgive, forgive, forget,
forget, be a mirror with selective memory. Remember the good, forget the bad, why do you want to collect garbage, something which is bad, something which causes you pain, something which causes irritation, you want to keep that close and look at it often. And call yourself more and more thing for what?
For what?
Throw it is garbage. discard it, forget it.
Wash it off. Keep the Good. Keep the Good. Keep that one smile. Keep that one good word.
Keep some keep that one good word. Remember that word many, many, many times. Remember that smile many times.
That is the secret of a good marriage. Forget about your rights. Think about your duties. Why? Because you will not be questioned about your rights. You will be questioned about your duties. The final advice of Nabi sallallahu Sallam in his hotbar is where he said cling strongly to the book of Allah. And he said in which lies the honor of Muslims and their victory. Likewise, the order to stick to the sauna and what is the sauna? The sauna is what explains the Quran because Allah did not send the Quran in isolation for us to have to make whatever you want to make of it. Allah subhanaw taala sent his four iron and he told me Salalah Salam recite for them this book,
then cleans our hearts so that the book will stay in sight.
And then teach them this book.
And then teach them your ways.
He said the problem was with four
duties what are the duties? Yes.
He was a key him Lima homolka one
coin can have him in
the movie. Allah said before that they were in complete misguidance
and therefore the sooner
to know the Sunnah to follow the Sunnah to understand the Sunnah is absolutely and critically important for us to be Muslims. If we discard the Sunnah, if we delete the Sunnah, if we ignore the Sunnah, if we refuse to accept the sooner then we will place ourselves outside of Islam that does not do that. Let us make sure that we remain within Islam. And Allah Allah
asked us to
remain within the
persona and to hold on to the bucola now many, many I am not going to
read or recite all of them for you.
But just one or two to underline this, Allah subhanaw taala
la copa de la moto nyla como su de mon
iroko tomada Porto Rico.
Mati
minha karateka.
de la la.
So Allah, Allah,
Allah, Allah subhanaw taala as he should be feared, that is a separate topic by itself, inshallah.
Some demand we will talk about that what is the heart of Allah? Allah, Allah Hakata Tati have Taqwa of Allah as it is is not just any way we want to what
inshallah we will do that in Nevada and Allah and Zed and do not die except in a state of Islam law somoto nyla, one Muslim, I asked this law for myself and all for all of you that Allah subhanaw taala should decree that we die in a state of Islam, we die in a state of Salah we die in a state of God and we are given the data Joshua he feasability law.
And then Allah,
Allah said, Hold fast to the rope of Allah subhanho wa Taala together, voila.
And do not have differences amongst yourself. Differences does not mean difference of opinion. You can have a difference of opinion or have gender differences of opinion or good differences means differences in terms of taking the difference of opinion and converting it into opposition. converting it into bifurcations of this oma creating new filters and creating new groups. This is what the Quran has very clearly prohibited. So Allah said, Hold fast all of you together to the rope of Allah, and do not be divided amongst yourself and remember, Allah subhanaw taala, Stevan you for you are enemies to each other but he joined your hearts together so that by His grace, you became
brothers in the Islamic faith and you are on the brink of a pit of fire. You are on the brink of Jana, because you are not Muslims. And Allah save you from it. Thus Allah makes is is clear to you that you may be guided, we ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to make us among those who are will be considered to be among the guided ones on the Day of Judgment. Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam said the previous over, they were divided into 72 the Jews and the Christians are divided to 72 groups he said my oma will be divided to 73 out of which only one will go into genda 72 will be in Ghana, May Allah keep us from that group, which will be in the agenda. And the Sahaba asked him Rasulullah
sallallahu Sallam they said you
are this group which is this group, which is the people of Ghana is adores, who are closest to me and my companion, which means those who are on the way of myself and my companions, those are on the Sunnah of mama Salah, salah and his companion and remember, it is not the son of a Salah to worship or ask for help from anyone other than Allah subhanho wa Taala. We will talk about the Sunnah and we'll talk about our inshallah in detail, but just to make these points, whenever I am doing these footpaths here, I am conscious only of one thing and that one thing is that on the Day of Judgment, I do not want to be in a position where any of you will be able to say to me You knew but you did
not help us and that I will not be in that position. So I whatever I know I will tell you as clearly as I can. The rest of it whether you accept it or not to accept it. It is not in my power of my intention to force you You are most welcome to take it or to reject it, no problem. But I will not stop saying what I believe is important for you to hear. jazak Allah Subhana Allah, Allah Allah Allah subhanaw taala mana to relate to Sudan and then we do saliva.