Mirza Yawar Baig – Forgive others

Mirza Yawar Baig
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The speakers discuss the importance of forgiveness in Islam, with forgiveness being viewed as a fundamental part of every behavior. They highlight a study that shows that forgiveness is crucial for everyone to do every day, and emphasize the importance of forgiveness in saving people from deaths. The speakers ask for help in achieving this.

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			The importance of seeking Allah's forgiveness.
		
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			And this is of course
		
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			the most important thing to do.
		
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			What is also important is to forgive others,
		
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			to learn to forgive others, have a big
		
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			heart,
		
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			and learn to forgive others.
		
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			Obviously, the biggest example,
		
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			the most powerful symbol of that
		
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			was
		
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			himself. And
		
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			among the many many
		
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			examples of him forgiving those who wronged him,
		
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			the most powerful is
		
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			the example of his forgiveness
		
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			in Fatamaka.
		
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			Because to forgive when you have the
		
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			ability
		
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			and the moral right
		
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			to take revenge
		
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			is something which is of
		
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			a magnitude that
		
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			cannot be,
		
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			at least it's not by in my power
		
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			to describe it. But this is exactly what
		
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			he did.
		
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			I remind myself and you that Allah
		
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			mentioned in the Quran in Suratul
		
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			Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala said they are those
		
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			who give charity, who donate in prosperity
		
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			and in adversity,
		
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			who control their anger and pardon others. And
		
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			Allah
		
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			loves
		
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			the doers of good.
		
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			It's a very beautiful,
		
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			story
		
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			related with this ayah.
		
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			Hazan
		
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			ibn Ali
		
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			was,
		
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			making,
		
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			and there was
		
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			a slave
		
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			who was pouring the water
		
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			and,
		
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			this slave
		
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			had this water in a
		
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			container
		
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			and
		
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			this container slipped
		
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			from,
		
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			the hand of the slave and
		
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			fell and hit
		
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			Sayidina Hasan Adeel Anu,
		
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			on his head. So he was
		
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			obviously, he was
		
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			hurt, maybe even injured.
		
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			And, you know, he obviously he had all
		
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			this water which fell on top of him.
		
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			So he looked up at the slave
		
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			with anger.
		
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			He didn't do anything. He didn't say anything.
		
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			He just looked at the slave with anger.
		
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			But knowledge is so powerful and knowledge is
		
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			so,
		
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			so beneficial.
		
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			The slave immediately said
		
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			They are those and Allah is talking about
		
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			the people who Allah loves,
		
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			who are there. They are those who donate,
		
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			who give charity and prosperity and adversity
		
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			and control their anger.
		
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			So Hassan Radi Al Anu controlled his anger
		
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			and he kept silent.
		
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			And then the slave
		
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			continued,
		
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			wal aafin are in us
		
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			and they pardon others.
		
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			So Hassan Nadellana said, I have pardoned you.
		
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			And then the slaves said,
		
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			and Allah loves
		
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			those who do Ihsan,
		
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			who do good,
		
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			which is more than
		
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			kindness, more than
		
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			justice.
		
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			And Hassan Radha Raman said, I have freed
		
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			you. You are free.
		
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			Now imagine,
		
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			obviously, the slave is smart
		
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			and knows his Koran,
		
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			knows his Deen.
		
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			As a result of that, he was able
		
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			to get freedom.
		
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			But the point I'm making here is that
		
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			see the
		
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			beautiful
		
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			response, see the beautiful connection
		
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			of Hassan Ibn Ali
		
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			to the Karam of Allah
		
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			That when the aya is recited before him,
		
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			he does not even hesitate for an instant
		
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			to immediately
		
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			live by the ayah.
		
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			Right? You might say, well, you know, after
		
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			all, see who he is. Right? This is
		
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			the grandson of Rasoolullah.
		
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			This is the best of the best of
		
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			the best. This is the son of Fatima
		
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			This is the son of
		
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			Ali
		
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			Right? This is the,
		
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			he is the, you know, the the noble
		
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			of the noble. Sure. All of that is
		
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			fine except
		
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			that he is also human.
		
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			He was also human. He's not God. He's
		
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			not an angel. He's not
		
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			supernatural. He's also human. He's also subject to
		
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			all the,
		
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			emotions and all the, you know, feelings and
		
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			so on that any other human being is
		
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			subject to. Yet he's able to
		
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			overcome them, keep them in control, and then
		
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			do only that, which is pleasing to us
		
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			about it. And this is a very, very
		
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			big lesson as far as we are concerned
		
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			in terms of how we behave.
		
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			In,
		
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			this is not from a particular hadith, but
		
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			from different hadith. Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi Salam said,
		
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			whoever does not forgive others will not be
		
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			forgiven. Whoever does not pardon others will not
		
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			be pardoned. Whoever does not protect others will
		
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			not be protected. We ask Allah
		
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			to save us from this. In another in
		
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			another hadith,
		
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			and if I'm not mistaken, this is in
		
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			Where
		
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			is reported to have said that a Muslim
		
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			may have
		
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			some misunderstanding
		
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			and so on
		
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			with his brother.
		
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			And of course as I mentioned before many
		
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			times
		
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			wherever it says brother it means brother and
		
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			sister.
		
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			This person, the the one who has this
		
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			misunderstanding and so on so forth and because
		
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			of that, he or she doesn't talk to
		
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			them,
		
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			withdraws, turns away from them. Nabi Sadat said,
		
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			this is,
		
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			permissible for 3 days.
		
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			But if it continues beyond 3 days and
		
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			the person dies in that state, then they
		
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			will enter Jannah.
		
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			And we ask Allah
		
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			to save us from this.
		
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			This is how,
		
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			important it is to forgive,
		
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			forgive a person.
		
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			In another hadith, Nabi said whoever suffers an
		
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			injury and forgives,
		
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			meaning
		
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			forgive the person who who caused the injury,
		
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			Allah will raise his status to a higher
		
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			degree and remove one of his or her
		
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			sins.
		
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			Imagine,
		
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			Therefore, in a in a manner of speaking,
		
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			when somebody is doing an injury to you,
		
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			when somebody is abusing you or harming you
		
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			in one way or the other. They are
		
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			actually, in a way, doing you a favor
		
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			because they are
		
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			because they're giving you the opportunity
		
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			to respond to that in this way which
		
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			is through
		
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			dignity,
		
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			through calmness,
		
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			through equanimity,
		
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			and not take revenge and so on. And
		
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			because of that Allah will,
		
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			will reward us. Right? Now the reward of
		
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			Allah is something which is incredible, which is
		
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			so important for us to keep in mind
		
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			and,
		
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			and and and value
		
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			because that is eternal. That is something which
		
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			goes into our.
		
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			In the the Quran,
		
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			the word forgiveness
		
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			and mercy these are mentioned they say they
		
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			mentioned over 200 times.
		
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			My brothers and sisters, I remind myself many
		
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			many ayaat. I'm not going into a list
		
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			of all the Ayat which relate to forgiveness,
		
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			but you can do your own research for
		
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			this. But very very important
		
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			for
		
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			us to remember that.
		
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			Abdullah ibn
		
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			reported that
		
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			said, be merciful to others and you will
		
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			receive mercy.
		
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			Forgive others and Allah will forgive you. This
		
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			is in Musaat Imam Mohammed.
		
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			In another Hadith,
		
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			she said, Abdulla
		
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			Al Khadali
		
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			of the reported.
		
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			He said, I
		
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			asked about the character of Rasool Sallallahu Salam
		
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			And he would not respond to an evil
		
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			deed with an evil deed, but rather he
		
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			would pardon and overlook.
		
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			Now this is an example of the character
		
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			of Mr. Salam.
		
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			This is in Surah Al Thirmidi. I repeat,
		
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			the Prophet
		
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			was not indecent, he was not obscene, he
		
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			would not shout in the markets,
		
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			and he would not respond to an evil
		
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			deed with another evil deed, but rather he
		
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			would pardon and overlook.
		
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			One example of
		
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			the forgiveness of Rasool Allah SWAMI
		
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			it can be found in the hadith,
		
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			which is as follows. The Prophet
		
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			was the most forgiving person he was ever
		
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			ready to forgive his enemies when he went
		
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			to Taif to preach the message of Allah,
		
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			its people mistreated him, abused him and hit
		
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			him with stones.
		
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			He left the city
		
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			wounded and,
		
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			in a in have and and subject to
		
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			the humiliation of the people.
		
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			When he took shelter under a tree,
		
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			the Angel of Allah visited him and told
		
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			him that Allah
		
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			sent him to destroy the people of Taiyid
		
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			because of their sin of maltreating and mistreating
		
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			their Prophet
		
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			Rasul
		
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			made dua and said, O Allah, save the
		
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			people of Taif because what they did was
		
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			out of their ignorance.
		
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			Aisha Sihikar
		
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			reported that Rasool
		
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			said
		
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			to her
		
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			and this is the dua that he taught
		
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			her when she asked him, you Rasulullah,
		
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			if I find light or color, what should
		
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			I ask Allah?
		
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			She said, ask Allah and
		
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			say,
		
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			O Allah, you are forgiving
		
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			and generous. You love to forgive. So forgive
		
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			me.
		
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			Abu Hurair
		
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			narrated and said
		
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			that he heard Rasulullah
		
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			saying, I swear by Allah that I seek
		
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			Allah's
		
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			pardon and turn to him independence
		
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			more than 70 times a day.
		
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			So this has to do with also
		
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			seeking pardon
		
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			and asking Allah to
		
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			forgive us
		
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			every single day.
		
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			But what is very important also is for
		
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			us to forgive others.
		
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			Now again, the issue here is that sometimes
		
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			you might say, well, you know, this person
		
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			is toxic.
		
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			This person continuously
		
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			harms. This person continuously. Their death is bad
		
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			probably.
		
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			We should not
		
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			comment on the of people because we can't
		
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			go into their hearts
		
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			to see what it is, but it seems
		
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			that way.
		
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			And
		
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			keeping contact with such a person is difficult
		
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			and it's potentially harmful.
		
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			So is it when I say I forgive
		
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			the person,
		
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			first of all, do I need to say
		
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			that to them? Secondly, do I need to,
		
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			therefore
		
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			maintain relationship with them, go visit them, invite
		
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			them to visit me,
		
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			you know,
		
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			talk to them and so on and so
		
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			on. The answer is forgive them for what
		
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			they have done to you, but don't put
		
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			yourself in a position where they can do
		
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			more harm to you. That would be stupid.
		
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			So
		
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			by all means, forgive what they have done
		
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			because we want Allah to forgive us. And
		
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			you are forgiving them and I'm forgiving them.
		
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			Not because,
		
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			you know, I love them because I don't
		
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			love them. And it's perfectly okay not to
		
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			love somebody who's toxic.
		
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			But
		
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			we forgive them so that Allah will forgive
		
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			us. But at the same time, it would
		
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			be stupid
		
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			to put yourself in again as a target
		
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			for them to take potshots at. So therefore,
		
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			by all means,
		
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			you know, take,
		
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			take take, precautions and and there's no need
		
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			to continue to maintain contact with such people
		
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			but forgive them and that's it and give
		
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			it to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
		
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			Final
		
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			hadith in Abu Dawood. Rasool
		
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			said, I guarantee a house in Jannah
		
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			for one who gives up arguing
		
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			even if he is in the right.
		
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			And I guarantee a house in the middle
		
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			of Jannah for one who abandons lying
		
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			even
		
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			for fun, even for the sake of fun.
		
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			And I guarantee
		
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			a house in the highest part of Jannah
		
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			for the one who has good manners.
		
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			So this is a very beautiful hadith as
		
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			we can see
		
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			and we ask Allah
		
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			to make us
		
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			worthy of it.
		
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			I ask Allah to help them and to
		
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			help us to do that.
		
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			In another hadith, which
		
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			is in Bukhari Muslim,
		
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			He said it is not permissible for a
		
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			man to forsake his Muslim brother for more
		
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			than 3 days. Each of them turning away
		
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			from the other when they meet. The better
		
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			of them is the one who gives the
		
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			greeting of salaam first.
		
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			So,
		
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			as I mentioned in other place,
		
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			the one who does not do that and
		
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			dies, then he will enter Jahannam. So, we
		
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			ask Allah to save us from that.
		
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			May Allah
		
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			keep our hearts together and help us to
		
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			do that which is beneficial for us and
		
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			save us from that which is not.