Mirza Yawar Baig – Forgive each other

Mirza Yawar Baig
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The importance of forgiveness in relationships is emphasized, citing examples such as asking for forgiveness and not asking for forgiveness. A specific incident where a man was injured and injured multiple times caused his death. The speaker emphasizes the importance of forgiveness and reminding oneself of the consequences of actions, while also reminding oneself of the consequences of actions and not seeking forgiveness for oneself. The difficulty of settling for forgiveness is highlighted, and the importance of forgiveness and keeping the hearts together is emphasized.

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			My brother and sister, the other day I
		
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			mentioned my
		
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			the excellent advice
		
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			that was given by
		
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			my aunt to her 3 children.
		
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			And she said to them 3 things.
		
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			She said, always
		
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			be grateful to Allah. Make shukkur.
		
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			Second thing she said to them was,
		
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			always seek Allah's forgiveness. Make a staghwar on
		
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			Tawba.
		
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			And third thing she said is and that's
		
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			the very important thing, which is
		
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			forgive each other.
		
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			She said forgive each other.
		
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			Now out of these three things,
		
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			sugar, istakwah
		
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			and forgiving each other.
		
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			Forgiving each other is the most difficult.
		
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			That is the toughest.
		
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			Because
		
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			in forgiving each other,
		
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			the thing that comes in the way
		
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			is our own ego.
		
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			How can I ask for forgiveness?
		
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			And I will have a 100
		
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			reasons,
		
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			justifications
		
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			for my action.
		
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			I said this because he said that and
		
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			because she said this and because he said
		
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			that and that happens.
		
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			Lots of
		
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			To leave that aside and say I'm sorry,
		
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			I apologize.
		
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			Very tough.
		
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			Very, very difficult. But this is the
		
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			secret.
		
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			This is to
		
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			every kind of relationship.
		
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			Every relationship.
		
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			Our relationship with Allah what is this?
		
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			Apology apologizing to Allah to ask to say,
		
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			I'm sorry.
		
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			Our relationship with our
		
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			siblings, brothers and sisters,
		
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			The thing that keeps them together is the
		
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			willingness to seek forgiveness and to forgive them.
		
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			So 2 parts of forgiveness. 1 is I
		
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			ask forgiveness. The other one
		
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			is I don't have to ask because I
		
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			I'm the one against whom
		
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			the operation was done, but I will forgive,
		
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			forgiving each other.
		
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			In a marriage,
		
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			the single thing that keeps a marriage together,
		
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			a single thing that keeps a marriage going
		
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			and healthy
		
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			is not love.
		
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			People say,
		
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			no, love between them. No. It's not love.
		
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			It is forgiveness.
		
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			Love is good to have, but even where
		
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			over time that love may diminish for whatever
		
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			reason,
		
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			If there is forgiveness, the marriage will remain
		
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			intact.
		
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			So forgiveness is critical. That's the big, big,
		
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			big lesson, if not the biggest lesson we
		
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			learned from the life
		
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			of.
		
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			And I want to give you the one
		
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			or two examples to illustrate from this.
		
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			The
		
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			13 years in Mecca,
		
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			Rasulullah was
		
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			oppressed, and he was
		
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			threatened, and he was harmed. And he was,
		
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			you know,
		
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			mentally and
		
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			other
		
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			ways he was,
		
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			oppressed.
		
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			When he went to,
		
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			We have the famous incident of Taif.
		
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			Said
		
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			after the battle of
		
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			she asked him, she said, in the battle
		
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			of got injured and all that, right?
		
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			Asked him, he said, yes, which was your
		
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			most difficult day in your life?
		
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			And he said my day in
		
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			so think about that here is
		
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			a man
		
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			who,
		
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			even from a worldly
		
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			perspective,
		
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			aspect if you look at it,
		
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			He was from the aristocracy of Quresh. He
		
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			was from the number one family of Quresh,
		
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			the caretakers of the Haram
		
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			of the Kaaba right
		
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			and so on and so on
		
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			And he was the grandson of Abdul Mutali,
		
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			who was the chief of the chiefs.
		
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			And he is treated with such terrible,
		
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			in such terrible ways by the people of
		
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			Taif.
		
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			He's abused. He's,
		
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			they get their urge in them people to
		
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			throw stones at him and to, you know,
		
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			injure him physically
		
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			by his bleeding him, him and
		
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			For what?
		
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			Just because he invited them to
		
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			he did not have anybody
		
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			despite that.
		
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			He said that was the most difficult day
		
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			because it was
		
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			physical injury. It was mental injury, mental anguish.
		
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			You
		
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			imagine
		
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			in publicly being
		
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			humiliated and insulted for no reason.
		
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			He did not do anything to deserve that,
		
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			but they did it.
		
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			Yet
		
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			When
		
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			Allah gave the power in his hands,
		
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			when he made Dua, the way he was
		
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			salam came and another angel came with him
		
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			and the angel said you Rasool Allah I
		
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			am the angel of the mountains
		
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			and Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala ordered me
		
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			to put myself at your command
		
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			so tell me what to do I will
		
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			do
		
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			it Rasool Rasoolam said what can you do
		
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			He said, I can join these 2 mountains
		
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			together.
		
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			There will be no
		
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			Every single thing in the city of will
		
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			be finished.
		
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			You will tell me I will do it.
		
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			Rasulullah
		
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			said no.
		
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			He said no. He said it is my
		
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			hope from my
		
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			that from these people,
		
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			Allah will raise those who will say.
		
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			Forgiveness.
		
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			And the second incident of forgiveness,
		
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			his his whole life is full of this.
		
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			It's not just what.
		
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			The whole instead of
		
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			if you take
		
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			all the but just one more I want
		
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			to say to to finish the
		
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			is what happened in the battle of
		
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			Ahaz. In the battle of Ahaz again, Rasulullah
		
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			was attacked. He was injured previously
		
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			injured
		
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			he was injured to such an extent that
		
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			he fell down
		
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			he almost lost consciousness
		
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			Links of his chain
		
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			mail went into his cheek. His cheek was
		
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			cut. His tongue was cut. 2 of his
		
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			teeth were
		
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			broken.
		
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			And the helmet was
		
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			sort of embedded into his,
		
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			into his blessed head.
		
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			He probably had a
		
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			hairline fracture of the skull. We don't know
		
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			if you look at, you know, things after
		
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			that.
		
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			So the, they picked him up, and they
		
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			carried him up up into the side of
		
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			the mountain
		
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			in a in a depression. So he was
		
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			protected.
		
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			His
		
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			injury was so severe that people thought that
		
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			he had died.
		
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			So, when he gained consciousness and so on,
		
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			the around him, they said, yeah, this is
		
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			enough. This is the limit.
		
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			Make dua against these people.
		
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			They said, what kind of people are these?
		
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			They attack their own.
		
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			They want to kill their own.
		
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			For what?
		
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			For saying for advising them or how to
		
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			go to Jannah, This is what they are
		
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			doing. Make dua against
		
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			them. Now put yourself in that place. Rasulullah
		
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			stand up. He raised his hands.
		
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			And I can imagine, you know, the probably
		
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			the whole the whole world is silent
		
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			and watching.
		
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			And for a to make dua against these
		
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			people is if you see the
		
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			history of
		
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			the, of the, this is the common thing.
		
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			For to make dua against their people was
		
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			what almost all
		
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			the did.
		
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			After many, many, I mean, it's not that
		
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			they did it in the 1st day. I
		
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			mean, did they took 950 years before he
		
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			made the but at the end of the
		
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			day,
		
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			for an to make dua for Allah
		
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			to punish
		
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			the rebellious people, the criminals of the of
		
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			his among his people is not nothing new.
		
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			It is not something unique.
		
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			So when
		
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			raised his hands,
		
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			imagine the whole world is watching. What is
		
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			he going to say?
		
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			What did he say?
		
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			He said, O Allah, forgive my people
		
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			because they do not know what they do.
		
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			He said they do not know what they
		
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			do.
		
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			He's asking forgiveness for those people who
		
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			injured him, who tried to kill him.
		
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			Now fast forward from there to when
		
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			Allah gave him absolute power, 10,000 soldiers,
		
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			absolute power. The the the
		
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			norm of the time is any conquering,
		
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			general or conquering monarch
		
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			used to
		
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			enslave the men
		
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			and women and children,
		
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			kill some of them, the men,
		
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			the leaders
		
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			and and slave the rest of the population.
		
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			Could have done all of that without any
		
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			blame to him because this was the custom.
		
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			And Allah gave him the absolute power.
		
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			What did he do?
		
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			He stood on the door of the Kaaba.
		
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			He asked them, he told his people, he
		
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			said, what do you
		
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			expect from me?
		
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			They said,
		
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			I'm
		
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			the
		
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			he
		
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			said, you are, you are our honored brother,
		
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			the son of our honored brother. Yeah. Same
		
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			person they they abused and they tried to
		
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			kill for 13 years. Now honored brother.
		
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			He didn't turn around and say, you are
		
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			a bunch of liars, you know?
		
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			What happened to those? I was the same
		
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			person. My father was the same person. My
		
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			grandfather was the same person. When I was
		
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			living here in Mecca, he didn't say any
		
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			of that. He said he's Abu.
		
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			Go.
		
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			He said, you are freed.
		
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			Go you are freed
		
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			and not only that
		
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			he did not demand compensation for what he
		
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			or any of the Sahaba, the had lost.
		
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			They all lost their their possessions, their land,
		
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			their houses, and their wealth, everything else. He
		
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			did not ask compensation.
		
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			He did not say he he did not
		
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			even say give I you you took $10.
		
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			Give me back 10.
		
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			No. Let alone saying, here's a fine. No.
		
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			You just what you took, give it back.
		
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			No.
		
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			He didn't ask for anything. And the Sahaba
		
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			also didn't ask for anything.
		
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			Now think about that.
		
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			This happened.
		
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			What was the result of that?
		
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			It was not easy. It was it it
		
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			would have been the most incredibly difficult thing
		
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			that you can imagine. I mean, nobody can
		
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			say that this was easy.
		
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			But the result of that was that in
		
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			one stroke, Rasulullah
		
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			completely canceled out
		
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			all possibilities
		
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			of rebellion against him.
		
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			But how can any anybody rebel? If somebody
		
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			says that anything against him, their own people
		
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			will say, you are walking today because he
		
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			gave you life.
		
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			You would have been dead. You would have
		
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			been sitting in prison.
		
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			Now you are talking against him.
		
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			Nobody will open his mouth because he said
		
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			we have this
		
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			from him. How can we even repay?
		
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			One stroke.
		
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			And And I want to end with that.
		
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			That's what I want to remind myself. I
		
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			knew that that when when it seems to
		
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			be difficult to seek forgiveness, remember this.
		
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			When you
		
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			push down your own ego and say sorry
		
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			I will ask forgiveness because
		
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			I was wrong
		
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			or I was not wrong. The other person
		
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			wronged me. Now the other person is asking
		
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			me to forgive. I will forgive.
		
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			Even though I have a right to retaliate,
		
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			I will not retaliate. I will forgive.
		
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			Even without asking, I will forgive. When you
		
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			do that, believe me, you
		
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			wipe out the possibility
		
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			of all conflict.
		
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			You heal wounds.
		
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			You join together hearts.
		
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			And families remain together.
		
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			I remind myself when you
		
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			always
		
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			forgive.
		
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			Seek forgiveness if you do wrong
		
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			and forgive others
		
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			when something is done to you
		
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			because that is the way of
		
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			keeping hearts together.
		
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			And relationships
		
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			are much more important than ego, much more
		
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			important than money, much more important than anything
		
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			else.
		
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			If the hearts are together, this is the
		
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			number one thing. But this is please Allah
		
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			and the pleasure of Allah is the ultimate
		
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			benefit that we have. We ask Allah to
		
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			keep our hearts together,
		
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			to fill them with love for one another,
		
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			to fill them with forgive. We seek Allah's
		
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			forgiveness for ourselves,
		
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			and we ask Allah's mother to forgive us
		
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			as we forgive others.