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The importance of unity and acceptance in Islam is crucial to achieve Islam's main goal, with commonalities between Muslims and non- Muslims. Forgiveness is essential for building community and avoiding future evil, while forgiveness is essential for building acceptance and working with others to avoid problems. A man who caused harm to himself and his family was forgiven, and forgiveness is crucial for building community and avoiding future evil. A former mentor who forgivened the man and provided blood money to them was also forgiven.

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			My brothers and sisters, Allah
		
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			commanded us.
		
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			And he said, yeah, are you a Ladina
		
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			Amano?
		
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			Allah said,
		
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			hold fast
		
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			and together
		
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			through the rope of Allah
		
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			and do not divide among yourselves.
		
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			Allah did not say
		
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			He did not say, Do not have a
		
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			difference of opinion.
		
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			He said
		
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			He said, Don't form divisions.
		
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			Now obviously, the reason for this is clear.
		
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			I don't think I have to elaborate the
		
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			reason
		
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			because
		
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			the first thing that happens when you get
		
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			divided, whether it's
		
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			as Muslims, whether it's in a family,
		
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			whether it's in an organization
		
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			or wherever.
		
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			When you get divided, then you lose strength.
		
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			Right? There are so many
		
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			stories
		
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			of,
		
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			teaching stories in different cultures.
		
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			And the usual the usual story, one of
		
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			the most common ones is that his father
		
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			is dying
		
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			and he has
		
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			several sons
		
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			and daughters.
		
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			So he tells them each one
		
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			bring 1 arrow. So each one brings 1
		
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			arrow.
		
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			So the father then gives 1 arrow to
		
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			the person and says, break it. You break
		
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			it. Bricks.
		
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			Then he takes
		
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			all the arrows, puts them together, ties them
		
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			and then he says, now break it.
		
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			You can't break it.
		
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			So he said this is like you.
		
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			If you stay together
		
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			then nobody can break you.
		
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			But if you are
		
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			by yourself, if you are divided
		
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			then you will be broken.
		
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			Now question is,
		
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			today, if we see it's very, very peculiar,
		
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			paradoxical thing. Today, if you ask any Muslim,
		
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			what is the single biggest biggest need of
		
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			the Ummah? They will tell you unity.
		
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			That no matter what, anyone, anywhere,
		
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			this is the answer you will get. What
		
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			does this Ummah need the most? Unity.
		
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			But at the same time, we have
		
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			disunity and we have
		
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			reasons to differ and reasons to
		
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			divide.
		
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			And every day there is a new reason.
		
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			Right? It has to do with,
		
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			maybe maybe with culture, maybe with, Aqidah
		
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			or maybe, you know, this practice, that practice.
		
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			Something or the other. Reason
		
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			of Dubai.
		
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			Now how do you change that?
		
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			How do you change that? What do you
		
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			do?
		
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			The opposite of that is people say, well,
		
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			you know, if that is the case, should
		
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			we say that everything is okay?
		
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			So somebody somebody is committing ship, that is
		
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			also okay. Somebody is going and worshiping on
		
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			a grave, that's also okay. Somebody is making
		
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			top of the grave, that's also somebody is
		
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			asking the person in the grave. Yeah. Give
		
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			me just give me that. It's okay. How
		
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			can it be okay? It's not okay.
		
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			None of that is okay. All of this
		
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			is open shirk. If somebody is doing that,
		
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			we believe they have executed Islam. So there's
		
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			no question of okay.
		
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			Yet,
		
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			we have to live together with others.
		
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			And the thing I always remind myself is,
		
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			if you look at
		
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			places of conflict in the world where Muslims
		
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			are being persecuted, where Muslims are being killed,
		
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			the person who is coming to kill you
		
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			is not first asking you,
		
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			are you Hanafi or Shafi? Are you Shia
		
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			or Sunni?
		
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			Right. Are you Salafi or Sufi? He's not
		
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			asking. He doesn't care. You are a Muslim?
		
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			You look like a Muslim? Chop
		
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			your
		
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			neck. But with we with us ourselves no.
		
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			No. Hold on a second.
		
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			I do.
		
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			I raise my hand. Do you raise your
		
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			hand?
		
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			If you didn't, I said, I'm sorry. I,
		
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			you know, I can't be afraid. Go away.
		
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			That's why he's saying, well, I do.
		
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			So this is.
		
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			So what is the solution to this thing?
		
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			In my view, the solution to this is
		
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			very simple, which is
		
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			practice what you believe to be right based
		
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			on your evidence on your.
		
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			Don't change that.
		
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			But if somebody else is doing something
		
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			differently from you,
		
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			leave him alone.
		
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			Because he has his own dalil. Maybe his
		
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			dalil according to me is wrong, doesn't matter.
		
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			What
		
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			you look for is what are the common
		
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			areas that we have
		
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			that we still need to work together on.
		
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			For example,
		
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			issue of drugs.
		
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			Doesn't matter whether you are or or or
		
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			or
		
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			or or or this one or that one.
		
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			If your kid is into drugs, he's into
		
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			drugs. We have to sit sit and say
		
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			how can we get this drug business out.
		
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			Yes. It doesn't matter. You you you pray
		
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			this way that way. Pray with your hands
		
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			in your pockets. I don't care. As far
		
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			as I'm concerned,
		
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			we have we both have children. There is
		
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			a drug problem. We have to sit together
		
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			and think together to get the children out
		
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			of this drug problem irrespective of how you
		
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			worship and whether you cover your head or
		
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			not.
		
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			So look for commonalities
		
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			where
		
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			we have common interest and common
		
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			needs.
		
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			Work with those. Where we do not have
		
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			common interest or or where we do not
		
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			have,
		
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			agreement or something. Leave it alone. No need
		
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			to fight about that.
		
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			Second very important thing is the willingness to
		
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			forgive.
		
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			Willingness to forgive each other.
		
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			I'll give you 2 instances
		
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			from
		
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			the. Take the instance of the man
		
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			who was a relative of
		
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			and who was also poor.
		
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			So used to support him financially. So here
		
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			is a man who is
		
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			one thing he is a relative. Secondly, he
		
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			is receiving money from.
		
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			So normally, what would we expect that the
		
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			person will be very grateful to him and
		
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			very loyal to him. Yes?
		
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			But, you know, I have seen this is
		
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			a amazing thing in, in life. One of
		
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			my very, very dear, mentors,
		
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			he told me I think maybe 50 years
		
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			ago. I was a little kid. He said
		
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			to me if you want to make an
		
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			enemy of somebody
		
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			help them when they need it. So I
		
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			thought this is a crazy thing. I mean,
		
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			no. So you're telling telling me don't no.
		
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			I said, no. You help but don't expect
		
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			that the person will become your friend. He
		
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			will not. He will he will probably be
		
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			the first one to criticize you or the
		
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			first one to go against you. So I
		
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			thought this is rubbish. The he's saying something.
		
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			Anyway, he He was much older than me.
		
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			He was a mentor. So I never said
		
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			I didn't sort of disagree with him. I
		
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			listened to that. But in my life, I
		
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			have seen this to be true multiple times.
		
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			The people who stab you in the back
		
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			are the people who
		
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			who you helped. Right?
		
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			And that is exactly what happened in this
		
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			particular case. This man who was related to
		
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			and
		
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			was receiving
		
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			funds from him. He was one of those
		
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			who slandered our mother
		
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			Right. Last person in the world. You will
		
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			expect this man to stand up against the
		
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			others. Instead of that, this man is the
		
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			is one who now.
		
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			His guilt is proven.
		
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			Punishment is awarded.
		
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			80 lashes.
		
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			He's all all this happens. There is no
		
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			doubt about the fact that he's guilty.
		
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			So quite rightly and justifiably, he says this
		
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			fellow now I'm get out. I I will
		
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			not help him anymore.
		
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			He is a traitor.
		
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			What does Allah what does Allah do? In
		
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			Surah Al Anur, Allah reveals.
		
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			So
		
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			Allah says,
		
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			don't you want Allah to forgive you? Forgive
		
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			them.
		
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			Don't you want Allah to forgive?
		
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			Now here is the matter. Because many times
		
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			people say, no. No. No. He did it.
		
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			That is why we have to forgive him.
		
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			If he never did anything, what are you
		
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			forgiving?
		
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			So here is a case where the person
		
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			did this yet
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa'ala. Allah is saying, Allah is
		
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			saying you forgive him. Allah says I have
		
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			given you more. I have blessed you more.
		
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			Forgive him.
		
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			2nd big and this is a combination of
		
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			many side. I would mention that as collectively
		
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			as one. Which is Rasool Allah
		
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			SWALLAM treatment of those who harmed him
		
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			himself.
		
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			Right?
		
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			And collectively,
		
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			what happened for
		
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			even before that?
		
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			People like
		
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			who who was a bigger enemy of Rasulullah
		
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			SAW Salam than Abu Sufyan.
		
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			Right?
		
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			So right to the time of Fatima, even
		
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			in Fatima,
		
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			he comes. He says,
		
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			I have no problem with Muhammad.
		
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			I
		
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			still have an issue with
		
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			that. So
		
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			who brought him there?
		
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			I take away my protection from you. You
		
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			are, you know, you are on your own.
		
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			Get killed. I don't care. I mean, I'm
		
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			I'm sick of you. I'm tired of you.
		
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			I don't know what what's the issue with
		
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			you.
		
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			Yet,
		
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			Rasool
		
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			is the first one to forgive Abu Sufyan.
		
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			And there are series of them. Hind,
		
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			his wife
		
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			who mutilated
		
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			Rasool Sallallahu Alaihi Salam's uncle.
		
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			Al Washi
		
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			who killed Hamza
		
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			and so on and so on. Multiple people.
		
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			Now think about this. So
		
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			goes and forgives all these people, and he
		
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			is forgiving them when he it was in
		
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			his power and he would have been legally
		
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			justified
		
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			to execute them or to punish them. He
		
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			does not do that. He forgives
		
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			them. Free.
		
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			He does not even seek compensation from them.
		
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			He does not say, for example, to Vaishi,
		
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			you kill my uncle. I'm his relative. Now
		
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			pay me blood money.
		
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			No. Nothing.
		
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			Now what was the benefit of that? What
		
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			why why is that so important?
		
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			If you think about that, the biggest benefit
		
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			of this was
		
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			that at one stroke, it killed all
		
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			future vendettas,
		
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			all future revenges and everything else. One stroke
		
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			is gone.
		
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			So after this, after
		
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			said to the people, go, you are free.
		
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			He said go away, you are free.
		
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			After that, even if somebody wanted to
		
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			create some conspiracy or create some,
		
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			you know, ill feeling against the,
		
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			he would not get any traction because people
		
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			would say, look. What kind of a man?
		
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			I mean, he just forgave you and you
		
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			are now trying to, you know, backstab him.
		
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			Get out of here.
		
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			And one stroke, he completely removed all opposition
		
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			future opposition to Islam and to his mission
		
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			by forgiving people.
		
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			Now could it was it easy for him
		
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			to forgive? Just think about it. You must
		
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			put yourself in that position. Is it was
		
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			it easy for him to forgive? No. Of
		
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			course, it's not. It's very very difficult.
		
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			But he did it because by that one
		
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			stroke,
		
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			all future opposition is gone.
		
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			And he is now free to do his
		
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			work without anybody interfering and, you know, he
		
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			doesn't have to play politics. He doesn't have
		
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			to watch his back. He doesn't have to
		
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			nothing.
		
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			Is free.
		
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			So I remind myself with you
		
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			that this is a very very very important
		
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			thing to do. It's not easy And that's
		
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			why Allah said hold together firmly to the
		
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			rope of Allah.
		
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			It is not easy, but it is essential
		
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			and it is the most powerful thing that
		
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			we have
		
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			to build community.
		
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			We ask Allah
		
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			to help us to build community and to
		
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			make this a source of
		
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			for us and others.