Maryam Lemu – Victim of a Toxic Relationship

28 July 2024

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The speaker discusses how parents can be dangerous and can be dangerous if they do not know about their children. They suggest identifying and reminding parents of the toxic relationship that they witnessed and the consequences of it. The speaker also warns that parents may not always be aware of what they did not like growing up and that it's difficult to teach what one did not like.

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Now if you were a victim of or

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witnessed a toxic relationship growing up, maybe you

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were drawn into the battlefield,

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maybe you were made to take sides or

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become a lawyer, a psychiatrist

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to your parents.

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Or you were forced to go through unpleasant

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experiences

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watching a toxic relationship.

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First of all, you need to know that

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your parents are as human as you are

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and they are fallible.

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Sadly, some parents do not get it right.

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They may have also been victims of domestic

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abuse or a dysfunctional relationship that they witnessed

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growing up.

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Sadly, you cannot show the right things if

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you did not see it. You cannot do

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right when you didn't see right. The reality

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is you can't teach what you do not

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know. You cannot always give what you do

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not have. So, if you didn't grow up

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seeing love, sometimes it's hard to give love.

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That's why I ask you to go down

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this road and identify and make sure that

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whatever it was that you didn't like growing

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up, that you do not repeat it. It

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does not feature in your relationship.

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Mufti Ismail Menk