Maryam Lemu – Victim of a Toxic Relationship
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The speaker discusses how parents can be dangerous and can be dangerous if they do not know about their children. They suggest identifying and reminding parents of the toxic relationship that they witnessed and the consequences of it. The speaker also warns that parents may not always be aware of what they did not like growing up and that it's difficult to teach what one did not like.
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Now if you were a victim of or
witnessed a toxic relationship growing up, maybe you
were drawn into the battlefield,
maybe you were made to take sides or
become a lawyer, a psychiatrist
to your parents.
Or you were forced to go through unpleasant
experiences
watching a toxic relationship.
First of all, you need to know that
your parents are as human as you are
and they are fallible.
Sadly, some parents do not get it right.
They may have also been victims of domestic
abuse or a dysfunctional relationship that they witnessed
growing up.
Sadly, you cannot show the right things if
you did not see it. You cannot do
right when you didn't see right. The reality
is you can't teach what you do not
know. You cannot always give what you do
not have. So, if you didn't grow up
seeing love, sometimes it's hard to give love.
That's why I ask you to go down
this road and identify and make sure that
whatever it was that you didn't like growing
up, that you do not repeat it. It
does not feature in your relationship.