Maryam Lemu – Know Their Past Before Your Future Together
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My husband and I counseled a couple in
crisis.
And when we talked to this lady, she
mentioned that they started having trouble from the
very first day. She didn't know much about
his background until after they got married. One
of the biggest complaints she had was that
he was non expressive, that he was cold
and disconnected, and that he didn't show affection
and didn't communicate well.
He preferred to bottle things up and then
explode when he got angry or when he
was pushed to the wall. And there were
so many other issues that she complained about.
Now, when my husband spoke to him,
he revealed that he was raised by a
single mother. That his father had been married
11 times.
Yeah. You heard me right. 11 times.
So he did not grow up seeing effective
communication.
He didn't see affection.
He didn't see bonding activities
or a true relationship.
Like I said, it's so hard for you
to give what you do not know, what
you do not have.
He did not recognize how his background had
affected
and shaped him and how it influenced how
he related with people,
especially his spouse. That's why I ask you
to look look critically into the background
and the family background of the person you
want to get to marry.