Maryam Lemu – Introduction To The Premarital Masterclass

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			Assalamu Alaikum Warahmatullahi
		

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			wa barakatuh. This is Mariam Laymu. Thank you
		

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			so much for showing up and for trusting
		

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			me to guide you on this journey.
		

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			It's gonna be a journey of self discovery,
		

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			a journey of personal growth and a journey
		

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			into the past.
		

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			Some parts of this journey will not be
		

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			comfortable. Actually, they'll be quite unpleasant, but they
		

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			have to be addressed and faced.
		

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			Some will be an eye opener for you.
		

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			You're gonna discover new things about yourself insha'Allah.
		

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			But most importantly, I will be with you
		

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			every step of the way. I shall give
		

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			you everything that I feel you need to
		

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			prepare you for what you need when you
		

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			go into marriage.
		

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			I shall be, during this course, sharing with
		

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			you personal,
		

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			practical experiences
		

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			that I have had for over the past
		

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			33 years. My experiences before I got married
		

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			and those of my almost 29 years of
		

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			marriage.
		

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			Now I am absolutely passionate about seeing marriages
		

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			work which is why I created this
		

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			course. And I have interviewed those yet to
		

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			be married to hear what kind of emotional
		

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			rollercoasters they're going through,
		

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			what kind of challenges they're facing, which I
		

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			shall be sharing with you.
		

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			I've also interviewed people who are married
		

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			to hear what's working for them, what their
		

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			best practices are, and things they wish they
		

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			had known before they got married. And then
		

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			I've interviewed those who are divorced,
		

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			who have regrets of things they wish they
		

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			had done differently,
		

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			and what they would do differently if they
		

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			go into marriage in the future. And then
		

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			I've also spoken to those who are widowed.
		

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			I will be talking to you about my
		

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			own best practices and my biggest regrets.
		

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			Things I wish I had known before I
		

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			had gotten married. All the good, the bad
		

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			and the ugly.
		

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			The mistakes that I made, the best things
		

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			that I've learned from my 29 years, and
		

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			the most brilliant things that my husband and
		

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			I have been able to do to make
		

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			for the beautiful relationship we have today.
		

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			This is going to be a detailed guide,
		

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			hopefully to helping you get it right. It
		

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			is my hope and prayer that what I
		

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			share with you will be just that.
		

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			We often put in a lot when we
		

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			want to prepare for our exams and tests.
		

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			I'd like you to treat this as one
		

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			of the most significant
		

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			exams of your whole life.
		

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			The results of this exam are not gonna
		

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			be instant.
		

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			Sometimes it takes years before you know if
		

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			you've failed, if you've passed or if you've
		

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			eased your exam.
		

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			There will be many impromptu tests that you're
		

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			gonna have to take along the way and
		

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			they're all part of this big exam.
		

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			Those tests, if you fail them, will help
		

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			you know what areas you may need to
		

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			improve upon and become more proficient in.
		

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			But if you neglect those areas or ignore
		

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			them and allow them to build up and
		

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			fester, you're gonna be in for a bumpy
		

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			ride. And unfortunately,
		

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			it's not gonna be pleasant. You're gonna have
		

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			unpleasant results at the end of the day.
		

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			However, one thing I know for sure is
		

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			if you work hard on those areas and
		

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			improve upon them, you will reap the benefits
		

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			of your hard work insha'Allah.
		

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			If you work hard and do your homework
		

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			and ace your tests and exams, the rewards
		

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			are priceless.
		

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			Allah has said in the Quran that nothing
		

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			shall be accounted unto a person
		

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			except what he strives for. And in time,
		

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			you shall see the results of your striving.
		

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			This is from Suratul Najam.
		

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			I highly recommend that if you have someone
		

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			you are courting right now, you encourage them
		

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			to also register for this course. This ensures
		

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			that both of you are on the same
		

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			page, that you both have a true understanding
		

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			of what you need before you get married
		

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			and what you're getting into. May Allah make
		

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			it easy for all of us.
		

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			Now I would like to make a disclaimer
		

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			that this course is no guarantee that you're
		

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			gonna have a problem free marriage. However, what
		

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			I'm confident about
		

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			is that if you and the person you
		

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			wanna get married to
		

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			finish this course successfully,
		

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			do all the exercises
		

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			and the extra readings, Insha'Allah, you're gonna go
		

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			into marriage more prepared. You're gonna go into
		

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			marriage with realistic
		

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			expectations
		

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			and the tools that you need to overcome
		

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			the challenges
		

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			and obstacles that exist. And trust me, there
		

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			are many obstacles that exist.
		

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			You will be able to utilize your gifts
		

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			and your strengths to complement
		

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			and build
		

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			on the beautiful relationship that you have insha'Allah.
		

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			I am sure that you have already done
		

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			a lot of homework and a lot of
		

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			research and you know a lot as you're
		

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			coming into this course. So what I would
		

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			like from you is for you to jot
		

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			down in the box below, in the section
		

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			below, your expectations
		

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			for this course. Please share with me what
		

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			you hope your takeaway will be, what you
		

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			hope to have understood
		

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			better or learnt about by the end of
		

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			this course.
		

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			Please also share your feedback at guttertalktomaryamsapital.com
		

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			in the mailbox
		

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			that you will
		

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			find inside this course. This will help me
		

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			improve on this course, especially in the areas
		

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			that you feel you need more information on.
		

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			And do not hesitate to reach out to
		

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			me with questions or comments.
		

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			What I would like from you, at the
		

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			end of the entire course, is for you
		

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			to review
		

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			and check off 1 by 1 what you
		

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			feel you have gained from this course, and
		

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			if there's any area you would like additional
		

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			counseling in.
		

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			I will be reviewing your feedback regularly and
		

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			give you everything that you have had hoped
		

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			to gain by taking this course.
		

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			Now by taking this course, you are part
		

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			of a community and a tribe that I
		

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			have created of individuals
		

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			who truly want to do everything in their
		

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			power to get it right. You will find
		

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			this community to be a safe place where
		

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			you can share your concerns,
		

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			post questions that you may have to others,
		

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			and also give feedback on what your experiences
		

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			are on this course. So share your contributions
		

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			and chat.
		

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			At the end of this course, I will
		

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			be asking you to share all your experiences.
		

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			Please be sincere and honest with your feedback
		

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			because it's gonna help me continue to improve
		

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			on this course, hopefully for others after you.
		

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			And I will also be asking you to
		

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			upload your photographs with your testimony if you
		

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			feel like doing that. Your feedback will also
		

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			be used to promote this course
		

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			and by uploading your comments and your photos,
		

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			you're giving us full permission to use it
		

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			on any platform and in any relevant literature.
		

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			I am truly honored that you are trusting
		

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			me to be your guide through this process.
		

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			May Allah make it easy.
		

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			So now it's time for you to share
		

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			your course expectations with me.
		

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			Please share what you had hoped to learn
		

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			or what you want to know at the
		

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			end of this course.
		

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			I highly recommend that you take lots of
		

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			notes throughout this course Cause there's gonna be
		

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			a lot of information
		

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			for you to gain from this course, insha'Allah.
		

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			I look forward to having you as we
		

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			move on on this journey. Assalamu Alaikum.