Maryam Amir – Youre not worshipping a feeling youre worshipping Allah

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The emotional impact of witnessing atrocities and the potential danger of a culture involve working with a therapist doctor and personal support. People with eating disorders are struggles and fear of their behavior. Pranksters and hesitant individuals are highlighted as individuals who may want to work with a therapist doctor or pray. Investing in mercy and creating a reward for investment are also promoted.

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			The Prophet sallallahu, alayhi wa
sallam is leading maglib salah,
		
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			and he says this, ayah, am julipum
in lady Shay in Mhm.
		
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			Or were they created by nothing?
Or are they their own creators?
		
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			This verse and the ones following
it speak about Allah's creation
		
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			art. How He created us? Did they
create the heavens and the earth?
		
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			Did we? Did we create the heavens
and the earth? Allah is asking
		
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			these, these type of rhetorical
questions, and Juba anhu, he is
		
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			hearing this as the Prophet saw
them as leading and then he says
		
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			that it was the first time he felt
his heart fly. The first time he
		
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			felt his heart fly as he is
feeling his Eman. So he believed,
		
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			but he didn't have that like
flying heart experience until this
		
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			moment with the Prophet, saw them,
and when we say he believed, it
		
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			meant he was already a companion
of the Prophet. So I said that
		
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			this is a companion who's seeing.
The Prophet SAW who's who's with
		
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			the Prophet, sallAllahu, alayhi wa
sallam. But this is the moment
		
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			that he really felt it in his
heart, the emotional moment that
		
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			all of us seek in Ramadan. And the
reason why I want to start with
		
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			this story is because we are, at
the end of Ramadan, Alhamdulillah
		
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			Allah blessed and honored us with
witnessing. And many of us at this
		
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			point are wondering if we've
wasted all of Ramadan, or we don't
		
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			feel like we've had an emotional
connection to Ramadan. And let's
		
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			be honest, we are witnessing a
genocide in in rasa. We are seeing
		
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			the oppression in Sudan and in
Congo and in all different parts
		
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			of this OMA people here in the
United States, we have so many
		
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			realities of pain and oppression,
and with all of that, it does
		
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			affect your mental health. It does
affect your ability to feel the
		
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			same way you might be able to feel
otherwise, and the overwhelming
		
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			guilt at having safety and not
being able to do anything to stop
		
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			a genocide that we're witnessing
really, really affects our Any,
		
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			any, any human being who has a
heart. It affects any person who
		
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			has a heart, on one level and on
the other level, some people are
		
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			trying to protect themselves from
the complete shutdown that they
		
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			have because they can't function
when they witness it, and so they
		
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			have to shut it out, and then they
feel guilty for the fact that they
		
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			are doing so there's those
emotions are very real now, on top
		
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			of that, we are all struggling
with our own things, and here at
		
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			celebrate mercy, when we did the
Friday program at the beginning of
		
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			Ramadan, someone asked a question.
It was an anonymous question, and
		
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			they said they have a habit, a bad
habit, of binging and purging.
		
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			They binge and they purge. And
when they binge and purge, which
		
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			means that they they eat and then
they vomit,
		
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			they promised to Allah that
they're not going to be doing that
		
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			this Ramadan, and on the first day
of Ramadan, they did so, and when
		
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			they did, they felt so bad,
because they felt like Allah
		
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			wouldn't want to answer their dua,
or wouldn't want them to pray,
		
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			because they loved the habit More
than they loved a lot. Like, if
		
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			they loved a lot more, they would
have just been able to stop the
		
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			habit of not binging and purging.
And we discussed at that time that
		
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			binging and purging eating
disorders are not a bad habit. We
		
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			would never say to someone with
cancer, you just need to love a
		
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			lot more and then it will go away.
No, we national support. We need
		
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			doctors, we need treatment. We
need therapy. And there can be
		
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			times that even fasting with an
eating disorder can be dangerous
		
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			for you. So consulting with a
scholar who is aware of your
		
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			reality and eating disorders and
working with a therapist doctor is
		
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			so important. But when someone
gets to this part of Ramadan the
		
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			end and they are struggling with
an eating disorder, or you have
		
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			children, and someone messaged me
saying they have children with
		
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			special needs, and it's been very
hard for them to focus. You know,
		
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			even for five minutes on Ramadan,
because they are always on, they
		
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			always have to be on for the
protection of their children in
		
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			their particular circumstance,
when you are someone who is caring
		
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			for a parent and you are worried
about your parent, or maybe you've
		
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			spent this part of Ramadan in a
hospital, when you are somebody
		
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			who has been trying to focus. And
you've, you've tried, and you you
		
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			have, but you haven't been able to
get to where you want to go. And
		
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			now it's the 27th and you feel
like you've wasted all of Ramadan
		
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			in all of those circumstances, or
whatever your circumstance is. I
		
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			want you to remember Jube. I want
you to go back to his story,
		
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			because this is a companion of the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
		
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			sallam. This is someone who loved
the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
		
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			salam. This is someone who
absolutely had the
		
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			commitment to Islam, and yet he
didn't say every single time I
		
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			heard the Quran I was weeping, he
didn't say every time I prayed
		
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			behind the Prophet sallallahu
alayhi wa salam. I felt a special
		
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			connection. Of course they did.
They're the companions. Of course
		
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			they did. But at the same time,
		
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			why did he tell us that it was in
that moment his heart was flying
		
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			I want us to give ourselves
permission to worship Allah.
		
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			ALA, and that our worship, the
action of the worship, is a
		
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			testimony to our love for Allah,
even if we are not a puddle of
		
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			tears because our iman taste so
sweet when we differentiate
		
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			between I'm going to be so
committed to the act. I'm going to
		
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			be so committed to my belief that
I will continue to act, and if I
		
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			make a mistake, I will, I will
repent. And did you know that it
		
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			is unbecoming of a believer? The
other day, I had my I had, I had,
		
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			I was doing Quran with one, with
one of my teachers. Name is Chef
		
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			Abdul lady. Many of you, I'm sure
are aware of him, masha Allah,
		
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			tabakola, he has one of the
shortest sentence of the world.
		
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			And we were talking, and I said
something about myself. I was
		
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			like, oh. And I said something
that was about my own insecurity,
		
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			and he responded, and he said, It
is not allowed for a believer to
		
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			put themselves down. He said, You
are not allowed to put yourself
		
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			down. There's a difference between
humility and there's a difference
		
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			between putting yourself down and
when we put ourselves down and
		
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			when we constantly think that we
are not good enough for Allah, and
		
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			we haven't been weeping enough and
we didn't feel rumbled on the way
		
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			we want to. I want us to remember
to give ourselves permission to
		
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			focus on the action. Are you still
going to be committed to the
		
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			Quran, even if you don't feel like
your heart is flying? Are you
		
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			still going to pray every single
salah, even if you don't feel like
		
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			while you're praying, you have
this overwhelming, overflowing
		
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			love for Allah, because you do
have it. That's why you're
		
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			praying. You do have the
commitment. That's why you care.
		
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			You do want to feel it. That's why
you feel guilty. So instead of
		
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			focusing on the fact that you are
chasing a feeling that is not
		
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			required, you are not worshiping a
feeling. You're not worshiping a
		
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			feeling, you are worshiping Allah.
And what else? What more to affirm
		
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			the fact that you are worshiping
Allah than the fact that you don't
		
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			feel the feeling, and you're still
going you're not chasing the
		
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			feeling, you are chasing Allah's
pleasure. You're not worshiping to
		
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			Allah. You are worshiping with
him. You are worshiping walking
		
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			with Allah. You are working for
the sake of Allah, span Tala, with
		
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			Allah. Allah is your goal. Getting
to Allah's final is your goal. And
		
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			what does Allah tell us? You do
the action that is how we come
		
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			closest to him, and then the
extra. And the extra is how that
		
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			love continues. The extra is how
that love increases. So if you are
		
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			at this part of Ramadan, and you
are hating yourself, and you have
		
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			so much self loathing, I want you
to remember jubeirah, a companion
		
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			of the Prophet Salla salah, felt
it in a moment inshallah. Once in
		
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			a while, you'll feel that moment
inshallah. We all will. But
		
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			whether or not we feel it, we are
committed. We are committed to our
		
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			love for Allah through action, our
love to Allah, our love for Allah.
		
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			Are being obsessed with Allah
through our action, and you're
		
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			already doing that. That's why
you're here. And another action
		
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			you can do tonight is donate
generously to celebrate mercy.
		
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			Celebrate mercy is an amazing
organization that is allowing for
		
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			all of us to come together in
community this panel. What a gift
		
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			on the 27th or whatever, whatever
it is for you to come and remember
		
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			ALLAH, please invest and celebrate
mercy tonight and Inshallah, that
		
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			reward of your investment will be
multiplied you.