Maryam Amir – When your eyes well tears

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The transcript describes a woman who experienced overwhelming desire to be with the Prophet's realm and lost her wealth. She turned to God and eventually reached a point of overwhelmed and sadness. She also shares a story about a sister experiencing similar struggles and lack of faith in God. The importance of finding comfort and relief for others is emphasized, as well as the recording of emotional contact during difficult situations.

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			Reflection,
		
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			Mariam, before Is yours
		
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			a lotto. Salama, if we can, please
have the ayah put onto the stage
		
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			inshallah. So this verse is
speaking about people, young
		
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			people, who came to the Prophet
sallallahu, alayhi wasallam and
		
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			they wanted to go with Prophet.
Saw them on a military expedition,
		
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			and Allah is saying about them,
nor is there any blame on those
		
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			who came to you, oh prophet. So I
saw him for mounts. Then when you
		
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			said, I can find no mounts for
you. We can go to the next part of
		
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			the translation. They left with
their eyes overflowing with tears
		
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			out of grief that they had nothing
to contribute. These are young
		
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			people who wanted to go with the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam
		
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			on an expedition. And the reason
why they were unable to is simply
		
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			because they didn't have the means
to do so. And what when we right
		
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			now, so many of us are looking at
avasa, we're looking at Sudan.
		
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			We're looking at all these places
in this ummah and the vulnerable
		
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			communities in any part of the
world, and our hearts burn and we
		
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			wish that we could be there. We
wish that we could do something.
		
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			We turn with our eyes filled with
tears, just wishing that we could
		
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			do something to change. I want us
to be aware that even if it feels
		
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			like nothing changes with all of
our tears, that Allah is recording
		
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			them, that Allah is aware that
they are overflowing with, with
		
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			with with immense sadness,
desperation, wishing, longing to
		
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			be able to do more than cry and
Make dua and boycott and protest
		
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			and everything else but, but the
tears matter. The tears matter to
		
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			Allah so much so that he chose to
record this moment in the Quran.
		
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			Allah could have simply said, Some
people came. Well, the Quran could
		
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			have mentioned about how people
came and they were not able to
		
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			join, and they were sad about it,
but he recorded the the tears
		
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			subhanho wa taala. And when I
reflect on this verse, it reminds
		
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			me of something that, someone that
I know mentioned she told me that
		
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			one time she told me this because
we were talking privately about
		
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			the the very personal witnessing
of Allah's
		
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			recompense his generosity, and
moments where you need his
		
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			generosity and you don't know
where to expect it from. So if you
		
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			if, if you have heard that Allah
will always, he will always reward
		
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			you, not just once or twice, but
10 times or more than the amount
		
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			that you give, and that is also
with your desire to do so, even if
		
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			you're unable to do so, you have
the intention and you wish you
		
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			could do it so much so that if you
could have taken every single
		
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			means, and you did even try to
take every single means, but you
		
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			were unable to, Allah reward you
as if you did so. And so she
		
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			shared with me this moment where
she was in a fundraiser for a
		
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			community that had just been
severely affected by natural
		
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			disaster, and she was was hearing
this call to fund, to fund, they
		
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			were trying to raise a million
dollars, and she said she was
		
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			suddenly overwhelmed and overcome
with this immense sadness that she
		
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			didn't have a million dollars to
be able to give. So she turned to
		
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			the wall, and her eyes filled with
tears, and she began to weep, and
		
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			she said, Oh Allah, if I had a
million dollars, Oh Allah, I would
		
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			have given a million dollars. And
she just started making this, Oh
		
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			Allah, accept it as if I gave it,
because I wish that I could have
		
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			given it. Okay, she told me, 10
years later, 10 years later, Allah
		
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			facilitated for her to come across
a large amount of wealth that she
		
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			had never in her life imagined
that she would have been able to
		
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			come across and Subhan Allah, she
was able to give over many, many,
		
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			many years, not a million, but,
but, but, but 10s of 1000s of
		
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			dollars, a wealth she would have
never imagined. And she told me
		
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			that she attributes that
generosity back to that moment of
		
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			sincerity and her intention that
at the time, she was a young
		
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			student who barely, you know, had
a like a
		
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			job, that a part time job, as she
was going to school, she didn't
		
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			have that much money she wanted to
give everything she had. And yeah,
		
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			Allah, Spano, at Allah, he
recorded this, this, this, these
		
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			tears of hers, and perhaps because
of that moment, gave her more that
		
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			she was able to give at a
different time in her life. Now
		
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			she obeyed Allah. May Allah raise
his ranks and bless him, he
		
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			mentioned this idea of tears that,
you know, he like sometimes we are
		
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			taught in a culture, especially
American culture, that it's not
		
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			mainly for men to cry, that you
know, that that that tears can
		
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			sometimes also be very difficult
to cry. Some, some people don't
		
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			easily cry. And so I want us to
also be very clear that while.
		
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			Verse is recording their tears.
It's not a requirement for anyone
		
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			to cry. And this is something I
talk about all the time, because I
		
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			never want one of us to walk out
of Ramadan feeling like we didn't
		
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			cry enough this Ramadan, and then
therefore we are not righteous
		
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			enough, or Allah is not that
pleased with us, or we are not
		
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			that committed to Him because we
didn't cry enough, and Allah does
		
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			not require our tears. He asks
about our actions. He asks us to
		
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			focus on our actions. He tells us
that the way that we come closer
		
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			to him, closest to him, is through
the obligation, and then through
		
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			after the obligation we do the the
extra nowhere in this this space
		
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			is and also weep as much as you
can however, however, acknowledge
		
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			that your emotional commitment is
also a form of worship, your
		
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			emotional interaction, your
emotional
		
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			vulnerability in front of Allah,
is a form of worship, and
		
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			sometimes that emotional
connection can also be a means of
		
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			it being recorded as if you are
talented amongst the people. And
		
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			I'm going to close with another
story of a different sister who
		
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			shared with me a very similar
circumstance, where she when we
		
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			were studying in Egypt for any of
for the Shiu here, may Allah bless
		
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			them and raise their ranks. And
for anyone who has ever studied
		
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			there, mashallah, Egypt is filled
with the coolest, funnest people,
		
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			mashaAllah, tabarakallah, but
there is very real injustice and
		
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			poverty that the people are
experiencing. It's such oppression
		
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			and injustice towards them. And
because of this, there are a lot
		
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			of you know women and children.
Who are you know women with their
		
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			children on the streets asking for
money. And so someone I knew when
		
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			we were studying in Egypt, every
time she would pass a certain
		
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			street on the way to go to school,
all the women who were gathered
		
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			there with their children would
come. They would walk to her,
		
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			follow her, ask for money from
her, and all the way until she
		
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			would walk even all the way up to
our apartment. We had people that
		
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			would follow us. And subhanAllah,
she did not have the money to
		
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			give, and it would burn her heart
that she couldn't because she
		
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			could not afford to constantly
give. And if she would give, then
		
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			it would bring an even bigger
crowd to give, and she could not
		
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			give to everyone. And so instead,
what she started to do is ask. She
		
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			started to ask the names of these
mothers, the names of these
		
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			children. How old are you? Just
getting to know them. And she told
		
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			me that after some time, they
would never ask. And they started
		
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			asking her, how can we make dua
for you? What dua Do you want us
		
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			to make for you? And so they would
start making dua for anything that
		
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			she was asking for. They would
make dua for it. And she told me
		
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			that every single dua that these
women made became accepted, every
		
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			single dua. And there's a
statement of Ibn claim that you
		
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			may be asleep, but the doors of
heaven are being knocked upon by
		
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			10s of supplications of a person
who was poor, who you,
		
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			who you, who you helped with
wealth, a person who was sad that
		
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			you made happy, a person who was
going through hardship, that you
		
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			gave them ease. You may feel like
you're not doing enough in Ramadan
		
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			or in general. But is there a
child whose diaper you're changing
		
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			and you're providing relief for
them? Is there a sibling who you
		
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			are on the phone with when they
are going through emotional
		
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			difficulty? Are you donating
whatever you can to help people in
		
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			very difficult circumstances? What
are you doing that you think is
		
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			not a big deal and yet Allah
records it as a big deal. And
		
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			Allah only knows the people that
are praying for you in the night,
		
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			when you are asleep, you're doing
nothing but sleeping, which can be
		
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			an act of worship with the
intention. And there are people
		
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			praying for you, for your daughter
to be answered and for you to be
		
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			admitted into the highest
paradise. And may Allah make all
		
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			of us Adams. That either in that
software to commit to waiting.
		
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			Yeah.