Maryam Amir – When you feel youve failed Ramadan

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			Thank you so much for joining. I
want to share something with you,
		

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			and it's a way of how, Inshallah,
you can end your Ramadan without
		

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			feeling immense regret. So many of
us feel like we haven't done
		

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			enough this Ramadan we are
struggling with the fact that we
		

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			made all these Ramadan goals, and
yet, despite the fact that we made
		

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			all these Ramadan goals, we feel
like we failed. But a lot of
		

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			times, that isn't necessarily
because you are not doing an
		

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			incredible job in your attempts to
make Ramadan meaningful. It's
		

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			because you have so much else
going on. You might be struggling
		

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			with depression, or you're taking
care of your family, you're
		

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			working. You don't have the amount
of time to be able to focus the
		

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			way that you want to in your
actual worship. If you could spend
		

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			all year in Mecca or Medina,
making your Etsy calf in Ramadan
		

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			and worshiping there, then you
would absolutely be doing that,
		

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			but you can't, and that's not the
reality of your situation. And so
		

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			instead, what can you do at the
very, very end of Ramadan that can
		

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			inshallah impact not just you and
your personal goals that you feel
		

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			like you didn't achieve, but
inshallah an entire lifetime of
		

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			someone else, Ibn Abbas radila
anhu, he had been making akti calf
		

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			when a man entered the masjid. And
when he entered the masjid
		

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			Subhanallah, he was so overwhelmed
in sadness. And Ibn Abbas asked
		

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			this man what was going on, and
when he found out that he had to
		

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			pay a debt and he wasn't able to
pay and he wanted to talk it out
		

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			with the person, Ibn Abbas offered
to help. And the man was like,
		

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			aren't you an IQ calf and Ibn
Abbas RadiAllahu, anhu, he taught
		

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			us then going to help your brother
and or sister outside of going
		

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			outside of Ethiop to help your
brother or sister who is in need.
		

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			Subhanallah that doing that action
is more beloved to Allah and more
		

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			rewarded than simply continuing
your itikaf, being in the masjid
		

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			in seclusion and worship, your
Ramadan in seclusion and in
		

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			worship is a huge blessing, but
it's also a privilege. People who
		

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			have the opportunity and the
blessing to do that are so blessed
		

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			to do that, and they're in the
space where they're able to but
		

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			Subhanallah, there are so many
people who can't do it because
		

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			they're taking care of their
infants, or they're taking care of
		

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			their parents, or they're taking
care of work when they're trying
		

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			to work and they're working for
other people, there was a man who
		

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			walked by the companions, and the
companion said to the Prophet
		

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			sallallahu, alayhi wa sallam,
wouldn't it be better if that man
		

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			went out And for the sake of
Allah. And the Prophet salallahu
		

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			alayhi wa sallam, taught that this
man, when he is working to take
		

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			care of his young children, that
is working for the sake of Allah,
		

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			when he is taking care of his
working, to take care of his
		

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			elderly parents, working so he's
not out begging all of those
		

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			reasons, all of those forms of
work, is taking care of other
		

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			people and himself for the sake of
Allah. So what you are doing
		

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			already is for the sake of Allah
and all of that. InshaAllah,
		

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			Ramadan is special not because you
did something extra special. It's
		

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			special because it's special you
being in Ramadan itself is
		

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			special. And Inshallah, whatever
deed you did this month, whether
		

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			you didn't have time to read all
of the Quran you wanted to because
		

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			you are making a flaw for other
people. Inshallah, you're gonna
		

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			get the edger of their fasting.
Maybe you were struggling so
		

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			deeply with your depression this
month, but maybe because the fact
		

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			that you were struggling with it,
and you were still trying that is
		

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			so rewarded by Allah, and it is so
beloved to him, that it is
		

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			something that he loves so so
much. Subhanallah, so whatever,
		

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			whenever you think you haven't
done enough, remember, Allah is a
		

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			Shakur, and he's al Qari. He is
the one who is appreciative of
		

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			what you do, and He is the Most
Generous, so that no matter what
		

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			you do, he is grateful.