Maryam Amir – The story of Virgin Mary
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ya Ma, ya Allahu, ya
Raheem, ya Malik ya udu suya salaam,
ya menu ya muhahimi Nu yazi Ya yazika, Biru, anten horn,
antenbery.
Ya kaha,
alcohol.
Supanic yawadham
YALI
YALI,
soon,
Until mud,
habir
yam Yamaji,
The
more
ya Hamid, until muhali,
until Mukti uya mui,
Antal, mushy Al mumi, until hay ul ayula,
until
ahadu
muktadir, until muqaddimu
and Al muahiru,
until a.
Mulk, Malik,
rabiah,
Allah,
O
Bali, da
Bali, da
Bali. Da ba win Salman belly,
beta, salmodhi,
Mazal, mafal dai Rabbi merkal, Bakun, Nadi ya falani, kulma
Fati, Li
insanity Arad niyatanya,
wahana, Fear na
Sidra,
aktiha Kalu,
Sana,
Muslim
Yawa
Zapata,
yarasa
them, yes.
Ma
Antal, hakamu antalla, prie,
Hali mu ya Rali, ya
Kabir,
Sub
Hanak,
ya mushy
band, dalwadhu,
machine,
yeah, ya Kawi
ya Metin, uya Wali,
ya Hamid, Antal Mohali,
Antal mukti, uya muy
Dumas
al Wajid
Malu,
Al
Audi rul muktadir, Antal mukati mu and Al Muay ru
until Abu
Bismillah, Alhamdulillah. WA, Salat, WA, salam, Rasulillah, WA,
Allah Ali, he was sisters,
Assalamu alaikum. Warahmatullahi, wabarakatuh, Alhamdulillah, all
praise due to Allah. SubhanaHu, wa taala, Peace and blessing the
honor of Prophet Muhammad, sallAllahu, alaihi wasallam, on
behalf of everyone at Al Maghrib, Malaysia. Welcome to the Sunday
program. Masha Allah, Tabarak Allah, on the topic of pure
devotion.
Pure devotion. Lessons from the life of Maryam Alaihi Sal alaihi
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Amir received her master's in education from UCLA University of
California, Los Angeles, where her research focused on the effects of
mentorship, rooted in critical race theory for urban high school
students of color. She holds a Bachelor in child and adolescent
development from San Jose State University, and the second
bachelor's degree in Islamic Studies from Al Azhar University
in Egypt, Susan Marian has studied in Egypt, memorized the Quran and
has researched a variety of religious sciences ranging from
Quranic exegesis, Islamic jurisprudence, Prophet innovations
and commentary, women's rights with.
Islamic law and more for the past 15 years, masha Allah is an
instructor with hikma Institute and an author with the virtual
mosque and Al Juma online. She focused in the field. She focused
in the field of spiritual connection, identity,
actualization, social justice and women studies. And have humbled
her the opportunity to lecture throughout the United States, the
world, including in Jerusalem, in Mecca, Medina, Stockholm, London,
Toronto and more. And Masha Allah zamaria also holds a second degree
black belt in Taekwondo and speak multiple languages. So without
further delay,
over to you
know, Salat waslam, when the mother of Miriam alaihis Salam,
when she wanted to have a baby and she was blessed with the news of
pregnancy. Of course, we can imagine how excited she was, and
how excited her husband amrana alayhi salam were. Many of you who
know that joy and the excitement of being able to share that moment
together and being able to just feel of the joy of everything
that's going to come is one that really just changes your life. But
Imran Alayhis Salam passed away after the mother of Maryam alaihi
salam found out that she was pregnant, and so now we have this
mother who was looking forward to having this baby, and she doesn't
know where she's going to go from here. Her husband has passed away.
She's now a single mother. And may Allah bless so many of you, so
many of you have lost loved ones and are going through that type of
trial. And we can never replace someone. We can never understand
the wisdoms why things happen, why Allah wills. But what we can take
is what you do in that moment. And this is when we see that
incredible dua in the Quran, the one that so many of you might be
familiar with, when the mother of Maryam alaihi salam calls out to
Allah, and she says, ragbini wahan Allah mumini, excuse me, that's
not the right ayah.
It's when she's calling out and she's saying,
subhanAllah, there's so much Quran that's happening. In my mind.
That's not the right ayah, but the ayah that she calls out to is, if
call it tomorrow, Rob, be in me. Naval, do like a Muffy balcony.
More. Hara, that's up a bell mini in Mecca and the semi on the Ali.
When the wife of them run is calling out, and she's calling out
and saying, oh, Allah, I dedicate what's in my womb to you. Muharra.
The mufas talk about muharra Rah as being free from the shackles of
the dunya, and muharra being someone who isn't attached to the
worldly pleasures, but also muharra Rah being someone who's
dedicated to betul muqdis, Beto Milkis in Jerusalem was a place
where the righteous people, the prophets, the place that servants
of Allah, worshipers of Allah, that's where they served. The
mother of Mary Malay has Salam. She is looking at the fact that
she is now going to have this baby as a single mom, and she's calling
out to Allah, and she's saying, Oh Allah, I dedicate this baby to you
in your service. And she says in Naka and to Samir, Allah, alim.
Why does she say a semi and an alim? She uses these names of
Allah because she's calling out in pain, saying, Oh Allah, you are
the one who sees. You're the one who hears. You know every single
thing, and you're aware of every single thing that I'm going
through. She's calling out to Allah in her pain moments ago,
months ago, she was calling out to Allah in the hopes of the baby and
the joy of that. And now she's calling out to that same Lord in
her pain, and she's saying, oh, Allah, and to semi Alain in to
semi Alam. He's constantly hearing, constantly aware of what
she is going through.
And then she gives birth. Falamna, will da,
Let's rob be in me will go to her.
Wallamo beam
walay said, she gives birth to a baby girl. Now, the mufaron, the
scholars of if you look at Rosie, or Ibn Ashur, or so many other
professor who talk about this conversation she's having with
Allah, many of us read it in Ramadan.
Read these verses, and there's some of our favorite verses. Some
of us, we love the verses. They're so beautiful, but they're coming
in a time of desperation. Why did Allah have us listen? Why did for
the end of time this conversation that's so private, which in the
mother of many Islam and Allah, why was it recorded until the end
of time for us to benefit from to constantly recite, because she's
calling out after she has a baby, which is supposed to be this
moment of incredible joy for so many people, but she's now, not
only has lost her husband, her baby is a boy. I mean, excuse me,
a girl. And she had wanted a boy because a boy, she could give in
service. A boy could actually be on a life of worship and
dedication to Allah. A girl had never entered this space before.
There had never been a woman who could serve in this area. So now,
what is she going to do with a girl?
So she the MUFA, don't say she disliked the fact that she had a
girl, she struggled with the fact that she had a girl. And it's not
because girls are not incredible and they're not amazing. It's just
that she had no idea what to do, and she had given this pledge to
Allah. And so now she talks to herself, and she's talking to
Allah, well, they said that Karu can untha, the boy that I wanted
is not like the girl that Allah chose to gift me a lot of times,
this ayah is used to say, men are not like women. And of course,
we're different. We compliment one another. But at the same time,
this verse is telling us she wanted a boy. Allah chose, out of
his wisdom what was a better gift, and that was a girl, what in NIAID
to her, Mariam, and indeed, I have named her Mariam. What in the
habikamaru, Yeti ha minashewajim And I seek refuge for her and her
offspring from the shaytan. Now, if you hear this ayah, she keeps
saying, what in me, what in me, what in me? Why does she keep
saying that? Because in me is like indeed. I for sure, I definitely,
I, because this conversation is an expression to Allah and in process
within herself that I accept what Allah has decreed. She names her
daughter and she makes to offer her. That is her arriving to the
point of acceptance of Allah's decree, and this awareness that
what he chooses is best, and I'm content with what he chooses, even
if I don't know the future. But the in me, the in me, the in me,
is her struggling. I Yes, I feel this way. I know this. I believe
this. And for us, especially in Ramadan, when so many masajid and
so many parts of the world are closed when so many people aren't
going to metcalt and Medina, when maybe you yourself had planned to
be there this Ramadan. And sometimes we feel like we're in
this place in our life where we have people that we love, that we
don't know how to help, or we are just going through a test. It's
okay to be human. What in me, what in me? What in me? I'm trying. I'm
struggling, but at the same time, I'm going to show Allah, subhanho
wa Taala that I trust him. I'm going to call out to Him by His
names, and I'm going to make dua to him. She made dua for Mary
Malaya Salam. So Maria Malaya Salam enters this world as a girl
unexpectedly, but Subhanallah, because of the dua of her mother,
look at who we have for the rest of life. For the rest of time,
Mary Malay Salam was the first woman to start worshiping a mesh
Al Aqsa in beitel makdas. She paved this path for women now all
the way until today, where we are so honored to be able to go and
witness the place that she used to worship, witness the land of
angels. We're not a single spot, not a single step of that land
there wasn't where an angel or a prophet has walked, and we as
women can witness that now a Meri ma alayhi salam was the first one
to be able to be blessed with that honor. We don't know why Allah
subhana wa Taala chooses some paths for our lives. But
sometimes, when we look, for example, at the mother of Moses,
Musa alaihi, salam, alaihi wasallam, we can see that there is
a long term reason which we may not even be here to understand,
but we can in the Hereafter. And so when we look at the mother of
Musa Asmaa, for example, she called out to Los Panama, Tala,
we're talking about having a boy when there is a genocidal maniac
killing every single baby boy she gives birth, and she didn't know
she was going to have a boy. But now they don't have, like,
ultrasound.
And being able to tell what gender you're going to have, all of a
sudden, she gives birth to a boy, subhanAllah, unlike the mother of
Maryam alaihi salam, who had wanted and planned for a boy and
got a girl, the mother of Musa alaihi salam, it would have been
safer for her to have a girl, but she got a boy, and now she's what
is she going to do with this boy? Allah gives her Ilham to put the
baby in a basket.
And you can only imagine what that is like. What does it mean to put
a baby, a newborn, into a basket? Who would do something so cruel?
But she had trust that this is from Allah, that it's going to
protect her baby. Where does her baby go? Where is this protection?
Straight to the palace of their own, immediately to the palace of
the pharaoh SubhanAllah. How could she have possibly ever
guessed that the one person she's trying to save her baby from is
the one place that he's going to be delivered? Sometimes in our
lives, we pray for something specific, and the opposite
happens, and we wonder, y'all Allah, why? And we struggle with
that. But look at what happened with Musa alayhi salam.
He was brought back to his mother to nurse him, and now she didn't
have to hide her baby and live in fear. She had the protection of
the state. She had her baby, and the palace gave her provision to
provide for her so she didn't have to worry about her finances. She
could just focus on her baby. And Subhan Allah, the fact that Musa
ala Salam, as we all know, was brought up in the palace, was the
reason for which he was able to come back to firam and call him to
Allah, and not just that one tyrannical ruler, but to save an
entire people who had been so oppressed under this ruler, Musa
alayhi salam, being put in that basket her his mother putting her
trust in Allah In that moment, that was what led to that freeing
of the people of Benu, Isra IAM. That is what led to the seas being
split apart from musadam, to be able to cross with people who
didn't even know how to believe, but he believed in Allah subhanho
wa taala, and it was because of the trust and the sacrifice of his
mother. And in my own life, there have been so many times, so many
times that I've made dua, and they have not been answered for years
and years and years. But specifically this one time, I was
making dua at every single moment in Ramadan, in sujood, between the
event and the iqhamma, when it was raining, when I was fasting, every
single moment I was making this dua. And no matter how much I made
it, one door after another would close over and over. The doors
kept closing for this one dua to be answered, I keep asking for it.
The doors keep closing, but I didn't stop asking. And I kept
asking, and I kept asking, and SubhanAllah. Years went by. Eight
years went by until that dua was answered. And I realized when the
dua was answered, in the time that it was answered, I could only go
down into sujood out of shukr, because if Allah had answered it
eight years passed, it would not have been the best for me. And if
Allah hadn't closed all of these doors to lead me on this specific
path to get through this specific place, I had to have all those
doors shut in my face so hard, so that the strength of them shutting
just popped another door open. Sometimes something has to close
for you for an entrance to be made in a much better place and a much
better time. But the process of understanding why this is a
benefit long term is one which just requires a trust that we
develop by knowing who he is, by understanding his names. That a
Raqib as Imam Al razadi, Rahi, mahola, he mentions that unrukheeb
is the one who is observant, that he's watchful over the one that he
cares about, like you might have children, or you might have an
iPhone, whatever you have that you really, really care about. And you
know where that is at all times and you're gonna be focused on
that. Unruhe loves you so much that he is constantly aware of
what you are going through, and he's constantly watchful of you.
So like the mother of many, malaysalam, when we call out in
the canta semi Ola Alim praying and asking him to open these
doors, miraculously, we also trust that even if we don't see that
outcome, that there is a long term legacy being left, and it might
not be in our lifetime that we understand, but maybe a loss for
you right now, or maybe a gain for you right now is something that in
the hereafter will be a means of your incredible joy, and not just
in the hereafter for you, but also in the people that you have.
Here. You don't know how many trees
miss seeing you pray. You don't know how the sun or the sky or the
rocks, how much of these are witnesses to you making Viktor to
Allah to you helping someone else. You don't know why you have to be
in that moment where you feel so broken that you bend down falling,
because maybe the tears that come from your eyes is what nurtures
the soil in which the flowers grow after you've gone, but those
flowers are the ones that the birds eat from. And when you've
been gone for 300 years off the Earth, you're still getting sadaqa
jariya. You're still getting all of the charity and the blessings
and the reward of those birds that are drinking or eating from that
one tree that happened to be nurtured from your tears in which
a seed was once dropped. We don't know why, but what we can take
from Maryam. Are they his Salam? Is that because of her mother's
sacrifice, she was put into a position in which not only is she
an example for us because of the power of her relationship with
Allah, but also because of her strength as a Daya, when I am
asked often, what is A Muslim woman's greatest role. I hear so
many different answers, and I'm not sure if we can get a chat box
here. Let's see. Can we get a chat
Can we do some interaction with the chat box?
Yes, we can use the chat box for question and answer. Is it okay?
Susan,
yes, if you could send me, what do you think as a Muslim woman's
greatest role? Tell me I'm gonna wait and I'm gonna send Salah on
the Prophet sallallahu, Sallam for like 30 seconds, and let's see
what you think. What is a Muslim woman's greatest role? Allah,
muslin abiina, wahabina, Muhammad. Allah. Muslin abina wa Habibi na
Muhammad, Allah Mali wa Sallim, Alain, nabiina wa Habibi na
Muhammad, Allah mo saliva, Salaman. Habibi na Muhammad, Allah
Musala, Mala na Vina wa Habibi na Muhammad, okay, apparently Muslim
women have no roles, not taking it out. A lot of times, what I hear
as a Muslim woman's greatest role is a mother or a wife. And these
are such critical, important roles. They're so important. But
the most important role for any woman is being a servant of Allah.
And we see that Mariam Ali has Salam in her relationship with
Allah. Yes, she was a mother, and we will inshaAllah talk about the
power of that. But she's force most known for her a bad and not
just for her worship, not just because she was so focused in her
connection with Allah, subhana wa taala, her complete just
isolation, just for worshiping Him, not only because of that, but
Subhan Allah, because she also called to Allah. She was
assertive. She was somebody who stood her ground. Marima Salam had
a mehrab, and that's a place that's dedicated for worship, but
she was also raised by zakiriya alaihi salam. And zakiriya alaihi
salam, he didn't just raise her in the sense of nurturement, but he
also taught her, and this the scholars of that time would fight
to see who could get to teach her. She's a student of knowledge,
alayhi salam, and being in this place where she's a student of
knowledge, and she's learning from Subhanallah, the most learned
people, the closest people to Allah, when she is in this space,
and she's trained in this training Subhanallah, What happens when
Angel Jibreel alayhi salam comes to her when she is told that she
is going to be a mother, her immediate reaction when she sees
this man in her mehrab
The MUFA Simon talk about Jibreel salaam as a well proportioned man,
like a very handsome looking man, and all of a sudden there's some
random man inside this place in which is only for her. She could
have reacted in so many different ways, and her focus could have
been all about her. She could have run out. She could have asked
other people to come in and taken him out. She could have screamed.
She could have,
I mean anything about her, but she actually thought about him, how to
call him back to Allah when she says in the arubir Rahmani Minka
in Kunta takiya, I seek refuge.
With a Rahman the Most Merciful, the Compassionate,
in case you are God conscious. She could have said, I seek refuge
with Shadid ole who is strong in punishment. She could have said, I
seek refuge without the Aziz. She could have said, I seek refuge
with someone who is strong in might and in power. She said, A
Rahman Subhan Allah. Why would she say the one who was the most
compassionate? Because she is thinking about this man who How is
she supposed to know it's an angel? Why would he be in a
private area for her, just for her.
If you are thinking about doing something wrong,
then go back to Allah. She has been trained in focusing in these
books, and it comes into this culmination, in this moment where
she chooses to make Dawa, when she could have called out for herself.
And so many times, when we take so many classes and we learn, and
having to do that for the opportunity to gain knowledge,
people tell us, like you're changing. It's not easy to relate
to you anymore. Why do you got to be so weird? Like, sometimes we
hear these messages where we're not relatable anymore, and
sometimes that's because we're so focused on us, and we're so
focused on how we need to not do something. We need to do
something. All these people need to be doing these things. We all
want to go to paradise. We all want everyone we love to go to
paradise. How can I call up everyone to Allah? So important,
no doubt. But there's wisdom in the way that it's done. And Maria
Malay has Salam. She merges her knowledge with that wisdom with
Allah chooses whom he gives it to, and in that moment, she chooses to
call him back to Allah and the mufaron talk about Jibreel, his
hilam Being so even Keir mentions that he's so like shocked by her
statement that he just changes into an angel. And so he responds
when he's saying that I in me. So hard for me
to state Ayat instead of recite them. I'm so sorry. That's why I
mix up so much.
We're trained here when we give lectures to state verses instead
of the recitation of them. And my training in Quran is just
recitation. So I it's very hard for me not to like recite the
ayat, but in general, the translation of the verses is that
Jibreel alaihi salam is giving the glad tidings to Mariam, alaihi
salam, that you are going to have this baby. And she's like, how am
I going to have a baby? And no man has touched me. Subhanallah, an
angel, is telling her that she's going to have a baby. And what is
she affirming? She's affirming her purity, and she's also, in this
moment, showing us a glimpse of what we see with Ibrahim alaihi
salam. Ibrahim alaihi salam and so Baqarah, he asks Allah to show him
how he raises the dead. And Allah responds. And of course, Allah
knows, and he says, awala m totman. And Ibrahim alaihi salam
says, Yes, but so that my heart will feel this,
this firmness, this tranquility, this strength of belief. Ibrahim
alaihi salam the one who has had one miracle after another that
he's experienced. He wants that reaffirmation for his heart to
feel strong in that belief. Subhanallah, we see that Mary
Malay has Salam. She is talking to an angel, and she's getting that
reaffirmation like SubhanAllah. How is this going to happen?
Subhanallah, when Allah will something, it's going to happen.
And so when she is called to her people, she is called as a Daya.
She's called to be a mother of a prophet. And now all of this time
of worship, all of this time of knowledge, is going to to provide
her the strength to go through this test, and that's why it's so
important for us to remember Allah in times of ease, so that when a
time of difficulty happens, we are prepared, we are ready, and we
know how to call out to Him, because we've gone through a
process of Thank you, Allah, for blessing us with the opportunity
to come close to you in a time of ease, so that, Inshallah, in a
time of difficulty, we feel like we know who we're calling out to.
And subhanAllah, she is driven out internally to go out to give
birth. And we read these verses and they sound so painful because
she's calling out, and she says, I wish I was forgotten. She just she
wishes that she was something that was never mentioned. Now, any of
you who've given birth, especially without an epidural or any type of
painkiller, you know that it's extremely painful, so painful
Subhanallah,
she is in the middle of a desert. She's giving birth to a baby.
She's a.
Young, in her teens, and she's alone, and she's calling out at
the pain of birth, and she's saying that she wished that she
was never even mentioned. Why?
Because even in this moment, she's so worried that even though an
angel told her she's going to be pregnant, even though she's
miraculously pregnant, she's worried about what people are
going to say about religion. What are they going to say about a pure
person who they think fell into this sin? How is that going to
tarnish their view
of their worship of Allah? She's worried about Dawa. She's worried
about people's worship of Allah in the moment of giving birth,
subhanAllah,
she is asked to move the palm tree, the tree that has dates, so
that she has something comforting. And doctors today tell us that in
order to ease contractions, in order to ease birth, to eat dates,
subhanAllah, the Allah, mentions this in the Quran, to just have
this
form of comfort and strength. Now, obviously, many of you have tried
to shake a tree before, maybe a date tree. Probably nothing has
fallen out, especially when you're in the middle of labor, you don't
have that much strength to be shaking a tree. But what we take
from that is that even when you are in extreme hardship, take the
means that you can
to move forward. I get asked all the time by people who read the
Quran every day, pray all the time, make constant dua, are doing
extra fasts, and they're still depressed.
I hear from people who are doing so much worship, but they keep
having anxiety attacks. Things are not changing in their emotional
state, and they're asking me, what else do I need to do? I'm
literally doing every single type of worship I can think of, and I'm
not getting better. And when we look at the Quran, look at yakuba
alayhi salam, ya salam. He loses Yusuf alaihi salam, and the Quran
tells us how much he cried to the point that his vision was impacted
by that. Yanku Bala salaam wasn't sad and didn't cry for six months
a year, two years. It was 40 years before he was reunited with Yusuf
alaihi salam,
40 years of the pain of losing his son and not knowing where his son
is and what happened and being a prophet of Allah and still
constantly making dua to him, but Subhan Allah,
when you think that you're not righteous enough, and that's why
you're going through depression, think about the fact that Prophet
Yaqub, alaihi salam was the more was more righteous than all of us
on earth combined. And yet he lost his vision because of his physical
sadness, your Fizz, your your emotional sadness can impact your
physical body. It can impact you on a physical level, chronic pain,
chronic back pain, chronic migraines. My dad talks about this
stuff all the time. May Allah, bless him.
This stuff impacts you physically. And so when you are thinking about
how to process your own emotional state and what you need to be
doing, think about the example of marima Islam that Allah left for
us in the Quran. Take physical action. She didn't, she wasn't
told by Allah. An angel didn't come to say, Say Subhan Allah 10
times.
She wasn't told to just call out ya Rahman, ya lo TV. She wasn't
told to do an specific act of worship. In the worship that we
consider her act of worship in that moment is by taking action,
by shaking the tree. Right now, when you think about what you're
going through, think about it like a mountain. When you're trying to
climb a mountain, you need rope to climb that mountain. That's your
rope. Wow, tell you're holding on to that rope. That's you're
climbing that mountain, that barrier, that hurdle, that pain in
front of you, and you feel like you can't surmount it. You keep
climbing, you read the Quran, and you do your zikr and all of the
things related to Allah. But you also need to have a backpack with
food in it. You also need to be wearing shoes. You probably need
other supplies, therapy. You need support from a professional, a
friend group you can speak with, being able to have others who can
support you through the process, journaling, it out, artwork,
exercising other forms through which to process your emotions,
and we take that from the example of Mary Marle has Salam,
and now Mary Marle has Salam has a baby,
and she goes to her.
People,
of course, she's already been shown miracle after miracle. She's
already been spoken to by Angel Gibbon, who's some mufas also
mentioned, is the one who helps her in those moments of birth with
the miracle, Miracle provision.
But now she's coming her people holding a baby. And
she could have chosen to simply say, zakiria, ale has Salam. You
take the baby and you tell them that I gave birth, and it was a
miracle. She could have asked a trustworthy male in her community
to bring the baby to the community so that she didn't have to face
the community. But look at the strength of this woman.
Look at the assertion of many Mali has said them, and look at her
dedication to Dawa despite herself, she comes with a baby
knowing that people are going to hurl insults at her be shocked,
and she puts her trust in Allah to give them a sign of her purity and
of His
power.
We know that Aisa ADA has speaks. We know that ASA alaihi salam was
someone who had miracle after miracle after miracle, and the the
Quranic conversation shifts to talk about Aisa alaihi salam and
the ways that he called his people to Allah, and the miracles through
which he showed them to call them to Allah.
But where did he learn how to make that Dawa, who was the woman who
instilled in him how to be a caller to Allah. It was his mom,
Mariam, alaihi, Salam. So the biggest role when we talk about
Muslim woman
is her worship to Allah. Is her calling to Allah. And for so many
people, that's going to look so different if you are a mother that
looks like providing that nurturing for the future
generation of people who, Inshallah, are going to continue
that legacy of calling to Allah. And if you're not a mother, then
there are other avenues in which you can maintain and give that and
you can also do both, which is why Sheik Akram nadui, he is a
muhaddib who teaches out of Oxford. And I'm sure so many of
you have heard of Al muhadithat It is the English intro to his
compilation of female Hadith scholars throughout history. And
mashallah, he found over 8000 female Hadith scholars. And what
he said is that there wasn't a single female scholar who if she
could do her
her family, familial obligations, if she could maintain those that
she didn't stop her Dawa, she didn't stop teaching, she didn't
stop actively being involved in the community that we see in the
examples of the woman who came before us, the sahabiyat, who were
inspired by Mary Malay Salam, and listening to her story, how would
they have known about Maryam alaihi salam, except from the
revelation of the Quran, what are they hearing in the Revelation
Allah could have chosen to completely remove all parts of the
story of Mary, Malay Salam that had to do with her interaction
with shabila, alaihi salam and her dawah to him, even though, of
course, you really doesn't need Tawa, obviously, but she Allah
could have chosen not to show us any of those other points. But
look at from the revelation from Allah, what He gives to us. The
female companions are listening to these ayats. Are seeing the
strength of merim Ali has Salam. And who do we see from the female
companions? We see warriors like nusayba or the Allahu anha, and
she is the one who the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam talked
about. But he looked to his left, to his right. Everywhere he
looked, she was there protecting him. And in the future battle, she
actually lost her arm Subhanallah, because she was in battle,
protecting and being involved. And there wasn't just her, that's the
most famous name, but there are so many female companions who
actively participated in battle, or who were nurses who took care
of the wounded. We have Rafael aslamia. She was a surgeon amongst
the companions, and because of her skill, the Prophet sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam asked her to take care of one of the top companions
who was injured in a battle, Rafaella rodi Allahu Aha, we have
a who the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam praised her
poetry. We have om Salama radiAllahu anha, who acted as a
therapist to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, when
in the Treaty of hudaybi and the companions were so sad and
overwhelmed by the fact that they didn't even get to go to Nakamura,
that these doors were closed for them and they couldn't go. And
they felt like, why aren't we the ones who deserved aren't we on the
Haqq? And she gave counsel to the Prophet.
SallAllahu, alayhi wa salam. So over and over we see amongst the
female companions this legacy of women like faulty model the Allahu
anhu, who was known for her role as a daughter and as a wife and as
a mother, and her status is so raised, and also like a
businesswoman like Khadija radila, who is also a mother and a wife.
And then we have female companions who were outgoing and female
companions who are so shy, and female companions who are active
outside, and female companions who are at home. Allah has given us so
many different avenues to serve Him. And we see in the life of
Mariam alaihi salam that whether she was worshiping as a worshiper
and
Beto moctus, or she was going through a major life trial like
miraculous birth, or she was calling people to Allah, her focus
always went back to her connection with him. So as long as we
continue to make the intention. Now, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam told us in nama Ahmadu binyat that our actions by our
intention. We make that intention, and when we do the action, just
like Mary Malay has Salam, we do it for the sake of Allah, and all
of it is worship inshallah. And we're going to take because I know
that we want time for Q and A as well. Inshallah as our final
point. How many miles Salam impacted? Zakiri, alaihi, Salam.
So Mary Marla Salam. One day, she is, you know, being visited by
zakirihi Salam, and he sees fruit that are out of season. And he's
like Anna lucky Hava, where this? Where's this from? And she
responds, who am I in the LA, it is from Allah in
yesha
Obi
that this is from Allah, and he provides for whomever he wills
When, however much he can provide everything to whoever He wills
without measure. Now, zakiri alaihi salam, at this age is old,
and how many years he has maybe been wanting something in his
heart, and maybe as a prophet of Allah, has been making dua for
in this moment he is so impacted by Mary Malays salams conviction
and even her mentorship to a prophet of Allah. Ibn hazlam
actually talks about marima He Salam as being a prophet. We're
not going to go into the details of that discussion. But the point
is that because of Subhanallah, her this interaction with Angel
jabrillah, alaihi salam, he even holds this opinion, even though
it's not the majority opinion. But it's interesting to know now
Subhanallah, she is here giving mentorship to zakiriya. Alaihi
salam.
He goes and he starts to make dua. And especially in Ramadan, I
really want to focus on this for us. Because of her, he calls out
to Allah, and Allah records this for us to know how to make dua to
him. Hunale Zakaria ma he calls out to Allah and he asks him, and
when he asks him for a child, he also shows him how weak he is. Oh,
Allah, my hair has become completely white. My bones are
feeble. Subhanallah, his wife has been infertile. They are old and
not I mean, subhanAllah, you wouldn't consider someone like
this to have a baby without medical intervention, and even
then, most likely, there's not going to be much success. Subhan
Allah, he calls out with such humility and with such need, an
angel appears, right then Angel, Jibreel alai Salam, even though in
the Quran, it's mentioned angels, but the Mufasa don't say the
Alama, the Macomb of Jibreel Salam, is you really Salam coming
to give him the glad tidings? I never understood this type of real
Muna Jad, this conversation, this calling out to Allah,
in depth, the complete brokenness in a platter on your hands, to
Allah. Until I witnessed an imam in Egypt who was leading tarawih
when I was studying there, and he would call out in the Wizard of he
would say, Allah, Allah, don't turn us away. If you turn us away,
who is going to answer us? Don't turn us away. Don't turn us away.
Answer us. Answer us. Answer us. Oh, Allah, you said and your word
is the truth. Udaroni as the jib, make dua to me. I will reply to
you. I will answer you. So here we are making jobs. Here we are
making jobs. Answer us, answer us, answer us.
Don't turn us away. Who will we go to if you turn us away? He was
calling out like this over and over, and the complete brokenness
that you could hear in his voice, you feel like this is how I am
with Allah.
He sees everything. If he doesn't answer me, no one will. And when
you call out to Allah like that in my own life, the only time there
were certain dua that he made that I was just present, and I said
Amin for those dua, his dua, but they came true in my life
because of the power of that humility and submission to Allah,
an angel comes and gives glad tiding. And we see this huge
emphasis on angels when Allah says that, The angel say to Mariam
Alaihi, Salam in Allah has spotted Hara kiwaki Allah and Mesa Illini.
She has, that even the next ayah actually talks about her
worshiping Him, that her her, her connection to him is, is, is based
on her worship of Him. But look at how angels are so present in this
entire narrative. Angel, Jibreel, the angels are they in beetle
mexus, angels are present. And so in our own lives, especially in
Ramadan,
sometimes we don't talk about how important angels are and how much
of a role they play in our lives. But in El Dora suniye, they talk
about the benefit of angels being in your in your life, it's a form
of light being brought into your life, a form of your DUA being
answered. Because when an angel makes dua for you, an angel's dua
is accepted. When you have angels in your life. It's a means of
protecting from the darknesses. It's a means of your guidance. And
Subhan Allah. Allah tells us something that is so incredibly
comforting. He says, Allah, the Melo, who you said, biah, bi
Hamdi. Rob be him. Those who the angels that are praising Allah,
and they're
having they're around the out of Allah. They believe in Him, we are
still feeling a little lady in a man who robbed a cool machine.
Well, feel lady in a tab, or whatever. I was ABI like a lucky
in the adab jahid and the ayat continue, and they're in job for
the believers. Now, what does this mean? First of all, it's
interesting because, because Sheik shahrawi, he mentioned, Why did
Allah say that the angels believe in him? Obviously, they're making
like they're hauled they're around the out of Allah. Clearly, they
believe in Allah. Like, says Amar, if we're having a conversation and
I'm like, Oh, I believe you're there. I wouldn't say that. I'd be
like, Hey, you're there. But what this means is that they don't know
their island. They believe in what Allah hasn't shown them. And so
there they are, and they believe in him, and they are constantly
there around his praising him. And what do they do with that too?
They are constantly asking for your forgiveness. Oya still, firu
na Amanu, who is lil ladina amenu, who are the people that they're
constantly asking for your forgiveness for? Who is it the
people who are praying all night and day. Is it the people who are
worshiping without any mistakes?
Those would be the mumin. Those would be the muhsinin
are the people who believe in Allah, but their actions are
struggling to reflect that belief, sometimes that they believe, but
sometimes they falter. They make mistakes. Their actions don't
always reflect that belief that is lethena and then. So how much more
would it be for the person who is struggling so hard to please Him?
Subhanallah angels don't do anything unless ALLAH has to
command them to do it. So what that means is that these angels
are actively commanded by Allah to 24/7, yes, Firon in Arabic, it's a
present tense, constantly at all times, they are praying for you,
asking for your forgiveness, asking for you to be entered into
paradise, asking for you to be saved from the hellfire, asking
for you to be brought into paradise with your loved ones. And
say Ibn Jubeir, he mentions a narration that a person comes into
paradise and they look around and they say,
Where's my dad?
Where's my mom?
Where is my spouse? Where are my kids? Where's my grandpa grandma?
Where's my grandpa?
And it's told to this person, they worked.
Excuse me, it's told to this person, you worked, not like them.
You worked so much harder, you worked and they didn't, and that's
why you're in this level of paradise. And subhanAllah, of
course, the only reason anyone is in Paradise is because of Allah's
mercy, but out of His mercy and out of his love that he doesn't
want anyone to be sad in paradise.
Subhanallah, this man responds, or this person responds, and they
say, I didn't work just for me,
the action that I did, that work that I did, I worked for me and
for them, and so because of that person, Allah will bring their
loved ones to that place in paradise, because Allah never
wants someone to be sad.
Subhanallah His love for us that he commanded angels to be making
these dua for us at all times
we can bring angels inshallah into our lives. There are so many
different ways, but I'm just going to tell you three very quick ones,
because they're super easy to do. One of them is recite AYATUL korsi
Before you go to sleep, and you probably already do this, but
Allah will send an Angel to be with you. Another one is to make
Waldo before you go to sleep, and Allah will send an Angel to be
with you. And the third one is to make da for someone else behind
their back. And there was somebody in my life who really wanted
something. I was praying so hard for her. Oh my gosh, subhanAllah,
I poured myself into this dua, And subhanAllah angels were saying,
Amin, amin and Amin and for you. And that happened to me. She
didn't get what she wanted. What she wanted happen to me. And when
that happened, subhanAllah, I was like, Is this how this works? I
pray for someone else, and Subhanallah, it happens to you. So
that was like, subhanAllah, what does this mean? But listen to what
happens in the future. She did get what I asked was praying for,
except in a much better way and in a much better time. And I did get
what I was praying for for her, except in a much better way and in
a much better time. And so when you pray for other people, it's a
form of the angels, literally coming to be with you, to say,
amine and for you. So pray for me and my family, please. And
Inshallah, angels will come into your life.
And as we close, Inshallah,
many ALA has sent him is an embodiment of what the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wasallam has
taught us in his character and in his in his call to Allah, because
not only was she focused on her own worship, she ensured that that
worship made her character impeccable to the point that no
one could even point fingers at her character. And even with that,
it wasn't about her, it was about Allah and His religion. And for
all of us when we think about the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam, angels are on your lips waiting for you to say, Allah, had
you and Muhammad, so continuing to say, You're Salawat SallAllahu, on
the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and you're interacting
with angels all the time. But that revelation that unfortunately
sometimes, at least in the communities I've visited, I heard
so many amazing things about Malaysia. Masha Allah, so I just
pray that we all can follow your example. Seriously. Tabata Allah,
the things I've heard about Malaysia and the doors that have
opened are open and normal for women. There is so incredible.
A lot of times we hear struggle with the messages of what it means
to be a Muslim woman. But what we see in the example of the Prophet
sallallahu, alayhi wa sallam, as he established with the revelation
that included Maryam alaihi salam, as a space in which women had
access to knowledge, and a space in which women's involvement in
Dawa was not just Welcome or accepted, but was critical, and to
know that you're needed in a community, to feel that form of
purpose and that sense of of
of responsibility is one which allows you to form a type of
growth that is particular to calling to Allah's panata. And we
see that in the example of many Sina. So alhamdulillah, the Allah
has given us this incredible woman to be, Inshallah, one of our four
mothers, our great, great, great great grandmothers. And we pray
that Allah spent, Allah honors us with joining with her in the
highest paradise with all of our loved ones. So panic Allah will be
hamdiknitu
we make. Thank you. So much. I'm so honored to be here. And thank
you so much for your time.
Mariam, so right now we go for the Q and A. Is that okay? Yeah, yeah,
please. Okay, so
the questions that we have here the question and answer.
Action.
What can we the modern Muslim Warden, sorry, what can we modern
woman learn from the life of Maria? Mainly on how to accept
Qadar wholeheartedly,
how to accept Qadr, on what how to accept Qadar, you know,
wholeheartedly? Oh, yes, yes, yes, absolutely. So this is an
important question, because a lot of times we feel like we don't
have control, and we feel like we want something, we pray for
something, and something else happens. Even the opposite
happens, and we wonder why. So there's a few points. This all
goes back to dua.
Dua can change padar. First of all, dua wrestles with Qadr to
change it, including your lifespan.
It's so important to make dua, and dua can change everything. So
never lose hope, because as long as you are making dua, Allah,
panotala promises to answer, and that promise of the answer can
come in so many different forms. It can come in your job being
answered exactly as you ask it. It can come in, it being answered at
a different time in a better way. It could be saved for the
hereafter. It could be a form of evil being averted from you. And I
know, for example, every time that I'm about to get into a car
accident, two cars are coming, and suddenly we just suddenly swerve
away from each other. I always think Subhanallah, this is the
angels being sent to protect us like a shield, because we would
have hit each other. Why did we suddenly not hit each other? Maybe
that was a dua that I made 15 years ago that was an answer, but
was saved for this moment that protected my life. And so you
never lose with dua. Allah promises to answer you. And
Ramana, he was never afraid of his dua not being accepted. He was
afraid of not having a present heart when making dua. And
sometimes what you're asking for isn't going to be answered. And
it's very hard. It's very, very hard.
Subhanallah, I have been making to offer things at times for eight
years at a time, 10 years at a time, two years at a time, and
they don't become answered until that moment. And sometimes they're
never answered in the way that we think is not answered, of course,
to answer it in other ways but what we see. But sometimes Allah
gives you something else to comfort you through that process.
And I'll tell you that earlier this week, for the past two years,
I've been making dua for something, just intense, painful
dua for something and Subhan Allah, I was even blessed with
going to mashall Aqsa last year, and they made so much to offer
this thing at Mashallah. And I was like, there is no way Allah is not
going to answer this. I'm making dua in the most in a Ramadan in
the last 10 nights, and mesh Allah has to answer, but Subhanallah
every time I think it's going to be answered, a door is closed, and
it makes me stuck again. And earlier this week, I thought it
was going to be answered, and I was so excited about the
potential, and then I found out it wasn't again. And of course, we
trust in Allah, but it's hard. As a human being emotionally, you
have, you have the right to just grieve. It's okay to be sad. But
you know what happened that day, a friend of mine who, out of the
blue, she told me that she's going to drop something off, and I
wanted so much something particular cookies that she makes.
She specifically makes these cookies. And out of the blue,
she's like, I'm going to drop off these cookies for you. And I
thought Subhanallah Allah didn't answer my big dua, but he knows
how painful this is for me, and he brought me something else to
comfort me. And so sometimes, in your own life, it might be that
you see a post on social media and it's as if it's talking to you. It
might be that you go to pray and the person who's leading Salah
recites that Surah that you love so much. It might be a friend who
calls you. It could be anything, but looking at those things as
little mercies and little pieces of comfort from Allah subhanho wa
Taala and his love for you. Instead of all these doors being
closed, look at it as Allah loves me so much that he knows what's
best for me, and even though he knows how painful this is for me,
he's providing me with a little bit of support to help me get
through this time.
And while saying all of that, also remember that sometimes, when you
pray for something specific and you want it so much, remember
Miriam alaihis Salam. Her legacy is long lasting, right? I mean,
she had to be born a girl, she had to be to the from the beginning,
the worry of her mom, she had to give birth in a crazy circumstance
to a boy. I mean, those are very big trials, and in that process,
she wasn't like, oh, Allah. Why me? Why?
Me. Why me? But like we saw like the mother of Mary marlehe Salam,
it was okay to be human. We saw like Mary marlehe Salam giving
birth, it's okay to be human. So it's okay to be frustrated and
hurt and confused. But you take all of that into dua, you pour
yourself emotionally into it, and you trust that the one who has
chosen this for you that he knows better than you know yourself,
even though everything seems like this would be better for you, only
Allah knows what's best for your dunya and your alhira, and getting
to know him by his names is something that helps you process
that, that that that hurt a little bit. So a friend of mine who said
that jinane, she wrote the names of Allah series. You can find it
on virtual mosque.com
the names of Allah series. You can take one article a week. It's a
name of Allah, and for that week, just read the article. It's like a
two minute read that whole week. You call out to Allah by that
specific name, and so over time, you start to see how his name,
Subhanahu watana manifests. This attribute manifests in your own
life. And part of the problem with us, with being able to accept Qadr
sometimes, or what we feel is decreed when we feel so stuck or
confused, is that we don't know who we are putting our affairs
with. We don't know how to trust Him because we don't know him.
Maybe we Quran, maybe we Quran, maybe we pray, maybe we take
classes here and there, and that's amazing. But do we really know him
enough to know that whatever He decrees is the best? And so
knowing His names, being able to call out to his names and
understanding those attributes allows you to see that everything
happens for a reason, and everything happens for the best.
And I'll end this by telling you a story that once I was driving and
I got a flat tire, and the only place that I could get my tire
changed SubhanAllah. It happened to be right next to a masjid, and
I was driving in a place I never drive, ever. I just happened to
have an appointment in that area very far away from my home that
day, I think it was like a 45 minute drive and SubhanAllah. Now
my I have a flat tire, so I'm waiting for my tire to get
changed. Across the street from this tire place, they have a
masjid. So I go into that masjid, and just the week before, I had
spoken at a conference here,
and I walk in, and there's a brother at the entrance, and he
looks at me, and he says, are you that sister who gave a lecture at
that conference? And I was like, Yes. And then he said I was making
dua that I could somehow get connected with you, and I had no
idea how I was gonna get your contact information. I don't know
anyone who would know you, and now you're right here in the masjid.
Sometimes something happens in your life because it's leading you
to someone that has been praying for some reason to meet you and
you never know SubhanAllah. What I got from that meeting was so much
of his connection with Allah, so much of his humility that this is
like a friend of Allah, that Allah would cause my tire to burst so
that I could come meet him, not that I'm anybody to want to meet,
but SubhanAllah. The fact that sometimes things happen, and we
don't understand why, but there are all these reasons behind it
that only Allah knows, and sometimes it's for the way future,
the seeds that you're planting right now that we you don't see
grow sometimes. That's so that Inshallah, in 300 years from now,
there are Muslims praying for you, and they may not know you by name.
They might not know who exactly you are, but the earth didn't
forget what you did. And Inshallah, the people who benefit
from you in that time. Allah never forgets. Allah knows exactly who
you are, and that those you know 100 years that we pray that,
Inshallah, with health and energy and strength, that we will be able
to live. And even more, here is nothing in comparison to eternity.
Is that Allah? Can we answer the next question? Is it okay? Yes, of
course. Okay. The next question,
salaam alaikum, in our quest to be the best woman, how can a normal
person like me contribute to the community like
Assalamualaikum, talahi wa rakatu. Normal person like you, I think
that normal person like you is probably very special in her own
way, and it's about finding what that is and what your passion is,
and then using that for the community. So I've had people tell
me things like, I really want to become a lawyer, or I want to
become a doctor, or I want to become a teacher or a journalist,
but I feel like that's going to take me away from studying Islam
and making Dawa and it's Subhanallah, all of those fields
are forms of worship with the intention. I've heard mothers who
tell me that now that they become a mom, they just don't know how to
balance being a mom and doing community work. And I
Alhamdulillah, I have a four year old and an Al.
Two year old. So I really understand how hard it is when you
have especially young kids, because that's my life, 24/7, but
remember that whatever your normal person circumstances, whenever you
use your skills, your interests, your talent, and you choose to use
it for the sake of Allah, that is a form of contribution, whether
it's because you love writing and you're going to write books or
posts or children's books or, who knows, I wish I knew what you were
so interested in, but find what your talent is, your own interest,
and then see how you can create space for that. There might
already be a ton of people doing that work, and you can join, but
there might be nobody, and so maybe your role is to create that
field for other women to come after you and be able to feel like
they have a space to contribute to
moving to the next question,
I am not married, and I hardly make dua to be married. Is this
permissible? Oh Subhanallah, of course, I hear this question so
much. May Allah, bless you and bless everyone who's looking with
the best spouse for them at the best time, in the best way. I get
this question from sisters all the time, and it's a big issue here. I
don't know how big it is in Malaysia, but we have a big
marriage crisis here,
and yes, absolutely, absolutely, you should make a dua as much as
you can, as often as you can, as long as it doesn't physically
cripple you. So I've had sisters who've told me that they're so
emotionally distraught, their focus of their draw is only on
getting married, and they just they haven't been able to get
married yet, and they just can't take it anymore, because they just
keep hoping. And they're hoping and they're hoping just not hope
again, and it's just so hard. So you see what your emotional
situation is, and you can make detailed dua to Allah. Like, Oh
Allah, please bless me with a righteous spouse who has amazing
character who's compatible with me and my family, like whatever do i
that you want to make about your spouse, Inshallah, your future
spells. But also you can make a more generalized dua, like Robin
dunya, hassana, wafirati, hasana, what Tina avana. And you intend
that when you make this dua, you include in it the best type of
spouse for you at the best time, if it's too emotional for you to
make hardcore, internal, personalized dua about this,
because you just need a break sometimes, because it's really,
really hard to go through it, then just make that general dua with
the intention that it includes that. And of course, in the Quran,
Allah also tells us Robin I have then, I mean, as wajina waluri at
Tina, purwata analytina, Imam, Allah to make spouses and children
the fullness of your eyes and that that we could be used as
leaders of the righteous. So Allah Himself has included in the Quran
a dua for making for your spouse and your your progeny, so you can
make make dua. Of course, of course, you should make dua, and
you absolutely can make dua. And we pray that Allah answer your DUA
and dua of every single person that's praying for whatever
they're praying for, answer the needs of all of their hearts
in the best way of the enemy. We move to the next question,
salaam alaikum, are there any conditions that would result in
Allah rejecting our dua, like assalamualaikatesu? That's a
really good question. There are definitely circumstances which
your DUA wouldn't be answered. For example, if you're asking for
something well, things we shouldn't do. For example, asking
for something haram like you're not. You shouldn't make dua for
something haram. Abu something haram, obviously. And I have read
about scholars who have different conditions in which the dua of a
person who does this is not accepted, or a dua of a person who
does this. I'm not going to go into the into detail for every
single type, but what I want to just say as a generalized rule is
IBLEES Satan asked Allah to give him more time, and Allah answered
him. So yes, we want to be, of course, in the best states
possible for our dua to be answered. But at the same time,
never lose hope in whatever the fact that you're doing, in
whatever circumstance that you're in, to go back to him that you If
Allah swt is going to answer Iblis, who, in the moment, like
Satan, is ordered to make sujood, he doesn't out of his own
arrogance, his racism, his all of the issues that he has, and then
he asks something from Allah, and Allah still gives it to him. So
never lose hope. Never think that okay, because I'm doing this,
Allah is not going to answer me. Because I'm doing this, I don't
deserve to make dua anyway. You do righteous deeds hoping that with
even if you're struggling that with that righteousness,
Inshallah, you will slowly change. Then it's a process. But never.
Who's hope that, Inshallah, he will still answer you. Just, just,
just focus on the calling to
him. Inshallah, two, last question, inshallah from
Sister one, assalamu, Alaikum. What can we do when we can't
really feel in the heart the doors that we have been been reciting
daily like Islamic library, Academy, that's such an important
question. This is what I would recommend. So find 10 minutes
every few days. It doesn't have to be every day. It can be once a
week.
And it doesn't have to be 10 minutes. It could be any amount of
time. But here's the general idea, you sit with just you and Allah,
if possible, just in a private, quiet place. Maybe it's after
everyone has gone to sleep and it's just you, or if you're so
exhausted at that time, maybe when you're in the car on your way to
work, anything,
you have that quiet time and you reflect on your blessings. So a
lot of times, when we approach Allah from an emotional place, we
feel like we're not good enough Muslims, because we're not bawling
to him. We're not crying every time we read the Quran. We are
praying, but we don't feel anything. Allah doesn't require
feeling from us for your deeds to be accepted. He doesn't tell us
that the way that we come closest to him is through an emotional
reaction. He actually gives us power by saying, it's the action
that you do. It is the obligatory and then the extra, those are what
helps you come closer to him, the action. But we sometimes just want
to feel the emotional connection to him. So sitting, and instead of
thinking about all of your stresses or all of the reasons why
Allah wouldn't answer you, or all of your sins or all these things,
just think about the blessings in your life. Just sit and say
Alhamdulillah.
And you are thinking from the depths of your heart, thank you,
Allah. And you are thinking of a blessing, and that blessing can be
anything. It can be the blessing of Islam. Alhamdulillah for air,
Alhamdulillah for my for my for my connection with the Quran.
Alhamdulillah for my job. Alhamdulillah for my family.
Alhamdulillah for my heart. I mean, you could go on forever,
literally, and you just sit and you think of all these moments of
gratitude that you have, and Inshallah, with that practice,
Allah tells us that when you thank him, that as he done nekom, that
he will surely increase you. And that increase Subhanallah, that
can be any type of increase. It can be an increase in your wealth,
in your health, in your family, in your iman, it's what you need.
Allah increases that. So you sit with yourself and really from the
depths of your heart, you say Alhamdulillah, and you think about
the blessing that Allah has given you, and you come to him from a
place of gratitude, and just take some time to practice that and see
if it impacts the way that you feel emotionally in your
connection
with him. Inshallah, moving to the next question,
salaam, Alaikum. Saza, how do we instill good thinking, especially
to Allah, when things didn't go our way? Like assalamu. Alaikka to
this is really tough. Hasna Van imla is just so important, and
it's very hard sometimes when you feel like
you put your trust in Him, and then it didn't pan out the way you
thought, and then you're like, why? Or sometimes because you
blame yourself, like You're so harsh on yourself, and that causes
you to be to feel like Allah is not going to answer you. And this
is Subhanallah so common, I hear from people who committed a big
sin, like five years ago, and they made Toba. They've changed, and
they haven't done it again, but they can't get get over it. And so
when they call out to Allah, they're coming from this place of
self hatred. They hate the way their body looks. They hate the
fact that they're in this place in their life. They hate what they
used to do, and so they project all of that onto Allah and their
own insecurity about themselves. They think that Allah views them
in that way, but the way that Allah views you is not necessarily
the way that you yourself. In fact, we have so many Ahadith that
talk about how much Allah loves when somebody comes back to him,
when somebody turns to him, when somebody asks for his forgiveness,
just so so so much so the first thing is, look at your own self.
How do you see yourself? Are you really struggling with something
about you? And work to rectify that? Because sometimes our own
insecurities are just projections onto our relationship with Him.
And beyond that, get to know who he is, because if you know Ellu
Akil, the one who is going to be entrusted with your affairs, if
you're going to trust Him and you know who he is, then it's much
easier for you to say, I know that he only wants the best for me. I
know that he knows my.
Future, and he knows my dunya and Ashra, and that's why I'm going to
leave this completely up to him. It's so much easier to do that
when you know who he is. And a lot of times we say, like, read the
Quran every day. I'm not sure what the culture is like in Malaysia
here, the culture, especially in Ramadan, is to read the Quran in
Arabic. And I'm not Arab. So many of us are not Arab, and we don't
understand what we're reading, Alhamdulillah. Now I have learned
Arabic. Alhamdulillah. Now I understand what I'm reading. But
before Subhanallah, I didn't know and every Ramadan, you're just
trying to read, you're trying to read, you're trying to read. But
how much are you transforming? How much are you impacted by the
message? How much are you impacted by Allah talking directly to you?
The Quran is barakah. You just looking at the must have is
worship. It brings barakah to you even if you don't understand. It
brings healing even if you don't understand. But how much more so
that the Quran was revealed in Arabic to Arabs, not in Turkish to
Arabs, or Farsi to Arabs, or Chinese to Arabs, not Spanish to
Arabs, Arabic to Arabs. So the point is that take time to read
the Quran in whatever language you understand best, to understand the
message of Allah to you to know who he is. Because just like any
relationship, when you start to get to know someone, the more you
fall in love with that person. You know that person deeply. You see
the gifts that they give you. You see that they only want what's
best for you, even when you're frustrated with them, you
understand why they did it, all of those things, of course, to Allah,
the method is just so much greater. So get to know him
through understanding what you're reading in the Quran. And also,
like I mentioned, get to know him by his names, which Inshallah, you
could do through the virtual mosque articles, and inshallah by
working on healing your own self from your own wounds and not
projecting them onto Allah and also knowing who he is, Inshallah,
with that, you will have so much more hope in Him. And this, for
me, was a very personal journey. I it took me seven years to go from
getting all excited about Islam and then learning about as a
Muslim woman, I should not be doing this, this, this, this,
this, this, this and that, and then finding out that, oh, okay,
like how Allah created me is basically haram because I'm too
assertive and I shouldn't exist. And so the fact that hearing those
messages for me as a woman was so psychologically traumatic that I
just kept thinking I'm not good enough for Allah over and over and
over. And it took, like, seven years for me to process getting to
a point that Islam is so healing for women and empowering for
women, and that comes from Allah's love for us, and so embracing
that, and then looking to Allah with hope and looking to him out
of his love, and yes, of course, being afraid, but it's not fear of
punishment, which, of course, I'm terrified of punishment, and we
should be terrified of punishment, but more so the fear of
displeasing him, because loving someone so much more than your
fear of if they're going to make you go to your room if you did
something wrong, or whatever type of punishment there is, is the
fact that they're disappointed in you, and We never want Allah to be
disappointed in us, because he is so, so so merciful, and all it
takes is just going back to him and asking for forgiveness, and he
forgives, and he promises it so having hope in him that Allah SWT
loves you and he hears you and he sees you And that he appreciates
everything that you're doing
does that last question actually is,
do you have any book recommendation related to woman
and also related to Marian Ali Salam? Can you recommend some
readings? Yes, definitely. So there is a list of
recommendations. I actually wrote, it's an article called five tips
to rethink women in Islam. And I have a list of book
recommendations and audio recommendations on there from
virtualmask.com
but quickly in English, Al muhadita, like I mentioned, is the
number one that I recommend that you read. It is by Dr Akram
nadjawi. You can find it. Actually don't know where you would find it
in Malaysia. Do you guys? Do you? I don't know. So Inshallah, you'll
find that somewhere,
Alma, Hadith, that. And then also, there's a lot of recommendations
that I have for you in Arabic, but I'm trying to think of ones that
are translated. That's the one that comes to my mind right away.
I know that I have other book recommendations listed on that
site, on that article, if you're able to check it out, inshallah.
And then also, there was a second part of that question that had to
do with resources for Mary Marlene. So unfortunately, I
haven't found anything in English that that covers her life in
detail. What I pieced together was from reading numerous tafesir And
they were all in Arabic. So unfortunately, I don't know what I
can recommend to you in English, and I'm so sorry for that. I found
that the resources in English are just not there yet, at least the
ones I've accessed.
I hope, Inshallah, that in the next generation that will change
with more people from Malaysia and other places studying Arabic and
translating into you know.
All these different languages Inshallah, there will be more
accessible information. And maybe it exists, and I just don't know
about it, so if you find out about it, please tell me, so that
inshallah be able to suggest it to other
people as well benefit from it. That's all the questions that we
have. Baraka lofikom, thank you so much for your time in Ramadan, and
I'm so honored to be speaking with you in Malaysia. MashaAllah, bless
all of you. I've heard the most amazing things from so many of
you. Masha Allah, such such an honor to be with you. Thank you,
Alhamdulillah. Katira, thank you so much. Suzan, Mariam Amir, for
the opportunity to Alhamdulillah, to learn from you on this very
beautiful topic, pure devotion, lessons from the life of Maryam
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