Maryam Amir – @MuhsenOrg Honoring Muslims Disabilities @QuranicOcean
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The speakers discuss the importance of community inclusion and worship in helping individuals with disabilities to live their lives, as small things can happen and small things can happen. They emphasize the need for support and acknowledgement for individuals who commit sin, as small things happen and small things can happen. The importance of preparing for unexpected events and trusting the person who will help them is also emphasized. The speakers stress the need for a plan to help the family and their children, as small things happen and small things can happen, and emphasize the importance of knowing that the will of God will be the one who is the one who is helping them.
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Alright, as salaam alaikum, Rahim, this is your brother, Bilal. Very
excited to be having, being able to be the host for today's IG live
with two amazing individuals in Alhamdulillah. This is for
balancing worship for caregivers. Please make sure to like engage.
Drop some hearts, some comments, some gems that you hear throughout
Ali musalaam, alah, Inshallah, we're going to be waiting for
Alhamdulillah, two of our speakers, Sister Mariam and sister
Samia Alhamdulillah, and we're so excited to have both of them.
Alhamdulillah, let's get some energy in the chat. Bismillah,
let's go. If you're excited, drop a one in the chat. Let's get some
hearts. Bismillah,
all right, till we get started in a moment.
All right, let me know how everyone's at Ramadan is going. If
you are excited for you know this the final stretch,
like a summer to love.
How y'all doing?
Honored to be here, Alhamdulillah, with yourself and Samia and with
Mars. May Allah bless you all.
May Allah bless you all the honors us. We love you both. May Allah
subhanahu bless you all Marcin and all the caregivers hamdullah, have
nothing but positive positivity out of all the work that both of
you all are doing. So we're extremely excited to have you both
here.
Thank you so much for inviting me. It's an honor to be here.
Alhamdulillah. So I think first and foremost, let's, let's hear
from you both. Let's, let's talk. You know, both of you are doing
amazing work. Mashallah, Sister medium has an amazing app and and
sister Sammy has some amazing courses that she's doing. I love
for you all to kind of just talk a little bit about the work that you
all are all doing as mothers, as Muslim Muslims, and just kind of
share a little bit maybe sister medium can go first, and then
we'll pass out sister Samia before we dive into the program, it's
such an honor to be with Mohsen specifically, and of course, with
hafida Samia, being able to join in with such a special community
who exemplifies so much of what the Prophet sallallahu, alayhi wa
salam taught us and how He built his community, Salalah. Salam is
such an honor for our ummah. Alhamdulillah this Ramadan, our
team launched Aria, which is the woman Quran reciters app. And it's
been such a gift and an honor to be connected with so many women
around the world and so many girls who've talked about the impact of
hearing women and seeing women reciters. But one of the aspects
of the app that was very critical for us as a team was to ensure
that some of the reciters, not some, I mean, any reciters that we
could access, who were women with disabilities, were part of the
app. And that was just such an important part of our search, is
such an important part of the way that we built the app, and
Alhamdulillah, we're very, very fortunate, very, very grateful and
blessed that ham did that two of the reciters on the app have Down
syndrome. One is a hafida of Quran, masha Allah, and the first
what a first person recorded who has Down syndrome to memorize the
whole Quran. Another is a child, masha Allah, who has Down
syndrome. And mashaAllah, student of the Quran. She's the only child
that we include in the app. Um, and it's such an honor to have
her, and such an honor to to be able to help other families with
children with Down syndrome see that they, Inshallah, have such an
important space in the Quran, of course, and in every part of the
community. Um, hamdullah, a number of the clarias are blind from
different parts of the world. Mashallah, from Tanzania and from
Palestine from Egypt. And it's just been, you know, comments that
I've received about seeing,
comments I've received from typically abled women who have
accessed the app have been things like, Oh, it's so nice that you've
included women with disability. Oh, it's so inspiring and and I
appreciate where their sentiment is coming from, but I really would
like to reframe the way that we talk about individuals with
disabilities in our community, because it's not like inspiring.
It is inspiring. Of course, it's not nice. I mean, it's nice that
anyone's included anywhere, but it's critical, children and women
and men and anyone with disabilities are critical for our
community. Our community is not community without you, and if we
do not look at our community space and think about who is missing
from the leadership from the those who are at.
Actively giving lectures from those who have privilege, from
those who are in spaces that create policy, if we're not
actively looking at those spaces and thinking,
who, how are the policies reflected by the people who are
creating them? Who is missing from thinking about the way that
policies need to be created because they are not necessarily
able to always think about
a reality that may not reflect their reality. Then we are so far
away from the community of the Prophet sallallahu ALA, because
the community of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam
actively include, it's not included. It was it. It was built
by and with and through individuals with disabilities,
through companions, rodi Aloha, with disabilities. And so for us,
we feel very honored that these women and the family of Iman and
Iman, the younger girl that we have on the app, are a part of the
app that they feel like they want to be a part of it. We're so
honored to have their voices, and it's such a gift to be able to
learn Quran from them. And I just feel like all of you who are
caregivers or who may be an individual with a disability or
somehow personally part of a family of someone with a
disability, I just want you to know how deeply needed you are in
the community. I hope that you feel that every community that
you're in and that also as an typically abled individual, I just
want to share with you that
I've noticed a huge lack
in our in our in the typically abled conversation on how Muslims
with disabilities
should shape the community, and I'm so grateful for the work that
you are all doing to help inshallah change that for the
future generation. Inshallah,
just like for sharing, and may Allah bless you efforts and your
team's efforts, I think it's an It's so incredible to offer that
representation and and to really just set a foundation for future
generations to see that empowering atmosphere that you all are
building. So may Allah, subhana wa taala, bless you all. Sister
Samia, go ahead. I we'd love to hear a little bit about your
courses and and, you know, mashaAllah, you're inspiring work
that you're doing
reward you all. And I feel like what Saddam Mariam said about I
think normalizing this is really, really important, like the
families who have special needs children or or children with
different abilities, I think it's important that they're a part of
our communities too. It's not like like you said, like, we're not
doing them a favor by including them. You know, it's not like that
at all. Like they are. You said, like. You said, like, they're like
the pillar, they're the foundation. I think that's very
important, subhanAllah, the way you worded it. And you know, I'll
tell you just a little about myself, in terms of being a
caregiver myself. So Hamlet, my daughter Mariam. Her name is
Maryam, also. My daughter Maryam was born with child syndrome,
which was very rare syndrome, and Subhanallah, I feel like I've
evolved in my mentality. You know, sometimes, like, we don't know
what we should know until, like, Allah puts us in a situation. And
I think that's what happened to me, like, so after she was born, I
I've realized the mindset I had that I didn't think I had. And I
like, I sometimes I continue to surprise myself, that while
Subhanallah, like we grew up in such a almost like a closed minded
way from this world that exists, and for organizations like that,
like mahsin that that show us that these people are a big part of our
communities, and they're actually a Rahma for, you know, For our
communities. And after she was born, and
I was one time taking her to a masjid, to a talk, and it was my
first time taking her to a talk. So I told one of the organizers,
you know, is it okay? Mariam is going to be there, you know, with
her trick, she has a trach, so, you know, she might make noise, I
might have to suction her. And I was a little like, almost like,
scared, like, this is, you know, new for me. And then the organizer
looked at me, and she saw how, like, almost, like, hesitant I
was, and she was like, Mariam is going to be at the front, she's
going to be at the front, in front of the speaker, and she's the
barakah, like, she's the Rahma of this whole talk. Like, don't even,
like, don't try to hide her, you know. And subhanAllah, I feel like
people like that, like, just really, really, they're such a
Rahma for our communities, because they show us that, you know,
these, these, these children that are essentially gifts from Allah,
right? Should be at the forefront, right? These people that Allah
chose, and that's why I named her Maryam, because just like Allah
chose Mariam to Mariam, I Allah chose her to have this syndrome,
and that was the inspiration behind her name, but Subhanallah,
I think, you know, work like Morrison just is really, really
important. And I feel like, you know, caregivers like myself feel
feel how important it is, because it just makes us feel just
included, and it makes us feel seen, and it makes us feel heard.
So, you know, every time I.
I see Martin, you know, doing things their work in different
areas of Chicago and Texas and other areas just really, really
inspiring to see, because it speaks to me on a personal level,
right? Like, I'm like, that, that, that mom is me, you know, like
that mom is me, that you're helping, you know, I saw you were
doing, Martin was doing, instead of babysitting, right? Like, for
kids with special needs. And I was like, That's amazing, because, you
know, a lot of these things,
a lot of caregivers, you know, don't get to do anymore, right? So
their mud will look different. So just beautiful, just to see the
work, Alhamdulillah
that you're doing. May Allah bless you and your family. And I, I
think one thing transition to the topic, you know, one thing that
comes to mind, both of you kind of touched on this idea of inclusion.
And I can't help to reflect on the story of Hajj, where, you know,
she's in the middle of nowhere, and she dehydrates herself for the
well being of her child, trying to find water, trying to find some
sustenance. And you know, Ibrahim alaihi salam makes that dry. You
know, surround them with with with individuals whose hearts will be
inclined towards them. And you know, being a mother, at that
point, a single mother dehydrating herself for the well being of her
child, having ZEM ZEM water come what we see in Mecca today is
because of a mother that that strived for the well being of her
child. And think of all the ibadah, all the worship that came
from that, you know, yeah, Ibrahim makes the DUA, but the effort from
that mother, hajid, in that in the desert, subhanAllah, and
everything that came after that is just amazing. And I think both of
you as mothers, I'd love to hear kind of what has your Ramadan
nights have been? How do you all, both, you know, define ay bad? How
do you find worship as a caregiver, as a mother, as you
know, someone that's being in the last night? What does that look
like for both of you?
I answered the last question first. So a status, Samia. Happy
to Samia. Should start this one.
So it's, you know, evolved, you know. And I think, you know,
growing up, many of you might resonate with this, like, what do
you think of in Ramadan? Or you think of, you know, late nights at
the masjid, you know, 10 a week, eating with people, with families,
and just staying out. And, you know, home is the least place you
see in Ramadan. That's how my life was growing up, right? It was
always just out, you know, at the masjid, etcetera, but especially
as not just a mother, but as a special needs Mother, you know, of
Mariam, it's really, really shifted completely to the point
where I might go to the masjid once in the entire month, you
know, if I'm lucky, right? If, if somebody can come and, you know,
especially as a single mother myself, right? So if somebody can
watch her, if I can get someone to watch her, and then be with her,
who's trained to know how to suction her and all that. So I
feel like halal. Throughout the years, I've realized that, you
know, worship is not limited to a single physical activity, right to
the norm that we grew up with. And it hit me last year, I remember I
was pulling her syringes because she has a nightly medication, and
I was pulling the medication, and it was like, at 3am and all my
friends, you know, most of them, were at pm, at the day, it was
like the 27th night, but I'm alone, and I'm like, you know,
like I could be at the masjid, but here I am pulling syringes. And
then something came to me, and it was like, this is your Pm like
this. This is your pm right now, like other people are at the
masjid, but this is how Allah has gifted you in in your capacity
right now to worship him, right? It's going to look different. And
just because it looks different doesn't mean that that the reward
is less, right? Doesn't mean that, you know, Allah has taken
something away from you. No, Allah has given you something else that
looks differently. So I think our mindset and our frame work, you
know, around it is really, really going to make a difference. And
that's what I, you know, try to tell others around me who you know
a lot of times, you know, like my friend just had a baby now, so
her, her mud on this month looks different, like she literally has,
you know, a baby who's, who's a few weeks old. Others are going
through different situations always, you know, also, so, you
know, we have to realize that our ramadans were are not going to
look the same, and that is okay, right? Like there's a rahma, you
know, there's a mercy in the fact that we can see different types of
ramadans, you know, through our lives and and the point is that we
want to get closer to Allah. So whatever way you're doing that. If
that means you're staying at home, you're pulling syringes. If that
means you're staying at home, you're breastfeeding. Does that
mean, you know, you're staying at home, you're cooking? Whatever it
means that that is the place Allah put you in. You know, do I in that
like perfect that, to the best of your capability, take it to him
and Inshallah, the reward is there.
Hakila, Samia, you said something at the very end, which was
wherever Allah has put you in, and that there's a statement of Ibn
Alta in love, who's a scholar of our Uma, who talks about how you
wanting to be able to just push aside your responsibilities that
Allah has given you. Allah has given you these particular.
Responsibilities, and you want to push them aside so that you can do
extra worship, so that you can go to the masjid and pray, said away.
And you know, we saw of Quran and do all of this extra it's actually
from your own desires. An actual worship comes by taking care of
the responsibilities that Allah has put in your life, and that
phrase was what really helped me shift my understanding of worship.
Because especially when we look at our community growing up, I didn't
hear that, you know, it's worship to cook or it's worship to take
care of children, it's worship, you know, I know we do hear these
things in passing, but when I hear Ramadan lectures. It's how much
Quran are you going to read this month? How I saw so many posts
about the last 10 nights in these last 10 nights, stay awake all
night in these last 10 nights, don't just pray eight, pray all
the way to 20, and then stay up to Fajr. And I'm like the people
writing these posts do not have children, or at least they're not
full time taking care of their children. I just SubhanAllah.
It's, it's, it's what becomes so popular in how we worship, and so
many of us who cannot do those acts because of the
responsibilities of our life, we just think about how we are not
doing the actual worship. We're not doing full worship. Our
worship isn't good enough. Why? Because the responsibilities of
our life take us away from all the extra that we want to be doing.
And it is so so sweet to be able to stand in Salah in tadawiya with
an imam who has a beautiful recitation in the community of
people that you feel safe around and feel the verses and even cry.
It is so sweet.
It's not this type of sweetness as changing a diaper. It's not the
same sweetness as waking up in the middle of the night to take care
of a sick child, and I mean, like physically sick, like they have a
cold, of course, you happy the semi are talking about the reality
of a mother with a child with special needs, and that's going to
look so different regularly, not just for one or two nights of the
month. Like I think part of the reason why we internalize that
we're not good enough in Ramadan if we haven't done all of this,
you know, extra Salah and extra pm and, oh, when we pray, our focus
is fully on our worship. I mean, it's very hard to fully focus on
worship when you have a child climbing your back and another one
going under your prayer hijab and trying to make it into a test.
It's very hard to focus on Salah when that's happening. But
realizing that Allah tells us in a hadith QUT, that the one who
relieves a distress of a believer in this life, Allah, will relieve
their distress, though Allah tells us about in Hadith, what we make
happy, Allah will remove that help. The one who said, who we
make happy, Allah will help us to become happy. The one who we
remove the distress from them, Allah will remove our distress.
This is not just for some random person we meet on the street. This
is for our own children and our own families, especially for
mothers and fathers of children with special needs. So being able
to reframe Ramadan for us into realizing that all of this is
worship,
I think, goes back to another wisdom of Ibn Al Taw Allah, who
says that your hope in your own deeds greater than Allah's Mercy
is shown when you stop doing those deeds. And you think Allah is not
going to have mercy on me, you stop doing the Quran, you stop
doing the salah because you're having to do other things. And of
course, you do the obligation, of course, but I'm talking about, you
know, hours and hours and hours of other type of worship. And you
think, oh, Allah is not pleased with me. He's not pleased with my
Ramadan. I couldn't do those things. You are having more hope
in your own deeds and in Allah's mercy. And we know that the
Prophet, sallAllahu, alayhi wa salam said in the yet that deeds
are by intention. So how could you as a caregiver, and I mean the
third person, you not Assad, but how can you know the third person?
You take a step back and look at your whole day, and look at how
you are barely functioning because you're so exhausted taking care of
other people. How can you not think that Allah Shakur, the most
appreciative, is not going to appreciate that work every single
second of that is worship, and maybe the worship of someone who's
making it masjid for hours and hours and hours at a time, and
just making dua and just asking for Allah's mercy, and just so
happily. You know, spending that time there, Inshallah, they're
greatly rewarded. But how can you not see that your one as you're
quickly trying to between your children, break your fast and you
don't even have a second to just rest. How can you not know that
Allah will not answer you. Maybe you don't even have the ability to
express how you're feeling because of all you have going on, but he's
going to answer you as if you made that because the only reason
you're not is because you're just so responsible for so much else.
And he sees that and he appreciates it, because he is a
Muslim.
Sub
Subhanallah, both of you, mashallah, just dropping gems. And
I think, what's, you know, my my kids the other day were climbing
on my back, right? And like, I'm trying to be in hoshu like this.
Is like this, I'm in my I'm in worship, right? And when you see
that, I couldn't help but think of how the Prophet Muhammad SAW
reacted in that situation when he has his grandkids climbing on his
back. He didn't fling him off. He didn't say, this is prayer, this
is Salah. He simply just embraced it and and that's mercy. And you
know, you know, the other day, my my son, didn't want to sleep first
day of the last 10 nights, he didn't want to sleep 1130 I'm
like, bro, you gotta sleep. And my heart is wanting to read the Quran
and where my intention was lying. And my, you know, sometimes the
heart is going to be on the prayer rug. The heart is going to be in,
you know, wanting to be in sajd, or wanting to read the Quran. And
I remember just thinking myself, the Hadith where isallah says that
whoever shows mercy to those on this earth, that Allah, the Most
Merciful, will show mercy to you. And I remember just wanting to
just be like, just go to bed. I want to read Quran and that, like,
like, Sister Samuel said, like, that's your ibadah, that's your
hebada taking care of children. And you know that that is that
form of haibada. And you know the very the first khutbah that I gave
the Salama dawn, I highlighted how, as moms that have, like my
wife, for example, for five, six years, has not been able to pray.
Tara, we have the masjid. And I told dads, I'm like, You guys want
to. You guys want ay Bada, have be the vehicle, be the facilitator,
to tell your, you know, your your spouse, I'll cook today. Go take a
nap. Go read Quran. You know, I will, you know, watch the kids
while you go pray. Title, we be that facilitator, you know. And I
think transitioning our minds to think of aribada in different
dimensions are very powerful to endure and very powerful to just
to have in our hearts that we can find Ariba through different
avenues. It is just, it doesn't just have to be the Quran, the DUA
and all of this. That's, of course, something that that, like
Samia said, like, we're all, you know, growing up to that. But as
he SallAllahu sallam said, you know, take care of your youth
before your old age. You know that your free time before you're
occupied, when you're occupied, you do have to, you know, maneuver
your mindset to different forms of ibadah, I'm curious what you know,
Sister Samia, what is your last 10 nights have been? You know? How
have you balanced Ariba and caregiving?
SubhanAllah? I feel like
it's again. It's a mindset shift for me. Like, if my mindset is
clear, then my actions are more fluid because then I stressed out,
you know, mentally about, like, why this? Why that, you know, like
you were saying, and I think, like, for me, it's, I try to,
like, refocus and say, okay, zoom out. Like the goal is to, you
know, attain Allah And Allah's forgiveness, right? So, if that's
my goal, the physical that's going to take me there is more
irrelevant, right? Because, you know, it's not as important than
the goal, right? The goal is to attain Allah. So then wherever
Allah has put me in, like I said from the beginning, right, if I'm
able to take that and excel in that, then Allah knows me better
than anybody, right? So Allah will give me the best thing that I need
to attain his right. So if that means, and I had a similar
situation, like, use Hama on on the night of the 23rd
instead of mud my daughter, it was like, 1am and Maryam didn't want
to sleep. Like, she was like, I'm not going to sleep. And actually,
the the funny thing is, I actually found out why she wasn't sleeping,
because Michelle, she communicates for us on on the through a board.
She can't talk, but she spells for us, like her thoughts. So I asked
her, What did you want? And she spelled that she wanted the Eid
gift. So I had asked her earlier, like, just an hour. Maybe it
wasn't a good idea on my part, but that's her. What do you want for
aid? And she said, a clock. She's obsessed with clocks. She has,
like, literally, 50 clocks, I kid you not. She just loves watching
the time, putting timers on anyway. So she wanted another
clock. So I told her, okay, and I just, you know, put it in on my
car. Okay? And she wants this clock. And she was crying and
thinking she was gonna get it, like, right now.
So then she wasn't sleeping, and she was just, like, really upset.
So then when she finally typed it out, I said, Oh, that's coming
Inshallah, Monday. Like, and I was like, counting the days for her. I
was like, today's this day. We're gonna count a few days until
Monday. So yeah, I have moments like that where I'm realizing, you
know, that could have been me, you know, really Quran, like you said,
or praying or making dua, being on my prayer rug, but instead, I was
here trying to calm her down why she's not getting her gift today.
So for me, it's been moments like that. Alhamdulillah, there's
moments where it could be like for me, personally, it's like those.
Small pockets, like a small window that you appreciate, like alone
time. And I think sometimes, because, you know, caregivers,
like, we don't have a lot of alone time, a lot of the time, it's just
like you're going from thing to thing. You don't you even realize
how many things you're doing, because you're so stretched out.
So the moment you do get alone time, I feel like I appreciate it
so much more than I would have before. So that moment becomes so
meaningful that I'm, like, pouring it to Allah more than I would have
ever had if I had, like, 10 hours, you know. So in that moment,
sometimes I'm just like crying, and I'm like, ya, Allah, like, you
know, me. And I feel like, because of the all these i Beautiful dua
of dua al hand, like the dua of the situation we have in the
Quran, like Prophet Noah said, Allah, I'm overwhelmed. Like, take
over, right? I need you or or prophet Musa, where he says, I'm
just in dire need of any good you give me. Like all these I feel
like prophets stories that we have, like when they ask Allah
through their situation. I remember them in those moments
specifically because I'm like, I don't even know what to ask. Like,
this day has been crazy, so I'm just gonna, like, pour my feeling
to it. Yeah, Allah, you you know my feeling right now. You know how
exhausted I am, and you see that. And to me, subhanAllah, I feel
like that is what, like, Prophets teach us, like, through their duas
to Allah. Subhana, they just spoke of their situation to Allah. And
that is my advice to so many sisters who reach out to me, who
tell me that they're so overwhelmed and like that
overwhelming feeling, tell it to Allah like, because the Rahma in
that we have a dua of a prophet that all he said was, I'm
overwhelmed. Like that is a DUA. Like, how many times do you say to
someone, you know, I'm overwhelmed today, you know, take that to a
dua to Allah. You might, you don't even have to be sued. You don't
even have to be praying for sisters around their periods,
right? You just say, Yeah, Allah, I'm exhausted. And you know that
Allah sees that. That is a DUA, you know. And Allah sees that. So
that is, you know, my advice to myself and to everyone who doesn't
necessarily have the time to do, you know, all the other Ibadah
that many people do do,
sir, madam. Can you talk a little bit about, you know,
I couldn't help thinking about the verse of the Quran where Allah
says, when you are grateful, you'll you get more. And you can
only imagine, you know, how, how, you know, I remember, like Samia
was mentioning how that one time she's able to go to the masjid,
there's a sweetness of reunion for the past two years, for anyone
that goes to the masjid for the very first time after covid, where
they put their forehead on the ground. Can you talk a little bit
about, you know, those moments of appreciation, where you finally
want something and you get it. How do we react as as worshippers, you
know, coming from a from that lens of gratitude, Pamela, this is the
first Rama dawn that I went for, said away in the masjid in maybe
seven years. And I remember when I walked in,
I was so overwhelmed with how grateful I was to be there, yes,
but also I was so overwhelmed by all the people that I knew I
wouldn't be seeing because they've already passed away. And I I, you
know, I look at the carpet, and I think about all the Roma Daltons
that I spent with, these, you know older aunties who would pray for
hours and hours and hours, and
they passed away recently, or they passed away in some point in the
past few years, or they're not there because they have a loved
one who has passed away, who used to take them like A spouse, and
they're in an elder age.
And I
just think about the carpet of the masjid and how the carpet of the
masjid has seen so many tears, and how the the chairs of the masjid
have had so many women
sit on them and prey on them. And I
just kept thinking about the structure of the masjid itself. I
am someone who I was so blessed to grow up in the masjid,
but there are a lot of things that I struggle with when it comes to
Masjid spaces, because I'm hurt in a lot of ways. And for me, knowing
what a lot of women and a lot of individuals from more vulnerable
communities, in our in our in our community, our greater community.
You know, the conversations that we have about access and inclusion
sometimes that hurt really causes us to feel upset, rightly so,
until the point that we don't even feel comfortable praying in the
message we just don't want to go. We're tired of hearing one
chutzpah after another about something that has absolutely
nothing to do with us or and that's at best, at worst, it's
offensive and it's hurtful, and sometimes the this the physical
space doesn't allow us to have access, as you know, as a.
As a mother without,
as a mother with children, typically, it typically able
children the mother, like having a Samia with a child with a
disability. I mean, we all have different points of realizing that
our massage could do so much more to help mothers and fathers feel
like the mustard space is also for us to to thrive in.
But even with all of that, and with, you know, there's so much
more, I mean, so so much pain that's, you know, whether it's
spiritual abuse or racism or sexism or whatever it is that our
massages struggle with, there is still so much good in so many
massage it, and there's so much intention, intentionality brought
by people who did it in the best way they could, who founded it in
the best way they could. That doesn't excuse what we need to
fix, but the fact that they tried, and the fact that it became this
place where so many people kept coming. For me, I was really
overwhelmed by all those emotions, because it was personal. It was, I
can't believe like that was the spot that I used to pray, and that
was the spot that, you know, I stood with this auntie. That was
the spot where, you know, I used to reset Quran. And it was just
very emotional in that sense, because it had been so long since
I had the honor of going into the masjid for today.
That's, that's in one sense, but the other sense of, you know, at
the end of the day, I've, I haven't seen so many of my
community members who have, who have passed on and and kind of who
would have been here had Allah will for them to continue their
life. And so when we're thinking about an ayah like, if you are
grateful, I will surely increase you
in one aspect, it's, how can I show my gratitude? Like Ali
uraldillahu anhu, he was given the option, and he was asked if you
were to drink cold water on a hot day or warm water on a hot which
one would you choose? Like the zohad option of warm water on a
hot day or the like easier option of like the cold water on a hot
day. And he chose the cold water. He chose the the very cold water
really long. Why? Because he said, it will make my heart more
grateful. I will be more grateful from the depths of my heart for
the cold water on a hot day,
realizing that there are blessings in our lives that we can be
grateful for. Of course, you know, sitting and writing blessings
every day, writing three blessings a day. It actually, researchers
have found that it psychologically will impact the way that you look
at the world. It changes your perception. So yes, like spending
time every single day to just think of reasons why I should be
grateful, can help me be more grateful, but also recognizing
that if I have reason to be upset and if I have reason to be hurt, I
still need a place to heal.
And it may not be in a particular Masjid like maybe something has
happened and I can't enter it, but if that hasn't happened and I can,
or if I can find a different one, finding healing in the house of
Allah is just. So
it's so necessary to realize this is the house of Allah. It's not
the house of an individual or the board or whoever else that anyone
has a struggle with. It's the house of Allah, and the house of
Allah is for me, and House of Allah for my children, and the
house of Allah is for those who are coming broken. And it's not
just for the righteous. It's not just for the people who pray and
fast and who just do, you know, all they do is think about Allah.
It's for the person who is struggling and they want Allah but
they don't know how to connect with him. And when we have that
realization going into a masjid space, it I think, for for anyone
who hasn't been there for a very long time for reasons that they
struggle with, it allows them to bring their heart back to a space
of gratitude, because then I can realize that Allah has honored me
with being here in his house, and I could be anywhere else he could
have chosen for me to spend the entire night in the Mall. And I'm
not saying anything wrong for someone and that, I mean, they
could have million intentions for why they're doing that, but he's
chosen for me to be in the masjid for a reason, and and he sees
something inside of my heart that maybe I don't even see. And So
alhamdulillah for the blessing and the honor of being in this space,
being able to worship him and being with being being with people
who are, who are here to worship him together, and making to offer
the people who've already passed away. Subhan Allah, I just can't
stop thinking of the people who have already passed away.
SubhanAllah. May Allah have so much mercy on all of them and
enter them into the paradise and accept all of their worship and
and allow the the masjid itself, to be a witness for them on the
Day of Judgment and allow, allow our homes and our our the message,
the place that we worship, to be that witness for us as well.
I mean, Sister Sammy want to jump off, off of anything of that, in
terms of gratitude or of anything that she sister madam had said,
no, no, *. I just said.
Just one point, I feel like, first of all, I love how you mentioned,
like, made like the carpet witness for you. And I think those moments
of Pan Allah, like,
I think it's nice to just pause and realize that, yeah, like,
like, you said, like, and if you take it even further, if you're
not able to go to the masjid, like, the places you're in right
here in your home, those will witness for you too, right? Like,
even your heart want, like, like brother Vida said, like, wanting
to do something that you cannot be, that you cannot do, that will
witness for you too. You know, a lot of other rewards our
intentions and ways beyond us, really, subhanAllah
and and speaking of that, I just want to share this story like
that, that this is one of my favorite stories in the Quran of a
man who, we don't even know his name, subhanAllah, but it's in
Surat, and he said he's mentioned briefly, just one verse of Han
Allah. But this man, when Allah, sent down the verses, to migrate,
you know, to escape the persecution of her Makkah, to
Medina and to join Prophet Muhammad, saw this migration, and
the reward for migration and to, you know, finally, practice your
religion freely. So this man was old, and he lived in Mecca and the
ayat in Surat, and he sat said, you know, there's an exception for
you. If you're old, if you're not physically able, you don't have to
migrate. But this older man was insistent that he wanted to
migrate, you know, with the Prophet Muhammad, with the
believers, and his whole family was, like, against it, like, don't
migrate. Like, don't do this. Not a good idea. You know, you know
you're physically, not well, your health, etcetera. But this man
just really wanted the reward. He really wanted to go with her last
to migrate, to be a part of this, you know, big change, you know, of
finally being able to practice your religion freely, without the
persecution of the people in Mecca. So this man convinces his
family, and he goes to Medina. On the way to Medina, he passes away.
He passed away on the way to Medina, and it says that, you
know. It said that the people around him almost pitied him. Like
to say that, you know, oh, you know, haram. Like, he didn't make
it all the way, you know. Like, oh, like, bachara, like, Oh, man.
Like, how did he not make it all the way there? Like, you know, if
only he had made it to Medina, he would have been rewarded. But then
Allah reveals a verse that says it is incumbent on Allah to reward
him. In verse 100 I believe that it is a must on Allah to reward
him. And to me, it's like, do we not know who Allah is? Right? Do
we think that we have to reach the destination right for Allah to
reward us? And here Allah, you know, Allah could have told
Prophet Muhammad, saw them, hey, tell them that the reward is
there. But instead, we have a verse that we recite all the time,
right? It's every single Ramadan when in Tahoe, this verse is going
to be recited out loud to tell us that it's not about reaching the
destination, seeing the outcome you want. It's about your
intention, right? The reward is there? The fact that Allah says it
is incumbent. It is a must. Allah made it all must on himself to
reward him fully every time I get there. Subhanallah, like never
minimize the effort you do for Allah. You know, there's no such
thing as an effort that is too little to be seen by Allah. So we
have to, number one, know that. And then, in terms of the ayah
that you mentioned that if you're grateful, you know, Allah will
increase you. I remember as a kid, I used to always think that that
was like, like, literal, right? Like, if you're grateful for this
one thing, Allah didn't give you 10 things right away, you know.
But I feel like, as as I grow up, I realized that, you know, it's
not literal in a sense, but it's more feeling right, that if you're
grateful for this one thing you have, Allah will help you see more
of what you already have, right? You'll be able to actually, like,
it's meta, you know, like, enjoy the blessings that you were not
seeing before, simply because you chose to see through a lens of
gratitude today, right? So when we choose to see with a lens of
gratitude, you know, and Allah enables us to do that, we're going
to see more of what we already have that we were blinded my by,
perhaps because we were just, you know, looking at other things,
right, or or not focusing on what we have. So I feel like gratitude
is so fulfilling at the end of the day, and that is what, you know,
the ayah pulls us to just that fulfillment you feel through being
grateful for what you have, Alhamdulillah,
for sharing. I have one question before we like, kind of jump back
in because you mentioned, like, you know, you know people around
this person that passed away having pity. And a question that
came in was family members and friends tell us that it's a
punishment from Allah to have special needs children, and we are
getting purified in the zunya. Is that true? Now I know this answer,
but I want to hear from from both.
How do you respond to maybe
that situation and that question? Yeah.
I'll let you answer.
I appreciate that both of you are like, ah, like, when you heard
this, when you heard this question, that is a disgusting
statement that is so ridiculous,
and for anyone to say this to someone else, as if you are giving
somebody you know,
comfort. Oh, you know, you poor thing, your child has special
needs. Oh, at least in the Hereafter, you're going to go to
Paradise lahaula, Where has our Ummah come to the the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam appointed when he left Medina for
a campaign, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam appointed
Abdullah, Abdullah ibn umaq RadiAllahu Abu to lead the city,
to lead the salah. Abdullah ibn umaktum Who as a as a man who is
blind and not
excused from being a part of the Army, the way he passed away was
because he wanted to be the flag bearer for Muslims holding the
flag rodi Allahu anhu, and he was martyred. Rodi Aloha Anhu. Is this
community the Prophet salallahu alays, built where so many men and
women were individuals with disabilities, and they sometimes
had leadership positions, and sometimes they didn't. Sometimes
they wanted to be in leadership. And sometimes, like one of the
companions, he asked the Prophet sallallahu, Islam, to come to his
home and make the Adam there. So the Prophet sallallahu, sallam,
did so, so that this man writes bad radila, could make the masjid
his own, his home, his own masjid, because it was too difficult for
him to come to the masjid itself. We have individuals in our
community who want to actively be a part of the masjid and want to
stay home, and the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa salam, because
of their reality, the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa salam
facilitated for both. He never said, Oh, this is a punishment.
And you don't even need to pray. Oh, this is a punishment so that
in the hereafter you're going to go to paradise that is so
ridiculously disgusting. May Allah forgive all of these people, guide
them and guide us all. This is an honor and a gift. All children are
an honor and a gift and a test. All children, typically abled
children and children with special needs. It is a gift and a blessing
and a test to be a parent. And
the only way I can see this
shifting in terms of someone who has a typically able child, excuse
me, a child with a disability, is that Inshallah, you have more and
more and more of the blessings of Allah and more and more of the
presence of the angel with whom brings barakah and mercy and
protection. If somebody says something like, Oh, this is
because of a, you know, a mistake that you made, or a sin that you
committed, what does that say about the state of this person's
heart, that this is the way that they're viewing a gift from Allah,
that this is the way that they're viewing a child that Allah
created. And Allah, in more than one place in the Quran, says that
noone takes the burden, no, like, if someone commits a sin,
basically, I'm terrible. It's not a translation. If someone commits
a sin, the consequence of that sin is not going to be on someone
else. So if you're saying, Oh, you committed a sin, or you lived a
life of sin, or whatever, even if you didn't, you're, you're going
to go to a higher rank in paradise. But because you're not
pure enough, Allah gave someone else the the consequence of that,
and therefore you have to, you know, go through the suffering.
Why do you have to phrase it as suffering? Why do you even need to
look at it as suffering? It is, it is an honor for our community that
we have Muslims with special needs, it is a gift to our
community, and for someone to see it as other than a gift is a
problem that they have, but it's also a communal problem in the way
that we phrase and have the paradigm of looking at Muslims
with special needs. Part of the reason why I believe people make
these statements is because we have a very uneducated community.
We are very educated in engineering, and some of our in
some of the immigrant founded massage it that are in the
suburbs, engineering doctors in these particular segments of the
community. But it comes to mental health, or when it comes to
physical disabilities, and the way that we look at that spiritually,
when we connect that with spirituality, we are very, very
ignorant of the history of Islamic science and Islamic legacy when it
comes to Muslims with special needs. And if anything, I think
the way that we need to start address and not start addressing
it continue. I mean, Mufson, you're already doing this work,
but the fact that mukhtin needs to exist is a problem. I feel like
it's one thing for mush to be like, we're here to support
families, and we're here to like, you know, you know every, every
everyone needs a support system. And like, every everyone, it
doesn't matter what your background is, but the fact that
you even need to advocate is a problem there should we just
shouldn't need it. It should already exist.
Act, and we need to get to a place where from the massage head,
that's already part of the policy. It's not a question. It's already
part of the policy. It's already part of the way that we see
massage and reflecting, and not just massaging conferences
everywhere. And I know this isn't Muslim specific. I know this is a
greater conversation in society, and I know that different
countries have very different points of access, but the point is
that when we start framing our conversations and change the
policies and the way that we look at Muslims with disabilities, it's
going to shift the way that people talk about it too, change the
policy, and it will impact the way that people talk about it
internally. And of course, it's going to impact the way that a
caregiver feels or a child feels about him or herself as a person
within with a disability. It's just, you know, I I've heard from
an adult now who shared she's actually with smile Canada. Smile
Canada is another you know organization, which I'm sure often
knows about, that specifically works with families with
disabilities. And she's someone with a disability, and she said
that her whole life, she grew up hearing, Oh, you don't really need
to pray, or you don't write myself Quran, because your promise
paradise anyway. And the idea that your promised paradise because you
have, you know, a disability is beautiful, Okay, wonderful. I have
promised paradise Inshallah, but that you don't need to experience
the you don't need to experience the faith, you don't need to
experience worship, you don't need to work and feel the community
space. And also, that's not true. Disabilities are different. Maybe
someone with a cognitive disability experience particular
types of cognitive disabilities have some a very different reality
of the hereafter. But there's so many different types of
disabilities, and to just have this type of like blanket
statement without understanding the impact on a child who grows up
to be an adult and who feels like she doesn't belong because she has
a disability and therefore she doesn't even need to read the
Quran, that is just so devastating. It's devastating for
that individual. It's devastating for their family, and it's
devastating for our community, because our community is not a
community without individuals with disabilities, for someone to make
a statement like that, May Allah guide them, and may Allah forgive
our whole Oman help.
And thank you, Marcin, for the work that you do that shouldn't
need to be needed, but it's so needed, and I'm so grateful that
hamdullah, that you, Inshallah, for the next generation, you're
helping shift the way that we have these conversations.
Definitely. Yeah, no. Jazakall for sharing. And you know, this is
actually the like that, that wording of you're being punished
for your actions. It's a wording of the Quraysh, 1400 years ago,
pre pre Islamic Arabia. They would say, don't associate yourself with
those with special needs, because you'll inherit the curse. And you
know, what do we when the Prophet Muhammad says that Allah touched
those that he loves? What do we tell Musa alaihi salam, who is
saved because of his speech impairment? Yes, he went to the
coal and that burned his, burned his, his lip. That's what saved
him. And even though he had that speech impairment, he didn't stop
him. It didn't stop him from asking Allah to make it easy for
it, to make it easy for him to go to fit Alan, you know, what do we
tell ya, who went blind in his eyes because of the sadness that
he that overtook him by losing his child? Yusuf, what do we tell
Ayub, who had an illness of his skin? You know, when shaytan
knocks on Ayub door after this, he says, you know, like, like, like,
you're Ayub. You're the one that prays to God, you know, look what
Allah did to you. And he's like, you know, I've been like this for,
for I've been healthy for 70 years, and for seven years I've
been unhealthy. Like, I'm too embarrassed to, you know, talk to
Allah and tell allah how, like, I'm too shy to ask him. I he wants
to be grateful. And you know, in that moment of of telling someone
that you're being punished for your sins, you're being punished
for your mistakes, it's a jahidiya statement. It really is. It really
is.
Sister Samia, you know,
Sister Maria mentioned this, and I'm curious to see, you know, what
is it? You know, being a part of like, community.
How do you envision, or, like, if you were on, like, a board, right
now, a board of a masjid, or you were in front of a masjid, what
would you want the masjid to know, the community to know? How, like,
how could they, you know, accommodate you during Ramadan
like, what would or accommodating you during outside of Ramadan?
Like, what would you want to tell someone as a caregiver of going to
a community? How would you want the community to welcome you as a
caregiver, welcome your family and just make your place of worship a
place of accommodation and acceptance.
I think, like at the gist of it is like to be seen, you know, to be
to be seen and to just be supported in first of all, I think
the words itself sometimes mean more than the actions. You know.
Know. So I, for instance, I had one friend the day before Ramadan,
may Allah reward her. She said, Samia, you know, I want you to
pick from now any day in Ramadan, and that day I'm going to come and
I'm going to stay with your kids, and I'm going to stay with Maryam,
and you go wherever you want, and Subhanallah just her saying that,
I felt like, wow, subhanAllah, like that meant so much to me and
and so I feel like just small things like this, really, really
matter like and even them asking, know, how can we be there for you,
right? I feel like just to be seen to, and to know that, hey, we want
to be there for you. Tell us how we can do that, for instance, or
even to create,
you know how they have like areas, at least in my masjid, they have
like, an area where it's like mommy and me, like during tui, so
the mom can bring the child. So to have, like, maybe an area where
there's where, if kids are more, like vulnerable, like medically
like Mariam, like, maybe to have another room for her, right, like,
who she can't be around a lot of people because of her medical
condition, right? To maybe have certain children who can't be
around, of around, a lot of other children, like, hey, we have this
designated room for Special Needs Moms too, right? Because we're
not, especially those who are medically fragile, let's say,
right, because of, you know, because of that reason in general.
So things like that, if you like, make a really, really big
difference. Or even, you know, support through meals. And this is
even for, you know, single moms in general, right? Like, you know,
supporting them through,
through meals or through, you know, if thoughts so small, things
like that. So it doesn't even have to be anything big, something
Morrison did for me personally, that I'll never forget. It was the
year my daughter, Mariam got the trach. Before she had the trach,
she was in the hospital for a few months, and at that time, because
I had lived in the hospital for so long, Ramadan was coming up, and I
hadn't even thought about, you know, my house Ramadan decorations
like I was literally living in the hospital. But I have an older
daughter. I have an older daughter who was living at home at the time
with family, and when I was coming back home one day from the
hospital, and I was thinking, in Ramadan is like two days, you
know, I want her to feel in Aldon, you know, I don't want her to feel
like, you know, it's not a mud on just because I'm living in the
hospital with medium and there's a lot of other things going on. So
SubhanaHu, as soon as I got home, I had A package from my son.
Sorry.
The package was i
with the creations.
It was a star,
a star lamp and a banner
that's a mobile cam or Mubarak, something like that.
So subhala. As soon as I got home,
I was so grateful
that I was seen, that Mariam was seen. So
Subhanallah, you know, a friend came and right away helped me put,
you know, decorate the house with them, subhanAllah, like
I will never, never forget that moment you know, never, ever
and
reminds me of the verse in Surat Ashura, Allah says, Allahu atifo
and be a bad that Allah
is so kind and subtle
to His people, and he will give whoever He wills and to me, that
was a giving right. That was me being seen by a lot through an
organization like so,
small things like that, you never know, can go a long way, or even,
you know, moments where you know people know that, hey, I was in
the hospital for a week for for you know, mariams. Mariam had a
virus, so I was in the hospital for a week, and somebody says,
hey, the day you get home, I'm cooking for you, you know, small
things like that, you know, and you're gonna forget the meal you
cooked just the next day. You know, like, this is something so
simple that people can do. But for people who are, you know,
struggling in the moment means so, so much. You know, Pamela. So for
any of you, you know, this is my advice to you, if you know anybody
who has a special needs child, just do something small for them,
you know, for the family. And you know you don't know, to you, it
might seem so, so minimal, but I promise you, first of all, the
reward for the law is going to be even bigger than you can ever
imagine. And then also, the person will never forget it. The family
will never forget it. Inshallah,
for sharing, may Allah subhanahu wa bless you. And we are rounding
the the hour. I want to respect both of your times, but we do have
one question, and I think I'll pass this to sister Mariam. And I
think this is primarily comes from.
An advocate, advocacy perspective, and I know mashallah, you have a
black belt, so we gotta,
we gotta see mashallah if, if you can advocate for this and or at
least kind of give us some advice about it,
is that as a as caregivers, we're constantly worried about the
future of our child when we pass away, what will happen to our
child with special needs? How do we calm ourselves down and
increase our tawakkul? And I think you know that this, this is a
really heavy question,
and and I'd love to hear kind of your thoughts on this, if you
don't mind, and it involves a lot of community advocacy and
awareness as well. Yes, we're so blessed,
Alhamdulillah, that we do have organizations now, like smile
Canada, like Dean services, there are organizations that are
dedicated specifically to supporting caregivers and
families. So alhamdulillah, for having that support system
starting to be built.
That's a blessing to be able to have that resource. But on an
individual level, the fear that as a caregiver you have for your
child, you know Will someone else know how to support them,
physically, emotionally, if you're no longer there. And first May
Allah protect you for your children and protect your children
for you. And second,
I'm sure you've already done this, so I apologize if this is
extremely basic, but having some sort of plan can be helpful for
tawakkul. Of course, we may have to, we make dua, we make dua, we
make dua, and we ask Allah, and we have trust that he's going to
facilitate everything, but we also make a plan as best we're able to.
So this is something that every parent should have, whether they
have a child with disabilities or a child who's typically abled
having, you know, a written will on what is going to happen with
your child, God forbid if something unexpected happens with
your life. So who is going to take your child? What is that going to
look like for for you, and especially a child with a
disability, being able to reach out to these organizations like
Marcin and seeing what kind of
resources are available that you can set in place to be able to
help transition if theory, I I know that a lot of times we talk
about to ako, like, you know I am making dua, but I feel like I'm
not, I'm not hopeful enough. I'm making dua, but I feel like I
don't have enough trust. And sometimes it's really because we
don't feel like there's anything we've been able to do to prepare.
There's a certain level of preparation that we know we can
do, and we can go ahead and work towards that, but beyond that,
once we've done our and we've done our preparation, it does go back
to I've done everything I can, and I'm going to trust that the one
who chose to gift me with this child is going to protect this
child, even when I can't protect them because he's Panama. Tala is
the protector, and he is the one who, out of his wisdom, because
he's al Hakim, has chosen to create this child as beautifully
as he has. So even if that child is an adult, as an adult child,
and you're not sure how they're going to have that support, then
knowing that you've, you've, you've you've done all the work
necessary, you've made all of the and the Allah is truly the one
who, like he put you in, put this child in your womb, that he is
going to protect your child in this life. And inshallah.
Inshallah, you know, it's kind of like you don't know.
You don't know Allah's mercy when you're not there. You don't know
how, like you are mercy, right? But you don't know how, when you
are removed, how Allah will bring mercy instead. And again, may
Allah protect you for your child and your children for you, so
that, Inshallah, there's never a situation where you experience
this. But if this,
this this mindset of knowing that if Allah gifted me this person,
then he is the one who is, you know, who he is, the best
protector. And I can know that, you know I can. I can rest knowing
that he is the best who's chosen the situation for me and for my
family. I also feel very unequipped to answer this question
in front of an actual special needs, mother and Watson, so
please forgive me for even talking. Inshallah, I hope you'd
be able to answer much better than I was able to.
No, no, you did great. And finally, that's a question I get a
lot, and that's a question that I think of a lot, not even just in
the in the long term, like, you know, in terms of, like, if I die,
you know, before her or or when am I going to die, and if it's
sudden, etc, right? Like, these are realities that we have to
think of. But even like, if you stop for a second, if you think of
even small vacations, like, I'll just give you an example. I had to
take a 24 hour trip to Maryland for my Quran graduation in
September, and I did what.
You said, like, so to plan, right? You plan who's going to watch her.
So I had a nurse who knew her care really well, confirmed she'll be
there for the 24 hours. You know, we had the house set up. We had
everything set up, so the planning was there, but still, my heart was
not at ease. And my friend who was coming with me to the Quran
graduation, I called her. I'm like, Hey, listen, I think I'm
going to back out. I'm having too much anxiety about this, like she
was. And then she she said something really powerful I won't
forget. She said, right now, right now, you're not home, right? I
said, No, I'm out. She said, Okay, right now, your your daughter's
not with you. She's with that same nurse. And I'm like, yeah, so
Okay, so are you controlling her heartbeat right now while talking
to me? And I'm like, no, she said, Allah is controlling her
heartbeat. Allah is with her, and you're a means. You are nothing
but a means, and you and you are nothing but a means like that.
That's what you are, and Allah is using you. And Allah can use
anybody to take care of her, because he's she belongs to Him,
not to you at the end of the day. And her words, of Hannah just
really pierced through my heart, you know. And, and I ended up
going with her other trip, and I just, I felt like this, this piece
of Hannah, lot like I felt like this piece like, sometimes we just
need to let go. Sometimes we're like, the mother of Musa. I feel
like, you know, we can resonate with her in this moment that you
know, ALLAH SubhanA is who took care of Musa is, you know, you
know Allah did, right? Yes, the mother did what she could in that
moment. The end of the day, it was Allah. It is always Allah. And
like the sheik said, plan, you know from now, like, if you have a
special needs child right now, and if you know, you want to entrust
this person, you know, this child, to somebody, then have this game
plan Inshallah, right? Have this game plan so important to write a
will, just like you said, not just for special needs children, but
all children, families in general, should have this game plan,
because that helps us fall powerless to Allah, subhana more,
because we're doing what we can within our capacity, right?
Mastadana like as much as we're capable. And that's it. And then
we release it to all release it to Allah, and that will help calm you
down at the end of the day. So it's like this balance of doing
what you can and then trusting Allah with it, and just like Allah
is trusting you with it now, like, like you said, like Allah gave you
this gift, and you're entrusted with it, and you might not be
interested with it forever, you know in this child's life, right?
So use that in what you can right now, and know that Allah, it's his
gift to begin with, right? And He will use you know whomever he
sees. You know, you know fit inshallah the best way.
May Allah bless you both. May Allah bless your families, grant
you all the highest level of Jannah. Build palaces for you and
your family in the highest level of Jannah. Jezek, your time, may
Allah bless every single person that's that, that's that's here
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Baraka, thank you, Marcin, for all you do and happy des for all you
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