Maryam Amir – Laughing and Trusting in God
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The speakers discuss the difficulty of dealing with difficult situations and the importance of remembering the Prophet Surah and Jesus's words to help people overcome their loneliness. They also touch on the struggles of Islamist parents and children and the importance of actions and intentions in relationships. The speakers stress the need for sincerity and action in every situation, and provide advice on how to handle difficult situations and trust in Allah. They also mention the importance of learning and practicing action to change and reestablish a positive situation.
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How many of you could say that right now in your life, there's
something happening in which you could consider difficult,
Mala mashallah,
okay, how many of you
everything's gravy,
Masha, Allah, may Allah, make everything great for you always. I
mean, okay, all of us go through difficult times, right? Even you
two who said things are gravy. Have you ever dealt with something
that's difficult? Ever, never. Okay. How about you brother? You
have okay? If this one brother ever experiences it, he'll
understand what I'm talking about. Otherwise, Inshallah, you'll be an
inspiration for everyone else. So Subhanallah, every single one of
us has to do with difficult times, right? Except for that one
brother. And
every single time we deal with difficult things, sometimes it can
be hard to understand why we're in that situation. At the same time,
there's times of ease for all of us too. There are times when times
in love, we're able to feel like nothing too crazy is happening.
We're able to just kind of relax. These are two states in a person's
life, right? There's a time of like, stagnation, or like,
Hamdulillah, nothing too crazy is happening. Then there's time of
like, what's going on. And the Prophet sallallahu, sallam, taught
us that when we remember ALLAH, Subhanahu wa, he's going to
remember us in times of difficulty. So a lot of times,
when we're going through the easy times, it's easy to forget that
this is the time to remember Allah. But if we work on
remembering Allah SWT in those easy times and the times when it's
gravy, rather, I'm sure you know all about this, then in sha Allah,
we're able to have Allah SWT remembers even more during the
time of difficulty for us. However, sometimes when you do it
with difficulty, isn't it hard to remember that. Like that, there's
like, wisdom behind it. Like, sometimes Is it, like, Why does
this always happen to me? Why do I have to deal with this? Why can't
I get married? Why am I getting F in my class, even though I haven't
gone to class like, all this semester? Why isn't my that my?
Why are my parents constantly my back, right? Like, why can't I get
a job? All these difficulties sometimes we deal with over and
over and over when we're dealing with these difficulties, sometimes
it's hard to see that there's wisdom behind it, and that's why
Allah, out of his incredible knowledge, blessed us with the
Quran and bless us with stories in the Quran to help us relate
Subhanallah something incredible is in surah enviya, Sura envia is
called the surah the prophets. Has anyone read that Surah before?
Yeah. Does anyone know what surah number that
is, 21 does that come up here to prepare for that brother, their
life? Pieces knowledge. So the first thing is knowing the Quran.
The second thing is reading it. The third thing is in the forend,
there are amazing stories for our lives. And in Sura and via, it's
called the Stories of the Prophets. So they're constantly
stories of Prophet to go through difficulty and what they do to get
out of it, and how ALLAH SubhanA takes them out of it. Now,
subhanAllah, and one particular page is something I want to share
with you because I found it personally amazing. It's helped me
get through today. It's helped me get through this week in store.
Mbf, there's a page towards the end of the Surah, and Allah goes
from Prophet to Prophet to Prophet, and tells us about
different prophets who went through difficulty, who asked
Allah for help, and Allah enter them immediately. And in the very
end of that page, Allah gives us a formula that we can use when we're
going through difficulty to Inshallah, find success. The first
prophet, Allah SWT starts with is Prophet Ayub. May Allah be pleased
with him. In English, that's private job. Who knows what he's
gone through? Who's heard of some of the trials he's had? Yeah, you
want to share some
of them. Yes.
School, lots of different Oh, sorry it did not be taken off. He
became, does that look like he lost his money lately? Did you
want to answer that?
Subhanallah, he lost everything. Thank you so much for sharing
that. Does that kill him? Subhanallah, she touched on so
many different things. He didn't just like, get a lot of money and
then become poor, or have super health and then get sick, or have
a lot of kids and then lose them. He walked through all of those
things,
and after years of dealing with.
This not the kind of sick that's like, Oh, don't hug me. I have, I
have a cop, not that kind of sick, the kind of sick that's like,
like a disfigured kind of nobody wanted to be around him. Imagine
if you have everything going on to the break of dawn and suddenly
everything's gone. What are you gonna do in that situation? Are
you gonna say, Why did you do this to me? Oh, Allah, Wali, Abu LA,
are you gonna do what a you said? He said to Allah, He said, en me
mas do something. He's touched me, inflicted me well. And to Allah,
he mean, and you are the Most Merciful of the Merciful. He says
to Allah, something, something just hit me, and it's difficult.
And you're the Most Merciful of the Merciful. The next ayah,
Allah, He says,
That's the javanah festival. So we excuse me, help me. Thank you. We
answered him. So in that moment, Allah answered him, and what
happened after he answered him? He gave him his family, as in, he
gave him more children. He cured him. He gave him more children. He
had money back, so he made dua, and it was answered. And then at
the end of this ayah, it's amazing,
it says, What the Quran and abhidin? It's a reminder for those
who worship Allah. It's a reminder because all of us are going to go
through similar things. Some of us here, maybe how many moms are in
the room, or dads?
Oh, Masha, Allah, bless all of you. Bless your children. Emmy, I
bless all of you in the future with your children. Emmy, okay, so
these, these parents, that was really a dot, okay,
these children, excuse me, these parents, when they have children,
they know what it's like, right? If you were to feel like, Oh, your
child was sick, it's so difficult. Imagine losing children not
because of the love. So when you're going through something,
when you're going through a test, when you when you can't get this
job, when you can't get married, when you can't deal with your
parents, when you can't move to this school when you can't, can't,
can't, can't, can't, it's a big cry remembering you. He went
through so many things. He may die. I can go through them too.
And Allah is going to be with me when you keep going in this page
talks about more prophets, and then it gets
to Prophet Eunice had a set up in English. That's Jonah.
Maybe it's Jonas.
Okay, you look that up and let me know. So Inshallah, we can talk
about the correct name, the point of the story. I'm really sorry. I
really don't remember. Does anyone really know
Jonah? Is our collective Jonah? Are they set up? Okay, what
happens to Jonah? Who knows what his story is?
Yes, I Yes,
yes,
thank you so much. So what happened to him is, he's a
prophet, right? He goes to his people. He tells them to come to
back to Allah, to worship Allah.
He comes, tells them to worship Allah. They refuse. He gets upset.
He leaves angrily. So he gets on this boat. What happens when he
gets on this boat through a series of events? His name is castle.
That means he gets off the boat. When he gets off the boat, he's in
the ocean and a huge whale swallows him.
Okay? I mean,
failing the class doesn't seem like as bad as being swallowed by
a whale. So we can kind of see that there's difficulty and relate
to that, right? What happens to unusual when he is in this whale?
What does he say he's sitting in there? And I know so many of you
have heard this jar. Does anyone know what the draw is?
Okay? I hear lots of dogs. So this particular draw, it starts with,
so panic, loud,
louder. Do it again?
Okay? Third time altogether, 123,
it's
very, very good effort. MashaAllah,
the important thing is that when we make dry, we don't do it like
that. Okay, when we make dry to Allah, it's like Eunice violation,
who said, help you in a whale. You don't stop. On reception in a
whale,
what does he do? He says to Allah SWT, he comes out. He says,
there's nobody worthy of worship except for
you couldn't do
I was on the wrong doors. Subhanallah, all of us wrong. All
of us are wrong towards look, Allah gave us air. We are sitting
in here, hamilah, and no one's attacking us. Subhanallah, may
Allah never attack it. Many people never attack us. But we're not
worried about
an elephant.
Trampling people in this room, Alhamdulillah, we're so blessed
with so many things. You're looking at me, I'm able to speak
Alhamdulillah. And some of us don't have those same abilities.
But the point is, Allah just gave gay and then when he chooses for
us to go through something a little bit difficult, to maybe
reflect on our lives, we go, why? Me?
Why? Always what's up?
Something I heard, which was awesome, is someone said, my day,
my day has been horrible. And then the guy was like, maybe you've
been a horrible slave. And that doesn't mean that going through
difficulty means you're horrible. I just thought it was really cool.
Like, huddle up. We're so blessed. We get so much, and then we don't
thank enough, right? So Judas ISNA. He goes through something,
and he realizes it, he recognizes he made a mistake. That's the
important part. All of us are going to make mistakes. All of us
are going to sin. All of us have fallen or going to fall. All of us
have definitely fallen at your this age, except for maybe the
very small child I saw in the back. Okay? All of us have gone
through difficulty where we're the ones who cause it, when we yell at
our parents, when we cheat on a test, when we get in a
relationship, that's not right. So many things. What does unite Salam
do? He recognizes he made a mistake, and then he says, II
couldn't believe me when Allah SWT answers him in the next ayah. He
ends this ayah with what
meaning this is how we save the believers Allah. SWT can save us
from our own selves. We make a mistake, like Eunice Alayhis
Salam, an amazing Prophet, made a mistake. But when we make Toba,
like he made Toba, we can go back to Allah. So the difficulties in
our life should bring us back to Allah. Finally, the last hop in
this page is Zakaria or Zechariah alaihi salam, and he wants to have
a child, because once he passes away, there's no one who can
continue the message after him. What does he do? He's making dua.
His wife is barren. She can't bear children. He makes dua to Allah.
Allah blesses him with John Yahya alaihi salam, and he cures his
wife so that she's able to have that child. Then Subhanallah, this
is the recipe, absolutely amazing. Allah SWT says in Nahum, they
indeed, they can know you said your own nothing. Say what? They
used to sprint to do good deeds. Why? And
they would make dua to us. Rabada, hopeful and fearful.
What can Lena ha sheary, and they were of those who had humility
with us and when who had pushy with us that they were sincere
right here. Allah Santa has told us they were of those who sprinted
to do good deeds. They used to make dua, and they used to be
extremely sincere. So we have
action,
sincerity, no DUA and sincerity. All these three letters put
together a, d and s. When you mix them up, they come out of stag.
You think it's funny, but it's true. Listen,
I'm gonna ask you to play along for a second. Okay? I'm gonna give
you the cue. I want you to say sad, because I want you to
remember this when I'm going through hardship, I'm gonna do
sad. What? What I'm going through hardship I'm gonna do, sad,
sincerity, action and Torah, Allah, subhana wa Taala has
blessed us with this super amazing recipe for success. Number one,
sincerity when we're going through something difficult, ask Allah
sincerely, not like,
like, for example,
okay,
don't even laugh before, okay,
yeah, that's why it's so funny. Okay, Allah, subhana wa Taala is
waiting to listen to us, and we gotta be sincere about it, and we
gotta be sincere about fixing the situation. If you're failing a
class and you're like, oh, but it made to I just haven't studied
ever. That's a problem. That's why. Gotta be sincere about
wanting to change. I gotta be sincere about wanting to change.
Number two is action. So once we're sincere about wanting to
change, the second part is actually doing the action to
change. So sometimes it's situation that's out of our
control. For example, male welcome type, everyone's loved ones here,
and everyone's loved ones of the loved ones who are here, everyone.
If there's a person who's going through a terminal illness, that's
not necessarily much you personally can do to cure them.
You can make drive for them. You can visit them. You can make them
happy. There's actually you can do and you can do good deeds so that
your dog would be even more accepted in chala. So for example,
instead of like,
smoke and hookup Friday night with a friend, you could go to the
movies inshallah and watch. I really had to have a movie. Okay,
next time come through, the Advent is out
inshallah. I know there's a three coming. I'm.
Waiting for
it. You laugh. That movie is full of iman. It's like, I
feel you're laughing at me. That's okay. This
is not supposed to be a very funny session, all right. The point of
this story is that we have to do action, replacing the Haram of the
*, trying to do action to change the situation, studying, if
we need to study, etc. The third thing is God, and this is the most
powerful and amazing part. Allah tells us, what
in your body, when my slave asked of me, when you asked of me, I am
close. Would you dare either Dan a answer the one who's calling me
when they call Allah wants to hear your voice. He wants to listen to
you, you, you, you, you and every other person in this room, yes,
you, definitely you, every single person Allah wants to hear. He
created you, and He loves you and he wants to hear you, and
that's why he tells us he's gonna respond to you. And when we make
Torah, it's not that peace. It's the kind of Torah,
like you really want something? How many of you? Probably not too
long ago, maybe today, I wanted something from your parents. This
happened to me today. Alhamdulillah, this best problem
today, okay, maybe, like five years ago, 10 years ago, maybe
when this happened, when you wanted something like you really
wanted to go out with your friends, but you really wanted to
eat something whatever, and your parents said, no, what did you do?
Begged, what else cried, what else why? What else did you ask again
and again and again and again until you finally got it
Allah SWT
wants to hear from us over and over and over, this is our
opportunity to make dua to him, to, like, lock ourselves in a
room, to put our hands up, or put our face in sujood, say it in a
language that you can feel closest to Allah to don't say many things
you don't understand. Quote to Allah with your heart, and in that
moment, say, oh, Allah,
and start crying. And Allah loves that. And if you have certainty
yapping that he's going to answer you, He will answer you. It might
not be that exact thing you're asking for, but that's why there's
three different ways that dua can be answered. Number one, it can be
answered by you getting that thing, maybe something better.
Number two, you get into the hereafter, or number three,
something bad is going to be removed from you. So either way,
it's a winwin situation with dua.
Dua is the last part of sad. There's s, there's a, there's D.
When there's something difficult, what do you do?
What's the first one?
All right,
there's the last part.
Okay, what I'm going to ask you to do. I really need you to, like,
involve yourself with me. I want you to close your eyes so you
don't feel silly doing this. Okay? And I'm going to explain it in a
second, Shala, and it's totally going to relate to this,
Inshallah, even though you're going to think this is very real,
I want you to close your eyes, Inshallah, and for 20 seconds I'm
going to actually ask you to lead us. Yeah, okay, I want you to
laugh really hard to speak laughs You
do you feel a little bit better, even though that was really silly,
do you feel like more energized, a little bit happier? Those of you
who chose to participate, I totally noticed some people
didn't choose to participate. Okay, the point is that when you
laugh, you start feeling a little bit better. And studies have shown
that people who are depressed or people who are sick, when they
laugh, even if it's being laughing like we just did, it actually
helps them. It helps to relieve depress, depression. It helps with
your immune system. So walking around and smiling, you know how
it's sunnah, the Prophet saw everything he did is good for us,
including smiling. It helps your immunity. Now, subhanAllah, when
we're going through something hard, it's very difficult
sometimes to remember to smile and to laugh. I'm not saying that
something bad happens and you start laughing. What I'm saying is
that when you do sad, sincerity, action and dua, once you do those
three things, you have to put your tomato. You have to trust in
Allah. How can you trust in Allah? Subhanahu wa? You can continue to
do those things, but know that Allah will answer you if you're
working in your sincere and you're making dua. So once you put your
trust in Allah, you're not going to worry anymore. You're not going
to freak out, because you know Allah's going to take care of it.
You're working, you're making time, you're being sincere.
Here you are working. This isn't like Allah's gonna take care of
it. I'm gonna peace out. This is working. And having toe pull when
you have this toe cool, this should naturally make you happier,
and when you're feeling happier, Inshallah, it will be easier to
deal with the difficulty. So the last part for the laughter begins
with a what this is
out for laughter, not for loser. Okay, Alfred laughter, put it at
the end of sag, what do you get
saddle? So when you're dealing with a difficulty, what do you do?
You put on the saddle and you ride your way to a loss of a
finally,
I want to end with an absolutely amazing quote, and Inshallah,
hopefully, because it's the last thing you'll remember. It. Emil
fayy, Rahim of Allah said, when Allah tests you, it is never to
destroy you. Whenever you remove something from your possession, it
is only to empty your hands for an even better gift. Coming back to
Allah is always going to be the best thing for ardunya and our
AFYA sanshallah. It's right over there. Does that hold it?