Maryam Amir – Fertility and Infertility Tafsir and Discussion Ustada Hosai Mojaddidi
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The transcript describes a woman who believes her baby may be slaughtered and her mother had to have a girl to make the change. She talks about her plans to propose to her mother and her brother, as well as her struggles with emotions and the importance of community. The transcript also touches on the struggles of women in their roles and how their emotions can affect their behavior, and reminds everyone to share any news that is shocking and destabilizes. The speaker also reminds everyone to be aware of the negative impacts of the cycle and the cycle, and to share any news that is destabilizing.
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Are they his salaam trying to process the fact that she has a
baby girl instead of a baby boy. This is very interesting, because
she has a baby girl at a time when she's expecting to have a boy. And
the mother of Musa alaihi salam has a baby boy when she could have
had a baby girl. And if she had had a baby girl, she wouldn't have
been worried about the fact that her baby boy might be slaughtered
and the genocide against children from the from the from the Pharaoh
and yeah, Allah decreed for Musa to be a boy, and he had to be a
boy in order to make the global changes he made and the impact
that he made, not only in Benu Israel, but the whole entire
world. And in the same way, Meriam alaihi salam's mother had to have
a girl because Mariam alaihi salam's role was one in which was
so massive, so revolutionary, that only a little girl who became a
young woman who became the mother of Jesus. Peace be upon them. All
could have held that role. When we look at the ayah itself, this ayah
is her expressing surprise. She delivers and she says, falama,
will do I tell Paul, let's Rob be in me. Will lock to her. Will low,
be male, will not well, they said, the
baby. And when you listen to the translation of the first part of
the aya, she says, My Lord, I have given birth to a girl. Now, that's
her statement, and Allah fully knew what she had delivered. And
the male is not like the female. And then the next part is, I have
named her Mary, and I seek Your protection for her and her
offspring from Satan, the accursed. In Arabic, this ayah
keeps saying, wain me, wain me, what in me? What in me? Indeed, I,
indeed, I, indeed, I, indeed, I. Why a number of different scholars
of Quranic commentary explain that she was stumbling over her words
as she's talking to Allah because she was shocked that she had a
girl instead of a boy. So she is saying, My Lord, I have indeed
delivered. I've delivered a girl. Okay? So she's shocked, and Allah
knows what she has delivered. Well, they said that karuke, why
does she say the boy is not like the girl? Why? Because in her
shock, she is trying to rectify her emotional feelings to the
surprise. So Allah knows her feelings. Allah knows how she is
feeling internally. This was not part of her life plan. At this
moment, her life plan was, she was going to dedicate her baby to
betel mechdis and beitel mektis, Jerusalem, mastral Aqsa, at the
time only allowed for boys. So what is she now going to do?
So when she says this part of the verse that says the male is not
like the female, what the the scholars of tafsir are saying say
about her saying this is what she's actually saying, is the male
that I wanted is not like the girl that Allah gave me. That Allah
gave me a greater gift. Walay said that karu kelunta, Allah gave me a
greater gift than a boy by giving me a girl. And then in the next
part, she says, What in Nisa may to hamari. Why?
Because, in the Arabic again, she's waini. Waini wain me. So in
order for her to now show her pleasure with Allah's decree, she
names her baby Maryam. And in naming her Maryam, Maryam means a
servant of Allah. So just like she had previously, in the previous
Aya, dedicated, whom is in her womb, to Allah, she now has
Mariam. And in an act of expression of her appreciation for
whom Allah has gifted her, she names her a servant of Allah,
Maryam, the servants of Allah.
And then she makes a dua for Meriam. And in making that dura,
she is showing Allah that even if, in the beginning she was shocked,
and honestly, some of the words of tafsir mentions karaha, which
means dislike. And it's not because she wasn't happy that she
had a girl that she disliked her baby girl. It's not because she
wanted, she felt a boy was better than a girl. Many cultures believe
this, even until today, many, even Muslims, have this wrong notion.
But rather, what she was having that dislike feeling, was that she
just didn't know what she was going to do, like we just
mentioned, sometimes you have a plan for your life. You have an
you have a you have envisioned what your life is going to be
like, and suddenly your plan is come.
Completely shifted, and in that moment, are you like?
Alhamdulillah, my life plan. Alhamdulillah, the plan I've been
my my safety. Alhamdulillah, it's done. Alhamdulillah, it's changed.
Are you like? Ya Allah, what am I going to do? Ya Allah, what am I
going to do? So she's in her Ya Allah, what am I going to do and
to rectify that, that she sees her baby, and that's her response that
she names her Mariam, and she makes to offer her, and the fact
that she made to offer her is an affirmation that she is happy with
Allah's decree and happy with the fact that she has a girl. Why is
her reaction so interesting? Because when you look at the story
of Maryam alaihi salam, which is described just a few verses later,
and also in Surah Maryam, the way that Arisa is gifted to Mariam,
alaihi salam, when she is told that you are you are given the
glad tidings. You're given the gift that you're going to have
this baby. The Quran uses two different words, wahaba and the
the ubeshir so so that we are giving Glad Tidings to you. Sorry,
I'm having so much trouble in this moment with recalling the verse.
But the the word is Bushra, it's glad tidings. And the other one is
gift, and Maryam Alaihe salam's response is not one where she's
like Alhamdulillah, what an amazing gift. Alhamdulillah, what
amazing, glad me, great tidings. That's not her reaction. Her
reaction is like, How is this possible? And the Quran chooses to
record that. The Quran chooses to record her words, Maryam, when she
is giving birth, and she says, I wish I had died before this, the
Quran is recording woman in moments of trial, in moments of
shock, in moments of worry and fear and loss. And their reaction
is human. It is the human reaction to say, How is this possible, or
this wasn't what I was expecting, or what am I going to do? And yet,
with that reaction, they are teaching us to still maintain our
trust in Allah, because we may not be able to see the outcome, but
Allah knows what is best for our life, and that is why, when He
decrees what He decrees, when He decrees what He decrees, that we
say in the canteen that you are the one who is the All Hearing,
you are the one who is all knowing. I don't know my future. I
don't know what is best for my plan. I don't know what is best
for my life, or am I hereafter. But I know that you are the All
Hearing, I know that you are the all seeing, you are the All
Knowing and that Allah, You have heard the voices of the woman who
called out to you in fear and in trial and in and in pain. You
recorded their voices in those moments. We have the same hauda
Radi Allahu anha in the opening of Surah mujadila, where she mentions
the same she Allah spent on Tyler describes himself with what words
that he is, Samir, Basir, that he is all hearing, and he is the all,
the one who sees all because even if someone, even if someone sees
you at all times, they might Not necessarily, excuse me, hears you
at all times they might not have been there to witness what you
needed them to witness. And are they going to believe you if they
didn't see it?
Allah sees, he knows, he hears, and he affirms
that as the greatest woman went through their trials, and yet they
still maintained their faith, that we as men and women can go through
our trials and we can maintain our faith, and that Allah never leaves
us to our own selves, even for the blink of an eye. And that's one of
the beautiful duas that we can make in the morning and the
evening. Yeah, Hey, you. Yeah, by you. Oh, ever living Oh sustainer
buchareef that I seek from with I seek refuge in Your mercy. Do not
leave me for even one second, for even the blink of an eye. Never
leave me even for the blink of an eye. And making the DUA in
remembrance of the people who went through the same hardships that we
are going through and even worse and even harder, and yet, they
knew that Allah was always with them. So always remember that
you're not alone. And also that being said, I know this is a
little bit different, a bit of a different shift, but brother,
Munib, I saw mention many moments ago that he mashallah Tabata kala
after three years of being, of having his best friend, caregiver,
Tabata Kala is now engaged, and I'm so happy for you because
brother, Munib, I remember you mentioning in the past that this
is your community that celebrate mercy. Is your community because
of disability and inability to go to the community physically. And
Alhamdulillah, I'm so happy to hear that news. May all.
Bless you, may Allah reward you and protect you and bless your
marriage and inshallah always bless your, bless your, bless
your, your Inshallah, upcoming union inshallah. That was such a
beautiful news to hear after, after thinking about you, thinking
about the way you, you describe that, that dua that you may have
been making in different ways to see that that cycle is a gift for
me. Thank you so much for sharing that may Allah span on Tala always
answer all of the dua of every single one of us and everyone in
Laza and Sudan and every part of this.
I mean, Jose kare, thank you that was that was so beautiful. We will
bring back stata hosai as well for any, any additional commentary on
that specific passage that you mentioned
of her receiving the news of having a girl and her response to
that, and anything you'd like to add to that, also the husaila,
remind the audience. If you have any specific questions, please
share them in the chat. Inshallah
Abdullah, I'm sure I speak on behalf of everyone. We could just
keep listening to you. Sheik Ramayan, you're just such a
passionate speaker. Masha Allah, and I so appreciate that you you
know the reminder that, even though these are, you know, Mariam
Alam, as we know is one of the four perfect women, complete
women, and to humanize her, so that we ourselves remind ourselves
that we're going to have those moments of doubt and frailty and
uncertainty, and especially because dunya is designed
literally to do that to us. But we have to know what are the right
responses, you know? And that's what subring Jimmy it is, which is
what they're exemplifying for us, that yes, in their humanness, they
are reacting in those human ways. But then they also realize, which
is, again, what we have been highlighting this entire evening
that we all go back to Allah. We came from Allah. We all go back to
Allah. So the best way to respond to any news that is shocking,
destabilizing, you know, just that that's terrifying, is to go back
to your Creator and know that he is the only one who can change
your circumstance. He's the only one who can make right whatever
you deem to be. You know that you're you're having an issue with
whatever the outcome you seek. Seek it through Allah, Subhanahu
wa Ta and that's why that pairing that Sheikha marim was talking
about is so important that we can be human. But to remember, to
immediately turn to Allah to ask ALLAH SubhanA for guidance and for
answers and for hope and all of those beautiful things that we see
from him. So Josiah really enjoyed your your mashallah session. I
mean your commentary, as I always do so
Mubarak too. Brother. Was it Munir or Munir?
Mubarak as well. Thank you again for pointing that I missed that
comment. But alhamdulillah, we're always very happy to hear of any
blessed union. So Mubarak from myself as well. Alhamdulillah, we
see a sister Tia, who said, I'm a barren woman, but Inshallah, only
Allah knows best. It's very hard and frustrating at times. So this
reflection is hitting me very deeply.
Can I respond to Tia? Tia, may Allah bless you so much in every
single way. And I just want you to know that the one thank you for
sharing that, because I am positive there are other women who
have experienced the same type of pain and and this, like this hole
in your heart, kind of experience where only Allah knows how he can
fill it. And, and they don't, they don't say it because there,
there's almost a sometimes that, or it can be a taboo, and
expressing it, or not knowing how anyone's going to experience or or
process it. So one, thank you for every single woman and man who has
wanted to have their own child and they haven't been able to, for any
reason, their bio a biological child. Thank you for expressing
that. And I think all of us understand the pain on different
levels of that type of of of the struggles of infertility and all
things associated with it. All of us know different realities
related to that. I think many people in the chat have that
experience too, and I just want all of us to remember that Allah
has placed examples of women on every single circumstance, whether
it was Aisha Radi Allahu anha who was unable to have biological
children, or it was mothers who lost their children in in their in
different stages of pregnancy, including stillbirths, or women
who have lost their children soon after having them, or at some
point in their lives. The reality of this cycle is one that all of
us are deeply connected with.
So Tia, thank you so much for mentioning it. I'm so sorry for
any pain that you are going through, and I'm sitting with my
sisters who or and my brothers who feel this type of pain and this
loss, and know that Allah sees you, and I know that you know that
may Allah bless you in every single way and and open the best
doors to answer the DUA that you are making with so much more than
you can imagine. Allah from the AMI,
I mean, I mean I shall Abu.