Majed Mahmoud – Building A Strong Character

			I asked a very reputable doctor in Ohio a question. I told him I keep hearing from other people,
that one of the main steps to be cured from a sickness is to believe that you can be cured. So I
said, Is this just some nice words put together? Was it truly proven scientifically psychologically,
that the patient needs to believe they can become better for them to actually become better? So the
doctor said, Actually, it's not one of the steps but this is the first thing as a doctor, I tell my
patience. Number one, you got to believe that it's possible for you to be cured. Why am I sharing
this with you because in Islam, Allah subhanaw taala commanded you and I that we have to improve and
		

			change and become better people. And the first step for you to change and improve your patience,
your generosity, your humbleness, etc. is to believe that you can and you will never and should
never say I am who I am and I can never change because Allah subhana wa tada will not hold you
accountable for things you cannot change. Check out this beautiful heading Rasulullah sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam says in LA Jai Lai Jambo lol Swati calm. What am Wiley comm Allah does not look at
your physical features. Allah does not care about your physical features. In what sense? It's not
those who are six, three, the only go to Jenna I know sounds simple, but no, Allah doesn't that
		

			doesn't care about that, because that's something you cannot change. Well, I kinema jambu Isla
Cordoba como la cumbre, Allah looks at your hearts and your actions, because that's what you can
change and have some sort of control over Allahu Akbar. But let's be very frank with one another one
of the biggest disasters of our time, is the focus and attention is being paid on that which Allah
does not care of physical features, the filters, the photos, etc, one, two and three. But the things
that matter the most of action behavior, we need to emphasize more and more on it, and then came to
the Prophet sallallahu, it was in this hadith is very critical to prove to you my point about, you
		

			have to believe that you can change because there's truly so many people, elders, who even believe
that they are who they are for the rest of their life, I even had a workshop with top management
that work, I will never forget it. I'm not a top manager. But I was requested personally to go
there. Because I deal with such people of that caliber. And I realized that the higher up in a
company that you go, the less technical they care about, the more communication based it's all about
panela. It's about a club and character and presentation and so on. So then, that speaker says I've
been teaching for and he said, approximately, if I recall correctly, about 12 years, teaching this
		

			class about behavior, and how to deal with people and how to talk to people and how to stand and
this has a meaning. This has a meaning. Speak 30%, listen, 70% all these statistics until one big
shot at the company, she asked the instructor a question or more of a statement. She said, You're
telling me what to say and how to say it and the attitude changes. She said, I've been working for
decades. And I don't see myself changing. I am who I am like, I don't see it possible for me to
become a different person. After I passed 54 years old, her love then is very difficult. So then
this man, what's shocking, a little bit, the instructor told the rest of the grid question. Then he
		

			said, You know, I don't have an answer. answer to it. Now, let me think.
		

			So during the break, I went to that instructor. I said, thank you so much for delivering this class.
And they told him you received a question from one of the respected ladies about saying I am who I
am and I cannot change. So she does not see how this class can ever change anyone, especially
herself. He said, Yeah, I need to think of an answer. So I told him, I think the answer might be
clear. So I propose them an answer. I said to him, you've been teaching this for 12 years. You must
have seen people changing you had to see people changing. I said you know Okay, forget you think
people changing. If people did not change, we would have not hired you as a company and contracted
		

			with you to teach us because results show that no one is changing why spend the money. So he said,
You know what, that's a really good point. So then break ended, he comes to the session is resumed.
So he says, Where is that person who asked me the question, I am who I am and I cannot change and so
on. So he said to her, I've been teaching for 12 years. Do you think I have not seen people
changing? Do you think I would have continued to get hired? If people did not actually change the
panel? I didn't give me credit but no problem. Yeah, law reward that's all immutable me. But the
point being here Rasul Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
		

			Caesar Sahabi amazing Sahabi a group of Sahaba they came and they were like so crowded to go hand
shake to the process, give them a handshake. So el mundo rhodiola and he said, You know what? It's
bit chaotic. So let me just pause, put my stuff down take care of my things. You know once the crowd
settles, I will go you know give br Salaam to the Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, then the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when he noticed that he's he when he spoke them, he told them in the
Kahala Taney you have two o'clock, two characters. You have boohooman la Sol Allahu Akbar, you have
two trades Allah and His Prophet they love me Allah granted to you and I, he said they are also the
		

			what are the he said, a hidden move well, and your patience and your celebration, phenomenal. He had
elite level status with that. I don't know why, but that's a hobby followed up with an amazing
question. He said, Yasuo Allah. Was I created with these two o'clock, or did I nurture them
throughout my life? Very interesting question. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, As
for you know, you were created with them. So what do we learn here? Some of us are born with high
level of Rama people were not born with some of you born with high level of bravery and courage that
no one else was one at that level. Some of us have that nature. So panela default status, your
		

			default settings is that you're a nice person, your default settings that you're so generous, it's
in your blood Allahumma barik. But this had either a limit say also proves that you can grow in
character or HELOC, that you may were very low at at one point. Why? Because the Prophet sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam did not tell mother, no mother, it's all about how you were born, you can never
change. He said for you. You were born with them. So this has an open door. That means those who
don't have it, you can grow in it. Just like I'm assuming some of us here. May Allah bless you
wonderful people. I mean, I mean, not everyone here was born in the United States. Yet you have an
		

			American passport. So what do we see here? Some people were born in the US or they have that
passport, others do not. So they had to go the move, they worked hard, got the green card, then
eventually got the citizenship. And you know what that also means? Those who were born with good
luck. Do not take it for granted. Those that were born into a Muslim family do not take it for
granted. Because just like how you were born with it, it can be taken away from you. Similarly, the
whole passport example you being born in the United States doesn't mean you'll always be immune and
that passport will never be revoked as an example right? May Allah protect you all immutable, Allah
		

			mean so that's what also allays Allah Allahu Allah was what does he teach us in nemaline a bit
alone. He says you gain knowledge by seeking it now I'm Dutch dad and you work hard, you will reach
a inshallah I will never forget it in my life. His brother's name is Mahmoud he might even perhaps
be watching and listening. Brother Mahmud used to come to the finals, final exams University of
Windsor 20 minute drive from here. He Allah gifted him with such mind I have never seen anything
like him before.
		

			Allah I remember, final exams used to come and that is when he goes to the bookstore to buy the
book.
		

			And he even unwrapped that book, in the library in front of my own eyes. No one told me. He's like
I'm about to start. How did you do your assignments?
		

			projects is a key you know, to get from the class, whatever the teacher said, you know, photographic
memory and so on. And that's when you know, he bought the book and he was a top student throughout
the entire school year. But hamdulillah from my end, I had to work so hard day and night, pull an
all nighter Red Bull, all these drinks. May Allah protect us. I'm not promoting it. Some of them are
harmful. But the point being is that you have to believe that you can what also alights Allah Allah
Allah He was somebody say, when NEMA is a sub rule, patience is when you practice patience, that's
how you gain it. So you have to believe you can change. And please don't be against staying because
		

			Allah will hold you accountable. I remember one time one of the sisters many years ago when I was my
early 20s I proposed to she rejected me hamdulillah Well, I was I was near Allah. Because I remember
eyes when I had that setting. I told her you know what I look forward to improving and changing we
don't want to be who we are tomorrow the way we are today. And next year no like today I want to
always improve year by year. She said no, I think if you want to continue and have this marriage
proceed and have that big tab and so on. I am who I am. I don't like to change. I said you may
misunderstand me You're good who you are, but we want to improve she insisted. I don't like the word
		

			change. So then I insisted as well I want to change and improve. But then we budget then we said
okay, whatever but still
		

			got rejected at hamdulillah. But the point being is that believe in Allah Jalla Jalla take the means
in terms of dunya and in terms of ask Allah, Allah, Allah I say whatever I have said, and they ask
God to forgive me and forgive you all for still Pharaoh inaho who Allah rocking. You know, when we
hear about us being whoever we are, and can we change? Yes, we can change. But there's once a hobby
or the Allahu Allah who was very concerned and he had a beautiful, beautiful point here. What do you
say?
		

			He says, to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So a man came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam and asked him a question said you have also Allah metacell When is the day of judgment? So
the Prophet sallallahu I use an asked him what have you prepared for it? So he says, lashay I
haven't prepared much for it. Illa n hibel la rasulillah salam O Allah SLM the best preparation I
have is my heart is full of love, hope towards Allah and His Prophet Mohammed Ali Sato Salaam. So
then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told him and men that you will be with whom you will
love. So why did I share this with you? Because some of you will say I want to change don't improve,
		

			but I will never reach a point like Rasul Allah and that's all confirmed non negotiable. I may never
reach the level of other prophets, that's for sure. But you can reach through your determination and
you trying to reach if you truly love them, it will be shown in your actions in your movements in
your speech. May Allah increase our hearts with love to Allah and His Prophet alayhi salaatu wa
Salaam and let that be shown in the way you talk and the way you behave and the way you struggle
throughout your life to become a better person and improve the color that you know really well what
you need to improve on. May Allah make our Aflac as beautiful as our Hello, this is Dr. of
		

			rasulillah salam alaikum Asin Hello Khanna camera center, hello Karna purify our holy Allah
character, the way you beautified our physical features