Kamil Ahmad – The Lives of the Sahabiyyat #01 Khadijah bint Khuwaylid RA

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The Prophet has a history of great accomplishments, including his success in the Bible and his leadership in the world. However, the death of the Prophet has caused his legacy to be legacy of disaster, and his death has led to the loss of his uncle and financial and political support for him. The interviewer emphasizes the importance of being a stronganning woman, being supportive, prioritizing family, and showing positivity and positivity in difficult situations. The interviewer also mentions the importance of learning from the story of Khadique's death and the need for everyone to prioritize family over personal ambitions.

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			Bismillah ar-Rahman ar-Raheem I
		
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			hope everyone can hear me, if anyone wants
		
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			to come closer, they can come closer.
		
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			So, last week we started with an introduction
		
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			on the theme of our class, which is
		
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			going to be on the sahabiyat, the lives
		
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			of the female companions of the Prophet ﷺ.
		
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			So, we spoke about the virtues of the
		
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			sahabiyat in general, and why they were special,
		
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			and why it's important for us as Muslims
		
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			to study their lives.
		
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			And so, since this class is exclusively for
		
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			the sisters, we decided that we would go
		
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			through the female companions of the Prophet ﷺ
		
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			specifically, because one of the things that we
		
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			mentioned last week was that the reason why
		
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			it's important for us to study the lives
		
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			of these companions is to take them as
		
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			role models, to take them as role models.
		
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			And certain qualities that women have, other women
		
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			can follow those qualities.
		
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			Because sometimes we may think, okay, men are
		
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			different than us, so how can I be
		
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			like men?
		
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			But if we study the lives of the
		
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			female companions now, one cannot make that excuse,
		
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			right?
		
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			These are women just like you.
		
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			And Allah ﷻ chose them from among all
		
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			of the people to have that privilege of
		
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			being companions of the Prophet ﷺ.
		
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			Now we also mentioned last week that we're
		
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			going to start with the ummahatul mu'mineen, the
		
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			wives of the Prophet ﷺ, those whom Allah
		
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			ﷻ referred to as the mothers of the
		
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			believers.
		
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			As Allah ﷻ says in Surah al-Ahzab,
		
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			النبي أولى بالمؤمنين من أنفوسهم وأزواجه أمهاتهم His
		
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			wives are their mothers.
		
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			His wives are their mothers, meaning they're not
		
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			our mothers in the literal sense, but they're
		
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			our mothers in the sense of the respect
		
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			that they deserve from us.
		
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			So how you treat your mothers and the
		
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			honor and the respect that you have for
		
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			your mothers is the kind of respect we're
		
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			supposed to have for these women.
		
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			And also, another aspect of that is that
		
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			no one after the death of the Prophet
		
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			ﷺ was allowed to marry these women.
		
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			So in that sense, they are also our
		
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			mothers.
		
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			But in the sense of being a mahram,
		
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			then no.
		
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			So none of these women were allowed to
		
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			uncover themselves in front of the other men,
		
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			even though they are considered their mothers.
		
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			So we said we're going to start with
		
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			the wives of the Prophet ﷺ, and it
		
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			goes without saying that we should start with
		
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			the best of them, and the first of
		
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			them, and the most beloved of them to
		
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			the Prophet ﷺ.
		
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			And that is none other than Khadijah bint
		
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			Khuwaylid.
		
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			And so her full name is
		
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			Khadijah bint Khuwaylid ibn Asad ibn
		
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			Abdul Uzza ibn Qusay.
		
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			Khadijah bint Khuwaylid, the daughter of Khuwaylid, ibn
		
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			Asad, the son of Asad, ibn Abdul Uzza
		
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			ibn Qusay.
		
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			So this Qusay would be her great
		
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			-great-grandfather.
		
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			Great-great-grandfather.
		
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			Why is this person important?
		
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			Because her lineage here meets with the lineage
		
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			of the Prophet ﷺ.
		
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			So our Prophet ﷺ is, who knows his
		
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			lineage?
		
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			Muhammad ibn Abdullah ibn Abdul Muttalib ibn
		
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			Hashim ibn Abd Manaf ibn Qusay.
		
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			And so for the Prophet ﷺ, Qusay is
		
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			his great-great-great-grandfather.
		
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			So this makes Khadijah to be the closest
		
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			to the Prophet ﷺ from among all of
		
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			his wives.
		
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			This makes her to be the closest to
		
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			him in terms of blood relations among all
		
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			of his wives.
		
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			And so she comes from a family of
		
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			nobility, from Quraysh, a family of authority, and
		
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			also a wealthy family.
		
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			She was born in Mecca and she was
		
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			brought up in a famous and respected household.
		
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			And she got married twice before the Prophet
		
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			ﷺ.
		
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			And even these two men who she married
		
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			were noble men of the Arabs.
		
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			One, his name was Abu Hala, with whom
		
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			she had two children.
		
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			And the other was Atiq ibn A'id,
		
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			with whom she had a daughter.
		
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			Now Khadijah was a well-known and respected
		
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			woman in Mecca.
		
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			She had a nickname she was known by
		
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			as At-Tahira, the one who is pure.
		
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			And she was a businesswoman and she was
		
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			quite prosperous and wealthy.
		
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			But although she was wealthy, she was also
		
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			very generous.
		
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			And so she had very noble akhlaq and
		
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			possessed these noble qualities of being generous, being
		
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			kind.
		
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			And the women who were close to her,
		
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			they would come and visit her in her
		
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			house specifically to benefit from her generosity.
		
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			And for her business, what she would do
		
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			is she would hire men to travel for
		
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			her.
		
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			Because the people of Mecca, they relied on
		
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			trade.
		
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			The economy of Mecca, it relied on business.
		
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			It was a business hub.
		
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			And these were businessmen.
		
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			They used to trade.
		
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			And to trade, they would travel.
		
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			They would take caravans.
		
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			As Allah mentions in Surah Quraysh, Quraysh
		
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			would travel in the summer and in the
		
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			winter.
		
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			The two journeys of the summer and the
		
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			winter.
		
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			In the summer, they would head south to
		
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			Yemen.
		
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			Or rather they would head north to Syria
		
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			and in the winter they would head south
		
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			to Yemen.
		
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			And since she was alone, she wouldn't travel
		
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			for her business, but she would hire men
		
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			to do that for her.
		
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			But she would run into a lot of
		
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			trouble with the men that she would hire.
		
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			As many of them were not trustworthy.
		
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			We're talking about the days of Jahiliyyah.
		
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			We're talking about when the world was in
		
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			darkness.
		
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			And especially the Arabs.
		
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			And this is why Allah subhanahu wa ta
		
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			'ala sent them, the Prophet, to bring them
		
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			out of that darkness and into the light
		
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			of Islam.
		
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			And here we're talking about darkness and backwardness
		
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			on all different kinds of levels.
		
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			In terms of their honesty, in terms of
		
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			their treatment of others, in terms of shirk
		
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			and so on and so forth.
		
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			So many of these men were not trustworthy.
		
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			But now she starts hearing about a man
		
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			from Quraysh who had a reputation of being
		
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			trustworthy and honest.
		
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			And so the people of Mecca, they would
		
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			entrust him with their valuables.
		
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			They would entrust him with their valuables.
		
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			And he started to gain this reputation of
		
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			being extremely trustworthy.
		
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			And that would earn him the title of
		
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			As-Sadiq Al-Ameen.
		
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			The one who is honest and trustworthy.
		
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			So when Khadijah heard about him, and here
		
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			who are we talking about?
		
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			Muhammad ﷺ.
		
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			When she heard about him and his honesty,
		
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			she sent for him.
		
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			She offered him money to go to Syria
		
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			and do her business for him.
		
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			And she promised to give him a higher
		
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			rate than the others.
		
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			And she also sent with him her servant
		
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			whose name was Maysarah.
		
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			And so the Prophet ﷺ agreed and went
		
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			with her servant to Syria for trade.
		
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			Here we're talking about the Prophet ﷺ being
		
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			in his early twenties.
		
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			So he is in his early twenties.
		
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			Prior to this, what was the Prophet ﷺ
		
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			doing in Mecca?
		
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			What was his profession?
		
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			He was a shepherd.
		
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			So he would just be grazing sheep.
		
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			He'd leave Mecca.
		
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			And in the outskirts of Mecca, he would
		
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			be grazing sheep.
		
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			So this was a great opportunity for him.
		
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			And he agreed and he left for Syria
		
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			with the servant of Khadijah ﷺ.
		
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			Now when they returned from the journey, Maysarah
		
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			reported to his master Khadijah ﷺ and told
		
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			her that he has never seen a man
		
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			like him.
		
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			His honesty and his trustworthiness was like no
		
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			other man.
		
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			On top of that, when Khadijah ﷺ saw
		
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			what he brought, the earnings, she noticed that
		
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			there was way more profit and barakah and
		
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			blessings in this money than ever before.
		
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			Now Khadijah ﷺ, as we mentioned, she had
		
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			been married but at this time she was
		
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			divorced.
		
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			And she's been divorced for some time.
		
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			But being who she was, she was always
		
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			sought after by the men of Mecca.
		
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			She had all of these qualities that every
		
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			man would want.
		
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			In terms of her status, she belongs to
		
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			a noble family of Quraysh.
		
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			And on top of that, she's known for
		
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			her intelligence and wealth.
		
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			She's a wealthy, successful businesswoman.
		
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			So many of the prominent men of Quraysh
		
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			had tried to marry her, but she would
		
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			always turn them down.
		
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			So here Khadijah ﷺ saw what she was
		
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			always looking for.
		
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			A man with noble and high characters.
		
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			So she disclosed to one of her friends,
		
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			by the name of Nafisa, that she would
		
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			like to marry the Prophet ﷺ.
		
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			So this friend of hers immediately went to
		
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			Muhammad ﷺ and broke the news to him.
		
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			The Prophet ﷺ had no objection and he
		
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			agreed.
		
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			So he asked his uncle Hamza ibn Abdul
		
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			Muttalib to go to Khadijah's uncle and talk
		
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			about the issue.
		
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			And subsequently they were married.
		
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			The Prophet ﷺ gave her 20 camels as
		
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			the mahr, as a dowry.
		
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			And at the time Khadijah was 40 years
		
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			old, while the Prophet ﷺ was 25.
		
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			And this is the first time ever that
		
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			the Prophet ﷺ was getting married.
		
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			So she is his first wife.
		
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			In fact, the Prophet ﷺ did not marry
		
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			any other woman while she was alive.
		
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			He didn't get married to any other woman
		
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			until she had passed away.
		
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			On top of that, Khadijah ﷺ bore all
		
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			of his children, except for one.
		
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			Except for one.
		
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			Who is that one?
		
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			Which one of his children came from another
		
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			woman?
		
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			It was Ibrahim.
		
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			Ibrahim, and that was much later in the
		
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			life of the Prophet ﷺ, towards the end
		
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			of his life when he was in Medina.
		
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			And it was Marya al-Qibtiya who bore
		
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			her Ibrahim and he passed away.
		
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			So besides that, all of the other children
		
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			of the Prophet ﷺ came from Khadijah.
		
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			And they were six.
		
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			Two sons and four daughters.
		
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			Al-Qasim, and he is the eldest, or
		
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			the first.
		
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			And Abdullah.
		
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			And then the daughters were Zaynab, Ruqayya, Umm
		
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			Kulthum, and Fatima.
		
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			All of his sons passed away in their
		
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			childhood.
		
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			While all of the daughters remained alive.
		
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			However, all of his daughters passed away while
		
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			the Prophet ﷺ was still alive.
		
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			Except for one.
		
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			Who is she?
		
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			Fatima.
		
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			And even she only survived another six months
		
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			after the death of the Prophet ﷺ.
		
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			She passed away six months after the death
		
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			of the Prophet ﷺ.
		
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			And the Prophet ﷺ actually foretold this.
		
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			This is one of the miracles of the
		
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			Prophet ﷺ.
		
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			He said that she would be the first
		
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			one to join him after his death, meaning
		
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			from his family.
		
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			And that is exactly what ended up happening.
		
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			And all of his daughters, they witnessed Islam.
		
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			They embraced Islam.
		
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			And they made hijrah to Medina.
		
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			They migrated to Medina.
		
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			But it was only Fatima that the Prophet's
		
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			lineage continued through her.
		
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			And so she had Al-Hasan and Al
		
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			-Husayn.
		
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			And from there, if you were to find
		
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			anyone today who claims that his lineage goes
		
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			to the Prophet ﷺ, it always goes through
		
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			Ali and the wife of Ali was Fatima.
		
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			So anyways, coming back to Khadija.
		
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			They got married at this time while she's
		
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			40 and he is 25.
		
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			Until now, Muhammad ﷺ is not a Prophet
		
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			and he is not a messenger.
		
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			He is just like everyone else.
		
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			And this would continue for another 15 years.
		
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			Now the Prophet ﷺ reaches the age of
		
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			40.
		
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			And he starts to go into seclusion in
		
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			the cave of Hira, in the outskirts of
		
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			Mecca.
		
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			Worshipping Allah, meditating over Allah's creation.
		
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			And he did this for days and nights
		
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			on end.
		
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			He would do this for days and nights
		
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			on end.
		
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			And what's interesting to note here is that
		
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			the Prophet ﷺ would do this, leaving behind
		
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			his family, his wife, his children.
		
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			And yet his wife Khadija not once did
		
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			she complain.
		
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			That, you know, why are you leaving us?
		
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			I want you to stay here at home
		
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			with us.
		
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			Not once did she complain.
		
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			And this shows us that this is one
		
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			of the qualities of a righteous wife.
		
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			That when her husband is busy and he
		
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			has some very important work to attend to,
		
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			she should take that into consideration and not
		
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			complain.
		
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			Even though here she could have easily said
		
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			that, what are you doing?
		
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			You're not doing anything important.
		
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			You're just going out there in the wilderness
		
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			and you're leaving us behind.
		
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			But, you know, not once did she complain.
		
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			And so it was in these days that
		
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			Jibreel came to the Prophet ﷺ with the
		
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			wahi, the revelation from Allah for the first
		
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			time.
		
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			And why do we mention this when it
		
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			comes to Khadija radiallahu anha?
		
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			Because the greatest stance that
		
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			Khadija radiallahu anha ever took in her life
		
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			was concerning this incident.
		
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			So let us go through the story.
		
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			And what's so interesting here is that the
		
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			one narrating the story is none other than
		
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			Aisha radiallahu anha.
		
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			The one narrating the story is Aisha radiallahu
		
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			anha who says that there is no woman
		
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			who she used to be jealous of more
		
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			than Khadija radiallahu anha even though she never
		
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			saw her.
		
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			We're going to come back to this statement
		
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			later on.
		
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			But anyways, what's interesting to note here is
		
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			that the one narrating this story to us
		
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			is Aisha radiallahu anha and she narrates it
		
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			with full accuracy, not hiding anything just because
		
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			it was Khadija.
		
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			She narrated the story to us with full
		
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			amanah and trust.
		
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			This hadith is in Sahih al-Bukhari.
		
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			And because of how important it is, Imam
		
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			al-Bukhari makes it hadith number three in
		
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			his book.
		
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			In Sahih al-Bukhari, it is hadith number
		
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			three.
		
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			She says, Aisha radiallahu anha says, that in
		
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			the beginning, the Prophet ﷺ, he would go
		
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			into seclusion in the cave of Hira and
		
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			he would meditate for nights before coming back
		
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			to his family.
		
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			And he would take with him some food,
		
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			some provision for that retreat.
		
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			And then he would come back to his
		
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			wife Khadija.
		
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			And then again, he would prepare food and
		
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			then go back.
		
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			He would continuously do this for some time.
		
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			And then she says that is when the
		
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			angel came to him in the cave of
		
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			Hira and Jibreel said, Iqra, read.
		
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			And the Prophet ﷺ responded by saying, I
		
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			cannot read.
		
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			And then the Prophet ﷺ tells Aisha radiallahu
		
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			anha, the angel grabbed me and pressed me
		
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			so hard that I could not bear it
		
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			anymore.
		
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			And then he released me and he asked
		
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			me to read.
		
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			And I said the same thing, I cannot
		
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			read.
		
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			Then it happened again.
		
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			And again, he said, read.
		
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			And I said, I cannot read.
		
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			And then finally, the third time he said,
		
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			Iqra bismi rabbika allathee khalaq.
		
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			And he mentioned those ayat to him.
		
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			These were the first verses of the Qur
		
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			'an that were revealed.
		
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			Then the Prophet ﷺ returned with his heart
		
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			beating heavily.
		
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			He was shaken.
		
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			This was his first ever encounter with Jibreel.
		
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			And so he was naturally terrified.
		
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			Not knowing who this was.
		
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			Not knowing what this was.
		
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			Any human being, if this happens to them,
		
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			they're going to be completely shaken.
		
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			And so what did he do?
		
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			Aisha radiallahu anha says, he immediately went back
		
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			home to his wife Khadija.
		
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			And he said, zammilooni, zammilooni, cover me, cover
		
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			me.
		
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			And so the Prophet ﷺ was shivering.
		
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			He was feeling cold.
		
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			And this is because he was afraid.
		
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			He was scared.
		
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			And fear causes you to shiver.
		
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			So he was asking his wife to wrap
		
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			him up.
		
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			So she covered him up until his fear
		
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			resided.
		
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			And after that, he told her everything that
		
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			had happened.
		
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			Now there's something interesting to note here about
		
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			Khadija radiallahu anha.
		
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			Most women, if their husbands came home terrified
		
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			like that, they would freak out and they
		
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			would start asking what happened.
		
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			They'd start responding back.
		
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			But notice how Khadija radiallahu anha until this
		
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			very moment, she does not say a single
		
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			word.
		
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			Instead, she quickly went to get him blankets
		
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			and covered him up as he had requested.
		
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			Now the Prophet ﷺ was naturally terrified by
		
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			what had happened.
		
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			But in addition to that, he also had
		
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			a natural dislike for anything that had to
		
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			do with the jinn or evil spirits or
		
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			witchcraft, things like that.
		
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			And so he was afraid that what had
		
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			happened to him was something similar that happens
		
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			with people who are possessed by jinn or
		
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			a magic spell has been done on him,
		
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			etc.
		
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			So the Prophet ﷺ explained this to his
		
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			wife.
		
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			And once he calmed down, he said to
		
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			Khadija radiallahu anha, I fear for myself.
		
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			I'm afraid for myself.
		
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			So Khadija radiallahu anha immediately she understood what
		
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			he was saying.
		
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			She understood what he meant.
		
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			That this is what I'm afraid of.
		
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			Right?
		
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			So this is when she now starts to
		
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			speak.
		
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			Right?
		
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			And I want us to really contemplate and
		
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			reflect over these words of Khadija radiallahu anha.
		
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			She said to the Prophet ﷺ when he
		
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			said I'm afraid for myself, meaning I'm afraid
		
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			that I have been possessed by a demon
		
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			or whatever.
		
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			So Khadija radiallahu anha she says, كَلَّا وَاللَّهُ
		
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			لَا يُخْزِيكَ اللَّهُ أَبَدًا She says never.
		
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			By Allah.
		
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			Allah will never disgrace you.
		
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			Look at the confidence.
		
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			Look at how she responded.
		
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			She didn't just sit there and start crying
		
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			like other women would do.
		
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			Or start to respond negatively.
		
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			No.
		
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			She responded with full confidence.
		
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			And so she said no.
		
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			By Allah, Allah will never disgrace you.
		
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			She took an oath.
		
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			She said I say by Allah.
		
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			By Allah's name.
		
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			Allah will never disgrace you.
		
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			And then she gave the reasons for that.
		
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			Why?
		
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			She said you keep good relations with your
		
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			relatives.
		
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			You help the poor and the destitute.
		
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			You serve your guests generously.
		
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			And you assist those who deserve to be
		
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			assisted.
		
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			Those who are stricken by calamities, etc.
		
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			So she mentioned these qualities as evidence that
		
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			a person like this who has such noble
		
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			qualities, why would Allah allow something like that
		
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			to happen to him?
		
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			So she was basically reassuring him that whatever
		
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			has happened, it was definitely not something evil
		
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			or not from shaytan or the jinn, etc.
		
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			But then she did not suffice with that.
		
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			Right?
		
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			It's one thing for your loved ones to
		
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			give you reassurance.
		
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			Right?
		
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			Maybe they're just doing that to make you
		
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			feel good.
		
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			But they don't mean it.
		
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			Right?
		
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			So she didn't suffice with that.
		
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			She then got up and said let's go.
		
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			I have a cousin who is well versed
		
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			in religion.
		
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			So here she was talking about Waraqa ibn
		
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			Nawfal who in the days of Jahiliyyah he
		
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			had become a Christian and he used to
		
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			write the scriptures with Hebrew letters.
		
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			And he used to write the Injeel that
		
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			was given to Isa Alayhi Salaam.
		
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			He would write it.
		
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			He was a scribe.
		
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			And at this time he was a very
		
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			old man.
		
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			He had lost his eyesight.
		
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			So they went to Waraqa ibn Nawfal.
		
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			Khadija said to Waraqa, My cousin, listen to
		
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			the story of your nephew.
		
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			So Waraqa asked him, what have you seen?
		
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			So the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam told him
		
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			of what he had seen and what he
		
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			experienced.
		
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			So Waraqa immediately recognized who this was in
		
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			the cave with the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam.
		
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			Based on what?
		
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			Based on his knowledge.
		
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			He was a man of knowledge.
		
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			He had read the scriptures.
		
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			He knows the qualities of Jibreel and how
		
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			he comes to the Prophets, etc.
		
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			So Waraqa, right away he said, this is
		
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			the same one who keeps the secrets, An
		
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			-Namus, meaning Jibreel, who Allah had sent to
		
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			Musa.
		
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			And then look at what he says.
		
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			He says, I wish I was young and
		
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			could live up to the time when your
		
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			people will drive you out.
		
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			Imagine, Waraqa here, he's telling the Prophet Sallallahu
		
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			Alaihi Wasallam something that will happen to him
		
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			that is the Sunnah with Allah's messengers.
		
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			This happens to all of Allah's Prophets and
		
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			messengers.
		
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			But notice how he didn't say, I wish
		
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			I was there when you start preaching.
		
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			No, I wish I was there when you
		
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			need help, when your people are going to
		
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			drive you out.
		
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			So his main concern was, how can I
		
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			help him?
		
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			And that's why he ended up passing away.
		
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			And the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said that
		
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			he is in Jannah.
		
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			So even though he did not accept Islam
		
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			formally, obviously he would have if he was
		
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			alive.
		
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			So the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam was actually
		
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			baffled by what he said.
		
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			And he asked, will they really drive me
		
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			out?
		
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			Imagine, he's just experiencing this weird experience with
		
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			the angel.
		
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			And now he's being told that, I'm going
		
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			to be kicked out of my own hometown
		
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			by my own people.
		
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			So Waraqa he said, yes, anyone who came
		
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			with something similar to what you have brought,
		
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			was treated with hostility.
		
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			And if I will remain alive until the
		
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			day when you are driven out, then I
		
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			will be there to support you strongly.
		
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			However, Waraqa ended up passing away just a
		
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			few days after this.
		
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			Like literally a few days after this.
		
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			So this was a story that Aisha radiallahu
		
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			anha narrated concerning how the revelation started and
		
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			how Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam at the age
		
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			of 40 became a prophet of Allah subhanahu
		
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			wa ta'ala.
		
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			Now what we learned from this story is
		
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			not only that Khadija radiallahu anha supported the
		
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			Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam at this difficult moment
		
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			in his life, but we learned something else.
		
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			And this is what makes Khadija radiallahu anha
		
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			special.
		
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			Among all of the other women, this is
		
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			what makes her special.
		
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			Who can tell me what it is?
		
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			Not just that she stood there supporting him
		
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			at a very difficult time, doing everything she
		
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			could to be that support for him etc.
		
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			But something else.
		
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			Louder.
		
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			Yes, exactly.
		
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			She was the first one to believe.
		
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			She was the very first Muslim on the
		
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			face of the earth after the Prophet Sallallahu
		
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			Alaihi Wasallam.
		
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			And so this is something that makes her
		
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			special.
		
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			It's not just that she was his wife,
		
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			and his first wife for that matter, but
		
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			more importantly, she was the first believer.
		
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			And that's why when the scholars they mention
		
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			the first companions, what do they say?
		
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			They say the first among the men was
		
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			Abu Bakr, the first among the women was
		
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			Khadija, the first among the young was Ali,
		
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			the first among the slaves was Zayd ibn
		
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			Haritha.
		
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			But if you think about it, the first
		
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			out of all of these was none other
		
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			than Khadija radiallahu anha.
		
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			And not only that but she was also
		
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			the first to learn the early teachings of
		
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			Islam.
		
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			Like, you know, reciting the Qur'an, making
		
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			wudhu, how to pray, because the Prophet Sallallahu
		
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			Alaihi Wasallam would receive these teachings from Jibreel.
		
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			And, you know, the first one to learn
		
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			them would be Khadija radiallahu anha.
		
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			And so after that, Khadija radiallahu anha continued
		
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			supporting the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam through the
		
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			difficult days and years ahead.
		
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			As he confronted his people and his own
		
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			family members and faced the rejection and the
		
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			opposition that he did.
		
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			Along with verbal, mental and physical abuse.
		
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			She lived all of that.
		
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			She saw all of that.
		
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			And, you know, she stood by the Prophet
		
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			Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam offering whatever assistance that she
		
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			could.
		
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			Then in the 10th year of the Prophethood,
		
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			so now 10 years later.
		
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			So at the age of 40, when the
		
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			Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam was 40, that would
		
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			make Aisha radiallahu anha how old?
		
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			That would make her 55, right?
		
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			When the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam was 40,
		
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			she was 55.
		
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			So now 10 years later, when the Prophet
		
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			Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam is 50, and she is
		
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			65.
		
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			This 10th year of the Prophethood was an
		
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			extremely difficult year for the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi
		
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			Wasallam.
		
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			And that's why it's known as عام الحزن
		
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			the year of grief.
		
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			And so it was at this time that
		
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			the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam loses his uncle,
		
00:41:05 --> 00:41:08
			Abu Talib, who had been a huge support
		
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			for him in his mission, even though he
		
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			ended up dying as a kafir, without believing.
		
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			So now while the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam
		
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			is dealing with this tragic event in his
		
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			life, the death of his uncle who supported
		
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			him with his status, Abu Talib, he had
		
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			a status among Quraysh, he had a reputation.
		
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			No one could harm the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi
		
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			Wasallam because of Abu Talib.
		
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			And also financially, he used to help him.
		
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			Only two months after the death of Abu
		
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			Talib, the beloved wife of the Prophet Sallallahu
		
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			Alaihi Wasallam, and the person who was dearest
		
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			to him, Khadija radiAllahu anha, she ends up
		
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			passing away.
		
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			So we can see now why this year
		
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			is called the year of grief.
		
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			And so it was the most tragic time
		
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			for the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam because the
		
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			two most influential people in his life who
		
00:42:13 --> 00:42:17
			had supported him and helped him with his
		
00:42:17 --> 00:42:21
			mission, Abu Talib who offered the Prophet Sallallahu
		
00:42:21 --> 00:42:22
			Alaihi Wasallam with the physical support that he
		
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			did, and Khadija radiAllahu anha who supported him
		
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			with psychological support in addition to financial support
		
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			due to her business.
		
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			Suddenly these two pillars that the Prophet Sallallahu
		
00:42:37 --> 00:42:38
			Alaihi Wasallam was standing on collapsed.
		
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			And so the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam who
		
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			had the freedom of going around preaching the
		
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			message was now being blocked because his uncle
		
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			passed away.
		
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			And when the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam, who
		
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			would usually go home to find comfort with
		
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			his wife Khadija, he would go home to
		
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			find no one.
		
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			So it was a very difficult time for
		
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			him.
		
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			And the scholars say that there is a
		
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			wisdom in this happening at this particular time.
		
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			And that is so that the Muslims end
		
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			up having more trust in Allah rather than
		
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			the message being protected by Abu Talib and
		
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			supported by Khadija.
		
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			Now there would be more reliance upon Allah.
		
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			Because there was no one else after these
		
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			two individuals who would support the Prophet Sallallahu
		
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			Alaihi Wasallam in the same way.
		
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			So this would increase the trust that the
		
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			Muslims have on Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
		
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			Now let us conclude with the legacy that
		
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			Khadija radiAllahu anha left behind and the impact
		
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			it left on the life of the Prophet
		
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			Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam.
		
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			The Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam really loved Khadija
		
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			a lot and he was loyal to her.
		
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			And so even after her death, he would
		
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			always mention her in good.
		
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			And he would send food for her friends.
		
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			Why?
		
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			What is this loyalty?
		
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			What is it based on?
		
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			It's because Khadija radiAllahu anha was there with
		
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			the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam through all the
		
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			thin and the thick.
		
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			She stood with him when everyone else abandoned
		
00:44:35 --> 00:44:35
			him.
		
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			And this would sometimes cause jealousy among his
		
00:44:44 --> 00:44:45
			other wives.
		
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			And so after her, the most beloved of
		
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			his wives to him was Aisha radiAllahu anha.
		
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			And she would talk about that jealousy that
		
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			she had for Khadija.
		
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			She says, as we mentioned, that she was
		
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			never jealous of any of her co-wives
		
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			except for Khadija even though she had never
		
00:45:10 --> 00:45:11
			seen her.
		
00:45:12 --> 00:45:16
			And on one occasion, Aisha radiAllahu anha says
		
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			that she was angered by the Prophet Sallallahu
		
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			Alaihi Wasallam constantly mentioning Khadija, remembering her.
		
00:45:26 --> 00:45:30
			He would always remember and mention the great
		
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			times that he had with Khadija.
		
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			So he noticed that Aisha was bothered and
		
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			uncomfortable by that.
		
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			So he said to Aisha that her love
		
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			is something that Allah placed in his heart.
		
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			And on another occasion, the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi
		
00:45:53 --> 00:45:54
			Wasallam praised Khadija.
		
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			So Aisha radiAllahu anha said, wasn't she an
		
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			old woman who Allah has replaced you with
		
00:46:01 --> 00:46:02
			something that is better?
		
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			So the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam got angry
		
00:46:05 --> 00:46:05
			and said no.
		
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			By Allah, he did not replace her with
		
00:46:08 --> 00:46:09
			anyone better.
		
00:46:10 --> 00:46:13
			She had faith in me when everyone rejected
		
00:46:13 --> 00:46:13
			me.
		
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			She believed in me when the people disbelieved
		
00:46:16 --> 00:46:16
			in me.
		
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			She was comfortable with what she had when
		
00:46:20 --> 00:46:22
			the people had denied me.
		
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			And Allah has blessed me with children from
		
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			her.
		
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			And so Khadija radiAllahu anha, as we can
		
00:46:32 --> 00:46:34
			see, was someone very special.
		
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			But not only was she someone special to
		
00:46:41 --> 00:46:45
			the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam, but she was
		
00:46:45 --> 00:46:48
			also someone special in the eyes of Allah,
		
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			in the sight of Allah.
		
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			One day, and this was when she was
		
00:46:56 --> 00:47:00
			alive, Jibreel came to the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi
		
00:47:00 --> 00:47:04
			Wasallam and said, Khadija is coming to you
		
00:47:04 --> 00:47:04
			right now.
		
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			Basically, Jibreel was telling the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi
		
00:47:09 --> 00:47:12
			Wasallam, Khadija she's coming, she's coming to you
		
00:47:12 --> 00:47:15
			right now, and she's carrying some food for
		
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			you.
		
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			When she comes to you, tell her that
		
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			Allah is giving her salam, and tell her
		
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			that I am also giving her salam.
		
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			And so that's how special she was.
		
00:47:31 --> 00:47:35
			Imagine, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala sends Jibreel
		
00:47:36 --> 00:47:38
			all the way to the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi
		
00:47:38 --> 00:47:42
			Wasallam to convey Allah's salam to Khadija radiAllahu
		
00:47:42 --> 00:47:47
			anha, and then Jibreel, he understood how special
		
00:47:47 --> 00:47:50
			that is, he said, also convey my salam
		
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			to her.
		
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			And then Jibreel added, and give her the
		
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			glad tidings of a palace in Jannah that
		
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			is built of qasab, which is pearls or
		
00:48:02 --> 00:48:03
			jewels.
		
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			Within there will be no noise nor fatigue.
		
00:48:09 --> 00:48:12
			And so this hadith shows us how special
		
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			Khadija radiAllahu anha was.
		
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			Also, she was one of the four greatest
		
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			of women that ever lived.
		
00:48:22 --> 00:48:24
			The Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam says in a
		
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			hadith, the greatest women that ever set foot
		
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			on the earth are four.
		
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			They are four.
		
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			Who are they?
		
00:48:35 --> 00:48:36
			Who knows?
		
00:48:47 --> 00:48:50
			Okay, you got three right and one wrong.
		
00:48:53 --> 00:48:54
			In place of who?
		
00:48:56 --> 00:48:58
			Yeah, but in place of who?
		
00:48:59 --> 00:49:00
			Because you already mentioned four.
		
00:49:02 --> 00:49:02
			Yes.
		
00:49:03 --> 00:49:04
			No, no, no, not Fatima.
		
00:49:04 --> 00:49:06
			In place of Aisha, yes.
		
00:49:07 --> 00:49:08
			So the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said, the
		
00:49:08 --> 00:49:11
			four best women to set foot on the
		
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			earth are Maryam bint Imran, Khadija bint Khuwaylid,
		
00:49:16 --> 00:49:21
			Fatima bint Muhammad, and Asiya bint Muzahim.
		
00:49:22 --> 00:49:24
			And who is the greatest of all of
		
00:49:24 --> 00:49:24
			these four?
		
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			Maryam, yes.
		
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			As Allah says in the Qur'an, وَإِذْ
		
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			قَالَتِ الْمَلَائِكَ يَا مَرْيَمُ إِنَّ اللَّهَ اصْطَفَاكِ وَطَهَّرَكِ
		
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			وَاصْطَفَاكِ عَلَى نِسَاءِ الْعَالَمِينَ When the angel said,
		
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			Oh Maryam, Allah has chosen you and purified
		
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			you and chosen you out of all the
		
00:49:52 --> 00:49:54
			women of the worlds.
		
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			So Maryam was the best of them all.
		
00:49:57 --> 00:49:59
			Second best would be Khadija.
		
00:50:00 --> 00:50:04
			Second best would be Khadija, then Fatima, and
		
00:50:04 --> 00:50:05
			then Asiya.
		
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			And what's interesting to know is that all
		
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			of these women had something to do with
		
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			a prophet.
		
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			All of these women had something to do
		
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			with a prophet.
		
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			So two of them were the ones who
		
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			brought up prophets.
		
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			Who are they?
		
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			Yes, they gave Tarbiyah.
		
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			They brought up two prophets.
		
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			So Maryam brought up her son Isa.
		
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			And Asiya was the one who took care
		
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			of Musa, even though she was not his
		
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			mother.
		
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			And one was the wife of a prophet.
		
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			Who is that?
		
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			Khadija, right?
		
00:51:01 --> 00:51:02
			And one is the daughter of a prophet,
		
00:51:02 --> 00:51:03
			and that is Fatima.
		
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			All right, we're going to quickly conclude with
		
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			some of the lessons that we learned from
		
00:51:13 --> 00:51:15
			the life of Khadija.
		
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			The first lesson that we learned is that
		
00:51:25 --> 00:51:29
			Allah ﷻ chose a strong woman like Khadija
		
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			for the prophet ﷺ because that is what
		
00:51:35 --> 00:51:36
			he needed.
		
00:51:37 --> 00:51:43
			Soon he was going to face trials and
		
00:51:43 --> 00:51:44
			difficulties and hardships.
		
00:51:45 --> 00:51:49
			And he needed someone strong, a strong woman.
		
00:51:50 --> 00:51:56
			If he had married someone younger, she perhaps
		
00:51:56 --> 00:51:58
			would not be able to support him like
		
00:51:58 --> 00:51:59
			Khadija did.
		
00:52:02 --> 00:52:06
			And not only was she older, but she
		
00:52:06 --> 00:52:07
			was wise.
		
00:52:07 --> 00:52:09
			She was known for her wisdom and her
		
00:52:09 --> 00:52:12
			intelligence, as we have seen, right?
		
00:52:12 --> 00:52:14
			We saw how she reacted.
		
00:52:15 --> 00:52:17
			And only a wise and intelligent woman can
		
00:52:17 --> 00:52:17
			do that.
		
00:52:20 --> 00:52:22
			As they say, behind every great man there
		
00:52:22 --> 00:52:23
			is always a great woman.
		
00:52:30 --> 00:52:40
			The second lesson that we learned is that
		
00:52:44 --> 00:52:48
			the prophet's choice for Khadija ﷺ, who was
		
00:52:48 --> 00:52:52
			not a virgin, and she was older than
		
00:52:52 --> 00:52:56
			him, although he was young, and he could
		
00:52:56 --> 00:52:59
			have easily chosen the young women of Mecca.
		
00:52:59 --> 00:53:01
			What does this prove and what does it
		
00:53:01 --> 00:53:01
			show?
		
00:53:02 --> 00:53:04
			It shows us that the prophet ﷺ was
		
00:53:04 --> 00:53:08
			not the kind who was looking to please
		
00:53:08 --> 00:53:10
			his worldly desires.
		
00:53:11 --> 00:53:16
			In fact, after he became a prophet, when
		
00:53:16 --> 00:53:19
			Quraysh had enough of him, they wanted to
		
00:53:19 --> 00:53:23
			just stop him from preaching, they made him
		
00:53:23 --> 00:53:26
			an offer in exchange for stopping his da
		
00:53:26 --> 00:53:26
			'wah.
		
00:53:26 --> 00:53:28
			They said to him, if it is women
		
00:53:28 --> 00:53:30
			that you want, then choose whichever of the
		
00:53:30 --> 00:53:32
			women of Quraysh you want, and we will
		
00:53:32 --> 00:53:33
			marry ten of them to you.
		
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			So the options were before him, but he
		
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			did not have an interest for any of
		
00:53:39 --> 00:53:39
			that.
		
00:53:40 --> 00:53:43
			In fact, as we mentioned, he did not
		
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			marry any woman until after the death of
		
00:53:46 --> 00:53:47
			the prophet ﷺ.
		
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			And imagine, even that is after the age
		
00:53:50 --> 00:53:51
			of 50.
		
00:53:52 --> 00:53:55
			He is now after, he has passed the
		
00:53:55 --> 00:53:55
			age of 50.
		
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			So all this shows us that these claims
		
00:53:59 --> 00:54:02
			by the enemies of Islam, that our prophet
		
00:54:02 --> 00:54:06
			ﷺ was a womanizer, he was just after
		
00:54:06 --> 00:54:08
			marrying women, and that's why he has so
		
00:54:08 --> 00:54:10
			many women that he married, all of these
		
00:54:10 --> 00:54:12
			are baseless, baseless claims.
		
00:54:18 --> 00:54:25
			The third lesson that we learn is an
		
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			aspect of the personality of the prophet ﷺ,
		
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			and that is his loyalty to the people
		
00:54:32 --> 00:54:34
			who were close to him.
		
00:54:35 --> 00:54:38
			And so we're talking about years after her
		
00:54:38 --> 00:54:40
			death, he would respect her in this way.
		
00:54:41 --> 00:54:44
			He would slaughter sheep, and he would say,
		
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			send it for the friends of Khadija.
		
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			And on one occasion, there was the sister
		
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			of Khadija, her name was Hala.
		
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			She came, and the prophet ﷺ did not
		
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			know if it was her, but he said,
		
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			Oh Allah, allow it to be her.
		
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			Right?
		
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			Only because he wanted to be reminded of
		
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			Khadija.
		
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			So not only did he remember her, but
		
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			he kept on maintaining this relationship with her
		
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			friends.
		
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			And so there are people out there who
		
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			are very opportunist.
		
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			They would only befriend you, to use you,
		
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			and then once they're done, they'll forget about
		
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			you.
		
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			Right?
		
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			But that is not how our prophet ﷺ
		
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			was.
		
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			And Khadija is only one example.
		
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			There are many other examples of people who
		
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			really helped out the prophet ﷺ at a
		
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			time of need, and he would remember them,
		
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			and he would remain loyal to them.
		
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			The fourth lesson that we learn is the
		
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			positive effect of a righteous wife.
		
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			When the prophet ﷺ went to Khadija and
		
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			told her what had happened in the cave,
		
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			and then told her that he was afraid
		
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			for himself, what was her reaction?
		
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			Look at her reaction.
		
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			She said, Never.
		
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			By Allah, Allah will never disgrace you.
		
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			So she stood by him, and reassured him
		
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			that everything was going to be fine, and
		
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			she was trying to calm him down, and
		
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			she herself was not freaking out.
		
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			Not only that, but she also went the
		
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			extra mile and decided to find out from
		
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			a scholar of what exactly happened.
		
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			And so she took him immediately to her
		
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			cousin Waraqa.
		
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			And so all of this shows us the
		
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			importance of being a strong righteous wife who
		
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			will support her husband, especially when he is
		
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			on the mission of giving da'wah.
		
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			And finally, the last point that we can
		
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			mention here.
		
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			And this is a practical lesson that I
		
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			want us to practically benefit from
		
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			the stories of the lives of the sahabiyat.
		
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			When we go through these stories, you're going
		
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			to come across qualities of these women that
		
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			every single Muslimah should strive for.
		
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			So from the life of Khadija radiallahu anha,
		
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			we learn the following qualities.
		
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			Number one, quick to submit.
		
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			Right?
		
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			Immediately, without any hesitation.
		
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			She believed him.
		
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			And as we said, she was the first
		
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			to believe.
		
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			She didn't say, well, let me take my
		
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			time, let me think about it.
		
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			No, immediately.
		
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			And this was the case with not only
		
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			her, but other companions like Abu Bakr radiallahu
		
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			anha.
		
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			But this is what we learned from Khadija
		
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			radiallahu anha.
		
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			Quick to submit.
		
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			And this is something that, a quality that
		
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			we should strive for, where when we hear
		
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			something from Allah or from the Prophet salallahu
		
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			alayhi wasalam, the same thing.
		
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			We should not hesitate.
		
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			We should submit quickly.
		
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			Right?
		
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			With no hesitation.
		
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			We shouldn't say, oh well, I need time.
		
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			I can't do this right now.
		
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			Right?
		
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			We find from the life of Khadija radiallahu
		
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			anha that she was quick to submit.
		
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			And again, this is the case with many
		
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			of the companions.
		
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			Number two, having wisdom and using wisdom and
		
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			intelligence over emotions and moods.
		
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			Khadija radiallahu anha did not react with her
		
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			emotions, which is how most people would react.
		
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			Right?
		
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			Where her husband is coming terrified like this,
		
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			she would react emotionally.
		
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			Right?
		
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			I mean most women would probably react emotionally.
		
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			But Khadija radiallahu anha, she placed wisdom and
		
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			her intellect over her emotions and her moods.
		
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			Number three, showing strength in difficult times.
		
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			Right?
		
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			Which is not easy.
		
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			It's not easy when you have a very
		
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			difficult situation to be strong and steadfast.
		
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			Number four, Khadija radiallahu anha was among the
		
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			strangers.
		
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			What do we mean by strangers?
		
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			The Prophet ﷺ told us that Islam began
		
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			as something strange.
		
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			Meaning in the early days of Islam, the
		
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			Muslims were looked at as strangers.
		
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			And Khadija radiallahu anha was one of them.
		
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			But she didn't care if people look at
		
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			her weird and if she stands out because
		
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			she's a Muslimah.
		
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			Right?
		
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			She didn't care because holding on to Islam
		
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			was more important and more valuable for her.
		
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			Likewise, today in the times in which we're
		
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			living in, it's difficult to practice Islam when
		
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			everyone around you is not practicing Islam.
		
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			Right?
		
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			The Prophet ﷺ mentioned that this day will
		
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			come in the same hadith.
		
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			He said, Islam began as something strange and
		
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			it will return to being something strange.
		
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			Number five, being a support and showing positivity
		
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			and not discouraging nor showing negativity.
		
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			Again, we see this in how Khadija radiallahu
		
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			anha, she responded and she reacted.
		
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			She showed, you know, optimism.
		
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			Right?
		
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			She was saying that, no, it's impossible that,
		
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			you know, something evil has happened.
		
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			She used encouraging words, not discouraging words.
		
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			She didn't start to blame him.
		
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			Right?
		
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			She didn't say, oh, why did you go
		
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			out to the mountain?
		
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			You should not have done that.
		
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			You should not have gone all these nights
		
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			to the cave.
		
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			Now this is as a result of what
		
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			you did.
		
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			Right?
		
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			And finally, the last quality that she shows
		
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			is prioritizing family over personal ambitions.
		
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			She was a successful businesswoman and obviously being
		
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			devoted to a business requires a lot of
		
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			time.
		
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			But when she had a family and she
		
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			had children, she gave priority to that over
		
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			her personal ambitions.
		
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			And this is a quality that every Muslim
		
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			should have where, you know, you should prioritize
		
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			your family over your personal endeavors and your
		
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			personal ambitions.
		
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			That should be secondary to your family because
		
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			you are now going to be raising an
		
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			entire generation.
		
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			And, you know, your children are, you are
		
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			the first teacher of your children.
		
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			Whatever they learn, whatever they learn, they're going
		
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			to first learn it from you.
		
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			And so we need to prioritize that.
		
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			So these are some of the lessons that
		
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			we learned from the story of Khadijah.
		
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			Next week we're going to move on to
		
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			Aisha, رضي الله عنها بإذن الله.
		
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			So we'll conclude here for today, insha'Allah.
		
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			سبحانك اللهم و بحمدك أشهد أن لا إله
		
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			إلا أنت أستغفرك و أتوب إليك والسلام عليكم
		
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			و رحمة الله و بركاته