Kamal El-Mekki – Sadness

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The speakers discuss the concept of sadness and how it can lead to either joy or pain. They use narratives from various sources to explain the sadness of Islam, including those associated with the belief that the believer is sad. The speakers also discuss the use of sadness to replace action and help the poor or those with suffering. They stress the importance of sadness in bringing happiness and joy to believers, but it is not a reward. They also discuss the negative consequences of sadness, including negative emotions and actions, and stress the importance of learning to live with joy and avoiding feeling sad.

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			hamdulillah Hello Bella Alameen wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah I mean while he was happy here
Jemaine about
		
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			today are hookah is about sadness.
		
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			And it's about this topic because many Muslims think that the believer is in a perpetual state of
sadness, and that the deen or religion and religiosity is linked to sadness that that is the way of
the believer, a young man wants came to me. And he said, How do you smile? He said, How can you
smile knowing that there is the grave and the punishment and the alpha and all that? And the reality
is I will Booker de la and who smiled. So there has to be something wrong with his understanding. Or
perhaps he has read quotes from the righteous who lived before us. And hustled boiserie said, the
believer is sad in the evening, and wakes upset and he has no alternative to that. And you don't
		
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			have any choice but this is how you live sad in the evening and you wake up sad. It is narrated that
if not Abbas said, how can we be happy with death behind us? I need death right behind us and the
grade grave ahead of us. And the piano is awaiting us. And our path meaning even our path to Jannah
is suspended over the hellfire and we have to stand before Allah azza wa jal saying how can we be
happy with all that?
		
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			Or Salahuddin Rahim Allah who said, How can I smile while al Masjid Al Aqsa is captured?
		
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			The good news is all these narrations they're not authentic, they cannot authentically be taken back
to the person saying it. And even if they were authentic, the argument and the proof and the
guidance is in the Quran and the Sunnah, not in the statement of other people. The danger of sadness
brothers and sisters, is that one if it's associated with the religion, that the believer is sad
that the believer doesn't have fun,
		
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			that the believer is always burdened with the trials and tribulations and the deaths and the
suffering of others in the ummah. The result of that is that you see that being obedient to Allah
azza wa jal equals constantly being sad. And that explains why in the minds of so many people,
happiness is away from Islam. Or if you want to be happy, it's going to be in the Maaseiah or in the
Haram or in the disobedience of Allah subhanaw taala because the equation has been put in their
minds that the believer the obedient, the one who's worshipping is the one who is constantly sad,
and that's why you hear from so many people, I want to enjoy my
		
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			And then I'll start practicing Islam as if it's an impediment or it will impede their happiness. The
other thing is, perpetual sadness slows you down. It robs you of your energy of your hope of
optimism of action.
		
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			Or at least you'll feel that you're a part of a failed Oma. And the truth is that sadness is neither
is neither praised, nor is it required in Islam. There is not anything that praises feeling sad in
Islam, nor is it required in Islam. Conversely, happiness is not frowned upon in Islam, nor is it an
indication that you don't care about the next life, or that you don't care about the state of
Muslims. So someone might ask, How can you not be sad? Don't you see the situation of Muslims around
the world? Don't you see the poverty, the oppression and all of this and the deaths and all that?
The scholars said, the poor and the oppressed? are not in need of your sadness and your negativity?
		
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			Nor does it benefit any of them? And many people have been sad over the state of the Ummah, did that
help the OMA? Does that sadness benefit the poor? Did it feed the hungry?
		
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			So they said, all it does is that it replaces action. And instead of going and springing into
action, you just replace it with feeling sad, and it causes the person to feel good. What does that
mean? Yeah, it can it confirms to them I do care about the OMA, therefore, I am sad, while others,
they're happy and they're laughing and they're enjoying themselves, that means they don't care for
them. So he started to feel good about yourself for being sad, because it's proof in your mind that
you care about the OMA and therefore because you're doing something good, you're exempt from doing
something physically to help the homeless.
		
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			So as the scholars say, our sadness does not benefit the ummah. Nor is it, obedience to Allah
subhanaw taala being sad, it's but they said if it were a temporary feeling, it would be okay.
Meaning you use it, too. As an anchor, you know, someone gets lost in his love of cars or money or
desires. And it you can use that to move forward. Or they said, the scholars mentioned sadness is
okay. Again, we're talking about it as a temporary feeling. Not a perpetual, they said it's okay. If
if it's the pain of falling short, if it's the pain of fallen short, you had to do something someone
feels the pain or the sadness for not waking up for a pm or not waking up for Fragile here. It's
		
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			temporary and it's praised. Or they said it's the pain that removes and ruins the pleasures of
disobedience. Someone follows their desire, and they're disobeying Allah azza wa jal, and then that
pleasure is cut short because now they feel guilty for disobeying Allah subhanaw taala. Here it
would be somewhere where it's praiseworthy, but again, it's temporary as well.
		
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			Or others might have heard that the Prophet sallallahu sallam was mortal sin Allah Hassan. Yeah. And
he continuous in sadness from one sadness to another, just living and continuous studies of no
playing Rahim Allah in his book, My daughter, just Salah keen, he says, first of all, this is not
authentic. And there is an unknown narrative in the chain of narrations. And then he argues, and
Nabi SallAllahu sallam was protected from the sadness over issues of this dunya and Allah subhanaw
taala forbade him over the sadness of over the kuffar. Yeah, and he don't feel sad for the
disbelievers. And don't feel sad because it turned away from you. And Allah Subhana Allah forgive
		
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			all his sins. So he's saying someone who has these descriptions, where would sadness come to them,
work in sudden has come in their life. Then he says rather when you look at the life of the problem,
and you look at his behavior and his mannerisms, you don't find a sad person. He was always smiling
as described, always harsh and Bhushan, easy to deal with easygoing that is not the mark or the
description of someone who is perpetually sad, even to me or him Hola. He says, As for sadness,
Allah subhanaw taala, did not commanded, nor did His prophets, Allah Allah Allah Salam, rather Allah
subhanaw taala forbade it in some situations, even though these situations were related to affairs
		
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			of the dean, what does that mean? Yeah, and even in issues where you would think I should be upset
for the religion side for the religion, Allah subhanaw taala forbade it even in these instances. So
because someone might justify that I'm not sad for myself, I'm sad for the ummah. I'm not sad for
myself. I'm sad for the Muslims, he saying even in situations of the Oman Muslims, as for example,
Allah subhanaw taala says, Well, you know what, I don't want to move alone in country many
		
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			This verse was revealed after or hurt after the defeat and the loss at or hurt Allah subhanaw taala
reveals do not become, do not lose heart and do not be saddened and you will be superior if you are
true believers. Like wasn't sort of none. What are they him? What are the cathedral it's a Mayan
Quran. Allah Subhana Allah is telling the proper Salam Do not be sad over them and do not be
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			something where you would think it's praiseworthy to be sad, and maybe so seldom. He would be so
saddened when the kuffaar would reject his message when they would not accept Islam, he would be so
saddened that Allah subhanaw taala had to tell him in our words together, take it easy, don't be too
don't kill yourself in grief, because they didn't accept the message. So even in an area like this,
Allah Azza reinstalling the salam to not be sad in that situation.
		
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			Unlike was when the Prophet Salam says to Abu Bakr and Allah recorded it in the Quran, Loretta has
an in Allah humma Anna Do not be sad indeed Allah is with us. Even Taymiyah Rahim Allah continues,
he says
		
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			that he can be under who lives Lieberman far because sadness does not bring forth any benefit, what
I add for Medora and it does not push away any harm philosopher editor fee, so there is no benefit
in sadness. And then he says something he says and whatever has no benefit in it, Allah azza wa jal
would not command it. True, Allah Allah does not benefit some does not command something that has no
benefit in it whatsoever. So sadness does not push away any harm and it does not bring any benefit.
So why would Allah command something like that?
		
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			Then he explained that limited sadness over trials of this dunya are not a problem neither
acceptable and it's okay. So long as there is no sin or explicit expression of displeasure,
accompanying it, someone becomes sad, and they start to in their, with their tongue express
displeasure against Allah or the decrees of Allah or say things that are haram and so on and so
forth. So, the scholars then said, those who are sad over the state of the Ummah, they are not
rewarded for the sadness for the sadness itself, but they might be rewarded for having a good heart,
they might be rewarded for the love of their brothers and sisters of Islam, but the sadness itself
		
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			there is no reward for it whatsoever. The scholars said from the aims of the shaytaan is that he
wants to bring sadness to the believers, and from the aims of the Sharia is to bring happiness to
the believers.
		
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			Allah azza wa jal says in nama network administrator Bonnie Leah ZUN, Alladhina Alma Amanu, that
these conspiracies and private talks are from the Shaitan to bring grief or sadness to the
believers.
		
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			Like wasn't sort of Al Emraan. What Duma I need to Allah azza wa jal says the disbelievers they
would love to see you in suffering. But from the on the flip side, the aims of the Sharia, when the
Prophet sallallahu Sallam explained of the deeds that are most beloved to Allah, the top one was to
bring happiness into the heart of the believer.
		
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			So it's not that world where the believer is supposed to be sad or praised for being sad. It's the
exact opposite. There is not any idea or verse in the Quran, commanding or even praising sadness.
		
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			On the contrary, we have the Prophet lump in his dua, he would say Allahumma inni or who the mean al
Hamid when husband, Oh Allah, I seek refuge in You from worries, no burden, some worries and
sadness.
		
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			Hola, hola. Hola. Hola. majesta husana will enter the husband leadership test. Allah has an
internship there and there is no such thing as saying nothing is easy except what You have deemed or
decreed to be easy. And you're the one who will make sadness easy and sadness go away. We don't see
anywhere where you're praised for being sad and there is also elements making dua, to not be sad. So
how can it be one of the attributes of the believer, the righteous before us, they conquered? They
attracted people to the religion of Allah azza wa jal, and there is no way someone who is
overwhelmed with sadness and borderline depression could achieve all those kinds of things. And we
		
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			have the advice of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam Yes, 01 to zero, make things easy and don't make
things difficult. We're best chirawa Tuna Firo bring glad tidings and do not turn people away and
turn people off.
		
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			and so many other verses in the Quran and Allah subhanaw taala will mention in sort of the non
monogamy Lasala hum indica in our own Wahoo our movement philosophy and who higher tempo Eva,
whoever does good deeds from a believing man or woman while they're believers, then we will grant
them a good life. This is what Allah subhanaw taala wants for the believers. He doesn't want sadness
and depression for them.
		
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			Also, Allah Subhana Allah says in Allah Bharara Lavina in the righteous are in a name, which is like
a goodness and in pleasure. If you claim Rahim Allah he comments on this, he says, ha for you due to
him a third off. He says this will be the disbelief that so the believers in their pleasure and in
their happiness, and the disbelievers in their unhappiness, he said this will be in their three
homes, their first home on Earth, they only work when they're on earth, then in their grave. And
then in the Africa. He's saying the believers will be happy in their grave and in this world and in
the Africa and the disbelievers the opposite in all three.
		
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			And so on and so forth. We see a lot of evidence and for brevity of time, obviously we cannot go
into all of it. But that is the situation and that is the case. And it can't be that the believer is
supposed to feel perpetually sad, even over issues of religion. It's a temporary feeling. And if it
doesn't translate into some kind of action or some kind of benefit, then there is no benefit in it.
To begin with a hula colada was tough for a lot of Emily welcome Gina. You know, first off through
fire hose and Mr. Frane ask Allah azza wa jal first forgiveness Indeed, those who ask for his
forgiveness show prosper.
		
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			hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah Hill, I mean, what early he was so happy
to hear Jermaine about the purpose of this hotbar was to readjust how we understand and our attitude
towards sadness. And it's possible to make an entire football just on how to cure and how to
alleviate sadness. But in the second half, but we'll just look at a few quick points. The first
thing that scholars mentioned, is to remember that everything and all that happens is according to
the decree of Allah subhanho wa taala. And that your sadness does not change anything. As they
mentioned, if someone's son dies, whether they're sad or not, whether they're patient or sad, it
		
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			does not bring their son back. So there is not much benefit to being sad for extended periods of
time. Then they mentioned the importance of Salah and
		
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			that how a Nabi SallAllahu Sallam they describe that whenever something concerned him or bothered
him or caused him worry, he would rush to the prayer immediately. And there's a famous statement
that goes that the distance between your problem and the solution is equal to the distance between
your forehead and your place of sujood meaning the salah is a solution and many people now be a
little these kinds of things when they hear these things. And Allah subhanaw taala says and sort of
hedge Welaka adna Alonso and NACA God who saw Goroka be Maya Kowloon, South Africa be my opinion
that we know Allah says We certainly know that your chest is constrained and grieved by what they
		
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			say. This is one of the kuffaar are constantly attacking in the BISAZZA limb and Allah is telling
him we know that your heart is constricted from what they're saying about you. And then the answer
for sub Babraham the Arabic so Allah subhanaw taala told him the solution is in your disbelief. And
that brings us to the next point The Scholars say the vicar of Allah azza wa jal and Allah subhanaw
taala already said this in the Quran, Allah with Aquila hit autominuten Kulu isn't it through the
remembrance of Allah that the hearts find their peace and find their content? The scholars also
mentioned that you can avoid that which causes you to feel sad. And they give an excellent example.
		
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			When the Prophet sallallahu Sallam requested and asked of what she who is the killer of his uncle
Hamza have not been Nepali. He asked him to not show his face to him. Because every time he sees
them, it will remind him of that sadness. So the scholar said, it is reasonable and acceptable, that
if something brings you constant sadness, then it's okay to avoid it and to like if it's a person or
if it's a place or something like that. So
		
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			this and perhaps in a future hot bowl
		
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			expound upon these points, but these are just a few pointers. But the most important thing is that
we have the right attitude towards feeling sad. It doesn't mean you don't care for the Ummah it
doesn't mean you are not religious. And it doesn't mean that if you're religious, you're constantly
sad or that you cannot enjoy yourself with that we ask Allah azza wa jal to make us of those who
recognize the truth as clear truth and follow the best of it, and to make us of those who recognize
falsehood as clear falsehood and abstain from it for Allahumma leggera dunya Akira Hamina Well, I'm
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