Kamal El-Mekki – Manners

			When this the great scholar Savannah
		

			Rahim Allah he was.
		

			He heard someone came and told him that a group of people were speaking bad speaking ill of him
saying some bad things about them. So he sent them a bowl of dates with it a message. He said, it
has come to my attention that you have assigned to me and you have given me some of your good deeds.
I couldn't find anything with which they Thank you except this bowl of dates. So please accept it
from me. You'll give me something really great. Good deeds. So thank you very much. It's Sunday. How
about that the next time someone does something bad to you send them some chocolates, some candy and
a note. Thank you very much. I heard you.
		

			You heard what are they going to do with you? Thank you for the chocolate. so embarrassed now.
Right? You know when you consider and Nabi sallallahu Sallam he put up with a lot. He put up with a
lot from the Arabs a lot from the Bedouins, these grown men who gave them therapy. He taught them
every aspect of life. One day, the problem is sitting in his home and a man just walks in. He's
sitting on the floor and man just walks in
		

			processes or just
		

			go out and say salam aleikum esta teach them everything. One day the problem is combing his hair.
And he noticed is through a crack in the door. There's someone watching him.
		

			Can you imagine the things you have to deal with? So it's coming, it's harder than you notice with
some guys is burning a hole into you and his eyes are looking him the whole time. So the poster
gives him a mix a gesture towards him with the comb, like as if he would strike him with it, to
bring it to his attention. How much do they have to put up with? From from people misbehaving? We
all know the Hadith of the man who urinated in the masjid. Yeah. And the companions lunged at him to
stop him. And the person said, Let him finish. And then when he was done, they poured water over it.
Then he explained to them and gently now let's do this experiment. Do it in your local town. Not in
		

			this mustard though. But have the chef teach this, this hadith between mother and then after you
pray shall have a brother get up and stand in the corner of the masjid. Preferably have him have
with him some green tea or something like that, and just pour it into the corner. But
		

			it's all hypothetical. Don't do it. Okay. What do you think will happen? I guarantee you that even
though we spent an hour talking about Gentlemen, I think we'll still beat him up.
		

			Grab him, we'll find some footwear, there's massagin had pebbles and sand, we have carpets beat
them. We'll make some excuse to beat the guy up, you know? So how do we get to the point where our
manners shine through First, we become different like that we change like that. Now, is it possible
to change? And the answer is Yes, a lot. So again, would not require anything of you unless it was
attainable. Right? There's no one to ask you for something that's impossible to do. Everything is
logical, everything, everything is fair in Islam. The pastor said lamb explained it. And people a
lot of times they want the quick fix, they want the magical formula. A lot of times it needs
		

			training and practice and pushing yourself for years and years on end. And it's that simple. There
is no formula there is no magical statement that someone will tell you what some chef has to say to
you and you will change you just have to keep keep doing it. The process of setting them said in
them and return them. Yeah, knowledge is through learning constant learning. Right? And then he also
mentioned when he moved
		

			to Harlem and hidden is what does it mean when you're
		

			not like that? hallym that you forget that honey? Yeah, honey, someone who contains their anger
remains calm doesn't lose their temper.
		

			So he's saying and he'll move to become hiding like that. By practicing it over and over again. It's
not that some statement that we make the next day, you know, call us trying to say something might
mean to me see, you got the patience all of a sudden, but you have to put effort into it. And it's
training. Someone says something, if anyone says anything good to me, I immediately lose my cool,
what can I do? Just train yourself to not lose your cool. You know, you can do all the other things
you can make, although you can change your position, all these things. But there's nothing there's
no formula I'm going to give you some magical data will make you change it. Just keep doing it. Keep
		

			putting effort. thing is we don't put effort a lot of times and we'll make excuses for being wrong
and for doing things incorrectly. Someone will tell you give you good advice, brother, I noticed you
always do that. That's my personality. That's who I am. That's how I've always been. Don't you want
to improve then you make excuses for being bad. Give me a reason why you should improve. So
		

			I'll conclude with just more Hadith about the importance of good luck and good manners in Islam.
		

			Who asked the Prophet sallallahu Sallam of the top two things that people take
		

			to gender Yeah, the top two things that take people to gender and the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said
top one law well, husband takala been God conscious, always aware of the fact that I was watching
you, and good manners. These are the top two things that ticket a paradise. Then I've heard the
alarm on who asked them to be solo seldom about the top two things that will take people into the
Hellfire and episodes Elon responded and some went for the mouth and the sexual organs, the mouth,
what comes out of the mouth, cursing, line, backbiting, spreading rumors, cussing, what's all that
bad manners? So we see good manners one of the top two things that take people to paradise and bad
		

			manners one of the top two things that take people to the Hellfire or
		

			one of the things about about the acts of worship is that they came to have an impact on your man's
look at the acts of worship and most of them have something to do with your manners that shows you
how important manners are in Islam. Allah says we're up in the salaat in the Salatin, Han and Sasha
Mancha established the salah the solo prevent the fat shark before his and the reprehensible acts.
		

			And as far as he's concerned, fellow Rafa wala for Sukkot alleged
		

			you have the act of worship hides, then you have the mannerisms, no argumentation, no fighting No,
no vain talk in hajj, you have fast in the act of worship and the impact it has on your club,
someone curses you or something, say something rude to you. And your response is in East LA and one
in New Zealand, I am fasting, I am fasting. So even the act of worship were designed to improve and
to impact our flock so far, be it from a Bolivian man or woman to think that they can just put
effort into the act of worship and neglect how they treat people and how they deal with people. And
this deals with Muslims and non Muslims. The verse we said, we're at the heart of
		

			the ignorant people, when they come to them with harsh statements and harsh words. They respond with
words of kindness. Many of us think if it's a conference call us doesn't matter. If it's a
conference, I can curse him. And you find people there's some people, Christian everybody all the
time like that. But the process seldom said the believer is not listening and he constantly cursing,
not justifiable cursing, non justifiable cursing, no, you don't current it's not a full up. It's not
a mannerism of the believer constantly cursing, constantly hating everybody. And there are people
who live like that. And I'll close with that.
		

			Because we've seen our show that of the guy who's who lives in the West, and he's so miserable. He's
so miserable. Yeah. And I've met people like that. They just curse everybody. They just see a guy
walking through dices. Good morning, sir. Good morning, sir. When the pastures
		

			are good. Then they see someone driving over turn the car over your head. But why are you here yet?
If you're so miserable. Where are you? Why are you here? Some people love to live in misery. And
I'll close by telling a story about one of my roommates. This man always wanted to live in a state
of perpetual anger, hatred, and just misery. So I'm working on my computer over here. He's on the
other side over here. He calls me over Come on. Come on, show you something I come. And he's showing
me some caffeine and something the prophet SAW Selim severely or something like that. So go back to
my workstation. Now I'm upset. Then tomorrow's Okay. Come on. I want to show you some I go and he's
		

			showing me. He showed me something very offensive. I only want to describe it. And it's something
happening in the Muslim land. Okay, now I go back, I'm fuming next day. So come on, let me show you
something. I came. And he's like, I told Listen, if you're going to show me something that will
irritate me, I don't live like that. Okay. I don't seek out things that will irritate me all day and
I stay in a state of anger and hatred and cursing all day. Okay, he was looking at me like, what?
Seriously? That's how we roll. That's how
		

			we do stay and grow the times we keep cursing people. That's how we get the energy to keep cursing
people. That's not a believer and the plus of them cared for people. He cared for people so much
that the grief the person until only Allah could have told us this there's something internal
happening with the process and this is in surah and calf first number six, and maybe maybe Salama
tells him
		

			further Allah kabocha anessa
		

			you're going to kill yourself perhaps you will kill yourself in grief over their footsteps. They're
turning away I thought of him turning away from you that they don't accept this message. We never we
would never have known how much the person was hurt when the people didn't follow Islam had it not
been for this purse. How much he cared for people. And here's a guy walking around cursing
everything even cats, dogs everything. What is your issue? Is this the way of your profits or loss
from see a Muslim man from
		

			his description what kind of Hashem Basha that
		

			Not always cheerful always in a good mood, you don't see him and except that he is smiling. So with
that, then a reminder for us to step it up a notch when it comes to a flap to being kind to smiling
to being gentle with one another Muslim and non Muslim parents for being an attentive audience a lot
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