Ismail Kamdar – Ramadan 2019 #16 – Forgive Your Children

			salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala rasulillah. So today I
want to take a look at one of my favorite verses from Surah Yusuf. And usually our use of is a surah
that's very close to the hearts of many of us. It's really one of the most beautiful stories in the
Quran. It's just full of so many lessons. And there's one lesson on the focus on today, which I
don't hear people speaking about that often. And that is towards the very end of surah Yusuf when
the brothers of use of you know, speak to the Father, about use of being alive, and they found him
and they say, all lujah Banda Kahlua burner stove villanelle no burner in acuna, hottie and they say
		

			oh, Father, forgive us for ourselves, right, because we were mistaken. Also for a stock Judah Kumara
be in the hall for him. The father said jacobellis um said, your Lord will forgive you. Because he
is most forgiving, Most Merciful. Now, the lesson I want us to take from this is the importance of
forgiving our children, for the mistakes that they make.
		

			You know, many parents take a very unforgiving stance towards the children. They, you know, they
want the children to be perfect. And as soon as they make a first mistake, as soon as they make a
first major blunder, you know, they will write them off, they want to cut off ties with them. You
know, they say things like, I'll never forgive you. This is not from the sunlight. This is not from
the way of Islam. The first thing we need to understand as parents is that our children are humans
like us, just as recent days, but their sins may be different from our own. And it's hard for a
parent to see this and to understand this because you've seen your child grow up, you remember a
		

			time when your child was innocent, right when your child didn't even think about since. But you have
to realize that once your child hits puberty, once they become adults, according to Islam, then
shame on is going to tempt them, and their own desires are going to tempt him. And as they're still
young, inexperienced systems haven't really learned how to control their desires or deal with the
temptations that come from shavon. They are going to slip up and make mistakes, right? Even when
they get older, they're going to slip up and make mistakes, because each of us has reached a point
in our lives where we don't make mistakes. And so as parents, we have to take a more forgiving
		

			approach to our children if we want to help them to reach China. I mean, how many of us can see that
our kids have done something worse than what the brothers of us have had done to him. Think about
the brothers of use of Allah He salam, they
		

			drew him in a while causing him to become a slave and to literally disappear from their lives for
decades. They father did not see his son for 30 or 40 years depending on you know, on which
generation you look at the hadn't seen him for decades. And because of this year, grieved so much
that he had become blind. I want you to think about this. Imagine being in that kind of situation.
And then your sons ask you for forgiveness for that. And still seeing my dog will forgive you
because he's most forgiving most most people know and take that a computer to anything in our lives.
How many of us can see that our children have done something worse than this, right worse than try
		

			to kill their own brother and sell him off into slavery. So the lesson that we need to take today
from this beautiful verse of the Quran. Allah is Haku Rahim as he stated in this verse, Allah is
most forgiving, Most Merciful. And as the servants of Allah fool, Rahim, we also must be forgiving
and merciful to our family and our friends and everybody we deal with, especially our children. Our
children need our to us. They need our help, they need our guidance. We cannot be there as people
who chase them away from the dean, we need to be people who bring him closer to Allah subhanho wa
Taala and show them the way back and we need to be there to help them find their way back to allow
		

			an everyday go astray. Because at the end of the day, every person has their own test. Everybody has
their own difficulties. Everybody faces different challenges in life. Our job is to help people get
back to Allah not to push them further away. Allah help us to follow in the footsteps of the
prophets and to follow the example Allah help us to be as forgiving to each other as Jakub Ali
Salaam, and Yusuf Ali Salaam were to the brothers of use of and Allah Subhana Allah protect us from
falling into family feuds or family disputes. He protect us from cutting off ties with each other,
		

			to the story of use of is full of so many lessons, and really, you know, take some time to just sit
and reflect on the study, you'll be absolutely amazed at what you can derive from it. And so we end
with that verse in the who all fool him indeed
		

			What is most forgiving most merciful join is last night's please ask Allah for forgiveness for you
for me for all of us. Walker Dhawan
		

			was Salam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh