Special course by Yayasan Ta’lim & Arees University. Conducted by Dr Isam Rajab. PURIFICATION OF THE SOUL (session 2)
Isam Rajab – Purification Of The Soul EP 2
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The speakers discuss the importance of the concept of "good deed" and the shaper's advice on purifying intentions. They stress the need to be mindful of one's actions and show one's true intentions to achieve success. The speakers also emphasize the importance of avoiding criticism and showing one's true intentions to achieve success. They stress the need to be patient and show one's true intentions to achieve success. The speakers also touch on the negative impact of negative wishes on one's health and success, and stress the importance of being aware of one's past and not mistaking one's will for others.
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So Monica,
can you hear me inshallah
everybody can hear me in the back.
Do we have everyone?
If you're not here please raise your hand.
slurred hamdu Lillah wa salatu salam ala rasulillah
Amanda Medan
Welcome to the second session of the purification of the soul module. We are still on page one.
Okay, and hopefully we try to go fast today inshallah.
So we are at the last paragraph
where
it says, Satan profits by frightening people from being accused of ostentatious,
ostentatious, nice means hypocrisy.
Satan profits by frightening people from being accused of hypocrisy.
For a person might avoid doing that which is good for fear of being considered ostentatious. being considered hypocrites. What does that mean?
Many times, some people want to do something good. Giving in charity,
helping someone. But then they say, What will people say? What if people thought, I'm doing this to show off? Let's not do it. You want to be sincere. But at the end of the day, did you do the good deed? You didn't? Why didn't you do it because of fear of being accused of hypocrisy.
But then the good deed wasn't done, it was not done. So that's how the shavon is benefiting. He is stopping you from doing the deed. He made you feel that you might be HIPAA hypocrite. Now, the solution is what it doesn't mean that yes, you should show off, no, do the deed, do the good deed and try to purify your intention.
Yes, you don't want to be hypocrites, because you know that if you did something, only to show off only for the sake of people, not for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala Yes, you will not get the reward.
But on the other hand, remember that there is someone who's in need, maybe this money will benefit a family, maybe this good act that you could help physically, mentally, time, whatever it is, could help someone, so do it. That's a good deed. Don't stop doing a good deed just because you are afraid. It might be hypocrisy, it might be showing off, do the good deed and purify your intention. That's one of the ways of the shape and to stop people from doing the good deed. What if I was showing off? So let's not do it? No. Do it and try to be sincere. That's the best way to do it. So is this sentence clear? You'll notice a lot of people they start doing the deed because of that.
This is from the shaper. Nobody is telling you you have to be hypocrite you have to show off. But don't stop doing the good deed. Do the good deed and try to purify your intention
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rationality and peace of mind.
Whoever believes that he can totally avoid people's scorn and criticism is meant is crazy.
The statement in Arabic Moncada, now Yes, Lama will find in NASA IBM for home in June. Someone who thinks that he will be protected he will be free from people's criticism is crazy. He's insane. Why? Here's one thing, are we or aren't we perfect?
Do we have or don't we have shortcomings?
We do. Right? So
do we think that people would never criticize us?
Even if we were perfect?
how close we will be to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
was the Prophet sallallahu wasallam criticized or not?
Was he being accused of
magic
poetry. Other things was he wasn't he who you are to think that you will be free from people's criticism.
This is important because some
People they become upset. They become impatient. How come they say this about me? How dare they say this about me who you are, who do you think you are? Even if you are the perfect person, even Allah azza wa jal himself, our Creator,
Allah says in the Quran, Allah, Allah who do ye de la him Allah even Allah
was criticized, and He is the Creator or less Pamela wirkkala. To do the Jews said, the hand of Allah is stingy.
They attribute it children to Allah subhanho wa Taala
will have the will. So who do you think you are to think that you will be free from criticism?
This will make you easy. When you listen to some criticism. You should expect that no matter how perfect your action, no matter how hard you try, there will be still people criticizing. Don't worry about that the best before you people who are much better than you. They were criticized. You will never ever, no matter whatever you try, people will still criticize you. There is a beautiful story of Java. This is a funny character in Arabic. I don't know if you heard this name before. This man.
He had a donkey at the time they didn't have cars. So he was with his son.
His son was walking and he was riding the donkey.
They passed by a village the people of the village said look at this ruthless man. He's riding the donkey and he's letting his son walk. What kind of a father is that? So he said my son, come right behind me. It's too much for the donkey. But what we what can we say? This is what people are saying. So his son now behind him on the donkey. Now the people said look at those two merciless people to on one donkey.
They don't have mercy to this animal. So he said my son, I will step down I will walk you ride the donkey.
Now, the people said look at this disrespectful son, his father is walking and he is on the donkey.
What kind of a son is that? So the sunset Father, I don't want to ride the donkey. So he stepped down. Now both of them are walking. And the donkey is walking also next to them. They said look at those stupid people, they have a donkey and nobody's riding it. So whatever you try, they will be people criticizing whatever you try. So remember to work for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala work for the sake of Allah xojo
If Allah has, is pleased with you, it doesn't matter what people are doing at the time of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam when he invited people to give in charity, before the last word of the book,
there are people who are sincere. They want to give whatever they can. Some of them are rich, like what if man of the alarm he gave a lot of money?
The epocrates What did they say? Look at him he is showing off.
Some people they have little, like one coin. Imagine one being good. What was wondering it do to prepare an army? They said look at this stupid people. They think that this is going to help. So if you give a lot, they will criticize you. You would give little they will criticize you What are they doing? Nothing. There will be people like that. They are just only criticizing.
So don't worry about them. There will be always people like that even at the time of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam there were people like that. So who do you think you are?
Not to be subjected to criticism, it will happen. So you have to be easy when it happens.
Whoever examines matters carefully, and disciplines himself to rely on the facts would enjoy people's criticizing him more than praising him.
If you really examine the matters carefully, if you are very wise, you would be happy with people criticism. People criticism, yes, more than people's praise. By nature, we like people when they praise us Mashallah, look how nice look how good Mashallah worshipper? Mashallah, we'd like that by nature, but the man has a Muslim Allah says if you examine the matters carefully
Actually you should be happier with the criticism. Why? Here's the reason why.
This is because if they praise Him justly, and he becomes aware of their praise, it might make him vainglorious.
arrogant.
When people praise you, and you are aware of their praise, Mashallah the lecture was perfect from the lie prepared, I did not. So now you might become showing off. Yes, I am a good teacher. And it might lead you to this. So you don't want this to happen to you. This is if they praise do justly. It is true, you deserve that praise, but praise after praise after praise you become. That's why every time even if we do the act perfectly, even after Hajj, we ask Allah for forgiveness. Even after prayer, we say Stanford Law while you did the perfect act, still, to read yourself from any arrogance from any showing off, you ask Allah for forgiveness, even after doing the best act.
And this will devalue his virtues. If you become arrogant, that will devalue the virtue, if they praise Him unjustly, and he becomes aware of their praise, he would attain happiness from that which is false, and this would be a great a grave fault.
We have some people
they are happy with getting credit for things they didn't do.
A lot mentioned in the Quran, that has been the Latina for hoonah the motto, motto be malama follow. Don't be happy with someone praising you for something you didn't do. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam said al Motta shall be mallam Europa cavc albizu. The one who's happy with getting credit for something he or she didn't do is like the one who is happy with wearing to false garments to garments full of falsehood, you come late, your eyes are red in the morning and people say Mashallah, all the night you were awake, praying to Yama lay, they said hamdulillah and you are watching TV. Okay, this is similar, getting credit for something you didn't do, and you say.
So even if you're happy like that, this is fullsuit This is stupidity. When you are happy with praise that you didn't, you don't deserve.
This is about praise. On the other hand, if people criticize him justly, and he becomes aware of their criticism, it might help him to avoid that for which he is criticized. This is free feedback. free advice. Now, corporates, they pay money for you please give us your feedback, why they want to improve. They want to make more money, you want to make more Hashanah. So people are criticizing you and it's just it's true. Don't deny it correctly. Try to correct it. What they are saying is true. So hamdulillah they pointed you to something that you were doing and you are not aware of it. So you said hamdulillah I will correct it. So that's better. If they criticize you justly.
It might help him to avoid that for which he is criticized. And this would be a great fortune, which only the faulty would forsake only people full of shortcomings they don't like that. They don't like to be criticized or advice.
If they criticize him unjustly, and he becomes aware of their criticism and perseveres he would become more virtuous by his perseverance and forbearance.
What if you know that what they are saying is false? It's not true.
And you're trying to be patient, you will get the reward from Allah subhanaw taala for that
use of Allah His Salaam when he was criticized
as rip for called the Soraka Holloman
they accused him of being a thief was use of La ceram. A thief. He wasn't. So when you are patient, when you persevere, for an accusation that you didn't do, you will get more reward. So you look at it from both ways. First,
the way of praise they are praising you.
It's not good. Even if it's true, it might make you arrogant. If it's not true, and you're happy with it, that's false full foolishness.
Criticism if it's true, it's true.
feedback, free feedback, you're improving false criticism, it's reward agile for you. So by all means, which is better, being criticized, but who thinks like that very few people think like that. We always like to be praised.
Moreover, he gains reward because he receives some of the good deeds of those who criticize him unjustly, this is another thing, do you Or don't you get reward from people for backbiting?
they criticize you, is it true? It's not true. So you are rewarded, you are getting there has been at one time I had some adversity, Rahim Allah, one of the pious predecessors, he was giving a talk a session. And one of his students came and he told him there is a man who was talking bad about you. He said this and this about you. Next day, it has anniversary, came with a plate of dates, knocked on the door of the man and he gave him the plate of this. The man was shocked. He said, What is this for? He said, I'm giving you some of the reward because you gave me your house. And so this is something lifted and giving you in return.
You were talking about me back biting me. That's the least I could do. I'm giving you a gift, because you are giving me a sonata and giving you only dates. So very few people think like that. This is how you should think. Don't be upset if people criticize you. Actually, if it's not true, you should be very happy. You shouldn't be very happy. Why? Because they couldn't find something real, to say they had to fake something against you.
Moreover, he gains reward because he receives some of the good deeds of those who criticize them unjustly. These these will count for him on the Day of Judgment, when he will be in the most need to be saved. Let it be by deeds of which he did not labor and by which he was not burdened. This is a great fortune, which Only a fool would belittle. Again, we like to get money for
easy acts or not even for working at all. How nice is it to be sitting and getting money?
How about if you are sitting and getting hassled? not usually to get has an ad you have to work? You have to do the bad. But why not? Other people are giving us that has an ad. How? When they back bite us. So don't be upset. Don't be sad. Let them do whatever they want. hamdulillah you are getting Hasina. For those who came late. We are at the third paragraph on page two. Okay.
If he is not aware of people's praise of him, then whether they talked about him or worse, silent, make no difference for him. Now, this is provided that you knew about praise or criticism. What if you didn't know? You don't know what people are talking? They are talking about you 1000s of miles away? If they praise you, while they are away, you didn't know about it? Would that affect you? You don't know that would not affect you.
But that is not the case with their criticism, for he will be rewarded either way.
What if you didn't know about people who criticize you.
You are still getting rewards from them because they are still backbiting. You don't have to know about them, backbiting you to get the reward, you are still getting the reward. So either way, whether you knew or you didn't know you are still rewarded. So which one is better? You look at it from every way criticism is better.
Okay, so stop complaining about your mother in law. Stop complaining about the family of your spouse stop, you should be happy hamdulillah actually, that will make you feel better that will make you a better person. The Prophet sallallahu wasallam they accused him of being a liar. He never liked, he never liked. He was the most trustworthy. They knew that even after Islam, they used to call him I mean the trustworthy. They accused him of being magician, soothsayer of all these things.
He is the Messenger of Allah Who are you to feel upset that people are criticizing me Who are you? We are full of shortcomings. So be happy. accept that.
If it were not for the saying of the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam about praise. This is the word the good tidings for the believer. It would be incumbent upon the rational to desire to be criticized unjustly more than to be praised justly. Now
It doesn't mean that you always, always should hate praise or should not appreciate the good work. No, the prophets are selling himself used to appreciate the good work used to tell someone like Khalid or the Alon, the shaded Sword of Allah subhanho wa Taala used to call masala one the one who is most knowledgeable with halal and haram abubaker, the highest one in the oma, he used to give them what they deserve, that is fine, what is condemned, whenever it goes beyond that, that is when it becomes dangerous. One time, the prophet SAW Selim heard a man praising another man, he told him all to you, you cut off his neck.
Why he was praising him too much.
So you have to balance this. Also the Prophet sighs lamb was asked one time, this is the meaning of this statement of the man. One time the prophet SAW Selim was as our messenger of Allah, one of us will do a good deed and people, thank him for that. He said, this is the glad tidings, what glad tidings inshallah, you will get the reward when you will get the reward on the Day of Judgment, but this is the glad tidings by people talking good about this deed. Okay, don't exaggerate, don't go too much.
Don't become arrogant, saying hamdulillah inshallah, it is accepted, people are talking good about it. Hamdulillah, that's all.
So even has marginalized, saying this is the only exception. When people like to be praised other than that they always, always should be happy with people's criticism.
The next last paragraph of page two, there is no separation between virtue and vice and between obedience to Allah and disobedience, except by being repelled and being attracted.
Is it the same?
obedience and disobedience
Iran has allies saying it's the same.
The only separation is being repelled or being attracted. Why people complain whenever it is a bad or it's one hour. That's a lot. You never hear them complaining, standing one hour in line to get a ticket
to watch a movie to watch a game.
So what is the difference in management has rahimullah says both a Bader and Mercia, obedience and disobedience they are the same, actually. Sometimes the disobedience is harder. Yet still people do it, why? They are attracted to it.
That's the only difference. Now for the righteous, the one who feels Allah
and the one who is wicked. The one who disobeys Allah commits Zina commits since the one who's righteous doesn't really have desire
or he has a desire.
So what's the difference between the two?
Only controlling yourself, stopping yourself that's all.
That's why Allah azza wa jal says in the Quran, when I had enough sand in our and forbade the self from our from the desire. All of us we have desires. All of us we have whims and desires. Some of us maybe we have more than the sinners. So what's stopping us it's only fitting Allah subhanaw taala that's the one who feels the Love is not a robot is not emotionless, we all have emotions. The only difference is again as if it has mahama who says being attracted or being repelled. Those people shaytaan made it beautiful to them.
The wrong deeds, the wrong actions became beautiful in their eyes. So they are willing even to pay money many times to sing actually costs more money to obey alights free. They don't charge you to come to the masjid. But you can play no it's hot. You never complain going and watching.
Outdoor going and paying for a ticket and waiting in line and doing all that. So what is the difference here? It's only being attracted and being repelled.
The blissful that hasn't heard law says the blissful is the one who is attracted to virtue and obedience and is repelled by vise and disobedience. And the wretched is one who is attracted to vise and disobedience and is repelled by virtue and obedience. The only
deliverance here is by the blessing of Allah and his prediction.
What's the solution? Always ask Allah Subhana Allah to help you to show you what is right as right and guide you to follow it to show you what is evil as evil and guide you to avoid it. That's why after the prayer of the dryer that we say, Allahu
Allah Vika will show Krieger
Oh Allah help us.
We need the help from Allah subhanaw taala. Because some people you just can't rationalize, if you can't understand how those people they travel, they pay money, and they make the effort to do something hard on
you can't you can't understand how people are able to do that. But still, why to them, it's fun. Let's go Let's have fun by disobeying Allah subhanaw taala.
So it is blessing from Allah azza wa jal to be attracted to doing the good deeds.
How can you do that? Always ask Allah always pray to Allah subhanaw taala ask him to help you.
Next, the one who seeks the hereafter imitate the angels, the angels, what is their
attribute? Mainly liahona lahemaa amraam they disobey Allah not? They don't disobey Allah? Why are faloona Matthew Maroon they do what they are commanded. That's the angels. So you want to obey Allah, you are imitating the angels? Is that good or bad?
Trying to resemble the angels that is good, because the angels are of the best creatures of Allah subhanaw taala so the human being when he is trying to obey Allah actually becomes better than the angels. Why? Because the angels they don't have the desires that we have. So that's how you elevate yourself.
The one who seeks glory and fame imitates the beasts we have some people who like always to be mentioned my name.
I want to donate for a book to be printed, but I want my name to be written bigger than the title itself.
Okay, some people are like that. So they are Like what? Like the beasts in the jungle? Who is the king of the jungle? Lion Why? He has a role. Okay?
He may not be necessarily the strongest, but he's the king of the jungle.
Okay, a small snake could kill the lion could bite the lion and poisoning but still. So remember always if you are looking for fame for glory, regardless of whether it's halal or haram of hypocrisy.
You are like the beasts you would like to be mentioned, you'd like your name to be mentioned.
And the one who seeks worldly pleasures, imitates the animals
well, Athena cafaro Yamato una una cama Taku Al Anam you live only to eat and drink and sleep.
These are the animals that's what they do. Actually, many of the animals are better than many of human beings. When human beings this believe in Allah subhanaw taala they are worse than the animals because even the animals with all
what they do still, they remember Allah subhanho wa Taala
Adam Tara anila yes you do Have you not seen that to Allah frustrates
whoever is in heaven smell if you somehow it wanna fill out and whoever on Earth was shampoo The sun will come on the moon when you juice the stars well gee, bal mountains was shut up trees. Well and um, and animals
were Cathedral millionaires, but a lot of people not all the people unlike the animals. So the animals actually are better than the human beings when the human beings disbelieve in Allah. So if you are only following your desires,
you are living only to eat to drink to sleep, you are like the animals. There is nothing wrong with fulfilling your desire the halal way there is nothing wrong with that. But your main purpose is to worship Allah subhanho wa Taala.
The one who seeks wealth for the sake of having wealth and not to spend it for what is obligatory and for parents.
The deeds is too low to be compared to animals. So panela this is an example for someone that has no similarity with the animals. If you collect money for the sake of money,
there are some people who are stingy, they work and they labor all their life they collected a lot of money why? Money is a goal or is means
it's means to please Allah subhanaw taala to use it for good things, to spend it on yourself, but to live all your life, collecting money 2030 years and then after that you die. You never spent it in charity you never did any good thing unit.
Even has mahalo says if you collect money only for the sake of collecting money, you are too low to be compared to animals spamela. Some people are like that.
But he is the one who is like that very stingy does not use money at all. But he is like the puddles of water. Inside the caves. In tough terrains from which no animal can benefit.
There is water, you're thirsty, but you cannot reach it.
That's the example of the one who collects money only for the sake of money not to do anything with it.
The rational does not rejoice in having a trade more of which Allah favored him over the beasts, animals and inanimate objects. This trade is the mind which he shares with the angels. That's the thing that you should be happy with rationality.
Because fame, you shouldn't be happy with it. Other animals are like that money, you shouldn't be happy with it unless you use it for the sake of Allah, other people who are much richer than you, and they deserve the curse from Allah subhanaw taala. Allah cause the earth to swallow them, like our own, why?
They became arrogant. They thought that this is because of what they did, not from Allah. They didn't thank Allah for the money. They didn't use it for something good. What did Allah do for herself now, he will be very loud, everything was gone.
So you shouldn't be happy with something. You are only competing with the angels. You are only as good as the angels in other things. Don't be very happy with them.
Unless you use them for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala.
Whoever is pleased with his character, this is an example. Whoever is pleased with his carriage, which he applies in matters that are not for the sake of Allah, the Exalted full of majesty should know that the tiger is braver than him. And that the lion, Wolf and elephant are more courageous than him.
I am courageous. Okay, what kind of courage do you have?
Have you seen the people who jump from the plane parachuting, bungee jumping? Is that character? No.
Believe me takes a lot of heart to do it. But then look, what if the court was corrupt?
What good did you do? How that was helpful if you died.
So this is using the carriage for nothing useful. Don't be happy with that because there are animals more courageous than you are.
Okay, tigers, elephants they would run when they see something they will draw.
So you are brave. You think you are brave. That's not bravery. That's carelessness.
carriage when you use it in the right way, yes, it is praiseworthy. But other than that, you shouldn't be happy with it.
Whoever is pleased with his bodily strength should know that the mule the bull and elephant have stronger bodies. Have you seen people muscular people, they go to the gym and with huge muscles. And they walk like that. Every mirror they try to look it's fine. Nobody says you don't have to have a good strong body. No one is telling you don't have a strong body. But for what are you using it for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala
or you're just showing off. Look at my biceps look, and they turn every mirror
to their body.
how strong you will be
the new is stronger than you
Elephants could crush you, even the end. Do you know how much the ant can carry?
How? Exactly
10 times 10 times. So no matter how much you can push up how much you can lift,
you weigh 100 kilograms.
I carried 100 kilograms 10 times 10 reps. Okay, can you carry 1000? Or no, I can't. Even the world champion cannot? Well, the ant carries 10 times more than weight. So what are you trying to say when you are muscular and you are showing off, you're trying to say I became like an end.
So use your body strength for something useful? Yes, then you could be praised. But just to be happy with your body. It's not from you. It's from Allah subhanaw taala. You're not using it for something useful. So what?
It's not something that you deserve praise for.
Whoever is pleased with his ability to lift weights should know that the donkey can lift heavier weights. Yes or no? donkeys they carry a lot.
Whoever is pleased with how fast he can run should know that the dog and rabbit are faster than him.
Yes or no? Some animals are very fast. So when you come and show off, I'm very fast. I ran
100 meters in 10 seconds.
Okay, the horse runs faster. So what are you trying to say you became like a horse. When you use that for something useful? Yes and hamdulillah. But just to be proud of what Allah azza wa jal himself gave you. What's the use? For what? What did you do? of good deeds with what Allah gave you? That's the question. One of the companions of the Prophet SAW Selim, he was very fast. Selamat minocqua. Allah one, he was very fast. He was almost like a horse. But he used that for the sake of Allah one time he chased the thieves. They stole the camels. They stole from this account of the prophet SAW Selim. So he chased them, and he made them leave everything behind. So that's something
good, but just to go and compete and to come back and say I have gold medal, and I am fast forward. What? What help Did you give humanity? People, your family? That's what you need to think of always.
Whoever is pleased with the beauty of his voice, we have some people like that, Mashallah, what a nice voice. Okay, what are you using it for singing?
There are birds. He should know that many birds sing more beautifully than he and that the woodwinds sound sweeter than him.
So don't be happy with your voice. Unless you use that for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala. Again, we have competitions now who has the best voice so so what are we really mean more singers have more people just chanting for what? But if you use that, to read the Quran, to help the children, to calm them down to do something good. Yes. Other than that, you should remember birds, they have better voice. Their sound is better. The chirping of the birds, the woodwinds and other they are sweeter.
Hence, what sort of pride or pleasure should one feel in trades in which the animals Excel more than he does.
Don't
be happy with getting credit for something that the animals are better than you.
Your happiness should be for something that you helped humanity with, for something that you please allow him to gel with. That's where you should be happy. But the one whose mind is strong, whose knowledge is brought, and whose deeds are good should feel through happiness, because he is surpassed in these matters only by the angels and the rest of men. That's where you should compete always with the angels with the best of people, not with the animals. Not with the kuffaar
the saying of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam to the one who asked him for advice do not anger and his command that a person should love for another what
He loves for himself cover all virtues.
You want something sufficient, something short?
You don't want a long lecture. A lot of words, here are two hadiths from the Prophet sallallahu wasallam. Those two had enough are sufficient for you. The first one, don't anger or don't be upset. Let up. That's the first one. The second one, love for your brother, what you love for yourself
to narrations only cover all the virtues? How here is the explanation?
Because advising against anger is a discipline for the aggressive self.
That's one of them. What does it mean?
How many times
people told you?
What did you do? Why did you say what you said? And you say, I'm sorry, I was upset. How many times? This is exactly why the Prophet sallallahu wasallam said do not anger by the way. What does it mean? I'm sure you've heard this hadith before, right? Laughter? What does it mean?
What does it mean?
Laughter Bob?
What does it mean? Do we have or don't we have emotions? We do. Right? So when we have emotions? Do we have the tendency or we don't have to be upset?
We have. So what does it mean? Is the Prophet sallallahu Sallam telling us?
To or not to be humans?
What does it mean then? If you say no, what does it mean? When the prophet SAW Selim says that although we are humans by nature, we have the tendency to be upset. So when the prophet SAW Selim is saying, Do not anger Don't be upset? What does it mean?
control? How?
What does it mean Be patient?
What does it mean? Don't be angry. By nature, I have to be angry. I am a human being someone did something to upset me, I will be upset.
Unless I am a robot. I am
emotionless, but I am full with emotions. I have feelings. So what does it mean? Again? You said to control yourself, that's very good. That's half way through half the explanation. What does it mean to control?
Very good, don't let anger, the motive behind your action. You are controlled by the anger here. So later you said I'm sorry, I was angry. That's exactly what the process lm said not to do. Don't say I was angry. That's exactly the meaning of the Hadith. When you are angry, still control yourself.
That's the meaning of the Hadith. So when you
stop acting upon being upset,
this will stop your aggressive self. So you will not do injustice, you will never say I'm sorry, I was upset.
You don't have to give this excuse. That's number one. Number two,
his command. last line, this is last line in page three, his command that one should love for another. What he loves for himself is a discipline for the desire itself, and is an attainment of justice, which is the purpose of speech belongs to the speaking self.
Every one of us if you ask him or her What are we looking for justice? This is a quality that every single human being would search for and look for. How can you make sure that you are just one simple way don't do to people what you don't like to be done to you. Don't say to people what you don't like to be said to you. That's it. Love for your brother what you love for yourself. Very simple statement, but many people find it hard to implement.
I gave this example. In the last course
you had the meal.
Very nice meal. And then there was a leftover
Do you Or don't you give it to the poor people?
Let's take it and give it to the poor people.
It's a good deed right?
Do you like to be given leftover
That's the question. Do you like to be given leftover or worn out clothes? You use something?
dress, t shirt.
After one year, let's give it away in charity. Do you like to wear something that was worn for one year.
So don't do something you don't like to be done. Don't like it to be done to you.
Don't say something you don't like to be said to you.
That's it. When you do that, you will make sure you are just
and this will cover all the virtues.
It doesn't mean we don't need the other Hadith from the Prophet sallallahu wasallam Yes, they are all useful. They are all beautiful. But this will suffice you do things. Don't anger don't act. When you are angry with anger control your behavior, your words, your actions, and love for your brother or your sister for that matter what you love for yourself. That will be sufficient for you two things only to a hadith.
I have seen most people save the few that Allah has protected, bring upon themselves misery, distress and weariness in this life. And they commit grave sins which could lead them to the Hellfire in the Hereafter, and from which they collect no benefit.
Many people do that how they do this by having wretched wishes, as wishing for exuberant prices which lead to the ruin of people, the children and those who have no fault. Or wishing the worst of calamity for those who they hit. You hit someone in sha Allah, a disaster will take her will take him. When was the last time you had this feeling? You hated someone so you want the destruction for him or her? Just because you hate him or her? Allah will not respond to your wishes. So you keep wishing and wishing and actually it's harming you only. That's one thing. Another thing. You work in a car dealership? Or you sell tires? How people sell tires.
You want people's cars tires to be punctured. Okay? To be flat. So is that good or bad?
Well, you want your business to flourish. You are a doctor, you wish people to be sick. That's not the right wish. Okay.
You have grocery store, and you wish that there is famine. So people would come and buy everything from you. That's not the right way.
Okay, what's the
crime for those children that are hungry?
Or for those who were in the car?
Now all of them stopped because there is a joke that one shop that sells tires, two kilometers earlier. They always put beans in the road. So people would have flat tires. And they come to him. Is that something? Do you think Allah will bless your business? will bless your money by that? No. So stop having bad wishes. Just because you hate someone that doesn't mean Allah will respond to you. Maybe he or she also hates you, and they will
pray against you. Other doesn't work that way. Allah is not waiting for us. Who do we hate? So Allah would punish him or her know, life will go on. You will only have bad wishes you will only have bad emotions and it will only affect you. Sometimes you will have sins also you are committing sins by these wishes by acting upon these things. You hate someone Allah azza wa jal will deal with him or her. That's it move on. But many people unfortunately they don't think that way.
Every day What happened? What happened? Nothing won't happen the next day What happened?
Stop doing that. Stop thinking like that. Okay, be busy. Mind your own business. be busy with what you're supposed to do. Not what happens to others. what people are doing, you will not be asked about them. That's not your job.
They know for certainty, that having such wretched wishes now if you wish for a famine to happen, does that make it happen?
If you pray to Allah Oh,
destroy this person why I hate him or her? Would Allah respond to you? You know, Allah will not accept this kind of.
They know for certainty that having such wretched wishes does not bring about sooner, what they wish for, or what is ordained to happen.
Have they purified and beautify their intentions, they would have brought forward to themselves, and thus they would have been able to pay attention to what benefits them. That's what you should do. only pay attention to what's useful for you what benefits you
by doing this, they would gain a great reward in the hereafter without making what they want or wish for come to me later.
Our wishes, our whims and desires, they don't delay or bring sooner the other of Allah. Okay, the other of Allah is not dependent on our emotions on our feelings. Who do we hate? Who do we like? The color of Allah is going to happen no matter what. So what should we do purify your intentions? That's all what you need to do.
So what is greater injustice than what we want against? And what is a greater happiness than what we enjoy?
You are doing to yourself before anybody else injustice, because you are becoming worried. You are always asking what's going to happen? Did it happen, no didn't happen, and you're wasting your time. It's not gonna happen just because of what you feel.
On the other hand, purify your intention, and you will get the reward from Allah subhanaw taala. There is, the provision is going to come to you don't make your money based on people's calamities.
People atrocities, that's the worst way to make money.
If you investigate the duration of this life, you will find it nothing but the current moment.
How much? Or how long is the duration of life? How old are you?
It's a secret. I can't say
3040. That's not really how old are you? That's how much time is gone? It's already gone.
What do you have? The duration of life is the current moment, this current moment, prove it.
The past and the future are nothing for they don't exist.
Do we know what's going to happen in the future?
No, we might project we might plan but we don't know for sure what will happen.
So whatever we plan for whatever nice and beautiful dreams we have for the future. We don't know it's with Allah subhanaw taala whether they will happen or they will not happen. We don't know. What about the past. If you were asked to bring one day from the past from the 30 years, 40 years you can you bring one day, one hour? No, it's done. What do you have this current moment? Make sure you maximize this current moment. That's all what you have. Many people they are hostages for the past. Something happened, move on. Move on. Forget about it. Even if you try. You cannot bring back the past. It's gone.
Future it's unknown. It's within with Allah subhanaw taala it's Allah only knows what will happen.
I saw people this is something I saw people planning for two years ahead of time they paid the money upfront. Everything was gone. Nobody projected nobody expected that war will break. But it happened. They lost everything you don't know. They tell you security, insurance. The only insurance is with our last panel time. piety, fearing Allah. That's all. That's the real insurance. What's going to happen tomorrow? You don't know.
It's with Allah. What do you have? You have this current moment. Make sure you do the best. you maximize your current moment. That's how you will be judged. Best is gone. Future is unknown. The only thing that is good about the past, you can go back and try to learn that's all but don't be a hostage to the past. So how old are you? You are one second.
That's what we have. Whether you are 4050 100 years, that's all gone. It's all gone. Now. If you did good, hungry, less
Try to do better, if you did bad, ask Allah for forgiveness
and try to correct your actions, that's all.
So, only few people think about life this way
you will find it the duration of life, you will find it nothing but the current moment which separates the best from future, the past and the future are nothing for they don't exist. So who is more astray than the one who trades an everlasting eternity with a period shorter than the blink of an eye?
Okay,
we have some people for the pleasure of one moment, they waste their entire life
just to sin.
They paid a lot of money, and on the Day of Judgment, they will be punished forever.
It's very sad.
People with little wisdom, they would know that it's not worth it. It is not worth it. When Allah asks, the people are like me lobbyists don't fill out the name. How much time have you lived on earth?
Nyoman Obama, we don't know maybe one day maybe part of the day.
You live 6070 years but it just went like that, just like blink of an eye. So use it to please Allah subhanho wa Taala who is more astray than the one who is trading the everlasting happiness in paradise inshallah for a moment only the pleasure of a woman that is this displeasing Allah soldier. That's why one of the pious predecessors
one time he stood up,
out of respect
for a criminal towards going to be executed.
And his students were shocked, they said, You are standing innovation for this man, this criminal he said, Yes, I should respect him. He knew what he is involving himself in, he knew that he is going to be killed, and still he had the determination to do it.
So he deserves the respect
for his determination. We know that there is gender, but we are not patient, we still complain. We are not determined like this man.
He knows that the punishment is there yet still he did it. We know the everlasting happiness in Paradise and we are not really doing a lot.
So that's why he stood up. That's what he told his students. So always remember that this life is only a blink of an eye. That's the period of life. So whatever difficulties you're having, it will go through, you will overcome that whatever happiness also it will go away. Only try to please Allah subhanaw taala.
When a person sleeps, he exits this world and forgets all its joys and sorrows. Should he trained himself to behave in the same manner while he's awake? He will attend perfect happiness. Okay when you sleep, is it different. If you owe people money, are they all your money or you will sleep anyways.
You are not feeling anything
rich and poor. When they sleep, the rich will sleep better.
They don't feel anything. So whatever you are facing in this dunya
if it's so difficult to remember that at the end of the day you will sleep so you'll forget about it. So try to act the same way in this linear when you are awake. That will help you
overcome the difficulties will help you deal with the difficulties in a better manner that no matter how hard it is,
it's okay.
At the end of the day, whatever hard or difficult day you had, you will be able to sleep hungry.
So train yourself that whatever difficulty you are facing, you'll forget about it once you go to sleep, so try also to deal with it in an easier way while you are awake.
Whoever mistreats his family and neighbors is the worst among them.
Your family and neighbors. You are expected to be the best to them. So if you are not dealing with this
In the best manner, you are the worst, because these are the ones that you are expected to be best to them.
The foreigners, maybe yes, people that you don't know, maybe or maybe not, you will be good to them but your family, your neighbors, you should be the best to them. If you mistreats them, if you mistreat them, you are the worst. And whoever pays back by similar deeds, those among them who mistreat him is no different from them. My neighbors are bad, they did something bad to me. So I'm doing something bad to them while you are just like them.
Joining the kingship is not by paying a visit to the one that pays you visit that is rewarding. You are just like him or her. She gave me a gift I will give her a gift. You are equal.
But
the one who does not avenge their mistreatment is the master and the best among them.
If you do a better deed, if you visit those who don't visit you, if you give a gift to the one that didn't give you a gift, if you do good deed to the one that did you back then you are the best, then you are the best.
So are you the worst, or you are equivalent or you are the best? It's easy to say we are the best inshallah we are. But remember the prophet SAW Selim said les salwaar syllable McAfee, the one who joins the kinship is not the one who joins those who join him. Visit those who visit him No.
It is the one who joins the kinship when they sever the ties when they cut the ties.
You give a gift when they didn't give you last aid. I had an occasion and nobody gave me anything. That's why I'm not giving anybody anything.
You don't give them because of what they gave you. You give them because of who you are. Because of who you are. I'll stop here in Sharla Jazakallah Hara salatu salam ala Muhammad Ramadan savage man, we have some time for questions. If you have any questions, any comments, anything? You'd like to share anything? Bismillah Now is the time.
Let's say
somebody's
giving you the same thing. Like let's say, I don't mind.
Something that's nicer than somebody else.
didn't like it anymore.
Yeah. To me, I consider it.
Yes. Again, does it mean that we throw the leftover? No, we don't throw it it's still a good deed to give it to poor people. They need it. But do we settle for that or we should always look for the best.
When was the last time you went and you bought brand new clothes and you said this is for charity. Because Allah says in the Quran, Lenten Aloe Vera.
Call me Matt Boone, you will not attain righteousness until you spend from what you love. Not what you hate. This is something you hated. It's already done for now. Okay, so always look for the best. That doesn't mean giving the leftover or the worn out clause is not a good deed. It's about the No, it is a good deed, but not the best of deeds. So try always to have the best of these.
And the other comments is
Yeah, why? What did he do?
He was just
collecting. Yes.
true, not true. You you you try to correct. But that doesn't change the fact that they said something bad and you deserve the reward. Still, does it mean that you leave it? No, you try to correct it. You try to explain, but that doesn't change the fact that you are rewarded.
Any other comment or question? Or a follow up? Yes.
Back to you.
with Wendy.
We have feelings we feel like that. We are asking Allah for justice. There is nothing wrong with that.
And it's not easy again.
And what what what is written is not easy, but when you try to practice it, you will be able inshallah to do it.
The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he was the best not only to his companions,
he was the best, even to the enemies, even the leader of the hypocrites.
He prayed for him for his forgiveness, he prayed the janazah he took off his clock, and wrapped him with it, who would do that from us? That's to his enemy, to the leader of the hypocrites. So it's not easy to be in this level. But if you reach that level, you will be of the best of people
to ask Allah for justice, may Allah do what they are doing to me, it's not bad, because you are asking for justice.
Can you do better? Yes, you should try to do better, you cannot hungry.
And allies just don't think that he doesn't see what people are doing.
It's always known that will whoever does injustice will see it before the
other than the punishment in the hereafter it will happen here in this one, either by a disease by a sickness, it's going to happen. So Allah is just he sees what people are doing.
Is there a criteria that we should use to know when it's best to let's say, Be patient?
And when it's appropriate to let's say, retaliate or respond like, Is it better to just overlook
regarding ourselves, if it's regarding someone else's to say a family member was assaulted or something like Yes. Is it better to respond to that case? And should we tell them to overlook or Yes, this is different now you are defending the honor of a Muslim? But when it is personal, the prophet SAW Selim never avenge a personal thing for his own self. He was attacked, he was abused, he never but when it is about someone else, yes. Also, being patient does not mean trying to correct what is wrong. Islam never tells people to be cowards. Okay. Somebody somebody took your money. It's your money. Like and you say, okay, Allah will take No, you're right is to go and ask for that money
and demand and take it back.
You you correct What is wrong? There is nothing wrong with that. You should do that.
Just
anything else?
Okay, does that mean la Ferro Sala la Santa Monica? Santa Monica.