Ibrahim Nuhu – Riyad Us Saliheen – Hadith 745-752
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The importance of respecting and respecting knowledge and position of others is emphasized, along with the need to be humble and respectful towards parents. The speakers stress the importance of being patient and humble in dealing with one's parents' behavior. The speakers also emphasize the need to clean and remove remaining objects and prioritize one's health, avoiding unnecessary stress, and being humble. It is important to learn to eat properly and avoid mistakes, and to prioritize one's health and avoid unnecessary stress.
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So today,
We continue from where we stopped.
And last week,
I believe
we finished,
with the chapter of,
Al Amrud al Aqlimin
Jannabi Al Qasa.
The command
from from the prophet
Muhammad that when you eat, you should eat
from the side of the plate,
not from the middle.
So today, inshallah,
we will move to the next, chapter which
is about Karahitul
Akli Mutakya.
The dislikeness
of the Sharia
for a person to eat while lying down,
leaning on his on his hand. That's, the
closest,
meaning of the elliptical.
The prophet
said in this hadith of
Abu Juhaifa,
he says,
I don't
eat lying down on my hand.
The prophetess Allahu Soma used to sit down.
If you remember in the previous narration, the
prophet said,
I'm not mutakhamdil.
Shows humbleness and humility
and respect to the name of Allah Subhanahu
Wa Ta'ala.
Nobody is humble similar
to humbleness of Rasool Allah is a blessing.
He sit with children.
He talk to the children. He says salam
to everyone.
He respects people. Prophet salamah,
let everyone to approach him, subhanallah.
When
those 2 brothers, you know, they came to
the promenade, they
were very scared. The promenade, sallallahu alaihi wa
sallamah told them,
He doesn't know who he is. So this
is the leader of the leaders,
highest authority.
So he thought
it is just like those tyrant kings. So
he was kind of meeting the prophet of
Allah.
The prophet
Subhanallah.
Very simple food
to tell them that I'm just coming from
this poor house.
You are afraid of food. Relax. Relax.
That's what Surah al Salih said. And this
is the only way for you to gain
ice in this today.
Arrogance doesn't fit a human being.
It doesn't fit any creation of Allah's command,
you Allah.
Arrogance, it doesn't fit any of the creation
of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.
That's why Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala says,
this
Allah
says, these are my
too close.
And whoever mixes me in them, I will
definitely punish them.
Them. It doesn't fit human being to be
arrogant.
Arrogant is to be in a position that
you raise up your head to even see
anyone with value.
You'll put yourself in a higher position.
You build in others,
which will lead you also to reject the
truth that comes from them because you don't
have respect. If I don't respect you, I
will never accept anything from you. Even if
it is correct.
That's why it's very evil, you know, to
have this attitude to you and Muhammad. It's
not good for you actually,
because it is going to deprive you from
good.
Because you're going to be very selective. You
know it is the truth, but you don't
do it because it comes from so and
so.
Allah
says,
I'm going to take away my ayaat.
Meaning
Allah
will deprive him from learning.
This is very bad for Uber. You will
love because Allah will will deprive you from
seeing the truth.
Allah will deprive you from seeing the correct
thing. Allah will deprive you from getting the
knowledge.
You know, they will be blind in this
dunya because of their arrogance.
So this is the early approval that Allah's
wanted is going to keep them.
Allah says, don't you ever walk on earth
in the state of Marah?
Pride.
In the state of arrogance.
Allah says, because you will never reach the
height of the mountains.
You know, the mountains
and they're very humble, SubhanAllah.
You will never walk on the earth and
we will see the the earth breaking apart.
Breaking into 2 pieces.
Because of
your weight,
nobody is like this.
Allah
says,
and he will never reach the height of
the mountain.
All of these, the earth, the mountains are
very humble to Allah's Muhammad.
Why can't you?
And we are considered to be one of
the tiny creations of the last mountain.
Very small. That is how all
submitted to Allah. We're All humble.
But as we in the jinns, we are
the ones who are going against
Muhammad. So my personal advice to everyone, be
humble. You want your ranking to be elevated
in this dunya and to gain respect, respects
people.
Arrogance
is defined as rejection
of the truth
and disrespecting others.
Rejection of the truth and disrespect in others.
Yeah. You have some people because of their
titles,
because of their positions,
because of their age,
because of, you know, the conditions they find
themselves. They don't respect people.
They don't
reply salaam. They meet people with angry face.
You know, all of these are wrong practices.
Cannot be attributed to us, so I'll ask
you.
Maybe you know, it's not like that.
They even mentioned that when the props a
lot of our meet people,
sometimes he will rush to say salaam to
them before them say salaam. They are responsible
to start the salaam first because he's in
the high level.
Because in salam,
the young says salam to
the older older people.
Right? This is how it works. When you
meet big people,
nowadays,
unfortunately,
unfortunately,
nowadays.
Yeah. The old man has to say salaam
to the younger ones.
The old man has to tell the younger
ones, move from the way we are. Please
give me some space to pass. And they
see him, they look as if they keep
on talking.
The scholar, the teacher, the lecturer has to
talk to his student to give him a
chance to pass.
This is not our behavior.
The correct behavior that we inherited from our
predecessors
is that you respect the scholars.
Whatever happens to be your teacher, as long
as he's teaching you something that is beneficial
whether dunya or a dunya oriented kind of
things or religious
thing. He's your teacher. Deserves your respect.
The one who doesn't show respect to our
elders
and and the one who doesn't show mercy
to the younger ones and the one who
doesn't respect our scholars is not one of
us.
That behavior should change.
Otherwise, the knowledge we have will have no
Barakah.
And now, you're gonna waste your time studying
for 4 years. The Barakah has been removed
from that knowledge.
The first stage of getting
out of knowledge is respecting the knowledge and
those who are teaching you the knowledge.
What lies on these they do a favor
for you more than what you receive from
your parents.
Somebody who puts your hand on the right
path to Allah
is the best person to you. She be
the best and the most important
person for you in this journey.
That's how it is.
Terrans might not do this. They have their
own virtues.
They have their own position,
you know. They have their own position, big
position.
And a person has to respect them. One
of the easiest way to invite the rise
of the last Quran is to disrespect your
parents.
But I'm talking about the dimension of someone
who is guiding you towards Allah Subhanahu Wa
Ta'ala.
If your parents are not like that, this
is the most important
person to you in your life.
The most important person, because the main objective
of your existence in this dunya is
to serve
Allah
and pass the test in the year of
2.
Allah
says,
I have never created
jint.
And also, in
except for the purpose of worship.
Why are you here? To worship Allah. Your
parents, why are they here? To worship Allah.
Your siblings? To worship Allah. Everyone
is here in this dunya for these purpose.
Allah says,
except worship.
And whoever happens to be the one who
guides you to do this effectively the way
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala want, this is the
best person in your life.
Be you, Allah. And he's doing good actually,
not only for you, to the parent as
well.
Because it is their responsibility
to put you on this path. If they
do not do and somebody did, this person
is doing a favor to them also as
well.
Because he's and he is helping them actually
to give themselves relief from the responsibility
on the day of judgment when they need.
Yeah. Because if you have kids, you don't
teach them Islam, you don't teach them good
tarbia,
you neglect them. You're gonna be responsible.
You Allah.
You're going to be responsible when you meet
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.
That Allah
assigned a responsibility
to him.
Anyone that Allah asked him to handle the
responsibility.
Parents,
people in the authority,
you know,
leaders, kings, prime ministers, presidents, ministers, governors, you
know, and,
you come back to the school,
rectors,
deans, head of departments, you know, principals.
Anyone who happens to be responsible of a
people.
Allah's going to question him about that responsibility.
The prophet said, if he doesn't do the
right thing in his responsibility
and he cheated that responsibility,
Allah's mortality is going to make jannah prohibited
upon him.
You, Allah.
Isn't that lazy, Martin? That's why they need
a wadua. You as a father, you have
to do that job. Otherwise, you face the
consequences.
So
this is my advice to everyone.
To look into the sunnah of the prophet
and
be humble, you will love. You're not losing
by being humble in this today.
You're gaining
respect. People will respect
you. People will support you. People will help
you. And you might get into trouble sometimes,
but like this, humbleness and humility will save
you.
That's the that's the reason why the prophet
said,
a person
will never,
you know, get decrees
in his life by being humble.
If you have the humility and the humbleness,
Allah will always put you up.
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala will always put you
put you up.
Because of your humbleness and your humility, Allah
will always put you
you. A person
never observe tawadu
except that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala will elevate
him in rank.
Said,
I don't eat while lying down.
And he's in there.
Very gently
and very calm. And
this is the healthiest way
of sitting,
to eat in that way. And it helps
you also to control the amount of the
food you are eating.
This is another type of sitting also,
which shows that a person is not sitting
for eating,
you know, too much.
Yeah. Because when you sit, means to put
you see when you are making sujood,
the position of your leg, the legs are
like that. Right?
Instead of what you come up, you do
is if tarrash, you sit on the back
part of your your feet.
Yeah? You sit on that wall.
So both of them, you fix them and
keep them in the way they are in
the position of the sujid, but when you're
coming just sit on them.
You get it? So it looks like a
person is not
if he has something to do. Right? I'm
not here to sit
here. That's why they said, the student of
knowledge
is quick in
several things. One of them is eating.
Not eating like what you will know, calmly,
but don't waste time when he eats.
A student of knowledge, don't waste time on
it.
Anyways, some people will come and find them
eating. Smile like they spend hours,
watching things and eating at home.
This doesn't fit the student of knowledge. Student
of knowledge when it comes to food, eat,
you speak like sport, if possible, finish, you
have other jobs.
Go and do some other things. And subhanallah,
it is better actually to go and do
some exercises and that is okay, you know,
than just sitting up
there. It's a waste of time.
Yeah. The same goes to walking.
Walking,
a person should work very slowly.
They said, Omar saw somebody working very,
very stiff.
Or more words, it's sticky,
it's smacking,
and it's boof.
And some people think that this is part
of righteousness.
No, it's not. Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam is
not like that.
They said, Rasool Allah sallallahu alaihi wa sallam
when he walk, when you see him, you
will think that he's coming from him.
And this is the most moderate way of
working. And this one, I'll ask my hotel
a call in Suratul Al Furqan.
The best way of working is how
the method of the problems of law school.
Not so fast, not so slow, the more
deliberate way.
Yeah. Because student knowledge, they they they need
time.
It's like you're running out of time.
It's like the 24 hours you have in
a day is not enough.
That's why any student of knowledge who tells
you he has no time,
you know, look into his life and see
what is he doing. Most likely, he's not
managing the time properly.
I spend 30 minutes, 1 hour, 8.
You get it? Watching things. Always, halal.
Look, but I spend time watching and I
have my education waiting for
me. And I let things get accumulated.
And
I delay so many things and the excuses,
I have a lot of things. But what
are you doing exactly? Nothing.
I'm busy busy with what?
Nothing.
That's why we always get into trouble.
Right?
Yeah. When the semester is about to finish,
what happens?
The classes will be empty.
Yeah. Classes will be empty.
Why is that? Because everyone is trying to
catch up the assignment.
What were you doing for 14 weeks?
And, subhanallah, it is right. Sometimes some people
will come and ask you as a lecturer
to clarify the assignment you gave them,
the last week for the submission.
And when he fails,
this lecturer is back.
Salallahu
alayhi wa'alaamuqayhiyaqulu
tamra.
I saw the prophet
sitting in that position eating tamuk.
Right. So you have this position, this type
of eating,
and also you have the one that the
prophet put his leg up like this, you
know, and unfold
the other one and sit on it.
That one is very comfortable.
And, subhanAllah, if you see a person who
is eating like this, you see what they
say in the
There
is no arrogance in it.
When a person sits like this, there's no
arrogance in
that. And you relax
a lot.
And
This is a chapter that we'll talk about
the encouragement of the Sharia.
That a person when he eats, he eats
with how how many fingers?
3.
Yeah. 3 fingers.
So when you eat with 3 fingers,
how much are you gonna take?
Very
little.
This is the sunnah of the sun as
the sun has blessed.
And I would know he says it's supposed
to happen for
It's halal. It's halal. It's not for you
to eat with 3 fingers. It's halal, but
what do you lose when you eat with
3 fingers?
So train yourself.
Train your family to eat like that. Especially
those food that we can use 3 fingers.
Even rice also. Eating with 3 fingers is
possible.
Yeah. And if you happen to put
all the fingers or some of them, you
know, don't take a lot.
Yeah. Don't pack the whole thing, you know.
Don't forget your mouth is not that big.
And then you will not be able to
chew properly.
That's why they say one of the benefit
of taking eating with 3 fingers is to
control the amount you are eating and to
control the amount you are getting inside your
stomach.
That when you eat with 3 fingers, you
shouldn't wash your hand first. You should lick
the hand first to remove all the sunnah
So how all of these you know, you
can take the
I know people when you do that, they
will find it so strange.
Why?
That's why when you practice these type of
things, don't don't wait for somebody to make
comment to you. Just do it because Rasoolah
Salas Omar advised you to do it.
Slowly, slowly, you'll find somebody also who will
imitate.
So it's this life for a person to
to wipe the hand or tissue or with
anything before you
clean it with your with your mouth.
And also, it is supposed to have the
plate,
you know, it has some balance of soup
and some, you know, sometimes some pieces of
rice. Don't don't get shy of anyone.
I know many people are shy. They don't
want to finish it. Sometimes he eats, but
you see
there are lots of rice inside.
Insha'Allah, somebody who doesn't have food can eat
that one and say alhamdulillah.
To give it to animals is better than
going and drawing in the garbage.
And you remember in the past, we said
in the last week class, we said the
barakah
might be in the last grain of rice
that you left, you know on the plate.
So you lost everything.
That's why it is most to have for
you to clean the bread
with your hand and eat it and take
every single thing, but leave us alone.
Our problem is, I'm waiting for Hazik to
tell me I'm wrong. I'm right. I'm waiting
for Omar, I'm waiting for Hammad to tell
me I'm right.
If they don't make comment like that, I
don't feel
comfortable.
Oh, I feel that, yeah, I'm still doing
something strange. I don't know what kind of
comments I'm going to be making. No.
The most important thing is to know that
what you're doing is right.
That's
who do you harm when you eat every
tongue plate?
Who do you harm? Nobody.
And why do you need to wait for
somebody to tell you you're right? If the
promise of Allah subhanahu wa sibhulah.
And why do we need to take this
as, you know, subhanallah, that means of humiliation,
you know. Rasoolullah
is doing this.
Who is higher than Rasoolullah?
Nobody.
If he does it, why can't we do?
You get it. So Rasulullah salallahu alaihi salallam
will pick up everything and eat it and
also, rasulullah sallallahu alaihi wasallam told us, it
is he commanded us that when the food
fell down, he said, pick it up. Remove
whatever is hanging around it, which is dirty.
Remove
it. The dirty things and stick to it
and then eat.
As long as you can remove it and
eat it, the prophet of Allah said, remove
it and eat it. Yeah, for sure there
are some things which you cannot fix and
when it fell down, it fell down. You
have a zucca that drops down To the
sand, what can you do? Nothing.
Must sell out of it.
You lost it.
But things,
you're eating some cake, you're eating some, you
know, things which are hard, they fell down.
Some people cannot eat after they touch the
ground.
Or sallallahu alaihi advises you when you eat,
you when something fell down, take it and
clean it and then and then eat it.
Do not leave it for the shaitan.
And also,
don't forget
that Barakah might be in that one that
fell down.
We're gonna see hadith that support all of
this, inshallah.
And also it is permissible
for you to
wipe your hand after you link it with
with your mouth
to wipe it with what
with side
side
is this part of the hand.
So you remove the thing.
And now, you're gonna shake the hands of
the people. Right? So
it's gonna be some balance of sticky things.
So I'll just wipe it here.
Or you wipe it on your on your
leg.
Don't forget this.
They don't have tissues that we have. You
know, you might say, oh, it's so strange.
How can they do it? No. It's okay.
The community
tolerated that. You get it? The community tolerated
that. So what a person does, it's better
actually if you are in a situation that
you don't find any,
what do you call it? You don't have
tissue and there is no water going to
clean. Rather than going to shake the hands
of others and
you cause them that kind of discomfort, why
why can't you just put it on the
part of your body that nobody will touch
you?
So in the past, they used to do
this and the prophet
also talked about this as we're going to
see insha'allah.
But nowadays,
do we need that? We don't. Because we
have a benefit the water is available.
You are not. Yeah.
We waste water. We don't know how much
value the water is. Some people, they have
to go,
you know, travel
kilometers for them to get,
1 liter of water, which
is
okay for drinking, safe for drinking.
You, everything is at home. And you're making
wudu, how is it? It's like you are
taking shower.
Rasoulas
waste water, even if you are making udu
in
a river, using a river.
I mean, the water is available. Right? You
said no. We're moderating the usage of the
water.
You get it? So this attitude that on
the approach, the place of the
is like rain, heavy
rain. Fertility shape. It's making
Yeah. We shouldn't.
So all of these things mentioned by Imam
Raul Nawi, they are recommended
by the sunnah of the prophet
When a person eats
food,
he shouldn't,
I mean, clean his hand and wipe it
with something else. He has to remove with
his tongue all of the the soup and
the thing that stick to it, of course.
He does by himself or somebody should do
it for him.
But you shouldn't just wipe it and throw
it away because the barakah might be
on
on that last thing that is on your
hand. So when you wipe it, you're just
wiping the barakah and you lost.
He said, I saw the prophet
eating with 3 fingers.
Three fingers.
When he finished, the prophet, salallahu alaihi wa
sallamah will lick the
finger and remove whatever is stick to it
first.
So this is the evidence that Rasulullah Sallallahu
Alaihi wa sallam used to do that. Right?
And the manhaj of the prophet Sallallahu Alaihi
wa sallam in Egypt,
I always invite you to go and read.
This part of,
you will learn to see amazing things
of the sunnah of Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam.
The health healthiest way of eating is
Jabir bin Abdullah said the Prophet sallallahu alaihi
wa sallam commanded
people to,
you know, to remove the thing
that is
sticking to the food that sticks to their
their fingers.
And also
clean, you know, the plate with your hand
and and eat whatever you pick up from
the plate from the plate.
So don't wash it first. You have to
eat whatever is that is there first and
then you wash it.
He said because you don't know
where is the barakah in you from, where
the barakah lies. Is it in the beginning,
in the end or in the one that
drops down or in the one that remains
on the plate or is in the one
that is sticking to your hand? You don't
know. So the prophet
said, to to be on the safe side,
eat everything.
Yeah.
That's why it is wrong for a person
to
to take more than what he he can
afford eating.
It's wrong. It's wrong.
Yeah. Last time we talked about this, it's
wrong. When you go to buy food, take
what you can avoid finishing.
Yeah.
This is the sharia
And remember one of these callers, if you
invite him to a waleema, you know, bring
different types of food. You used to tell
them, no.
Enough. Please leave the rest. Let us finish
this verse,
Amen. You get it's okay for you to
cook a lot of times. Yeah. But then
cook in every time. Let's say, I invite
100 people to my wedding. I
cook rice,
that is enough for 100 people.
I cook beans enough for 100 people. Why?
For sure, the balance is going to be
to be wasted. So if you're doing that
mix,
you know, cook rice a bit and, beans
a bit, yam a bit, this a bit,
you know. So those who don't want it,
they go to this. In the way,
by the time the waleema finished the food,
it's also finished.
Rather than bringing huge amount and at the
at the same time, sometimes we just have
to throw them throw them away.
K. There are 2 questions here. 1 of
them is, talking about what do we mean
by
walking slowly.
We meant by it what
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala mentioned.
Yeah. The prophetesser Law of Zuma is not
so fast and is not so slow, so
he works more directly. And I think
this one is understood by everyone. Right? You
don't need any demonstration
here.
And the second, question is the one that
says,
what should I prioritize
to have a person in an emergency situation,
a sick person?
And the madman makes ada'an or their tama.
Should I go to the Muslim and say
it's okra Allah. Allah will take care of
him.
And then, later on, I come back to
him.
Yes. If you want to have the Jannazzah
after you pray on the
no. He go and take care of you
first, even if you miss the Jannazzar problem.
When he needs you, even if you miss
the Jannazzar problem,
life is sacred.
Yeah. It's better than attending the jama'at. The
kia offer a person is better than attending
the jama'at.
You get it?
Even if the prayer time is going to
go out, you go to him. You pray
while taking care of him.
You know,
you don't let that person get into trouble.
If he get into trouble, Islamic, you are
responsible also. You know.
So you go to him first whenever somebody
needs you in the set of necessity.
Yeah. Somebody's in a set of necessity or
strong need, you know. His health is going
down. You don't say, okay, go to the
busier I leave him.
Yes. But we have the sharia of Muhammad
salallahu alayhi wa sallam that tells us how
to prioritize
things.
Yeah. When you take care of him, you
are also doing the sharia of the hospital.
You get it? So you go take care
of him, you catch up the the prayer
later. Even if you pray alone, it's better
for you to give him what he needs
and then pray alone later.
Sure. Your excuse.
You will ask also.
Okay.
Sister orders a lot of food and she
cannot finish it, so she packs some of
it. But then she lets it she forgets
about it and then the food gets spoiled.
Is she sinful
for that? Yeah. They are asking about somebody
who ordered more than enough.
If she knows that it is more than
her needs and she does that, that's Israf.
And it's simple act because this money that
we have is not our money, it's Allah's
money.
He just assigned us, take care of it,
gives me permission.
I'm the only one who is supposed to
use the money with me, the one that
I earn.
Nobody is having the right to come and
take it from me. But at the same
time, I have to understand that this is
the money that belongs to Allah
and he assigned me to take care of
it properly. And there will be a heavy
question when I meet Allah
So if she orders the food, she believes
this is more than her need and that
she's not planning to give it to somebody
else or to keep it for later. That's
enough.
And if she orders more than what she
need with the intention of eating some and
keeping some, that's okay.
When it goes bad later, that's okay. Insha'Allah.
As long as there is no negligence, then
that's that's fine. But when she orders something
more than her need and she neglected it
and it goes bad, she will be blamed
between her and Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala. How do we achieve humility?
Oh, that's a very tough question. How can
I become a humble person?
Just be humble.
Respect everyone,
You know, say salaam to everyone.
Respect to everyone and say salaam to everyone
and accept the truth as long as it
is the truth, whether it is from the
one you like or from the one you
hate.
Yeah. Then you'll be humble and stop.
Expecting everyone, don't disrespect
people.
Yeah. And also accept the truth from everyone.
May Allah grant us