Ibrahim Nuhu – Gender Equality Or Equity – Navigating The Middle Path
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Dear brothers and sisters,
the topic of the day is gender equality
or equity,
navigating the middle path.
The
main speaker of the day will be Sheikh
doctor Ibrahim Nuhu.
A short bio of Sheikh doctor Ibrahim is
that he received his bachelor's postgraduate PhD in
Sharia and civil laws from IIUM. From the
career of Sharia at the International Islamic University
of Madina.
Furthermore, he went to Malaysia where he has
got postgraduate PhD in Sharia and civil laws
from IIUM.
So the event is planned to start at
7:45
and will end at 10:45
PM.
There will be 2 sessions to the event,
and between these 2 sessions, there will be
a short break where a Kahoot game will
be played as well as a secret surprise
event. Stay tuned.
Can we have this
first of all, for
granting me this opportunity to be speaking about
this, important,
topic.
I do believe that, this is a very
important topic to be discussed in this days
of ours,
especially living in a time
that
people
turn to disagree with whatever Allah
decreed for them.
You have those
who are not happy
with the way Allah created
them.
Those who want to turn
into
the the female gender and those who want
to turn into a male gender. And we
have
all types of people nowadays,
And we have those who are not happy
with the treatment they got in the community
or
in the religion as well,
And we have those who are going beyond
the limit in terms of the way they
treat, the other,
gender.
So to begin my topic, I will
remind each and every one of us that
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala,
when he created us, he created us he
created us as a social being,
which means we cannot live
without the other partner.
That's why in the Quran, Allah says
he created Adam.
The first
person that Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala created in
this life was Adam
and after the creation of Adam,
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala extracted from Adam his
wife.
Allah says
so that he will be comforted
with this
partner that Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala created for
him.
So we can understand from this that life
cannot be comforted,
cannot be comfortable,
as long as we don't have the other
partner to live with.
Otherwise, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala can just create
Adam and close the page.
But Allah wants that cooperation to to maintain.
He says
and that was Hawa, the second person that
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala created. And he created
her
from? From Adam,
which shows that we are the same.
Contrary to that claim that you might find
nowadays from some people who see one of
the genders not to be equal to to
the other one. So I'm gonna talk inshallah
a bit about the history of one of
these agendas,
Because without knowing the history, we will not
be able to judge the topic correctly.
And at the end,
I will conclude
with the golden ages
of this life of ours
and also close that page up, the dark
ages, which many people are trying to take
us back to those dark ages. So inshallah,
if you allow me, I'm going to quote
from
one of the the books that I have
with me, because this topic is very sensitive.
So today, for the first time, I think
I brought my reference also. Get it so
that inshallah,
whoever wants to go back to it, it
is good for us to know our history
and to know what exactly happened. Then you
will understand
the virtue of the religion that Allah Subhanahu
Wa Ta'ala gave you.
Trust me, if you don't read the history,
you might end falling into the trap of
the shayba.
You Allah, no system ever respects human being
in all kinds of the agendas
that is better than the religion of Allah
and we're going to establish this as
a and
what I will be doing inshallah
I will talk about the status of
the the female,
agenda.
Who were they before?
Because if you talk about oppression,
who is oppressed more?
The brothers and sisters.
Who is oppressed in these days more?
The brothers or the sisters?
Brothers or the sisters.
Brothers, right?
Anyway, I can take it as.
So
when we talk about this topic, I think
everyone knows that the one who is getting
into trouble, whether they put themselves into trouble
by themselves or the community put them into
that trouble,
What? The sisters. Right? We have a lot
of claims actually against the religion of Allah
Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala and the Muslim community concerning
this matter. So that's why be it light
to Allah. I will talk a little bit
about the history of
the way communities
used to treat women.
And then I will conclude with the way
Islam used to, I mean, is treating the
woman and whether that is
equality between a male and a female or
they are different in the eyes of Allah
subhanahu wa ta'ala or even in the way
they look.
So what I will be doing, I will
not mention some of
these,
nations
because of the sensitivity, but I will just
tell you that there used to be a
people who used to treat a woman in
this in this way. So the first I
have quote, this is a quotation I took
from the book written by,
a scholar called doctor Ismael Al Muqaddam
in his book, Awdal Hijab.
He has a very excellent book called Awdal
Hijab in 3 volumes. I was thinking of
bringing all the volumes to see
how these colonists are very concerned, you know,
in particular on this topic. And, subhanallah, he
did an excellent job because he talks about
the history from a to z, from the
beginning. What exactly happened? And then he concluded
with what Islam brought to humanity
and who was the one or the religion
that liberate
both, genders.
So he mentioned that there used to be
a people that say I will read the
the Arabic text. It says, they used to
believe that
in
These people, without mentioning their name, whoever they
are, you can go to the book and
get it by yourself. They used to believe
that the source of all evil in this
life,
every crisis that you have in this life,
a woman is behind is behind it.
And also, the collapse of this life of
ours happens because of because of a woman.
And they also said, when you see a
woman, don't you ever think that you're seeing
a human being? She is none other than
a tree that is poisonous
but looks so good, so pretty. But when
the a bird eat it, it will, it
will die.
That's
number 1. And here's a lot of them.
I just pick up, some of these quotations.
And he mentioned also some people that says
These people, they believe that she doesn't have
a soul at all. When you see her
moving, don't you ever be deceived by this.
This is just an illusion. That's why according
to these people, he quoted,
they used to tie some of their sisters
and pour on them boiling oil,
in the sense of.
And he quoted also some people who says,
used to believe that, a woman
You know, the the the the the thing
that comes, you know, in our community which
takes away
success in life, his sisters. The existence of
a woman is none other than the reason
why success is being away from from this
life.
K? We have another one that says,
he mentioned that in some of these,
cultures in the past, they used to, look
at a sister,
They used to look at a woman just
like the sheep they have at home. There
is no difference between her and and the
animals.
And he went on to also quote from
some of these nations,
they used to see them as just a
toy
and no difference between a a woman and
another woman. That's why to them, you can
marry your sister, you can marry your mother,
you can marry anyone because they used to
see woman who doesn't have any value except
to live that kind of kind of life.
If you go to the yahoot,
yahood,
this this one, you already know them, so
no problem. We only mention their name. And,
he mentioned,
something that we know,
from the sunnah of the prophet sallallahu alaihi
wa sallam that sisters have no inheritance, they
have no right to inherit. And also when
a sister is observing her menses, Alice is
quoted in the hadith of Anas.
Harvard Al Maratufihim.
The Jew, when a sister is observing her
menses, she cannot approach anyone.
She cannot come closer to anyone, and nobody
will eat food with her, nobody will sit
with her, and, also they didn't come they
didn't come closer to her. So the companions
of the prophet
asked the prophet about this behavior. And because
of that, Allah revealed the ayah that says,
where's
and they're asking you about the height or
the place of of the height. Allah says,
this is other. The he's referring to the
to the blood that comes. And subhanAllah, some
of the scholars are mentioning this which some
people see as
evil. You know some religion,
they consider
hide to be a curse against the sisters
because of their evil behavior. But the prophet
said,
this is the blood that Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala has written upon the daughters of Adam
alayhi salam. The
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the woman. He turned it into a blessing
from Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala for them. That's
why says,
as a man, you need to do the
cupping, the hijama at least once in a
year.
Because you don't have a system that the
sisters have which
Allah provided for them that takes the blood
on the monthly basis which is not supposed
to be with them. We don't have it.
He said you need to do the hijama
to take out that which is not supposed
to be with you at least once once
in a year. Her sister doesn't need this
unless if she has some specific kind of
pain,
then she can go for for the hijama.
But Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala gave her that
built in system, which is a blessing. You
know, some people see it as a curse,
but in Islam, this is a blessing from
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala for them. So the
prophet salallahu alayhi wa sama received this aya
to refute the Jew in their claim. So
I will leave the explanation of this ayah
and the rest of the hadith
till the time when I talk about the
virtues and the status of a woman in
the religion of Allah subhanahu
wa ta'ala.
And,
and that's that should be the last one.
The Christian also they are similar to to
the Jew.
Unfortunately, if you read what, they mentioned, subhanallah,
is not different from that which is mentioned
by by the rest. They mentioned in some
of their writings that Al Maratuh, Sharru Labudimin,
is an evil
that is is a necessary evil. You know,
something that evil but we have to live,
with it. So you go through this evil
statement. So I decided to quote this to
tell everyone that this is the status of
woman
before
the prophet Allahu Alaihi Wa Salam Akeem. Rasulullah
Sallallahu Alaihi Wa Salam Akeem. Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi
Wa Salam Akeem.
And the Arabs,
they also have series of injustice.
So I'm going to, Insha'Allah, conclude this history
with the status of the woman amongst the
Arabs. First of all,
nobody inherits amongst the Arabs in the past
except
somebody who has the ability and the capacity
to carry weapons.
That means sisters
are excluded from the inheritance.
That's automatically. They don't inherit.
If they don't inherit and the case is
closed, Alhamdulillah,
no problem. Who cares about the dunya, right?
They can get the dunya from other other
place. However,
they just don't let them go like this.
When her husband die,
she will be inherited by some of his
family members.
So she's none other than the toy and
the property,
you know, that somebody inherits. Just like the
way you inherit a property, they also used
to inherit,
I mean, sisters in those
days. And also, you see, sometimes when I
go to a person to borrow money from
him,
if that person doesn't trust me, what does
he ask me to give him? To give
him a collateral. Right? Something, some property, something,
you know, that he can keep with him.
In case I fail to pay back the
debt, he can take this item and sell
it so that he can get his money
back.
In those days, if you go back to
the history, there was a mention
of a man who asked for the collateral.
When they told him we don't have, the
first thing he asked them to give, he
said, okay, then give me your wives or
your daughters.
Why did he ask for this? Because it
is there being practiced like that. It is
there being practiced
like that.
And also, when it comes to the talat,
a person can keep a woman as much
as you wish wish. Divorce her and bring
her back just like that. You know, in
Islam, Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala restricted that sunnah
people will not play with
with the with the sisters. And also, they
marry just like the rest of the nations,
without restriction.
Without restriction because they see a woman, she
doesn't have any role except this
to be kept in a place for the
purpose of producing
children, and that's it. She cannot get involved
in making a decision.
She is somebody who exists, but at the
same time, does not exist in the community.
And they also, like anybody else, as I
said, she doesn't have inheritance.
And also they used to force the female
slave to go and commit zina so that
they can get money,
for them. And also, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
mentioned that they used to have some types
of food
which only the brothers can eat. Subhanallah. This
is so funny. Allah
mentioned what they used to do in Surah
2. Al Anam. He
says
They said that fetus which is in the
womb of these animals
is only for the for the male.
It's only for the males. The female, they
cannot take it. It's haram upon them to
take it.
However,
if the animal gave birth to this fetus,
they check and see. If the fetus is
alive, women cannot touch
it. But if the fetus is dead, then
the sisters can come and join.
You can see the disrespect, right? When it
comes alive, the sisters, they have no portion
in it.
When it comes dead, then they can eat
it if they if they want.
And also, subhanAllah, a man used to send
his wife,
you know, used to send his wife to
somebody who is considered as a knight or
a hero
because he want her to have relationship with
him so that she can give a birth
to a child, you know, that is going
to be like that like that person. And
they also used to exchange their daughters.
A person has a sister
or he has a daughter, so he married
her to somebody, you know, let's say his
sister. He marry her to somebody, and that
the condition is I will give you my
sister.
K? You also should give me your sister,
but there is no Maham between between them.
And they have to accept, accept that. 1
of these, evil things, I have 2 left
inshallah and then I move to the golden
ages
is the
is the waiting period that a woman should
be waiting before she married after losing her
husband.
You know, at first, Allah
made it for 1 year. And the way
it used to be, practiced by by the
Arabs. And subhanAllah, the way they used to
practice, Allah deleted all of those evil things
and then he just kept the waiting period.
How did they used to do it? A
woman, when she lost her husband,
she has to go to a small house,
very tiny house called Hipsch.
She has to go to that place and
stay in that place.
She cannot take bath, she cannot wash herself,
she cannot
mix with the people. She has to stay
in that place for the period of a
year like this.
Cannot go out of that place, she has
to stay like that.
At the end of this period of the
year she has to do something
which they call an infidar.
This is one of the most
dangerous things, you know, subhanallah,
and disgusting thing. What does she do?
She will she will go and and catch
a bird or any small animals and put
it in her private cart because of the
disease. The scholars mentioned that
Subhanallah.
They said it's very rare that she takes
something and connect it, to her body, except
that that thing is going to die instantly
because of the disease in that place, and
she has to go through this. SubhanAllah, you
can see she lost her husband.
The pain psychological pain is there and also
another psychological pain of remembering that she has
to go and stay in that place is
there. That's why when they came to the
prophet and they complained
this 4 month 10 days the prophet
said: You forgot who you were before.
And Allah swore to make it this 4
month 10 days and deleted all of these
evil practices.
This 10 month for, and
and I'm sorry, for a 10,
4 month, 10 days, this one is made
by Allah to
make sure that the woman is not carrying
any child for the previous husband.
Somebody was making a scientific, you know, explanation,
which I found it interesting.
It says when a person married a sister,
when he has relationship with her, he keeps
some basamat,
some prince, you know, something in the womb
of that,
that sister.
And that's why her system doesn't recognize anyone
except
him. When he divorced her, she need to
stay away from marriage
for the period of 3 months.
They say when the first hide comes, it
is going to delete the Basamat he kept
inside that womb.
The second one also will delete. The third
one will complete deleting itself, so that she
will be ready for the next system. But
when she lost her husband,
for the next husband, when she lost her
husband,
because of the grief and the psychological pain,
she needs something stronger. You see, that's why
islam,
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala increase it. Rather, increase
it. Rather than making it only 3 months,
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala make it 4 months
and 10 days. And you, it, it is
very rare to find a sister who stayed
for
4 month 10 days.
But at the same time,
the the the pregnancy is not discovered. Whatever
is there with her is going to be
very clear within that period of time. So
this is what Islam kept but all of
those evil and bad practices, they were deleted
by the sharia of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
And the last thing
which is the the saddest and the worst
one, this is the
the sisters who were buried alive.
They used to bury woman
alive.
Why? Because they are afraid of shame.
Having a sister
in a house
is a disrespect and embarrassment.
That's what Allah
says in the Quran.
If one of them is going to be
given a news,
good news, right, that he has a baby
girl, baby girl.
This this person
will be hiding from people. Binsu ima al
shirabi.
Subhanallah, if somebody tells him that your wife
gave birth to a girl,
he he doesn't want to meet people because
he sees this as a bad news.
And then before he goes to the house,
he will be thinking of what decision would
he be taking.
Allah
says he will be thinking of what to
do.
Is he going to keep this baby in
a state of disrespect and humiliation?
Or just go and bury?
SubhanAllah,
many sisters were buried alive.
And you know how many tribes among the
arabs are doing this? There are very few.
Not all the arabs are doing that. Only
a few amongst them are doing. But because
it is so bad and evil in Islam
to kill
a human being, that's why Allah
made it as if all of the Arabs
are doing it.
And subhanAllah, look at the beauty of Islam,
we have so many daughters who were killed,
Not because
of anything except
the fact that they are their goals.
They don't commit any any anything. They didn't
do anything wrong. Just now they came.
But they were killed by those people because
they are their daughters.
And subhanallah,
trust me, You might think that this Jahiliya
is gone.
We still have it in us.
Last time, I don't know whether I shared
with some of you a story that a
friend of
mine was telling me that there was a
person who,
got a baby girl and then he told
his wife that this should be the last
one. He cannot stand for this,
subhanAllah.
She got another one, also a girl. She
told her the next one, if it is
a baby girl,
either she abut
the baby or it will be on behalf
of her marriage.
SubhanAllah, she became pregnant again and they went
and they did the ultrasound and they found
that this baby is a girl.
SubhanAllah.
So the family has to sit down because
he was very serious that he cannot accept
this anymore.
So they decided
to save the marriage. This is the first
mistake they did.
They decided to save the marriage
at the expense of the life of the
of the
baby so they went and they killed the
baby
subhanallah
and he says when
they killed the baby,
they realized that actually it was a baby
boy,
not a girl.
He became Hajoon after that. SubhanAllah.
So I still we still have people like
this. And Islam
says: Allah
says on the day of judgment,
all of those sisters and the babies that
were killed, the case is not closed yet,
ew
Allah.
The real maqama is going to be reopened
on the day of judgment
about those girls that lost their life
just because they are girls.
Although at that time there was no islam,
you know, but still, it's a human being.
Anyone who killed another person has to face
the consequence when he meets Allah
So brothers and sisters, this is where we
were before
the prophet SAW came. And I hope everyone
is listening to this so that you will
understand at the end that, wallahi,
there is no place where you can be
protected except in the religion of
Allah No place.
Especially the sisters, no place a sister could
be protected except in the religion of Allah
And that's the job of the Sharia of
Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam.
Rasulullah sallallahu alaihi wasallam when he came. One
of the reason why
the arabs,
they never agreed
to, you know, come along with the prophet
was about this issue.
That Rasulullah sallallahu alaihi wasallam
shows no difference
between a male and a female. Not only
that, Rasulullah salallahu alaihi wa sallam put them
on top.
Let me tell you one incident and then
I will go insha'allah through this
moment one after the other.
There was a time
There was a time the prophet sallallahu alaihi
wa sallam was on the way back to
Madinah.
I
she was narrating the story, she said.
The prophetess Allahu Soma decided to take a
transit
an army. These are the soldiers right
these are the soldiers
and aisha
was a woman
and,
in, in the Arabian Peninsula where women have
no value at all,
and she lost
her necklace.
The prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam, when she complained
to him that she lost her necklace,
what did he do?
He did not say go and look for
it. This is your business.
He did not shout. As a leader of
the army and we are, you know, on
the way to fight, or we just came
back from the battle. You know what?
The the issue is very sensitive, you know.
But the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam, what did
he do?
He told the army go and look for
them for the act for her.
SubhanAllah.
These are the soldiers
and they have to go and look for
it, and she is sitting down there
waiting for them to go and look for
it. And they have to go and look
for it. So while they were looking,
and it takes time because actually that necklace
was
hidden
under the camel she was riding.
Okay? So nobody will see it. They went
looking for it everywhere. They couldn't find it.
So
and, it took very long,
and the prayer time arrives.
And fortunately, there was no water.
They came to Abu Bakr because everyone knows
that the reason why they are delayed here,
it was because of Aisha
and her father is there. They went and
they told Abu Bakr, do you know what
your daughter did?
With the with the Muslimi?
You see what happened? They told him, your
daughter stopped us here
and there is no water in this place.
Abu Bakr said she did that? They said,
yes.
Abu Bakr run to the place where she
is located.
Unfortunately
for him,
and fortunately for for her,
Abuqar, when he went, he found Aisha
sitting with who?
Rasulullah.
No matter how much you try, you will
never find somebody like Rasulullah
You know I'm telling you the truth. If
this is to happen in our time,
this woman, she will wish she doesn't exist
in some places.
You will love. But Rasulullah sallallahu alaihi wa
sallam as
if there is nothing happened.
He decided to
sleep. He told Aisha Aisha, I want to
sleep. To take an up, Aisha gave him
her thigh. So he put her her his
head on her thigh.
I already know. Keep it down. So
he put his head on the thigh of
Aisha to take a nap.
So he slept. He was enjoying his sleep.
What does that what does that mean? There
is nothing between him and and her.
Abu Bakr came. When he came,
he found that good,
you know, sin, you know.
So what to do now? If he smacked
Aisha,
Rassoul
is going to wake up.
So he doesn't know what to do.
Aisha said he came to me, he talked
to me in secret. He said, you stop
people in this place and you know that
there is no water. Why did you do
that? So he said she said he started
pinching me at this,
at this place, and it was so painful.
She said, I was supposed to cry,
but I know if I cry, I will
shed tears
and Rasoula, sallallahu, might wake up.
She said I tried to control my emotion
but it was so painful. He kept on
pinching her like like this.
SubhanAllah.
That was Rasulullah.
And then Rasulullah sallallahu alaihi wasallamahu woke up
that ayah of Taymuk because of this event.
This is Rasulullah sallallahu alaihi wasallam. This is
only one mokif. You know, a sister who
doesn't have value
up to this level. The prophet Sallallahu Alaihi
Wasallam brought her, whereby the army is commanded
to go and look for a missing property
that was lost by her. In another event,
Alibina Bata'alib
was chasing 2 brothers that I mean 2
men that the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam commanded
the muslim to kill them wherever they find
them.
These 2 men, they managed to get into
the house of Ummuhani Bint Abi Talib,
his sister.
So they get inside her house and she
told them,
she told Ali Bin Abi Talib, these 2
people are protected by me.
Ali Binabi Talib said no. There is no
way for these people to be protected.
Umuhaali said: I
am protecting them. And subhanallah, this is something
that is very new to the arabs.
Because a weak person cannot protect somebody. No
sister that can imagine her in a position,
can imagine herself in a position protecting somebody
in the community.
So umuhani said: They're under my protection.
So they kept on arguing, she and her
brother Ali ibn Abi Talib, and she told
Ali ibn Abi Talib, let's go and check
with the prophet sallallahu alaihi
wasallam. So she went to the prophet sallallahu
alaihi wasallam and she said,
I have these 2 men came to my
house,
and they are under my protection, You Rasool
Allah.
The prophet, salallahu alaihi wa sallam,
The prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam has said the
one who is protected by you is protected
by us You Umahi.
Nobody can imagine this.
And this is what Islam does from being
a slave,
you know, to the position whereby she has
the authority and she can say something which
all the believers also has to consider it.
As the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam
The prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam has said, the
believers are equal in terms of blood.
Nobody is better than the other one. And
if one of them protects or signs an
agreement between him and the people, all of
the rest of the believers, they have to
abide by that, you know, agreement, which this
person, even though he might be in the
low, position in the community,
but if you sign an agreement, everyone is
supposed to accept that agreement.
The prophet
said,
and
said, sisters
are the
full brothers of a full sibling of of
the brothers.
Full sibling. A shakik is a full sibling.
So the prophet
said, sisters are full siblings of the brothers.
What does the full sibling means?
What does it mean? It means
that
whatever Allah
gave the brothers, sisters also get the same
thing. In the sharia of Allah
we don't have a system that is for
the brothers and another one for for the
sisters. The prophet
said we are equal in this in this
regard. That's why when they asked the prophet
in that hadith, they said, You Rasulullah,
who is the best in the eyes of
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala? The prophet
said, Yusuf
Nabiullah,
even Nabiullah, even Nabiullah, even Nabiullah, even Kharirullah.
They said, you Surah, who is the best
and the most nobler in the eyes of
Allah? The prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam said,
it's Yusuf.
Yusuf because he was a prophet
and his father was a prophet
and the grandfather also the was a prophet.
And the father of the grandfather was the
khalil of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. He said,
You Rasool Allah, we are not asking you
about this.
He
said,
he said, if you are not asking me
about this, then the best in the eyes
of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is the one
who fears Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala the most.
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says,
Allah
says, oh people,
we have created you from male and female.
That's Adam
and Hawa.
See together Allah
created
both of them because the system cannot take
place except with the cooperation of both. He
says
Allah said, we made you tribes and nation
for the sake of and the purpose
of
knowing
and recognition
of each other. And then Allah
says, The
best in the eyes of Allah subhanahu
wa ta'ala is the one who fears Allah
subhanahu wa ta'ala the most. So in Islam,
there is no difference between
a male and a female when it comes
to
the side of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. In
the sharia of Allah, sisters and brothers are
all equal. The prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam
never have a system
for the sisters which is different from from
that of the brothers. So I will stop
here
in the second
part of the lecture. I will talk about
these virtues and the status that Allah
grant the sisters and then I will talk
about
the gender equality
a little bit inshallah.
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Okay. So, inshallah, I will continue from
where I stopped.
Can we continue?
Okay. So last time,
we talked about the status of woman
before Islam
and also
some
of the golden ages,
you know, that took place after
the
arrival of the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam.
So I guess what I was doing is
to quote events that shows how much Islam
respects
women.
And this will be the answer
to some of these du'awah and the claims
against the religion of Allah, subhanahu wa ta'ala,
that is always biased
against the sisters.
So
let me continue, inshallah, to mention some of
these events and then make a conclusion, be
it in light of Allah, and give you
a chance to ask,
questions, if, if any.
Last time, if you remember, I said the
Jews,
they
don't sit with a woman who is observing
her menses.
The prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallamah
destroyed this completely.
Aisha radiallahu anha said,
when she is having her period, the monthly
period, she said, Rasoolallahu
alaihi wa sallam
will come to her
and
he will sleep with harpers.
And also
this is contrary to what was happening in
the past and also whenever she drinks something,
the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam will come to
that thing which Aisha
was drinking.
He will try to focus and make sure
that he noticed the place where she put
her mouth.
And he is going to also put his
mouth exactly in the place where she put
her mouth.
SubhanAllah. That's why even the Jews themselves,
when they see this, they said this man
is not going to leave anything we are
doing except he goes against us with
it.
And they claimed that a woman who is
observing the men says nobody is allowed to
come closer to her. Allah
revealed that ayah that says
Allah
said no. Your wives, they are just like
your farms and do
come to your place
whenever you want.
And Allah, subhanahu wa ta'ala, says,
also in the same place, he says,
Allah
says do not approach
do not approach your wife
when she is
observing
the menses.
But this approach that Allah
is talking about
is only the sexual
*,
the relationship.
This is the only
thing that is prohibited
because the prophet said,
He said, do everything except
having sexual relationship with with your spouse. This
is not permissible
for her own benefit and for your own
benefit
because it is not going to be good
health wise for her to have relationship with
the spouse at that time. And it is
not also good for the husband who is
going to have relationship with her at that
at that time. For the sake of protecting
her and protecting the husband, Allah subhanahu wa
ta'am made it prohibited to happen at that
time. But other than that, Allah subhanahu
Can we continue?
Okay.
Other than that, Allah
made it halal. That's why Aisha radiAllahu anha
said, Rasulullah
salallahu alayhi wasalam used to come to her
in the house and he will ask Aisha
to
put her garment on her, the lower garment,
to cover that place. And she said he
will embrace me until he is he is
satisfied.
And that's the reason why, as I said,
the Jews
mentioned that Rasulullah, hissalallahu alaihi wasalam, is going
to go against them in in everything.
In another
event,
there was a companion called Muawai ibn al
Hakam al Sulami.
Muawai ibn al Hakam al Sulami.
He came to the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam
to report something that happened between him
and his female slave.
She was taking care of his sheep.
Unfortunately,
an animal came, the wolf, and took one
of the sheep.
And he said, You Rasulullah, I'm just like
any anybody else, so I got annoyed. So
he smacked her.
He slapped
her. When he slapped her, it was so
hard in the way she even fell down
because of that.
So he came to the Prophet
to report the case,
to see what exactly Rasulullah
will say. Rasulullah
was very annoyed
with that.
He said, You Rasulullah, I want to free
her.
The prophet
said, call her first.
She came the prophet
asked her.
He said,
where is Allah? She said, fisama.
She pointed up,
and then he said, who am I? She
said, aunt Rasulullah.
You are the messenger of Allah
The Prophet
said, free her because she she is she
is a believer.
The prophet
also in another event, he told the believers
when he found one of the sisters being
killed during one of the battles,
he says,
In Islam,
Allah
the Sharia,
respect the sisters in a way, even if
you find them in the battlefield, the prophet
sallallahu alaihi wasallam said he shouldn't kill her.
You know that she came together with
with enemies, but the prophet
said she shouldn't be killed. When he saw
a woman being killed,
he says, who killed her?
He says,
This woman never came to this place to
fight
anyone. So in Islam, it is haram for
a person to kill to kill a woman
even if he finds her in in the
battle in the battlefield.
In another event, which should be the last
event I will quote here, is the event
of the Mujadila.
This is Khawla, min tzalaba or min tahki.
There's a woman that came to the prophet
and complained about what the husband did against
her. One of the injustices and unfairness against
the woman
in those days is that the husband would
just look at his wife
and tell her,
you are none other. I mean, your back
is similar to the back of of my
mother.
And when he says this,
according to their custom, he cannot approach her
sexually,
you know, and she cannot marry anybody else.
So that's why it became a big issue
when it happened after the arrival of Rasulullah
So this woman, she came to the prophet
and she said, you Rasoolallah,
my husband,
he took me when I was young.
And that's
that's true, right? When marriage happens, how is
she?
Usually young, right? She said she took me
when
That is a very good statement for those
people who are married
because it is true.
The changes that are taking
you, why, who caused those changes to take
place?
Only the married people will answer this.
Who caused that change, honestly speaking?
Who caused the changes?
Nobody is married here? The husband. Oh, the
husband. Okay. Thank you very much.
The reason why I'm saying this because
you will begin to have a change in
terms of relationship that you're having with her
because of the change
that is taking place in her life. And
who brought it? You brought it. That's why
this woman came to the prophet She said,
you Rasoolallah,
he took me when I was young.
And I became
like this, you know, so old and my
nature changed because of him.
And I have children
with him. And then now, at the last
minute after I age, this man just opened
his mouth and told me that I am
none other than I mean, I didn't look
like anybody except like his mother.
And when this happens, that means she cannot
approach him and he cannot approach her and
she cannot marry somebody else.
And she said, You Rasool Allah, and he
left children with me, young children.
She said, You Rasool
Allah,
She said, You Rasool Allah, he left me
with children.
If I am to leave the children with
him,
they will die.
Out of what? Out of hunger because usually
he has no time to take care of
them.
And that's true.
If you want to see that, you have
to come to our time
whereby everyone is staying away from that big
responsibility that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
put on our shoulder.
And I have no doubt this is one
of the major causes of the failure of
the Ummah nowadays
because nobody wants to do that responsibility
in the proper way. They managed to convince
our sisters that taking care of children
is deficiency,
And one of those,
you
know,
speakers, he says, if you want to destroy
a civilization,
convince a woman that taking care of a
child is deficiency.
You can imam al Sha'aive,
imam Malik, and many of our ima, they
were the product of who?
Sisters.
But nowadays from the childhood, you know, subhanallah,
Bismarakeen,
the baby, he's been deprived from that moment
of being with his mother
because she has a job and the husband
also has a job. Nobody is willing to
give him the rights. So who is going
to be taking care of the child?
Havana.
Those type of places. So they will be
taking the baby from that, you know, young,
very young age,
because they have no time for him.
And this can translate the reason why in
the future,
when the boy grows up, that close relationship
that was supposed to take place between him
and his parent, which would deprive him to
disrespect them, will not be there
because he doesn't know them that much.
So if he doesn't have time to take
care of them, to support them in their
old age, what is he going to do?
Send them to
the house of the old age people.
Otherwise, how can you imagine a person who
has been given a terbia by his mother?
Today he is taking the mother to put
her in the old age home because he
doesn't have time for her.
Wallahi, this cannot happen as long
as this woman has been doing the right
thing. It will be very rare unless if
Allah wants
to test
to test her. Otherwise, it will not it
will never happen. So she said, you Rasulullah,
if I am to leave the children to
him,
they will die out of hunger because he
doesn't have time for them.
And this is to confirm also what I
said that Allah created both male and the
female for the sake of cooperation.
There are things which only a woman can
do. Man cannot do that. Whether we like
or we don't like it, there are things
which only women can do it properly.
And there are things which only men can
do it properly.
Don't you ever be deceived by all of
these statements that what man can do, woman
can do better or lies. Somebody is there
behind,
you know, wants to bring
the honor of those people who will be
deceived by this statement
down so that they can play with it
in the way they want.
Go to those places and see whether a
woman is suspected or not.
They have been reduced to the level of
the toys.
Whether they like it or they don't like
it, no place for a woman to be
respected, as I'm going to conclude with this,
except
in Islam. So this woman came to the
Prophet Sallallahu alaihi wa sama. She said, you
Rasulah, if I leave the kids with
me,
they might get lost because I need somebody
to support me in giving them the good
terbia.
She said, you Rasoolah, if I keep them
with him, they will be in trouble. If
I keep them with me, I might not
be able to give them the good tarbia
they need because I need his support, his
cooperation.
So the prophet
told her,
I don't have anything. I agree with you
that this is wrong, but Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala did not reveal anything yet.
SubhanAllah. So she kept on arguing with the
prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam.
SubhanAllah. Because of this argument, Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala revealed a complete surah,
which is called Suratu,
al Mujadila
or Mujadila to talk about that event. The
scholars said, look at how Allah
and the sharia of Allah respect
respect the woman who doesn't have a voice
but now she can talk and Allah subhanahu
wa ta'ala listen to what she said and
support
her case and ban that practice and never
to return forever. If a person does it,
he has to go through a heavy
kafara
in Islam before he is able to approach
the wife. So this is the status of
women in Islam.
This is who they are.
If you study the sharia of Allah subhanahu
wa ta'ala, you will find out that Rasulullah
salallahu alaihi wasalam or Islam in general favors
sisters more than the way Islam favors the
brothers. As I always say, if there is
somebody who should be complaining about the riot,
it should be the male,
not a female.
Honestly speaking, if we're going to practice Islam
correctly,
any is any any community
where sisters are not enjoying life, wallahi, that
community is not doing the right thing.
Any community that you see, a sister has
to work for her to survive.
I'm not talking about whether it is halal
or haram. You know, it's halal for both
of them to work if that place is
conducive for them. But any any society where
the sister a sister has to work for
her to live and survive, that society is
not living in the correct correct way. She's
the only person in Islam that somebody has
to provide for her whatever whatever she she
wants. So the enemies of Allah claim that
Islam disrespects
a woman
and does not also equate the sisters with
the brothers in many instances. Number 1, they
mentioned that in the law of inheritance,
why is it
that the male takes,
twice
the portion of?
Assistance. Right?
Is that the case?
Yes. Is that the case? Yes. Okay.
K. This is the first wrong answer you
gave me today.
In Islam,
the male takes the, twice the portion of
a woman. Is that the case?
It depends. Right? When I say it's wrong,
then some somebody told me no. No also
is wrong.
It depends. And, subhanAllah,
I teach inheritance, and I love inheritance so
much. If you go through the inheritance from
a to z,
trust me,
if you go through the inheritance from A
to Z, actually, Islam favored women more than
the brothers.
You know, in inheritance, we have 2 types
of inheritance.
We have something called the faradhi,
fart,
and we have tasib.
Fixed portion and the non fixed portion.
Whoever you found in the fixed portion,
this is the most confirmed and the guaranteed
place.
And who are the takers of this fixed
portion?
They are all sisters.
The only person who is not a woman
in that place was the husband.
The rest are all women. The scholars say,
look at how Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala chose
for them the most protected place.
Because if you're going to inherit with Tawaseeb,
you are shaky. The possibility of you getting
is shaky.
There are circumstances where you don't get anything.
You just have to inherit the crime you
have after the
the loss of that person.
And who are the takers of Tawseeb? They
are all the brothers except one one sister
who freed a slave. She doesn't belong to
the family by blood,
but because she has a favor of that
deceased, I mean, over that deceased, he used
to be a slave and she freed him,
so she became the guardian for him. In
case when he doesn't have anyone to inherit
him, she will be
the inheritor.
So if you look at the rest of
the part that I'm not going to talk
about them, you also conclude with the same
conclusion that sisters are taken more than their
brothers.
But then they focus in this narrow situation
that Allah SWT says when a person dies
and he left a son and a daughter,
then we do
Right? Or he left a brother and a
sister, then we do
habilun veyin.
Why else Allah Subhata mentioned this? In this
way,
none.
There are some places where the brother take
more,
But if you look at the system that
Islam brought to
us, we're supposed to apply it
to apply it,
I mean, entirely,
comprehensively.
We cannot take some part of the sharia
and neglect the other part.
Who stands for the other one in
an Islamic community?
The brother is standing for the sister, or
the sister is taking care of the brother?
Salaam.
Who is standing for that one?
The brother. Right. It's supposed to be like
that. When there is a marriage, who is
providing for the family?
The husband.
If the if the father died and he
left a son and a
daughter,
who takes care of who? Usually,
the brother is supposed to do the job.
So let's say this person left 3,000,000,
right? HK3
$1,000,000. We give HK1 $1,000,000
to the sisters, to the
daughter, and we give him 2,000,000.
The enemies,
they talk. Yeah. Why? Why? Why? Why can't
we just make it equal?
But, subhanAllah, if you come out if you
come inside our community and see the way
Islam designed their life,
actually you might say even that 1,000,000,000 she
might not need it at all.
First of all,
after the demise of the father,
this brother is going to be spending on
the family.
Spending for the family, all of them, including
the sister of his. How money is going
to be kept into the account? If he's
going to touch it, if the community is
functioning properly, trust me, people are going to
blame him. What kind of an evil
son you are? You're touching the money of
your sister. You can't take it from your
pocket and give it to her. So he's
gonna take from those 2,000,000 and spend on
her
throughout her life up to the moment she's
gonna be taken by somebody as a wife.
When she's going to marry, who pays for
the expenses?
The brother will do the job. The brother
will do the job. And then also she's
going to receive the Mahar from who? From
the husband. This Mahar is going to go
to whose account?
Her account. That 1,000,000, don't forget, it is
supposed to be to be there, right? It's
going to go to her account and he
is spending from his money.
And, subhanallah, in some circumstances,
before even she reached that moment of marriage,
his money already finished
because he spent almost everything for the benefit
of the family.
Because he's supposed to be doing this job
and she would get something. And when it
comes to his marriage, who is going to
spend on it I mean, for his marriage,
He will do it for himself.
SubhanAllah, if you look at this
issue with the eyes that is not biased
to any gender, you will say, Alhamdulillah
Allah
provided long inheritance.
From the status and the situation whereby she
cannot take a single thing. But now Islam
says she's an equal partner
to the brothers. But each and every one
of us, Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala says
Allah
says: Your parents,
and subhanAllah, by the way, you know, this
law of inheritance, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala talk
about it in how many verses?
How many verses?
No. It's not 3. Add 1.
4. 4. Yeah. Four verses.
3 in Suratu
and Nisa. Right?
Yousekumullahaffiyehulaniqum.
Walakum Nisa wa Taika Azwajikum.
You know, iron number 11 and 12.
And then the last iron in Suratu Nisa,
that's number 3. And then you have the
last ayah in Surah Al Anfa.
These are the 4 verses. You know this
law of inheritance? Some people wrote a book
like this
thickness, you know. But every single thing, trust
me, with no exaggeration, you can extract it
from those 4 verses.
Every single thing.
And what makes it so amazing?
And also to catch the attention of everyone,
because this is one of the most sensitive
matters.
Allah
did not let the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam
to distribute
inheritance by himself.
Do you know that the amount of the
hadis that talk about inheritance, they are very
little?
Very little.
And they're just in supporting those ayaats. There
is nothing new.
And mother,
you know, that's the only one that you
can say that you might be doing an
exaggeration to extract her portion from the Qur'an.
But from the Sunnah, the Prophet sallallahu alaihi
does exist.
In some places, when they talk to the
Prophet
about some of the matters of inheritance,
Allah SWT will quickly step in and tell
the
Prophet and tell them: I am the one
who will be giving them the fatwa,
not you. Usually, Rasool will be giving them
the fatwa. But now the Last Marta will
tell the prophet, sallallahu alaihi wa sallam, tell
them Allah will be given the fattwa.
Why is that? Because this is a very
sensitive matter.
Many people lost their life because of inheritance.
Families have been misinterpreted because of inheritance.
So Allah, subhanahu wa ta'ala, wants us to
understand that this is a very serious matter
with with him. That's why in the first
ayah, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says,
He said, your
parents and your children,
you don't know which one is more beneficial
to you.
SubhanAllah. This is true. You know? This is
the only fact, You will love, from your
family, from your kids. You don't know which
one among them is more beneficial.
We have instances where somebody used to favor
one of the family members, you know, and
neglected the rest, but the one who caused
him trouble in the future was this one
that he's fame he's favoring.
Allah says you don't know which one is
more beneficial to you. And there is no
way for you to know
because you might think of something to be
beneficial,
but it is not beneficial to you. Who
is the one who knows? Rabulalami.
That's why he says Fareedatamirullah.
This is the fix.
And the end of discussion means something that
nobody is allowed to, to change it from
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.
In the second ayah, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
says, til kahudu dillah. These are the boundaries
of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, and whoever crossed
these boundaries will be taken to help. In
the last ayah, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says,
These are explanations from Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
for you to avoid you going astray.
Which means, if we don't do that which
Allah
says in the law of inheritance, the Ummah
will go astray. So what I said
is that if you look at this law,
you know, of inheritance correctly, you will understand
that actually this is a favor, you you
know, that Allah, subhanahu wa ta'ala, gave for
the sisters, not for the for the brothers.
There is no discrimination
at all. Actually, it's a blessing from Allah,
subhanahu wa ta'ala, to make it in this
in this way. There is no more
just distribution that is better than what Allah,
subhanahu wa ta'ala,
did. They also talk about the discrimination in
Islam between the male and the female when
it comes to the hijab.
Why the brothers, they just wear something, you
know,
short sleeve, you know, her sister's shihazan. And,
subhanallah, somebody asked me this question.
She told me, Ustaz, don't you think that
this is unfair?
I said, what is that?
She says, in Islam, a sister has to
cover herself, and the brothers, they can wear
just any anything they want. Actually, it is
a lie. Brothers also are not supposed to
wear anything they want. They also restricted to
wear
the Islamic
way of
hijab. Right? Everyone has his own hijab, right?
But she is talking against who? Sharia of
Allah
So is there any discrimination in this regard?
No.
Allah
is actually hijab, wallahi. One of the greatest
blessings of Allah and his sisters is the
hijab.
Hijab is an honor and a respect of
Allah Subhana Wa Ta'ala. In Surah 2 Al
Hazab, he says,
He said, tell the believing
tell you, tell your wives and your daughters
and, the the the women of the believers,
tell them to
wear the hijab
from the head to toe. Allah says,
to take it to the ground, because this
is who they used to be in the
time of the Prophet So Allah
says
This is the only way for them to
be recognized so that they will not be
harmed.
I know a person who has narrated a
story
that happened in his country
when there was a clash between the Muslim
and the non Muslim. And in the area
which is dominated by the Muslims,
some of the gangsters,
maybe they don't even pray in their life,
but now they are Muslims, you know. They
were chasing one of the sisters who was
not dressing,
properly. She wasn't dressed,
properly. So they were chasing her. They were
saying that this is
a kavera, you know. They were throwing weapons
against her.
SubhanAllah, she managed to reach a group of
old people and she dropped herself in the
middle of them. So those old people, they
protected her from those young
gangsters.
They asked her they asked them, why do
you want to kill her? They said she
is not a Muslim because they're having as
I said, they're having clashes between the Muslim
and non Muslim in that in that place.
So they asked them this simple question, how
do you know?
They said because of the way she's dressing.
And they asked the woman, are you Muslim?
She said yes.
She even bring the small sized Quran in
her bag.
They asked her to read it. The one
who was narrating the story, he said, wallahi,
I don't believe any of those dexters can
read Quran like her. But then today, they
are Muslims,
and they have to take care of her.
So the reason why they want to kill
her, they said because they cannot believe a
Muslim dressing in this way.
Subhanallah, when I heard this story, the first
thing that come to my mind is the
saying of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, darika aqinna
ayouwarafa falayuday.
I know a sister who said that the
days when she doesn't used to be a
righteous person, she used to get invitations by
those bad ones every every day she goes
out. Sometimes they even follow her to her
own university.
But, subhanallah, she said she feel protected after
wearing the hijab because nobody ever talked to
her after after doing that. So if you
look at the hijab, it's an honor from
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. It's not disrespect
at all. And it's protection because
most of the trouble that the sisters are
getting into, it is simply because of the
way they are dressing. That's why I was
listening one day to
one of the statement of,
somebody from the US. He said no. Although
we don't believe in what he says because
it is absolutely wrong. He said there is
a legitimate *.
There is something legitimate,
a *. In Islam, we don't have this.
We don't have * that is legitimate.
That's why it carries heavy punishment.
The government can intensify the punishment
against rapists.
But he's saying this. They ask him, why
are you saying this? He said because the
doctors
mentioned that the thing that is happening to
her, it is simply because of the way
the way she is, she is dressing. And
I guess any one of you who was
there when the gangs raped her sister in
a bus until death,
you know, the the president or the prime
minister of that country, I still remember
his statement. He says, at the same time,
although we reject what happened, but at the
same time also, sisters, you have to be
very
careful because the way they are dressing is
inviting
the brothers to do whatever
they are doing. So it is a favor
actually to have a hijab for the sisters.
As Allah says, this is the only way
for them to be protected,
and they will not be harmed. 1 of
the
also criticisms against Islam is the relationship between
the husband
and the wife.
The husband
and the wife. Who is more superior, Islamic
leader?
Don't forget my word.
I'm talking about superiority.
Who is the leader in the house?
The husband. Who is the best in the
house?
The wife is more important.
Are you married?
I know why you are saying this.
I will ask you this question after you
marry this.
So the husband is the leader in the
house. Right? This is what we found human
beings, you know.
This is part of the nature of human
beings, that the husband is taking the lead.
It is not because Islam tells him to
take the lead. No. Naturally,
in every community where you go, whether Islam
is there or not, the husband is taken
taking the lead. And this is for the
benefit
of the of the family.
But the question
that I will ask is that a wife,
who is she?
Is she a maid or a partner?
A wife, is she a maid or a
partner?
Partner. Why do you say that?
What does the maid do at at how
at home?
You see, that's the problem.
Very quick to give an answer, but to
justify that answer
is not easy.
K. So let me save my time. In
Islam,
the relationship between the husband and the wife
is based on what Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
says.
What does Rishabah bil ma'ruf means?
It means the life of the prophet, salallahu
alayhi, wasalam, together with with his wives.
And I really advise anyone who is willing
to marry, intended to marry, to read about
the life of Rasulullah sallallahu alaihi wasallam with
the wives at
home.
He was the best husband.
He was the best
The reason why when Allah
gave them permission
to choose whether to stay with him or
to let the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam
divorce them and go and get somebody who
can give them a better dunya life,
None of them was thinking of choosing
other than Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam.
Don't remember don't forget that in the house
of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasalam,
they might stay sometimes for 2 months without
seeing food being cooked in that house. But
at the same time, they never agree to
choose somebody other than Rasool alaihi wasallam.
And you can see one of the reasons
why this is happening, because Rasulullah
sallallahu alaihi wa sallam really care
for for his wife. I will mention one
event which is more than enough to prove
this. Aisha radiAllahu an has said, Rasoolullah Sallallahu
alaihi wa sallam, came back home
one day while she was she was sleeping.
So he came at night and he found
Aisha
sleeping, radiya allahu anha.
The narrator says, the prophet, salallahu alaihi wa
sallam, went to the house, and she was
sleeping. So he took off his shoes
very slowly and calmly
so that Aisha would not wake up.
SubhanAllah, he said he took off his shoes
slowly so that Aisha would not wake up,
and he opens the door slowly so that
Aisha would not wake up.
And then the prophet, sallallahu alaihi, sallam, get
into the house, and he lied down to
sleep next to his his wife.
Right after he lied down, Jibril alaihi wasallam
came and he told him, you you Muhammad,
you Rasulullah.
He called him. So the prophet heard his
voice, so he went out
to Jibril alayhis salam. Rasulullah
had how many wives?
11.
11 wives. Right? But at that time,
it was only
9 he left 9 9 wives when when
he died. So Aisha,
she had other co wives. So when the
prophet
left at night, he thought she was sleeping.
Aisha thought that the Prophet is going to
one of the wives.
So what did she do? She followed the
Prophet
afterwards.
She went into the house, following him in,
in secret.
So the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam went with
Jibri. She cannot see Jibri, but she sees
the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam. So he kept
her going. She was expecting the prophet to
go to the house of 1 of the
wives.
And then she can make it an issue.
So the prophet Sallallahu alaihi wa sallamah went
to the graveyard,
back here next to the house of Aisha
alaihi wa lahmanah.
He went to the graveyard and made long
dua for them.
And then he turned back to the house.
That was a command from Allah for him
to go and make it to our for
those people in the grave.
So when the prophet
turned, going back home, he saw something black
moving very, very fastly, very quickly.
So the prophet
did not say anything, so he left back
home.
When he reached the room, he found
Aisha
She was breathing very hardly.
So he said, Yeah, Aisha, what happened to
you? Because she was running
very fast.
And you know that the distance between al
Baqiyyah, the graveyard, and the house of Aisha
is not that far. So that's the reason
why she couldn't control her breathing.
So when the prophet
found her in this in that situation, so
he asked her, you Aisha,
What happened to you?
Did your sheikhan visit you?
She said, no, Arasulullah. There is nothing
of that nature. He said,
no. Either you tell me the truth or
Allah
will tell me what exactly happened.
So and then she started telling the prophet
she was thinking about this. So the prophet
understood where is she coming from.
So he hit her. When I say hit
him, it doesn't mean he punched, you know.
Just hit her shoulder a bit. He said,
do you think Allah
and the prophet
will ever deceive you?
And subhanAllah, that was the end of the
discussion.
Nobly
you know, she has a bad expectation and
thought about him,
but Rasool Allah SWAMA did not
talk about that. He just told her, do
you think that Allah, subhanahu wa ta'ala, the
prophet, sallallahu alaihi wasallam, will deceive you?
And he closed that page.
And this is Rasool at home.
That's why we have that big respect
in the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam.
One of our scholars, he said if every
Muslim, every household,
every house and every husband is going to
understand this hadith of the prophet sallallahu alaihi
wasallam correctly,
the vast majority of the problems that are
taking place in our houses, which some scholars
said,
they started to believe that there is no
house in the life of the believers nowadays
which doesn't have a problem.
He said, if we are going to understand
this hadith correctly,
that will be the solution of the vast
majority of the problems that are taking place
in our homes. Rasoolullah
A person shouldn't hate his wife
because your wife is not Shaipan.
And let me tell you something and this
is for the brothers. Wallahi, usually
your wives, if you made a right choice,
doing the right thing being told to you
by the prophet
your wife, as they say, aladin is a
wujiha. She's according to the religion of the
husband.
Unfortunately,
we want them to be like Rasool alaihi
salallahu alaihi I'm sorry, to be like Aisha
But we are not acting like Rasool
We are very intolerant
and impatient.
And I'm saying this to the student of
knowledge.
You Allah, it's very unfortunate
to have student of knowledge and this is
not 1 or 2 or 3, but we
have series of them.
Student of knowledge. Married to the sisters, but
the sisters are going through a very hard
time.
And if you're to sit with these brothers,
He said Aisha. They said, As salah, we're
asking about the brothers. He said, Abuha.
The prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam used to come
and sit down with Aisha and let her
narrate her stories to him without getting bored.
Who is that person who can be patient
with his wife to keep on narrating how
stories
are? I mean, you keep her in the
house, who does she have to talk to?
And tomorrow if she gets depressed,
you talk about that, and you get annoyed.
Rasulullah
has never been like that. He has 9
wives with him.
Every single day, he has to go to
the house of each and every one of
them and sit with them and talk to
them
in a very respectable way.
It's not easy to make Rasulullah
angry. That's why he never beat his wife
at all throughout his life.
It's not easy to make him angry. Contrary
to the life
we find ourselves living nowadays. Rasoolullah,
his wife told him
she wants to go and watch the events
being taken place by
by the Abyssinians.
The people from Habashah, they came to the
masir of the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam, and
they were playing some games.
Aisha radiAllahu anha said to the Prophet sallallahu
alaihi wasallam, she wants to watch. Rasoolallahu alaihi
wasallam said, let's go.
SubhanAllah.
SAWAH
SAWAH SAWAH SAWAH SAWAH SAWAH SAWAH SAWAH SAWAH
SAWAH SAWAH in
every aspect of your life with your spouse.
So she said, Rasulullah sallallahu alaihi wasallam told
me, let's go.
She went with the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam.
She put her
the the chin,
you know, on the shoulder of Rasulullah sallallahu
alaihi wa sallam, and watching the event.
And SubhanAllah, Rasulullah sallallahu alaihi wa sallam, he
has other affairs, but this is his wife.
She wants to enjoy, you know. The Prophet
used to ask her, is that enough for
you? She said, no, I still want to
watch.
Rasulullah
will be patient. And then after
a period of time,
Rasulullah
will ask her, Aisha, is that enough or
you want to continue? She said, Rasulullah, I
want to continue.
Until the time she is satisfied and then
the prophet
when she told him, You Rasulullah, I am
satisfied. The prophet
told her, let's go. And there was another
event also when the Prophet
received that Aisha get bored sitting in that
haudage on the camel, he told the companions
to move forward.
You know, they don't know why the prophet
told them, move forward.
They told him, Rasoolah, everything is fine. He
said, No problem. There is nothing wrong. I
just have something with my family.
So he told her, Eishah,
raise
oh, yes.
Okay. Let's race, me and you. Let's see
who will win.
This Rasulullah,
the highest authority,
the biggest person on on earth.
Across the history, nobody was like Rasulullah sallallahu
alaihi wa sallam. But this is Aisha, his
wife, at the age of, even when he
dies,
she's 18 years old.
But she told him, he told her, Come,
let's do a raise.
The prophet
did a raise with her and she
defeated him.
At that time she was just Aisha,
I know that. She defeated him.
In another event the prophet told her Aisha,
let's do it again.
She said: Okay, no problem. She thought it's
going to be like before, she forgot that
she now she she changed, the body changed.
So they did, and the prophet sallallahu alaihi
wasallamah defeated her. When they came back, Rasulullah
sallallahu alaihi wasallahu alaihi wasallamah told her, Aisha,
this is my revenge. Let's go and catch
up the army.
This is Rasulullah. Wala, if I stop to
narrate to you who is Rasulullah sallallahu alaihi
wa sallamah in the house we need, series
of lectures to talk about this this matter.
So that's why
al quwama, that Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala gave
a husband, doesn't mean he is the master
of a slave at home. Rasoolullah Sallallahu Alaihi
Wasallam has said those who are beating their
wives,
Those people will never be the best amongst
you.
Rasool Allah SWAN never did that.
And the best
way to do it is to apply that
hadith of the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam
as salam as salam as salam as salam
as salam as salam as salam as salam
as salam as salam as salam as salam
as salam as salam as
salam.
A believer shouldn't hate
his wife because if you don't like one
attitude she has, you will like the other
the other one.
As I said, if there's going to be
cooperation in the house,
trust me, the vast majority of the things
that you see as a mistake,
they are not going to to happen. Prophet
Sallallahu Sallamahu Sallamahu told you at the very
So if you don't understand this, you're going
to have a lot of clashes with with
your spouse. So there is no disrespect.
It's a matter of responsibility.
This,
qawama or qawama that Allah
put on the shoulder of of the husband.
Islam
recommend
the husband should be very merciful
and should be soft and gentle and tolerant
and also understanding the one that he is
living,
with. That's why the scholar said your wife
needs from you
a diff
to believe that she is with somebody who
cares cares for her. That's what she needs.
She doesn't need that money.
That's why I said earlier, any woman who
is focusing on the wealth that the husband
died, she's going to cry at the end
of the day.
Umuzera, she said, I live with the first
husband
and then I live with the second husband.
And if I were to compare the life
with the first husband
to the life of the second husband, she
said,
the second husband gave me everything. He even
asked me to share his wealth with my
family members
and he gave me double
the size of that which I received from
the previous husband. But she said if I
am to look at what I got from
him of wealth
and I compare it with one
cup that I got from the first husband.
She said that cup is more valuable than
what I get from the second husband. What
did she lose from the second husband? She
lost that, you know, nature of a woman,
you know, that she's looking for somebody who
made her believe that she's living under and
there's somebody who cares for her. So this
is also a favor
that we should actually salute Islam not to
criticize
the religion of Allah for
this. So as I said, we have a
lot to say, this matter but Omar told
me my time is is up. So what
I will conclude with is that there is
no place for a woman, wallahi, there is
no place for a woman to be protected
and her right to be preserved
except if she hides under the umbrella of
Islam.
Islam is the only system and the religion
that can protect
her rights from
the
what you call the hatred of the enemies
of Allah
and any tragedy that is taking place against
the women nowadays.
And my message to our, sisters and the
brothers as well is to restrict ourselves to
that which Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala gave us.
Wallahi, there is no one who loves us
more than Allah, subhanahu wa ta'ala.
And go back as I said, you can
see
you know, one of my professors was writing
the story that I shared with you. He
said there was a non Muslim sister who
cried
just by listening to what Allah Subhana Wa
Ta'la provide for them for the sisters in
Islam. But unfortunately,
in most instances, we don't like this. We
want to do it ourselves. That's what we
end up getting into into trouble.
Every single second, every single minute, there is
a sister who is in trouble. And trust
me, only Islam can protect her rights and
take her away from all of this trouble
that she is getting into. So I advise
you to stick to the religion of Allah,
put your trust in Allah,
and don't you ever use the glasses of
the Western community to see the Sharia of
Allah,
otherwise you're going to end up criticizing the
religion of Allah in the wrong way and
you will lose because Allah
Allah doesn't care.
He laid down the rules and the sharia
and He says your success lies in them.
You follow these rules, you succeed. You don't
follow it, Allah
will never send angels to force you to
follow, but he will lead you to
to the life.
You're going to cry with your own eyes
in the way many, many, many sisters crying,
and they are still crying.
And the only solution they have is to
come back to the sharia of Allah Subhanahu
wa Ta'ala and to trust every single thing
that is said by
Allah
preserve your hijab.
It's your honor.
It's your protection.
You know, the one who is wearing the
hijab, she has this prestige, you know, that
exists in the heart of the brothers. It
is not easy for somebody to approach her.
Nakedness will not take you anywhere.
Nowadays, we find out, subhanAllah,
they reduce them to the lowest level. I
went to a place, I saw the pictures
of the sisters. You know, they're advertising their
product
on the floor. People are stepping on it.
You know, in the past, the fuqaha says,
if you have pictures at home, as long
as you're disrespecting them and And the example
of the disrespect they say when you make
them on the carpet so that people can
step on them.
But nowadays, somebody think that this is,
you know, an honor for her, a respect
for her to have her pictures
in a very naked way, you know. You
see the brothers, you know, even if they
are not Muslim, you see him dressing dressed,
you know. But his wife is almost naked.
He's almost naked,
yeah. Because somebody is feeding their brain that
wearing the hijab is, is an injustice and
unfairness against
them and also restricting
their freedom. So I Muslim,
sisters
to pay attention to this. Islam is your
success. Islam is your protection. And there is
no any other umbrella that you can protect
yourself except under the umbrella of the religion
of Allah, subhanahu,
wa ta'ala.
So are we equal? Yes. We are equal
in the eyes of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
There is no sharia for the brothers and
the other one for the sisters. We're all
equal in the eyes of Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala. But as the scholar said, we are
not the same. We're not the same in
the way we think and Allah Subhanahu Wa
Ta'ala is dealing with each and every one
of us according to our to our nature.
It's his mercy. When we go to, talk
about jihad, who is that person that it
is mandatory for upon him to go for
jihad? Brothers or the sisters?
The brothers. The sisters, they just go if
they want to go. And the reason why
in the time of the Prophet sallallahu alaihi
wa sallam, they are not taking the sisters,
it is because it is very dangerous.
And they are one of the most valuable
entities in our community.
That's why they stay at home. The brothers
have to face those, consequences
that might happen after after the battle.
Masjid, when we go to the masjid, who
is that person that is mandatory,
You know, it's obligatory upon him to go
to the masjid? The brothers or the sisters?
The brothers the sisters, they go if they
want to go. But the prophet
said,
The sisters, when they complained, they said they
want to also contribute to the jihad. The
prophet
said, no.
Don't look for this.
You also, Allah
gave you another form of jihad, although there
is no fighting in it. What is the
jihad?
Easy and the other one is difficult, Islam
will take the sisters to the much easier
one
and give the brothers the hardest one. The
prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam to reply, those people
who used to kill their daughters, he says,
if Allah bless
you with 2 daughters
and you take care of them properly and
you are kind to them and you respect
them and you educate them properly, the prophet
said if you are kind to them,
they will be your protection against *.
He doesn't say this concerning the the brothers.
It doesn't mean the brothers are losers, but
this is to show that a woman has
a position with us in the religion of
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala. So I hope insha'Allah
this simple reminder for both of us is
more than enough for us to see the
virtue of the religion of Allah Subhanahu Wa
Ta'ala and to have a good intention to
live in Islam. There is no protection, as
I said, for each and every one of
us, except under the umbrella of Islam. May
Allah, subhanahu wa ta'ala, grant us good and
tawfi
in this life and the hereafter. And may
Allah
accept what he said,
for his sake and may Allah submit to
forgive anything that we say here which is
wrong.
The first question from the audience is,
as women are the shapers of the
and have a huge responsibility,
in what ways should the husband help her?
As women
are the shapers of the
and have a huge responsibility,
in what ways should the husband help her?
In everything.
Yeah. Rasool alayhi wasallam, used to be
a very strong support for his family members.
Whatever is appropriate for the prophet
as a man to do, he used to
support his family in that regard.
This is how the husband should
should be acting at home.
Somebody who cooperates, somebody who support,
somebody who sit with her and guide her
on how to do things if she doesn't
know how to do it. And, actually, marital
relationship
is all about cooperation between the husband and
the wife.
Yeah. That's why
I would advise
all the wives
and those who are about to marry
not to take this mentality of the Western
community
and some cultures where the woman doesn't act
at home. She just eats and drink and
have relationship with the spouse and that's it.
Life will have no
taste, ew Allah.
There are some people who are there, pumping
the sisters nowadays, that it is not your
responsibility to clean the house. It is not
your responsibility to cook for the husband. You
are acting like a maid, like a slave.
And SubhanAllah, I'm telling you the truth. In
some of these communities,
the rate of the divorce
is at the increase.
And sisters used to live with no problem.
They enjoy that, actually.
But somebody who has taken this
ideology of the of the enemies of Allah,
bringing
it to us because they are jealous of
what we have.
Allahuqsaqsaqum
billah, they are jealous of a woman, and
Muslim Muslim woman.
Because what we have, they don't have. The
protection you have, they don't have. The respect
you have, they don't have.
I have seen this, you know, in many
places,
subhanAllah.
You don't find a sister respect being respected
in the way our sisters and our wife
are being respected.
So I will advise
all the wives,
you know, not to listen to any of
this.
When you cook for the family,
you get reward
for that.
Allah rewards you.
You. And also the feeling that this you're
cooking for the family and the husband is
going to eat, the children will be eating
your food.
Whoever is benefiting from that food, you will
be getting reward for that.
The husband, when he comes and he finds
her cooking, he will be happy with that.
That brings the relationship
closer
and make it fixed
when they sit and they eat together. And
this is my proposal for all of you.
You shouldn't have 2 plates at home.
In most instances, we don't even have one
plate at home.
Everyone eats outside.
I believe this is wrong
because I have no time.
She might not have a time because she
goes to work. I go and work also.
When do we
meet?
It's when we all come back home.
If there is something that is uniting us
at home, you know, life will be excellent.
But, unfortunately, I ate my food outside. She
ate hers, you know. When I come back
home, I go and sleep. She goes and
sleep.
Wallah, there is no test in life when
the wife is eating alone and the husband
is eating alone.
I'm telling you based on experience.
Have one plate, sit with your wife, eat.
If you can give her the the food,
you know, from time to time, what's wrong
with that? Ask her to open her mouth
and feed her with the food. Was wrong
with that. Was sallallahu alaihi wa sallamal said,
Who's that husband that's doing this?
Maybe in the 1st day, when they come
in front of everyone, they do that. No?
After that, no more. He doesn't want to
see her next to him. She has to
bring his food alone. She doesn't eat he
doesn't eat with her.
So that kind of cooperation has to be
maintained.
And I wish you guys will listen
take it seriously. Sit with your family. Help
them at home. In the kitchen, when she's
in the kitchen, if you come back home
early and you find her in the kitchen,
go on and let's go and talk to
her.
You will love she will appreciate it she
will appreciate it
it will naturally
hope you know to be shown concern more
male or female
The female,
you know, you go and talk to her.
She will appreciate that. If you ask her
to cook again, she will cook again.
But we don't do that, you know.
When she's cleaning the house and you're just
sitting down there watching TV.
No. Contribute in that. You also clean some
part of the house.
This is life of the prophet sallallahu alaihi
wasallam. When it comes to the tarbia of
the kids, everyone should take part in the
tarbia.
She doing some part and you're doing some
part. And don't you ever embarrass her in
front of her children.
That should be the policy in the house.
When she has a stand, she says this
is supposed to go in this way. You
also should say 'yeah, this is how it
should be going'.
If you disagree with that,
the best way to make it is not
to embarrass her in front of our children.
It's to go and sit with her separately
and ask her what is the justification
behind this?
Sometimes that that instruction that is coming from
her is just coming out of nowhere, you
know. She also couldn't justify it.
Yeah. Then when you realize that, yes, there
is no justification for this, you tell her
this is wrong.
And if it is possible, ask her to
fix it, not you fixing it.
Ask her to go and fix it with
the kids.
So this is the kind of cooperation that
I found in the life of the prophet
sallallahu alaihi wa sallamahu with his family.
And this is what marks
a good husband at home.
Somebody whose wife feels that she cannot live
without him.
How many husbands that their wives
think that they cannot live without them
because they love the husband? Only a few,
to be honest with you.
Only a few.
Rasoolallah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said, the best among
the brothers are those who are the best
in the eyes of their wives.
Again, this is a very long topic that
I love so much which we need it
nowadays. But unfortunately, there's no time to go
much deeper in it. But these are my
simple advice to to both, you know, they
should be living a life of cooperation. Husband
is is helping, and the wife is also
helping. And then they can do the best
in raising up a better
child that can lead a nation to a
success in.
Moving on to question number 3 from the
audience.
Although Islam regards women highly,
there are still Muslims today
who treat women badly
due to their culture.
People sometimes confuse culture with religion,
and this obtrates a bad image from Islam.
What are your thoughts on it?
Please note for this.
Yeah. And we have to fear Allah Subhanahu
Wa Ta'ala because many times we say Islam,
Islam, Islam. You know, The enemies are saying
Islam. And the liberalists also are saying Islam.
Everyone is saying Islam. Islam is not for
this. Alhamdulillah, the religion of Allah's message is
very clear.
Aqsimubillah.
There is no injustice once whatsoever
in the religion of Allah's mercy against a
woman. None whatsoever.
And whatever the community is doing, Islam is
not for it.
I know some communities, and you know these
communities without mentioning the name because I want
to survive. I don't want them to kill
me after this. But but you know some
communities, a girl has no right to choose
her husband.
True?
She has to marry somebody from the family
members.
Even from the country members, she cannot marry
somebody from the country members.
Meaning they are both from
country A.
You know? And this person is is good,
is okay. But the family will never agree
to give. She has to go to somebody
who
they
who complained to me, subhanAllah. Her parents
were telling her, I don't know what kind
of parent are these,
you Allah. Shame on them.
They're telling how we invest in you.
And today,
you want to marry somebody that you want?
Never. It would never happen. You have to
go to the person that will choose for
you.
Wallahi, shame on these parents.
I say to my daughter, today I invest
in you and you have to go to
somebody that I
well, I shame on these parents.
Yes. In Islam, as a guardian, as a
waleed,
I shouldn't tolerate a loser to be the
husband of of my daughter.
That's wrong for me to do this. So
when she brings somebody who is a loser
and she told
person, what should I tell her?
No,
I don't accept.
But then I bring another person and give
it to her? No.
It is none other than the love that
I have for
for her, but I know she's gonna cry
after after
but I cannot impose somebody else on her.
I have
advised her. I reject the one that is
a loser, but then I advise her to
bring somebody who is who is okay.
Her sister was given
in the time of rasul
as salaam and she doesn't like that person.
So she complained to the prophet
Rasulullah
said, did that happen? She said yes.
The prophet
said, you do have a right
to cut off that marriage.
She said, oh, I have a right? He
said yes. She said, by the way, You
Rasulahi, I don't want to destroy something which
is already established by my father.
But I'm here
just to let the sisters know that their
parents have no right to force them to
marry somebody who they don't want to stay
with.
We have some societies, the wife is just
like the maid. Actually, even the maid is
more respected than the wife.
All of these practices without going into much
detail, they are not Islam, and Islam is
not for them.
In Islam is a partner of a husband.
A wife in Islam is a partner of
a husband. And the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallabha
also told us in his wasiyeh, he says,
I remind
Wherever she goes, she has to take your
permission. She does think she has to ask
you permission for this and that. You know,
she is just like a slave at home.
That's why she deserved
that intensive amount of mercy from your side.
Intensive amount of care from your side.
That's what rasulullah sallallahu alaihi wasallam taught us.
When my wife talk, I'm supposed to listen.
I'm supposed to pay attention to her words.
I'm not supposed to embarrass her or disrespect
her. Rasulullah sallallahu alaihi wa sallam never did
that.
He made them somebody.
That's why in one of these events, the
prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam was there. A group
of sisters came and they were complaining about
something and they raised up their voice.
The raising of their voices,
Umar
came to the place. He said, assalamu alaikum
Rasool Allah.
And then all the sisters kept quiet, and
they sat properly, and nobody was talking.
The Prophet
laughed.
Umar came to the house and he found
the prophet laughing.
He says, abhaqqallahu
sindaka rasulullah.
He said, Rasulullah, what happened? The prophet said,
I was
sitting with these, sisters and they are raising
up their voices.
But when you say, Assalamu Alaikum,
they sat down, you know, properly and they
stopped talking, no shouting, no even talking at
all. The prophet said, omar shaytan, cannot sit
in the place where you are. But, subhanallah,
the scholars took from this the freedom that
Allah
gave the sisters in the time, you know,
that they can even come and and talk
and even raise up their voice. I remember
in one of these events, I knew somebody
came to Umar radiallahu anhu
and, he he came to complain about his
wife.
You know, when he reached the house, he
found
Allah. And no one was listening.
So the man left.
Why did he leave the place?
I'm here to complain about my wife. And
here's Omar. His wife also is doing the
same thing, and he couldn't do anything. How
can he a problem then?
So and then, subhanallah, Omar told him that
why not? Why can't
Please, this is my advice to all of
us. Let us change this
bad behavior, you know. When you marry your
wife, marry her because of who she is
and because of religion and manners.
And this will help you insha'Allah not to
see the deficiency
that will take place in her physical appearance
in the future.
And don't forget the life of rasul in
in your house. This is better for you
and better for her and better for the
for the Ummah. The wife should be like
the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam
And the husband should be like Rasulullah sallallahu
alaihi wa sallam. Because the husband also complained.
You know, the wife wants him to be
like Rasulullah sallallahu alaihi wa sallam. But she's
also not like Aisha radiAllahu anha. Aisha,
when somebody said bad words to her, she
said before I reply that person who talked
to me in a bad way, I looked
at the face of Rasul alaihi
wasallam at first
to see whether he mind
me replying or not. SubhanAllah.
Who is that woman that is like this?
That before she does something at home,
she has to focus on the husband first
to to see whether he will like her
doing it or not.
Who is that person is that is like
this?
You know, you're like that. So if you
want a good life, like the life of
the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallamah, we have
to read
his seerah and get the way he used
to treat his wife. And the sisters also
need to read about the life of the
wives of the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam
and live like that. May Allah grant us
good. But as I said, Islam is not
for any form of injustice against women in
any community.
Moving on to question number 3 from the
audience.
In unfortunate cases
such as that harassment,
is the only subject matter
of discussion
supposed to be how a sister is dressed,
or should the brother's gaze
be also emphasized on?
That's true.
But can I force people to close their
eyes?
Who is the who is the one who
asked the brother?
Gaze? Who is the one who asked them
to lower their gaze?
Right?
Are they doing so?
Sometimes. Right? K. Let me ask you something
that I want your honest answer.
K. I want your honest answer.
If let's say we're having a lecture in
a place,
you know, and the only
access to the place is one door in
front of every ward, and a brother comes.
We have 1,000 people in the home. How
many people are going to stop focusing on
the lecture and look at him?
Somebody who doesn't know the value of the
lecture.
Yeah. These are the one that are going
to look at him.
But, naturally, when a sister come to the
place,
how many people are going to look at
her? Why do you keep quiet?
I don't know. Oh, you don't know. Actually,
I'm not asking you, Abdulla. You're too young
to know that.
Alhamdulillah. Alhamdulillah, Abdullah.
How many people are going to look? Honestly
speaking,
Just at least minus 1.
999. 999. Even that one also will be
looking somehow and be coming back to the
lecture.
I'm telling you, these are these are the
realities, right? Who is more attractive? The brothers
or the sisters?
Let's be let's be realistic, you know, to
ourselves, you know. I like this type of
life, being realistic.
Let's be realistic.
Who is more pretty? Who is more, you
know, attractive to the other other gender? Man
or woman?
Woman, of course. That's why I last wanted
to ask her for her protection to put
the hijab on her. He doesn't ask the
brothers to put hijab. Who cares about him?
You will lie. When they when they advertise
things, they they bring naked man to come
and advertise.
They never
did. But they bring who?
Yeah. In some of their advertisement, they even
write, we want a sister, but she has
to be good looking.
Why? Because there are some people who are
going to buy, not because they want to
buy, but because they want to go and
enjoy looking.
They want to enjoy talking. They want to
hear her voice.
So what does the question that you're saying
is true? We emphasize on both.
You get it? We emphasize on both. But
which one is more important,
The hijab or focusing on lowering the gaze?
Hijab.
Because you cannot control lowering the gaze no
matter how much you try. Raul Abu Al
Amin says we shouldn't do what we're doing.
But the hijab, is it within our control?
Yes.
Every sister, naturally, she can maintain the hijab
if she if she wants.
But naturally, who I mean, human beings are
attracted to
to the opposite
gender.
That's the reason why I last want to
ask you to lower your gaze, lower the
gaze, lower the gaze from both side.
But since the brothers are not doing the
job,
a sister, is she going to say, okay.
That's been that is this is unfair.
Why did they talk about us? They didn't
talk about them. No. We talked to them,
but they don't listen.
What do we have?
To go to the other protection given to
the sisters by.
Allah
says, if she wears the hijab, this is
the strongest protection she has for her to
be protected.
That's why you rarely hear a case of
a sister who is wearing
hijab correctly getting into these type of problems.
You know, throughout my life, I heard once.
And when I checked, I found out that
this sister, she was the one actually who
went to the place where these criminals are.
Are. So the hijab was not able to
protect her because she goes to the place
willingly.
But other than that,
it doesn't go with this,
evil Allah.
Allah never made a mistake in what he
says. He says hijab is a protection. We
believe it's a protection.
The best protection the sister has is hijab.
We believe in this. But as I said,
I agree with you, whatever the question that
might be, that we should also emphasize
on lowering the gaze. But the most important
one is the hijab.
You know? Because the one who is wearing
the hijab properly,
trust me, even the bad people are very
sensitive when it comes to talking to her
or looking at her. Yeah. Allah grant you
Good.
Now,
I would like to hold you through the
remaining questions that cannot be asked because the
time is very short.
Regarding the question that not been answered,
she can probably ask classes for me in
the week. Questions as well.
A lot? Yeah. Can we take, like, 5
minutes to answer some?
5 minutes. Alright. So,
you just mentioned this one last question.
The next question is,
is looking at a girl or sister without
desire around?
How many Quran do we have?
Salaam. How many Quran do we have?
1.
In that Quran, the last word says,
man shouldn't look and a woman shouldn't look
right.
Say yes. Yes. Yes.
Did he
did did he say unless if you have
no desire?
So the answer is given to us by
the Quran. Right?
We just have to lower our gaze whether
we have desire or we don't have a
desire. Right? And question, if a person look
without desire
and he said he doesn't feel anything, what
does that mean?
What does that mean? He said, go to
the hospital and
and check, is he really a man or
not?
Anyway.
Okay. So as the time is going short,
I really apologize to the audience that has
Still have 4 minutes. You said 5.
Still have 4 minutes. 4 minutes. Okay. Okay.
Yeah. Questions.
Moving on.
Okay. The next question, is it considered as
a sin if I define my parents
who wish me to be a career oriented
woman,
who follow the trend of the current culture.
Example,
they want me to wear trendy clothes, adult
myself in front of non macros,
pursue a male populated carrier, and then let's
go on. Please advise me on how I
should approach them.
Yeah. Please advise me how I should approach
them. I'm the only daughter, so I feel
very pressured to formulate what they say. I
think I get that question.
As a
Muslim,
whatever Allah make it mandatory and wajib upon
you, nobody has a right to violate that
right, Whether these people are parents or whoever.
You must obey Allah's However,
in dealing with the parents, you have to
be very careful.
Talk to them in a nice way.
You know, resist
but in the nice way.
But you're not allowed to stay away from
an Islamic way of life because of the
interest of your parents. If you do that,
you get into trouble, they also get in
trouble. You have no excuse in the eyes
of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala. You You cannot
go to Allah and say, Allah, my parents
forced me to do this.
This is not within their jurisdiction.
They have no right to ask a sister
to disobey a lost hunter because of their
personal interest.
So she has to say no to them,
but in a nice way. Yep. She resists.
She doesn't do it. She shouldn't do it,
but she talked to them in a nice
way. Cry. Do whatever you want to do
of showing them your weaknesses and begging them
to stay away from this thinking, but you
cannot go against Allah
because of the interest of of the parent.
May Allah to the parent. It's good. But
as I said, try your best to talk
to them in a nice way. Don't be
harsh. Let them be harsh, but you shouldn't
be be harsh, but at the same time,
don't do what they ask you to do
if it is not correct.
2 minutes left.
Last question.
2 minutes left.
Alright. This is this is asking, or I'm
a little friend. If there is a situation
when someone's
IDCSC
exam
clashes the time of?
How should we deal with it?
Go to.
If you are in the exam, you're going
to have an exam, and there is no
way for you to to be late. If
they can let you pray Jummah and then
come and join the exam, then it is
worthy for you to go to Juman.
But if there is no way for them
to accept, then you pray the Lord,
k, instead of Juman. But if,
time is going to finish, time is going
to finish where you cannot combine between and.
In this case, you have to tell them
you are a Muslim. You have to pray
even in the exam or whether they like
it or they like it. You cannot let
the time finish without praying to Allah
But as long as you can finish the
exam before the end of Ashab, prayer time,
can you combine both prayers?
One minute left.
One minute. Okay. One minute left. Okay. Omar
took from me 5 minutes, so I'm taking
my 5 minutes back.
Okay. I understand.
There's one more question actually. Okay.
Not from my minutes.
Okay. Great. Great.
Sheikh, in the second question, you mentioned that
the wife still has responsibility
to her,
cooking and such. But some said
that you should try and keep the same
situation
for her
as she was with her father.
Unfortunately,
many sister nowadays
don't learn anything from childhood
regarding these shores
and I have no interest in them.
Advice for both brothers and sisters regarding this
issue.
I will stick to that advice.
Yeah. There are many sisters who are married,
and they are 0 when it comes to
cooking.
Nowadays, alhamdulillah,
we have Sheikh.
You too.
Every type of food you want, it is
there.
You know, kids goes to the YouTube and
just open a video of somebody tell them
put this and that. Why is it difficult
in this? Cut this in this way, she
cut. You know, do this. You know, you
get all the recipes online.
You don't need to do anything.
Alhamdulillah, our grandparent, they did a nice job.
But nowadays, we live this kind of lazy
life, Which is wrong way of living.
Why does a sister agree
with deficiency in her life? Wallahi, this is
deficiency.
Well, A sister treat the age of marriage,
but she doesn't know how to cook.
It's a deficient.
Why does she agree to continue with this?
Why can't she fix it when she grows
older, when she married? Why can't she fix
this?
And what's wrong with with that? So I
was sticking with my words. Although there are
some who will tell their sisters to do
this and that, and their husband doing this
and that, and they ignore the fact that
we're losing a lot of marriages because of
this.
They're happy. They're staying with their family, and
his wife is cooking for him. And he's
telling the other sisters, no, they shouldn't cook
for their husband and they're losing their marriages
and he doesn't care about that because it
doesn't affect him. May Allah guide them. This
is my message to those ones. Allah, may
Allah guide them.
This cultural practice that we inherit from our
parents is good. It brings the family together.
Nowadays, we don't have life. Trust me. We
don't have life.
Husband is living on his own. The wife
is living on her own. There is nothing
bringing them together.
What left for us is this cooking, you
know, sitting together, talking, you know, eating together.
But now we want to take away this
one also. They go out and eat in
the restaurant. It's okay to go and eat,
but how can you replace the best life
where you cooperate and,
you know, increase the love between you and
your spouse with eating outside, which you cannot
observe that.
You can do what you're doing at home.
You know? You relax when you eat at
home. She relax when you eat at home.
If she goes out, she cannot eat in
the way she is eating at home. The
way she talk at at home when she
eats, she cannot do it in, in the
outside when she goes out.
So my advice remain the same thing.
It is better for a wife, even if
she used to live an affluent life when
she married, to tell the husband, I will
cook at home.
You know, you come. Let's
try. If I don't know, I will learn.
You know? Go to the grandmother's salon if
you don't like the beauty work.
But this is a very serious matter. I
really advise all the sisters to take this
as a very serious matter.
And, it's okay for you to buy from
time to time, but it's better for the
wife to take this, good behavior, to cook
for the family.
And to have one plate, as I said,
where all the family members will sit down
and eat, this is when we educate the
younger one. This is when we remind ourselves.
This is when we discuss our matters. This
is the best time we have for the
discussion about what concerns us in the family
and to produce
a better and a good life. May Allah
grant you good and toffee, but I will
conclude with what I said earlier. Please understand
that nobody loves you more than Allah
and stick to Islam and the life of
Rasulullah
And for the sisters, I will repeat my
words. You have no protection
in any place other than the religion of
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala. Nowhere you can go
to have your right
being fully protected except if you stick to
that which Allah
says with no modification.
And don't listen to anyone who is aiming
for reinterpretation of the shaydah of Allah, subhanahu
wa ta'ala, telling you that this is what
fits you in today's life. Know, O Allah.
What fits you in today's life and the
life until the day of judgement is that
which Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala has chosen for
you. And this is found in the Quran
and the life of Rasulullah.
So let's look at the Muslim and show
a good example of a good believer, you
know, to Allah
and to the rest who are not yet
accepting our religion. May Allah grant you good
and preserve all of you. And may Allah
be with you and grant you to speak
in this
to ask questions to share,
the time is very unfortunate,
but do not worry because,
Shane and Brian also conduct classes 4 times
a week.
And you can see these are the both
classes available
from the
from the fake classes,
from the signs of the last hour as
well as.
So
so for these classes,
they're actually a QR code to scan. So
please do scan the QR code
Thank you so much for the all the
very assistance who have participated in this event.
A special thank you to Sheikh for, talking
on this topic.
Tell people,
take their belongings. If they wanna pray at,
if they wanna pray, pray at.
Yeah.
Take their belongings.