Preparing for death: Journey of the hereafter – This talk was given at the Valley Ranch Islamic Center
2017-06-21 – Ramadan 2017
Hussain Kamani – Late Night Reflections 04
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The transcript describes the loss of a famous Iranian man named Dr. Islam and the importance of living in a culture where people are not as valued. The speakers discuss the use of words to describe experiences and the need to avoid negative narratives. They also touch on the death of a deceased Iranian man named Dr. Islam and the importance of remembering the four things that Islam'sline, including not taking one's PSA seriously, not being proud of parents' sub struggling, and not giving children their fair share of rights. The segment ends with a call to action for people to take action to protect loved ones.
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Bismillah Haman kundala
hamdu lillahi wa kafa Ramadan a budding Lady of Safa.
sanada cgt ohata, Milan via.
on early Hill, Ischia was Harvey Murdoch,
one of the realities of life
is that very few people have the ability
to benefit from a blessing while they actually have.
Most of us, we spend our time crying after the blessing is gone.
But while we have the opportunity, we don't realize how lucky we actually are.
I remember once I was sitting with my shift, and he mentioned this exact point, he was teaching class and he said that you don't realize the value of sitting in front of a teacher day in day out for so many hours a day. But the day you leave madrasa, the day you won't have access to your teachers anymore, that's the day you'll want to come back and study here for the rest of your life.
You take this to any aspect of life, and you'll find this reality fit in there very perfectly. For example,
the relationship of a parent and child
while the parent is their children have little to no regard for their parents.
Because they think to themselves that every day that mother will be there, that mother will make law for me. Every day that Father will be there, he'll embrace me and hug me.
But the day that they're informed, that your mother has left the world or your father has left the world.
They feel as if the world literally just folded on them.
Now you can do all you want to. You can do whatever is in your ability, you can cry and kick and jump and do whatever you want to somehow get that moment back.
But when no matter what happens, that person won't come back alive. Because once they've left the dunya now they move forward with their journey.
I was I served in Chicago for many years as a mom.
One day one mother she called me.
And she said to me, from our community from the ICC Chicago Community, she said to me that my young son is very sick. He's been in the hospital for the past few days. So I went to visit her son at the hospital young guy. He used to play basketball in our parking lot, even though our parking lot was very small. You know, he's play there. Someone regular at the masjid.
I went there and I saw his state and he was on life support, became very sick very quick.
His father was handicapped on a wheelchair, only child, the mother and father was sitting by the side of their child and they were crying and crying.
I left there a few days later, the mother called me and said the doctors are saying that they want to take my child off of life support because he's more or less dead now.
We were wondering if you can be there when he leaves the dunya and transitions to the next.
So I said to the lady, of course I'll come.
So I came in, I don't think I realized what I actually signed up for until I walked in the room.
That's when I realized that what I signed up for was to sit in front of a mother that's going to see her child die in front of her eyes.
And the mother can do nothing about it.
She stood by her child side. The doctor came he removed some of the machinery
and she started crying. She was holding his hands so tightly I can see her grip. And she was kind of biting her lips looking at our child and she was mumbling something and she was crying and crying, crying. All I can see was just two rivers flowing from her eyes.
And then she told the doctor when his final findings final moments come to me.
And the doctor came to her a little while later you can see that he was at the doorstep of death. His chest was blowing. The soul was ready to leave his body. She leaned forward and she kissed him on the forehead and all you can see was water just pouring off his head like a fountain was just pouring down. And she was just there kissing him until his body stopped moving.
And even then she continued
and she was saying stuff like oh my son, we part of this dunya but you'll never leave the heart of your mother. I prayed for you before you came to this world and I will continue to pray for you even after you leave this world. My son you will be in my heart every day in my prayer every night she was saying these things in order to she was reading this and she was kept saying it again and again. And she said on the day of judgment when you stand in front of Allah and Allah subhanho wa Taala does your hisab If Allah gives your mother permission, your mother will be standing by your side and she will say Allah have mercy on him just as I had mercy on him.
Then finally she got up. I got up to greet
need her to give her some support, she was a wreck. But then I realized once again that I actually was not able to fulfill that task because I was a wreck myself, being a mother go through this.
And I said to her Auntie, I was here to give you support, but I need some support myself, I apologize, I'm not ready to support you, or say anything to you to cheer you up, or even give you some hope. So she said to me, I didn't call you here for that. For that I have a muscle.
My son used to enjoy listening to your lectures and attending the machines that you let it. So I called you because right before I brought my son to the hospital before he had an incident that led him to this, where you're seeing him right now.
him and I had an argument.
And I set some things to him, that as a mother, I would give everything that I have in the rule just to take those moments back. So the last thing I said to my child would be something that I was proud of. But the last thing I said to him wasn't something that I'm happy of today. And she said to me, Chef, I want you to be a witness, that By Allah, the day he was born, these were the first hands that held him, I was the first person to embrace Him, the first person to kiss him. And by Allah, I cried that day, at the joy of his arrival. And even though he may not be able to know this today, but I was the last person to hug him, the last person to kiss him. And today I cry at his departure.
And by Allah, I will stand by his side on the day of judgment of Allah gives me permission, and I will testify on his behalf, that he was a believer in Allah subhana wa Tada. I looked at this lady, and I thought to myself, and I still think about this. What What did she do to just spend a few more moments with her child? You guys understand that? What wouldn't she do? Only if she could have those moments again. But who in the world thinks that this moment will be the last moment nobody thinks like that. Unless they are the close friends of Allah subhanho wa Taala. Because they wait for that moment that maybe this might be the last moment. Maybe this might be the last moment. Maybe this
might be might be the last moment. My teacher, my chef, used to always say something beautiful. He would say, every moment in your life ultimately prepares you for the most important moment of your entire life. And the most important moment of your life is the moment the soul will leave your body. That's the most important moment. And every moment before that this one, the one that just passed the one that's coming. What we do in these moments serves as a foundation to prepare us for the last moment right before right before we leave the venue. And
the moment that we leave the dunya how we die how we leave this world, then affects the most important moment of our entire existence. And the most important moment of your existence is the name that Allah is the day that Allah subhanho wa Taala says, Yeah, Muhammad Ali Hussain come forward. That's the most important moment of your entire existence. What happens then? Whether Allah subhana wa tada is pleased with you, or whether Allah subhanho wa Taala is angry and disappointed in you. That's what it all boils down to.
And this leads us back to valuing moments while we actually have them.
Taking them taking something out of them, making something of them. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said
Kamata, Yona tomato, tomato tomahto, Sharon, the way you live your life is the way you will die. And the way you will die is the way you will be resurrected. I had a friend
who knew a physician who served in a Muslim country. And he was telling this conversation he had with his friend he was saying that this friend of mine who was a physician in a Muslim country, he said to me that 70% of his Muslim patients who died in this Muslim country died without the Kadima. They died without Shahada. Some of them died while singing the song but they were listening to over the PA system. Some of them died while they were cursing at a family member and that they were
that they had a graduate while they were alive. Some of them died while they were talking about some debt that someone owed them. Very few people he said in this Muslim country actually died while they said La ilaha illAllah Muhammad Rasul Allah, because even though all of the circumstances were appropriate for that, the doctor is Muslim, you're in a Muslim land, Muslims are dying all around you. You hear the word on every day from lying wherever you're lying down. But even then, because that person never had a concern for that death, Allah subhana wa tada did not give that person that death. Allah subhana wa tada gave that person what was their biggest concern in the world. And on
the other hand,
you look at some people
what they did their entire life, Allah subhanho wa Taala give them depth on that exact thing. Imam shamsudeen mo Allahu Allah has a book called CR Allah novella, in which he covers the biographies of the famous narrators of hunting.
The grand the great narrators of honey. If you open up his car llama novella, you will find a scholar by the name of Abu Zubaydah. Razi, what's the name
of missoura A Razzie this will you understand who this person is that I'm talking about? a bazooka. Razi is a contemporary of Mr. Mahajan with the law YALI.
He is a teacher of in my Muslim Rahmatullah era when a Muslim Rahmatullah era compiled his Sahih Muslim, before he publicly announced that he took the book to observe arrazi and he said, I want you to read through it and tell me if there are any any narrations in here that should be removed? I will, Zora Rossi said read the book to me. And Mr. Muslim read the entire collection troubles that are Razi and I was sat there off my heart listening, he listened to the whole collection, and at the end, he told them, there are 12 narrations that should be removed. These are the ones don't add those narrations in your collection, and he removed those narrations of ozora Razi, he was a master
and Hadid, particularly when it came to the science of a small region. A small region is a science of how that relates to the narrator's the people, their biographies, whether they're authentic narrators, we can hear readers. It's a very intricate, difficult subject to master, you have to have a phenomenal memory. And it was an odd Razi was that person,
even themselves, the Dean of the hobby writes about him. He was a grand scholar 1000s of students studied with him.
When the final moments of his life came for him to pass him this road and leave to the next. The people of the community gathered around his home and they started making the wild side because one of the greatest scholars of their time was leaving this dunya the great modifiable Zora Razi, the great scholars of the city gathered inside his home, who are all his students, they all sat around him and they were making glad for him. When the final final moments of his life came. The students they said that we should do something healthiness when you sit around the person who is passing away, and use you softly c'est la ilaha illa, la La, la, la, la, la, la, la, la la. You don't say to
them say landline, because of that person due to the pain says no, that's gonna put them in a tough situation, saying no to say like, you just softly recited now.
And then when that person says, Laila, hello, you stop, you stop. That's the method of tilting until they say something that's related to the dunya. Let's say they talk again, or they get better again. And if they get sick again, then you start saying La la la, la, la, la la la until they say La la la have a lot and then you stop. This is the method of filming. So one of the students suggested let's do Philippine because our chef is not he's passing away.
So one of his students, he said, How can we see Philippine? How can we encourage him to say la ilaha illAllah? When he's the one who actually taught us how to say la ilaha illa Allah and the meaning of La la la la. Like, how do you tell a guy who said Who taught you how to say like, I have a lot to say Latina in LA. So remember, he says the students in the gathering of the scholars and the gathering the masters of how do you think the gathering they agreed that maybe we should do something else?
So one of them suggested was Rob Razi spent his life reading Howdy. How about we read one Hadith for him as he passes away?
So one student he started off by saying, how does any of the hotbin Muhammad
Abdul Hamid bin Jaffa onsala, uncouth, even moron, Mara inherited the chain of narrators, when he came to cathedra if he'd been more as a student of modern Java, and kotlin, murah unmodified Java from modern Java, modern Java. He's a Sahabi after the Sahabi who comes next?
let me spend a lot of money. So when it came time to say follow suit of law, this students started crying because he realized that that wasn't his place. Usually it was a teacher that would say that part of the
sort of crime, nostalgia, the grief so the next student he started had the funny of the Hakuna Matata, another comedian, Jaffa Ansari and kathiawar other mergeable he started crying. Now, by the way,
look at this chain, do you know which I'm talking about? Most of you should have known because how would you know?
each chain has a unique chain of narrators. You guys understand that? I was rah rah Ross, who is a master of honey, even though he's on his deathbed when he hears those names. He knows exactly which have you been narrating? You guys understand that? Because he's mashed it together. These people in this order only narrate this honey. He knew exactly what narration it was.
So what he did was he took his hand he thumped it.
And he said, Oh God, Sunni. Sit me up one last time.
And he sat down and he said
smilla rahmanir rahim at Bethany the husband, Mashallah. And Abdul Hameed, when Jaffa unsightly and Cathedral murrah he's right at death. It's waiting right there. And one of them ninjavan Allah tala Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. monka ophira
Calla mihaela illa Lama. He read half of the Hadith and he passed away.
The translation of the part of the Hadith he read his whoever's last utterance is La ilaha illa Allah, what was his last utterance? What was his last word?
And he passed away. And the students cried and they finished off the remaining of that honey, anyone know how to how do you finishes
the final agenda?
whoever's last words are La La, la will go to Paradise and the students they cried, and they sat there, the halogen that he will go to Jenna. I read this narration story.
And my heart started shaking I thought to myself young law
is there even I didn't realize that had a pleasurable form to I didn't realize that there was a desirable form of I never desired death before in any form. Until I had read this narration I said to myself, Yala, when my time comes, gives me this honor to inshallah, that I die as my son my tongue, says, the words of the Prophet said allamani, he was
one of our teachers.
Well, he wasn't my teacher directly. I had a desire to study with him. That's why I actually went to England to study. But when I arrived there, Chef Islam and half Rahim Allah had passed away, so I missed him.
I studied with his sons, and Chef Islam and Huck was a legend. By the way, he was a legend in the mothers, everyone knew about him. The mother of the mothers are taught by Holly for over 40 years to heal.
So one day we were in class in our in our shifts, that was his student, his son, sorry.
He said to us, that should I not tell you how my father passed away? So we said of course tell us how your father passed away how she would have passed away. He said, Well,
it was a month of Roger. And our father said that I have a desire to go for Omaha this year. So he booked some tickets the family we went with him he was old. We all went for Ramadan together. We went to Morocco, Morocco, Rama performed performed our Amara, and as a Hadith of the Prophet said aloud, instead of whoever performs Amara in the month of Ramadan is like,
performing hajj with me, not just Hutch. It's like performing hajj with me. The Prophet said the sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So he said, we did Ramadan together.
We then went to Madina munawwara
we spent some time there.
One night, we were waiting for our father to return for much of the number we have to throw a prayer and he came very late. We asked him where did you go? He said, I my heart was longing to give a Salaam to the prophets of Allah Juana He will send him
and after that, he said, he gathered his kids together, the chef's telling us that our father gathered us together and he said have sold with me We said that it's only one o'clock. He said push this. Absolutely. He said we sat together we had one last circle. My father that helped me by the hand took me into the room, we paid the 100 Sala and it was the month of Ramadan after Ramadan in Madina munawwara after giving the number the Prophet 27th night of Ramadan after having sold with his family in the 100 Salah while in such the that he passed away and never got up again.
It's kind of like when you know when you play those video games, you get to choose your player height, skin tone hair. Kids get obsessed with that, does it honor him in such a beautiful way? Then this is what kind of was a little freaky.
The shift then said,
I buried my father that day. And by a law there was fragrance coming out of the soil where we buried him. The whole graveyard was fragrant. And everyone gathered for his burial because of the fragrance coming out of it was a miracle.
It was sitting there like okay, yeah, whatever. Maybe someone put a little extra food that day. I'm
talking about Fragrance Oil. Don't fool me. I'm American. We're smart people.
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Yes. So he said that there was fragrance coming out of the soil?
I was sitting there like yeah, okay, whatever, man. So he looked at me, he goes, Oh, I'm Ricky Jakarta.
Throw American. You're doubting me.
I said, Oh, my God.
But he was elected. Why should I lie to you? It sounds like some of them bugging a mix. I don't know what you're saying. You know, like, he said to Jimmy laketown, which means tomorrow I'll show you I'll show you I'm not lying.
The next day, he came to class. A lot prolong his life.
And he had a small little briefcase. Back in the day this column attaches. He had a small little attaching. Well you guys want to attach he is no. Anyway. He bought one of those small suitcases briefcases in class. He opened it and he had this white coat of white white shirt in there.
That was covered in soil.
And he said this was a shirt I wore that day I lowered my father into the grave and I haven't washed it since that day. And by Allah, this is firsthand testimony now, right? You can call me a good I'm bugging him if you want to at this point.
By Allah, everyone in the class smelled the fragrance of that soil. Everyone did, including myself.
And there are shifts that took us.
I don't see what the shock is. Have you not read in the biographies of the Mojave? that many of them when they passed away, including the Mambo hottie, including Who? Mr. Malhotra has made a body, including a man bajada de la la fragrance came out of his grave to
he said, these were people who made their life serving the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. what's so amazing that he passed away in the city of the Prophet of Allah.
Or a man who spent his day and night his nine till four was saying Allah Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, what was his nine to four job?
Allah Rasulullah
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Oh, hello, howdy rasuna. The people of Hadith are actually the people of a messenger set allamani was that we look at this right here. Great stories. And then we turn back to ourselves. And we ask Where am I from all of this? Where do I stand?
And honestly,
the only response should be that we lower our heads and shame.
Because we're there were people who dedicated their life every moment every minute.
To fulfill a covenant they made to Allah little tools that allow money he was sent him. Here we are, who spent every moment of our life actively disobeying. And breaking that covenant, we made a law that a subset of
these are things that usually when we talk about them in lectures, people say that the Imams are harsh, they're rough on us. But this is the month of Ramadan. If we can't have some real talk now and then when can we have it? Is there not a point that we stop saying this and that and have fluffy, soft discussions and we actually have a hard discussion with ourselves.
that these were people who live before who give their life for the dean, then someone's gonna come and say, I know for a fact after this lecture, someone's gonna come and tell me but Schiff, aren't we supposed to spend our life you know, like doing X, Y and Z as well? No one said you're supposed to spend your life in such law and blah, blah, blah. I'm not saying that. But if you agree with me that there isn't part of our life that should be dedicated to the deen that at least show me that much commitment.
These Nights of Ramadan are about us asking Allah subhanho wa Taala yo la Enough is enough.
You're alive spent too much time in slavery of shape and people talk about slavery ending slavery hasn't ended. We just stopped being slaves to human beings and we all became slaves to shavon otherwise it remains amongst us. He tells us we do he whispers we do he inspires us we do. Where does the slavery to Allah subhana wa tada? Wasn't that the covenant the promise we made to Allah, Allah now. We are Your servants. We are your slaves. You tell us we do your love. We don't just do it because you're telling us we do it because you want us to do and it's a pleasure for us. Isn't there a point that it comes in our life that we say that I want the spiritual light to remain in my
heart? I don't want it to end at the end of Ramadan. I want to be enlightened. I want to be lifted. I want to become a better person telling me this isn't true. Then after
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my Pakistani Indian brothers I love you guys I'm boxing into so relax. We've claimed everything the Prophet had.
telling you, I was
your
going to a machine, believe it or not. I went to a machine.
And these guys were sipping lentils and I don't know what they would like small size and they haven't make a whole party. And I said What's going on? And this is the work we're doing d dot d dot and our language means to show something. You know, I said showing what? He said we're showing the hair of the Prophet sallallahu sallam. I said
How did you get the hair of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam Don't you know that anytime you make a claim of anything from the Prophet whether it's something physical or a statement, anything anytime you make a claim towards the prophets of Allah hottie with them, what follows that it's not
you guys work? It's not Lola listener, but Allah Masha Masha had not been for change anyone I'm making
have anything? You know, I have this too. I have that too. So anyway, yeah, absolutely, yes.
This is the time for us the month of Ramadan for us to internally reflect every one of us asking today, believe it or not today at our own budget in Carrollton, we do a lot that everybody after for Raka. And I've covered different topics in the past few days. And I think today I started a new series of discussions that are probably continued, maybe for the next few days. And it's on this very same topic, the journey of the hereafter
a journey that's real. We've taken our life in this world as certain. One uncertainty of this of this dunya is what's known because that's what the Quran refers to it as
the world of deception. A person thinks they're making an investment and that investment will give them a return. But there's no there's no guarantee that investment will give you a return that we desire is the hereafter Allah subhanho wa Taala will give you full return for everything you do in this dunya. And where are we? Yes, we should spend our time working and in school and developing ourselves professionally and taking care of our family members and recreation. All these things are 100 love, they're all good things, you know, we find them all in the life of the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. But at the same time, there needs to be a concern. A concern about the
Akira are concerned about leaving this dunya are concerned about how well my final moments be when I leave this world. The scholars they mentioned and I mentioned this today. So I want to repeat something that I mentioned today in the Carrollton with you today.
The scholars they mentioned that there are four things
that from their observation, the scholarship, from our observation, from what we've seen in people, we've seen that four things, when a person becomes regular and doing them, we've seen that it's very common that that person will die without a man
or will die in a very bad miserable, horrible state. What are those four things? The first thing they say is for a person to not take their PSA seriously because a person who doesn't take their PSA seriously is forgetful of Allah. And the one who forgets Allah, Allah will make them forget themselves. Na su la ha, panacea. They forgot Allah, Allah forgot them to. Allah has no desire for a person who isn't interested in Allah subhanho wa Taala. So now look at them a full mohalla the opposite reverse meaning of this. If a person is looking for hospital hajima a good death. The way you do it is by remembering Allah subhanho wa Taala abundantly because the one who remembers Allah,
that person is remembered in the gathering of Allah subhana wa tada Yes or no? Is that the hurry? Yes or no? That's the Hadeeth right. And if they're remembered in the gathering of a lot, and at that time that friend of Allah is leaving the world, Allah subhanaw taala has already announced that you Breen has already announced to the angels and the love of that person has already been set down to the to the pious to the hearts of the pious of this world. Because that person constantly engages in the remembrance of Allah. And Allah subhana wa, tada will shower His mercy upon that person, wherever that person goes. The second thing that scholars they say, is a cuckoo holiday is obedience
of your parents. And this because this is one of those very boring topics youth don't like listening to it. I remember when I was when I was young, and I'd go to gym, and whenever they would talk about disobedience of parents, my father used to tell me so no,
every time and I'd be like, gosh, again.
And the days are when I would walk through the door and nobody would be talking about parents, I'd sit on the opposite side of the machine. Because I didn't want my dad looking at me even after the after the after the lecture, he would come and ask, How can I see catch? What did you learn today? One day, I pulled the trigger on him. The mom was talking about, like I said a buck as a catch.
We don't like listening to this discussion of Google while eating. And you know, to create some nuance in that issue as well. Usually, we just painted with one big stroke and we say children, obedient to your parents, parents, enjoy yourself and enjoy the service of your kids.
As long as they'll serve you.
But there's this issue needs to be a little nuanced to this isn't a 50 gathering. Otherwise, I would go more into it and we break it down a little more. We're not sitting at a seminary right now. So we're not going to do that.
The reason I say it's nuanced, Oh, gosh.
I won't go through full I won't go through I won't go through what the full discussion. I'm just going to touch on it. The reason why I say it's nuanced, it's because some parents say thing that they have the right to treat their children like slaves is beat them, shout at them, curse at them, whatever you want. You know, and the child has no right at all to speak back. Then this is 3.1 young man he reached out to me from the DFW area. He's a chef, I need help. So what happened? He said my father and my mother are both impressive to me. I said, Well, let's see what then let's talk with him. He said last time
I reached out to any mom, my mother didn't speak to me for two weeks, I would walk in front of her, she wouldn't look at my face, she would walk away. My mother and father have prohibited me from speaking to anyone about the issues that happened inside the house. So I said, well, that sort of permission is invalid. They can prohibit you from that if you need help as a human being, you have the right to go and seek help. And if your parents must be reprimanded, then they should be reprimanded. Just like what happened during one of your loved ones. khilafah father came to a meeting with me and said,
My child is disobedient. So I'm going to be alone one was ready to beat this child. Up Dora Go and bring the whip. So right when the when that person when they will get the whip? The young man said, Amara Viola one, will you not ask me what my position is in the whole situation? So I'm going to be a long one set? And can a child have a right over their parent? I mean, what complaint Are you going to present? So he said, Give me my chance. So I'm gonna leave you alone, give him a chance. He said, Well, I have three complaints against my parents. The first one is that when I was born, they gave me a bad name. And every time someone calls me that it makes me angry, what were they thinking? They
didn't give me a good name. You say you love me. And you were just looking for some interesting name. You weren't even thinking of what you're naming. And this is the reality. People do this. Unfortunately, I taught him when I used to teach put on in England.
Oh, gosh,
the things I've seen in my life I was telling you, man, sometimes the things I've seen in my life, even I'm amazed that I saw them.
There was this one.
There was this one class, these young kids needs to come out of the absent parent class, there were three siblings. These kids might be really angry with their parents when they grow up. Or they might love their parents to bits, because of the stumps their parents pulled when they named them. Their last name is Jodi, what's the family's last name? What's the respectful name by the way? The first name he named one child, some mom Han, Shadow Han, cashew.
Nuts semaan middle name Han he named the whole thing like muted in one word sometimes on
either this kid's gonna love his parents when he grows up, if he's a Bollywood buff, but if he decides to become one of the body,
Ruby suck for the guy.
A lot make it easy.
Like look at me.
The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, name your children with
good names. So I'm gonna be a long one. Ask the parents. Is this complaint true? Is it true that you gave them this bad name? It's a subtle parameter. Right? We get we're the ones who give them that name. Somehow the other one said, okay, what's your second complaint? He said, my father married a lady from the betterman lens who wasn't educated. And
because she wasn't educated, my parents didn't give importance to my education. And now that I'm not educated, they're upset with me. So I'm already alone. When asked the parents, is it true that you neglected his education? They said, Yes, he's right. So then I'm going to the allowance to proceed. He said my third complaint is because my mother is from the betterman lands, she's a little harsh. And my father and mother they argue a lot. They're always swearing at each other, always cursing at each other always mean to each other. And then when I'm angry with them, and I show that aggression to them, they get angry at me. So I'm going to be alone one sentence is true.
Her father said Yes, that's true. So I'm going to be allowed one said if I touch this child alone will punch me on the Day of Judgment.
If I do anything to the child right now, Allah will punish me on the Day of Judgment. So that's the nuanced element of this issue. It's not like you know, it's not a one way stream. It's a two way thing. They're really it's they submit number lameer hum Selena, we audition for cabana, the person who does not have mercy upon the young ones. It's not from us. That's the responsibility of the parents. And the one who does not show honor to the elders. It's not from us. That's the responsibility of the children. It's a two way street when you walked in another nation.
So the second thing the scholars they say is a person who's just obedient to their parents. We've seen that this person, many times will die without a man. This is something we should all stay away from. And as I touched on this earlier,
honoring your parents as a thing.
That today You won't understand the meaning of it. But I kid you not tomorrow, when you hear that your mother passed away or your father passed away, you realize that no one in the world will ever love you again the same way.
No wife, no children, no friend, no neighbor, no matter how many times they say I got your back. They'll never love you the way your mother did. Because I learned one thing from the passing of my mother Rahim Allah
there's no one that's really going to make dua for you from their heart without you ever having to ask them.
Everyone else you ask them please make dua for me and what did they say?
inshallah.
inshallah, inshallah.
inshallah, and then, you'll be lucky after that inshallah, if they have you in the intention when they say Allahumma inonotus. Luca, when they make like a column when they make like a when they use a personal pronoun,
That's for the plural form. You'll be lucky if they even intend to do that. Otherwise, no one's even gonna remember you and you're the ones anymore. Your heart to your parents is such one once one young man, his mother was passing away. And he said, the doctors are taking off life support. What should I do? She's, she's lying there, she's passing away. I said to him, sit by her side and massage her feet.
Because that's the one thing you won't have the ability to do when she passes away. You can make law for her afterwards.
You can set up on her behalf, all those things you can do later on. But sit by her and do one
of your parents do hikma of your father as your mother's Don't be disobedient to them. The third thing that scholars they say is shootable Hummer, which is to consume intoxicants. And I talked about this in a lot of detail today, while we were doing their own reflections.
This is a very big disease in our community.
And people unfortunately aren't addressing this issue as clearly and as as aggressively as it should be addressed.
This is becoming more and more common, more and more common. And those who become addicted to these things. Not only are their lives flushed down the toilet, but the people around them live a life of misery to go and ask a wife whose husband is an alcoholic. Right? Go and ask a child whose parent isn't an alcoholic. Go and ask a parent Whose child is an alcoholic. It's like the whole the whole community the whole household the whole environment turns toxic and then now apply that to our context where the whole community it's like, you know if you were to tell someone if you were to mention in a hotspot, watch this. Okay, watch this. Are you guys ready for this?
Actually, I won't do it.
If you were to say surgeon and toxicants are hot, um, you guys can fill in between the blanks. Okay. If someone were to say on a mic, that certain intoxicants are haram trust me if there was a q&a after that someone's gonna argue back. They're gonna say shift. But don't you know marijuana has x, y and z benefits?
Don't you know it's illegal? Don't you know this, don't you? There's definitely going to be some sort of a kickback after that. It's a time where people that are things that are not good for human beings, right.
People are passionate about them. And intoxicants have become at the top of the list. I was once giving a lecture and one parent came to me afterwards and said, Why are you talking about intoxicants? It's not a big thing in the community. He said, Are you kidding me? I have friends who ingest alcohol who ingest marijuana through brownies. You know, they're using it as lip balm, jelly, you know, things that you won't even imagine are, you know, dipping into their Chai, and they're just dunking in
some hashish.
And this is common, believe it or not, you know, as parents we have to stop being in denial we have to address these issues head on.
For those of you who may have this sort of an addiction or know people who have these addictions, these strong make voila seek professional help and make an awesome make a firm belief intention that Yala I intend to change and I'm a bond is a time for you to ask Allah subhana wa tada
because Allah subhanho wa Taala is Macaulay will globalize The one who changes and turns the hearts and unlock in turn your heart away from this addiction to inshallah, but you have to make that the bottom line. And the fourth thing they say is either endlessly mean it must mean causing causing harm to others, causing harm to other believers. This is another thing that stops people because the creation are beloved to Allah and whoever is kind to the creation of Allah is beloved to Allah. And whoever harms the creation of Allah is disliked by Allah subhana wa tada anytime you serve another human being, know that you've just become that much more beloved to Allah subhana wa Tada. I asked
my teacher once I said, What's the easiest way to gain reliance? How does a person become a friend of Allah? He said, You want to know the true answer. I said yes. He said serve allows creation. Any person that you find thirsty going to give them water. When someone picks their shoes off, lean forward to pick their shoes up for them. If you see an old person walking standing with them and just share a discussion with them, have a talk with them. Anytime you can serve another human being you've just come that much closer to rely that much closer to the friendship of Allah subhana wa Tada. Obviously, this goes in company with for fulfilling your fi then staying away from those
things that are prohibited. So to summarize this discussion and bring my thoughts together.
This phenomenon is here. We're here we're experiencing and we're in these blessing moments. Nobody knows whether we'll get these moments again or not. Most people are good at complaining once the bounty is gone. Very few people have the ability to make the most of it while they actually have it. Today allows giving you a life today allows giving you help. So there's a lot of giving you a lot giving you energy today allows giving you this opportunity. So make something of this opportunity. If you have the energy in you raise your hands, find a corner somewhere in the machine and try to shed a tear in the love of Allah Subhana.
Allah hobbies hearts have been barren for too long. A lot of their stained and sin rusted and sin, dark and sin so far away from where we actually went.
To be a lot enlightened these hearts a lot, give strength to these knees to bow in front of you. A lot give joy to this heart to call on to you. Yeah Allah give the eyes the ability to cry and your love. Where are those eyes gone? It will pay him or him Allah tada says, dry eyes, a drought in the eyes as a sign of the drought of the heart. What does it mean to say
the dried of the the drought of the eye
is the drought the heart because the two are connected to one another person whose heart is alive was able to cry in front of a lot.
It's not that we don't have hearts so we don't have the ability to cry. The people who say they can't cry in front of a lot of these very same people can easily cry or watching a movie if the scene becomes literally emotional. Their hearts are alive by the way the hearts are alive. But it's just that they're not beating for the right cause they haven't tasted the love of Allah subhana wa Tada. That is Ramadan via Ramadan. We raised our hands in front of a lot and we cry, because I'll share with you the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said,
an eye that has cried out of the love of Allah will never enter into the fire of *. Subtle karasuma the Prophet spoke the truth, said
the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said the tear that comes out of the eye is most beloved to Allah subhana wa tada and the second is it is a drop of blood that falls from the body of the martyr to drops autodata two drops that are beloved to Allah subhana wa Tada.
Try to find that moment this Ramadan. And if you can find that moment, let me give glad tidings to you. In sha Allah, Allah, Allah Allah, Allah inshallah, you've earned your entry and agenda inshallah. Because a heart that has a love of Allah, we have hope in a lot at the heart will never be punished and crying for Allah solely for his sake, not to show off not for any other reason. But just because of your love for Allah is one of the seven things that will get you a place under the shade of a lust throne on the Day of Judgment. sabato nuloom Allahu Allah, Allah Allah will the seventh person that narrations who are our children dacher Allah, Allah hollien of Albert, I know.
The great scholar was to talk to you with money. I'll close with this by the way, I'm going to close with this.
What's the topic of money?
You guys are probably wondering, this is supposed to end at two o'clock. Why is he still talking right now?
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mosquito. Do you have money the great scholar he sat in front of the Kaaba and he wrote some lines of poetry.
And I think of that poetry all the time.
He said,
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Oh my lord, oh my lord. My eyes have gone dry and they've lost their ability to cry. And as a result of that I have burning this burning stain in my heart of sins, that I just can't wash away.
Allah gives me the ability to cry again. Give this heart the ability to feel again. As the poet said us and walkies Oba home editor Juma? Oh my Lord, let upon come into my life for my my words stop. And my tears speak on behalf of what my heart carries for you. But my us won't use Obama.
Oh my Lord, let my tears be interpreters for the love that I carry in my heart for you. Yeah in anatomy. So we close off by asking Allah Allah give us those moments. Yeah, Allah blesses with the moments of the Olia and sila when Allah blesses with sincere moments, Allah Don't let these month these heart these hearts, leave the month of Ramadan, without experiencing your love. Allah. Don't let these eyes remain dry. Let them cry in your love. Allah once we start, never, ever let us stop again. don't deprive us of your love. don't deprive us of your remembrance. And I mean, we sinned but we ask you to continue to love us until we leave. Love the study we meet and yet Allah continue
to shower your mercy in favor upon us and give us access to the highest gardens of Paradise and the company of the pious righteous will set along with Ananda Mohammed. salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.