Hussain Kamani – Controlling Anger

Hussain Kamani
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The speaker discusses the characteristics of Islam, including hedonic characteristics, which involve adding something to one's life, removing something from one's life, and not reacting to anger. They also emphasize the importance of avoiding anger, moderation, and avoiding negative language in order to avoid harm. The speaker suggests preventing embarrassing behavior, reminding oneself, and rebuilding one's anger to avoid negative consequences.

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			Allah subhanho wa Taala, has developed and created within every human being certain characteristics.
		
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			So you've noticed that, over the past two weeks of Ramadan,
		
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			there have been so many different characteristics we've covered. Some of these characteristics
naturally exists within human beings, from the get go, we already have them, we just have to fine
tune them, work on them a little while other characteristics are such that they have to be developed
and they actually don't pre exist.
		
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			Another thing that you notice is that some of these hedonic characteristics involve adding something
to your life, while others involve removing something from your life. So distinct may already exist,
greed already may exist. How do you get rid of it now? pride already exists, how do I get rid of
that pride?
		
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			Now when we look at the
		
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			ayah that we're covering today, Allah subhanho wa Taala is praising people. And he's praising people
of Paradise praising people agenda. And one of the things that Allah subhanho wa Taala says is well
Kaldi mean. And
		
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			these are people who control their anger. They're able to swallow their anger, not act upon it, not
act out of out of line. They don't oppress other people.
		
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			Now,
		
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			the mother right, email Mohammed Al ghazali, Rahim, Allah tada he writes, that there are three tears
to anger.
		
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			There is a tear that involves having no anger at all. The second is having way too much anger where
it's too frequent, and you can't control it.
		
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			And the third is anger that is moderate.
		
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			So the first two are not praiseworthy. And yeah, the first one, which is to not have anger, that
isn't praiseworthy, many people would assume and think that having no anger is, you know, that's the
goal. No, that's not a goal. There are times where you should be angry, there are times where it's
important for you to get angry. Someone comes in, says something foul to your child, to your spouse,
to your parent, it's very natural for you to get angry. If someone provokes you, you should get
upset. There should be an element of anger there. You know, I'm, I'm Sharia law. huhtala says that
whoever is provoked philomela live fahima and that person does not get angry, then they are a
		
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			donkey.
		
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			Allah subhanho wa Taala has put that anger in us for a reason it serves a purpose. Now the second
		
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			is anger and access. Now this can mean one of two things. Either it means that anger comes so
frequently it happens very quickly. And the second thing is that when it does come, it's very
intense. And it pushes you to act upon it to do something.
		
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			You get angry frequently, or infrequently. But when you get angry, you end up doing something.
Something like you know, pushing someone something like throwing something, something like saying
something bad to someone cutting someone out, becoming aggressive, oppressing another person in in
some way, shape, or form. Now this is not good. And this is actually the most poisonous of all
three. This is like the worst part of them. And because
		
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			not only are you harming yourself by this anger, but you're bringing harm to other people. And
that's something we definitely don't want. We never want to bring harm to another person. People who
have excessive anger, uncontrollable anger. They are
		
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			calamity wherever they go. People are annoyed by them, people are bothered by them. Their family
members are intimidated by them. I can't imagine the quality of life for a wife, who is in such a
relationship, a husband, who is in a relationship that his wife can't control their anger. I can't
imagine the quality of life for a parent whose child keeps losing their anger, or whose for a child
whose parent keeps losing their anger. The people that are closest to you are the ones now who are
like a sitting bomb that they can explode any moment, rather than enjoying time with them. You'll be
constantly wary with your guard up, God knows when this person is going to explode.
		
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			Control your anger, bring it down, but also the loss of the law while he was so dumb, he said to a
companion, he said, the companions that our messenger of Allah advised me oseni Nabi sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam in response to that he said to him, that Bob, do not become angry, control your
anger. It'll bring peace. Now, a few things. Actually, let's cover the third one first.
		
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			The third level of anger is what we call it, which is moderation. You know when to get angry, and
how far to go with it. And you also know when not to get angry, and how to control it.
		
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			This is the ideal place to be. This is where Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was
		
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			so the question is didn't abuse it a lot. He was seldom ever get angry in his life.
		
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			And the clear answer to that is, absolutely. There are many examples of the province that along
while it was said, I'm getting angry.
		
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			Someone oppressed another person who would get angry at the oppressor. Someone violated a command of
a law in a way that they should be reprimanded. I sort of lost it along while he was said he was the
first in line to reprimand that individual. Sometimes there would be anger. At other time when he
was reprimanding them. There would be no anger, depending on who it was and what was going on.
		
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			Similarly, there were people who wouldn't be so long on he was appointed in the position of
leadership. If anyone did something that was
		
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			inconsiderate of the people that they were supposed to be leading, this would make it a lot harder
to set them upset. For example, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam appointed, while the
majority along one to lead a group of companions in Arusha, sola, who lived away from the mosque of
the Prophet sallallahu wasallam. It was difficult for them to come for a shot every day. They lived
far they worked hard in the farms all day. So and the result of that while it was said, I'm told him
rather than the gemba, to go to that community and lead them, he would pray with the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and then go out there and lead them in prayer. One day, he led a very
		
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			long prayer. He read extra long longer than he normally would.
		
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			The news reached Rasulullah sallallahu it was said and done live is leading these long prayers and
the people in the community are complaining and they're refusing to come to prayer now because this
man's reading very long, and it's difficult for them to stand that long after a whole day full of
work.
		
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			They'd be sent along with a with some called law, they've been juggling with your loved one, and he
was very upset with him.
		
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			And he saw someone was very upset with him. And he said to him, a photon ntm was
		
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			a photon aunty Ahmad Ahmad. are you causing fitna? Are you making some sort of a commotion in the
community? Are you bringing difficulty to the people? And then he says Mankato Emma min come for you
have if you Sala whoever is appointed as the mom from among you. He should keep the prayer brief.
Don't make it too long.
		
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			But maybe sit alone while he was sometimes angered and not mean that he was abusive with the
majority alone. And neither does it mean that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was far behind
in communicating how much he loved him. We look at other narrations and see how much they'd be sent
along. Why do some care for this young man? How much he took care of him and loved him and kept him
close and educated him well law here in a little humbucker Yamaha one time that we said a lot while
it was said him said by Allah I love you very dearly Omaha. So that was unquestionable how much it
was sort of lost that alone while he was that I'm actually loved While the majority alone.
		
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			Now
		
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			there were also examples of companions of abuse that allamani was set on who would get angry and
sometimes their anger would push them to say something or do something
		
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			That was out of line. One example is say that I will book a seducer, the along one great companion
loving and dear to Allah.
		
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			We love it and dear to the Prophet that allowed us to them. But there are so many instances to see
that you'll see.
		
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			your loved one would get angry. When he would get angry. Sometimes he would take a step
		
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			while acting upon his anger, that at times Lazo agenda would reprimand him. And sometimes maybe so
long, while it was set them would reprimand him, because he was so good of a person. So in our view,
we have a saying has an outage overall. So you have to know carabin, that sometimes a person is in A
League of Their Own basic translation of that is that when a person is in a very high League, and
they're in a very unique place, even the small things they do that for other people would be
dismissed for this individual, there is accountability because of who they are, how special they
are. One person doesn't pray to God son after the her whatever. Another person is an Imam, scholar
		
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			or Teacher, teacher of how to eat teacher of Quran and they don't pray the tutor god, it's not
appropriate, it's not the same, this person should be held to a higher standard.
		
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			For example, I will because it could be a long one becoming very upset with Mr. or Miss thought was
one of the people who was involved in the accusation against each other, the olana he was among the
people who slipped and he fell into the group of people who made that false accusation against
Chateau de la Hannah, I will because I think of the last one, he got very upset with Miss la when
the verses of the Quran were revealed, stating that I shouted the Allahu anhu was innocent. And he
became so angry with Muslims that he refused to financially support him again, even though they got
the last one did support him prior to the incident of the of the accusation,
		
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			a loss of words that represents it alone. Similarly, once maybe solomani was cinemas walking past
and Nicola one was scolding one of his servants. And his language was very harsh. Maybe you said a
lot, he was so upset. I don't know what to do when you use foul language or harsh language. And you
are a vocalist. So definitely someone who's truthful, who's praised for his speech, and hear you
curse this man, you send Lana upon him, that isn't appropriate. So there are so many examples like
this, where the resort allowed is so what educate his companions on fixing their anger and working
on it. And I share this because
		
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			sometimes we feel very distinct from the companions of the Prophet along Islam
		
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			that they didn't have the challenges that we have. And that's not true. They struggled as human
beings like many of us struggle. But the amazing thing about them was their struggles, didn't lead
them to be defeatist and to just raise your hand and say I surrender and I'm a loser. That's not
what happened with them. Rather, they were able to control their anger, they were able to, you know,
hold back the impulse they felt when experiencing anger. Now, how does a person control their anger?
So for this thought, Emma has suggested many things, many things are suggested. There are some
things they say that can be taken as preventative measures, things that can be done to prevent anger
		
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			from even settling in or when I say prevent anger from settling in.
		
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			What I mean is anger that will lead you to harming others or harming yourself. The first thing they
say is make dua to Allah and ask a lot to protect you.
		
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			Just on a normal day today, if you're not experiencing any anger, raise your hands and ask Allah
Allah save me from extreme anger. Because if I get caught in one of those moments, what if my
marriage ends? What if I hurt someone? What if I hurt myself? A lot, I mean, protect me from anger.
The second thing is always remember that Allah subhanho wa Taala is merciful. And Allah subhanho wa
Taala is kind and forgiving. And he is kind to us every day. He forgives us every day. How
inappropriate would it be that we offload our anger on other people, while Allah subhanho wa Taala
is only showing us kindness and mercy.
		
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			The third thing, Allah they say that when you enter into your home, specifically, you should state
out loud Bismillahirrahmanirrahim Assalamu alaykum warahmatullahi Dias tada watercare to
		
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			because by doing this, it'd be so long while he was sitting tells us shaytaan leaves the home and
when shaytaan leaves the home
		
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			The
		
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			anger that a person experiences will either be less than frequency or more mild in its nature,
because shaytaan causes that anger.
		
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			Number four, control your tongue.
		
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			Many times you instigate people to make you angry. That's why control your tongue. Even before you
get angry, don't say things that will instigate others
		
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			to make you angry, just control your time from the beginning. Be soft, be easy, be smooth, bring
love to people. You know, this is the life of interviews that a lot of so when we look at it, it's
beautiful. You know, the art ama, they say that if you decide to use harsh speech with anyone
because that person is corrupt or bad or evil, just think of what Allah which is said to Satan,
musala, Salam and Harun when they were going to confront around, there's no one out there who was as
bad as phenomenons like I killed tons of people he was an oppressor claimed to be God. So he's right
up there. And a lot of that is telling Musashi Salaam and Harun that when you go to around and you
		
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			talk to him for coolala, who olan lejana be soft in your speech with him.
		
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			If a lifestyle in Busan is to be soft and speech to fit around, and ask yourself, Am I better than
Moosa? And is that person worse than fit down? And if the answer is no, get rid of that bad speech,
you'll bring a lot more peace to the lives of people. The next thing number five, as as a part of
the preventative measures
		
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			to avoid getting angry.
		
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			Dalai Lama, they say, it's important to understand
		
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			that weak people are the ones who usually get angry.
		
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			It's usually weak people. Kids get angry, sick, people get angry. Someone who's older and age, they
get angry. People who are strong, don't get angry. They're able to control their anger. This is what
our sutala said a long while he was sitting also said it's a shadow busara
		
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			toughness is not to throw someone on the ground in the machine either lady, Emily canessa who and a
lot of toughness is to control yourself at a time of anger.
		
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			dorama also right number six, that make it abundantly because it brings peace to the heart. And
particularly law he talks about in Hulu.
		
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			What are some measures that you can take? If you are already angry? you're actively angry at that
time. The resort along with it was sort of teaches us to say our other Billahi min ash shaytani r
rajim. Number two, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, You know how the hadoken fell? Yes,
good. Allah has a lesson that when one of you was angry, he should stay silent.
		
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			Don't make any important decision when you're angry. Don't do it. Because you might regret it.
Probably the last time said that. Jacobian Hackman Bain athenia who have been a judge should not
pass a verdict between two people while he is angry.
		
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			Drink some water or water you know water is a solution for I'm dealing with anger. What is it? What
do we mean by water some scholars say do will do some say take a bath Some say drink water. Some
have even proposed give water as sadaqa right.
		
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			Another another solution we see proposed by the sort of loss of a lot ism is to change your physical
posture. If you're standing sit down if you're sitting lie down when your anger is done when the
anger passes by, some things to do right away. Number one, repair any wrong you did when you were
angry. If you harm someone if you said something to someone go back and apologize. Remember to make
the offer the person that you were angry at anyone that you would lash out at go and make to offer
them maybe salons that have made law in Ottawa, Canada yarwell Masha, Allah, Allah will Russia favor
Muslim in serve up to Oh gela to Allah Allah who cafaro this awesome said I'm a human being. I get
		
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			angry as others get angry. Yeah, anyone that I have shown anger to make that a means of expiation
and forgiveness for them. Gifts other call on their behalf anyone that you are angry at what's up on
their behalf. And the last thing if your anger is too intense for you to control, and if you notice
it's too frequent, it's too frequent. Then consider getting professional help. Reach out to someone
		
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			Speaking to a therapist, consider the different programs that are out there. Because if it's a part
of you and it's if it's something that's harming you and the people around you and you're struggling
to get it under control yourself, maybe it's time to reach out to a professional, who pray that
Allah subhanaw taala grants him and allows which gives us the strength to face our our our spiritual
vices, and really allow us to overcome them so we can do people of the Quran. Also, along with that
on s&m Hammad said I'm wanting to light on alberca