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			how to interact with people who are your associates, people that you know, first we talked about
etiquettes for Allah subhana wa Tada, the etiquettes, a teacher should exercise when dealing with
students, dedicated students should exercise when dealing with the teacher. And lastly, we also
talked about the etiquettes of how to deal with one's parents. Not everyone other than these, how do
you deal with them? So my mom's not gonna have to lie. He says people then fall into three
categories. Either they are unknown to you.
		

			Either they're known to you, or either they are your friends, so people that you don't know. He
calls him the mage ruling people you don't know. And then he says either they are, what do what is
the thought the friends and your brothers. And then at the end, he says the model fiend those who
are who are your people that you are associated with people that you know them, but they're not
necessarily your friends, or someone that you considered as like a very close brother of yours or
vertical sisters or sister of yours. So now he covers each of these three. First he called me first
he talks about how to deal with those who you don't know. And when he when he mentions the etiquette
		

			of dealing with those who do not know him it was was agua de la jolla highlights five very important
etiquettes what are the Yes, at 134 when you are testing with people you do not know of the general
public, the etiquette of sitting with them entails. Now not even because it says here, when you are
tested with people you do not know of the general public. When you are tested, you are tested with
meaning those who do not know from the general public. Why does he call this a test. The reason why
he called it a test is because since you don't know them, now you have to remember, your interaction
is very delicate. If you overcome it, they can end up pulling you to a pathway of theirs. And their
		

			pathway may be one that's good, or it may be bad. If it's a good one than 100 law, you met the best
person, you know, it's a great mix. Great fine. And that happens. Sometimes you meet someone for the
first time. And then a little while after that, you realize that that meeting of that person was the
best thing that could have happened to you it's a test. But at the same time that person is a wild
card, they can also be a very corrupted person. And if you give too much to them too quickly, they
may suck you inside. And before you know it, you're gone. So that's why I'm bizarrely very careful.
He says people that you don't know, you should be on the guard. That doesn't mean you're harsh and
		

			mean and and just not kind to them. Be kind to them. But always remember that I need to measure my
distance, how close I get how far I go. Yes. Avoiding getting involved in the conversations or
discussions. Not paying too much. He says the first thing is that avoid getting involved in too much
conversation, speak talk, but be careful of how much you engage don't overcompensate when you sit
with people you don't know. Sometimes you overcome and say no, we just want to talk and talk and
talk without realizing that we're this discussion is even similar because it says don't engage too
much in discussion via we're not paying too much attention to their disquieting talk. Now, when
		

			they're pink, when they're talking about things that are not appropriate when they're talking about
things that are meaningless, don't give too much attention, give a little attention or no attention.
because that'll be a my, that'll be a sign of Your Honor, that this individual does not care about
our low talk. But when a person gives extra attention to people's low talk, then it just shows that
this person is equally low because he has interest in that low talk, that talk that has no meaning.
So uphold yourself and show some honor. But when people talk about useless things, I honestly don't
care. It doesn't mean anything to me. Let's talk about something else. Yes. Disregarding what
		

			follows on from the bad things they say. If they use a foul word, they use foul language, don't show
interest, don't get excited, shall I you know, turn your face away as if you didn't hear it or that
you know, you have no interest in I use the word that often just turn away be the unconsidered
inconsiderate of what they're saying, just don't get. Don't give your attention. They're being wary
of meeting with them too often, or getting into a position where you are in need of them. Okay, now,
someone you don't know, don't put yourself in a position where now you are dependent on them.
Because remember, you don't know them. Once you know them, then you can show them dependency if need
		

			be. And don't overly meet someone and maintaining this relationship of not knowing them. If you're
going to meet someone again and again, then it's time for you to get to know them. But if you're
only going to meet them once or twice, then again measure that distance. If they're going to remain
unknown to you, that's okay. But don't become dependent on them. Because if you become dependent on
someone you don't know, very soon you'll realize that you've made a very big mistake. You never
become dependent on it.
		

			Someone that you don't know, if you're going to take a favor from someone, you're going to give
someone a favor, you're going to build that intimate relationship first get to know that person. And
this is actually a concept taught to us by Islam. In regards to in particular marriage, the prophets
of Allah while he was Salaam is telling this harbor that before you get married, look into the
person you're getting married to, don't just find someone and go and get married to them. People
they think this is Islamic, that you meet someone. And without meeting someone, you just get
married, and you you commit your life to someone without even knowing what they are. That's not the
		

			Islamic approach. And that's not the teaching of the prophets of Allah. It was a companion came to
the prophets of Allah while he was Solomon said a messenger of Allah, I'm going to get married. The
problem is that along while it was said, I'm asked him, did you see the girl? He said, No, I didn't.
The purpose of the law, it was something said, How could you marry a girl that you didn't see, go
and see her. And then at that time, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam said, because that lady
is from the unsought and the unsought have something special about their eyes, some people are
attracted to it, some people aren't attracted to it. So go and look at the person that you're
		

			speaking to come to get to know people, before you make a dedication to them, yes, or before you
become dependent on them, and calling their attention to their blameworthy actions with gentleness
and sincerity, when there is hope that they will accept what you say. Now, while you're in a
gathering of people that you don't know too well. If they say something that's inappropriate, you
might need to bring their attention to the fact that that statement was inappropriate, or it was
uncalled for. But when you're calling them to the right and preventing them from evil, and
		

			this is in Linda Raja kabuli, Minh, whom you only do it when you have hope that they're going to
accept it. If they are your friends, then they're going to accept it from you because they're your
friends. But if someone who doesn't know you, then you have to be very careful on how you approach
the situation, and how to talk to them. And if you feel there is benefit in talking to them, go
ahead and talk. But if you feel by talking to them, it's not going to help them in reality is only
going to create resentment and their hearts against you, then don't engage, leave it right there,
make dua for them. If anything, look for an appropriate time and talk to them. Otherwise, you have
		

			to remember, if by correcting someone, you're going to push them away further, then it's better for
you not to correct the purpose of correcting people is to not is not to humiliate them, or to make
them feel bad or push them further away, is to rightfully make them aware of what's right and wrong,
while making intention that they will accept what's right and wrong. That's also a very important
aspect. Yes, that's what the scholars they say that if you don't have the proper tools, if you don't
know the etiquette of correcting another person, it's better for you not to do it. It's better for
you just to keep your mouth shut and let it pass by. And that's also permissible. The purpose of a
		

			long while it was said I'm setting the narration mondawmin kumin current value that you will be
whoever has wherever see something wrong occurring. Let him try to stop it with his hand. For lm
yesterday, aka Billy sonny. And if you're not able able of fixing that issue that situation
physically, then at least verbally raise your voice against it. So let me start off with lb And if
that's not the past, if that's not possible, then at least with your heart dislike it. Well that
other awful Eman and this is the weakest weakest point of one's faith. Now the scholars when they
discuss this, how do you They say the best form is to physically stop verbally stop, and then at
		

			least turn away from turn away from it and don't show any interest from there, you know, disengage
from that gathering. So one perspective of explaining this Hadeeth is that the people that you're
speaking to, you don't have authority to verbally correct them. So then you you don't have authority
to physically correct them. So then you verbally correct them. And if you don't have the authority
to verbally correct correct them, then you just distance yourself from that gathering, for example,
a parent, if a parent sees their child doing something, how should they correct them,
		

			they should physically correct them. Because they're an authority, I can go and protect my child
physically take that away from my child, remove them to another room or you know, whatever,
physically I can get involved. Or if I can do that I can verbally definitely voice myself that what
you're doing now is wrong. This is right, this is wrong. But now you're not in that position of
being a friend, or you're not in the position of being a parent or you don't have any authority over
that person. If you were to physically correct them. If I was to go to that person, until that
person, brother, this weed is hot, I'm gonna take it out of his hand, he'll probably do a gun and
		

			shoot me. Okay, because I don't have that relationship with them. Now if I was to come to someone
and tell him that Brother, you know what what you're smoking or what you're drinking is hot on, that
person is not willing to accept it. Because I don't know that person, that person doesn't know me,
his or her reaction will be Why are you getting into my business? And they might even go ahead and
punch me in return. Or they might want to say I don't want to deal with Muslims anymore. So you have
to learn to evaluate the situation. When is it right for me to physically get involved? When is the
right for me to verbally prevent someone and at times you have to realize that it's better for you
		

			not to speak. You don't always have to say something. There are times and the purpose of allowing it
was some actually gives us permission. He says that if you aren't capable, then at least turn away
with your heart. But know that is the weakest point of your faith. Why is that the weakest point of
your faith? Because you should be more educated you should be more tactful of knowing how to correct
someone right? Without abusing them without making them feel offended. Yes. Thanks, brothers and
friends. Again, I just want to stress that one point before we move forward. The scholars they say
if you do not have the etiquette of correcting someone
		

			It's better not to do it. But the highest approach would be create that advocate of correcting other
people you should know there's always a way to correct someone, it all comes down to how you word
it, if you know how to word it, right, you can approach anyone with any issue and correct them. But
if you don't know how to word it, right, even if it's your own brother or your own father, you're
gonna offend them. It all comes down to how you use your tongue. Yes.
		

			Now the second group of people someone was it said, there are three types of people in general that
you're going to interact with those who you don't know people you meet randomly on the tube on the
train, public transport store, parking lots, the gym while you're going out to eat, how do you deal
with them? He was already taught us the five etiquettes how to deal with, if I may say random
people. Now how do you deal with people that are your boys, your friends, people that are your
associate people that are not just associates, but they're close to you? How do you deal with them?
And when was it not talks about this, this is a very powerful chapter, by the way, this particular
		

			chapter is very important. And if I would, if I could, I would encourage everyone to read this
particular chapter of him because it is both because we all know that our friends have a very big
impact on us. You know, a person who is corrupted, a person that has committed a million mistakes in
their life can become an amazing person, if they have the right crew around them. And a person that
is amazing, could end up going the wrong way, if they end up having
		

			the wrong crew around. Everybody knows this. This is nothing new. Everybody knows that your crew,
the people that you're with are those who affect you. You see with people or you have friends on
Facebook, or you have people that you follow on Twitter, who use foul language, who are swearing
every second word, what are you gonna end up doing? You're gonna end up having a dirty mouth as
well. But if you're with people who know who you know, will never use a foul word. When you're
sitting in front of them. You don't use foul language. And I've accidentally you do you apologize,
I'm sorry for saying that I shouldn't have done this. Because you're in an environment that's
		

			protected. You're an environment of people that are good. People who dress properly, when you sit
with them, you're going to dress properly. You know, that's what the prophet sallallahu alayhi
wasallam said, and Manuel Miranda Dini, clearly he for
		

			a person is on the religion of his friend. So be very careful who you choose to be your friend. And
this is where the mom was going to discuss. Your mom was just gonna say, Mom was under brings an
argument that look, your life is your business? You guys understand that? And any business you have?
Would you want it to be in loss or profitable?
		

			There's your second opinion, right? Everyone wants their business to be profitable? Why would you
continue doing a business? That's a loss. Now in order for a business to be profitable? There are
two very important aspects. One is you as an individual, how committed are you? And the second
equally important aspect is how committed is your crew, your employees? Would you guys agree, you
can be very committed, but if your employees aren't up to up to par, your business isn't going
anywhere. And at time, you may be the weak link. But if your employees are solid, where's this
business gonna go? It's gonna go far. That's why they have these very strict procedures of hiring,
		

			you go to Microsoft, you can't just walk in and get hired, you can't tell somebody, Hey, get me
hooked up with Microsoft and get a job there. It doesn't work like that. You have to go through 10
interviews, how many interviews, Microsoft holds the value of their business to such an important
degree that you have to speak to 10 different people, before we even take you on our payroll. And
after we take you on, we're gonna watch you. And if you make a mistake, or you play any games with
our business, what are we going to do?
		

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			for firing, you get out of my business, is that right or wrong? And a businessman, a real
businessman, will never turn away from hiring a good hire, and will never shy away from firing a bad
hire. Is that right? or wrong? Yes, or no? People cannot talk. It's okay. Right? We know, that's
right. That's the way it works. And that's a part of being a businessman, say, Mom, because it says
this is your life. And I want you to think of your employees, kind of like your friends. Don't just
let anyone walk through your door and start working there. Because they don't have the right to do
that. You have to hire them, there has to be a requirement, you're not going to sit there and
		

			interview friends because they're gonna think you're stuck, and they're not gonna want to talk to
you anyway. But you and your mind, you should at least have a criteria that in order for this person
to get hired for the job, he or she has to have X, Y, and Z correct minimum requirements. In order
for you to be my friend, there are some things I need expected from you have to have these things.
And if you can't meet these things, you and I just can't be friends. And today, you may have them,
I'll hire you, you can be my friend. But tomorrow, if you lose any of these things, you have to go.
And this is a very important aspect of your life. People sometimes just can't say it, that you're
		

			not a good friend for me, or they can't accept it. And this woman was saying here that you can go on
keeping those employees with you, you can keep them with you. But the problem is that your business
is not going anywhere, you're going to fail miserably. But if you quickly recognize a problem, and
you try to fix it or get rid of these people from your life, your business will be profitable. This
is the whole thing here so you don't have the money. He says, Be very careful who you choose to be
your friend, and then a man because it says there are 5.5 conditions that should exist in a person
		

			Who you call your friend, if these five conditions exists, let them enter into your life, let her
enter into your life you can be together. But if these five conditions don't exist, then
		

			let them go. And you know, hear him out because it is talking about friendship. And I mentioned this
earlier, and I'll bring it in again, this also goes for marriage. If you're looking for someone to
get married, you should look for these five conditions. These are very, because if these are things
that should exist in a friend, shouldn't they exist in a lifetime companion? Of course they should.
So what are these five conditions? And what is animals I'm talking about here. Before we read that I
wanted to share one more narration with you though. And this narration is a very powerful one. And
it shows us that any person in the world can make a change, no matter how bad your life is, no
		

			matter how dark your past is, your past can be so dark, it can be so dark, but there's always a way
of redemption, as long as you have the right people around you. A person who has a person had killed
99 people, how many? How many people?
		

			I mean, is that a lot of small number a lot of people killing one person is bad. You become a serial
killer after killing 1520 people, this brother somehow found the time to kill how many 99? That's
what you call cold blooded killer. He came to a scholar and said, Will Allah forgive me? The scholar
said, bro, you killed 99 people, you really messed up, I was never gonna forgive you. He said, You
know what, I kill 99 let me just do 100 he killed a scholar.
		

			So he killed 99 people who was 100 person that he killed the scar. This is 100 by the way, the
practice of law in Islam. Now, when he killed a scholar, he felt even more regretful that man, I
killed 99 people. But when I hit the century, the 100 throws a scholar I'm in a lot of trouble. So
he went to another ship. And he said, that's your ship, I killed 99 people. And 101 was a scholar
will Allah forgive me. So that shift said, Tim, Allah will forgive you if you want change. He said I
won't change. So he said to him, the way you cause change is by leaving this community, leaving this
crew leaving this life, I want you to travel to another city and other town.
		

			There you will find good people, Sibel those good people, be their friends be a part of their life,
let them be a part of your life. Don't keep them outside. You know, sometimes we know some people
are good for us. But we close the door on them. We don't let them enter into our lives. We're
harming ourselves. So he says, Let that let those people be a part of your life, you'll be a part of
their life going there. So this individual, he migrated on the way to cold blooded killer 100 people
he killed. He's on the way to the city to meet these people so he can become a better person. On the
way there what happens to him.
		

			He dies, the man died. Now what happens to him? They say the angels from Paradise came the angels
from the fire of * came the angels with the fire of * said he killed 9900 sorry, he killed 100
we're taking this guy with us. The angels of Paradise said he's coming with us because he was going
to repent. So they argued and argued and argued until they took the case to Allah subhana wa tada
the city Allah, He killed 100
		

			we're taking him with us to the fire of how they ended the paradise said but he was going to become
a better person. So Allah subhana wa tada set to the angels that measure which city he was closer to
		

			measure which city he was closer to. And the narration actually mentioned, he was closer to the city
in which there were bad people. And he was further from the city in which they were good people. But
Allah subhanho wa Taala made it such that when they measured it, he was closer to that city. And
Allah subhanho wa Taala said, he was closer to the Buddha, he was closer to good people. He was
closer to my friends, even if it was physically he didn't even meet them spiritually. So you can
make that claim. Even if it was physically he was closer to them. Let him go to gender. And the
partial sum tells us that mad went to Jenna, the guy who killed 100 people, he had a bad background.
		

			But how does he go to gender because he was walking towards a better pathway. He was going to sit
with people and how he met those people who would have become a better person. Because those people
were good, and they were gonna rub off on him in a better way. There are tons of examples of great,
you know, some of the greatest criminals in Islamic history becoming scholars of the greatest
scholars of our time. You know, we all know the story of David Benioff, who was known as argue that
domain fully even if it was known as Avi that ultimate arbiter of how domain means the worshipper of
the two sacred cities. And the reason why they call them that they see that in Mecca and Medina, in
		

			the two sacred mosques. There was not a single place in either of those two mosques where he had not
done such that cried. He mapped the full mosque. You know, some of us say, I've danced on every inch
of this club. He says, I have cried on every inch of both massagin Makkah and Medina, his name is
Abdullah domain, Philemon, I have, but he wasn't a baller all of his life. He wasn't just a
righteous person all of his life. He was abandoned. He was a high Robert, this is what he did. He
was a thug for most of his life, and he was a real thug. And what happened was that, you know, there
was an encounter in his life, something happened he saw this incident, he jumped over a wall and he
		

			had this encounter with people. And then the he asked the people, why aren't you traveling? They
said that
		

			No one travels at night because everybody is on the streets and he's going to rob us is going to
kill us. And it will debut novels undercover, he didn't realize that people were afraid of him so
much. He came out and said, I'm done with that life, I'm going to become a better person. And he
changed his life. And he turns into hobbies. And what I mean, you know, sometimes you do something
in your life, a lot helps you change. And you have to realize, you have to change, you know, and
that change occurs by meeting good people. I remember when I was young, when I was maybe six, seven
years old. We used to live in Kentucky. My parents still live there. And we don't have any halaal
		

			store the halaal restaurants like Chicago, we have everywhere. We don't even have anyone that sells
meat there. So in order to get a lot of meat, you have to travel to a city that sells a lot of meat
and bring it there. So people when they come to Chicago to buy halloumi when they go to Indianapolis
to buy a lot of meat, so we didn't have any meat. So what happened was that the Imam of the
community, he said to me, I was visiting from other sons for break. He said to me, Hussein, I'm
going to go to Ohio to pick up some meat, you want to come with me? I said, let's go. So we were
driving the car and on the way there, we're on the highway for a long time.
		

			I said to him shift, I bought a machine cassette machine like not you know, with poetry. I have a
cassette that has a lot of poetry for the Prophet. Can I put it in the cassette player? He said, Go
ahead. So I put the cassette player and by the way, this is a sheriff Hafez, you know, baller, you
know, he's a sheriff. Okay, so I put the cassette in. And when I put the cassette and he started
laughing, I said, Why are you laughing? So he said, Stop this. And he pulled the cassette out. This
is a joke. I said, Why are you laughing? He said, this is an Indian song, they copied the tune and
made a knockout of it. They took the tune from a Bollywood movie, they put some good words in there,
		

			and they copied it. So I said to him, Chef, why are you listening to bollywood songs?
		

			That's what I said, you know, young, I didn't have any other. I said, I'm Chef, how do you know? How
do you know they're knocking off the song? So he said something so powerful and so profound at that
moment? I do not. It's been 20 years since he said that to me. And I think of that statement every
day, he probably doesn't even know I still remember that. But it's been 20 years. He said, Hussein,
everyone has a past, only the smart know when to leave that past in the past and to move on with
their lives. And it really hit me that everyone has a past even he had a past. But he said only the
smart people know when it's time to move on. The fools they live the rest of their life in the past,
		

			they just that past is their past, and they're a part of the past. They have no future. But smart
people know, when the past is over, that that action was a part of my life. It's done. I don't want
anything to do with it. It's time for me to move forward for me to be that better person. And you
can become that better person. If you have those people around you a lot. How about that I will give
you a chance. He'll give you an opportunity. There's another incident today where we're supposed to
be doing more reading and less talking. I said to Shahzad before we started today, I'm not going to
talk and you're going to do a lot of reading. We're going to cover a lot of pages. But
		

			unfortunately, that's not going to happen.
		

			I'll share with you guys another story. genetic data. You guys have heard of his name, one of the
great scholars of Islamic history. Great, great, great scholar student body. You know,
		

			there must be I can't think of anyone who studied Islam, and hasn't heard of the name genetical
domitilla, Jani. Genetic Davi always wasn't this great, glamorous scholar. He was an average guy
doing average things, you know, where did he go daddy spent most of his life.
		

			Not in the machine. He spent most of his life in the gym working out. I'm not joking. I mean,
honestly, this is what you need. But he did. He was a very strong man. And he was a great fighter.
He was such a good fighter is such a good fighter that no one could defeat him. The King of the
time. He made it he made he made an event. He said I call anyone from my kingdom to come and beat
Junaid and anyone that beats him, I will give that person a reward that will make that person happy.
Now, imagine this big day, do you know that he's working on working out lifting and drilling,
lifting and drilling. The day comes people of all over his kingdom gathered together? genetical
		

			bodies in the ring, a long line of men that want to come and fight against him. And one by one
they're coming in, he picks the guy up, slams him down. Next guy comes in, picks him up, slams him
down. He's just dealing with these guys. Like our mothers, you look at parties on a skillet, you
know, with breads and flipping here flip their flip here flip, they're knocking them out of the way.
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			there's an old man in line with a big white beard. And everyone's looking at this guy saying What
are you doing? When you get to the front of that line? And when you step in the ring, you're going
to collapse just by looking at the mind. Even some guys have that look on their face and you look at
them and you're like, you fall down. So this guy he somehow came in the ring. The referee said Are
you sure? He said look, the challenge is open. Anyone can find him. I'm gonna fight him. So he came
forward. He should do it by hand. They smiled at each other. You know before the fight they always
exchanged foul words. You know people always do that right fighters. They changed a few words and
		

			after they exchanged a few words
		

			The fight started and this man, old man, he picked up the dead body, slammed him on the ground and
put his foot on his chest.
		

			And the whole crowd is shocked. How did this old man v unit body, people must have been throwing
tomatoes at him. He lost his whole career. The King got mad and said Get out of my face. You're
fired. And you know, Don't ever show me your face again. So it was a very bad day for both of you.
So he was sitting later on that evening in his room and he was just, you know, thinking over the
incidents that had happened that day was recollecting you know what happened that day. You know, how
he got ready and all the training that went into it. And that day, all the people came, he beat them
all one by one. Then he was standing there and an old man walked in and He chuckled thinking, this
		

			guy's gonna fight me. And that man came and he shook his hand and said to him, I said Imani come to
Geneva, the art of currencies courtesies.
		

			He said to him Junaid, you and I both know that there's no way I can beat you. So you need said to
him, then what are you doing here? He said, All I want you to know is that I'm from the family of
the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And we can accept a cut. My family has been hungry for the
past few days, and I need that money to feed them. And you know, the daddy said, I haven't done much
as a religious person in my life. But if there's one thing I'm going to do, right in my life, I'm
going to lower myself for the honor of the family of the prophets that allowed him and that man
said, Are you sure? He said, I'm as sure as I can ever be. And the fight started and commendable
		

			that he flipped himself over and dropped himself down, down. The man said, Are you sure he's uh, put
your foot on my chest right now. And that man put his foot on the chest of general daddy. And while
he was thinking while he was sitting there, you know, just recollecting the whole incident. He
thought to himself, what if that guy was a scam? What if he lied to me, my favorite took my money
and ran away. And he fell asleep. And while he was sleeping in his dream, he saw the prophets of
aloha do some promise of aloha to some said to him, that you lowered yourself for the sake of a line
that will suit Allah will elevate you beyond your imagination. And the next morning, he meets a
		

			scholar, the scholar says come with me. He teaches them and learns and learns and learns. And the
UFC champ turns into the great shift with, you know, the great shifts of his time. A lot gives
people an opportunity, and everyone gets that opportunity. No one should think that I didn't get
that opportunity. that opportunity could be you coming to the budget today and hearing this talk, or
you hearing this talk or wherever you are in the world, this is your opportunity. But you have to
know when it's my opportunity, I need to take it. And when that opportunity comes, in order to
execute that opportunity. It all comes down to you choosing whether you're going to stay with the
		

			same people or you're going to change them. If you come to the budget everyday but your friends are
scum, you're going to become a scumbag yourself. But if you don't come to the merchant regularly,
but your friends are good people think about this. You're playing basketball, and it's a lot of time
it's prayer time. What happens if you're playing with friends who don't care about Salah? Are they
going to pray? But if you bring with friends who care about Salah What are they going to say? guys
got to stop real quick. Everyone do we'll do let's pray really quickly. And then after you pray, how
do you feel? You feel good, right? had a good time we worked out we did this we did that. We also
		

			prayed because Allah was important to us. So it all comes down to the people that you have around
you. Let's read a little of this, we won't go into the characteristics we'll just read the first few
lines you can start again from beginning of the chapter.
		

			Before entering into such a relationship, you must do two things such a relationship before making
someone your brother or making someone your friends you must do two things. What are they? first
duty? To check for the presence of the requisite qualities of companionship and friendship you have
to qualify to be my friend? You guys understand that if you're not qualified to be my friend, you
and I shouldn't be friends. Now. What does that qualification You know, he just talks about good
characteristics and we'll we'll discuss those up ahead. For you should not take as a brother one who
is not faithful brotherhood, someone who's not fit to be a brother, don't make them your brother,
		

			someone who's not trustworthy. Do you want them to be your brother? No, because they're gonna
they're gonna stab you right in the back. That's why you know
		

			he's gonna quote up ahead that having an intellectual enemy is better than having a foolish friend
you guys thinking What does that even mean? But he'll explain that up ahead when we discuss it next
week inshallah. Messenger
		

			person's religious life is only as good as that of his friend. So let each one of you consider Well,
friends, if you see companion to be your partner in learning and your friend in the matters of your
religious life and your early life, don't hear he said, friend for any aspect of your life, whether
it's your religious life or your worldly life, it could be for your work, it could be as an
employee, anyone that you're choosing to join you in your life. You need to make sure you choose
them carefully. Yes, look for five qualities. Look for five qualities and what are these five
qualities inshallah as us we'll cover them together in one class. Next week. We pray that Allah
		

			subhanaw taala This one was all set along with Allah. Allah Allah Subhana Samadhi