Hosai Mojaddidi – Session 7 Purification of the Heart for Muslim Teenagers
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Salam Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh everybody was made out
of matter Hema hamdu lillah wa salatu salam ala I should have an
MBI even more serene say that our Monado if anybody I'm from
southern Ohio said I want to do a second set of the Sleeman Kathira
Salam aleikum. You guys, thank you for joining us for the last class.
I know we're just talking about how time was zipped by but
Subhanallah here we are seven classes with you guys. I really
appreciate those of you who've been in attendance, who have been
on time coming every week. And I hope you've been benefiting from
these classes. So just like a little hidden, we almost want to
accept all of our efforts. There's so much to cover today. So I'm
going to make this quiz that I normally do with you guys. I'm
going to just kind of shorten it a little bit because we have a lot
of, of information to go over today. So last, third to Thursday,
excuse me, Thursday, we covered three diseases. This particular
disease has to do with not really taking seriously ALLAH SubhanA us
commands. So you know, you just are kind of being carefree
irresponsible. With maybe your prayers you're not you're just not
taking things seriously. What disease of the heart describes a
person who has knows about Allah Subhana Allah but isn't taking
their faith seriously, and then they end up falling into sin?
Who's got this? I got answers, but nope, those are not the correct
answers, you guys.
No, no, not yet. I don't see a correct answer. Normally, you guys
are on it. Where?
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Hello, Captain.
Don't cry on the inside.
So sweet. So yeah, I'm asking about very good, there we go. So
an excellent heedlessness with a flood that's the disease of the
heart. It's when you become to become heedless, is because to
become careless. You're just just too distracted with life with how
exciting things are. So you're not doing what you should be doing.
Okay. Very good. So this next disease this is when you react in
a way to something that is imbalanced, and it can lead to
harm. And you know, it's an emotion that we have, but you you
if you don't have balance, then it can control you. You're not
controlling it anymore. Okay, very good. So we have an answer from
yesterday in English, but what's the Arabic? Yeah, seen? Gotta come
with both. Sunbae that's what I'm talking about. You gave me the
English and you gave me the Arabic Good job. So it's a hot day, but
had that been anger? So remember to do that. Okay, then. Yeah, also
Good job. All right. So then the remaining one I hope you know,
this, this is when you're trying to get rid of something or sell
something. Or you're maybe presenting yourself in the wrong
in a way that's not true. Right. So if you're selling something and
you're hiding defects, you're hiding something that's wrong with
it, or you are trying to misrepresent yourself what is this
disease of the heart called?
Looking very good we had Raheel excellent or wait I'm sorry I
Sunday forgive me I saw I got the names are coming too fast. It's on
once again. You got it. Mashallah, this is a fish, which is fraud.
Okay, great job. Again, I'm sorry to cut this proportion. Short.
It's just that we have so much to cover. So I need to use my time
wisely. Okay. All right. So let me go ahead and present the or pull
up the presentation. Bismillah we are at week four. I'm going to get
the present screen. I should be super fast by now at this, huh?
All right, here we go. So inshallah you guys can all see me
and see the presentation. So week four, we've got six diseases of
the heart to cover, okay, more than normal, right? We usually
have three so double the amount. That's why we're gonna get
started. So Bismillah
let's go ahead and look at what we're covering. So we're going to
cover rancor, we're going to cover boasting and arrogance. We're
going to cover displeasure with blame antipathy toward death,
oblivious in this or obliviousness to blessings derision, okay. will
suffer in Kibera cattle them cattle mouth, Luciana Nima and how
this Okay, so all of this is going to be explained to you as we go
through this Bismillah I'm just gonna again check the chat box. I
see messages coming through. All right, let's go Bismillah number
one real okay. This is extreme anger. So hi dad we know is anger
that's out of
control and imbalanced Ville is the result of unchecked anger that
leads to violence. So when you're overwhelmed by your anger to the
point that you actually cause harm to another person or something,
this is and rancor is it's kind of this, you know, inciting the
disease that wants you to do something beyond just feel
something because otherwise you're feeling whereas it really wants
you to act on that anger. So it's a it's a much worse form of anger.
And so here we have also had that as telling us in chapter 59, verse
10, our Lord, forgive us in our brother and who became who came
before us in faith and do not place into our hearts, rancor
Hill. For those who believe our Lord, You are kind and
compassionate. So we should be making dua to Allah subhana asking
protection from this disease of the heart because it's such a
toxic disease, right. And then Anissa, Malik reported that the
Prophet SAW was said to me, so he's speaking to and so when he
was younger, right, he was, and this was about, I think, 10 years
old, when he became came into the service of the prophesy centum. So
he said, oh, boy, if you are, if you are able, every morning and
evening to remove any rancor Ville, from your heart towards
anyone then do so, oh, boy, that is my tradition, and whoever
revives my tradition has loved me, and whoever loves me will be with
Me in Paradise. So asking a removing these feelings from your
heart is going to bring you closer to the proper sort of life.
So it's such an important thing to do. And we should not ever want to
have these types of negative feelings, because they're not in
line with his way. Okay. So that's a real let's look more into this.
So one of the things about him that we have to understand is it
found in this quote by earlier, but he thought that he said, Do
not scold people too often, because verily, too much scolding
leads to rancor and hatred. Too much is bad manners. So if you
guys are children, or some of you are younger, right, your youth so
you know, how it feels when someone pulls you in a harsh way
and, you know, reprimands you which is, you know, stops you from
doing what you're doing in schools, you yells at you maybe
calls you something that's not very nice, because they're angered
by something you've done, right? How does it feel? It doesn't feel
very good, right, when you're scolded in a harsh way. And it's
often like maybe every day, there's children, unfortunately,
they're in homes where someone's always yelling at them, you know,
someone's always telling them what they're doing is wrong. And this
can turn into really difficult or more complex emotions for that
child because they're feeling shamed, right, this adult or maybe
it's a sibling, you know, it could be other people too, but it's a
way of an older sibling, right? It's a way of shaming someone in a
really harsh way, when you scold them, right? They may have done
something wrong, or you know, so it's it might be that they need to
be stopped and to be corrected, but the way that you correct a
person really have to be careful because it can cause more
problems. So this is what he's saying is that when you scold
someone, and I use the images that would relate to some of you
because it's a youth class, but even adult school people all the
time, you have parents who are elderly, scolding, their, you
know, older adult children, spouses, scolding each other
sibling scolding each other into adulthood. So this isn't behavior
just for children, even employers, you know, a boss may scold his
employee in front of people, right? A teacher may scold their
student. So this is just a normal human thing that happens when
someone loses their their comportment right there, they're
just there being there, they just lose control. So this advice is to
say when you do too often, this is what happens. It actually leads to
rancor and hatred on both people's on both on the part of both
people. If I am always scolding you, you know, and shaitan is
loving it. Right? He's the one who causes all of these negative
emotions between people. He might put hatred in my heart towards
you, rancor in my heart towards you, because I'm annoyed I'm
annoyed that I'm always having to correct your behavior. And so I
start having all these resentment feelings right, these negative
feelings, but the one being scolded like here in this first
picture, you know, that child you see that finger right in someone's
face. It's feels really bad to have to have someone you know
shame you. You it's very natural that a person who experiences that
often, even for someone that they originally love, like a parent or
a teacher, that it turns their heart
against them. And it's invites this very toxic emotion called
Real rancor. So this is why we don't do that in our tradition, we
don't shame people, even parents, you know, have to be reminded not
to shame people, right? We have to be very careful and uncover
people's faults, take children to the side if you want to correct
their behavior, but the shaming is a big problem. Now, the pictures
here, you know, look, you see this boy, he's getting upset back at
his mom. So he's also losing up, which is what the other problem
is, is that not only does it invite resentment, and rancor, but
you also start to lose a depth with with people because you are
constantly being picked on and that makes you just highly, you
know, reactive to other people. So you end up you know, just losing
your other job. And so, like I said, all these pictures show the
effects of what happens when you score too much. It's really
important for children to understand this, but also parents
if they're tuning in, to understand this as well, all of us
educators, and adults have to be really careful when we're
interacting with people that we don't do this because it's never
there's no benefit in it whatsoever. Okay, so let's go to
the next slide.
So if we see here the prophesy centum now the opposite, right is
total opposite message Subhan Allah, He says you must be gentle.
Verily, gentleness is not in anything except that it beautifies
it and is not removed from anything except that it disgraces
it. So we have to be gentle in pretty much everything that we
tried to do, right. And so here you have images of a different
type of teaching moment, you know, where the mothers are trying to,
you know, relate to their daughters, you know, what you did
was, you know, you shouldn't have done it. And of course, you know,
I just picked these two images, but fathers should do this with
their sons brothers should do this with their younger brothers and
sisters and, and what have you, spouses should do with each other.
But these are just simple examples of being a little bit more gentle
when you're correcting. And you can see they're smiling, right,
they're actually in a positive state, because they're both
understanding that this is, you know, a teaching moment, and we're
gonna move past this. That's how conflicts should be handled. Okay.
So how do we remove real if you have real in your heart? Well,
what are the advices that Mr. Mahmud offers is that you show
goodwill to the person that you have rancor for. So if you have a
real towards someone where you really are just so angered by
them, that you were like, Oh, if I see them, I'm gonna just punch
them or I want to hurt them. Because that's what real is,
remember, it's anger that makes you want to hurt someone, right?
Sometimes siblings, for example, they feel this way. If you're in a
family, where you are all you're bickering a lot with your brothers
and sisters, first of all, that's pretty normal. But if it ever
enters your heart to want to do something to harm them, that's
what this is. And you have to be very careful from that. Okay,
because a lot of things can happen in a heat in the heat of the
moment, they say, in the heat of the moment, if your anger gets the
best of you, like we talked about last time, you can cause a lot of
harm, you could harm someone permanently, God forbid, under the
law. So you want to be very careful with this disease of the
heart. But a good thing to do is separate, you know, initially, if
you're if it's a fight or an argument, and then try to force
yourself to do this, where when you're in two separate spaces, you
know, and you know, your if your, this takes time and practice, so
don't worry that if it's hard or almost sounds impossible to do,
over time, as you mature, it will be easier to manage your emotions,
where you just start to think about the good of that person.
Because you know, especially if they're in your family, or they're
close to you, there's good in them, it's just in that moment
over that particular issue, all you can see as the bad and your
anger, so you can't see it. But you want to force yourself to do
that. Because the more you do that, the less likely that you
will allow him to just enter your heart. Do you know that you'll
realize that's a wrong thought I shouldn't think about harming my
you know, sibling or whoever, you know, I shouldn't think about
that. It's haram, it's wrong. And so you'll start to push that out
of your heart. Also, you want to recognize that one, that by having
it in your heart, you actually deprive yourself of Allah somehow
that is forgiveness, right? So the prophesy has warned us here, or
he's relating to us. Hadith could see that Allah subhanaw taala said
about his forgiveness on Mondays and Thursdays right. Also had that
a forgives. People Excel for forgives everybody except for two
people. And those are the two people who are fighting to
believers who are fighting. They don't get all those products
forgiveness. So when you have rain
You're in your heart, the fill in your heart, you're, you're not
being forgiven, you're Allah, you know, that's, that's the worst
state to be in, that Allah will not forgive you. And he says to
the angels, when they come to tell him that these two are fighting,
he says, Leave them until they set things are right between
themselves. Like he's not forgiving them and he's turning
from them. We never want almost want them to turn from us and to
not forgive us. So this is why it's such a dangerous disease of
the heart. Okay. Alright, next we have, let's see here, the next
disease and I'm checking time just to make sure I don't go over. So
we have a buffet in Kibera. And this is boasting and arrogance.
And you're going to see some similarities with, you know, what
we talked about last time, vanity orgy or bright vanity is a form of
arrogance. And so this is the extension of that. So let's look
here. First, you know, these diseases are the diseases that are
associated with the bliss, okay.
IBLEES remember, he had envy, right hazard for Adam Alayhis
Salam, but he was also incredibly arrogant with ALLAH SubhanA wa
Tada. He actually talked to Allah's parent that when he
commanded him to, to make such a to Adam, he spoke in a very rude
and disrespectful way, and which is why he is who he is. But he
says to Allah, do you see this one whom you have honored above me?
Right Stuff for Allah? He's challenging Allah, like, how could
you? You know, choose this one, he's talking about Adam and I sent
him above me, if you delay me, and now he says, If you delay me until
the Day of Resurrection, I will surely destroy his descendants,
like his children, all the children of Adam, except for a
few. So at least his you know, full of arrogance stuff for a lot
for him to speak to his own creator that way, right? And then
he says in another verse in chapter seven, verse 12, he says,
what? When I was proud that I says to him asks him, What prevented
you from prostrating when I commanded you? And he said, What
are the other Hyrule men? I am better than him. So this is
boasting, right? This is what the definition of boasting is. He's
arrogant with a lot and then he's boasting like I'm better than him.
Why should I? Why should I bow to him alright, suffer a lot. You
created me from fire and created to him from clay, and then stuff
Allah so we don't want ever to have any qualities that are close
to Bliss ever. And Allah that says, Allah does not love the
arrogant and boasting one. So he specifically tells us in the
Quran, that these two groups of people, that he doesn't love them.
So you never want to be away from any group of people that Allah
Spanner doesn't love, right? So that's why it's so so dangerous.
So let's look, you might recognize these pictures, right? Boasting
and arrogance are paired together, because arrogant people look down
on others and make them feel inferior. So you know, you're
arrogant because you think you're superior to other people. And then
the boasting is what the words that you say, to make them feel
that bad, right? You you want them to feel low, you want them to have
doubt about the themselves. So you boast you tell them how much more
talented you are than them how much better you are, how much
smarter, how much better looking, you know, oh, I have, my hair is
nicer, my eyes are nicer. I'm better at this sport, or at this
game, I'm better in my studies, I got this grade, you know, I'm, you
know, I did all my work and you just start showing off all these
things, but you're doing it for the intent of making the other
person feel bad, because you truly think they are lower than you. You
look down on them just like again these two images that we have,
this is a perfect example of what arrogance does it leads or
boasting leads to this type of behavior. Right? All right. So the
treatment for boasting and arrogance first we realize that
all the good that we have is from Allah subhanaw taala and we always
have to be in a state of gratitude. Right? And that also
Pattaya knows, everything we do, he's fully aware. So that's, you
know, same treatment that we found for, for a job and some of the
other, you know, diseases that we talked about ostentation, react,
summa all of these, where you just start to forget that Allah is the
source of all of your blessings, and that he can remove them at any
time. So you want to remember that whatever thing you're boasting
about, or arrogant about, they didn't come from you. You don't
have them because you just have them. They were given to you and
they can always be taken from you. Okay, so that's one of the ways to
put that fear in your heart that this is not acceptable behavior.
Also, you never want to walk around
Thinking that yourself yourself anything, right? And this is where
you want to check your self image? Is it tied to the way that I
dress? The way that I look? Is it tied to these superficial things
right about me? Or is it about my character? Like, what are the
things that I'm so prideful about, but check yourself if you ever,
you know, connect your self image to the things that you have,
because it might put those feelings of pride and arrogance in
your heart. So these are also very important. And this is the same
slide we used again for the previous diseases of the heart, so
you might recognize them. So let's go ahead to the next disease.
Remember, we have six to cover and I want to make sure that we are on
on target here. So let's see one second. Sorry. Bismillah. Okay, so
we have displeasure with blame is kind of them. Okay. And this is
not liking ever to be corrected or criticized even when it's
constructive. Constructive is what constructive is when you when
someone is trying to correct you, because not to make you feel bad
about yourself or feel down. But they're actually trying to help
you. Right? So sometimes you might have your parents, your teachers,
your cousins, or siblings someone correct you right. But they do it
in a way that is makes you feel like they're mocking you, right?
That's clearly wrong. And it's okay to feel like well, that's not
nice because the the believer whenever we should ever be
humiliated or humiliate ourselves, so it's normal to not like, when
someone seems like they're mocking you, while they're correcting you,
like if they're telling you, what's wrong with you, why didn't
you know that? Oh, gosh, you're so not smart. You know, if someone
says that to you, and then they tell you what the answer is, or
what you should do better. That's totally wrong. You know, that
person is also now being boastful, right? It's a form of arrogance to
do that, to show that you are so much smarter and that your this
person that you're correcting doesn't know. So we don't do that,
right. But if someone is trying to just teach you something, and you
yourself don't like it, you just don't you don't like them ever to
tell you that what you did was wrong. And immediately you have an
attitude problem. You might even, you know, say something back to
them like whatever. Yeah, oh, yeah, you don't need to tell me or
it's none of your business mind your own business. This is
probably because your your enough's is just doesn't like to
be corrected. And this is, again, it's one of the diseases of the
heart, because the believers always want to be better, right?
If you're a Muslim, you want to be the best person that you can be.
So if your fellow Muslim or a friend or whoever is trying to
help you to become a better person, you don't take offense to
that you actually look at it like thank you, thank you so much,
because I want to remember, present my heart, my collarbones
Salim to Allah subhanaw taala. And I want to, I want to be free of
all of these diseases of the heart. So if you can help me
Cleanse my heart, you're helping me Thank you. That's how you look
at it. Right? And so you have to have a very good attitude about
that. But if you feel embarrassed, if someone you know, if you make a
mistake, let's say you're in a classroom setting, and you get the
wrong answer, you raise your hand and then you got the wrong answer.
And then you're you sit with that and you feel bad, and you feel
like you're annoyed and embarrassed, and you kind of want
to hide and maybe you never want to go to the class again, this is
all part of this disease of the heart, okay, it's you're having a
hard time because you're knifes doesn't like to be wrong. And then
if you think about what others think of you, you're too worried
about their opinion of you, them liking you more than you're
thinking about the truth or Allah subhanaw taala This is also
another sign that you have this disease of the hearts, you want to
be very careful and pay attention to yourself. Because sometimes,
you know, these things, like I said, they they're subtle, but if
you if as a Muslim, you're always looking for two things. Truth,
right? And to please Allah subhanaw That these are the most
important things for us. So if someone you know, if you have a
problem with that, and you'd rather not be, you know, have an
honest exchange, because you you'd rather cover your faults and
pretend like they don't exist, because you're too worried about
your image, then you're not thinking about the right things,
right? So really important to distinguish that. Okay, so here's
the treatment for displeasure with blame. It's to be more concerned
about being a witness to the truth, right. That's what we said
believers are concerned about with being a witness to the truth, even
if it's against themselves, right almost kind of tells us in chapter
two verse 143,
And thus we have made you a just community, right? He's talking to
the Muslims, that you will be witnesses over the people and the
messenger will be a witness over you. So to be a witness over the
people means that you are a person again, you're just your your,
your, your, you know, you, you speak the truth, and you fight for
justice for all people. But you can't do that. If you're not
concerned with the truth, you know, and that's what a person
with who has this disease of the heart, they're not concerned with
the truth, they're concerned with their image. So they're, they
don't care about whether something is right or wrong, they care about
if they look right, and they don't look wrong, you see the
difference? Very important to know. And then we should have
modesty before Allah subhanaw taala instead of focusing on being
embarrassed in front of people, right, our priority should be to
have modesty before Allah. And that's why you want to really
think about why do I care what people think of me, but not what
Allah thinks of me. Rather, I should hold my head down. Because
if you do, you make a mistake and someone's correcting you, your
heart should be more concerned with being modest with Allah
instead of embarrassed with people. And this is you know, from
the province, I said, and he told us two things. Verily, every
religion has a character and the character of Islam is modesty. And
then he says, directly be modest before Allah subhanaw taala. As is
his right, so he actually needs you know, this is the right of
Allah, that we show modesty in front of Allah, that we're not
worried about people as much because people are in front of
you, but Allah supply that is only when it matters. His opinion is
the only opinion that matters. You could spend the rest of your life
making all the people in your life happy. But if you're doing it in
disobedience to Allah, you're you're the ultimate loser. Even if
they give you mountains of gold and crowns, and call you all these
amazing names, if you got all of that by disobedience to Allah, but
you made all these other people happy and rich. You know what,
unfortunately, that's your, your, like I said, You're the ultimate
loser. There's nobody worse than that person who's just living to
please the people and he forgets a lot. Like that's a tough love
beyond a muffler, right? So you have to think the opposite. I need
to make Allah happy. And this is actually also explained to us.
There's a hadith that says, The person who works on pleasing
people, and not pleasing Allah will the people will never be
pleased with them, and Allah will not be pleased with them. And the
one that focuses on pleasing Allah subhanaw taala over the people,
Allah will be pleased with them, and then he will make those people
pleased with him. So it works to your advantage to put Allah
subhanaw taala first, because he will be happy with you. And then
he'll make everybody else happy with you. And you'll you'll see
the difference you'll see being you'll be treated with respect,
people will want to listen to you, they'll you know, invite you to
things because you're prioritizing Allah. But if you're doing it for
other people, they're not. There's, you know, as I say,
haters, there's a lot of haters in the world, you could spend so much
time doing good for people, but they'll always find something to
pick on and, you know, complain about and you'll, you'll see it in
your life that human beings are not easy to please. So why put all
of that energy in pleasing them, whereas Allah is easy to please.
And then he has the power to change your circumstances so that
you find ease in your life. It just makes sense, right? So
prioritize. Alright, the next disease of the heart. This is
called antipathy toward death. Gotta have the remote, okay? This
is a disease of the heart because it tells us if you have a problem,
where death the mention of it, you know that if someone mentioned
something dying, or someone passing away, that you can't
handle it, right? It gets you to a place of you just you shut down
and you don't want to you run from the conversation. You get upset?
No, no, it's too depressing. I want to talk about I'm talking
about spooks me out freaks me out scary, you have to be careful
because that means that you likely have too much of an attachment to
this. Dunya and you like this dunya so much, but you don't
realize that by attaching yourself to this dunya you're causing more
distance between you and Allah subhanaw taala because the way for
us to meet Allah subhanaw taala is to leave this dunya right. So if
you want to meet Allah, if you have the desire to meet Allah
subhanaw taala then you don't look to death as this horrible,
terrible thing. You understand the death is like a door that you have
to go through to get to the other side, right? And so that's how you
look at death. It's not like this terrible thing. It's just
something has to be done. And so here's a headache that we have
Whoever loves to meet Allah, Allah loves to meet him and whoever
hates to meet Allah. Allah hates to meet him. It was said, O
Messenger of Allah does hating to meet Allah mean hating to meet
death for all of us hate death, right? And then he corrected he
said, Slicer, he said no, rather, that is only at the moment of
death, right? But if he is given the glad tidings of the mercy and
forgiveness of Allah, He loves to meet Allah, and Allah loves to
meet him. And if he is given the tidings of the punishment of
Allah, he hates to me that Allah and Allah hates to meet him. So
this is important, right? Because it's okay to think of death and be
a little spooked out by it, but you don't hate it in the sense
that you don't, you can't see that it's, you know, leading to that
meeting with Allah. So to to dislike the idea of it is normal
human thing, most of us don't, you know, want to think about those
things just like this, the hobby said, he said it very honestly,
nobody who loves death, right? It's sad, it's a sad thing, you
lose someone. Right? So that's not the point here. We're not saying
you have to love losing people we're talking about is not having
this feeling towards death that you forget that it is, as I said,
a passage to the other side where you meet a lot. So you just have
to look at it like it is what it is, we're all going to pass. And
that's why Allah tells us in the Quran, he says every soul shall
taste death, which is just a fact everything dies, flowers die, I
got flowers for Mother's Day, and we had to throw them away the
other day, because they died, they were gorgeous for you know, a week
or two. And then they started to die and decay and wilt and then
the water gets brown and it just kind of spoils, food dies, how
much food is thrown away every day because it dies. animals die.
There's roadkill every day, on the roads, we see poor animals, dead,
flowers of trees, you know, there's so many things that die,
stars stars die, you know. So, um, the point is, everything dies. And
that's just the nature of this dunya I was part of that it says
in chapter, verse, excuse me, 62 Verse eight, the death from which
you flee will overtake you. Thereafter, you will return to the
knower of the seen and unseen, he will then inform you of all that
you had been doing. So death is coming for all of us when it
happens, Allah knows, but we don't. We don't run from it. We
just accept it as part of life. And we are grateful for every day
he's given us and we make the most of every day he's given us. Okay,
that's, that's how the attitude is about death. And then here we
look, I like this sort of imagery, right? Because we got to have be
honest, look at the phases of life, we all started in this
childhood, infancy stage. And when you become toddlers, little kids
and adolescents and pre adolescents and teens, then
adults, right, it's kind of just moves into these different, you
know, ages and then look at the end of life, right? Everything
kind of, we go into this growth period, and then it starts to come
back down, we're getting smaller, we're shriveling up, our bones get
shorter, people who are tall in their youth, suddenly, they don't
have as much height because we kind of just start to come down a
little bit. This is the nature of life, and then we return to the
graves, right? People come in shallow, they make dua for us,
because there's a whole, you know, phase that happens between this
world and the next slide called the buttress up, and that's where
people who have passed on, they're in that realm, and inshallah
they're in a good state all of our loved ones they know when we go to
visit them. And this is all in the knowledge of Allah. But we have a
positive understanding and then we know that again, we're all
returning back to from where we came from, we came from Allah
subhanaw taala. And we returned to him which is why we say in the
Lillahi wa, in the ILA he Rajon when someone passes away, because
it's just the natural thing that happens right? Okay. So, how do we
get over the fear of death right, because again, we said that it is
reflexive to have a you know, to be afraid or to be not, you know,
just death makes you uncomfortable. But you have to
remember that there is comfort in depth for the believer, right? We
see it as a as leaving this place, right? Because the dunya is a
place of discomfort if you're looking at it, we have sickness we
have, we have pain, grief loss. There's a lot of hardships that
come in this dunya and that's by design. So when you look at
leaving this place of problems, right of filth, like you know,
dirtiness, there's things that are not
Pleasant even smells, sounds that are not pleasant foods, you know,
things that taste don't taste. But there's a lot of things that are
not pleasant in this world. When you think about leaving this world
and going to the next world where everything is the opposite, it's
amazing. It's incredible. It's beyond our imagination. It's
everlasting, nothing dies, everything is clean. It's, it's
fresh, it's new, and it's within minutes. And in seconds, whatever
we want in our mind will come before us. So there's just think
about that. So that's why when we again, think of leaving this
place, we don't look at it as a final act. We look at it as a
transition, we're going to the next better place, right? It's an
upgrade.
And then here's a quote from a famous scholar who says you have
no have you said that in death, there are 1000 report repurposes.
Sorry, there's a misspelling, they're supposed to be reposes.
No. And for the Muslim, as long as you're in this world, there is not
a cell in your body that does not experience pain, right?
Inflammation, right? That's a form of pain inside the body, and
disease. Once you are out of this world, all of that ends. So when
we leave this world, all of that pain that our bodies go through,
right, where we are, we need to stretch and we need to twitch and
we need to do this and that and drink and eat this or go get an
ice pack because I have pain here. I need a Tylenol, I need
medication, I have a fever, all have that that happens to human
beings throughout our lives. It comes to an end and we finally
have reposed repurposes, like rest, okay. And then the prophesy
said, I'm encouraged the remembrance of death. Those who do
will be blessed with certain qualities. So if you remember
death, often and not as a sad thing, where you sit there and
think about oh, my god, going in the grave, and you freak yourself
out? No, we're talking about just that. It's a reality, and it can
happen. And we all go back to Allah, and you just kind of are
aware of it happening, that you become more content, which means
you're satisfied. In life more, you have a lack of greed and
covetousness. So when you remember death a lot you don't, you're not
really concerned with the dunya. So then you become more generous
and you're not as greedy, right? And you have more energy to
achieve good deeds. Because you are, you know, motivated that, you
know, life isn't precious time is precious, and you need to make use
of your time. So you have that motivational drive. And then you
have your increasing and Toba. So all these amazing things that
happen as a result of the remembrance of death. So this is a
way that we treat antipathy towards death. Okay, so next
disease is obliviousness to blessings in the Santa Ana Santa
Nirma. This prevents one from recognizing the blessing that he
or she has, and makes them display in gratitude to all US Panda, and
then negativity to his creation. When you are a negative person,
right? You're just not ever grateful for what you have. You
always find flaws, you're always complaining, nothing's ever good
enough for you. And your attitude about life is just negative,
negative, negative. This is the danger of this disease of the
heart is that it makes you ungrateful to Allah but also you
just have an energy that nobody likes. So a lot of your people who
have who know people that are like this, or have this disease, they
don't want ever want to be around them. Never if they are sitting
somewhere at a, let's say, at school or at a coffee shop and or
at a restaurant, and then they see that person coming. They want to
turn and hide. It's like, oh god, there's that person. I don't want
to see them. Why? Because they're so negative. They're always
complaining. Yeah, I can't I can't handle it. It's such negative
energy, it makes me feel bad. So do you want to be that person? No,
nobody wants to be that person that people hide from. Right. So
the prophesy sort of also taught us whoever's not grateful to the
people is not grateful to Allah, that Michigan, NASA, Michigan,
Allah so if you're not grateful to people, then that means you're
also not grateful to Allah. So this is how we have to understand
it's so important to be in a state of gratitude. And this is what
this disease does, it takes you out of the state of gratitude
completely, you're blind to the obvious blessings Allah has given
you. So something just to keep in mind. So you know, in order to
prevent this from taking root, we have to increase our gratitude,
right? How do we do that? Well, we have to understand that there's
three different types of gratitude. The first we call it
Sugar, Sugar Bill calm, and this is gratitude of the heart. This
means to be grateful from the core of your hearts and have you man,
sugar, Billy san is to be grateful by praising Allah subhanaw taala
with his attributes, right, praising him, and then sugar with
God or your limbs and this is by doing good things with the
physical body, that Allah Subhana Allah gave you, you do good deeds.
You pray your prayers on time you're fat.
assisting, you're giving the cat you're giving help, you're giving
advice you're teaching, you're actually using the body in the
right way, that's a form of sugar. So it's not just sitting in with
your tests being going out handler, handler, handler,
handler, that's not enough. That's just really sad, right? You have
to look at it as all three, that's all three years are important, we
have to have all three forms of sugar. And then always father
tells us also that he never changes any blessing. He has
bestowed upon a people until they first change what is in
themselves. Okay, so just to keep in mind, if you want to change
your negative situation, maybe your life is hard, and that's why
you're negative, then this is the answer to you, that he will not
change your condition, your state, whatever it is, it's happening for
you until you work on yourself. So you have to start doing this, what
we're doing here, that's good enough, you're cleansing your
heart, you're trying to become a better person, you're pushing
yourself to be more concerned with other people than to be selfish,
right? You're being more generous with your time, as we said, those
are all good steps. And then inshallah Allah will bring the
relief, okay.
So, also, it's very important that you get the practice of being more
grateful, like, it's something that you actively do. Why, because
almost father tells us, if you give thanks, I will give you more.
It's such an easy formula. If you want more blessings in your life,
if you want more happiness in your life, the way to get that is what
be more grateful. Just be more grateful, say Alhamdulillah, I
thank you a lot, thank you for everything that you give me and
really saying it out loud, or in your own heart, and listing those
things. You know, there's a lot of even non Muslims, there's
research, like there was these two scientists who did a study. Here,
it's by Sacramento, UC Davis, but they did a study where they took
people who had all these like health problems, and real big
issues going on in their life. And what they did is they had them do
a gratitude journal, they started getting into practice of
journaling, and really recognizing all of their things that they are
grateful for. And just by doing that for you know, a few days or a
week or a month or so, they their physical symptoms started getting
better, they're sick, and whatever injuries or problems they had,
with their, as I said, like their body was healing. And then also
emotional healing from, you know, whatever depression or anxiety or
things that have happened, trauma in their life. And like all of
these really positive things started happening for them. The
only difference was that they started doing this. That's it,
they started changing their mind and taking focus of their brain,
instead of letting negative thoughts come in, which oftentimes
are from shaitan. He's the one whose whispers right, he likes to
make us feel bad. You cast him out of your heart by increasing in
gratitude. And so you want to make a list like this. And, of course,
the first and foremost thing you should always be grateful for, is
to know Allah subhanaw taala and the prophesy Salam. That is the
greatest blessing of existence is that we know our Lord and we know
His Beloved. And then of course, you look to your family and home
life, your health, your friends, your time, the fact that you have
time to do things, safety, it's not in the list, but you know,
safety food and drink, nice clothes, material things, all the
things that you have you think about them deeply because there's
a lot of people who don't have even 1/5 of what you have, how
many kids don't have their parents, how many kids are born as
orphans, they don't have more than one outfit, they only have one
pair of clothes. They Some kids don't have shoes, they're homeless
or they're, you know, living in such impoverished situations where
they don't even have shoes, so they have to walk around and then
get injured. You know, playing Can you imagine playing or trying to
play who many of them don't even have time to play because they're
forced to go and collect you know, soda cans and garbage so they can
make some money or to do some, you know, they'll go far from their
home because they they're desperate for to eat. So they'll
go look through garbage cans and do so much because they're they
have nothing but they have to do that barefoot. They don't have
shoes. They don't have a toys. You have some my kids, they have a toy
room. I'm telling them all the time, like be grateful for your
toys. Do you know there's children who's never who've never seen a
toy before? They've only played with sticks and rocks? They have
no idea what a Lego is. They have no idea what a doll is. They've
never in their life seen these things or electric stuff? Forget
it. They don't know what electricity is. A lot of people in
our world are living in really difficult situations. So
You have to be grateful to Allah that He gave you such an amazing
life. You know, and that's why the more you do this, then you're
spared from this terrible diseases of the heart where you don't even
you can't even mention things that you're grateful for. That's what
people like this are. They're so negative, nothing's ever good
enough, right? And then to remember, the more grateful you
are, the more you'll get Allah so generous. So this is the last
disease of the heart and this is called has which is ridiculing.
Okay, and making fun of people humiliating caricaturing
lampooning, anytime you tried to take someone down and really just
mock them to a place where they're humiliated. You have to know right
away, this is haram on every level. Allah tells us in chapter
49, verse 11, Oh, you who believe do not let people mock and other
people for it may be that these are better than them. Nor should
women mock other women for maybe they're better than them and do
not talk to one another, nor insult each other with nicknames
really powerful reminder that you if you're someone that just likes
to mock groups of people, like there's a lot of people who make
racial jokes, you know, they like to make fun of certain groups,
like certain races, and they'll, you know, do terrible things to
point out the things that make them look different, or speak
different languages, whatever, but they'll, they're, you know,
they'll just mock groups. So this is why I was saying Don't mock
groups of people. And then he's also saying Don't mock individual
people, because there could be the one is better than the other. So
very clear warning that this is haram. Right? So let's look at
this.
I mean, anybody who's ever been in a situation where you felt
bullied, right? It's a terrible thing to be on the receiving end
of that, because, especially if it's I mean, there's shaming,
right? You're being shamed in front of people. So it's a
horrible feeling. And then there's a lot of sometimes harshness,
because in their words, so it's not just they might, they might be
taunting, you know, making sounds, but oftentimes, they come with
words that are also very hard to hear. very damaging. So this is
why we say, words can be weaponized. Okay, what does that
mean? A weapon is what, it's something that you you, you
discharge, and then it sends something to a target. And it's
supposed to harm that target, right. So your tongue has the
ability to discharge the same way, a gun or an arrow, bow and arrow,
it can discharge words that come out, and then they land on whoever
you're speaking to. So if you weaponize your words, that's what
it's like, to the one who's on the other end of it. It's very painful
to hear that. And so, you know, we never, of course, want to be those
who bully and Mark ever May Allah forgive us. But to see that it's,
you know, it's, it's like what we saw with scolding, it can have a
really negative effect, because not only does it cause so much
pain, as you can see in these images, they're all crying,
because it's hard to hear people teasing you and mocking you. But
you know, the, the danger is that this if shaytaan is around, and he
will try, what he can do is basically take that those feelings
of shame that the person being mocked, feels, and turn it into
rancor red, he can do that very easily. Because he'll take this
bullied soul, and he'll just work on them. How could they do that to
you? You know, they're such terrible people, you should teach
them a lesson. Who do they think they are? And this is why all the
Blight you've had, we've had many times in history throughout
history, where the bully, the one who's bullied, excuse me, turns
into a bully. Because all of that those feelings, make them feel
that they have to get back right, this revenge enters their heart,
this need for revenge. And that, of course, is from within. Because
it's the anger of being shamed. And being mocked that turns into
wanting harm on the other person. This happens every day, but
throughout human history, much of our greatest human tragedies have
come out of this happening, you know, that that someone or a group
of people were mocked, and then they came back fierce fiercely and
attacked even worse than what happened to them. So we have to
seek refuge from this as a terrible disease of the heart,
right. So let's look at the treatment.
First of all,
We should know that this is a sign of ignorance right away.
There's many reasons but you know, one incident is when the Prophet
Musa he was asked by his people, because he told them he gave them
an order to sacrifice a cow. And when they heard that he wanted
them to do this, they replied, Are you mocking us? Like, why would we
do this? And his words are clear. He says, I seek refuge in God from
being ignorant, which means the one who mocks is ignorant, right?
This is how we see this. If so you're just an ignorant person if
you do that behavior, and that's why he's like, No, I would never
mock you. I'm not an ignorant person, right. And then it's also
a form of arrogance. Because usually people who mock do think
of themselves as better, right? This is why, you know, they kind
of hold themselves a certain way. And then they do the whole
pointing of the finger. It's very, it's called posturing. When you
posture, you're showing that you think you're stronger and better.
So you puff yourself up, and you then you talk down to people. So
this is where a lot of bullies, that's how they do. And that's why
you see bullies in school, for example, they'll pick on kids that
are smaller or younger, because they like that power dynamic to
show I'm stronger and more powerful than you, right? It's
also all the blah, arrogant, right? And so this is why we have
said no, it said, do not belittle anyone for he or she may be a
saint of God. What does that mean? Is that everybody in the world,
nobody knows who they are to Allah. Just because someone might,
you might not like them, or they say something to you, doesn't
necessarily mean they're a bad person. Maybe there was a
misunderstanding. Maybe something happened. For example, I'll give
you an example.
So this is just I'm making it up, right. But this happens all the
time. It's a hypothetical hypothetical is like, you know,
this is an example. But this scenario has happened many times
to many people, because I've heard it from people. And I know what
happens. You're at the masjid. Okay. And you're walking by and
there's someone that you recognize. And maybe it's kind of
like, there's a lot of people, but you look over and you smile, and
you say, sir, I want to go home, and they walk right past you?
Nothing? No words. Right? So what could happen is you start to think
about it. And then she thought, of course is right there with you.
And he's like, wow, how rude. Who do they think they are? You they
totally saw you and they ignored you? Oh, my gosh, what a
disrespectful person. And now you have this terrible opinion about
that person. This is called what CEU event? Remember, we talked
about negative thoughts. So when you rush to thinking the worst
about someone, so other than right, so that so you thought all
of this because that person didn't say salaam to you. But what if,
what if, and this could happen, right, especially now with hijab?
I mean, let's just say it was a sister. What if she was on her air
pods, and she was just, someone just gave her the worst news ever.
Someone was, you know, called her in a panic emergency and she's
rushing out of the masjid as you're going in? Because they're
telling her, Oh, my gosh, you have to come your house is on fire, you
know, something like really intense. So maybe the sister saw
you but she's having some information being told to her that
is so shocking to her, that she cannot even acknowledge you. Is
there a bad intention on her part to hurt your feelings? Is there a
bad intention on her part to disrespect you to ignore your
greeting? No, she's a human being. But you're not seeing what is
happening because you're assuming the worst. That's why we have to
make excuses for people. Those air pods if she has air pods or a
headset are hidden from you. And you're just, you know, seeing her
walk past you. But the reality is known to Allah. And that's why you
don't judge people because you don't know who they are to Allah
subhanaw taala, one of the scholars said about Omar, you
know, Omar ibn Al Khattab he was, you know, part of the machinery
keen before he accepted Islam. And so there's a famous quote that
says that Omar was beloved to Allah, even when he was
worshipping those idols, when he wasn't Muslim, because in the
knowledge of Allah, Allah already knew who Omar was, and who he was
going to be and that he was going to die, you know, as one of the
greatest companion or, you know, second greatest Companion of the
prophesy son, right. He already knew that about him. So even
though our didn't know that and he was still, you know, bowing down
to the idols, he was still beloved to Allah because Allah knew his
ending. And that's what we have done.
understand is we don't know people's ending. Nobody, none of
us know how people are going to die. And a person can become a
beloved to Allah and their last and final moments, you know, I
had, there was actually a video that was going on earlier this
morning. And it was this very sweet lady, she had become a
Muslim. She's like, a, maybe 90, plus maybe close to 100 years old,
her name is Miriam. And she's learning a DUA, and she's reciting
it. And I just was like, subhanAllah, she just became
Muslim at the very tail end of her life, you know, she's, she
probably doesn't have that much life to go, but Allah gave her
Islam so late in her life, and inshallah that's someone there you
go, you could have seen marry him in her 40s and 50s, and 60s and
70s, and maybe even or early 80s. And you would have thought all
these terrible things about her. But look at where she is to, for
her to have guidance before she leaves this world. May Allah
protect it for her, that shows you she's a beloved of Allah, so you
don't know where people are going to end. And that's why you should
never ever, ever have bad thoughts where you are not just ridiculing
and mocking people, but then you're also all the biller making
claims about about them like Oh, those are, you know, they're such
terrible people. And they'll you know, Allah will never love
someone like that. Sometimes people say these really awful
things like oh, he you know, they're gonna go to *, they'll
say things about people go to *. Yeah, the biller, who are
you to ever say that to someone, you should never say that right?
So we have to be very careful. And then also that always bothers us
here know that those who mock people in this life will be mocked
in the Hereafter, for it is a divine law that God recompenses
people with the light of what they have done. So on the Day of
Judgment, a lot of the things that people do evil people do in this
world, they will have that same thing done to them in jahannam. So
this is why you want to be very careful how the blah from ever
doing anything that displeases Allah because he'll teach you a
very serious lesson. Yeah, the biller later down the line that
you don't want to learn. So may Allah protect us from all of these
diseases in sha Allah so that my dear, beloved children,
is the end of this presentation. So just to because we do have a
little bit of time. And someone I saw briefly asked about a summary.
Let's try to do what we can in the few minutes we might have to go a
little bit over parents so if you're able to please keep your
kids here for just maybe 10 minutes more after the hour
because I want to try to do a summary of this inshallah. Wow,
there are a lot of slides I I forgot how much effort this was.
But it was worth it. It was worth it for all of you. You came here
every single day and I truly truly appreciate that. So let's look
here we started with purification of the heart. This was the white
text of Imam Al mo lewd al Mahmoud and he is a Mauritanian scholar,
right. And then we have what do we have about him?
We have I mean, Sasha Hamza Yusuf is the one who is he the
translator of the text, right? So here we go. Is his biography. We
went over these details right. And then we talked about Sheikh Hamza
that he's the president and founder of zaytuna college right
here in the Bay Area remember him did he lamea make dua for both of
them do not forget email in mono do not forget you have Hamza Yusuf
you have to make the offer them if you enjoyed this class you should
make the offer them before you make the offer me if you're making
golf for me, I hope you are but you should make the offer them
before you make the offer me okay. And then we talked about why it's
so important to purify the heart because the Hadith, right, the
promises and told us there's a piece of flesh that lies in the
body, if it's sound, the entire body of sound, and if it's
corrupted, the whole body is corrupted. Verily, this piece is
the heart. So Subhanallah it's so important. This is the number one
thing that we are going to present to Allah on the Day of Judgment,
it takes so important that we focus our entire lives on keeping
this heart clean. So then we talked about the eight different
types of hearts. And we said that there are, there's a dead heart
right, which is here, then we have the hardened heart. And each heart
has its own problems. Okay, so its own qualities that we need to
understand how it happens, how they become this way, the Darkened
Heart, the blackened heart, the sealed heart, the locked heart,
the blind heart, and then finally, the sound heart, the Calvin
setting, this is the one that we want. So we did just describe the
qualities of these hearts. Then we went into comparing and
contrasting the effects of disease on a physical heart and the
effects of disease on a spiritual heart that it's very similar. It
hardens right in it
prevents the heart from working the way that it's that it was
designed to work. Same with spiritual diseases. So here are
the list of the 25 diseases that we have. We have miserliness
wantonness, hatred and equity love of the world envy blameworthy,
modesty blameworthy thoughts, fear of poverty, ostentatious and
relying on other than God displeasure with Divine Decree
seeking reputation false hope, negative thoughts, vanity fraud,
anger, heedlessness rancor boasting and arrogance displeasure
with blame antipathy toward death. obliviousness to blessings
derision Subhanallah all of these we went through and we're just
gonna again go through them we went through BookCon which is
miserliness. We talked about how it's related to the word Masek,
which is or comes from the word Messick, which is same from
constipation, because when you have broccoli, you're holding on
to something that actually harms you. Right. And we talked about
that we talked about butter, to have this unbridled feeling that
you just can't control yourself that makes you prideful and do
things in excess. Right, and the disease we talked about before
that having hatred, you know, again, of others, it makes you an
unjust persons, you have to be aware of hatred, right? Then we
moved on to iniquity, buddy, harming anything in creation
without justice, or just cause excuse me, you can't just go
around harming things or people, right? This is haram, there has to
be a reason. If you're protecting yourself, you're feeling in
danger. That's one thing, but just because you feel like it. No,
there's that's not an excuse. Right, we talked about love of the
world, but dunya the dangers of attaching yourself to this place
because it makes you distracted from the remembrance of Allah
subhanho wa taala, you'll start to do more sins, you'll fall into
sinful behavior, and then it will increase you in many of the other
diseases that we're talking about. Because Hubbard Dinya, according
to some of our scholars is the root of, of all diseases. Then we
talked about how again, all the prophecies and warned us that
towards the end of time, we'd be like the foam of the ocean, we
would be weak, there would be a lot of us, but we'd be weak. And
it's because of a dunya. It's because we're too preoccupied with
money, money, money, money, we want all the nicest things, we
want the cars, we want the homes, we want the jewelry, want the
delicious food, we want everything. It's like we're we
just want to consume eat money. And that's why the promises have
told us that the son of Adam, his mouth will never be full, truly
until he's in his grave. And it's the dirt of the grave that fills
his mouth. So here we see this character here, he's just stuffing
his face with money. Well, it's never going to be enough because
that's what happened, then he does. It's like an empty
bottomless pit. And this is, the other problem too, is that you
start daydreaming, you're not thinking about the stuff that
matters, right? You're not thinking about Allah or the
prophet or giving and going to the masjid and doing good works,
because all you're thinking about is what getting money and getting
things that you want, right. So the remembrance of death is how
you treat that. And then we talked about also the different
categories of, of love of the world, right. And then we talked
about hesed. And how, again, when you have her said, you have envy
for other people, you want them to lose whatever blessing they have.
We distinguish between jealousy and envy. Jealousy is having that
feeling of that there's something missing that you want, and that
you use, but it's not necessarily tied to a person. And B is where
you actually have someone that has that thing. And then you want them
to lose it. They're distinct, but they're very related as well. And
both of them you want to remember death. And this is a good way to
get rid of it. We also distinguish between healthy envy, right? When
you're competing with other someone else for the sake of the
pleasure of Allah, this is called the data. And this can be done
primarily in two ways, which is when you see someone of wealth,
and you want to have increased wealth, because you want to do
good works with that wealth and wisdom. If someone has knowledge,
you want the same knowledge because you want to also be able
to teach so in these two cases is perfectly fine to have. Now we
moved on and we talked about the rest of these diseases here which
we'll get into blameworthy modesty right. This is when you're you
lack courage and you don't speak up when you should you don't ask
questions when you should and it can stand in the way of you being
a person of justice, right? You you actually may turn away when
you see a situation that needs justice and needs your attention
because you you don't have a balance. You're You're You're
thinking too much about maybe your image or other people, you're not
thinking about doing the right thing. Okay. So then we talked
about our thoughts, right, and how to control our thoughts that we
have anywhere from up to 60,000 some say, you know, even more than
that thoughts a day 80% of our thoughts are our negative 95% are
actually repetitive and so we have to be very, you know, control the
flow of our thoughts, right, and make sure that if we have
blameworthy thoughts, that we know that those are from shaitana. We
should not entertain them as well.
thoughts about the nature of Allah subhanaw taala, we can never know
him beyond what he's already revealed to us through the 99
names through his book, but trying to imagine him is just all for me
bliss, we don't do that. And then thinking bad thoughts about other
people, right, just assuming the worst like we talked about
earlier. So and then, when you think about bad people, in the
absence of any evidence, just your own thoughts and minds and
suspicions, it leads you to having this disease of the heart
blameworthy thoughts. Fear of poverty is similar or kind of tied
to Hubbard Vineya. You just want one one, it's insatiable. You
can't let go of your wealth when you should, which is also similar
to miserliness. So it really contributes to a lot of other
diseases growing from this idea that oh my gosh, I'm not going to
have enough, I'm not going to have enough, right. And so you're all
you're doing, again, is you're thinking about money, which makes
you
compromise your principles and your religious values. So you
start to, you know, forget all the things that you're supposed to do
to with Allah subhanaw That for Allah spot, that that your worship
of Him, but also for your family, because your mind and eyes, all I
can see is money, money, money, money, money, okay? And so you
want to be very careful from that. And then also the importance of
charity. This is how we protect our hearts from it, because we
know that we our wealth never diminishes when we give for the
sake of us processes, how we increase our reliance on Allah and
remove this disease of the heart.
We talked about also, yes, just this that was the point about
charity, cleansing your wealth, then we moved into the next
diseases of the heart which are ostentation of, yeah, this is when
you show off, and you're getting trying to get attention from
people for the deeds that you're doing. And these could be
religious deeds, or otherwise, you just like the attention you want
people to, you know, see you and you're not doing it for the sake
of Allah subhanaw taala anymore. This is called what the miner
shed, we want to be very careful from this because you are either
associating partners with Allah, which is the worst of all things
that we could possibly do is to say, Allah has partners, when when
you start to do things for people and not just Allah, that's in a
way what you're doing, you're putting those people as if they're
the same as a lot in terms of your importance, you want to be very,
you know, in terms of the way you're prioritizing them. So you
want to be very careful never to to fall into this very, very
dangerous thing. We also talked about how sneaky it is, that it
can creep into the heart the same way that a black hand on a black
rock and on a dark night can undetected unknown and it's very
subtle. So it's something that you have to always check your
intentions always ask yourself why am I doing this? Is it for the
sake of being seen and having titles and oh, you know, people
praising me and complimenting and making me feel special? Or is it
$1 Right?
And then we talked about having trust in any other than Allah
subhanaw taala right, it's relevant Allah. This is when we
try to call on other people and we don't put our trust in Allah
rather, we never beg for example, begging is considered
reprehensible it's not a good thing to do we turn to Allah. And
then of course, if we need really help, you know, assistance with
something we can look to our masjid or our you know, there's
sometimes different organizations in our community that offer
services to people that's different than begging begging is
going and making people feel uncomfortable and asking them to
you know, to put themselves in a burden for your sake which is why
the process that um said that it is better for you to hold on let
me get here
where's that hadith Did I skip it already? I think it's on the
previous one sorry. Yeah, that you
know, there's a hadith about selling would I miss it?
I think I missed it. I don't want to misquote it but there is a
Hadith that says the process and said that it's better for you to
resell would you know collect gather firewood and sell it then
to go in and beg people okay, so I don't know where they're headed
disappeared? I thought it was in here. But that's okay. Mashallah.
So here are the answers for
for that for relying on other than God, then we moved on to
displeasure with the Divine Decree some of the other this is when you
can, you know, why me? Why did this have to happen to me
something happens, something breaks, something falls, you can't
get into maybe a class or some program that you wanted to go to
or a trip that he falls through, maybe you had a vacation planned,
and then it doesn't happen. Why, why, why why whatever it is that
you're, you know, upset about and you're denying the color of Allah,
this is a disease of the heart. And so we talked about that. And
then we moved on to seeking reputation. So Matt, which is
similar to us annotation, right, you want people to hear about all
of your good works, not necessarily they don't have to see
you but you want reputation, you want people to know what you're
doing. So you kind of throw in, you know, things here and there.
Because ultimately it's like you're you're chasing fame, right?
You're you're chasing that carrot right on a stick. And so we talked
about that and then the dangers of it. Right? Very similar to the
then we went into false hopes, negative thoughts and
Anybody so total AMA, this is where you think you have all the
time in the world and you can do whatever you want. And you're not
really thinking about the, you know, the fact that life is
unpredictable and a lot can take you at any time. And when you do
that, and you have too much hope, then you become what heedless area
careless with your worship of Allah because you keep
procrastinating everything Oh, I'll do it later. I'll do it
later. I'll do it later. This is a dangerous way. My mother said
people are asleep when they die, they wake up. So you have we have
to wake up before we die. Right. And that's, we can't have false
hopes when we do that. So remembrance of death is important
negative thoughts to advantages when you just again think badly of
people for no reason. It's haram. And the tongue is, you know, every
day our limbs wake up in the morning. And it admonishes the
tongue. Because it says fear Allah, for our sake, we're with
you. But we're going to be rewarded or punished based on what
you make us do. So if you're straight, we'll be straight if
you're cricketer will be cricket. So the tongue is, you know, very
dangerous. And we have to be very careful with what we say because
negative thoughts leads to negative speech. That's why we're
mentioning this, you can't just have a negative thought about
someone and keep it inside of you. You usually almost always want to
share it with someone else. And you see what so and so did, can
you believe them? Oh my god, I can't stand this person. And now
you've committed to libre, which is why it's so dangerous. Okay.
Then we talked about, this is our job right? Vanity where you think
you're so amazing, and you can't help but just stare at yourself
all day and praise yourself. And you're taking selfies and it's
like, Oh, look how cute I am. And then you want attention. You keep
posting those images, because you want people to look at you and
just want to be like you this is all a job. It's vanity. And you're
basically self obsessed.
Then we have
we talked about, again, how the promises are warned us about
because our job and arrogance are tied. They're connected, right?
The word is about these diseases, right. And so there's a lot of
things we covered this in today's classes while you can go back and
look. And then we went into fraud, anger and heedlessness, this was
on last Thursday, we talked about race, which is fraud where you're
trying to trick people into something that they're not fully
aware of just to get something out of them some material gain,
whether it's money, or a job or an opportunity, but you're trying to
use trickery in order to do that this is completely haram. Right?
We talked about the story of the prophesy cinnamon the food, right.
And then we talked about a flood of anger and how anger for other
than the second the last part that is can be easily, you know, can
cause harm and it can lead someone to lose their quality control. So
we have to restrain anger many, many Hadith to talk about that
letaba. Right. And then we said that the scholars have used this
analogy that it's kind of like that hunting dog, you have to
command it, you can't just go wild on its own, it's not going to help
you it's not going to do what it's supposed to do. Anger has a
purpose, it has a utility. So you have to rein it in and then keep
it on that leash until you need it again, but it shouldn't control
you okay, then we talked more about how what to do if you're
angry right the process is advice when you're angry if you're
standing sit down if you're sitting down recline, make will do
pray that coolness from will do calms the fires of you know anger.
And then of course the ultimate administrate the energy because
they ship on and shouting will run from you know, we talked about how
once the problem was and saw a man he actually looked like you know
his face got red and kind of like shaytaan and the process and told
him again I have a word if spoken it will remove this anger from him
all the bIllahi min ash shaytaan regime. So then we talked about
farflung right and how people become heedless and forgetful of
Allah and the dangers of that. And how that happens is because they
again, no right and wrong, but their love for the dunya makes
them completely turn away and the process have told us that the
danger of being a not in the remembrance of Allah versus being
in the remembrance of Allah is the comparison of some one that has
life and someone that's died or something that has life and
something that's died. And here's that image for you to see the
comparison and contrast the contrast
and the heedlessness is treated by remembrance of death All right,
and then knowing that your prayers are not answered if you're
heedless, right. So if you have any desires or wishes in this
world, you're not going to get them if you behave heedlessly.
Then Today we covered all of these rancor right we talked about all
this so I don't need to review for HUD and kibin. We talked about
kind of both of them. We talked about the cattle mode and then we
ended on our Luciana Naira and then we ended on has Okay, so I'll
have to do that. That was your quick super fast review. For
whoever asked for that. I hope that was helpful to you.
Inshallah, let's see. I know some of you might have to go I don't
want to keep you but I do want to see if there's any questions you
guys and I want to thank you again I will try to see if there's any
questions but I want to thank you again for being such a engaging
and awesome audience. Well Llahi You made my Ramadan very special.
It was a lot of work to put all this together. But like I said,
you were so warm.
are fed because every day when I would work on this, I would
imagine the sort of excitement that we would have in our q&a is
when you guys would be rushing to answer it was so cute to witness
that and all of your amazing questions and insights that you've
had throughout the seven sessions have meant a great deal to me. I
really, really thank you from the bottom of my heart for spending
your Tuesdays and Thursdays with me or if you're watching them on
at other times, whatever time you're giving to this, thank you.
It truly truly means a great deal. Now let me see if there's any
questions inshallah and any comments from you, because I'd
love to hear from you guys to anything that you think we can do
better next time. This is the first time I'm doing this on this
format for youth. Usually, I've taught it a couple of times now
and it's, you know, weekly sessions lower slower paced
certainly, but yeah, let me know if there's anything else here so I
don't think I have any questions
Yeah, I don't see anything here or maybe I'm just not
did it all thank you so very sweet and hamdulillah so the cure for
displeasure with blame? Did I not go over that? You know, is you
have to humble yourself and know that Allah, whatever blessings you
have a look in, you know, remove that for you, but also to know
that you're, you're, you know, it's You should be grateful when
people correct you, they're doing you a favor because they're
getting you close to Allah subhanho data. So to just humble
yourself and to know that we're all works in progress, right. But
to be appreciative that when someone corrects you, that it's a
good thing and to thank them for it.
All right. So have we stayed over a little bit let's see these
comments. You guys are sweet. Thank you so much for the service
to you right here. Thank you for this class. Oh, you're so sweet.
Just like your Lafayette and what a nice compliment Mashallah. Thank
you, man, amen Masha Allah thank you you guys really appreciate it.
Thank you Captain I'm so I'm so curious about who captain is
because your name the others I know who they are. Their names are
a little clearer but I'm very curious Captain who's your who are
your parents? Do I know your parents? Let me know who they are.
Alina Okay sweetheart, Alina. Well, I hope I can see you and
meet you Alina one day. Inshallah But thank you all for your very
kind comments just like well okay then keep us in your door. Okay.
Okay, well so give give your mother My Munna my salaam
Inshallah, please, but keep me and my family and your dogs and I hope
you guys have an amazing rest of your month. Remember tonight is a
very very special night. Very special. So make sure your dogs
are strong and if you haven't written them out yet, you should
maybe write your dogs okay because tonight is a powerful night in sha
Allah all the nights of Ramadan are powerful, but there's
something special Of course we know about the 27th So write your
thoughts out you know and really think about it's kind of like what
we talked about that gratitude, right? So inshallah I really hope
to again, see you all in the near future in better circumstances,
hopefully then, on lockdown to Xochimilco Hayden, please make dua
for all of the MCC staff, especially our dear brother Munir
who's going through a challenge right now in his personal life
make dua for him and his family that almost father brings them all
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Okay, she's been here every week staying even though she has a full
time job and she has to work and she's got meetings, and she
probably does not want to be on a computer all day long. But she has
facilitated and made this class possible. I think sister Herrera
so much for her time. May Allah bless her and all of the people
that MCC who make these programs possible and all of you again and
your families may Allah reward all of you just like Milan caramel and
in the US from Hanukkah Lahoma behind the concetto and La ilaha
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Radek, I'd say that at one Mowlana we're happy with them Hamad sola
Allahu Allah He was selling while it was sad to sell in the Sleeman
Kathira Bismillahirrahmanirrahim when I served in in Santa Fe
hostel Illa Levina Avenue, I'm going to Saudi head to toe so
we'll happy with the rest of the sabalan handy there. Aloma
Boliviana Leila de cada inshallah yes make that die oh Allah please.
Let us experience Leila to other inshallah inshallah me I just like
Allah Haider And Alhamdulillah Salam aleikum, everybody