Hosai Mojaddidi – Session 6 Purification of the Heart for Muslim Teenagers
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The heart is the fruit of the mind and it's important to avoid anger and let anger out of oneself. It's also important to purify one's wealth and avoid fraud. A famous question about a Muslim's murder of hundreds of people is also discussed. The story describes a man who wants to become a better person and is a believer. The conversation touches on the importance of avoiding anger and letting it flow without it.
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Bigger. Okay Al Hamdulillah Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim Al
hamdu lillah wa salatu salam ala shrivel. MBI you will mursaleen
say that I want to learn or have you been on Muhammad sallallahu
alayhi wa Salam wa he also He also emphasized him and get here and
thank you everybody for your patience. I am sorry for being a
little late today. I actually was recording another class that went
over a few minutes and so I quickly messaged sister Homero she
messaged me actually, and I let her know that I'll be a little
late. So I appreciate your patience.
I want to get started with as we have been doing a little bit of a
review. So let's talk about some of the diseases that we covered
last week inshallah. Okay, so let me actually open up the chat box,
make sure you guys are all listening and paying attention
inshallah. Okay. Oh, you guys are so sweet with your comments. Thank
you. So the first disease I'm going to ask you about Okay. This
is when you
when you think things that aren't necessarily true. And one of the
Hadith that were taught about this is that the tongue will wake up
every morning and tell the body to fear Allah. What disease of the
heart did we learn that talks about negative thoughts and you
know, this ability of the tongue to take you into that direction?
Okay, there we go. Mashallah. So we got a Fanon and beloved Very
good. Both of you have Nana Beulah message pretty much the same time
with the correct answer. So negative thoughts, I kind of gave
it away in my, I subtly put that in there to CBN to paying
attention. But you answered before that anyway, so negative thoughts
is a disease of the heart and this is called, so others are so
advanced, okay. So when you have basically there's no evidence,
there's no proof whatsoever, you just have a bad idea of someone,
right? So that is called to adven. And okay, so great. I'm glad you
guys are on it. Now.
This disease of the heart, and has to do with let's see, I'm going to
try to keep it a little not so predictable, because I see some of
you think you're already putting in answers before I ask. So that
tells me you think I'm too predictable, which I probably have
been but Okay, so let me see here for this Okay, let's see this. Now
I'm gonna get you this when we talked about this hadith we
related a hadith or a saying I should say a quote by Imam Ali, or
the law and and he said that people are asleep. And when they
die, they wake up, which disease of the heart related to that, to
that quote.
Awesome, mashallah, Zoya and Danya. You guys got it right away.
Great job. false hopes total AMA, okay. So thinking that you're
going to live forever, right? That's the problem with it's a
disease of the heart. If you think that you're going to live forever.
It makes you careless and heedless, which we're going to
talk about today, in this world, and it's kind of like you're
walking around asleep, you're not really awake to the world, right?
You're, you're in a dreamlike state because you're not paying
attention to what's really going on in front of you. So very good.
Awesome, you guys. Okay, now this disease of the heart
had to do with suspicion and not being suspicious of people right.
having thoughts about people for no reason, right, just thinking or
wanting to
look into prying right prying behavior being suspicious. You're
trying to find out information about people with really no
reason. So let's see who got this. Very good. So right here,
excellent, negative thoughts. I went back to the same one. I'm not
gonna be predictable you guys.
Okay, good job. You got it. So you might get a question or multiple
questions on the same disease. Okay. So this disease of the heart
has to do the prophesy centum taught us that it's very much
related to Quebec. Okay. So this disease is related to Quebec, and
which we'll talk about soon but it robs us and taught us that no one
has the weight of a seed of of this particular quality in their
heart will enter paradise. What is it? Okay, very good. So, amen. And
if man you gave us the English which is vanity, very good. And
beloved also gave us English but Lala haidara She came with both
answers. So great job, vanity and our job okay, so, anytime you're
vain, right being vain and
is being consumed with self adoration. Adoration is like you
admire yourself, you adore yourself, you love yourself.
That's vanity. And so it's really about the individual and themself,
and you're not giving Allah subhanaw taala. any credit for
anything, you're just Oh, I love myself, I'm so smart, I'm so
talented. I'm such a good basketball player, I'm such a good
tennis player, or I can play the piano or I dress so nicely, I have
such nice hair. So you're just constantly very focused on all of
your qualities, but you don't give credit to Allah subhanaw taala. So
that is a joke. And then Kibet, which is what the Arabic word for
one of the diseases of the heart, which we're going to talk about
next week, is arrogance, right. And arrogance is, is requires. So
it's different in that it requires other people. So a vain person is
just very consumed with their own feelings of importance. But an
arrogant person is not only vain, but they also look down on other
people. So that's the way that you tell the difference. That vanity
doesn't require people, arrogance does, but they both can sometimes
affect each other or one can certainly lead to the other. If
you are vain, and you keep you know, increasing and argiope
you're likely going to develop arrogance, right? Where you start
to look down on people and so that's why we talked about that
hadith. Very good. Okay, and so another question and this will be
the last one and then we'll continue.
Let's see here.
This man
may give you a good one, one that is not so predictable.
Okay, so the problem is I said, and we talked about a hadith here,
where, where he taught us that He who believes in Allah and the Last
Day must either speak good or remain silent. Which disease of
the heart was that about? Which disease of the heart did recover
when we talked about that?
Anybody know? Very good. Okay, awesome. So I sound came with the
answers to avoid negative thoughts. Yes, to have negative
thoughts. Remember, the danger of it is that it often leads to false
speech or wrong speech. And so that's why we related this hadith
is because usually, you can't keep negative thoughts to yourself. So
it actually is dangerous in and of itself as a disease but it also
leads to other diseases like gossiping and backbiting and
speaking ill of people. So that's why this hadith is remind it's a
reminder for us that whoever believes in Allah in the last day
if you're a Muslim, but just speak good, don't speak ill of people.
So it stops the negative thoughts from from leading into even worse.
Okay, very good. All right. So let's go ahead and pull up the
presentation. One second, I just needed to do something. Alright.
So get your if you have notes, if you're taking notes, I don't know
if you are but this is the time to get it because we have a new
presentation. And let me get that ready.
So we are on week 33, Thursday, and here we go. screenshare boom,
share, and present. Okay, here we go. Alright, so you guys ready?
So today, as we talked about last on Tuesday, I told you guys we're
going to cover these diseases this week. So we already covered the
first three false hope negative thoughts and vanity. And now we
are going to cover the next three fraud Lish anger vada
heedlessness? Lafleur. So we got the GS today. Okay, today is the
day of the G diseases Okay, for Arabic anyway or hi not G I should
say. So hiring diseases, okay. And we'll talk about what each of
these are. Let's go ahead and get started. So the first one, fraud
fish, this is a huge one, okay, huge, because a lot of people when
they, you know, think about, you know, making money or just getting
ahead in life, they shaytaan will come into their hearts and tell
them, you know, to do things that are not right, just because the
greed or the desire for that thing just overtakes their heart. And
this is the problem with fraud is that it leads people to do things
that are haram. For example, if you're let's say you're selling
something, right. And some of you may know, for example, there's a
website called Craigslist, okay, and now we have a lot more
websites, but this is just a popular website, okay, that a lot
of adults use to sell things that they don't want. So they may sell
like junk, you know, but it's the way that they take the picture or
describe that
thing, let's say it's a piece of furniture, okay, let's say it's a
couch. And a person will take the nicest picture filters, you know,
make it look super amazing. And they'll take the front of that
couch and it looks like a decent couch. And they set the price. And
now you have all these people going, Oh, that sounds nice. Okay,
I'm interested. And, and someone may even come and say, I'm going
to pick it up. And then that person if they're if they have a
hunch, what they'll do is they'll do a few things. Okay, first of
all, they're hiding the problems in the couch, which may be the
back of the couch, maybe there's marks that they've painted over
with with paint, or there's gashes, you know, sometimes,
couches if they're leather or fabric, they can have you can, you
know, things can happen and they get cuts. So this person may have
completely hidden all of those things. And what they'll do is if
they're really crafty, they'll say, You know what, pickup time
you can only come at nighttime, okay? Come at like, after the
sunset, and the, the buyer has no idea why right? The buyers like,
Okay, if that's the only time that works for you, that's fine. So
they go and they go, and at nighttime, they're dragging this
big couch, from the garage or wherever, onto the car. So they're
not even able to properly inspect the couch, right? This happens a
lot. And then they they make the money transfer, they give the
cash, and now they go home and they go on their couch, and
they're thinking it's gonna look just like that picture. Right? It
had it looked really nice and comfortable. But they suddenly
sink in the couch, couch, and all of a sudden, the cushions
collapse, right? The cushions go down and there's all these you
know, maybe noises. And then they were what what's up with this
couch, it's not even comfortable. And then they go around the back
or they turn it flip it upside down. And all of a sudden, there's
all these holes and problems and maybe even, you know, cobwebs, God
knows it's might be just like I said, a piece of junk that this
person took so much time to present something that it wasn't.
So I just you know, that's a piece of furniture. But people can do
this to a lot of things like a car, or even a house. There's
people who scam right this word scam you should know to be scammed
is to trick someone to have someone sell you something that is
not real or not true or not as good as they're making it seem. So
there's a lot of scammers that will scam people out of big
purchase things right? cars, homes, jewelry, so you'll go to
the jeweler and it'll this has actually happened before which is
very, you have to be very careful if you if you ever get jewelry or
like you know, especially gemstones or certain stones, to be
careful who you take that jewelry to to clean it. If it's a real
diamond, for example, there are some jewelers who are known to do
this, they will take your ring and go, Oh, I'll clean it, but my
tools are in the back, right. And you're just standing around
waiting for them to bring you your diamond all polished and nice and
shiny. But they're thieves, they know exactly how to remove that
diamond really well. And then they'll go in the back and they'll
replace it with like a totally different false, you know, stone,
cubic zirconium, there's all these different stones that can be
mistaken for a real diamond. And if you don't have a jewelers eye
or a tool, I forgot what they're called to to actually look at the
diamond, you would have no idea that that was not your diamond
because it looks just the same. And it fits perfectly into the
ring or the necklace or whatever it was earrings. So there are
people who do things like that they trick they scam, they steal,
and they justify it because they're greedy, and they have
desires for material things that take over them. So you have to be
very careful. And that's why, you know, almost patent awards people
woe to those who give less than what to do. So this is a perfect
example of someone who has a leash. So if you go and, you know,
in many world markets, and even in some markets here, like if you've
been to sprouts, right? They have those scales that you can go and
weigh your, like if you want to get certain treats or even beans
and rice, you can weigh the item, right? And then you you you go and
purchase it well in other places, they have scales and have similar
things, but they might not give you the full weight of what you
paid for. Or they'll might take some off or they might not give
you the best quality of what you want. And they justify this
because it's like, oh, I don't want my you know, food to go bad.
I have to sell it. So it's old. Let's say it's like meat or it's
something that's been sitting out for a couple of days. They will
mix stuff, good stuff, bad stuff with the good stuff and you don't
know what to
You get home. And then you take out let's say it's like a bag of
fruits, right? And you take it out and you're like, What the Why are
all these rotten fruits in here? How did this happen? Well, that
seller, they tricked you, right? So this is a perfect example of a
wish, but almost found that as a warning, never to do that there's
no justification to trick people. It's haram, you cannot do that.
And so there's actually a very famous Hadith where the prophets I
sent him was once passing by a pile of food. And he put his hand
into it, and his fingers touch something. So he was in a market,
you know, and he, he saw some food, and he put his hands into
it. And he asked the person, he said, What is this? And the man
said, it got rained on because he the process of touched is the wet
part, right? And so when he touched the web part, he was
wondering why the seller, you know why it was there in the first
place? Well, it was this wet thing. And the seller said that,
oh, well, rain got on it.
And he said, Why didn't you put that wet part on top of the pile,
so that the people could see it? Right, because if you see food
that is dried from the top, but then the middle of it is spoiled
or wet, you probably would not want to get the middle of it. But
if you're just scooping it up quickly, and you're not paying
attention, it looks like all of it is dry. Right? So he's telling the
man, why didn't you do that? And then he tells them very clearly a
warning. He who deceives does not belong to me. And then another
report is he who deceives is not one of us, or he is not one of us
who deceives all of them are saying the same thing, which is if
you trick people to deceive people is to lie to trick people. You are
not counted as part of the OMA of the province. I said I'm he's
telling you, you're not in my alma, you're not part of me,
you're not part of my disbelief, this faith of Islam. clear
warning, we as Muslims do not trick people. It's haram. Okay,
such an important disease of the heart. And we should ask Allah to
free us from it. Because shaitan can make someone justify this,
especially if they're desperate for money, you really need
something, you might think, oh, man, it's okay. They don't need to
know that, you know, this phone, let's say you you're trying to
sell your phone or your computer, that it has all these problems,
and that there's a virus on it and that, you know, it's missing a
button. I'm just going to sell it anyway. You know, don't do that.
You can never do that. You have to tell people, everything that's
wrong with the item upfront, and if they still want to buy it
that's on them, but you trying to deceive them into buying it is
totally forbidden. Okay.
All right. So the treatment for a wish is to realize that the last
part is all knowing and all seeing and every single thing that we do,
we're going to be held accountable for and nothing that you get no
money, no food from fraud is worth it, it actually is haram, it's
gonna cause you harm, okay? Anything that you get, that's that
you get from a haram source or because you did something haram,
there's no Baraka in it. And I can actually cause problems for you,
you could, if you bought food, with that money that you just
cheated someone out of, it can make you sick, there's so many
problems that could come from that money or whatever you got from
this transaction. So that's why there's no barakah in it
whatsoever, and there's no point to do it, you actually could
invite harm on yourself, even if you think, Oh, I'm gonna make so
much money and I'll do good with it part of it. No, the fact that
you got it too, by tricking another person, all of it is
ruined, okay, so you don't want to ever justify that kind of stuff.
And then also remember that the words of the promise lies and, um,
that, you know, to, for him to say that you're not from among us or
from me, is such a clear warning all the biller that we would not
even be considered a Muslim, if we do something like this. So you
want to say is it ever worth it? You know, even if I'm going to
make some quick money, and I really want to get something else,
or in or I think that, Oh, it's okay, there. This person doesn't
need to know everything. These are all the whisperings of shaytaan he
wants you to do something wrong. And then he wants you to be, you
know, hurt by that thing. So, we have to ask all those find that
for protection, but that's the first disease. It's a finish.
Okay. All right. So the next disease, this is a big one. Okay,
a lot of anger. We all know what anger is. Even young children can
get angry, right? Anger is a human emotion. And it's something that
can be easily triggered based on a lot of things. Sometimes we get
hangry for example, if you're fasting and the more
Ramadan, and you've ever just gotten annoyed or short tempered,
because of for really no reason, it's likely because you're hangry,
you're hungry, and you're angry at the same time. So anger can come
from that, or it can come from someone provoking you to provoke
someone has to, you know, push their buttons to get them annoyed
to be a pest, and you're just trying to make them angry, right?
So there's a lot of things that can make us angry. But when we,
when anger is a problem, it's when it's for other than the sake of
Allah subhanaw taala. Because there's good anger, which is
necessary, right? There's anger when someone is doing something
wrong. And it's a clear, you know, wrong action and an injustice
towards a person or a group of people. You we should that should
anger us for the sake of Allah, we should not look at that as
something light. And then that makes us call I mean, it makes us
act, right. So when you see someone, let's say, being bullied
in front of you, and you know that it's wrong, if your response is
anger for the sake of Allah, then you go in there, and you try to
stop the injustice. Right? So that's a form of healthy anger
anytime, or anger towards things that are haram, right? Like, for
example, the existence of certain things in the world should anger
us, like alcohol, alcohol, there's no benefit to it whatsoever, it
destroys lives. So many people, innocent people have died from
alcohol. So the fact that alcohol exists, and that people drink it,
and that it's in restaurants, and it's in stores, that should anger
us, when we walk down the aisle of a grocery store, and we see
bottles and bottles of disgusting alcohol, it should fill our hearts
with anger for the sake of Allah, you know, not anger, where you're
just letting your emotions out. But just like stuffing Allah, why
are people doing this, this is so bad for you, and it ruins you
know, people's lives. So anger is something again, that when it's
for the sake of Allah, it's healthy. But if it's for other
things that are not tied to the sake of Allah, and it gets out of
control, and you start to not just the experience anger, but you
become anger, that that's all you are, you lose your your, your
sense of calm, you don't know how to you don't have a Deb, you start
to maybe say very hurtful things, abusive things, or you start to
get physical, right? There's people who, when they get really
angry, they lose so much control, that they may physically react,
and that could be hitting something or someone pushing
something, throwing something, breaking something. So all of
those are examples of when anger is out of control. And it can be
very dangerous, right? And so Allah Subhan Allah and the Prophet
has said them throughout the Quran, and the Hadith, we have
warnings about those who are quick to anger and that lead, forget
themselves and that they completely get overtaken by anger.
So ALLAH SubhanA, Allah describes, he says, Those who spend in the
Cause of Allah, during ease and hardship, and who restrain anger,
and who pardon people who forgive people, and Allah loves the doers
of good. So he's describing for us who the doers of good are, the
people who do good are the ones who restrain their anger, who
forgive people and who spend, you know, for the sake of Allah,
whether they have ease or hardship. So these are all great
qualities that people should have, especially restraining your anger.
Another two Hadith that are really important to know, a man wants to
ask the prophets I sent him What was the worst thing that one
incurs concerning God? What that means is, you know, what is the
worst thing that could happen to someone to make a lot upset,
right? And the end point or what could What's the worst thing that
someone could receive from a lot? And the prophesies of them said
his wrath? And his wrath? You know, of course is is his
chastisement his punishment, right? So the man asked, How can
we avoid it? I don't want ever to see the Wrath of Allah, I don't
want to ever be punished by Allah. And he said, Do not become angry.
So he's telling us that if you don't want to see Allah's anger
and wrath, do not become angry, as as you know, people where you're
just walking around, always mad, and you're pushing people and
hurting people, and just being cruel because that's what angry
people do. They start to just be very careful.
us and just hurt people, right? So he's telling us clearly don't
become angry. Then we have another man he came and asked the prophets
I said, give me advice. And so he's asking the prophet like he in
remember, the prophet isn't could say anything, anything to this
man, the man just said, give me advice. But the first thing the
process of them said is do not become angry. So the man's like,
okay, and he, you know, he hears it. And then he says,
Well, what's next, right? Because he's kind of like, okay, I got
that don't be angry. So he asks again, and the problem was some
replies, again, do not become angry. And then he asked a third
time, and again, the proposition says, Do not be become angry. So
this is huge, because the problem is really trying to get a message
across that if you want good advice, the best advice, this is
the advice to live by do not become anger, such that all people
see is your rage, and you lose control. Because that control that
you lose can lead to a lot of harm. People have died because
someone's lost their control. You know, this happens all the time in
this world, where someone lost their control their anger, got the
best of them. And then they they killed, right because of that. And
so there's so many stories throughout, you know, the theater
of that happening as well. And even the the story of the sons of
Adam, you know, happy little cubby, if you study the story of
the sons of Adam, that, you know, Kabil is the one who killed his
brother out of anger and jealousy. So this is very powerful reminders
for us that human nature, if we don't control these emotions, a
lot of damage can be done, right. So you always want to think about
not losing yourself to anger. There's nothing wrong with having
anger as an emotion because it's a human emotion. But it should
always be for the sake of Allah in sha Allah. Okay, so let's look
more at this because this is certainly not over. One of the
scholars or scholars have said that that anger is similar to a
hunting dog. Okay. So if you look at this picture here, here's a man
and he has, I believe it's a hawk, maybe it's a bird of prey. I don't
know exactly what maybe it's a I don't know, my son's might know,
but it's a hawk or some bird. And then you have these three dogs.
And if you see, what is the man doing, he is holding them all by a
leash, he is restraining those dogs, those dogs moved by his
command, when he tells them to go, they go, when he releases the
leash. They, they they go, and when he tells them to come back,
they come back, that's the relationship that a man a hunter
has with his dogs, or his animals that hunt or for him, they're
trained, they know exactly when to act and when to stop back, right,
step back. So anger, the scholar said, is like having a hunting
dog, right? Without training. And if you have a dog that can hunt,
but there's no training, it's never gonna go and get what you
needed to get. And it's not going to point you in the right
direction. So it's of no benefit to you, the dog that is trained
will benefit you when you hunt. And you let's say, you know, your
there are people who hunt for food, you know, they don't have
grocery stores like we do, they actually have to go outside, and
you know, bow and arrow or gun or whatever they're using, they hunt
for their food. And what they do is
they rely on animals to go and capture the food, right, these
sharp, they have sharp eyes, right? These birds of prey, the
Falcon, the hawk, whatever it is, it will be able to the eagle, it
will be able to, you know, basically fly around the area of
where that animal was, was hunted. So if a man you know uses his bow
and arrow or a gun, and he shoots down an animal, from a far
distance, this hawk or this bird will be able to let the dogs know
where to go. Right. So they all work in this amazing, you know,
sort of synchronicity together. But the dog is important because
he's the one or she's the one if it's a female dog that is gonna go
and get the animal that you just hunted, and then bring it back to
the hunter. But if that dog isn't trained, it will have no idea what
to do. It's gonna go running around all over the place.
And playing a game of fetch, and you're standing there going,
that's my dinner, can you please go get the animal I just hunted if
you're really, this is your lifestyle, right? So you need a
trained animal. So anger in a similar way, it's only useful if
you have control over it and you've trained it, it's actually
harmful and doesn't benefit you, if you don't train it. So it's so
important, what a great analogy that our scholars gave us. So
Inshallah, think about this next time you get angry, is your
hunting dog out of control? And is it benefiting you at all, if it's,
if you can't call it back, because if you can control your anger,
similarly, like blowing a whistle, or maybe calling the name of your
animal, it will come back to you. But if you have no control, and
that animal doesn't answer to your call, then that's what anger can
become if it's not checked. Okay? So really important disease of the
heart to understand. Now, there's a few different cures, okay? Or
ways to, to treat this. So, first and foremost, Imam Al Mohler. He
talks about this in the book, but also other scholars have talked
about this is to remember that extensive praise and goodness
associated. Oh, wait, did I cut and paste the wrong thing? Hold
on. Oh, sorry.
Oh, yeah, I'm sorry. No, no, I read it totally wrong. I
apologize. Okay. So the first cure is to remember that there's a lot
of praise associated with being a forbearing person. And having
humility, to be forbearing is to be patient, that you're able to,
you know, not give into those emotions and just have a really
stable presence. So we know that there's so much praise for that.
So remember, it's really good to have those qualities. And then
see the ultimate zoetrope, which is another very famous scholar
said, that the main reason that people get angry is because
they're filled with themselves, their egos get in the way. So our
egos are knifes, when it is very, you know, too strong, it gets in
our way, right? So we have to just kind of let go not allow that
every word someone says to us, or everything that they do that may
bother us, that it pushes our buttons, and then it makes us
triggered, right? That we suddenly feel all these, this anger towards
them. Because people are, that's just life, you know, this world is
full of a lot of people, we have a billion people and some people
you're gonna get along with, and some people you're not going to
get along with, right? And so some people are going to make you
happy, some people are going to make you mad and angry, but you
have to be in control of your emotions and not just, you know,
go this way or that way. You have to say no, unless it's for the
sake of Allah, I'm not gonna just let people constantly make me
angry, I need to use my own brain, right. So very important. Now, the
next cue that email Mahmoud recommends, is recognizing that
nothing takes place without Allah's permission, there is no
power or might accept with Allah. So remember that and to also
remember, right? So that everything, what that means is
that everything that happens is because Allah allowed it to
happen. And so if you're being tested in a moment where someone
or something is upsetting you, it's an opportunity for you to be
the best form of yourself, right? And so look at it as a test from
Allah. And instead of focusing on the individual, or the person
who's bothering you look at it like Why did Allah put me in this
situation in the first place? What am I supposed to learn from this
lesson, and then you act right? And so and he also shared that,
remember that there, whatever we do in this world, Allah will also
do that to us. So this is called reciprocity. If we are people that
are walking around angry, and not nice to people and you know, have
that Allah will show us the same, He will show us his anger. So we
have to be very careful. We don't ever ever, ever, ever want to see
the anger of Allah subhanaw taala. So we should not be as the
professor warned us in the Hadith before, we should not be people
who are angry and who are so that we don't get Allah's wrath. Right.
So these are just some of the things to think about. There's a
few other things that we can do. So we're taught that lesson taught
us that when we are angry, of course, there are certain things
that we can do in the moment, right? And in the moment we should
learn how to respond. So the Bible says and taught us that if we're,
you know, angry, and we're standing up, we should sit down
okay.
So sit down immediately, because just by changing your position can
sometimes change your mood, right, you can be a little bit more
relaxed. Plus, if you think about it, when someone is angry, and
they're standing up, it makes them feel very powerful, because you're
big, you're puffing yourself up. And sometimes you're, you know,
standing a little taller and looking a little bit more
aggressive. You know, when you're, when you're, say, talking to the
other person who's upsetting you, you might even go closer to them
to look more scary and intimidating. Or maybe even if you
lose your control completely, you'll you'll want to push them or
do something harm to them, right. All of that can come because just
because you're standing up and you're feeling like that, right.
So when you change your position, you sit down, it can calm your
state. Now, if you're sitting in, you're angry, then you go into a
lying down position.
It's really awkward to be super angry if you're lying down. Okay?
And I don't want you to, to do that, like intentionally, but it
may be just for practice, just to try to see how it feels when
you're lying down, to pretend even to be upset with someone it feels
awkward, because lying down is such a relaxed position. Right? So
that's what we should do and then we should seek refuge in Allah
right, we say of the bIllahi min ash shaytani R regime, we try to
stay quiet. And then we're told to make we'll do we'll do is very
powerful, because it has a cooling effect. Anger is it gets us hot,
right? It's our blood pressure actually goes up, our temperature
goes up when we're angry, because the heart is beating faster. So
there's a lot of physical things that are happening. So once you go
and you make well do that cooling effect of the water just calms you
down. And suddenly you're able to maybe think better about what you
said and you know, you kind of just have a better response or
maybe you're calmer so make will do and then ultimately the best
thing to do is to pray you ask Allah Subhana Allah for guidance
for control for forgiveness, because if you've said things that
you didn't mean or regret, you need to go and ask for forgiveness
from Allah first and then from the person or the people. So all of
these are ways that we can be in the habit of practicing our to get
down from that state of anger and also breathing. I didn't write it
here. But breathing is very important, right? When you're in a
state of heightened emotion, when you're really really angry. Just
take a deep breath, hold it in,
let go that can immediately calm you down, just forcing yourself to
change your position and everything you're because
otherwise your words are just going to keep coming. And like I
said the anger is mine. It's like a flame it just grows more and
more. So this is a way of calming all that down. Okay.
So here we say.
Okay,
now, this is a I know a little interesting image I found but I
thought it worked perfectly with this hadith. Once a man grew angry
and the Prophet SAW I sort of noticed how when the face shows
extreme anger it resembles shaved on right. So he said I have a word
if spoken will remove it from him. It is I seek refuge and God from
Satan the accursed which is the English for our the bIllahi min
ash shaytani R rajim. So, this picture I thought was perfect
because he's a man, but look at what's happening to him. His face
is turning red look at the veins in his forehead. He has steam
coming out of his ears. His teeth are looking sharp and quite scary.
He's even frothing at the mouth. Right? Which is Yeah, someone said
it looks ridiculous. I agree. But this is what some people look like
when they're really really angry. And, you know, if you've ever, you
know, been in the state, one of the ways to really rethink about
your, you know, your anger response is if someone were to
videotape you, if you ever, you know, are in a situation like
that, you know, it's maybe something your mom or dad can do,
where they just videotape you for a little bit and you can see
yourself later. And you might be shocked. Like what that's how I
talk and that's how I look. Yeah, because when you're so angry,
you're not aware of yourself and that's the problem you lose all
control. So you can look really weird or like this person and just
very very intense. But this hadith, the prophesy ism is
telling us if we want
To remove the effect of anger, remember, where does it come from?
It's bliss, right bliss is,
is the one who angers us. And that's why we seek refuge in Allah
from him. So someone's asking, smoke doesn't come out. Yeah, our
smoke doesn't come out. We don't have that. But we do get hot and
sometimes, you know, sweaty. So that's kind of what it's like, you
know, when you think of smoke from a boiling pot of water, right?
It's heat. So think of it that way that we have heat that's coming
out of us, right? So, but very important Hadith to remember.
Okay, so how do we, so that those are the treatments? Excuse me? So
now we're going to the last one, which is a ruffler heedlessness?
Okay. hafla This is a very crucial one to understand. Okay. A lot of
this some of the scholars say this is actually one of the root
diseases to to all of the diseases of the heart. So hafla is
purposely turning away from Allah subhanaw taala and it's
forgetfulness but it's it's like you know, but you're just not you
want to do what you want to do. And there are people who remember
we have will we have free will we have the choice, right to do right
or wrong? This is the test of the human being. So if you know what
is halal and what's haram, and you know, what's right and what's
wrong, but you don't follow or obey Allah subhanaw taala and you
want to just do whatever you want to do. This is a hustler, right?
It's completely giving into your own desires, and turning away from
Allah and Allah's father many warnings about, about this, he
says and be not of the huffy Loon, right? The heedless ones. And then
he describes them they are those upon whose hearts hearing and
sight Allah has said a seal and they are heedless. So because they
turned away from Allah, Allah has turned away from them, and we
never a May Allah protect us all, from ever being amongst those who
Allah ever turns away from or who we turn away from Him, right? So
here is another really, I think, powerful image, because it teaches
us the difference between those who remember their Lord, they're
not forgetting a lot, right? They're remembering remembering a
lie. He says, why the prophesy said, I'm said that the example of
the one who remembers his Lord, in comparison to the one who does not
remember his lord is that of a living creature compared to a dead
one. So when we look at this image, we see very clearly, there
is a living, vibrant, beautiful, life giving because trees give
life, right, they give life to all the insects that are living on
them, they emit oxygen for us to breathe, we give them our carbon
dioxide, they're benefiting creatures are benefiting the
earth, their people find shade under the tree, right? All these
animals, so much good comes from a living tree, right? And that is
the believer, the believer that remembers their Lord so much good
comes from them, they're beneficial to the world. The one
who is not remembering Allah is basically like a dead tree that
isn't a desert. And that really, there's no benefit whatsoever from
all right, there's no benefit. There's no shade, there's no
fruits, there's nothing, it's just a dead structure that stands in
the middle of a have an arid, dry landscape. And it actually may
even invite the attention of vultures and snakes and other
creatures that really are harmful. So all of this is to tell us that
a Hustla which is the when you forget Allah, this is what it
does, it makes you like a person that is just of no benefit. You
are actually even harmful in many ways, right to people into the
creation of Allah. So you are you have the choice, what is it going
to be? Where were the all of us rather be if we could go into this
picture? On which side would we rather be on? Right? That's, I
think, very clear. So this is I thought it was a good visual for
us to to understand Hoffler. Now, how do we treat it?
Almost by that it says warn them that on the day of regret, which
is the Day of Judgment when the matter will be concluded on that
day. Everything's done right. While now they're in a state of
left, and they do not believe so one of the treatments is to remind
people that on the Day of Judgment, you know, that's it.
You're there's nothing you can do at that point. So you know, you
need to wake up from your sleepy state and start to make Toba go
back to our sponsor and ask for his forgiveness. And you know,
start doing what you should be doing and mourn people you know,
in this world before it's too late in the next. And then
also remember that our prayers are the laws are not answered, okay,
so, here are the prophesy. centum said in a hadith call upon Allah
with certainty that He will answer you know, that Allah will not
answer the supplication of a heart that is negligent and distracted,
heedless. So the heart of a person who has ruffler is in this state
where even there the eyes will not be answered. And so very
important, you want to be free from that. And so, again, there
are people who will say they're Muslim, right, and I just want to
explain, there are people who will say that they're Muslim, but then
they do not pray. They may drink alcohol, they may gamble, they may
do things that are explicitly haram, you know, non halal foods.
So these people they know right from wrong. They still say they're
Muslim, but for some reason, they do not
prevent or they don't do what they're supposed to do, they fall
into sins, and they become forgetful of their obligations to
Allah. So this is the group of people we're talking about, right?
That they know right from wrong, but they still choose to do wrong.
So we ask ALLAH SubhanA data from protection from all of these
diseases that he protects us from a hada from
fish from hijab and from from heedless as Buffalo. Okay, so we
have a spot that I forgive us all. But this is the class for today,
we have one last class on Tuesday, where we're going to be going over
the rest of the diseases, and it's going to be a lot. So we're gonna
have to move very quickly next week to cover six diseases instead
of three, double the amount, but some of them do kind of overlap.
So with things that we've talked about before, so inshallah we
will, you know, just try to move as quickly as we can. But are
there any questions? So I'm gonna go ahead and stop the
presentation. And now we'll get to your questions, inshallah.
Let's see any questions? What about very good question. So I
love this question. Thank you. Amen. For asking, even asked about
fixing broken, broken things and selling them, there's nothing
wrong, we call this refurbished. So if you have a refurbished item,
that means it was broken or something wrong with it was old,
but you went and you tried to fix it, enhance it, make it better
working again, as long as you are clear with the seller that this is
not a new product, right? That it is something that you yourself,
maybe or you had someone to repair it, but that it's that it was
broken, and you've repaired it. That's there's nothing wrong with
that. The point of a fish is that you're trying to hide those
things. You're actually not being clear with people. You're
purposefully hiding the flaws because you're afraid that if they
know that it was broken, they won't buy it. So you're just not
even going to tell them in the first place. That's when it's
fraud and that's when it's haram
what was the treatment for fraud? Did we did I not go over that? I
don't remember now if I did, I missed that one. I hope not. Let
me see. I thought I went over it. But I think we talked about Yeah,
knowing that a loss plant that a cease all that you do, right? That
nothing escapes his knowledge and that there's no benefit in ever
taking something that you know consuming something that was
bought or or that you got from fraud that it actually causes you
harm. Okay, so if you like I said, let's say you made $10,000 selling
a car that had engine, you know, damage that you didn't tell the
buyer, you know, maybe it was in a car accident, or there's a you
know, category of cars that are called salvaged. Okay, a salvage
vehicle is a vehicle that was in a car accident or it was taken by
the government for some reason, but it was a there's something
wrong with the car, that it's not it's what we call a clean title.
It's not, you know, it has damage or prior history of damage those
cars when you sell them if you're this
seller you have to let the buyer know. Oh, by the way, this car was
a salvaged car I you know, I didn't get it from the from a car
dealership brand new. I didn't buy it from one owner with no previous
damage. This is the history of the car. And so you have to disclose
that information. Because if you don't, and you sell a car, because
from the exterior, the car looks nice. And the person is like, Oh,
wow, this looks like a great car for this price. I'll get it. And
then they go home. And then a month later, all of a sudden
they're having engine problems. And now they have to spend 1000s
of more dollars to fix it. That is totally haram and it's your fault,
because maybe had you told them oh, by the way, this car had
damaged they would have said you know what? I don't think I want to
buy it because I don't have the money. In case it has more
problems down the line. I need a good reliable car and then they go
buy another car. So you have to just be honest, when Chela, okay.
So we have what have you judge someone but you don't mean to but
you accidentally always do it. But you don't mean to very good. I
love that you asked that question, Captain. Because anytime you have
a disease in the heart that you don't want to have, and you are
repulsed by it, and you hate that you have it, this is a good sign.
And so Allah will not hold you accountable for thoughts that
you're trying your hardest to push away, and that you're not happy
about. So don't worry, that's not that doesn't mean that you're a
judge of the person or you're a bad person. It's when you like to
think about badly about people and you like to make judgments and you
kind of just let your mind go off and on and on. That's when it's a
disease of the heart. Okay, but if you're really struggling and you
don't like it, but a thought keeps entering your mind, just say all
the blemishes on him and move on. Don't make it a big deal. Don't
sit there and beat yourself up over it and go and say I'm a
horrible person. No, because if you didn't have that thought,
intentionally then it was probably just once was from che Don because
you know, he likes to whisper and to make us think bad things. So
don't worry. Okay.
Oh, no Kenza, I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope you and your father
and our safe.
Someone shared that they were in a in an accident, and I pray that
you guys are all safe.
Let's see here.
If you're really poor than Are you allowed to deceive? No, you cannot
deceive people, even if you're really poor, there's no theft.
There's no begging people. There's nothing fraud. None of it is
permissible, whether you're poor or rich, it doesn't matter. It's
wrong. And Allah subhanaw taala is the one who provides so if you're
in need, or supposed to turn to Allah, if you're hungry and poor,
you turn to Allah and you ask him to provide for you and he will,
the money will come the food will come. There are people all over
the world who are homeless who are poor, but they still eat every
day, or maybe every other day, but they eat and they still have
something because Allah is the One who provides for them. Inshallah,
okay.
Let's see. Oh, thank you, Lola. Very sweet. I look forward to
seeing you on Tuesday. And you're very welcome. She thanked me for
taking the time to do this. Thank you for being here. Thank you for
taking the time to be a part of this. You guys are so sweet.
Okay, very good. Bilal asked this great question. Thank you. Bella,
you said earlier that a fish leads to haram income. How can you
purify your haram income we talked about this. When we talked about
miserliness and we talked about the importance of getting the cat
and set up and realizing that none of that diminishes your wealth. It
doesn't take away from your wealth, and it actually purifies
your wealth. We also talked about it what other disease remember we
did that washing now I'm forgetting my stuff. But when we
did the washing of the clothing,
fear of poverty, we talked about it when we talked about hopeful
factor we talked about how's the cat and set up that purifies any
haram wealth that you have. Okay, yes, if you give sadaqa it will
purify your wealth Inshallah, for you know, we shouldn't knowingly
have haram income, but if you don't know, if maybe some of your
income is haram, then that's the way to purify it inshallah.
Okay, um, let's see, I'm just wanting to make sure I get all the
questions, a lot of comments coming here.
Someone asked What if a Muslim killed 100 people is he still a
Muslim? Okay, well, there is a very famous
Less Hadith that actually speaks to that.
Where a man came, this was a long time ago and he came to
a Christian, you know, and he said, I have killed 99 people, I
think it was a Christian in my world. I'm not sure actually don't
quote me on that. I think he was just a religious leader of his
time and that time, but he said that he, you know, had killed 99
people. And so then he asked him, he said, I want to be better
person, but I want to get better. I want to make Toba. I want to,
you know, be get close to God, will your God forgive me? And that
man said, No, he was like, Nope, you know, you're too. You've done
too much evil. There's no hope for you. Sorry. So the man was so
overcome by his anger. And this is a good story because it relates to
anger. He was so overcome by his anger again, that he ended up
killing that man. So now he's killed 100 People eex. Right. This
is a pretty awful person that right and in terms of what he's
done, so he's killed 100 people, but he makes he wants to make
Toba. He's not Muslim. He's never, you know, had good guidance
before. And he wants to become a better human being. So he goes,
and he finds a Muslim, you know, and he asks him, he says, you
know, can I? Or I want to become a better person, this is what I've
done. Can I will your God forgive me? And that man tells him Yes,
but you have to leave this place that you're in, because the place
that you're in is not good. It's corrupt. And it's part of the
reason why you are you've done all the bad things you've done. So go
to this other place, and he told him where to go. And he said over
there are really good people, and they will make you better. They're
believers, right? They're Muslims. Muslim is a believer right? There,
there are people that will make you better. So just go to those
people. So he was so happy, because he never thought that he
could be forgiven for all of the crimes he had done in here.
Someone gave him hope. So he was so excited that he ended up you
know, going to that place and on his way, something interesting
thing happened, he died, okay, so he dies. Now, when someone dies,
there's two different angels that come if they're a believer, and
they're Muslim, when the angel of Rama comes, right, and that angel
comes to take the soul. And then the if it's an unbeliever or a bad
soul, then the angel of torture comes, you know, there's different
angels, and they each have their own job. And so that person
because they're not destined for you know, that they they were a
bad person, that angel takes them. So when they both come, they're
like looking at each other like, Huh, what are you doing here? What
are you doing here, because it's usually one or the other, not
both. And of course, I'll just find that as knowing he's
witnessing everything. And he's he decides to send Jabril Ali salaam
to go and give them instructions on what to do, because they don't
know what to do. So when the realism comes, he They explained
to him what happened. And then he says, he says the order the
command is that you have to measure the distance from where
the man was, like, where the city that he was leaving from, to where
he was going. And whichever place he was closer to where he he's
passed away, he's died on the road. Whatever place he was closer
to the angel will take him. So if he's closer to the place, the bad
place, the angel of torture will take him. And if he's closer to
the good place, the angel of mercy will take him. So they measured
the distance and he was one hand spanned. So a whole distance of
the hand closer to the place that he left from.
So at that point, the angel of torture was ready to go take his
soul, because that's what the command was. And then it just your
video said, Wait. And he said, I've been commanded to what do
what? to constrict the earth. So that means he brought he squeezed
the lands together, so that he was now closer to the place he was
going. And then at that point, this is all from Allah, right?
Because Allah can forgive anyone he wants to. And he saw the
sincerity in this man, that he wanted to be better and he wanted
to be a Muslim. He wanted to be a believer. And so even though he
was taken and his soul was taken before he could do all of those
things, Allah still forgave him, and he accepted him as a Muslim.
And the angel of mercy took him So this story is related to us a lot
of lessons that we can take from it right about anger and the
danger of it but also of the Mercy of Allah subhanaw taala. So to end
answer that question for the person who asked. Allah is the
only one who can judge us according to what we've done. And
he's the only one who can forgive or not forgive so it's entirely up
to him. But that hadith is specifically about someone who
killed 100 people. So that's why I thought it was important to share
it.
The thank you for asking. Alright, you guys, we have gone over our
time. And again, I apologize for starting a little late. Thank you
for being here. Thank you for spending your afternoon with me.
We look forward to the two Tuesday's last class in sha Allah
and I yeah, there's a lot to cover. So inshallah we'll start on
time we might go a little bit over let your parents know. But thank
you so much again, all Thank you, Captain. Disciple ahead and I love
having you in this class. May Allah reward all of you and
decrease all of you in sha Allah. We will thank you Amen. Thank you
so much. Again for your for your lovely comments and we need your
doors Remember, it's the last 10 days we need your thoughts you
guys your thoughts are very powerful. I'll take a child's
doors any day any day you give them to me I'll take them so
please keep me and my family and your dogs all of you even though I
don't know all of you personally, you're still in my dogs because
your beautiful children and I love children and I pray that you and
your families, all of you that Allah Subhana Allah protect all of
you and give you the best of this dunya and the next and that you
have a most melodic remainder of your month inshallah. Have a
wonderful evening and we'll we'll catch you guys on Tuesday. Salaam
aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.