Hosai Mojaddidi – Session 5 Purification of the Heart for Muslim Teenagers
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The speakers stress the importance of worshiping Allah Sparta and his creation, avoiding negative thoughts and not giving up on negative actions. The disease of the heart is linked to weight and success, and individuals should avoid competition and avoid smoking. The speakers also advise against competition and avoid smoking. Additionally, they mention a potential "bringing grab" to a class on Thursday.
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So I want to come everybody. I'm so happy to be here with you
again. We're This is the week three already. Hmm, we're coming
towards the end, but we still have a couple sessions left. So we've
covered a lot, Mashallah. And let me actually pull up. Sorry, one
second, go through the presentation so that we can get to
some of the questions which you guys know, right. You know, all of
this. I've quizzed you a lot about the author of the text, which is
the memo load and the translator of the text, which is Sheikh Hamza
Yusuf, right, you know, all of this martial law.
But and we've covered all the eight hearts, right. So here,
we're just going to quickly go through them. We've covered all
this stuff. Last week, we talked about
three different diseases, and we wanted to actually quiz you on
them real quickly. So let's just see here, I want to make sure I'm
in the right one. Right list. So we have 1314 15.
Okay, so we covered last week, a disease of the heart that talked
about when you do something but your intention isn't for Allah
subhanaw taala to see you, but rather for someone else to see
you. What is that disease of the heart called?
100 Excuse me. Allergies. We have the windows open today. So my
allergies have been up. So anybody want to tell me what's the
disease? Oh, wait, let me check the chat box. Sorry. It was kind
of behind there. So the question the question is when good martial
art yes, me and you got it awesome. ostentation is the
disease of the heart where you are trying to get attention with your
good deeds from other people. Right. You're you're doing it for
that meal. What is the Arabic of the word ostentatious? Let's see.
Who knows that.
Very good. Raheel awesome. So smile. You got it. Confused. Ria
is
Wait, hold on. Did I read it wrong? No. Okay, I'm sorry. You
got it. Right. So Raheel and Ismail. You both got it right. I
read it wrong. So RIA is yes. ostentatious. Excellent. And we
got Lala haidara. Very good. So three of you came in with the
answer awesome. Mashallah. And then Raheel is coming in with the
next disease of the heart which I was about to ask you you already
jumped the gun and gave you the answer. That's awesome. And you
gave me the Arabic very happy but let's see if others can remember
as well. This next disease of the heart is when you put your trust
in people, right? You're not You're looking too much at the
people in your life and asking their help for everything. And you
forget that all help or all assistance really comes from one
source which is of course, Allah subhanaw taala so what is that
very good Zoya excellent relying on other than Allah subhanaw taala
with that so when you put your trust or you rely on other than
God, that is a disease of the heart and mashallah, like I said,
Raheel gave us the Arabic because anybody else gives the Arabic I
want to see if anybody else can, can come up with it.
Anybody else the Arabic
yet delicate on Aveda love Very good. Mashallah.
Excellent. Leila. Raheel, of course came in first with that
answer and Lala excuse me, not Leila. And then a smile. You said
I'll read something, you know, you'll get some points for that.
So excellent. Mashallah. And then the last one, I saw some people
also giving the answer for it. But those of you who don't know
because I'm the only one who can see the answer. Well, myself and
Mr. Mehra. So those of you who don't know yet, what is the
disease of the heart when you are not happy about something, and
you're kind of like, Why me Why did this have to happen to me?
Right, what is that called?
Okay, awesome. So again, Masdar Raheel came with both the English
and the Arabic excellent job. displeasure with the Divine
Decree. This is a disease of the heart, and it's stuffed with other
very good Zoya and Danya as well. You guys are coming through that's
fantastic. Mashallah, you guys are paying attention. I love it. So
great job. We have so much to cover you guys because there's
quite a few diseases of the heart left. So, inshallah Oh, and then
yeah, we did another one. Oh, Raheel. You reminded me I forgot.
Whenever you're
Trying to, to so there's ostentation is showing off. But
when you want people to hear about your good deeds, and you want to
be popular and famous, that's also a disease of the heart, which we
covered. Right. And that is smart or seeking reputation. Very good,
you guys. So I forgot that we did for last time. Great job. But we
do have quite a lot of content to go through today. So let's go
ahead and get into the presentation. I'm going to quickly
go through
the presentation from last week because we've covered all of this.
We did hopefully have fun. That was the week before. So they're on
I mean, Tuesday. So Thursday is where we did these for
ostentation, or lying on other than God displeasure with divine
decree and seeking reputation. So now we're going to go to week
three. Okay, and I have a slide, where is it? It's coming, here we
go. So week three, so 100, a lot of content labs. So for today,
we're going to cover these three diseases of the heart, false hope,
negative thoughts and vanity, okay? Total Armel as total amount
of soil. So I then and an audio clip, and the definitions are
right here and we'll go over each one separately. Okay. So let's go
ahead and jump into it in sha Allah.
false hopes the first one. So false hopes is the belief that you
will live forever, okay. And that belief that Oh, I have all this
time makes you heedless, which is careless, like you're just not
really caring about your responsibilities. As first and
foremost, as we've talked about, the most important responsibility
we have is to worship Allah as part of that. So if you start, you
know, becoming heedless, that means you won't pray on time, or
you miss your prayers altogether. Or you just kind of, you know,
don't really care about doing good deeds as much, because you're too
busy thinking, Oh, I have homework, and I have to go, I want
to watch this movie, and I want to listen to this song, or I want to
play this video game or you get caught up in life. And then you
keep thinking what's okay, I'm young, or I'm this and that later
on in life, I will, you know, do more good work. So why do I have
to do it now, right? I'm a young kid, or I'm, you know, I'm a youth
I have all this time in my life. So that is actually a disease of
the heart because nobody knows how much time we have. And whatever
time we have, we should use it in good deeds, right? We should use
it first and foremost, again, to worship Allah Sparta, and then to
be good to his creation. So a person again, like this, they just
they waste their time, a lot, they who have this disease, they waste
their time, because they think they have this false idea that
they have a long time to live. And so let's find that says about such
a person that when death comes, they're going to suddenly wake up
and they'll say, Man, I wish I had sent ahead, some good for my life.
Like I wish I did more good deeds, because now it's too late. Once we
die, right, it's too late. And then Imam Ali told us he said
that, you know, most people, people are asleep, and then when
they die, they will wake up. So what does that mean? Right? What
does it mean to wake up after you die? Well, the idea that people
are asleep is something we should kind of better understand that
there's a lot of people who are walking around us in asleep like
state, right? Because when you're asleep, what are you doing? You're
dreaming, right? So there's people again, who are in a dreamlike
state, they're walking around or talking to people, they're going
to work they're eating they're just doing a lot but they think
that this world is you know, gonna go on forever. And because they're
walking around in a dream like state, they are forgetful that
Allah subhanaw taala expects them to do certain things, and they
have to do those things. And that also death is imminent, which
means it's always around right? Death is around us. And people are
dying every day, every minute of every day, even within seconds. I
don't know the exact statistic but every we could probably say maybe
every few seconds someone is dying, right? So we have to be
realistic. And then also the Day of Judgment is real. So when
someone when we say someone is asleep, and then they wake up when
they die, that means that all of a sudden the dream of the world is
over and they realize like oh, now I wish I had more done more good
deeds. So it's a very dangerous state to be in. Okay, this
Having false hopes. So how do we treat it? Well, you have to, as we
said, Remember that death is real and inevitable, and that no one
and nothing escapes it. And then understand that life has phases.
So a lot of you who are youth, right, you're in a phase of
learning of having fun, it's a very exciting time to be a child.
But once you get older, as you get older, you're going to get more
and more responsibilities. And those responsibilities are
important. And you have you can't let that fun of youth start to
affect your responsibilities that you just keep wanting to play like
a child for your whole life. All you care about is fun, fun, fun
and entertainment. That is not right. And that's not to say you
can't have fun, of course, we should have fun. Allah made the
dunya enjoyable for us. But we should not live to have fun. And
that's the difference. So if you want to play with your Legos, or
you want to play on the computer with a video game, or you want to
play a board game, or you want to do art, or play an instrument or
anything a sport, that is something that you can do once in
a while just because it's enjoyable. But if that's the only
reason that you you know, like to wake up in the morning or your all
your day is just that thing, then you're going to forget a lot and a
lot of people that's what happens to them, they'll get so caught up
in a movie, or a video game that they completely forget to to
worship Allah, and I'm gonna show tell you like how these things can
be so addictive. I watched a documentary, which is like a movie
last week about the dangers of you know certain things about the
internet and video games. And part of that documentary said that
there was a group of people, I won't mention the country, but
there's a country where the people are so addicted to video games.
And I want you to think about this because it's real. And they
actually showed, you know, a room full of people on their computers
playing video games. But they said that it's very common in that
country, that the people are so addicted to their video games,
they actually wear diapers out of the villa, they will wear these
are adults, they're not children, they're adults who are with a
biller, because they don't want to break from the game. They think
that it's okay for them to wear sit in their seat and just wear a
diaper. So that they can continue playing their games out of the
blue that I mean, that's a level of extreme that we should all say
stuff for low, we should never want that. But this is the danger
of thinking. They're getting careless with your time and
thinking, Oh, it's no big deal. You know, I'm just gonna, I have
plenty of time when I'm older, and then I'll do things. So let me
just keep having fun, fun, fun. know, when you reach the age of
adolescence, which your parents will talk to you about, hopefully,
if you don't know about it yet. But it's the age where a child
starts to become more like an adult. Well in Islam, when that
happens, then you are considered what Bala which means that you are
now accountable. So you have to start doing all of the same
things. You have to start fasting and praying, you're treated like
an adult. And so you can't just think oh, because I'm still in
school, and I am treated like a child maybe by other people that I
shouldn't do my responsibilities. Now we have responsibilities to
Allah, and we should fulfill those responsibilities. And then we also
know that we worship a lot. And the real fun is in the next life,
Jana is where we're going to have a lot of fun and we don't have to
worry about going to the bathroom in July. So there's no need for
diapers, we can eat and we can enjoy life and everything is great
and shallow. Okay, so that's what the treatment is keep your mind
focused. Death is always near I shouldn't think I have that much
time and I should remember to prioritize and worship Allah as he
deserves. Inshallah, so this is the treatment for the disease of
the heart total Amel false hope. So let's go ahead and go to the
next disease. So negative thoughts this is so event, okay. So so that
is a very serious disease of the heart because it's just having
suspicion or bad thoughts about someone without really any
evidence, right? There's nothing at all that you would that would
tell you that someone is a bad person or that you shouldn't like
them, except for your own thoughts. So it's not like you saw
them do something bad or you believe that they were guilty of
something bad because there was evidence. You just have a
suspicious
mind or heart, and then you start to think really bad things about
them. Well, this is not permissible. Allah subhana tells
us in the Quran, Oh, you who believe avoid suspicion, for some
suspicion is sinful. So when you have you let your heart become
suspicious of people, it's not good to do that unless that person
like if someone comes and they have, you know, they're they have,
let's say, their hands in their pocket, and one and their finger
looks like, you know, or something looks like maybe it's a gun or a
weapon. That's not being suspicious without evidence, you
could look at them a go, that person looks really suspicious,
why are they walking around with their hands like that? Is that a
gun in their pocket? Oh my gosh, that's, and you could, you know,
protect other people, because you're acting on that thing, it's
thought. But that's not what we're talking about. This is just having
a bad thought about someone for really no reason at all. And
that's why it's not permissible. And then the other thing is that
we have to remember, when you have negative thoughts about someone
for really no reason, the danger is that it's usually going to not
stay inside of you, those thoughts want to come out. So you want to
wait till your friend comes or your sister, your brother, and
then you want to say oh, look at that person, they look so weird.
And then you start both of you mocking them and making fun of
them. And I bet you they're like this, and I bet you like you know,
you start talking really badly about a person. And they're
totally innocent, they've done nothing. So this is the danger is
that you start to what lead to bad words. And then you got another
person involved too. And now, whatever they do is also on you,
right? So negative thoughts are problematic in so many ways, you
they, they're just showing that you have a suspicious heart, but
then also leading you to gossip and to bring someone else into
sinful behavior with you. Because when you gossip, you need someone
else there with you, right, you're doing it together. So this is why
the Prophet was sort of warned us that He who believes in Allah, and
the last day must either speak good or remain silent. So this is
a warning about speaking good. But of course, like we said, negative
thoughts, if you don't stop them, they'll lead you to not speaking
very good. And so it's a disease of the heart that can cause so
many problems. And so, this is also another really important
Hadith to remember. Every day when we wake up in the morning, our
limbs, right, which are different parts of our body, as is in this
picture here. They actually all go to the tongue and they say, oh,
tongue fear Allah, like fear Allah tongue because the tongue gets us
in trouble. And it's connected to negative thoughts. So like I said,
if you have a bad thought about someone, it's not gonna stay
inside you, eventually, it's gonna want to come out. And then now
you're lying, maybe about someone you're gossiping, you're spreading
slander, which are all like, you know, really, haram, they're not
acceptable. So this is why your body aware of the danger of the
tongue, asks the tongue like fear Allah and then it says, why
because we're going to be punished or rewarded based on what you do.
So if you're straight, which means you speak the truth and you fear
Allah, then all of us will be good. But if you're not, then you
get all of us in trouble, right? So your hands, your feet, your
eyes, your ears, all of it is like basically telling the tongue stop
getting all of us in trouble, because you can't control
yourself. Right? And but again, the tongue, it doesn't act on its
own, it acts on what's going on in the heart and in the mind. So this
is why you have to be careful of those negative thoughts, because
it will eventually lead to negative actions for the whole
body. Right? So very important diseases of the heart for us to
know. So the treatment this is the prophesies are telling us very
clearly what not to do. First you stop being suspicious of people,
okay, then you don't look for faults and other people and you
don't spy stop trying to find someone's problems. You know, some
people they that's all they do, they just watch people all day
long and look for things that are the flaws in them or faults of
them. Or they you know, like you'll be in a classroom setting
or in a meeting or at the masjid. And there's people who just like
to watch other people do something that's going to embarrass them
that they can laugh at that they can mock and then they go and tell
their friends or whoever oh yeah, this guy the masjid he did this
and then guess what happened? Then he did this and then you're just
looking for you know, it's not a good thing to do because all
you're doing is spending time wasting your time ash actually
speaking ill about another person who's totally innocent. They
came to worship Allah or do something, you know, whether
you're at the masjid or somewhere like the library or a restaurant
or anything, people are there to do something. And now you're just
making fun of them, you know, it's really wrong. So you don't look
for faults, you don't spy you don't watch people, right? You and
he also says do not be jealous of one another because sometimes
negative thoughts come from jealousy and hesed, right, which
we talked about before, do not desert which is like to cut your
relation with one another, don't cut off ties and do not hate one
another. Oh, and all those worshippers be brothers Allah has,
which Allah has ordered you to be right. So all of these are ways
that we can protect ourselves from having negative thoughts. They
start with those suspicions, right? Don't have suspicions in
the first place, and don't actively try to find things that
you can talk about someone else about, don't get yourself involved
in that type of deed, because it's a bad deed, and it's haram. And
it's usually, like I said, Lee, it's that kind of stuff says
suggest that you're likely jealous, or you have envy of the
person, or you're just someone who likes to waste your time doing
things that are wrong. So in every case, it's it's not acceptable.
And that's why the process is warning us not to do these things.
So this is how we inshallah stop those thoughts and to remember
that the angels are recording everything, right, all of our good
deeds are being recorded, so nothing will be forgotten. You
want to be very careful that if your negative thoughts turn into
negative actions, that Allah was counting all of that, and that's
what you're going to be held accountable for on the Day of
Judgment. So don't think it's just gonna, you know, nothing's gonna
happen. Right? Be very careful. So that's the disease of negative
thoughts.
Now, the next one, is, let's read this one here. Did you know that
there are some people afflicted with this next disease, and they
can't help but see themselves as very, very special, they actually
walk around very proud of themselves. And often looking down
on other people, they completely reject the fact that every good
that they have is from Allah. subhanaw taala. So in this
picture, you see, I'm sure you can see what they are, they're just a
bunch of eggs, right? But if you look at this egg on top, it's got
some special things, right? It's got a shiny color, and it's
wearing a crown. And it looks at itself as better and that's why
it's walking actually on top of these other eggs, and they're
definitely not happy about it, right? But there are some people
that walk around this way because maybe they Allah gave them wealth,
or they gave he gave them beauty, or he gave them privilege and
power. Maybe they come from like a family that has a lot of power.
And whatever it is that they have, they become very what arrogant and
and vain about it. And we're going to talk about this word, okay?
Vain, what does that mean? So vain, or vanity or a job is a
disease of the heart, or someone is so full of pride for their for
their blessings, that could be about their appearance, which is
the way they look or achievements. So you could be vain about your,
your schoolwork. Let's say, you got really good grades, you know,
and your teachers, you were top of your class and you won some awards
at school, that can make you vain, where you start to think that
you're really good, and you're better than other people, right?
And when you get stuck on thinking that it's coming from you, this is
the disease because to say that Alhamdulillah Allah gave me a
blessing Alhamdulillah I'm so grateful for that blessing.
There's nothing wrong with recognizing the gifts that Allah
has given you, okay? But when you think that you are the reason for
those gifts, like you're giving credit only to yourself, and then
you treat other people a certain way. This is clearly a disease of
the heart because Allah is the source of all of our good and
we're going to talk about that in a second. So the prophesy said
here tells us eat and drink, give charity and wear clothes, as long
as that does not involve any extravagance or vanity. So what
he's telling us here is enjoy the blessings of your life, right? Eat
and drink. Allah has given you a life where you can enjoy good food
and good drink. Alhamdulillah that's great. And give charity
wear clothes so you can actually wear nice clothes.
thing and be a charitable person, right be a generous person. But
don't do it in a way that makes you feel like you're better than
other people, or with extravagance, which is you're
going over the top right? If you eat and drink, and let's say, you
only eat at the best restaurants, okay? I can't ever eat at this
restaurant, because it's not, you know, it's not clean enough for
me, or it's not this enough for me, and you just kind of are very
boastful about the fact that you want to eat a special kind of
food. And it's, you know, very decadent, which is like rich, and
maybe it's a very expensive meal, but that you walk around, and you
just carry yourself like, look at me, I'm so better, I only eat at
the best restaurants, right. And that's all I put in my body. Or
when you wear clothing, you also do the same thing, you only wear
brand name clothing, and oh, I would never shop there. Right? I
would never go to that store because I don't their clothing
just is so below my style, I need the best of the best. And so this
kind of attitude, that you are better than other people. And even
that can happen when you're being charitable. There are people who
are very arrogant, even when they're giving to other people.
They're acting like they're, you know, so generous. And you should
be so thankful that I'm even looking at your direction, and
giving you money or giving you food or whatever that they're
giving. So here, this is a clear warning, like, do things because
we're human, and we live in this world, we can do certain things
and enjoy those things. But make sure you do not do them in excess,
which is what extravagance is where you're going over the top
and you're just being really a little bit too much to extra as
they say, or you're doing it with vanity where you think that you
are so special, that you're better than other people. And you know,
we're going to explain a little bit more about this. So now,
arrogance is very closely related to our job, okay? The difference
is that arrogance requires two people. So if you're an arrogant
person, and that's coming, it's one of the diseases we'll cover
soon. Boasting and arrogance, it's coming. But if you're an arrogant
person, you need other people, right? To display your arrogance
to like so your walk around, again, treating people like
they're less than you and not good, right? Good enough. Vanity
doesn't need another person, or job is really just about a person
being so full of themselves, thinking that all of their good is
from them, that there's no mention of ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada that, you
know, they're not not really thinking about all of the great
gifts that Allah has given them, and they don't make gratitude to
Allah, but rather they attribute all their good deeds to
themselves. So what our job and how they're different is the
attribution, right? That well, they're absolutely they're both
attributed wrongly, but they're, it's also the audience, for a job,
you don't need an audience. It's you're the only audience it's,
it's you, it's you thinking that you are good looking because you
you know, have great genes or you know, your skin is you take care
of your skin and you're, you have a great you know, sort of makeup
routine if you're if you wear makeup or your hair is so nice
because you take care of it, but you constantly keep again, putting
the focus on yourself, right? And then kibin or arrogance, which
we're going to again talk about soon, is where you think all of
these things, and then excuse me, you actually treat other people
like they're less than you and you puff yourself up in front of
people. Both of these qualities are interrelated. Inshallah Okay,
so, and inshallah I'm sorry, well, we'll talk about it more when we
get to boastful nests and arrogance, but it's important to
understand that they're very, very closely tied. And then you know,
the danger again of vanity and arrogance is that it it allows
this pride and arrogance into the heart right? And the prophesy
said, I'm told us that no one who has the weight of a seat of a
single seat of arrogance in his heart or her heart will enter
paradise. This should make all of us never want to ever have a job
or be boastful show off right? We talked about ostentation. Rhea, we
talked about Summa we talked about all these diseases of the heart,
which really is about showing off and you know, being and allowing
these things because they kind of all work together eventually.
Right? You start to develop all of these diseases of the heart, but
at the root of it is that you deny that
The good that you have is from Allah subhana, Allah Tada. And all
that matters is that He is pleased with you. And instead you start
focusing on other people and trying to show off to them, and
then you start thinking you're better than them. So this is how
it all works, right? So it's a trap of shade on. And so, you
know, in this hadith when the prophesy centum said that about
the weight of a seed of arrogance in his heart, someone was like,
but what if like a man loves to have beautiful clothes and shoes,
right? So he's worried because he's like, Oh, I don't want to
have arrogance. But at the same time, I like to have nice stuff.
What about that? Is there anything wrong with that, right? And then
the problems I assume, replied, He said, What? Verily, Allah is
beautiful, and he loves beauty. Arrogance means rejecting the
truth and looking down on people. So this is not about not having
nice things. Okay. You can definitely like nice things and
have nice things. It's about your attitude, when you walk around in
those nice things. Or when you're, you know, again, getting the
certain attention for things, how do you see yourself with regards
to other people, that's what this disease of the heart is talking
about. So let's again, explore this just a little further. So
here's this hadith again, same exact Hadith, right? So I want to
make it clear.
The seed that we're talking about, look at these are seeds. These are
multiple seeds, okay, in someone's hand. Now, when he tells us that
the weight of a seed, he didn't say, a lot of seeds, he said, a
seed, right, one seed of arrogance. So you can see how
tiny, a seed of arrogance is. And he's telling us, if you have that
much arrogance in your heart, you will not enter paradise out of
Allah, we have to make a lot of Toba from this disease of the
heart if we have it, and ask Allah to remove it from our hearts and
ask him to protect our hearts from it. Because we don't want to ever
think of ourselves in a way that is arrogant, whether that means we
just are so prideful of what we have. And we walk around even
within our own hearts and go oh, like, I have such nice eyes and my
teeth are so white, and my hair is so beautiful, and my skin is so
this, you know, like whatever the thought is that comes to you, that
makes you feel prideful, is a dangerous thought, because you're
not remembering, it's all from ALLAH and he can take it away any
minute. There are so many people that had you know, a lot of good
and Hyatt in their life and everything was going well. And it
was taken away a lot of stories like if you ask your parents to
tell you the story of Prophet or Ube alayhi salam, and see how he
was tested, he had everything. He had a great life. And then Allah
tested him and took everything away and see how he responded. But
that can happen to someone at any time in their life. So if you
start to think these things, that's the danger is that you can
have them taken away from you. Instead, always say Alhamdulillah
wa Shaka Lila, thank you Allah, for all of the blessings you've
given me, for my health, for my wealth for the parents, I have
just constantly remembering it was all from Allah, it's not from you.
And even if you go further, like in school, and you get into a good
college, and you get a great job, eventually Insha Allah, that will
happen for all of you where you will succeed, you want to always
remember that every part of that success is from Allah, all of it,
even if you did the hard work, excuse me.
Even if you stayed up late, and you worked on a bunch of projects
and research, research papers, and did a lot of work on tests and
exams, and you did all the work yourself, you can't say that it's
your work that led you to that success. All of it is from Allah,
because Allah is the One who gave you have the means to do it. He
gave you the brain, the capacity, the time, all of that comes from
Him. And if he didn't give you those things, you wouldn't have
been able to achieve any good in your life. So this is how we push
back against those those thoughts is no it's all from Allah. And I'm
just going to always say thank you to him, instead of letting my
heart get puffed up and thinking of myself as something special.
Because you know, a lot of you'll find that adults and other people
in your life, they'll start to compliment you more on certain
things. And this is how some of these diseases can take root
because those compliments feel good. It's nice to have someone
say wow, you play basketball so good. Or oh my gosh, you're such a
talented writer. And you speak so nicely and look how well you're
dressed.
See, and oh, I love your hair. And oh, you know, and they just throw
all these compliments at you. It's very natural for the human being
to like those things. But you have to remember if you start to
believe that those things are from you, and then you let that to make
you feel special, like that egg in the beginning, there's definitely
a problem there. Okay, so back to the Hadith. Now, you see the
different pictures here, right? This the man was worried about all
the, he loves to have beautiful clothes and shoes, nothing wrong
with that, right? Allah loves when we take care of things. And we
beautify things, and we have beautiful possessions, because he
himself is beautiful. So to be to love beautiful things is not the
problem. It's when you let those beautiful things make you feel
that you are what better and you look down on people. So if you
look at this picture, this is kind of how you want to imagine someone
who is full of arrogance, whether they are arrogant, have arrogance
or vanity because they both can have the same attitude of feeling
superior to other people, okay? They just feel like they're more
special, extra special. And they see the world in this way where
it's like, I am so big and important. And I matter and you're
just this tiny little person and you don't matter very much. This
is stuck for a while big problem, big disease of the heart, we
should all ask Allah for protection from Okay, so how do
you treat vanity? Well, first, as we've been saying, you have to
realize, oh, US pandas is the source of all good. And you have
to be grateful to him always, never stop in your gratitude to
Allah. And you have to remember that he's aware of everything we
do. So those thoughts that you're having, and you know, don't think
that you can hide those thoughts. If they're there, he knows they're
there. He knows everything. And so remember to check your heart to
you know, go inward, like when you're having a thought about
yourself, you know, let's say like I said, you're in a competition
you know, at the masjid or maybe you're in the boy scouts or the
Girl Scouts or maybe you're in something else you know, that's
happening at school if there's some type of a you know,
competition going on and you start thinking of yourself as like you
know what I'm getting when I'm really good at this I'm so you
know, better than everybody else. And I'm, I'm so much smarter than
everybody else. I've got this you know, even if it's a thought in
your own mind, right? You have to stop and go stop the law. Why am I
thinking that? All good is from Allah, I shouldn't ever think that
about myself, right? And just ask Allah if you want to win, you can
certainly compete. But don't do it with those thoughts, right? You
want to check yourself and then to remember, or the Allah tells us
here, above all those who have knowledge is the All Knowing that
is God right? Allah knows everything. And when it comes to
you have good is from Allah. So every good thing that you have is
from Allah subhanaw taala. And every bad thing that happens to
you is from your own self, that's the rest of the eye. But anyway,
so the other thing is also you never walk around with arrogance
in your heart, because of the way you're dressed. Your
accomplishments, education, work, wealth, your lineage. If you're
cultural, you know, some people are very culturally proud. You
know, they like to say, Well, I'm from this country, and I'm this
and where I come from this family, none of that matters to Allah
subhanaw taala. What matters is what we talked about in the first
session halben Salim that beautiful heart that you take to
Allah, that's what matters more than anything, not all of these
other things. So you don't want to let those things make you feel
arrogant towards people or vain. So here is another Hadith. That's
an important one, because it clarify something here. So when
the rules are set on was teaching people, right, he said,
Whoever drags his garment out of pride will not be looked upon by a
lot on the Day of Resurrection. So what that means or there's some
people in this world, especially in that time, and even there are
places where they still do this, like royalty or people who are who
see themselves as very high bred which means like they are, you
know, come from a very high family. And, you know, they see
themselves as maybe they have power or wealth or name or status.
They will sometimes wear clothing that drags on the floor. And a lot
of celebrities actually do this too. If you look at some of the
big awards that celebrities get for movies or music, you know, or
even just other big events that celebrities go to a lot of times.
Most of the stories about the event are with the clothing that
they're wearing, and they'll go on the runway or the
The Red Carpet sorry, not the runway, the red carpet, which is
where everybody comes, before they go into the event. There's like
hundreds of cameras taking pictures of these people. And they
are coming out of their cars. Sometimes some of these people
because their outfits are so like this, they they they're very long.
They have a assistants like people there who are helpers, carrying
their dresses, like women, and sometimes men too, if they're
wearing like a long coat or something. But they'll have like,
people that work for them behind them carrying this long train. And
it's just dragging on the ground, but they do it to say, I'm so
wealthy, I have so much money that I can wear a dress or a suit or a
coat or whatever. And it can just drag all over the floor behind me.
And everybody will know that I have come into this room because
I'm so important. This is the attitude that a lot of people have
when they dress this way. It's a very arrogant attitude. So when
Allah says, Whoever drags his garment out of pride right? There
won't be looked upon on the Day of Judgment will buckle who was his
best friend right under the law. And he worried he got worried
because he's like, What, like dragging the garment like my
sometimes my robe, you know, they used to wear certain clothes that
were sometimes they would fall to the ground or slide down. So he
was like, Oh, my gosh, I don't want to have be part of this group
of people. So he panicked. And he said, one of my robe slides down
if I'm not cautious, like if I'm not paying attention, what do I
do? And then the prophesize said, I'm what he calmed him down. And
he said very clearly, Verily, you are not doing it out of pride. So
this hadith tells us first what we shouldn't do. But also to
remember, it's the attitude that we're talking about. It's not just
the action because Allah the process and taught us right and no
Malama vignette, which is, every action that we do in this world,
is judged by our intentions. So Allah is looking at the heart of
the person who does this, because some people, maybe it's their
culture, like, for example, someone's actually asking about
wedding dresses in the comments. That's a good point. Because in
many cultures, the wedding dress should have a train, it's kind of
like part of, you know, being the bride. So is the intention of that
bride to walk around saying I'm better than everybody. No, most
brides don't think that, you know, most people are good people that
don't have that arrogance, or a lot of people. But when you so
that's like a cultural thing, but if it's done with the intention of
pride, this is where it's really wrong, right. And this is what
we're talking about vanity, the where you walk around and it even
though this Hadid is talking about dragging the garment, you also
want to look at wearing certain clothes, but still feeling
prideful. Because as you get older, and then you guys start
working and getting your own jobs and money, you might want to buy
some really nice clothing. And you might want to start getting some
things that you could, you know, couldn't afford when you were a
kid. But now that you're making your own money, you want to buy
maybe a purse, or a wallet, or a car or anything, where there's
something that makes you feel really good being wearing that
thing. But check your heart and check your intentions. Because if
in your heart, you start to think like look at me, I'm so cool, I
have this, you know, name, brand name, purse, or looking at my
watch, or my glasses, or my hat or my car or whatever, I'm so much
better than everybody else. This is what we're talking about. It's
it's a disease of the heart of being overly vain and thinking
that you, you know, did it that it's all because of you that you
have those things and you forget that Allah is the One who gave it
to you. And then it leads to arrogance, which is you start to
think about other people that they're less than you. And all of
this is completely wrong in our faith, we do not engage in that
type of behavior. So we stop it at the root, which is an hamdulillah
worship of Allah, thank you, your Allah for everything you've given
me and I recognize that just as you gave it to me, you can always
take it away from me. And I'm just grateful to have it and that's it,
you know, you know, go beyond that. Okay, so that is the last
disease of the heart that we're going to talk about today. And
then we will have our next session on Thursday. So let's go ahead and
go to questions and shall I want to hear from you guys who has
Questions and Comments. Who wants to know more about these diseases
of the heart? As we've been talking about?
Let me look up here. Someone said, okay, there was a celebrity at the
Grammys who dressed that way?
Yeah, they had a long dress. I see it all the time with celebrities.
A lot of them will have their, their dresses just trailing
behind.
What if you're holding the trail? Well, if that's your job, you know
what, you're just doing your job, you're getting paid. Some people
need work, you know, you don't want to tell that person that
they're a bad person. A lot of these people, like I said, it's
just their job. They have no choice, they have to do it. But
so Lola's asking is a wedding dress with train, okay, as long as
you're not doing it in vain? Well, I think again, because it's a
culturally accepted tradition. I don't have a clear like fatwa, or
anything that says, Yes, wedding dresses are okay. But we can take
the meaning from this hadith that says it's really about the
intention, because sometimes, you might, you know, have a garment
that just is made a little longer than maybe you would have liked
but you needed to wear it at a wedding or some event. Can we say
right away that that person is arrogant and and or prideful? No,
it's about the intention. But it's preferred to try to avoid any type
of display that could maybe make people think that about you, you
know that you are that way. So if it's avoidable, you can avoid it.
But I can't you know, I don't have a clear answer as far as are
certain dresses, okay, because they're culturally accepted. It's
more just to say that the intention is what we're looking at
in sha Allah. Okay.
Someone is asking, you only talked about hating on people. So are you
allowed to still hate on things? So I think this was referring to
the event? So it's a good question. I mean, I think it
really depends on the situation. To have a negative thoughts, in
general, to be a negative person is really not a good quality,
you're likely not going to have a lot of friends, if you're always
they call them like the Debbie downer, for example, which is like
a term that's referred to someone who's always down who's always
like, just negative energy, right? Negative Nancy, I don't know why
they're always women names, we need to come up with negative Ned,
there is actually negative net. So it's not always women. But the
names are just like, like, they're just names that describe people
that sometimes have way too much negative energy. So you should not
make it okay to say, Oh, I'm not going to have to oven on people.
But sure, on everything else, I'm just going to walk around being
negative No, try to have a positive view of things, right,
try to be balanced. And if something really is, you know, bad
sure you can think badly of it because it is bad, right? You
don't have to think positive about, you know, a swamp or a
sewer. You know, that's gross, it's dirty. So you can be like, to
something like that. But, you know, when it's just things in
creation or objects, you don't need to walk around with a
negative attitude. Okay. Let's see, we have a lot of other
questions here. Can you wear expensive clothes, we didn't talk
about this in previous sessions. There's nothing wrong with wearing
nice clothing, but it's really a matter of how much right like if,
if you are insisting on only wearing a certain brand, or a
certain type of clothing and you refuse to wear like normal
clothing that other everybody else wears, then there might be you
know, something you want to look at there. But if you'd like to
have some nice things, and you were looking at quality, because
sometimes more expensive things are made really well. They're
tailored and they're made like with better stitching and you know
better fabric and you'd like to keep there's nothing wrong with
that at all. As long as again, you recognize that these are gifts
from a lot and you're not extravagant extravagance is like
where you're doing it too much. It's not balanced it's and and
it's likely again, because you think of yourself maybe as better
and so there's other problems there that you want to look at if
that if if it leads to behavior where you know, you just want to
go and like I said, You are exclusively only wanting to wear a
certain type of clothing and there are people like that that are very
kind of snobby when it comes to these things so that we want to
avoid that right.
So Oh, good question. Can you compare for example with your
friend that you have a better voice? No, no
Would that be a good competition or bad? That's a good question.
You know, if you're both like studying to be reciters, or you're
both in a Quran class and the teacher is helping you both on
your skills to become better reciters are no more poor. And
there's nothing wrong as long as it's a healthy competition. But
you shouldn't, you should want your friend to also succeed,
right? So this is where I want for your brother, what you want for
yourself really matters. Because just you know, being in a
competition with someone that you that you're friends with is, is
fine, as long as the spirit of the competition is full of love. And
it's not, you know, something where it's like, I don't want you
to succeed because I want to win. That's, you know, not good like
they call it sportsmanship, sportsmanship is to say, May the
best person win and really, truly mean it. So if you're in a
competition with your friend, and you're both working really hard,
you succeed, he succeeds, you should want him to succeed, or her
if it's a girl, and you should keep going until the judge or
whoever it is, your teacher decides who the winner is, and be
happy for them. But if it's like, you're competing to the point
where you really don't want them to win, because you have to be on
top of it. And that makes you feel better. That's definitely a
problem. You know, so that's not a form of healthy competition.
healthy competition is wanting good for everybody. And
celebrating like just the excitement of the competition, you
know, like, oh, we just we got to compete with each other, it was
fun, and then letting you go, because at the end of the day,
especially with Quran, there is nobody who loses, you know, if you
you're a winner in every case, if you won the competition of
recitation, according to the judges are not you're a winner
with Allah subhanaw taala. Because for you to spend your days
practicing and trying to become better at the book of Allah
already, you've won, you've won more than you could even imagine.
So just don't make it a big deal. Like who after win this title or
this award or this thing know, when Allah sees, especially if
you're a youth, and you are so connected to his book, you're
already a winner. Right? So hamdulillah
Okay, we have a few more minutes left, I'm scrolling to see these
questions, making sure I don't miss because I always hear it.
Well, at least for my kids. Mommy, you didn't answer my question. Is
hating on cigarettes bad? Sure. That's a great question, actually.
Because when we hate something, hate is a very strong word. First
of all, right? But when we hate something, it should always be
tied with whatever displeases Allah. So you can hate things that
you know, Allah subhanaw taala, and the prophecies that I didn't
like, or they hated, right, so sure, any type of intoxicant or
drug or, you know, alcohol, things that are harmful. Sure, you can
hate them because they there's no benefit. It brings harm to the
world, it brings harm to people. Right. So that's perfectly fine.
That's a good question. Thank you for asking.
Let's see.
Thank you, sweetheart. Rahel, John, thank you so much for your
very sweet comment. They have to leave. I appreciate your, your
taking the time to thank me, and your very kind message for the
office. So I want to come to you and your brother, let's see.
I have another question.
So I have a question that says, What if someone was wearing really
nice shoes, and then his friend was wearing like ripped shoes,
right? So the shoe that his friend is wearing is not in a good
condition. And the guy with a nice shoe says mine are newer and
better, right? Is this permissible? Well, you guys, I
hope you know the answer. If you're going to make someone else
feel bad, because their clothing or what they have is not as nice
as you and you want to show off and say mine are better and nicer.
That is not good at all to do because, as we just said, a last
part that a may have blessed you with nicer shoes, but your
character isn't very good, right? If you do something like that,
that's not having good character. Good. Other is not ever making
someone feel bad or looking down on them and mocking their things
and making them feel like they're less than you that's bad. So even
if your shoes are good, the bigger issue is that you have bad
character. And that means that you're probably not in good state
with Allah. So you should ask Allah to remove that from your
heart that I don't want to ever make someone feel bad because of
the way they're done.
Last and then comparing with my stuff because I have nicer things.
No, that's not humble, you should have humility. And as we've been
saying, know that whatever good Allah has given you, he can always
take it back. So and the quickest way for that to happen is to show
arrogance, right? If you show arrogance, you the blessings will
be removed from you. And the opposite is true. If you show
gratitude and humility, and you're kind to other people and you do
good deeds, Allah will increase you in your blessings. So it's up
to you, what do you want, you want to risk losing all the nice things
you have? Or you want to keep them? Right. So in short, you
shouldn't do that.
Oh, thank you so much. Mashallah, sister, should I sit for your very
nice comment?
Oh, Mashallah. Okay, I think so. Trying to jog my memory, I think
so I need to know how old you are. Because this is a youth class. So
I'm not sure if I'm talking to a youth or an adult. But thank you,
sister shyster, for your lovely comment, I hope to meet you again.
What are your Okay, so I have another question. What if you're
trying not to make them feel bad, or the person says something mean
back, you know, if someone is being like petty, and they're
mocking you don't go down to their level, you know, be above it, just
look at them and say, I'm not gonna do that. Because you're, you
know, you're wrong. And Allah is not happy with you. If I say the
same thing back to you, or I give you a comeback, then I'm the same
as you. Because you said something rude and not nice. And now if I'm
trying to defend myself and do the same thing, how is that any
better, right? So when you have people that are mean, and rude,
it's just better to just let it go. And not to make it make give
them the importance, right. Because if you sit there and you
go back and forth, and back and forth, you're telling them that
I'm going to give you my time, but your time is very important. And
you should say, Nope, I'm not going to waste my time on that.
And that sends actually a much stronger message to that person
because they want you you know, sometimes people are incite you,
they want to make you angry, they want to make you mad. So if you're
like, Ah, I'm not doing that, I got better things to do than waste
my time on on that. It'll upset them even more, because they're
like, Oh, I really wanted them to, to get a reaction out of you. So
that's actually a more powerful position to just say, Nope, not
having it. And to walk away, instead of giving in fighting,
arguing back and forth. And then everybody's kind of like, okay,
this is pointless, and either or that. Or it could turn into
something heated and you end up causing a bigger problem, right?
So why do that just walk away, you're in a position of power and
control, and the other person's just left there by themselves with
nobody to complain to? So you went
okay, Mashallah. So
so I get another question. This will be the last question then
what ended, if someone has nice shoes, and another person has a
nice shirt? Is it okay to tease each other? So whenever you're
competing, and it's all out of love,
you know, it's all good. If it's, if it's out of love, and there's a
spirit of, of, you know, just happiness and, and teasing in a
gentle way. There's nothing wrong with that. But it's when it starts
to get really mean. And you're looking down on people and you're
letting that into your heart. That's when it's a problem. Okay.
All right, well, hamdulillah so thank you everybody, for being
here, just like morphine and Inshallah, we will see you on
Thursday. Okay, so come back for our what is it? Fifth clot and our
sixth class is on Thursday. All right. And shall we'll go ahead
and then thank you does that go ahead? And thank you, amen. And
please say sometimes to your family as well, all of you. Thank
you guys, and I will see you Thursday will end in the office,
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