Hosai Mojaddidi – Session 4 Purification of the Heart for Muslim Teenagers
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The speakers stress the importance of healthy competition and feedback in the context of heart disease, avoiding confusion, and dealing with past mistakes. They also emphasize the need for clear feedback and intentions in the future. The importance of privacy and privacy in the heart to avoid privacy and privacy in the future is emphasized. Different ways to deal with past mistakes and negative comments on social media are also emphasized.
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Salam Alaikum Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim Al hamdu lillah wa Salatu
was Salam ala I should have an MBA will mursaleen say that our
Mowlana or have you been a Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam, one annual salary of salam for Sleeman Kathira, welcome all
of you to the fourth session of purification of the heart
Alhamdulillah, we are gonna go ahead and maximize our time as
much as possible. And jump right into the first part, which is the
review, right, we do a bit of a review. And I do that by actually
asking you guys some questions. I'm hoping that you remembered
what we covered last session on Tuesday. And I'll go ahead and ask
you Who can tell me and remember, these answers are coming to me
only. Okay, so I'm the one that is able to see exactly who is
providing the answers. And I will list off the answers as they come
in. And make sure to recognize, you know, the order so that those
of you who are you know, doing what we should be doing if I
remember we talked about that, which is competing for good, it's
a good thing to do. So I like healthy competition. And I'd like
to see you guys jumping into the chat box and answering right away.
So the very first question is, this is a disease of the heart
that prevents you from speaking up from acting when you should if you
see something unjust or you have a question about something you get
you know, you're you don't have the courage to speak up what is
that called? Very good so mashallah Amon and with man, I
don't know which of you answered maybe you guys can put a or Oh,
first so that way I know who to address. But great job. You guys
answered first. Mashallah. And oh, amen. You came back with the, with
the Arabic as well, higher they mean very good. So blameworthy.
Modesty or higher. The mean, is the modesty that prevents you it's
being shy, but not in the shyness. That's good, right? We have
shyness, shyness is a beautiful quality, the prophesy cinema shy,
and so wonderful quality for us to have, but blameworthy modesty is
when the shyness actually prevents you from doing the right thing,
right. And the right thing is making sure that if something's
not clear that you're being taught that you get clarity, because you
don't want to walk away confused. Or if you see something bad
happening in front of you, that you speak up, and you say, Hey,
that's not right. And I'm going to defend or speak out against this
thing. So good job. All right. You guys are not going to be able to
see the answers because the chat box is not open to everyone. Okay.
We are controlling the room for many reasons, but primarily for
security reasons. Okay. So the answers are coming to me, and I'm
seeing them. So don't worry about your friends, or other people
seeing your answers. I'm seeing them and I will make sure to
acknowledge who is saying what, okay. All right. So good job. So
the next question I'm going to ask you is, let's see here, I gotta
look up my presentation.
How many thoughts roughly, do we have every day? If you can give me
the range? And tell me about how many of them are negative? I know
this is a big one. Right? And how many of them are repeat thoughts
from the previous day? So first question was, how many overall
thoughts can we have? What's like the maximum that number I gave you
two numbers I said anywhere between this number? And this
number of thoughts everyday people have on average? Who can remember
Oh, Medea, Ma, SHA, Allah. Excellent. You came right in with
a full range so people can have anywhere from 12,000 to 60,000
thoughts a day, excellent job, medium and Zecharia mashallah, you
came in answering 95% are repeated thoughts. Excellent. And you also
said Zecharia, that 80% are negative. So great job you
distinguished between the two, which is so important. So when I
when we're asking questions, make sure to be clear, right? In your
response. So Zachary actually wrote 80%, negative 95%. Repeated
Awesome. That's the kind of focus that I want to see attention,
right, that you're paying attention to the question I'm
asking you, and your answer reflects that because if you just
give me a number, I'm not sure what you're asking, answering.
Right. And I'm making that a little bit challenging because I
don't want it to be too simple. I know some of you are Mashallah.
Too quick, and I gotta give you a challenge. Otherwise, it's not
going to be fine. Right. So, great job on answering that question.
All right.
Let's see here.
What other question Can I ask you? Okay, this is again I'm I'm
getting a little tougher with my questions because I see that you
guys are too sharp Mashallah. This
is the treatment for or the treatment for this particular
disease of the heart is to know the names of Allah subhanaw taala.
Okay. And if we study the names of all spot that it helps to control
something, it helps to control this particular disease. Who can
tell me what the disease's in English and Arabic one answer? So
it's I want the full answer in English and Arabic. And this, by
the way, is not is from last week's or on Tuesday session. So
we're only focusing on those three diseases of the heart that we
covered on Tuesday. Some of you are giving me answers from far
back, but nope. We're looking at again.
Thoughts, excuse me, the last three sessions. So let's hear I
have Oh, mashallah finance. Excellent. A finance you came
through? You gave me exactly what I wanted. You gave me the English.
And then you gave me the Arabic excellent. The disease of the
heart that is treated by studying the 99 names of Allah's Pantera is
called blameworthy thoughts and english how to feed malaria.
Right, which is blameworthy thoughts and Arabic. So I've named
give me both answers. Awesome. Great job. And then next time,
just for your sake, because I don't want anybody to beat you to
it, try to type them all in one answer, because you gave them to
me separate, but I want you to do it fast. But do it also
consolidated. Okay, so that way you get through both of them in
great job. So how femur like Yanni is, is when you have thoughts that
are blameworthy. You shouldn't have them and the way to control
your thoughts is to one of the treatments is to remember the
names of all his brother Very good. Okay. Let's look
Hmm,
this is something that Allah subhanaw taala said, We'll clean
and purify
our wealth, what is the thing that cleans and purifies our wealth?
It's something that we all do. Very good that gidea and Zoya and
Danielle, mashallah both of you answered correct answers.
Academia, you came with sadaqa, which is awesome. And then Zoya
and Danya, you guys came with Zach cat. So both of those aren't
correct, quite answers, right. So setup and charity is both giving.
So that's why you both got a great job. And that we covered under
what we covered under which disease of the heart when we
talked about the importance of charity, right? And the prophesy
said, and he actually said that contentment is a treasure that is
never exhausted. He was speaking really about being in a state of
gratitude. And when you're in a state of gratitude, it helps to
protect from this particular disease of the heart. Again, we're
talking about the ones we've covered on Tuesday. So which
Hadith are which diseases of the heart? Was that in reference to?
Very good, amen. And oh, man, you guys got it? Mashallah. Excellent
job, fear of poverty, hopeful thought a very good. So when
you're afraid of being poor, becoming poor, it's a disease of
the heart. And the way to treat that disease of the heart is to
increase in your gratitude to Allah subhanho wa taala. You're
showing your gratitude and your content when you have contentment
or $1. It means you're very happy with whatever Allah gave you. So
that's one of the ways awesome okay, you guys you did fantastic.
May Allah reward all of you very proud of you guys. You all did
great. So we're gonna go ahead and move on to today's lesson. Okay.
Let me quickly pull on do the screenshare and hopefully we'll
get this going right away. Inshallah, I'm going to present
just give me a minute present. And here we go. Okay, so also, let me
open up the cute the chat box so that I can see what you guys are
saying. All right, whoa.
There we go.
Let me drag you over here. So hopefully you guys can see
everything right. So here we go. We are beginning week two. This is
the second week Thursday's lesson. So let's start with a quick
summary of the disease of the heart that we've covered this
week. Okay. So remember Tuesday we did blameworthy, modesty
blameworthy, blameworthy thoughts, fear of poverty. Today I said
we're gonna go over the next four. We have ostentation, which is the
Yeah. We have relying on other than God Ithaca law right Allah.
We have displeasure with Divine Decree suffer the other and we
have seeking reputation. So Matt, so this is what we're going to
cover today. Okay, so let's go ahead and start. So Austin tation.
Okay, this is a very I know it's a big word. It's kind of like huh,
Austin, what? ostentation. Okay, everybody should say it. If you're
home. Just say it to yourself, Austin.
Question. What is ostentation? This is the Arabic of Israel. This
is when you show off or you're doing things to get attention and
praise from other people and not for Allah subhanho wa taala. Okay?
It's dangerous because it means that you care more about
people and what they think about you than you do about pleasing
Allah subhanho wa taala. So ostentation, right? And this is
why almost tells us that in the Quran that everything we do, will
be rewarded appropriately. Okay. And that means according to our
intention, so whatever your intention is, then Allah will
reward you. And so there's a hadith of famous Hadith where
there's three people that in this dunya, they achieved things and
they did things, because they they made a claim, they said it was for
the pleasure of Allah, but on the day of judgment, a lot of reminds
them, No, you didn't do it for me. So the first person is the
knowledgeable person who went and, you know, became very
knowledgeable. And they said that they did that for the sake of
Allah, but Allah tells them on the Day of Judgment, no, you went and
got knowledge so that people could call you the most knowledgeable
and praise You for Your knowledge, right? It wasn't for my sake. The
other person is a wealthy person who gives, you know their money,
for they say they're doing it for the sake of Allah. But Allah
really knows what's in their heart. And He reminds them and he
says, On the Day of Judgment, no, you didn't give money for my sake,
you gave it so that people could say about you, you were so
generous, such a generous man That man was. And so Allah tells them
on the Day of Judgment, you get the reward for what you did just
just that when we felt that means that you get your this is your You
already got your reward, you did it for the praise. So you got the
praise, right? And then the last category is a man who goes to
jihad, right, they fight for the for the sake of almost put that in
a war. And they die saying that they did it for the sake of Allah.
But Allah reminds them no, you did it so that you could be treated,
you know, hailed a hero like, Oh, what a heroic man he was, he
fought with such valor and strength. You did it so people
could praise you. And that's the reward you already got. Because
people praised you. So you got your reward. So ostentatious is
really dangerous. Because if your intention isn't for the sake of
Allah, then this is what happens is you actually end up losing the
reward of what you're doing. And you whatever your intention was,
that's going to be what your reward is, you won't get the
pleasure of Allah subhanaw taala. Right. So that's why we have to
remember and yes, thank you, as the Slim says, This is why we're
taught in the mala Mala vignette, right? That every single thing
that we do is based on our intentions. So if our intentions
aren't right, we are not going to, we're going to get whatever our
intentions are. And that's why it's so important to always make
sure your intention is for the sake of Allah Savannah with that,
okay, so let's look more at this disease of the heart.
So RIA is so dangerous that the Prophet was so I'm actually gave
it a special name. Okay. So this hadith he said, Indeed, the thing
that I fear for you the most is the minor schicke which is
associating partners with Allah subhanaw taala. Okay. So when we
associate partners that means we say that Allah has, you know,
help, like he's got helpers, and people you know, who have the
wrong idea about our spider will say certain things about who those
helpers are we of course, Allah doesn't need to know help. He has
no helpers he is one right that's a very big part of being a Muslim.
So he's saying here that he he's fears for us the minor form of
Shek so the his companions were like, wait, what? What's the minor
ship? Because they understood that shidduch was just saying that
Allah has partners he they didn't know what what a small minor means
small right? Majors big, minor, small. So they were like what's
minor should should and he said Rhea, Rhea, showing off. So
there's two forms of shit. There's one which is saying that Allah
actually has partners. And then the other is, is doing things for
other than Allah subhanaw taala, right, whenever we do anything
that is not for the sake of Allah, and we're doing it for the
pleasure of other people, that it's kind of like we're making
those people, partners with Allah, right? It's not the same as
worshiping them but it is making them so important that we start
doing things for their pleasure instead of looking at the pleasure
of Allah subhana wa Tada. Okay, so and I see some questions, you guys
I will get to your questions, but we'll have to wait till the end.
So don't exhaust yourselves right now typing too much about the
questions. Wait, save them and wait for the end. Okay.
So In another Hadith, this is actually a really good Hadith
because it's giving you an example, the process and gave the
example of someone who is making the event, right. And while making
the event they think, wow, I bet the people think that my voice is
beautiful, right? And so that is an example of Riyadh, right? And
another Hadith Abrahms. Lesson said that Riyadh is so dangerous.
It's sneaky, that it's like the black ant on the black rock in the
night with no moon, right? It can sneak up on you like this. So you
have to pay so much attention to your intentions. Otherwise, these
thoughts will come inside your heart. Like let's say, you know,
you're at the masjid and you're, you're taking a class, right? With
a teacher. And then the teacher looks at you and says, if you're
like, if you're an older boy, let's say you're a teenage boy, 15
years old, and the teacher looks to you and says, I haven't I want
you to lead the prayer today. Okay, it's not a prayer, and you
have to lead it and you're like, what? Me? And the teacher says,
yeah, man, you know, Hamdulillah you know, Quran, you've been
studying it. And then as soon as he tells you to do that, you kind
of get this thought in your head. Oh, wow, I'm gonna get to now
recite in front of everybody. I'm gonna, you know, get on the
microphone. And a whole Masjid is going to hear my voice. Wow,
everybody's gonna think I'm such a good reciter of Quran that is
real. It's entering your heart and makes you want to kind of show
off, right? So you want to be very careful, because if you're ever
asked to do something like that, it's a responsibility, right? To
lead people in prayer is a huge responsibility. So it should kind
of be heavy on your heart, not like, moo I can't wait to show
off, right? That's not how you look at it. Okay. So let's look at
this. I like this example of the aunt. Okay. So if you look on the
left, okay, I have this and it's in broad daylight, right? You can
see ants when they're in day, can't you. You can see them if
they come on your counters in the kitchen. Or if you're walking even
on the sidewalk, you'll see a trail of ants in the daytime. But
if it's nighttime, if it's super dark, right, and the you know,
there's no moon out. And you let's say you're sitting outside, if
you've ever gone camping, or you're just kind of in nature, if
you're sitting somewhere and you there's not a whole lot of light,
right? Then if an ant comes up on you or a trail of ants, you might
not see it at all right? That's why the analogy is important to
kind of reflect on that you if you're not paying attention, this,
this disease of the heart can creep up on you. Just like an ant
that's in that's dark itself, it's a black hand on a black rock in
the middle of the night can sneak up on you. So think about that.
Whenever you have anything that you have to do always question
your intentions. Ask yourself, why am I really doing this? Is it
really because I want a lot to be happy with me? Or is it because I
want people to praise me and compliment me and make me feel
special. And I want to make I want to look my look at myself better
right than other people. Or I want you know, I want excuse me, I want
other people to look at me as though I'm better. Maybe better
than my cousins or my siblings or my best friends or my classmates,
I want my teachers to think I'm better than them. This is react,
so we have to be so careful. Okay, very important thing. Alright, so
next, we're going to talk about the treatment. So how do you get
rid of this? Well, the treatment that emammal Malu talks about in
purification of the heart, is that you should increase your hidden
good deeds. So the things that you're doing in private, you
should start increasing those deeds. Like if you let's say, for
example, you feel like really grateful to Allah, like some maybe
you're lying in bed and you're like, Yo, Allah, thank you so much
for giving me my family and my home. And this life that I have,
you know, there's so many people that don't have a home, they don't
even have their parents even though prophets lie Selim. He
didn't know his parents, right. I mean, he barely knew his mother.
He never met his father, his mother passed when he was six
years old. So there's so many kids your age who don't have what you
have, a lot of them have been through really difficult times. So
if you ever feel that great sense of gratitude, right? The next day,
for example, you could come and go, mom, dad, you know, last night
I was in bed, and I felt so much gratitude to Allah. And I just was
praising him. And I was going to start sharing what you did, right?
And what you felt you could do that. And then you you could say,
I'm gonna go and pray to the cat and you know, do this or I'm going
to go give sadaqa you want to do something right to show your great
gratitude to Allah. You could do that in front of everybody in
front of your brothers and sisters and everybody listening. Or you
could say, this feeling I have is for a lot. It really is. And I
don't need to share it with everybody. So what I'm going to do
is I'm going to maybe when everybody goes
To sleep, or, you know, right before Fajr if I can wake up
because now most if you guys are waking up a little bit early for
so who are with your families, then maybe you go and you wake up
a little early and you pray you make will do. And then you go to a
private place in the house and you just pray your tutor CA, and you
have your moment with Allah and you don't really need to share it
with other people. You don't need to come the next day and broadcast
a broadcast is like announcement everybody, I just prayed to recap,
or I prayed 20 to account where I did 1000 Vica you don't need to do
that. Because when it's truly for Allah, he already knows he's he
sees it, he knew that you are going to do it before you even
thought of the idea. So you just have to be happy that
Alhamdulillah Allah knows that I did this for him and not worry
about what mom says what dad says what your brothers and sisters
think of you or your teachers, you know, you don't come the next day
to school and reported to your teachers. Oh, guess what I did,
you know, just keep those things hidden. So you want to increase
your hidden actions because that will make you less likely that you
have this disease of the heart Ria. And then here is you know, an
example of the process. I'm actually making dua for protection
from RIA because it's such a sneaky disease that all of us we
have to be so careful of getting right. Even he made the art for
it. Subhanallah because back before, you know there before
Islam, the Quraysh the people of Mecca they used to make hudge but
in that time it's called the period of Jamelia. It's called the
period of ignorance. They didn't know they weren't Muslim. What
they would do is when they would make the hedge because remember,
the hedge was, you know, in honor of Prophet Ibrahim Ali Salaam and
ismail alyssum, they created the kava, so they were a lot of the
people in that time, they would still do the Hajj to honor them,
right. So when they would do it, they would be very arrogant about
it and they would make it a big show like I am gonna go do the
hudge and they would you know, kind of brag about it. So the
province I sent him did not want to do anything like those people.
So he actually here he asked, Oh Allah, I intend to perform hedge,
please free free me from ostentation and seeking fame like
I don't, I'm not doing it so that people can say, Oh, I made hedge,
you know, I'm doing it for you, but he himself would make dua,
that Allah protects him from that. So we should certainly make the
odd that we that Allah removes that from our heart that we don't
do things to show off. Okay. So that's the treatment for
ostentation. And of course, we should be humble and always know
that whatever we're doing is, is because of Allah's Prophet, he
loves us and he's drawing us closer to him. And he doesn't like
arrogance, those things are not good to have showing off. He
doesn't like those qualities he loves humility, right and he loves
things that are done in hidden secret for his sake. So increase
your good deeds that way. All right. So the next disease of the
heart, this is right. Yeah, Taka Allah, Allah which is relying on
other than God. So this is a disease of the heart because if
you get too used to relying on people, you can easily forget that
Allah is the one that he is the one who gives you every good deed
Right? Or every good thing excuse me, every blessing you have is
from Allah subhanaw taala. Even if it comes through your parents,
your grandparents, your teachers, your you know, aunts, uncles,
whoever, if you recognize or if you always remember that all good
deeds, no matter what come from Allah, then you learn to also put
your focus back whenever you have a need, you go back to Allah, you
don't go to people with your needs, right. So here all of us
power that tells us, he says do not call onto any beings other
than Allah. These are these are capable of neither benefit nor
harm, right? So anybody else other than Allah, they are not capable
of benefiting you or harming you, right? It's just don't go to that
right? To do so is there for guilt is guilty of wrongdoing. When
Allah flicks you with something, no one can remove it except him.
So basically, this is telling us turn to Allah subhanaw that for
everything right? For good when you need something and when you're
being tested. Go to him for help. Don't go to people because people
can't benefit you or harm you. Right? And then he also says here,
seek your livelihood from Him and worship Him alone. Reminding us
again, don't go to people for your needs but only go to Allah subhana
wa Tada. Okay, so, this is an important point because one of the
things that Muslims don't do is beg okay? We believers don't beg
people. When we have a need, whatever that need is we go to
Allah subhanaw taala
First, and we ask Allah for help. Yeah, Allah, you know, maybe
you're worried, for example, about money or you're worried about your
health, or you're worried about, you're someone you love, right?
And that you, you know you you want protection from them that
Allah protects them from harm. So if you have some need that's heavy
on your heart, you go to a lesser Partha, first and foremost, and
you ask him, please help me help my parents help my loved ones. And
you make those dogs very important to always do that first, then, of
course, you can look to see in your life, if there is a place
that you can go to seek help, because begging and seeking help
are not the same thing. Begging is, and we'll talk about the
difference, right? But begging is where you you're not asking Allah
for help at all, you're just turning to someone and saying,
Please, please, please give something to me, right? That's not
the same as actually looking to places or people that are there to
help you. Right? So there's people for example, in our community,
excuse me, some of them have a hard time with making enough money
to pay for rent, and food and clothes. And so that's why we have
a cat right? We have the cat through the masjid because we are
supposed to look out for each other. Allah gives to some people
more than he gives other people so those of us who hamdulillah who
he's given a lot to that our job is
just so that's why I
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Exactly.
Join us for that. But I was saying that we don't beg in Islam.
Because begging a lot of times people who beg what happens is
people can be so cruel. And they end up humiliating them, they kick
them out, they spit on them, they kick them. And this is Allah
doesn't want that for us. He doesn't want us to ever be treated
that way. Right. And so we he tells us not to beg, because we
should have an honor and the way that we we conduct ourselves. And
so if we need help we turn to the masjid, we turn to different
places that offer support and services, hospitals, clinics, if
we need certain things, and we get help, right, but we do not. Back
in here looking at the prophesy sermon. He says here at the
bottom, he says, By the one in whose hand my life is right, he's
talking about Allah, it is better for one of you to take a rope and
carry firewood on his back, then for him to go to someone and beg,
who will either give him or refuse to give him anything. So here the
process is doing the same thing. He's protecting us, He says, Go
get rope, go get some firewood and sell that that's better for you,
even though it's heavy labor to go get rope and collect firewood chop
down wood, you know, you might get splinters, you might cut yourself.
But he's saying that's better. It's better to work hard and earn
your money than to go and beg other people, right who can either
give you something or may not and may actually end up humiliating
you and refusing you. So he's also protecting the honor our honor by
telling us this. So let's talk about this a little bit more. Look
at these people, right? I like this example of carrying
the duck, right? Because it's showing you that working for our
needs is more pleasing to Allah subhana wa Tada. Right, even if
it's difficult, right? Because we're putting our trust in Him.
And we're not making it difficult for others when you go and beg
someone else. You're actually putting that person in an awkward
situation too. Because it's like, oh, okay, sure here I'll give you
my money. What if I needed the money right? What if I was, what
if I had like $10 in my pocket, and I needed it to go buy
something important, but now that you've put me on the spot, I feel
weird and I have to give you my money.
And all because you didn't want to work for it, right? So when you
work for it, and you actually are willing to do something as
strenuous as taking firewood on your back and look at this lady in
the middle picture, right, this she's probably an older woman. But
this is what people have, you know, belief and integrity and
they, you know, have a strong work
ethic because when you have something, right, which is very
important in Islam, they're willing to work even into their
70s and 80s. You see some people mashallah working, because they
don't ever want to beg people. So you have people all throughout the
world, they understand this, we should understand it too. And
begging, right is making it easy for yourself, but you're making it
hard for other people. And that's why it's discouraged. So we don't
turn to people for our needs. We go directly to Allah subhanho wa
taala. Okay. And so I hope that's clear. This is the part of relying
on other than Allah, right? A total evade Allah. So the
treatment for this is get in the habit of first and foremost, if
you have any need whatsoever to ask us path data. And sometimes
people think like, oh, you know, as a kid, let's say what are your
needs, you know, maybe you want to go to some vacation, you're
excited about summer break, because you want to go somewhere,
that's a one, two, right, you have to know the difference between
want and need. But even those wants, if you really, really want
something, you go to Allah subhanaw taala and ask him for it,
right. And my boys, for example, they love Legos, they could do
Legos all day long. And so, you know, if they really, really want
Legos, they should then go to a lot and say, y'all please put it
in my parents heart to get me this Lego set that I want, please get
along, and maybe something will happen. Maybe, you know, their
parents might not necessarily get it for them, maybe their
grandparents will surprise them with an Eid gift or a birthday
gift. This happens all the time, right? Where a child or someone
will really want something. But that if you turn that want into a
DUA, and you go to Allah subhanaw taala, then you start to realize
that all good everything that you ever want, is always from Allah
anyway, no matter who it comes through. So why even bother asking
a person about it, I'll just ask Allah for it, and he will
inshallah find a way to get it to me. So always do that. First, ask
ALLAH SubhanA. Allah first. And then the other thing is also to
start to lower your expectations from people. Because to be honest,
as an adult, you're most of you are young, you'll see that a lot
of people are going to disappoint you in life, right? And it's just
natural, because not everybody can always think about everybody else.
So what happens is sometimes, you know, people are there for you.
Sometimes they're not, sometimes you call your friend or your
sister or your cousin or your brother. And you say, hey, I need
help. And they go, sorry, I'm doing something else. I have my
own family, I have my own obligations. And it gets kind of
hard to hear that all the time. But if you stop asking, right,
people, you stopped turning to people, and you just start
becoming more self sufficient, which is, you know what, I'm going
to just start learning to do things on my own, because it makes
me not depend on people. And I'll also ask Allah for help like,
Allah, send me the helpers. You know, I am not going to bother
other people. I need help. But I'm going to rely on you to bring me
that help. Right. This is a show of great Eman. And so we should
get in the habit of doing that, as opposed to depending too much on
other people. And then dealing with disappointment and dealing
with, you know, so many problems that come when someone says to
you, for example, I'll be there. Like, let's say you're moving. I
mean, this happens to people, you know, and you have to move your
whole house, okay? Packing up your boxes and lifting up heavy
furniture by yourself isn't easy, right? So there's sometimes people
who've called up their friends and you know, whoever, and they say,
Hey, can you help me I need to help and they're like, Sure, I'll
be there. But then moving day comes along, and all of a sudden,
oh, there's nobody, like two people show up or not even, maybe
one person shows up out of all these people you call it and
everybody's texting you that day are calling you the night before.
Sorry, I have to go somewhere else. And I didn't even know and I
had an appointment and my mom needed this. And so now you're
sitting by yourself going, I rented a moving truck. And I don't
have any help. And it just gets really hard right? But if you
start saying I'm not going to do that rather, Ya Allah give me the
means and the ability to just get things done then you can maybe
hire someone or you know someone that when you pay people it's a
little different, right and people will show up but but the point is,
is a low open an opportunity or a way for you to get what you need.
Because you use the means that he gave you if he gave you wealth,
you can like I said call up a service and ask them to help or he
can maybe you know, send
Someone your way that is also in need of work. And now you're both
helping each other out, right? So Allah will do that for you in sha
Allah, but turn to him first. This is how you treat this disease of
the heart of relying too much on other people. Okay, inshallah. So
Alhamdulillah I hope you guys are, Is everything clear? And quickly
check the q&a, make sure there's no issues with my screen or
anything or my volume. Right. It's good, right. All right. So let us
Bismillah go to the next one. So Sofitel, this is displeasure with
Divine Decree, or this disease is when you cannot accept when
something happens, or has already happened. And you keep thinking,
why, why me? Why did this have to happen to me? Okay, so let's say
for example, you lose your wallet, okay? Or you break your iPad, or
your phone, you're playing and then boom, it crashes, or an
accident happens in your brother does it or your sister does it,
they break your toy. Okay, very easy to let your enough's react
and get mad. That's a normal response, okay? And we're all
going to do that in our lives until we learn better, right? So
it's okay to do that. Because you're a human being and you're
reacting. But when you think back after your emotions calm down a
little bit, if you keep thinking, why did that have to happen? Why,
why, why, and you keep going, like, just over and over, whatever
it was, and it replays in your mind, and it really bothers you
that it happened. This is when this disease of the heart is
manifesting, right? It's coming out. Because if something if Allah
if something already happens, and Allah decreed it to happen, which
means it's his will, then you just have to accept it, right? Because
we don't always know what's good for us and what's not good for us.
That's really the bottom line. We really don't. And that's why this
ayah in the Quran, says what it may be that you dislike something,
though it is good for you. And it may be that you love something,
though it is bad for you, and God knows and you do not know. Okay,
so this is a really good time to just kind of talk about this
because as you guys grow up in life, you're gonna have to do
certain things that you might not want to do because you think, you
know, you're looking at it from a physical or material perspective.
For example, let's just say medicine. Okay? There's some
medicines that are bitter. All right. And when you think of even
taking them, you're like, oh, gosh, it's so disgusting. I don't
want to put it in my mouth, I'm gonna throw up and, and you're
just making it seem like it's the worst thing in the world. But that
medicine is a healing for you. So if you take the medicine, it's
going to help you in some way or another, right? That's there's
certain things that Allah has made in this dunya like that, that
they're not they don't sound good, they don't taste good, your knifes
isn't going to like it. But in actual reality, it's really good
for you. The opposite is also true. For example, there are
certain things that if you eat too much of it, it will have opposite
effect, but the knifes almost pushes you to do that. How many of
you have ever eaten way too much sweets, right? Because it was so
good. Whether it was ice cream, or is candy or it was cookies or
birthday cake? Right? You've eaten something because you're like, oh
my god, that looks so delicious.
And you end up feeling fit?
Sick, your knifes is telling you keep eating it. Your taste buds
are like oh no, maybe because the sugar and so keep eating it. But
then unfortunately what happens? Give it 1015 minutes 20 minutes,
and boom that stomach ache comes in. And the stomachache causes so
much pain, right.
So did you guys hear what I said? I'm getting messages that it froze
again. I don't know what's up with my internet today. I'm so sorry. I
was talking about the idea that says it may be that you dislike
something, though. It's good for you. And maybe that you love
something though it's bad for you and you don't really know Allah is
the one that knows. So the example we gave was about medicine that's
bitter but really good for you. Or candy and sweets that's good and
tastes good. But too much of it is bad for you and sugar just
generally speaking, can cause a lot of inflammation and problems
in the body. So when we eat it, we have
Have to be controlled and how we eat it otherwise, a lot of
problems, right? So this is how the world is generally there's
going to be a lot of things that are not always pleasant to do. But
it's good for you even fasting, some people are not that happy
fasting, because it's like, oh, man, I can't have my cereal in the
morning or my coffee. And you know, they kind of get caught up
in all the things that they can't do. And they forget that fasting
is amazing for your body, your body is like this machine. And
when you fast it helps to heal itself. There's all this repair
happening, right? So fasting is incredible. But yeah, if you're
letting your knifes you know, think about fasting, it's not
gonna like it very much. So Allah knows better. So when he tells us
to fast, that's why we fast, because he knows what's better for
us. And so when we, if something happens, we have to just accept
that our Lord knows better and we have to be happy with whatever He
wills for us, right? Well, for us, if it's in the past, obviously,
thinking of the future, this is different, because it hasn't
happened yet. So you can make dua like Oh, Allah protect me from
this. And don't let this happened to me. We don't want obviously bad
things to happen. But if certain bad things happen already, then
you have to be willing to let go, instead of letting shade on make
you replay it over and over again, with why why why, right, that's
what we're talking about. And so, another really important point to
the year is to know that all people in the world are in four
different situations at any given time. And sometimes you can be
more than one of them at the same time. But let's look at let's
understand this. The first is that you're in blessing, okay? So if
you're in blessing, that means everything's kind of going great
for you, you have an hamdullah family, you have money, you have
education, you have a lot of good things in life, and things are
pretty good, right? Alhamdulillah, you have a lot to be grateful for.
So what Allah expects from you, if you're in that state of blessing,
is that you continue to be grateful, right? That you're
continuously Alhamdulillah Thank you, Allah, and you are sure
you're using those blessings for good. So if he's giving you wealth
and money that you help people in need, if he's giving you
knowledge, do you teach people, if he's giving you a skill or a
talent, you do it for good, right? You use that talent for the good
of humanity. You don't use it to destroy people and to cause harm
to people. Right? That is how we express our gratitude to Allah.
The second is that you're in a state of biller or tribulation,
which means that, that you're being tested that there's some
difficulty that you have, it can be with wealth, it can be with
your relationships, you know, it can be with your health, but there
is a problem that Allah is testing you in. And what is he expecting
from you? is patience. Are you going to be patient with me?
Because you're going through this difficulty? Or are you going to
react and be, you know, not happy? And this is what displeasure of
the Divine decree is? Because sometimes people are tested and
they have a hard time accepting Allah's will. And then shaitan
comes along and says, yeah, and they start, you know, but he
starts putting all these bad thoughts in your heart, and it can
cause problems. But when people have the right understanding, then
they know that when they're being tested, like Prophet iubat, Elisa
Lam, right. He was tested, he lost all of his children. He got very
sick, he lost his home, he lost everything, everything, everything
everything. And though he responded with what subbrand Jimmy
and beautiful patients, right, so did profit. Yep, cool right with
when his son Yusuf was taken from him. These stories that we learned
about the prophets, teach us about beautiful patients, even the
prophesy said of himself, look at his life, as we said, he didn't
know as a father, he lost his mother, lost his grandfather, his
uncle, he buried his beloved wife, his first wife, Khadija, the law
and are the Mother of the Believers. He lost her and then he
lost five of his six children. He had to bury them himself, and he
went through famine, you where he was, you know, him and the Muslims
were starving. They were persecuted. There was so much that
done to them. But through all of it, did he ever complain? Did he
ever say why me? I'm the prophet of God, why are you doing this to
me? Allah? Allah never, never would he ever say those words,
because he had so much Iman and Allah, and he understood that
everything, even the hardships are always good because we don't know
what's good for us. Right? So beautiful patients is the
response. The third is if you're guided Alhamdulillah we have
guidance. We're Muslim. Allah loves us. He's drawing us close to
him. And so we have to know though that though we are praying and
we're fasting, we should never let arrogance enter.
Are heart and become self righteous. When you're self
righteous, you start looking at yourself as better than everybody
else. So that's the response that is expected of you if you have
guidance, Allah wants you to realize that it's from him and not
to become arrogant with that guidance. Don't think you're
better than people, even non Muslims. You don't go around
treating people like your neighbors or people in public.
Like you're better just because you're Muslim. You wear hijab and
you fast or you have a beard. None of that matters. What matters is
hard.
Salam
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Mr. Issa, you froze just for a minute. Right now? Yeah, my
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have two or three people attending the session right now maybe one of
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many people are using the internet in this house, and we're weak in
the signal. Okay, so get off of it, please. Alright. So if you're
again, in guidance, what is what does that mean? It means that you
should be grateful to all this product, because as we said, there
are people who may be drinking alcohol today. But maybe in 510
years from now, they've made Toba and they're now a fella. Maybe
they've become a half of the Quran. How do you know, you don't
know what their future is? So you always want to look at everybody,
as you know what not my place to judge, I'm just going to be a good
person and do what I'm taught by the prophesy seven, which is
always want good for people want guidance for people, instead of
thinking I'm better than anybody, right? And then the last disease
of the heart, or I'm sorry, the last day, excuse me, I'm getting
so many messages my my brain is, okay. So the last state that
people can be in is disobedience. Right. And so people fall and they
fall by by, you know, not doing what they're supposed to do,
right? They make mistakes. That's another way of saying they're
making mistakes. So people sin, they don't do sometimes what
they're supposed to do. And if that happens, then the response is
to keep going back to a lot to make Toba to Allah subhanaw taala
to ask ALLAH SubhanA data for forgiveness, that's the response
that you should have. So anytime you make a mistake, don't think
like oh, I'm so terrible, Allah will never forgive me never think
that that's from shaitan. Because he wants you to flip away from
Allah because you know, he's making you feel bad about
yourself. Rather, just think Allah is the most forgiving. And like he
says, even if your sins are like the, you know, the foam of the
ocean, or they reach the sky, keep coming back. Because the more we
come back to Allah, He will, you know, the better it is for us,
because we're showing him that we love Him and that we know, he's so
forgiving. And so that is the response of someone who's in that
state of disobedience. So, so it's again, so important to remember,
if Allah wills something you let go, okay. And so the treatment,
again, of having this is that you remember that really, almost
father is the only one that knows what's good for us, we do not know
Right? And then to reflect on the life of the prophesy set, and
think about how much he endured all the things we talked about, he
lost so much, but he never ever complained ever, about any of it.
Not even once he understood that all of it was from Allah, and he
accepted, accepted it and then also remember that whatever
happens to you, whatever the thing was, that you're not happy about,
it could always be worse. Right? And or it could, you know,
Alhamdulillah that had happened and some material thing, right? It
was like a thing that you could replace, you can replace a bike,
you can replace a phone, you can replace things like that, and it
wasn't in your deen because having a problem in your deen is far
worse, right? So if Allah is testing you in a material thing,
not a big deal, right? So we just are grateful that 100 lights and
that and nothing else, and then that it's in this world and not
the next world, because we don't want to be tested in the next
world, right? We always ask Allah for protection from that, you
know, from any punishments in the next life, rather, for whatever
mistakes we've done, or things that might have been aren't good.
Let us you know, deal with those things in this dunya instead of
the next life. So this is how we treat this particular disease of
the heart. Okay. And now we're going to in a while we got to
speed it up because I want to answer your questions. So seeking
reputation, Sama is the last disease we're going to cover
today. We did four usually we're doing three, but we're going to
try to squeeze in this four and if we go over a few minutes, it's
okay and I hope you're praying
okay with that, but seeking repetition, this is a really
important one because you guys are growing up in a time where social
media is everywhere, okay? You see a lot of people, even young kids
your age or younger, there's people who have YouTube pages and
Instagram pages and Tik Tok and Snapchat, and Twitter and
Facebook, they're everywhere and what's happening to him, they're
getting very, very famous, and they're making a lot of money. So
a lot of kids tend to think, Ooh, that sounds so cool. I want to be
like them too. I want to be famous, I want to be known. But
it's a disease of the heart to ever want to be known to people
and to start sharing your talents and good deeds and bragging about
your, what you do. That's a disease of the heart. Okay? And so
we have to be very careful about letting that just because again,
it's something that we're seeing everywhere, that we ended up also
falling into this behavior. Because Allah Subhana Allah is the
only one who exalts people exalted, bringing people up right
making them special. So Allah is the One who is you exalt him ever
you will only Allah does it, and you debase whomever you are.
debase is the opposite. So if exalting is to make someone
important, and you know give them that that status to debase is to
lower them and humiliate them, that's only Allah subhanho. He's
the only one who can do that, right? Indeed, you have power over
all things. So we recognize that we shouldn't look for reputation
or fame in with people, though, it's pointless. And we're going to
talk more about that in a second. But also, here's the Hadith,
whoever seeks reputation, whoever wants to be famous, in this world,
Allah's path that will expose them on the Day of Judgment. So this is
a very serious thing. If you want fame in this world, then that's
the risk you're taking, that Allah will humiliate you and expose you
on the Day of Judgment to everybody. And we don't want that
we never want that we want our intentions always to be pure for
his sake. And we don't want fame because fame is quite dangerous.
Okay, and here, I'm going to explain pursuing fame, there's a
phrase called Chasing the carrot, okay? Chasing the carrot is
something that they used to do back in the days, these poor
horses and animals, right, they would have to sometimes travel and
do a lot of physical labor for human beings before we had cars
and all of these other things. So they would these owners got, you
know, they thought, Hmm, how can we get these mules and donkeys and
horses to keep moving? What? What incentive can we give them? What
reward can we give them that will make them keep moving instead of
stopping in their tracks and resting right, so what they did is
they would tie a carrot to a stick. And they would put it on
the wagon, or they would put it right here like on in this
example. And it would hang in front of the poor donkey, or the
horse or the mule. And the animal doesn't know its thinking it's
within reach. Because if something is hanging in front of you,
naturally, you think I'm going to walk towards it and then get it
right. So that's how they would trick these poor animals to keep
working, keep working, keep working. But that phrase chasing
the carrot also applies to fame. That what the pursuit of fame is,
it's like chasing a carrot. It's you're never gonna get the carrot.
The poor animal never really got the carrot until the end, right?
Maybe when they arrived. Finally, after miles and miles and miles,
hours and hours, maybe they would get a carry. But that's what
famous like is that you work towards something that's never
you're never really going to get. And you see a lot of people
working so hard to be famous, but they end up actually destroying
their relationships, losing a lot of money. And there's so many
people who think like, you know, someone will come because there's
something called being scammed, right? A lot of there's a lot of
scammers, scammers are people who are very good at tricking people.
So they come around, and they'll tell you, Oh, I'll make you
famous. And I'll make this for you. And you'll get a show on TV
and you'll be known by the world and you'll make millions and
millions of dollars. Just give me $5,000 And I'll do that for you.
So you think wow, for $5,000 sure if I'm gonna make millions and
millions I'll do it. And so you are innocent, right? You're a pure
hearted. And a lot of young people fall for this kinds of tricks
because they don't have life experience, right? Unless they
have parents and people are teaching them these things. But
some kids end up getting scammed a lot because of false promises. And
so it's like this, it's like they're just making you chase that
carrot. But in actuality you're never get the reward that you that
they promise you. And that's why it's sad because so many people
end up getting hurt and losing a lot of things for fame and so
We never seek fame with people. We only seek to be known by ALLAH
SubhanA wa Tada. So the treatment of summat, like React, right,
which is to show off. So Matt enters the heart because of
something called a buffer. Overflow is the Arabic word. It's
actually a disease of the heart. We're going to cover soon, but
I'll just introduce it now. It's heedlessness, it's when you forget
the priority like what's more important. So when you have a
Hustla, it will lead to Rhea and Suma, both of them ostentation and
wanting reputation, wanting people to hear about all of the good
deeds that you were doing, okay? So, heedlessness is where it
starts, it's because you forget that Allah is more important than
anything and anybody else. And as soon as you forget Allah, then you
start thinking about fame and wanting to be popular and wanting
to be known. And thinking that good is going to come from people,
no good comes from people, right? No good, all good comes from who
Allah subhana data. So don't give up or don't forget him. Because
once you forget him, then other people are going to start taking
you away and distracting you from him. So hiding your good deeds,
and not sharing them with people similarly to, to react right is a
really good way to prevent sama from entering the heart. Right.
And again, this is a Hadith, whoever displays his good deeds to
others, Allah will display his bad deeds on the Day of Judgment. so,
so important that we understand not to show off. So if you're
memorizing Quran, or you've got some knowledge, or you did
something really nice, maybe $50 of your sadaqa, or your gift
money, maybe grandma gave you a lot of money. And now you want to
take some of it and you want to give it to a charity, you don't go
around and tell people those things. Keep your good deeds
hidden there between you and Allah and he doesn't need you to
announce them he already knows right? And then know that no good
can come to you from people. But all good is from Allah subhanaw
taala. And you should seek to be famous with Allah, right? seek
fame through him, not through people, because people don't do
anything for you. But Allah spot that if you make him your number
one priority, then He will exalt you, right that I that that I that
we talked about before, he will make you important to people,
because you made him important. And that's also a hadith, whoever
makes Allah subhanaw taala priority and puts in his pleasure
before the people, Allah will be pleased with them, and He will
make the people pleased with them. So this is also a very important
message and the opposite. The hadith says that whoever makes you
know, the pleasure of people before Allah subhanaw taala, Allah
will not be pleased with them, and the people will never be pleased
with them. So if you put the making people happy before making
a lot happy, nobody will be happy with you. There will always be
haters, right. I'm sure you guys know that term, who are always
saying negative things about you. So people will never be happy with
you. And then Allah will also not be happy with you. So it's like
you're the ultimate loser. Not a good plan. Right. So I'll have to
do that. Alright, you guys. So that is the final presentation for
today. I'm opening it up now to questions. I'd love to hear from
you guys. So I'm gonna go ahead and stop. I'll come back here. And
you guys can see me now. Right. So let's look at the q&a and see what
kind of questions we have any questions. Go ahead. And let's, I
know it's six o'clock, but I'll I'll go a few more minutes because
we had those interruptions. And we also added a disease today. So we
went a little bit over, but I'm happy to answer any questions that
you have inshallah.
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thank you for being here. So I'm on a camera here. And son, thank
you for coming. I know it's six o'clock, so you guys have to
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Okay, I'm gonna get rid of these answers that you guys put here.
Someone's asking how many more classes do we have? We'll meet
inshallah next week and we'll see on Thursday of next week if we
need one more class. Okay.
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Which one of the four diseases is the worst? Hmm? Captain, I don't
know who captain is.
Interesting name. They're asked which of the four diseases is the
worst? Well, you know, all of them are bad, all the diseases are bad,
but I think you have to really look at which one is affecting
you. Right for each person, it's gonna be different. For some
people, you know, that we, we likely most of us have a lot of
these diseases, right? It's something that we all have a
different degrees. Some people have odor. Yeah, more than they
have displeasure with divine decree. So it really depends on
each individual person to look inside their heart and go, Man,
maybe I have Sama, maybe I do like for people to know my good deeds.
And I do have react Oh, no, this is not good. And so you got to
work on that, especially when we remember right? Yeah, was what the
professor said and told us he was most worried about that for us,
because it's a form of shidduch. And Schimke is the worst thing
that you could ever do. It's one of the most, you know, it's the
thing that Allah says he does not forgive to associate partners with
him. So, you know, if you're asking me from all of these for
surely ostentation would be up there. But I think individually,
it's going to differ from every single person. You have to look
into your own heart to determine which one is really the worst for
you. Okay.
Okay, so we're getting a question about bribing.
Does it mean when someone bribes someone that's ostentatious,
because they're willing to bribe for their approval, better scores
for some test rigging competition. I mean, that's just broad. You
know, if you're bribing people, to basically get something that you
didn't earn, that's fraud. That's, that's really bad. And yeah, if
you're doing it, because you want to show off, and you want to act
like you've earned something you didn't earn, then sure, it's all
of those things, but that's a really terrible thing to do.
Okay,
emotional, I'm getting really nice comments here.
Okay, so we're getting a question that says that harm can only come
from a love What if someone has a gun? Well, okay, so let me explain
what we mean by that. Of course, human beings are the ones that
enact bad things on earth, Allah is not doing those things, right.
However, it's by his permission, that he allows us to do things,
right. He's given us free will. Right? So it's by his permission
that human beings can act. Right? So if he didn't give us permission
to act good or bad, we wouldn't be able to do things. So when we say
that it's by the will of Allah that something happens, that's
what we're talking about. But the one who's doing the evil act,
they're the ones who are causing the harm, not Allah, he's not
causing it. It's the evil person with the gun who's doing that,
right. And so, but even that, if you want, you know, protection
from something like that, you have to turn to Allah because he's the
only one who can really protect you from those types of things. Is
the q&a a new thing? It's a feature on this webinar. Yes. How
about showing off to our family members? My a very good question.
Yes, showing off in general is not a good thing, whether it's to your
family, to your friends, to your grandparents, it doesn't matter.
It's a quality that you don't want to have. Now, getting
encouragement is different, right? If you are starting something,
let's say for the first time, and you're just trying to get better
at it, and you'd like to be encouraged, then your parents or
your teachers or the elders in your family, they should know that
it's okay to maybe give you a little bit of attention in the
beginning when you're starting off something, right. Like when you
first start to pray, or you first start to memorize Quran or you
take a class, or you're working on a talent, a skill, art, maybe a an
instrument you're doing, or a sport that you're playing, it's
perfectly fine for you to maybe want a little bit of feedback,
some validation, because you're just starting off, you're
insecure, right? We're all insecure when we do something for
the first time. We're not sure of ourselves. So sometimes you might
want people to know that you did something like you know, and you
might share, but this is about making it a habit, right. If five
years into something you're doing and you still like to brag about
it, this is a disease of the heart right? So you want to make sure
that you know the difference because encouragement from family
members, like maybe you want to share with grandma what you did or
your aunt or uncle or someone that's fine. But if you're doing
it because you just like the attention and it makes you feel
proud of yourself or you like to make your other kids or that you
that are
Your age feel less than compared to you. This is when it's
definitely ready. So I would say, watch out. It's a disease of the
heart. And remember, it's like that sneaky, sneaky and right,
that little black and it can crawl up on you. So you want to be very
careful okay to not let it enter your your heart.
Okay, should you still try to learn from was very good question
Should you still try to learn from a knowledgeable person who doesn't
have good intentions now? I'm not sure who, how you would know what
their intentions are. But if their intentions are bad, you shouldn't
learn from them. Okay, you should try to seek out I mean, if they
make their intentions bad to you, you should definitely not you
should stay away from people like that. Because that's not good to
encourage them. That we would say this is enabling right? If you see
a Muslim who's doing something they shouldn't be doing. If you
look over it, like you gloss over, like, oh, okay, I'll it's not a
big deal or Okay, I'll just go along with it, then you can,
you're kind of enabling them to do that. But if you say wait a
second, but that's not a good intention. You shouldn't do that.
That's haram, that's wrong, then you're reminding them also. So
you're protecting them. You don't want them to be in trouble with a
law, right? So I would say if they make their intentions known to you
that they're not good intentions, then don't enable them, make the
offer them guide them in a good way and look for maybe a teacher
who's got really good intentions, inshallah. But if you're thinking
that their intentions are good, that's suspicion and you shouldn't
have suspicion from because you don't know what's in someone's
heart. So unless they tell you that their intentions aren't good,
don't go by what your suspicions are. That's not right. Okay. All
right. Ah, I have someone who said, I love your classes. Well,
thank you anonymous attendee I love you, too. And I love doing
these classes. So sweet.
Yes, the Google form you can get for signing up for this class on
the MCC Facebook page website. You'll see it there. Inshallah. So
please check that one if you're doing something for the sake of
Allah, but you also want a little attention. You know, what's hot?
That's a good, I hope I answered that in the previous question,
wanting a little bit of attention for, you know, just to feel, like
I said, encouraged is good, but don't get dependent on that,
because it will become a habit. And now you're not even sure am I
doing it for a lot anymore, for I'm doing it for the intention.
But if you just in the beginning of trying something new, like I
said, you just want to get kind of used to it and comfortable with
it. That's okay. But pull back, as soon as you start seeing that
you're doing it, that that's the first thought that comes to your
mind, ooh, someone will notice me who I hope they know that I got,
you know, a really good test score, and that I'm gonna, you
know, that my teacher was, you know, or I got a award at school,
I hope my mom tells them, and I hope, you know, my dad says this
about me that I won my soccer game, you'd like you want people
to hear all the stuff that, you know, the more they're bragging
about you. That means that you'd like the attention too much,
right? And so you shouldn't do that you should say, You know
what, Allah knows everything. And as long as he knows, and he's
happy with me, that's all that matters to me. And I'm not going
to build my self image based on what people think. Because people
are always there's always going to be some people who come and
they'll have something to complain about. It's like, you'll never
really satisfied people. Whereas almost have that just by doing
something with the right intention.
He is already happy with you, right? And so that's why making
sure that we please Allah before anybody else is so much better
than wasting your time trying to make people happy, because they're
always going to be those people that are not really ever happy
with you. Ah, thank you Kenza, you're so sweet. You guys are so
sweet that you're asking, giving me all these lovely compliments.
Just go ahead and may Allah reward you guys for making the time to be
here. That's a great honor for me to teach you.
So how do you know if I was talking to you? Very good
question. So obviously, you know we are in this world and Allah,
when he when we say that Allah communicates to us certain things.
It's not like the way a human is talking to us where we actually
are talking to them, but rather it's inspiration. This is called
Hiawatha it's a feeling that you get. And so whenever you're
feeling to do really good things where you're feeling like you
should be doing worshipping Allah subhanaw taala. And you're getting
or getting really good dreams that are you know, some people are
dreaming about amazing things like the kava or they see the prophesy
centum those things are gifts from Allah. So that's a form of
communication that Allah is speaking to us, right? So you have
to listen to your heart but anytime you are being drawn closer
to us, that that is a way we're also speaking to us Inshallah,
through the holodeck through that inspiration that
that, you know, telling you to get up and do something, go read the
Quran, right? Go pray extra prayers, those extra EBA that we
do, and we do them in secrecy, we do them for Allah. Those are all
ways that Allah is drawing us close to him. Alhamdulillah. So
thank you for that lovely question.
And then it's complaining the same as displeasure with the Divine
Decree. Excellent question. Beloved, thank you. What a great
question. complaining to Allah is perfectly fine. Okay, because he's
the only one that is in control, right? So it makes sense if
something happened and you're not necessarily happy about it. Let's
say for example, you have a pet, okay. I used to have, I mean, I've
had pets before, but I used to have a pet that I loved. She was
very special to me. And I lost her under a very difficult situation.
I won't go into the details because we don't have time. But
the way that I lost her, it was hard for me, right? But I had to
accept it the way whatever happened, it happened and let go,
right. But my pain that I was feeling, I you can just turn it
off and on. We're human beings, right? So like a switch. So you
take that pain and instead of being angry that had happened,
right? Like, why did I have to lose her? You say, You're a lot,
my heart hurts, but I'm patient with your decree. I have trust in
you. And then you keep remembering that this world is you know, only
for a short time, the next world is forever and in the next world,
Allah will give us whatever we want. So yeah, my dua is that I
will be inshallah reunited with my beloved Juju in Janna. You know, I
lost her in this world. It was not a good situation. But I accepted
it that it was it happened not by my planning, certainly. But my
hope in Allah is that he will reward me for my patients, and
then give me her agenda. And that's where you take your
complaint, you can certainly not always be happy with something
that happens that Allah wills, but it's that beautiful patience that
says, Oh Allah, this is painful for me. But I love you more than
this thing. And I will never lose hope in you. That is true Eman.
And so do that. Always remember, Allah never puts you through
something for without a reason. So even if you're being tested, with
some difficulty that there is always a greater meaning to it.
Have subbrand Jamil with Allah and watch what will happen he will
replace your loss or your pain, and he will increase you in
blessing. And he will remove that pain and distance you from that
pain and Shala because of your beautiful patients, but the
opposite of you just become grumpy and upset and angry. And you have
displeasure with the Divine Decree this is all from Bliss because he
wants you to be stuck in bad feelings all the time and
depressed and angry. That's not from from our tradition and 100 of
our were Muslim and we have we have belief in our Lord, right.
Okay, so I think I've answered all of your questions. We have gone
over 15 minutes. Oh, man, I'm so sorry. But thank you to all of you
for your Oh, I was a cat my pet was a cat. That's who I lost my
cat Juju. But thank you all for your amazing questions. I'm sorry
for the screen issues that we had the thank you for your patience.
Next Tuesday. We'll come back for week three more diseases of the
heart to cover and I'm looking forward to that inshallah.
Remember to study and go over your notes because there will be a
quiz. And Shawn, I look forward to seeing you guys and thank you so
much. And have a wonderful Iftar keep us in your doors. Okay. My
golfer me and my family and everybody at MCC for making these
classes possible sister Humaira, who is also here facilitating
Magdoff for her and her family. All right.