Hosai Mojaddidi – Session 3 Purification of the Heart for Muslim Teenagers

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			Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim Salam
aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato
		
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			Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala
Schiebel MBE will mursaleen say
		
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			that our Mowlana will have you
been on from Excel Allah hottie
		
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			who has said him while he was
talking about salam to Sleeman
		
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			Kathira again said I want to come
everyone Hamdulillah we are here
		
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			for our third session of
purification of the heart. Thank
		
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			you for being here. I made a few
announcements before we officially
		
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			began to those who were here early
just to again up to keep everybody
		
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			on the same page. We've switched
over to the webinar format. So the
		
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			chat box is open, and I invite you
to participate via the chat box.
		
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			I'll ask you some questions right
now because I want to begin
		
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			Inshallah, and we'll begin like we
did last time with a bit of a
		
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			little bit of a quiz. Okay. So if
you remember from last two
		
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			sessions that we had, or if you
have notes, maybe you want to take
		
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			those notes out and quickly look
them over, okay. And the first
		
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			question I have is Who can tell me
who the original author is of the
		
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			text the Arabic text that we are
talking about here? Okay, because
		
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			there's a person who lived 200
years ago about 200 years ago.
		
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			Very good humbled that so we have
some answers Good job. So I'm just
		
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			going to make a slight correction
because all of you have answered
		
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			the same answer. So his name is
actually Imam Elmo lute. Okay, so
		
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			a lot of you are responding in my
MO lewd which is fine. It's like a
		
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			quick way of saying it, but the
accurate name is Iman Elmo lute.
		
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			Okay, just wanted to clarify that
very good. So having said that,
		
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			this is email Elmo Lutz text and
he lived about roughly close to
		
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			200 years ago.
		
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			Who is the person who translated
the book from Arabic into English?
		
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			What's his name? Very good.
Mashallah. Excellent. Okay. And
		
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			what? Where does Sheikh Hamza all
of you, Michelle, who are
		
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			answering how did you were the
first to come in very good. And
		
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			she Amina second Bilal, third.
Awesome. Great job you guys. Amen.
		
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			as well. Great job and Leila. All
of you are answering wonderfully.
		
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			Where does the sheikh Hamza
currently live? Where's he
		
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			situated? What part of the world?
		
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			They are. Oh, there we go. We got
Bay Area and then we got Yes. seen
		
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			with the correct answer. Berkeley.
Very good. So he's in Berkeley,
		
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			does he have a special place that
he works at? And if so, what's the
		
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			name of that place?
		
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			Who can tell me the name of the
place? Very good. Mashallah. Amen.
		
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			You came in there and how did this
how did you you said stay tuned up
		
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			and even got the full answer for
zaytuna college. Very good.
		
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			Awesome, you guys. So did Youssef
Bilal you're seen as well.
		
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			Awesome. Okay. So next, we right
away talked about the certain
		
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			number of hearts. Who can remember
the very first heart that we
		
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			talked about? Okay, there were a
certain number of hearts you can
		
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			tell me if you want the number of
hearts but what was the first one
		
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			that we covered?
		
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			Very good. Mashallah. So it's my
answered eight. Awesome Good job a
		
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			smile and then he has seen came
with the first heart as the dead
		
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			heart. You guys are on it.
Excellent. The first heart was in
		
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			fact the dead heart. Very good.
And what's the last heart called?
		
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			If you can give me the Arabic name
even better? The last heart that
		
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			we talked about? Very good. Amen.
Came in with the sound heart
		
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			awesome. And what's the Arabic of
the sound heart?
		
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			Mashallah, Sally. Very good. She
Amina Awesome. Great job. You
		
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			guys. You guys are doing really
well. Michelle automatical. Okay,
		
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			so we covered a few different you
know, diseases already. Who can
		
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			remember the very first disease
that we covered? The first one.
		
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			Okay, yes. Scene came in with
miserliness. Very good. What's the
		
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			Arabic villa? You answered me
before I even finished that
		
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			question. You are awesome, great
job. And it's done. Very good. You
		
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			guys know the Arabic terms.
Awesome. What is the disease of
		
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			the heart? Now? I'm going to
switch up the questions a little
		
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			bit to try to pay attention to the
definition. Okay. What is the
		
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			disease of the heart where you're
to you can't control your
		
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			excitement and it makes you
prideful and makes you maybe want
		
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			to spend on things a little bit
too much. It's like, you can't
		
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			control it. It's too exciting. And
that leads to extravagance. Very
		
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			good. Awesome. f9 Great job
wantonness, very good. What is the
		
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			Arabic of wantonness called a
Fernand again, look at you much
		
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			all love Very good. That's so
exciting when you guys get it
		
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			right like that. Awesome. Okay, so
there's another disease of the
		
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			heart I want. I'm gonna give you
the Arabic term. I want you to
		
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			quickly okay, it's like light
		
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			Then you're going to type it out
the English of it. What is the
		
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			English meaning of the word
bullet? Who can tell me bullet
		
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			Wow of nine man mashallah, you are
just ahead of everybody right now.
		
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			Hi you're coming really quick
super fast mashallah, you guys are
		
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			awesome. Okay next this is a
disease of the heart where you
		
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			harm people or things for no
reason whatsoever you're just not
		
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			having a good day and you you feel
like you can hurt something
		
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			awesome Bilbao came in with it
with the word iniquity very good
		
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			beloved Masha Allah Who can tell
me the Arabic name of that? Oh my
		
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			salah Billa you are what you're
like right there with me how you
		
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			know what I was gonna ask him to
very good. We got Villa we have
		
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			son and f9 you guys all three of
you got the word it's buzzing
		
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			buzzing right. Great job you guys.
I am so impressed. Mashallah,
		
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			okay, this disease of the heart
the prophesy Sam said in a hadith
		
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			he was worried that towards the
end of time, we would be like the
		
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			frost of the ocean and he said we
would have one in our hearts and
		
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			then hit the companion said What's
why and Yasuda law, and he said
		
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			this disease of the heart what is
it? Very good Mashallah. sunbaked
		
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			awesome love of the world have the
dunya now you're on it see? That's
		
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			what I love. So when you wait with
the English and the Arabic in one
		
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			answer says pay attention you guys
that's a really smart way of
		
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			getting the full answer right?
He's shown me he knows both great
		
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			job martial arts roboticle Okay,
then we went on to another disease
		
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			of the heart. This is when you see
something in someone and you can't
		
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			control your desire for it and you
actually want them to lose it.
		
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			What is the Arabic of it?
		
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			There we go Mashallah. Excellent
so yes seeing got this SN again
		
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			came through Bellagio Amina all of
you you guys got kind of all
		
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			answered at the same time. It just
came rolling in Amen Tasleem Good
		
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			job Awesome. Very good.
Alhamdulillah this is a disease of
		
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			the heart that the process that
I'm said it consumes your good
		
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			actions like fire consumes wood
What is the name of that disease
		
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			in the heart?
		
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			Let's see who was paying attention
		
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			it consumes your good actions like
fire consumes wood
		
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			is it jealousy?
		
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			I kind of tricked you guys there
and some of you fell for it but
		
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			she Amina or I'm sorry, who was
who did I see I wish I came
		
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			through it is envy you guys envy
remember anything jealousy are
		
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			kind of used you know oftentimes
you know to mean the same thing
		
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			but they are slightly different
and we you want the other person
		
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			to lose what they have jealousy
just wanted and you're insecure
		
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			about things okay? So that's why
where it comes from whereas envy
		
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			is just really you know about
having it and wanting the other
		
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			person not to have it so very
good. And has said very good how
		
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			to thank you is the Arabic word
for envy. Excellent. You guys are
		
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			really doing wonderful much
automatical what is okay this is
		
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			the trick question or not trick
question. This is a bonus
		
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			question. Let's see who can get
the bonus okay, if you get this
		
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			one mashallah hulless you really
paying attention? So let's say I
		
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			made I'm just making up someone
I've met CS biller and blood is
		
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			memorizing Quran and he's got just
memorize and now he's onto the
		
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			29th Joe's and he's doing really
good and then I'm it goes man, I
		
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			wish I could be like he's got so
much cord and memorize Why can't I
		
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			do that? I'm gonna go find a
teacher and I'm going to do this
		
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			what is that called?
		
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			Yes Bilal got it Masha Allah How
perfect is that right? Because I
		
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			haven't done below below. You're
on it my shot. This is RIPTA Okay.
		
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			reputa is what? ripped it is a
good form of jealousy right? It's
		
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			when you're competing for good
things. So when you're trying to
		
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			gain knowledge what's the other
reason the process that I'm said
		
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			you can have a VIP for so if
you're it's good jealousy right?
		
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			It's good to compete with with
someone for that. So one is
		
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			knowledge. What's the other thing
who can remember? Come on? You
		
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			guys can do it. You've been doing
amazing so far. Wisdom and
		
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			Knowledge kind of go hand in hand
right? Because you have to be wise
		
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			you know or if you have knowledge
hopefully you're wise right? Okay,
		
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			very good. f9 Masha Allah, it's
what your gave is, I think a
		
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			pretty good answer. And Yousef as
well, wealth or sadaqa. So the
		
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			means to to do things right? So if
you see someone who has a lot of
		
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			wealth, you can have a grip for
that person as long as your
		
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			intentions are good, right? You
want to please
		
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			Allah subhanho wa taala. So you
have that jealousy like, Oh, I
		
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			wish I had that kind of money so
that I could do a lot of good in
		
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			the world, right? Like help
orphans, right? This is a great
		
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			cause, right? Or build a masjid.
So there's a lot of great things
		
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			that you could do with money. And
if you have a gift for someone
		
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			who's wealthy, that's okay. Or for
someone who has knowledge, you
		
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			guys are so amazing. JazakAllah
headed, I love that you guys are
		
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			paying attention. And you're
remembering stuff that makes me so
		
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			so so happy. So may Allah bless
all of you. Now, are you ready to
		
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			start our third session, because
we're going to introduce you to
		
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			three new diseases of the heart.
You guys ready? Pay attention now.
		
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			Okay, we're in take some notes if
you want to. But let me go ahead
		
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			and pull up my presentation to
make sure that we are ready. So my
		
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			first screenshare Bismillah and I
should be able to see my screen.
		
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			And now we're gonna go into
presenter mode, and boom. Okay,
		
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			you guys see it? Yeah. Insha
Allah, let me actually pull up the
		
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			chat so I can see what you guys
are saying.
		
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			So what do you guys see on the
screen? You see, week two sister
		
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			has said looks perfect. Okay.
Alhamdulillah Thank you just like
		
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			okay, this is her. Alright, here
we go. Ready? So week two, we had
		
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			week one last week, we did two
sessions. This is where we're at
		
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			now. So we're going to cover these
diseases this week and shallow.
		
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			Okay. For today's session, I only
did the first three, just because
		
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			I've didn't have honestly enough
time to prepare more. And also a
		
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			number 10 is a big one. And I want
to kind of focus on that a little
		
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			bit more on Thursday. So we'll get
through the remaining four
		
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			inshallah on Thursday. Okay, but
for today, we're gonna go over
		
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			blameworthy modesty, which is
higher than meme. And then that is
		
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			holding on to one's wealth. Oh,
I'm sorry, did I not? Oh, no, I
		
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			think I unfortunately forgot to
cut and paste the proper column
		
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			here on the right. Let me go back
to the previous slide. I hopefully
		
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			have it here somewhere. We're just
going to do a quick rewind, rewind
		
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			to here. This is where did we go?
Not here, here. Alright, so we're
		
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			gonna go to number seven, eight
and nine. Okay, so my bad I forgot
		
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			I didn't properly cut and paste
this definition part of it. So I
		
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			apologize. So number seven,
blameworthy. Modesty is shyness or
		
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			cowardice that prevents someone
from addressing a wrong or
		
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			inquiring about a need? So what
does that mean? It means when you
		
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			are too shy to act in the in a
time where you should act, let's
		
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			say you're listening to a teacher
like myself, or maybe you're at
		
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			the masjid. And there's a
heartbeat going on. And they say
		
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			something that is not clear. Like
maybe I say something to you,
		
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			that's not clear. And then you're
like, Oh, should I ask or not?
		
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			Should I say something? Should I
raise my hand and go Teacher?
		
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			Teacher? I didn't understand that.
Right? Sometimes our shyness
		
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			prevents us from acting when we
should. So we're going to talk
		
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			more, but that's just a quick
example of that. Okay, blameworthy
		
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			thoughts. These are thinking about
things that are prohibited, okay?
		
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			Like if you're just letting your
mind kind of wander on, and you're
		
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			just thinking about things you
shouldn't think about, and we'll
		
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			talk about what we mean with that,
okay. But anytime you have
		
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			thoughts that are just really
pointless, or it's a waste of your
		
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			time, that would fall under
		
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			thoughts, and then fear of
poverty. So that is when you're so
		
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			afraid of, you know, not having
enough food or wealth or material
		
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			things, that it creates this
anxiety in you. And it almost
		
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			basically kind of destroys the way
that you live your life, right? A
		
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			lot of people and it's somewhat
kind of could be tied to
		
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			miserliness, because if you have a
fear of poverty, it might lead you
		
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			to become someone who's hoarding
their wealth, right? Because it's
		
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			like, oh, no, I can't spend too
much money because, you know, I'm
		
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			going to be poor, or I'm going to
not have a home to live in or, and
		
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			those thoughts can kind of just
really take someone to a very dark
		
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			place where they lose, you know,
complete trust in Allah subhanho.
		
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			So we're going to talk about those
three diseases today. So let me
		
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			now fast forward really quickly
and see how fast I can go. Okay,
		
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			and I'm going to click as fast as
I can. Okay. Did it did well, how
		
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			fast was that? Nope, here we go.
Here we go. Oh, wrong. What? Okay,
		
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			so here we are, we are on. Again,
blameworthy modesty. So first,
		
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			before we even get to blameworthy
modesty, let's be clear about what
		
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			the word modesty means. Okay. So,
Muslims, we know this word, it's a
		
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			very big part of our faith. But
sometimes we need to really have a
		
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			broad understanding of modesty,
because it's not just about our
		
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			clothing. Okay, a lot of times
we'll hear modesty, its reference
		
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			to dressing modestly. Right? But
it's more than that. It's about
		
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			being humble and not showing off.
And when we say showing off, this
		
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			obviously includes showing off our
bodies right, which is why we
		
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			dress we cover. We dress modestly
because we don't show off the
		
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			things that are private, right? I
was proud that I told us to be
		
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			modest in the way that we dress.
So it's about not showing off
		
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			Our bodies or our good deeds,
skills, strengths, whatever gifts,
		
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			Allah subhanaw taala has given us
if he's blessed us with, if you're
		
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			a modest person you don't show
off, okay? Why? Because you're
		
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			confident you don't have a need,
or a reason to be a show off.
		
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			Someone who shows off, they're
insecure, right? They're insecure,
		
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			they feel like I have to show this
because then I get attention. And
		
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			if I get attention, it makes me
feel good about myself. Muslims,
		
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			we don't look to other people for
attention, we look to Allah
		
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			subhanaw taala he's the only one
whose opinion of us matters. So we
		
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			don't feel the need to walk around
and strut our stuff. And you know,
		
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			show our skin because a lot of
people in this culture, right you
		
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			see them all the bla and as the
temperatures get warmer, they
		
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			start you know, wearing
inappropriate clothing, right? And
		
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			when they do that, our job as
Muslims because we don't judge
		
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			people, right? We do not judge
people. We say that. I believe
		
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			everybody told us that. And I have
actually a really good story that
		
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			I'm going to share in a moment
about not judging people. But But
		
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			what when we see someone who's
dressed in an inappropriate way,
		
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			we show our modesty by what
lowering our gaze, right? So here,
		
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			Allah Subhana Allah tells us tell
believing men to lower their
		
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			glances and guard their private
parts, right? So you lower your
		
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			eyes so that you don't see things
that are immodest. And you also
		
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			cover yourself, right? You cover
your area, private area that is
		
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			pure for them. God is well aware
of everything they do, and then
		
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			say to the bleeding women Oh,
excuse me. Where am I? Sorry, you
		
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			guys. I'm Butter fingers here.
Okay.
		
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			I'm trying to move this little
chat box because it's in the way
		
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			of the text. So I apologize. Okay.
So say to the believing women,
		
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			that they should lower their gaze
and guard their modesty that they
		
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			should not display their beauty
and, and ornaments except what
		
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			must ordinarily appear, right, our
hands our face, that they should
		
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			draw their veils over there wasn't
so easy wear hijab, we cover
		
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			ourselves, right? This is how I
was kind of instructs Muslim men
		
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			and women to dress we dress in a
modest way. Right. And I'm just
		
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			going to quickly tell you guys a
story. This really actually
		
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			happened to me. I was once at an
airport. And this is a long time
		
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			ago, where I was younger, and I
didn't know a lot of things. And I
		
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			thought that, you know, I'm better
than people because I was wearing
		
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			hijab. And so I did I kind of let
my arrogance, self righteousness,
		
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			which we'll talk about right?
Sometimes you get a little too,
		
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			you think of yourself as better
and this is dangerous is a disease
		
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			of the heart. But if you don't
know it's a disease of the heart,
		
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			then you can have it. So when I
was much, much younger, this
		
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			happened to me where I was in
hijab, and I was at the airport,
		
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			and I was waiting for my ride. And
all of a sudden I see this woman,
		
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			and she gets out of her car. You
know, she's, you know, when you're
		
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			at the airport, and you're waiting
for people to pick you up, you
		
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			have to kind of wait there, and
all these cars are coming and
		
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			going. So she got out of her car,
and she was dressed very
		
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			inappropriately. She was wearing
shorts, very short shorts, and
		
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			like, you know, a tank top. And I
just looked at her and I judged
		
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			her I did I thought like, wow, why
she dress like that. It's so
		
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			wrong. And I had all these
negative thoughts. And then
		
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			Subhanallah she ended up it was
kind of a it was a very strange
		
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			experience for me, because I'm
just waiting there. I don't know
		
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			her. She's a stranger, but she
ended up closing the trunk of her
		
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			car, and she saw me. And then she
started walking towards me. So I'm
		
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			like, Whoa, what's going on? Why
is this woman who's like a
		
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			stranger walking to me, right?
What is she going to say? And I'm
		
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			like, you know, so I kind of was
like a little like, you know, just
		
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			paranoid, like what's gonna happen
now, all of a sudden, she comes
		
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			in, she stands in a very humbled
state, very humble. She has her
		
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			head down and she goes, and I'm on
a comb. I know, I'm not dressed
		
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			very appropriately. You know, mela
for forgive me. I'm a Muslim. I'm
		
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			a convert. And I'm raising my son
to be a Muslim. I saw you and I
		
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			was so happy. Because I thought
maybe you can help me give me some
		
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			recommendations for children's
book because I want to raise my
		
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			son as a Muslim. So she's saying
all of this stuff to me. Subhan
		
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			Allah, right. She's not dressed
modestly. I'm dressed modestly.
		
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			But this is where we look at the
hearts right? Her heart was in
		
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			such a good state because she
recognized her mistake. She was
		
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			humble, and she wanted to be
better. But I let arrogance in my
		
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			heart, right? I thought I was
better and I was judging her. And
		
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			then Allah, he's the one who made
this whole event happen, right?
		
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			She, i There's no way I would have
ever thought she was a Muslim, the
		
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			way she was dressed. But Allah
wanted me to have that experience
		
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			because it did. It changed my mind
about a lot of things. I started
		
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			to really look at my heart more
and say, Oh, sigh How could you
		
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			have let your heart become so
filled with arrogance that you
		
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			walk around judging people because
of the way that they're dressed?
		
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			Right that
		
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			It's not for you to do. You don't
judge people. We don't judge
		
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			people, we know what's right and
what's wrong. But we leave the
		
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			judgment to Allah subhanaw taala.
Right there, he's the only one who
		
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			judges. So when we say that, yes,
we live in a society where a lot
		
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			of people are not dressed
appropriately, our job is not to
		
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			look down on them, because they
don't know many times people don't
		
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			know, this woman, she was a
convert, and she was trying to be
		
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			better. So you know, just like
Islam took 23 years to complete.
		
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			Some people, they take time
getting good habits, so we just
		
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			have to leave the judgment alone.
But what we do, instead of judging
		
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			them, we turn our gaze away. And
we wish well for them that Allah
		
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			guides them, okay? So that's what
this hadith is telling us to lower
		
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			your gaze Don't you know, judge
other people lower your gaze, and
		
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			I wanted to share that story. So
that you have an example of when
		
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			sometimes it's not black. So black
and white, you know, you might see
		
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			a Muslim and think, Oh, they're
amazing. And then you see someone
		
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			dressed like that and think, look
at them. But if you really, you
		
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			know, judge that situation, who
was who was better and who wasn't
		
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			right, she was much better than
me. And that was a humbling moment
		
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			for me. And I'm so grateful to
Allah that He did that for me,
		
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			because it literally changed
everything. My perception of
		
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			everything was different. Then I
started looking at the diseases of
		
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			the heart, and realizing I had a
lot of them. And that's how I
		
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			handled I benefited from this
amazing science of, you know,
		
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			purification of the heart. So 100
Okay, so now, what else do we know
		
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			about modesty? Okay, here we have
another Hadith where pura EBVs
		
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			reported that we were once with
the Messenger of Allah, so Allah
		
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			He was sent him when modesty was
mentioned to him. And someone
		
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			said, O Messenger of Allah is
modesty, part of faith, and the
		
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			prophesy centum said, what rather
it is the entire religion Subhan
		
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			Allah so this is a very big part
of being a Muslim. Then he said,
		
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			Verily modesty, abstinence
reticence of the tongue, but not
		
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			the heart, and deeds are all part
of faith they bring gain in the
		
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			hereafter and loss in the world.
What is gained in the hereafter is
		
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			much greater than what is missed
in the world. So why did I put
		
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			that phrase reticence of the
tongue, but not the heart in
		
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			yellow? Because this is telling us
that reticence means when you're
		
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			holding back, right, you're
holding back, we should hold back
		
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			with our tongues when we, you
know, maybe there's a situation
		
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			that, you know, we don't like or
you know, where the judgment might
		
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			take over. We shouldn't comment,
but not in our heart or in our
		
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			heart, we should be very clear
about what's right and what's
		
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			wrong. Okay. And that kind of ties
into what blameworthy modesty is.
		
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			So let's be a little bit more
clear here. So again, modesty,
		
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			something's a whole religion,
every part of us we should I mean,
		
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			our part of our faith thing is,
modesty is a big part of that. But
		
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			we have to understand that this
quality has to be in balance
		
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			right? Between one spiritual heart
and one's conscience. So here we
		
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			have praiseworthy modesty
activates the conscience, right,
		
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			and protects the spiritual heart.
It helps one to lower the gaze,
		
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			protect the heart from being
exposed to things that bring it
		
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			harm. But blameworthy modesty
impairs the conscience and by
		
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			extension, the spiritual heart. It
prevents one from acting or
		
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			speaking up when it is necessary.
And it invites cowardice into the
		
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			heart to become a coward, right?
That's what blameworthy. Modesty
		
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			does. You're not very courageous,
when you have blameworthy modesty
		
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			and this is not part of our faith,
we should be people of courage
		
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			with Allah Subhan. Allah with
that. All right. So let's look
		
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			again at some examples. So for
example, as I said earlier, not
		
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			asking questions about one's Deen
out of shyness. So if you're ever
		
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			not clear about something, but
because you don't want to
		
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			embarrass yourself with your
friends, in the class, or you you
		
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			know, maybe in a situation where
you don't know all the students,
		
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			you feel a little awkward about
talking. Remember this, you don't
		
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			want to have blameworthy modesty,
it's much more important that you
		
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			speak up and you don't have to
speak up right then and there.
		
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			Maybe after the class, right? You
can go to the teacher and say, Mr.
		
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			Or, you know, sister or brother
or, you know, Chef, or chef, ah, I
		
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			didn't understand when you said
this, can you please explain it to
		
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			me, but not to be shy in the
class, and then even after the
		
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			class go on, I don't want to go up
to the teacher and, you know, and,
		
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			and have, you know, this
conversation with them. That's too
		
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			embarrassing, because then it's
like, I didn't know and everybody
		
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			else seemed to get it. And I don't
want to look like I'm not smart.
		
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			And all of those thoughts. That's
what blameworthy. Modesty is
		
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			right? When you sit there and you
have this conversation with
		
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			yourself, that you're too worried
about how you look in front of
		
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			other people, and it prevents you
from learning, right? And so at
		
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			the bottom you see this hadith
here.
		
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			of Asia, the Prophets wife, may
Allah be pleased with her said,
		
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			How excellent are the women of the
unsought? These are the women of
		
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			Medina, right? They do not allow
shyness to prevent them from
		
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			asking questions and understanding
the religion. So she's making an
		
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			observation here that says what?
That look at how amazing these
		
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			women are. The answer are they ask
their questions, they're not clear
		
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			about something, they're not going
to go, Oh, I'm just going to, it's
		
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			okay. I'll pretend like I
understood it. Right. And it did.
		
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			This doesn't have to just be for
religion. You know, let's say
		
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			you're in a math class or you're
in another class, you know, you
		
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			should, you know, have the courage
to always if there's some
		
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			knowledge that's being taught to
you, and you don't get it to make
		
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			that a priority instead of
yourself, right. It's not about
		
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			how you appear, because very wise
people are okay, admitting that
		
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			they don't know Imam Malik, who
was one of the great 40 memes of
		
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			you know, of the schools of fish
that we have, he was known to very
		
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			commonly say, I don't know, when
people would ask him questions, he
		
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			would say, I don't know. And this
shows, not that he doesn't have
		
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			knowledge, but the opposite, that
he's actually very wise. And he
		
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			had he, I mean, he was very, very
knowledgeable. He's one of the
		
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			great Imams, but he had the
humility to know when he didn't
		
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			know, right, and so we shouldn't
let our shyness of not knowing
		
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			prevent us from knowing that's
what blameworthy. Modesty is one
		
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			example. Another is not standing
up for someone who's been wronged.
		
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			So if you see a situation, let's
say there's a bully, right? And
		
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			he's bullying, or she's bullying
someone, and you're just standing
		
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			there, you know what's wrong, but
how do you can't find the courage
		
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			to say something, right, or to do
something to put a stop to it, we
		
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			find this problem everywhere. Now
in schools, and in other places, a
		
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			lot of people, not just youth, but
like adults, too. They freeze up
		
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			and they don't say something when
they should, and then they watch
		
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			it. And instead, unfortunately,
with phones, now, they're
		
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			recording it, you know, so it's
like, you're you're watching
		
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			someone get beat up in front of
you. And instead of acting, you're
		
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			just gonna record the video. Like,
that's really not good, right?
		
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			Because you're, you're not helping
these people at all the one who's
		
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			doing the, the harming and the one
who's being harmed, both of them
		
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			need help. Right. And that's what
Muslims are called to do the
		
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			process, I'm told us, You we help,
you know, the oppressed and the
		
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			oppressor, and we help the
oppressor by stopping him from
		
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			being oppressive. So you want to
separate people when they're
		
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			fighting, because, you know, the
one is getting hurt, but the other
		
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			one is also causing a lot of
damage. So let's help both of them
		
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			if this happens, you know,
especially with friends or people
		
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			that you know, you should be
worried about both not having the
		
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			courage to stand up to an unjust
person. So in the first situation,
		
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			you're not protecting someone
who's being harmed. But in the
		
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			next situation, it's where you,
you're not confronting that person
		
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			who's doing the bullying, right?
And saying, Listen, what you're
		
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			doing is wrong, and you need to
stop it. This is all you know,
		
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			part of again, what what can take
over someone if they have
		
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			blameworthy modesty, and then also
not participating in something
		
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			worth worthwhile and beneficial
out of shyness. So this is similar
		
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			to, you know, what we've talked
about, which is you see something
		
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			either that's harmful that you
should address, or that's
		
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			beneficial, but your shyness
prevents you from getting it, like
		
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			the knowledge Right? Or let's say
you, you know, everybody, all of
		
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			your cousins and friends want to
go somewhere. And maybe you,
		
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			you're kind of like, let's say
they want to go roller skating,
		
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			okay, and you've never roller
skated before. But the idea of it
		
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			is like, oh, man, I don't want to
do it, because I don't know how to
		
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			do it. And I don't want to go and
embarrass myself. So then you you
		
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			don't go you end up going, Oh, I
don't want to go all because you
		
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			let this shyness prevent you from
actually benefiting. You're going
		
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			to spend time with your cousins
and friends. You might learn a new
		
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			skill, but there's a shyness there
that prevents you that's
		
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			blameworthy modesty. Okay. So
hopefully this disease is clear.
		
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			Now how can we get rid of it? Or
how can we treat it? Well, the
		
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			first thing is that you put the
pleasure of Allah Subhana Allah
		
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			before anyone else, okay? You're
always thinking as Muslims we're
		
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			always always always thinking
first. Will this make Allah
		
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			subhanaw taala happy or will it
not make him happy? That is it
		
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			with everything that you do from
the moment you wake up until the
		
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			moment you sleep? That should be
your thought process and
		
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			everything because everything we
know as Muslims our deen is
		
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			complete Allah has given us
answers about everything through
		
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			the Muslims example but our deen
we know right and wrong. And we
		
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			know and if you don't know that's
what you have your parents for and
		
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			other people, you ask questions,
but in your mind you that's how
		
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			you check yourself and that's how
you prevent che Don, from making
		
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			you do things that are wrong. You
have that question? Is this going
		
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			to make Allah happy or not happy?
And then you act right? But this
		
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			is how we should be. So if we
start putting that into
		
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			practice, you'll find that even if
you're uncomfortable something if
		
00:30:04 --> 00:30:08
			you're thinking, Okay, if Allah
will be happy with me, I'll do it,
		
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			then Inshallah, that courage will
start to grow in your heart,
		
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			because you're always thinking of
making almost another happy with
		
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			you. Okay? And I see a quick
question. I'm seeing the chat box,
		
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			but I'm sorry, I'm not able to
answer every question. But this
		
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			one is an important one that I do
want to talk about real quick, if
		
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			you're scared of getting hurt,
okay? Now the word vulnerable
		
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			comes from, I think it's Greek or
Latin from boldness, which means
		
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			to be open to injury, okay? And it
means to be open to being wounded,
		
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			okay? That's why we're, when we're
ever in a situation where we're
		
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			afraid to act, yes, that's part of
it, we're worried, we're worried
		
00:30:46 --> 00:30:50
			that we're going to be rejected or
embarrassed or humiliated. All of
		
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			those things, right. But part of
the youth experiences, you're kind
		
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			of in a test phase of your life
where you're leaving childhood,
		
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			and you're growing into becoming
an adult. And just like every
		
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			adult, before you, all of us went
through the same experience. And
		
00:31:06 --> 00:31:09
			every child after you will go
through the same experience where
		
00:31:09 --> 00:31:13
			you have to kind of test things
out and get better and better.
		
00:31:13 --> 00:31:17
			It's like a practice sort of
phase, right? So if you want to
		
00:31:17 --> 00:31:21
			grow and kind of go through that
process, a little bit in a better
		
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			way, without too many bumps along
the road, then you have to say,
		
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			You know what, there's a first
time for everything, and I got to
		
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			try it, and I have to muster up
the courage. And even if I'm
		
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			worried about everything, it's
okay, it's probably I'm probably
		
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			making too much of a big deal out
of it in my mind. Because if
		
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			there's, you know, adults in the
room, Inshallah, they're all
		
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			mature enough, they're not gonna
laugh at you or embarrass you or
		
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			anything like that. Rather, they
will probably encourage you, even
		
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			if things don't go your way, let's
say like, go back to the roller
		
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			skating example, if you're gonna,
if you don't want to go roller
		
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			skating, because you don't want to
fall, right? I've, it's happened
		
00:31:54 --> 00:31:57
			to me several times, even as an
adult, you know, you can either
		
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			fall and then make yourself feel
bad and think, oh, my gosh, I'm so
		
00:32:02 --> 00:32:06
			embarrassing. And oh, why did I do
this? I'm so failure. I don't even
		
00:32:06 --> 00:32:08
			know how to roller skate, I have
no coordination and let all those
		
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			negative thoughts come in your
mind. Or you can say, Dude, I just
		
00:32:12 --> 00:32:15
			really just get it for the first
time. And it's okay, at least I
		
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			had the courage to do it. And even
if I fell, oh, well, people fall
		
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			all the time, even professional
skaters fall, there's people who
		
00:32:21 --> 00:32:25
			have been at the Olympics and they
fall. So fouling is just part of
		
00:32:25 --> 00:32:29
			human human experience. Gravity is
a force. So it's not that big of a
		
00:32:29 --> 00:32:34
			deal. And instead of letting you
know, you know, shaytaan, or your
		
00:32:34 --> 00:32:37
			own nafs, make you feel weak. You
want to say, You know what, let's
		
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			just get back up and laugh it off.
It's no big deal. Whatever. You
		
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			know, when I used to do when I was
a kid, I would always like if I
		
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			tripped over something, I would
always pretend like it was a new
		
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			dance move. So I would just like,
oh, yeah, check it out. That was
		
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			that was just me being cool. And I
would just say something silly.
		
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			And then everybody would laugh,
right? Because my attitude was I'm
		
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			not embarrassed by this. I'm a
human and it's okay to fall or
		
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			have, you know, slip here and
there. Even if you're talking like
		
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			I've been speaking publicly for a
long time. Sometimes when you
		
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			first start off, you get nervous
and you're like a book, you say
		
00:33:09 --> 00:33:12
			things like that. It's okay.
Because the more you do it, the
		
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			better you get at it, and then you
look back at those times, you just
		
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			love like, oh, yeah, that was me
practicing, you know, as my
		
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			practice runs, and it's okay that
you have those experiences. So you
		
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			gotta get out of that mentality
that, oh my gosh, I'm gonna I'm so
		
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			scared of being looked at and
embarrassed, strong. People are
		
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			like, You know what? It's okay, it
happens. You know, I'm just gonna
		
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			keep trying to push forward. Okay.
So thank you for that question.
		
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			Now, another thing to get rid of
this is to ask questions. When you
		
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			don't understand something, force
yourself, get into that habit. I
		
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			don't get it. I need more clarity.
Because you know what? It's not
		
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			that you necessarily have a, you
know, like you, you didn't
		
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			understand it. And you're, there's
something wrong with the way that
		
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			your brain worked? What if it's
the teacher? What if the teacher
		
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			didn't explain things correctly?
I'm a teacher, certainly, we are
		
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			not perfect. There's times where
we don't do a good job explaining
		
00:34:03 --> 00:34:06
			something so the students are
confused. That's our fault. That's
		
00:34:06 --> 00:34:10
			not your fault. So what you want
to do is if anytime you don't
		
00:34:10 --> 00:34:14
			understand something, ask with
humility, right? Don't assume that
		
00:34:14 --> 00:34:18
			the teacher just failed to explain
it right? Just ask with humility
		
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			and say, Teacher, I'm sorry, I
didn't quite understand something.
		
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			But remember that it might not be
that you didn't understand it?
		
00:34:25 --> 00:34:30
			Well, it might be that the teacher
didn't explain it. Well, by asking
		
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			with humility and a dove, this is
always good. You allow the teacher
		
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			to correct themselves, right. The
teacher will come back and and
		
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			hopefully explain it better for
you inshallah. So but find that
		
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			courage to be I'm going to ask
that question. Okay. And then
		
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			practice more courage and use
judgment when you see something
		
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			wrong or an injustice. For
example, you know, I said about
		
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			the bullying thing. If you're
seeing a situation where there's a
		
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			physical fight, you don't have to
jump in. Okay. What I said earlier
		
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			about stopping the fight and
separating the people. I'm not
		
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			saying to
		
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			unnecessarily get in to the fight
and hurt yourself or get hurt. You
		
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			don't need to do that. The
judgment comes in to say this is
		
00:35:06 --> 00:35:10
			wrong. And instead of watching it
happen and freezing, like, oh my
		
00:35:10 --> 00:35:13
			gosh, this is Whoa, this is crazy.
I'm just going to watch it. The
		
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			judgment says, This is wrong, I
need to go get an adult. And you
		
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			you're the one that leaves your
backpack tells a friend watch
		
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			this, I have to go run. And you go
get the nearest teacher and say,
		
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			Teacher, teacher, come here,
there's a fight happening. That is
		
00:35:27 --> 00:35:30
			being a wise person, because what
you're doing is saying, I don't
		
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			want to just let this happen and
unfold and have an injury and
		
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			someone really get hurt. And
there's been some really terrible
		
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			accidents. You know, recently,
like last year, I remember reading
		
00:35:41 --> 00:35:45
			a story about a fight that
happened in a school. And one of
		
00:35:45 --> 00:35:49
			the students was unfortunately
killed, he actually died because
		
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			when the other student hit him, he
fell and on a something like a
		
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			cement piece that was very hard
and his head, hit it really hard,
		
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			and he was injured, and then he
eventually died. So you never, God
		
00:36:03 --> 00:36:08
			forbid, want to let people in that
type of situation, get all the
		
00:36:08 --> 00:36:11
			blood carried away. But imagine
you can save lives just by going
		
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			and getting an adult. Okay, so
that's what courage does. And
		
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			that's the opposite of this
quality of blameworthy modesty. So
		
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			inshallah that's the first disease
of the heart, we need to move
		
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			forward to the next one. So let's
go ahead. This is going to this is
		
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			about the next diseases of the
heart. So did you know, sorry, let
		
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			me move this. I don't know if you
guys can see all of everything on
		
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			my screen, like the chat box and
everything. But if you can, sorry.
		
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			So did you know that the average
person the average person means
		
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			you can't obviously go around
asking every single person on the
		
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			planet? So what we do is we just
kind of take a poll and then
		
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			determine how many people from
that group of people this would
		
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			apply to so the average person has
about 12,000 to 60,000 thoughts
		
00:36:57 --> 00:37:02
			per day. That's a lot of thoughts.
Right? If you think about it, for
		
00:37:02 --> 00:37:04
			the moment, you wake up until you
sleep, you're thinking all the
		
00:37:04 --> 00:37:07
			time, your brain never really
shuts off. Even when you're
		
00:37:07 --> 00:37:13
			watching something like on TV or
playing a game, you're playing a
		
00:37:13 --> 00:37:14
			game, your brain is definitely
active. But if you're doing
		
00:37:14 --> 00:37:18
			something more passive, like
watching a show or a film, your
		
00:37:18 --> 00:37:21
			brain is very active, because it's
understanding everything, it's
		
00:37:21 --> 00:37:24
			processing everything. It's taking
all those images in. Right. So
		
00:37:24 --> 00:37:27
			there's a lot of activity and
thoughts that are happening. But
		
00:37:28 --> 00:37:32
			of those thoughts, this is what's
really fascinating. 80% are
		
00:37:32 --> 00:37:37
			negative SubhanAllah. Isn't that
sad? This is why is that the case?
		
00:37:37 --> 00:37:41
			Why is that the case that 80% more
than 50% of our thoughts are
		
00:37:41 --> 00:37:45
			negative thoughts. Right? They're
not good thoughts? Well, we have
		
00:37:45 --> 00:37:49
			we know from our tradition,
shaitan is real, right? He, He is
		
00:37:49 --> 00:37:54
			the Whisper he likes to take away
good feelings, good thoughts, good
		
00:37:54 --> 00:37:58
			experiences, even our prayers,
right? When we stand up for
		
00:37:58 --> 00:38:01
			prayers, He loves to distract us.
And suddenly we're thinking about
		
00:38:01 --> 00:38:03
			things that we weren't even
thinking about at all, because he
		
00:38:03 --> 00:38:06
			likes to this, put all those
thoughts in our mind. So 80% of
		
00:38:06 --> 00:38:10
			those thoughts are negative, and
then 95% are exactly the same
		
00:38:10 --> 00:38:14
			repetitive thoughts from the day
before. So we tend to think about
		
00:38:14 --> 00:38:18
			the same things over and over and
over and over again, this is the
		
00:38:18 --> 00:38:21
			human being this is why you know,
we say almost father created us
		
00:38:21 --> 00:38:25
			with these, you know, issues and
we have to do the work of
		
00:38:25 --> 00:38:30
			purification of the heart and of
the you know, of the of the mind
		
00:38:30 --> 00:38:33
			and the tongue and all of the
things that we have, we have to
		
00:38:33 --> 00:38:36
			purify our thoughts. We have to
purify these things. And there's
		
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			ways to do that in sha Allah.
Okay, so let's look here. Next
		
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			slide.
		
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			So what are specific things that
we shouldn't think about? Okay,
		
00:38:46 --> 00:38:50
			because negative thoughts can fall
under a lot of different
		
00:38:50 --> 00:38:52
			categories. You know, we could
cover a lot of things, but we're
		
00:38:52 --> 00:38:56
			going to talk specifically about
two things. First thing that
		
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			blameworthy thoughts are thoughts
that are not good. Our thoughts
		
00:38:59 --> 00:39:04
			are about the nature of ALLAH
SubhanA wa at that okay. We have
		
00:39:04 --> 00:39:08
			almost one has revealed Himself to
us through the 99 names that a
		
00:39:08 --> 00:39:11
			smile hosts now, which are the
attributes of Allah subhanaw
		
00:39:11 --> 00:39:14
			taala. And of course, we have the
Quran which are his words, and
		
00:39:14 --> 00:39:18
			only his words. And then we have
the Hadith could see which are
		
00:39:18 --> 00:39:21
			sort of like their revelations,
that last point that I gave to the
		
00:39:21 --> 00:39:24
			prophesy centum they're not in the
Quran, they're in the Hadith. But
		
00:39:24 --> 00:39:28
			all of these things are also part
of the teaching us about who he
		
00:39:28 --> 00:39:33
			is. Right? So for us, we only base
our knowledge of all those ponds
		
00:39:33 --> 00:39:37
			that aren't on what he's revealed
to us. But sometimes our mind can
		
00:39:37 --> 00:39:40
			start wandering and we start
imagining things and we think
		
00:39:40 --> 00:39:44
			about things that are not good to
think about with relation to what
		
00:39:44 --> 00:39:48
			does Allah look like and how is he
all of those thoughts are we have
		
00:39:48 --> 00:39:52
			to turn those thoughts off because
there's always finances laser,
		
00:39:52 --> 00:39:55
			laser committed he che Right?
Which is what they're there's
		
00:39:55 --> 00:39:59
			nothing in creation that is like
Allah subhana wa
		
00:40:00 --> 00:40:04
			Mmm, okay, nothing in creation,
which means that, no, there's no
		
00:40:04 --> 00:40:09
			way that we can try to imagine
Allah subhanaw without it in our
		
00:40:09 --> 00:40:14
			mind, because everything in our
minds is from what we see and what
		
00:40:14 --> 00:40:18
			we know in the universe, right? So
it makes no sense to try to think
		
00:40:18 --> 00:40:22
			about Allah Subhana Allah when
he's told us that there's nothing
		
00:40:22 --> 00:40:27
			that you can even come close to,
that would be similar to him. So
		
00:40:27 --> 00:40:34
			don't even try, but have the hope
that inshallah we're going to
		
00:40:34 --> 00:40:38
			inshallah see him in the next
world. That's why we want to go to
		
00:40:38 --> 00:40:43
			Jenner, the greatest prize that we
could possibly have is to see
		
00:40:43 --> 00:40:47
			Allah subhanaw taala in Jannah.
Okay, so this is why it's so
		
00:40:47 --> 00:40:51
			important that you just turn off
that thought and say, I'm not
		
00:40:51 --> 00:40:54
			going to have those thoughts about
Allah, I'm going to wait for the
		
00:40:54 --> 00:40:57
			great prize of seeing him agenda.
So that's the first thing that we
		
00:40:57 --> 00:41:00
			want to, you know, again, address.
And then the other thing is to
		
00:41:00 --> 00:41:03
			think about thoughts about other
people like their faults, right?
		
00:41:04 --> 00:41:07
			A lot of times people will just
waste their time thinking about
		
00:41:07 --> 00:41:10
			other people, whether it's a
stranger or someone you know, if
		
00:41:10 --> 00:41:14
			you're just wasting your those
precious thoughts are 60,000
		
00:41:14 --> 00:41:17
			thoughts? And you're thinking
about things that you shouldn't
		
00:41:17 --> 00:41:21
			this is the this is the what falls
under blameworthy thoughts, right.
		
00:41:21 --> 00:41:24
			And the problem was, Adams said
here, he said, There is a tree in
		
00:41:24 --> 00:41:30
			paradise reserved for people whose
own faults preoccupied them from
		
00:41:30 --> 00:41:34
			thinking about other people's
faults. So Subhanallah, if you
		
00:41:34 --> 00:41:37
			spend more time on your own self
and trying to fix yourself than
		
00:41:37 --> 00:41:40
			you do thinking about, Oh, why
does this person dress this way,
		
00:41:40 --> 00:41:43
			they have such a bad habit and
look at, you know, oh, they you
		
00:41:43 --> 00:41:47
			know, they play basketball like
this, or, you know, you can get
		
00:41:47 --> 00:41:50
			very judgy about what people do,
right? We'll pick apart everything
		
00:41:50 --> 00:41:54
			about them. That's how you
shouldn't do that. Right. We
		
00:41:54 --> 00:41:56
			talked about this a little bit, I
think last time where we said
		
00:41:56 --> 00:42:00
			there's Lee, but in the heart of a
hub, where you actually can, you
		
00:42:00 --> 00:42:02
			know, have bad thoughts about
people in your heart. And this is
		
00:42:02 --> 00:42:06
			libre, which is you know,
gossiping, and it's really one of
		
00:42:06 --> 00:42:10
			the worst sins. So we want to stop
that right. And the problem was
		
00:42:10 --> 00:42:15
			and promised a tree a special tree
in paradise for people who are
		
00:42:15 --> 00:42:17
			more worried about their own
situation, so hum that are really
		
00:42:17 --> 00:42:23
			important for us to think about.
Okay, so next slide here. So how
		
00:42:23 --> 00:42:28
			do we treat the this disease of
the heart? What's the way to fix
		
00:42:28 --> 00:42:31
			it? Well, we study the 99
attributes of the last part that
		
00:42:31 --> 00:42:35
			up commonly referred to as a smile
host. Now, we should know the 99
		
00:42:35 --> 00:42:39
			names and try to really understand
their meanings. And you can ask
		
00:42:39 --> 00:42:43
			your parents questions like maybe
one attribute every day, you know,
		
00:42:43 --> 00:42:46
			and then in 99 days, you'll know
all of us partners attributes or
		
00:42:46 --> 00:42:49
			if you want to do more than one,
but you can really make it a very
		
00:42:49 --> 00:42:54
			good exercise of just getting
closer and your better
		
00:42:54 --> 00:42:57
			understanding of who Allah
subhanaw taala is right, by
		
00:42:57 --> 00:43:01
			studying them. And then
remembering again, as we said,
		
00:43:01 --> 00:43:05
			that it's beyond our abilities as
human beings to really capture
		
00:43:05 --> 00:43:08
			Allah subhanaw taala. So we
shouldn't even bother, but at
		
00:43:08 --> 00:43:13
			least if we try to connect to us
further through his attributes, it
		
00:43:13 --> 00:43:17
			will deepen our love for Him. And
it'll help us to, again, follow
		
00:43:17 --> 00:43:21
			His commands and prepares us for
the hereafter where we hope to see
		
00:43:21 --> 00:43:25
			Allah subhanaw taala and finally,
all the questions that you have
		
00:43:25 --> 00:43:28
			about, well, this doesn't make
sense and I never understood this,
		
00:43:28 --> 00:43:31
			you can ask him then Inshallah,
you know, we just have to be
		
00:43:31 --> 00:43:35
			patient, and then Imams was that
he said, sorry. Oh,
		
00:43:37 --> 00:43:41
			here we go. Sorry, was that he
said that the way to work off
		
00:43:41 --> 00:43:47
			distracting thoughts is to cut off
their source, avoid the means that
		
00:43:47 --> 00:43:50
			could create these thoughts, if
the source of such thoughts is not
		
00:43:50 --> 00:43:53
			stopped, it will keep generating
them. Okay. So there are some
		
00:43:53 --> 00:43:54
			things that
		
00:43:55 --> 00:43:59
			and that, you know, are some
people sometimes that make you
		
00:43:59 --> 00:44:03
			have bad thoughts about other
people, and you have to, you know,
		
00:44:03 --> 00:44:06
			have don't have blameworthy
modesty, right, you have to tell
		
00:44:06 --> 00:44:09
			that friend, maybe you know what,
maybe we shouldn't make a talk
		
00:44:09 --> 00:44:12
			about people because it's not
good, that's really good. You're
		
00:44:12 --> 00:44:15
			showing courage to tell that
person, it's wrong. And you're
		
00:44:15 --> 00:44:18
			preventing yourself from falling
into bad habits and cutting it off
		
00:44:18 --> 00:44:21
			from the source. So sometimes,
that's what you need to do.
		
00:44:21 --> 00:44:26
			There's also other you know, like
television can be bad music can be
		
00:44:26 --> 00:44:29
			there's bad elements and
television, bad elements and tell
		
00:44:29 --> 00:44:32
			it and music. So if you're getting
thoughts because of a certain show
		
00:44:32 --> 00:44:36
			that you're watching, or music
that you're listening to stop,
		
00:44:36 --> 00:44:39
			very simple, because if you don't,
then those thoughts will just keep
		
00:44:39 --> 00:44:42
			coming back right just kind of
have to cut them off at the source
		
00:44:42 --> 00:44:45
			like you know what, this is making
me not feel good or I don't feel
		
00:44:45 --> 00:44:49
			positive after this. So I need to
really, you know, stop this stuff
		
00:44:49 --> 00:44:52
			in sha Allah. Okay, so that's how
we correct this disease of the
		
00:44:52 --> 00:44:56
			heart. So the next one is, let's
see here.
		
00:44:58 --> 00:44:59
			The next disease of
		
00:45:00 --> 00:45:03
			hardest fear of poverty. Okay
hopeful fucker. So let's talk
		
00:45:03 --> 00:45:07
			about what this is well first, I
was proud that assess to us and
		
00:45:07 --> 00:45:10
			sort of the the Bacara. He says
those who in charity spend of
		
00:45:10 --> 00:45:16
			their good deeds by night and by
day, in secret and in public have
		
00:45:16 --> 00:45:22
			their reward with their Lord, on
them shall be no fear, nor shall
		
00:45:22 --> 00:45:24
			they grieve. So let's find out,
it's telling us right here,
		
00:45:24 --> 00:45:28
			whoever does, you know, good deeds
we spend in charity, and we do
		
00:45:28 --> 00:45:33
			our, you know, our good works in
in secret. And in public, maybe
		
00:45:33 --> 00:45:36
			there's times where we want to
show good works, because we want
		
00:45:36 --> 00:45:38
			to encourage other people. But
there's other times where we just
		
00:45:38 --> 00:45:42
			go more inwardly, and it's more
private. And both of those
		
00:45:42 --> 00:45:47
			situations are rewarded with Allah
and he is telling us we, if you do
		
00:45:47 --> 00:45:49
			these things, and you do them the
right way, the way that the
		
00:45:49 --> 00:45:52
			process has taught us, you won't
have any fear, there's nothing to
		
00:45:52 --> 00:45:56
			be afraid of, because you
understand that Allah subhanaw
		
00:45:56 --> 00:46:00
			taala is always with you. Right,
and that he's the one who blesses
		
00:46:00 --> 00:46:05
			us and He gives us all of our
risks, our food, our water, our
		
00:46:05 --> 00:46:08
			clothing, our shelter, our
families, all of the things that
		
00:46:08 --> 00:46:12
			we have are from Allah, He
distributes them to everybody. And
		
00:46:12 --> 00:46:16
			until the day until we leave this
earth, we will have our
		
00:46:16 --> 00:46:19
			sustenance, our portion, right,
some people get more in this
		
00:46:19 --> 00:46:23
			world, there's people who get
more, more wealth, and some people
		
00:46:23 --> 00:46:27
			don't, but everybody gets what is
what Allah decides for them. And
		
00:46:27 --> 00:46:32
			we have to respond by being
patient, and grateful that's so
		
00:46:32 --> 00:46:35
			important that we're grateful for
whatever Allah has given us,
		
00:46:35 --> 00:46:39
			because all of it is a treasure,
right? And so here, the prophesy,
		
00:46:39 --> 00:46:43
			Sam said, charity does not
decrease wealth. No one forgives
		
00:46:43 --> 00:46:46
			another, but that Allah increases
his honor, and no one humbles
		
00:46:46 --> 00:46:50
			himself for the sake of Allah, but
that Allah raises his status to
		
00:46:50 --> 00:46:54
			charity does not decrease wealth,
when you are a giving person you
		
00:46:54 --> 00:46:58
			should know especially be given
charity that you you're not just
		
00:46:58 --> 00:47:01
			because the money is leaving your
hand, right? It's like, oh, here's
		
00:47:01 --> 00:47:05
			$100 And I have to give it to
this, you know, organization or
		
00:47:05 --> 00:47:09
			this poor person on the street. It
might feel like you lost $100, but
		
00:47:09 --> 00:47:14
			you didn't this hadith is telling
you, you're actually gaining more
		
00:47:14 --> 00:47:17
			and the reward will come Allah
subhanaw taala will bring that
		
00:47:17 --> 00:47:21
			$100 back and more to you at some
point. And I've had this happen to
		
00:47:21 --> 00:47:25
			me so many times, I can't even
tell you, where you know, you give
		
00:47:25 --> 00:47:29
			for the sake of Allah and then all
of a sudden, it is repeat its
		
00:47:30 --> 00:47:34
			Hebrew pays you maybe the same
day, you know, 234 times that
		
00:47:34 --> 00:47:37
			amount, right. And I've had people
have the same story, they've
		
00:47:37 --> 00:47:41
			written a check. And then in the
mail, like the next day, they get
		
00:47:41 --> 00:47:43
			the exact same amount for that
check that's happened to people
		
00:47:43 --> 00:47:47
			before or twice the amount, you
know, somehow we should never
		
00:47:48 --> 00:47:51
			despair that Allah subhanaw taala
is always with us. And he repays
		
00:47:51 --> 00:47:55
			generosity with generosity.
Remember that? he repays
		
00:47:55 --> 00:48:00
			generosity with generosity. So the
next slide here, remember that
		
00:48:00 --> 00:48:04
			when you have hopeful factor, the
problem is, if all you think about
		
00:48:04 --> 00:48:08
			all day long is money and it's all
you see, right? And it's You're
		
00:48:08 --> 00:48:12
			just afraid of losing it, then
what happens is, you're likely not
		
00:48:12 --> 00:48:15
			going to do your obligations to
Allah subhanaw taala or your
		
00:48:15 --> 00:48:19
			family, you're probably not going
to be very good with your prayers,
		
00:48:19 --> 00:48:23
			you're certainly you know, won't
be good with Zakat and giving away
		
00:48:23 --> 00:48:27
			sadaqa you might not even want to
go to on Hajj, because you're too
		
00:48:27 --> 00:48:30
			worried about how much money it's
gonna cost you. Oh, man, it's cost
		
00:48:30 --> 00:48:34
			like $4,000 to go to Hajj, I don't
want to do that. Because what if
		
00:48:34 --> 00:48:37
			I, you know, don't have enough
money for next year or this and
		
00:48:37 --> 00:48:40
			you start thinking about all these
things. So it prevents you from
		
00:48:40 --> 00:48:44
			doing good deeds and even your
prayers. Because if you're afraid
		
00:48:44 --> 00:48:48
			of you have Harvard faculty, you
might work overtime. And let's say
		
00:48:48 --> 00:48:52
			you work so much that you forget
to pray, because you're too
		
00:48:52 --> 00:48:55
			worried about getting money. So
this is a problem with being
		
00:48:55 --> 00:48:58
			obsessed with money and not
remembering that Allah is the One
		
00:48:58 --> 00:49:02
			who gives to everybody, and
everybody will get what they
		
00:49:02 --> 00:49:06
			deserve. Nobody will take away if
Allah Justin for you to have
		
00:49:06 --> 00:49:10
			something and he it's written,
nobody and nothing can prevent it
		
00:49:10 --> 00:49:13
			from coming to you. So you just
have to have that trust, right?
		
00:49:13 --> 00:49:17
			But this is the danger of letting
greed or you know, hope and factor
		
00:49:17 --> 00:49:20
			which can sometimes lead to greed.
Enter the heart. Okay.
		
00:49:22 --> 00:49:25
			So another thing to also remember,
excuse me,
		
00:49:26 --> 00:49:30
			is this verse from the Quran where
Allah Subhan Allah says, Take from
		
00:49:30 --> 00:49:35
			their wealth, a charity by which
you cleanse them and purify them
		
00:49:36 --> 00:49:40
			and invoke blessings upon them.
What does this mean? It means that
		
00:49:40 --> 00:49:44
			whenever we give charity, it
actually cleans our wealth for us.
		
00:49:44 --> 00:49:47
			Okay, so I'm going to explain a
little bit more what that means.
		
00:49:49 --> 00:49:53
			Where did that oh, here we go. So
this was supposed to be before the
		
00:49:53 --> 00:49:57
			other one, but it's okay. So if
you see this cute, adorable little
		
00:49:58 --> 00:49:59
			boy, I'm thinking boy, me
		
00:50:00 --> 00:50:04
			up girl because she's got earrings
on. So let's just assume boy or
		
00:50:04 --> 00:50:09
			girl, either way, doesn't matter.
What is, let's, you know he doing
		
00:50:09 --> 00:50:13
			right he's washing these, these
clothes, okay, he's washing them
		
00:50:13 --> 00:50:16
			with his hand. Most of us we
probably have never done this
		
00:50:16 --> 00:50:18
			because our parents are taking
care of our laundry, they put it
		
00:50:18 --> 00:50:22
			in the washing machine and it
comes out magically clean, right.
		
00:50:22 --> 00:50:25
			But if you really think about it,
when we play right on the left
		
00:50:25 --> 00:50:28
			side, let's read. Sometimes when
we play, we get our clothes dirty
		
00:50:28 --> 00:50:31
			in the mud. Sometimes when we eat,
we get stains on our clothes from
		
00:50:31 --> 00:50:36
			food. Or when we work on an art
project, right, we get some paint
		
00:50:36 --> 00:50:39
			or glue or glitter all over our
clothing. When we cook or bake,
		
00:50:39 --> 00:50:43
			right, there's eggs, platters,
oils, flutters. You know, flour,
		
00:50:43 --> 00:50:46
			and our clothes can get really
messy chocolate, right? Whatever
		
00:50:46 --> 00:50:50
			it is, we know that we have to
wash our clothes to keep our
		
00:50:50 --> 00:50:54
			bodies clean, and the rest of our
clothes clean. Because otherwise,
		
00:50:54 --> 00:50:57
			if you leave that dirt or that
filth on your clothing, it's might
		
00:50:57 --> 00:51:01
			get get on something else. Right?
So we understand that when it
		
00:51:01 --> 00:51:05
			comes to our clothing, or with our
money with it's the same concept,
		
00:51:05 --> 00:51:08
			that there's parts of our money
that we're not always sure is it
		
00:51:08 --> 00:51:12
			coming from a hello source? You
know, is there anything that maybe
		
00:51:12 --> 00:51:16
			this money was involved in at some
point that wasn't clean? Let me
		
00:51:16 --> 00:51:20
			clean my money. Let me clean my
wealth, right, just like this boy
		
00:51:20 --> 00:51:24
			is vigorously you know, scrubbing
away the dirt from the clothing.
		
00:51:24 --> 00:51:28
			And how we do that is through
sadaqa and charity. When we give
		
00:51:28 --> 00:51:32
			part of our money for the sake of
Allah subhanaw taala Allah says it
		
00:51:32 --> 00:51:36
			purifies the rest of our wealth.
So whatever else we have saved is
		
00:51:36 --> 00:51:42
			clean. Even if there was something
you know, that maybe wasn't halal.
		
00:51:42 --> 00:51:46
			It is part of that wealth, right?
So this is how charity works. It
		
00:51:46 --> 00:51:49
			helps to clean our wealth. And
it's such an important part of
		
00:51:49 --> 00:51:50
			that, right?
		
00:51:51 --> 00:51:53
			So let's see here. Oh.
		
00:51:54 --> 00:51:58
			So here's the treatment. Okay. So
how do we treat for fear of
		
00:51:58 --> 00:52:02
			poverty? First, we have a good
opinion of Allah subhanaw taala.
		
00:52:02 --> 00:52:06
			And we remember that he is the one
who again distributes to his
		
00:52:06 --> 00:52:10
			creation, whatever He wills,
right, and we should have trust in
		
00:52:10 --> 00:52:14
			Him. He has no need for anything
that we do, right? So even when we
		
00:52:14 --> 00:52:17
			give for the sake of Allah or
anything we should remember Allah
		
00:52:17 --> 00:52:20
			has no need for any of that,
right? And he says here in the
		
00:52:20 --> 00:52:26
			Quran, chapter 51, verse 57, he
says, I do not desire from people
		
00:52:27 --> 00:52:31
			any provision, right? Which is
anything nothing, nor do I desire
		
00:52:31 --> 00:52:36
			that they feed me. So nothing
we're doing is increasing Allah
		
00:52:36 --> 00:52:40
			subhanaw taala, He is above all of
this, everything, right? He's not
		
00:52:40 --> 00:52:44
			a human, he doesn't have needs,
the way we have needs. So when we
		
00:52:44 --> 00:52:48
			do something for his sake, we have
to put a you know, remember that
		
00:52:48 --> 00:52:52
			he you know, we're not losing
anything, right? We're actually
		
00:52:52 --> 00:52:55
			gaining it because he has no need
of what we give. And that and then
		
00:52:55 --> 00:53:00
			the promise is I'm told us that
contentment is a treasure that is
		
00:53:00 --> 00:53:03
			never exhausted. So we all want
treasures, right? Everybody wants
		
00:53:03 --> 00:53:07
			a lot of wealth and power and all
of these things that we want one
		
00:53:07 --> 00:53:10
			on one, while the greatest thing
that you can have is to be
		
00:53:10 --> 00:53:14
			content, which is to be just
grateful, like 100 a lot. You
		
00:53:14 --> 00:53:17
			know, Allah Spanner, you've given
me a great life, and I'm grateful
		
00:53:17 --> 00:53:22
			for my health, for my family, for
my, you know, pets, for my
		
00:53:22 --> 00:53:25
			siblings, for my clothing for my
toys for everything, you just
		
00:53:25 --> 00:53:28
			start naming things randomly,
right? My books, my school, my
		
00:53:28 --> 00:53:32
			teachers, right? I'm grateful for
my friends. So to be in a state of
		
00:53:32 --> 00:53:35
			contentment, it's like this
treasure, you just, wow, there's
		
00:53:35 --> 00:53:38
			so much of it, right? But you have
to do that as an exercise, you
		
00:53:38 --> 00:53:41
			have to think about all the things
that he's given you, and really
		
00:53:41 --> 00:53:45
			sit there and go, Wow, I have so
much to be thankful for. Right?
		
00:53:45 --> 00:53:48
			Because there's a lot of people
who had everything and then boom,
		
00:53:48 --> 00:53:51
			something might have happened,
where they've lost things, and
		
00:53:51 --> 00:53:55
			they spend the rest of their life
saying, you know, I wish I could
		
00:53:55 --> 00:53:58
			have those things back. And they
might be simple things that we
		
00:53:58 --> 00:54:01
			take for granted things that we
don't even realize, you know, I
		
00:54:01 --> 00:54:04
			remember like my teacher, Sheikh
Hamza actually, he talked to us
		
00:54:04 --> 00:54:07
			about, you know, think about like
eyelashes, you know, how many of
		
00:54:07 --> 00:54:11
			us have actually sat and thought
Subhanallah we should be so
		
00:54:11 --> 00:54:15
			grateful for eyelashes, because
they're so tiny. They're so small,
		
00:54:16 --> 00:54:18
			and we have we were born with
them. But they have a huge
		
00:54:18 --> 00:54:22
			function, because without
eyelashes, things can get into
		
00:54:22 --> 00:54:25
			your eyes, there's a lot of
problems and then you can't see
		
00:54:25 --> 00:54:28
			very well. There's people who have
to constantly lubricate their eyes
		
00:54:28 --> 00:54:32
			and keep them moist. Because they
don't have you know, protection
		
00:54:32 --> 00:54:36
			from these eyelashes. So there's
things that say, what's the hairs
		
00:54:36 --> 00:54:41
			in our nose? The hairs in our nose
are so important because they
		
00:54:41 --> 00:54:44
			protect us from having problems
when we breathe. But how many of
		
00:54:44 --> 00:54:48
			us, you know, look to that and go
Well, thank God I have hairs on my
		
00:54:48 --> 00:54:51
			nose, right? Because who thinks
like that, but if you actually
		
00:54:51 --> 00:54:55
			think about if I didn't have these
hairs in my nose, and all the
		
00:54:55 --> 00:54:59
			green stuff inside of it that
traps the dust particles, that's
		
00:54:59 --> 00:55:00
			what those things are
		
00:55:00 --> 00:55:02
			All right, the B word, you guys
know what I'm talking about people
		
00:55:02 --> 00:55:06
			pick up them. Gross. But anyway,
it's another conversation. But
		
00:55:06 --> 00:55:11
			those things are important to our
health. Because if we didn't have
		
00:55:11 --> 00:55:16
			those, then all of those, the dust
that is in the air would go into
		
00:55:16 --> 00:55:20
			our lungs, and we'd be coughing
all that time. So do you see how
		
00:55:20 --> 00:55:23
			all those founders created us with
this incredible machine? Where if
		
00:55:23 --> 00:55:27
			you start thinking about all of
its parts, it's like, wow,
		
00:55:27 --> 00:55:31
			amazing, even a heart. You know
how much blood it like pumps out,
		
00:55:31 --> 00:55:34
			I don't know how many gallons
hundreds of gallons of blood every
		
00:55:34 --> 00:55:37
			day or maybe 1000s. It's a lot of
blood, that the heart is pumping
		
00:55:37 --> 00:55:41
			through our system. But it's like
a machine. It's incredible. So
		
00:55:41 --> 00:55:44
			this is what contentment does.
When you're grateful to Allah
		
00:55:44 --> 00:55:50
			subhanaw taala it just opens this
feeling of like, I have so much I
		
00:55:50 --> 00:55:54
			have a treasure already. I don't
need more, and then you don't have
		
00:55:54 --> 00:55:59
			fear of poverty. Okay, inshallah.
So that is the session for today,
		
00:55:59 --> 00:56:02
			you guys. So hamdulillah those are
the first three that we're
		
00:56:02 --> 00:56:06
			covering today. I want to hear
from you. So we have a few minutes
		
00:56:06 --> 00:56:09
			left. Very few. I'll take some
questions if you have I know there
		
00:56:09 --> 00:56:12
			was a lot of competition as we
were going. But let's see if
		
00:56:12 --> 00:56:15
			there's any questions about what
we've covered. If you want to
		
00:56:15 --> 00:56:19
			retype your question in a few
minutes we have I'm happy to to
		
00:56:19 --> 00:56:21
			answer your questions. Okay. This
lit up
		
00:56:23 --> 00:56:27
			and then just a heads up about
next week. I think I have Missy.
		
00:56:29 --> 00:56:33
			No, that's so next week we will go
over I'm not sorry not next week
		
00:56:33 --> 00:56:37
			on Thursday, we will go over
ostentation, relying on other than
		
00:56:37 --> 00:56:40
			God displeasure with divine decree
and seeking reputation heads up
		
00:56:40 --> 00:56:46
			just for FYI. But let me go ahead
and stop screenshare here and we
		
00:56:46 --> 00:56:51
			can now talk in short LA. Okay. So
let's see here.
		
00:56:53 --> 00:56:57
			Questions. I'm going to get back
to the chat box. How many sessions
		
00:56:57 --> 00:56:59
			will we have inshallah? Well,
thank you for asking. So we heard
		
00:56:59 --> 00:57:02
			we have Thursday, next Thursday,
this Thursday, and then the
		
00:57:02 --> 00:57:05
			following Tuesday and the
following Thursday. So that's 123
		
00:57:05 --> 00:57:09
			more sessions after today,
altogether six sessions, though,
		
00:57:09 --> 00:57:14
			and if, for whatever reason, we
may need to add one more because
		
00:57:14 --> 00:57:18
			we don't finish them all. I'll let
you guys know if the possible
		
00:57:18 --> 00:57:21
			seven session but for now, three
more sessions inshallah. Okay.
		
00:57:22 --> 00:57:25
			Okay, so quick questions here?
What if you're terrified of losing
		
00:57:25 --> 00:57:29
			something other than money? So
very good question. You know, if
		
00:57:29 --> 00:57:30
			you're afraid of
		
00:57:31 --> 00:57:35
			in this world, you have to
remember that Allah subhanaw
		
00:57:35 --> 00:57:39
			taala. If you're, if you ever lose
something of value, or important
		
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			to you, in this world, inshallah
you have the hope have, you know,
		
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			be patient with that loss, because
there's nothing happens in vain,
		
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			which means there's always a
wisdom of why things happen to us
		
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			in this world, always. And you
have to remember that Allah knows
		
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			what's best for you. So maybe in
that loss, something really good
		
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			can happen, right? For example,
I'll tell you, I'm there. You
		
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			know, there's that organization
called MADD Mothers Against Drunk
		
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			drivers, right? There was a
mother, I'm assuming, I think it
		
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			was a mother, but she hurt she
lost her child in a car accident
		
00:58:12 --> 00:58:16
			because of a drunk driver. So what
did she do, she took that energy,
		
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			right? That terrible loss, it was
a horrible thing to lose a child
		
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			is the one of the worst things
that a person can go through. But
		
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			instead of, you know, doing just
being in a state of sadness for
		
00:58:26 --> 00:58:30
			her whole life, she said, I'm
going to make sure nobody ever
		
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			experiences what I went through.
And she started this organization
		
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			called mad and now it's
international, I think are
		
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			definitely national. But everybody
knows it. And it's to prevent
		
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			people from drinking alcohol and
driving. So she took that loss and
		
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			did this amazing thing that's
helped millions and maybe billions
		
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			of people in the world. So you can
turn loss into something positive,
		
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			if you always have a good opinion
of Allah, but if he took something
		
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			from you, there's a reason for it,
and Inshallah, with your patience,
		
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			he'll replace it with something
better. And he'll use you to do a
		
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			lot of good with it if you're
patient. But if you think like,
		
00:59:08 --> 00:59:11
			oh, no, I've lost it. And now the
world is over, and I'm gonna fall
		
00:59:11 --> 00:59:15
			into a state of depression, then
you're forgetting that Allah is,
		
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			you know, he can give you anything
you want. And you have to turn
		
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			back to him. And just ask him to
give you patience with that loss.
		
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			And to replace it for something
with something better for you in
		
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			this world. And or, or, and reward
you in the next world with it as
		
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			well. Because, you know, some
things are hard on us. You know, I
		
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			lost for example, my pet
		
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			how many years ago, maybe nine
years ago, and I think about her
		
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			all the time and it hurts, it
hurts because I loved her. And it
		
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			was a difficult circumstance. But
I'm hopeful that in sha Allah,
		
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			she's going to be with me and
Jana, I really do I pray that it
		
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			was part of the helps bring her to
me and Jana and I get to see her
		
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			so I always hold on to that hope.
So if you have a loss of some
		
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			Something always remember Allah
will inshallah reward you with
		
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			with your patience. Okay? Um,
let's see what if it's cyber
		
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			bullying. So I'm assuming that has
to do with blameworthy modesty. If
		
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			it's cyber bullying, you should
also speak up if you see, you
		
01:00:17 --> 01:00:21
			know, someone on social media, you
know, treating other people
		
01:00:21 --> 01:00:25
			poorly, you can talk to them
directly and say, hey, you know,
		
01:00:25 --> 01:00:28
			I've noticed that you're leaving
really mean comments and trolling
		
01:00:28 --> 01:00:32
			people. If you know that, like,
let's say it's a school classmate
		
01:00:32 --> 01:00:35
			or something, you know, having the
courage to say something, but you
		
01:00:35 --> 01:00:39
			know, if it's a stranger, in your,
you know, account, you're, you
		
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			know, I would always say, be
careful, because some of you are
		
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			really young. But if you do have
social media presence, and your
		
01:00:45 --> 01:00:48
			name is visible, and people can
easily find you, you want to kind
		
01:00:48 --> 01:00:51
			of watch how you engage people
online, because there are a lot of
		
01:00:51 --> 01:00:54
			bad people online. But I think if
you're a young person, I would
		
01:00:54 --> 01:00:57
			just, you know, take it to your
parents and say, Listen, I have
		
01:00:57 --> 01:01:01
			you know, this person or this,
whoever that's, I think they're
		
01:01:01 --> 01:01:04
			being mean, and there'll be cyber
bullying, what should I do about
		
01:01:04 --> 01:01:06
			it and talk it through with your
parents, they'll help you figure
		
01:01:06 --> 01:01:09
			out if that's something you should
get involved in or not. Okay, but
		
01:01:09 --> 01:01:14
			be cautious. Just because again,
the digital world we don't have
		
01:01:14 --> 01:01:18
			full control, and there are a lot
of evil people out there. Okay.
		
01:01:20 --> 01:01:23
			So let's see. Mashallah, can you
continue this class, I love this.
		
01:01:23 --> 01:01:28
			Oh, how sweet. I just thank you.
That is such a sweet comment. I
		
01:01:28 --> 01:01:33
			love doing it. Well, I I wish we
were all in one together, room
		
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			together because it would be even
more engaging. But I love that you
		
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			guys love it. That really fills my
heart. So thank you for that
		
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			lovely comment.
		
01:01:41 --> 01:01:45
			Yes, it's called blameworthy
modesty. Okay, so the class is
		
01:01:45 --> 01:01:46
			called blameworthy modesty.
		
01:01:47 --> 01:01:49
			Mashallah, very good.
		
01:01:51 --> 01:01:54
			Okay, awesome. You guys. Well, I
think I answered all of your
		
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			questions that I can see. Oh,
wait, what did you do? Oh, yeah,
		
01:01:57 --> 01:01:59
			no, how many sessions? Yeah, I
think I've answered all your
		
01:01:59 --> 01:02:03
			questions. Thank you for being
here. Again. You guys are awesome.
		
01:02:03 --> 01:02:05
			May Allah bless all of you and
protect all of you have a
		
01:02:05 --> 01:02:09
			wonderful Iftar if you're fasting
remember me and my family and your
		
01:02:09 --> 01:02:13
			daughters, okay? And remember to
study because remember, I'm gonna
		
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			quiz you guys on Thursday with the
rest okay? And talk it over with
		
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			your family teach that be the
teacher. You know, if your parents
		
01:02:19 --> 01:02:23
			weren't listening, say let me
teach you about some diseases of
		
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			the heart today. Okay, take it
from there. All right, you guys
		
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			have a wonderful evening. So I
want to go what I happen to live
		
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			here but I can't do