Hosai Mojaddidi – Session 3 Purification of the Heart for Muslim Teenagers

Hosai Mojaddidi
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Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato

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Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala Schiebel MBE will mursaleen say

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that our Mowlana will have you been on from Excel Allah hottie

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who has said him while he was talking about salam to Sleeman

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Kathira again said I want to come everyone Hamdulillah we are here

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for our third session of purification of the heart. Thank

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you for being here. I made a few announcements before we officially

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began to those who were here early just to again up to keep everybody

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on the same page. We've switched over to the webinar format. So the

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chat box is open, and I invite you to participate via the chat box.

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I'll ask you some questions right now because I want to begin

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Inshallah, and we'll begin like we did last time with a bit of a

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little bit of a quiz. Okay. So if you remember from last two

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sessions that we had, or if you have notes, maybe you want to take

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those notes out and quickly look them over, okay. And the first

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question I have is Who can tell me who the original author is of the

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text the Arabic text that we are talking about here? Okay, because

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there's a person who lived 200 years ago about 200 years ago.

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Very good humbled that so we have some answers Good job. So I'm just

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going to make a slight correction because all of you have answered

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the same answer. So his name is actually Imam Elmo lute. Okay, so

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a lot of you are responding in my MO lewd which is fine. It's like a

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quick way of saying it, but the accurate name is Iman Elmo lute.

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Okay, just wanted to clarify that very good. So having said that,

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this is email Elmo Lutz text and he lived about roughly close to

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200 years ago.

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Who is the person who translated the book from Arabic into English?

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What's his name? Very good. Mashallah. Excellent. Okay. And

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what? Where does Sheikh Hamza all of you, Michelle, who are

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answering how did you were the first to come in very good. And

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she Amina second Bilal, third. Awesome. Great job you guys. Amen.

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as well. Great job and Leila. All of you are answering wonderfully.

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Where does the sheikh Hamza currently live? Where's he

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situated? What part of the world?

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They are. Oh, there we go. We got Bay Area and then we got Yes. seen

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with the correct answer. Berkeley. Very good. So he's in Berkeley,

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does he have a special place that he works at? And if so, what's the

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name of that place?

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Who can tell me the name of the place? Very good. Mashallah. Amen.

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You came in there and how did this how did you you said stay tuned up

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and even got the full answer for zaytuna college. Very good.

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Awesome, you guys. So did Youssef Bilal you're seen as well.

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Awesome. Okay. So next, we right away talked about the certain

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number of hearts. Who can remember the very first heart that we

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talked about? Okay, there were a certain number of hearts you can

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tell me if you want the number of hearts but what was the first one

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that we covered?

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Very good. Mashallah. So it's my answered eight. Awesome Good job a

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smile and then he has seen came with the first heart as the dead

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heart. You guys are on it. Excellent. The first heart was in

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fact the dead heart. Very good. And what's the last heart called?

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If you can give me the Arabic name even better? The last heart that

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we talked about? Very good. Amen. Came in with the sound heart

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awesome. And what's the Arabic of the sound heart?

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Mashallah, Sally. Very good. She Amina Awesome. Great job. You

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guys. You guys are doing really well. Michelle automatical. Okay,

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so we covered a few different you know, diseases already. Who can

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remember the very first disease that we covered? The first one.

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Okay, yes. Scene came in with miserliness. Very good. What's the

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Arabic villa? You answered me before I even finished that

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question. You are awesome, great job. And it's done. Very good. You

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guys know the Arabic terms. Awesome. What is the disease of

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the heart? Now? I'm going to switch up the questions a little

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bit to try to pay attention to the definition. Okay. What is the

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disease of the heart where you're to you can't control your

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excitement and it makes you prideful and makes you maybe want

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to spend on things a little bit too much. It's like, you can't

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control it. It's too exciting. And that leads to extravagance. Very

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good. Awesome. f9 Great job wantonness, very good. What is the

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Arabic of wantonness called a Fernand again, look at you much

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all love Very good. That's so exciting when you guys get it

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right like that. Awesome. Okay, so there's another disease of the

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heart I want. I'm gonna give you the Arabic term. I want you to

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quickly okay, it's like light

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Then you're going to type it out the English of it. What is the

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English meaning of the word bullet? Who can tell me bullet

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Wow of nine man mashallah, you are just ahead of everybody right now.

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Hi you're coming really quick super fast mashallah, you guys are

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awesome. Okay next this is a disease of the heart where you

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harm people or things for no reason whatsoever you're just not

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having a good day and you you feel like you can hurt something

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awesome Bilbao came in with it with the word iniquity very good

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beloved Masha Allah Who can tell me the Arabic name of that? Oh my

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salah Billa you are what you're like right there with me how you

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know what I was gonna ask him to very good. We got Villa we have

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son and f9 you guys all three of you got the word it's buzzing

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buzzing right. Great job you guys. I am so impressed. Mashallah,

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okay, this disease of the heart the prophesy Sam said in a hadith

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he was worried that towards the end of time, we would be like the

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frost of the ocean and he said we would have one in our hearts and

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then hit the companion said What's why and Yasuda law, and he said

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this disease of the heart what is it? Very good Mashallah. sunbaked

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awesome love of the world have the dunya now you're on it see? That's

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what I love. So when you wait with the English and the Arabic in one

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answer says pay attention you guys that's a really smart way of

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getting the full answer right? He's shown me he knows both great

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job martial arts roboticle Okay, then we went on to another disease

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of the heart. This is when you see something in someone and you can't

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control your desire for it and you actually want them to lose it.

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What is the Arabic of it?

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There we go Mashallah. Excellent so yes seeing got this SN again

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came through Bellagio Amina all of you you guys got kind of all

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answered at the same time. It just came rolling in Amen Tasleem Good

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job Awesome. Very good. Alhamdulillah this is a disease of

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the heart that the process that I'm said it consumes your good

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actions like fire consumes wood What is the name of that disease

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in the heart?

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Let's see who was paying attention

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it consumes your good actions like fire consumes wood

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is it jealousy?

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I kind of tricked you guys there and some of you fell for it but

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she Amina or I'm sorry, who was who did I see I wish I came

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through it is envy you guys envy remember anything jealousy are

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kind of used you know oftentimes you know to mean the same thing

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but they are slightly different and we you want the other person

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to lose what they have jealousy just wanted and you're insecure

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about things okay? So that's why where it comes from whereas envy

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is just really you know about having it and wanting the other

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person not to have it so very good. And has said very good how

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to thank you is the Arabic word for envy. Excellent. You guys are

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really doing wonderful much automatical what is okay this is

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the trick question or not trick question. This is a bonus

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question. Let's see who can get the bonus okay, if you get this

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one mashallah hulless you really paying attention? So let's say I

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made I'm just making up someone I've met CS biller and blood is

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memorizing Quran and he's got just memorize and now he's onto the

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29th Joe's and he's doing really good and then I'm it goes man, I

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wish I could be like he's got so much cord and memorize Why can't I

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do that? I'm gonna go find a teacher and I'm going to do this

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what is that called?

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Yes Bilal got it Masha Allah How perfect is that right? Because I

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haven't done below below. You're on it my shot. This is RIPTA Okay.

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reputa is what? ripped it is a good form of jealousy right? It's

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when you're competing for good things. So when you're trying to

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gain knowledge what's the other reason the process that I'm said

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you can have a VIP for so if you're it's good jealousy right?

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It's good to compete with with someone for that. So one is

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knowledge. What's the other thing who can remember? Come on? You

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guys can do it. You've been doing amazing so far. Wisdom and

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Knowledge kind of go hand in hand right? Because you have to be wise

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you know or if you have knowledge hopefully you're wise right? Okay,

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very good. f9 Masha Allah, it's what your gave is, I think a

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pretty good answer. And Yousef as well, wealth or sadaqa. So the

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means to to do things right? So if you see someone who has a lot of

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wealth, you can have a grip for that person as long as your

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intentions are good, right? You want to please

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Allah subhanho wa taala. So you have that jealousy like, Oh, I

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wish I had that kind of money so that I could do a lot of good in

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the world, right? Like help orphans, right? This is a great

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cause, right? Or build a masjid. So there's a lot of great things

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that you could do with money. And if you have a gift for someone

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who's wealthy, that's okay. Or for someone who has knowledge, you

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guys are so amazing. JazakAllah headed, I love that you guys are

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paying attention. And you're remembering stuff that makes me so

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so so happy. So may Allah bless all of you. Now, are you ready to

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start our third session, because we're going to introduce you to

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three new diseases of the heart. You guys ready? Pay attention now.

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Okay, we're in take some notes if you want to. But let me go ahead

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and pull up my presentation to make sure that we are ready. So my

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first screenshare Bismillah and I should be able to see my screen.

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And now we're gonna go into presenter mode, and boom. Okay,

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you guys see it? Yeah. Insha Allah, let me actually pull up the

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chat so I can see what you guys are saying.

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So what do you guys see on the screen? You see, week two sister

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has said looks perfect. Okay. Alhamdulillah Thank you just like

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okay, this is her. Alright, here we go. Ready? So week two, we had

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week one last week, we did two sessions. This is where we're at

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now. So we're going to cover these diseases this week and shallow.

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Okay. For today's session, I only did the first three, just because

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I've didn't have honestly enough time to prepare more. And also a

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number 10 is a big one. And I want to kind of focus on that a little

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bit more on Thursday. So we'll get through the remaining four

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inshallah on Thursday. Okay, but for today, we're gonna go over

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blameworthy modesty, which is higher than meme. And then that is

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holding on to one's wealth. Oh, I'm sorry, did I not? Oh, no, I

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think I unfortunately forgot to cut and paste the proper column

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here on the right. Let me go back to the previous slide. I hopefully

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have it here somewhere. We're just going to do a quick rewind, rewind

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to here. This is where did we go? Not here, here. Alright, so we're

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gonna go to number seven, eight and nine. Okay, so my bad I forgot

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I didn't properly cut and paste this definition part of it. So I

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apologize. So number seven, blameworthy. Modesty is shyness or

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cowardice that prevents someone from addressing a wrong or

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inquiring about a need? So what does that mean? It means when you

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are too shy to act in the in a time where you should act, let's

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say you're listening to a teacher like myself, or maybe you're at

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the masjid. And there's a heartbeat going on. And they say

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something that is not clear. Like maybe I say something to you,

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that's not clear. And then you're like, Oh, should I ask or not?

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Should I say something? Should I raise my hand and go Teacher?

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Teacher? I didn't understand that. Right? Sometimes our shyness

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prevents us from acting when we should. So we're going to talk

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more, but that's just a quick example of that. Okay, blameworthy

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thoughts. These are thinking about things that are prohibited, okay?

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Like if you're just letting your mind kind of wander on, and you're

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just thinking about things you shouldn't think about, and we'll

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talk about what we mean with that, okay. But anytime you have

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thoughts that are just really pointless, or it's a waste of your

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time, that would fall under

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thoughts, and then fear of poverty. So that is when you're so

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afraid of, you know, not having enough food or wealth or material

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things, that it creates this anxiety in you. And it almost

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basically kind of destroys the way that you live your life, right? A

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lot of people and it's somewhat kind of could be tied to

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miserliness, because if you have a fear of poverty, it might lead you

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to become someone who's hoarding their wealth, right? Because it's

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like, oh, no, I can't spend too much money because, you know, I'm

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going to be poor, or I'm going to not have a home to live in or, and

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those thoughts can kind of just really take someone to a very dark

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place where they lose, you know, complete trust in Allah subhanho.

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So we're going to talk about those three diseases today. So let me

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now fast forward really quickly and see how fast I can go. Okay,

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and I'm going to click as fast as I can. Okay. Did it did well, how

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fast was that? Nope, here we go. Here we go. Oh, wrong. What? Okay,

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so here we are, we are on. Again, blameworthy modesty. So first,

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before we even get to blameworthy modesty, let's be clear about what

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the word modesty means. Okay. So, Muslims, we know this word, it's a

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very big part of our faith. But sometimes we need to really have a

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broad understanding of modesty, because it's not just about our

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clothing. Okay, a lot of times we'll hear modesty, its reference

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to dressing modestly. Right? But it's more than that. It's about

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being humble and not showing off. And when we say showing off, this

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obviously includes showing off our bodies right, which is why we

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dress we cover. We dress modestly because we don't show off the

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things that are private, right? I was proud that I told us to be

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modest in the way that we dress. So it's about not showing off

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Our bodies or our good deeds, skills, strengths, whatever gifts,

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Allah subhanaw taala has given us if he's blessed us with, if you're

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a modest person you don't show off, okay? Why? Because you're

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confident you don't have a need, or a reason to be a show off.

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Someone who shows off, they're insecure, right? They're insecure,

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they feel like I have to show this because then I get attention. And

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if I get attention, it makes me feel good about myself. Muslims,

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we don't look to other people for attention, we look to Allah

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subhanaw taala he's the only one whose opinion of us matters. So we

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don't feel the need to walk around and strut our stuff. And you know,

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show our skin because a lot of people in this culture, right you

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see them all the bla and as the temperatures get warmer, they

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start you know, wearing inappropriate clothing, right? And

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when they do that, our job as Muslims because we don't judge

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people, right? We do not judge people. We say that. I believe

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everybody told us that. And I have actually a really good story that

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I'm going to share in a moment about not judging people. But But

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what when we see someone who's dressed in an inappropriate way,

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we show our modesty by what lowering our gaze, right? So here,

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Allah Subhana Allah tells us tell believing men to lower their

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glances and guard their private parts, right? So you lower your

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eyes so that you don't see things that are immodest. And you also

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cover yourself, right? You cover your area, private area that is

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pure for them. God is well aware of everything they do, and then

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say to the bleeding women Oh, excuse me. Where am I? Sorry, you

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guys. I'm Butter fingers here. Okay.

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I'm trying to move this little chat box because it's in the way

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of the text. So I apologize. Okay. So say to the believing women,

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that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty that they

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should not display their beauty and, and ornaments except what

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must ordinarily appear, right, our hands our face, that they should

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draw their veils over there wasn't so easy wear hijab, we cover

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ourselves, right? This is how I was kind of instructs Muslim men

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and women to dress we dress in a modest way. Right. And I'm just

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going to quickly tell you guys a story. This really actually

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happened to me. I was once at an airport. And this is a long time

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ago, where I was younger, and I didn't know a lot of things. And I

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thought that, you know, I'm better than people because I was wearing

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hijab. And so I did I kind of let my arrogance, self righteousness,

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which we'll talk about right? Sometimes you get a little too,

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you think of yourself as better and this is dangerous is a disease

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of the heart. But if you don't know it's a disease of the heart,

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then you can have it. So when I was much, much younger, this

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happened to me where I was in hijab, and I was at the airport,

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and I was waiting for my ride. And all of a sudden I see this woman,

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and she gets out of her car. You know, she's, you know, when you're

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at the airport, and you're waiting for people to pick you up, you

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have to kind of wait there, and all these cars are coming and

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going. So she got out of her car, and she was dressed very

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inappropriately. She was wearing shorts, very short shorts, and

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like, you know, a tank top. And I just looked at her and I judged

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her I did I thought like, wow, why she dress like that. It's so

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wrong. And I had all these negative thoughts. And then

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Subhanallah she ended up it was kind of a it was a very strange

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experience for me, because I'm just waiting there. I don't know

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her. She's a stranger, but she ended up closing the trunk of her

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car, and she saw me. And then she started walking towards me. So I'm

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like, Whoa, what's going on? Why is this woman who's like a

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stranger walking to me, right? What is she going to say? And I'm

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like, you know, so I kind of was like a little like, you know, just

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paranoid, like what's gonna happen now, all of a sudden, she comes

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in, she stands in a very humbled state, very humble. She has her

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head down and she goes, and I'm on a comb. I know, I'm not dressed

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very appropriately. You know, mela for forgive me. I'm a Muslim. I'm

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a convert. And I'm raising my son to be a Muslim. I saw you and I

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was so happy. Because I thought maybe you can help me give me some

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recommendations for children's book because I want to raise my

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son as a Muslim. So she's saying all of this stuff to me. Subhan

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Allah, right. She's not dressed modestly. I'm dressed modestly.

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But this is where we look at the hearts right? Her heart was in

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such a good state because she recognized her mistake. She was

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humble, and she wanted to be better. But I let arrogance in my

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heart, right? I thought I was better and I was judging her. And

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then Allah, he's the one who made this whole event happen, right?

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She, i There's no way I would have ever thought she was a Muslim, the

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way she was dressed. But Allah wanted me to have that experience

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because it did. It changed my mind about a lot of things. I started

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to really look at my heart more and say, Oh, sigh How could you

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have let your heart become so filled with arrogance that you

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walk around judging people because of the way that they're dressed?

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Right that

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It's not for you to do. You don't judge people. We don't judge

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people, we know what's right and what's wrong. But we leave the

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judgment to Allah subhanaw taala. Right there, he's the only one who

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judges. So when we say that, yes, we live in a society where a lot

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of people are not dressed appropriately, our job is not to

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look down on them, because they don't know many times people don't

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know, this woman, she was a convert, and she was trying to be

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better. So you know, just like Islam took 23 years to complete.

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Some people, they take time getting good habits, so we just

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have to leave the judgment alone. But what we do, instead of judging

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them, we turn our gaze away. And we wish well for them that Allah

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guides them, okay? So that's what this hadith is telling us to lower

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your gaze Don't you know, judge other people lower your gaze, and

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I wanted to share that story. So that you have an example of when

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sometimes it's not black. So black and white, you know, you might see

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a Muslim and think, Oh, they're amazing. And then you see someone

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dressed like that and think, look at them. But if you really, you

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know, judge that situation, who was who was better and who wasn't

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right, she was much better than me. And that was a humbling moment

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for me. And I'm so grateful to Allah that He did that for me,

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because it literally changed everything. My perception of

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everything was different. Then I started looking at the diseases of

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the heart, and realizing I had a lot of them. And that's how I

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handled I benefited from this amazing science of, you know,

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purification of the heart. So 100 Okay, so now, what else do we know

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about modesty? Okay, here we have another Hadith where pura EBVs

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reported that we were once with the Messenger of Allah, so Allah

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He was sent him when modesty was mentioned to him. And someone

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said, O Messenger of Allah is modesty, part of faith, and the

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prophesy centum said, what rather it is the entire religion Subhan

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Allah so this is a very big part of being a Muslim. Then he said,

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Verily modesty, abstinence reticence of the tongue, but not

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the heart, and deeds are all part of faith they bring gain in the

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hereafter and loss in the world. What is gained in the hereafter is

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much greater than what is missed in the world. So why did I put

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that phrase reticence of the tongue, but not the heart in

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yellow? Because this is telling us that reticence means when you're

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holding back, right, you're holding back, we should hold back

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with our tongues when we, you know, maybe there's a situation

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that, you know, we don't like or you know, where the judgment might

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take over. We shouldn't comment, but not in our heart or in our

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heart, we should be very clear about what's right and what's

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wrong. Okay. And that kind of ties into what blameworthy modesty is.

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So let's be a little bit more clear here. So again, modesty,

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something's a whole religion, every part of us we should I mean,

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our part of our faith thing is, modesty is a big part of that. But

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we have to understand that this quality has to be in balance

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right? Between one spiritual heart and one's conscience. So here we

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have praiseworthy modesty activates the conscience, right,

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and protects the spiritual heart. It helps one to lower the gaze,

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protect the heart from being exposed to things that bring it

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harm. But blameworthy modesty impairs the conscience and by

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extension, the spiritual heart. It prevents one from acting or

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speaking up when it is necessary. And it invites cowardice into the

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heart to become a coward, right? That's what blameworthy. Modesty

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does. You're not very courageous, when you have blameworthy modesty

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and this is not part of our faith, we should be people of courage

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with Allah Subhan. Allah with that. All right. So let's look

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again at some examples. So for example, as I said earlier, not

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asking questions about one's Deen out of shyness. So if you're ever

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not clear about something, but because you don't want to

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embarrass yourself with your friends, in the class, or you you

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know, maybe in a situation where you don't know all the students,

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you feel a little awkward about talking. Remember this, you don't

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want to have blameworthy modesty, it's much more important that you

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speak up and you don't have to speak up right then and there.

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Maybe after the class, right? You can go to the teacher and say, Mr.

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Or, you know, sister or brother or, you know, Chef, or chef, ah, I

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didn't understand when you said this, can you please explain it to

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me, but not to be shy in the class, and then even after the

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class go on, I don't want to go up to the teacher and, you know, and,

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and have, you know, this conversation with them. That's too

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embarrassing, because then it's like, I didn't know and everybody

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else seemed to get it. And I don't want to look like I'm not smart.

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And all of those thoughts. That's what blameworthy. Modesty is

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right? When you sit there and you have this conversation with

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yourself, that you're too worried about how you look in front of

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other people, and it prevents you from learning, right? And so at

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the bottom you see this hadith here.

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of Asia, the Prophets wife, may Allah be pleased with her said,

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How excellent are the women of the unsought? These are the women of

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Medina, right? They do not allow shyness to prevent them from

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asking questions and understanding the religion. So she's making an

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observation here that says what? That look at how amazing these

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women are. The answer are they ask their questions, they're not clear

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about something, they're not going to go, Oh, I'm just going to, it's

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okay. I'll pretend like I understood it. Right. And it did.

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This doesn't have to just be for religion. You know, let's say

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you're in a math class or you're in another class, you know, you

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should, you know, have the courage to always if there's some

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knowledge that's being taught to you, and you don't get it to make

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that a priority instead of yourself, right. It's not about

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how you appear, because very wise people are okay, admitting that

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they don't know Imam Malik, who was one of the great 40 memes of

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you know, of the schools of fish that we have, he was known to very

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commonly say, I don't know, when people would ask him questions, he

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would say, I don't know. And this shows, not that he doesn't have

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knowledge, but the opposite, that he's actually very wise. And he

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had he, I mean, he was very, very knowledgeable. He's one of the

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great Imams, but he had the humility to know when he didn't

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know, right, and so we shouldn't let our shyness of not knowing

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prevent us from knowing that's what blameworthy. Modesty is one

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example. Another is not standing up for someone who's been wronged.

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So if you see a situation, let's say there's a bully, right? And

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he's bullying, or she's bullying someone, and you're just standing

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there, you know what's wrong, but how do you can't find the courage

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to say something, right, or to do something to put a stop to it, we

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find this problem everywhere. Now in schools, and in other places, a

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lot of people, not just youth, but like adults, too. They freeze up

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and they don't say something when they should, and then they watch

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it. And instead, unfortunately, with phones, now, they're

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recording it, you know, so it's like, you're you're watching

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someone get beat up in front of you. And instead of acting, you're

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just gonna record the video. Like, that's really not good, right?

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Because you're, you're not helping these people at all the one who's

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doing the, the harming and the one who's being harmed, both of them

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need help. Right. And that's what Muslims are called to do the

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process, I'm told us, You we help, you know, the oppressed and the

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oppressor, and we help the oppressor by stopping him from

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being oppressive. So you want to separate people when they're

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fighting, because, you know, the one is getting hurt, but the other

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one is also causing a lot of damage. So let's help both of them

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if this happens, you know, especially with friends or people

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that you know, you should be worried about both not having the

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courage to stand up to an unjust person. So in the first situation,

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you're not protecting someone who's being harmed. But in the

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next situation, it's where you, you're not confronting that person

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who's doing the bullying, right? And saying, Listen, what you're

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doing is wrong, and you need to stop it. This is all you know,

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part of again, what what can take over someone if they have

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blameworthy modesty, and then also not participating in something

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worth worthwhile and beneficial out of shyness. So this is similar

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to, you know, what we've talked about, which is you see something

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either that's harmful that you should address, or that's

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beneficial, but your shyness prevents you from getting it, like

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the knowledge Right? Or let's say you, you know, everybody, all of

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your cousins and friends want to go somewhere. And maybe you,

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you're kind of like, let's say they want to go roller skating,

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okay, and you've never roller skated before. But the idea of it

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is like, oh, man, I don't want to do it, because I don't know how to

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do it. And I don't want to go and embarrass myself. So then you you

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don't go you end up going, Oh, I don't want to go all because you

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let this shyness prevent you from actually benefiting. You're going

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to spend time with your cousins and friends. You might learn a new

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skill, but there's a shyness there that prevents you that's

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blameworthy modesty. Okay. So hopefully this disease is clear.

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Now how can we get rid of it? Or how can we treat it? Well, the

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first thing is that you put the pleasure of Allah Subhana Allah

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before anyone else, okay? You're always thinking as Muslims we're

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always always always thinking first. Will this make Allah

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subhanaw taala happy or will it not make him happy? That is it

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with everything that you do from the moment you wake up until the

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moment you sleep? That should be your thought process and

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everything because everything we know as Muslims our deen is

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complete Allah has given us answers about everything through

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the Muslims example but our deen we know right and wrong. And we

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know and if you don't know that's what you have your parents for and

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other people, you ask questions, but in your mind you that's how

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you check yourself and that's how you prevent che Don, from making

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you do things that are wrong. You have that question? Is this going

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to make Allah happy or not happy? And then you act right? But this

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is how we should be. So if we start putting that into

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practice, you'll find that even if you're uncomfortable something if

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you're thinking, Okay, if Allah will be happy with me, I'll do it,

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then Inshallah, that courage will start to grow in your heart,

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because you're always thinking of making almost another happy with

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you. Okay? And I see a quick question. I'm seeing the chat box,

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but I'm sorry, I'm not able to answer every question. But this

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one is an important one that I do want to talk about real quick, if

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you're scared of getting hurt, okay? Now the word vulnerable

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comes from, I think it's Greek or Latin from boldness, which means

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to be open to injury, okay? And it means to be open to being wounded,

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okay? That's why we're, when we're ever in a situation where we're

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afraid to act, yes, that's part of it, we're worried, we're worried

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that we're going to be rejected or embarrassed or humiliated. All of

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those things, right. But part of the youth experiences, you're kind

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of in a test phase of your life where you're leaving childhood,

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and you're growing into becoming an adult. And just like every

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adult, before you, all of us went through the same experience. And

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every child after you will go through the same experience where

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you have to kind of test things out and get better and better.

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It's like a practice sort of phase, right? So if you want to

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grow and kind of go through that process, a little bit in a better

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way, without too many bumps along the road, then you have to say,

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You know what, there's a first time for everything, and I got to

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try it, and I have to muster up the courage. And even if I'm

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worried about everything, it's okay, it's probably I'm probably

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making too much of a big deal out of it in my mind. Because if

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there's, you know, adults in the room, Inshallah, they're all

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mature enough, they're not gonna laugh at you or embarrass you or

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anything like that. Rather, they will probably encourage you, even

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if things don't go your way, let's say like, go back to the roller

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skating example, if you're gonna, if you don't want to go roller

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skating, because you don't want to fall, right? I've, it's happened

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to me several times, even as an adult, you know, you can either

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fall and then make yourself feel bad and think, oh, my gosh, I'm so

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embarrassing. And oh, why did I do this? I'm so failure. I don't even

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know how to roller skate, I have no coordination and let all those

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negative thoughts come in your mind. Or you can say, Dude, I just

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really just get it for the first time. And it's okay, at least I

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had the courage to do it. And even if I fell, oh, well, people fall

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all the time, even professional skaters fall, there's people who

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have been at the Olympics and they fall. So fouling is just part of

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human human experience. Gravity is a force. So it's not that big of a

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deal. And instead of letting you know, you know, shaytaan, or your

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own nafs, make you feel weak. You want to say, You know what, let's

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just get back up and laugh it off. It's no big deal. Whatever. You

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know, when I used to do when I was a kid, I would always like if I

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tripped over something, I would always pretend like it was a new

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dance move. So I would just like, oh, yeah, check it out. That was

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that was just me being cool. And I would just say something silly.

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And then everybody would laugh, right? Because my attitude was I'm

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not embarrassed by this. I'm a human and it's okay to fall or

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have, you know, slip here and there. Even if you're talking like

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I've been speaking publicly for a long time. Sometimes when you

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first start off, you get nervous and you're like a book, you say

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things like that. It's okay. Because the more you do it, the

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better you get at it, and then you look back at those times, you just

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love like, oh, yeah, that was me practicing, you know, as my

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practice runs, and it's okay that you have those experiences. So you

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gotta get out of that mentality that, oh my gosh, I'm gonna I'm so

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scared of being looked at and embarrassed, strong. People are

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like, You know what? It's okay, it happens. You know, I'm just gonna

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keep trying to push forward. Okay. So thank you for that question.

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Now, another thing to get rid of this is to ask questions. When you

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don't understand something, force yourself, get into that habit. I

00:33:42 --> 00:33:45

don't get it. I need more clarity. Because you know what? It's not

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that you necessarily have a, you know, like you, you didn't

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understand it. And you're, there's something wrong with the way that

00:33:52 --> 00:33:55

your brain worked? What if it's the teacher? What if the teacher

00:33:55 --> 00:33:59

didn't explain things correctly? I'm a teacher, certainly, we are

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not perfect. There's times where we don't do a good job explaining

00:34:03 --> 00:34:06

something so the students are confused. That's our fault. That's

00:34:06 --> 00:34:10

not your fault. So what you want to do is if anytime you don't

00:34:10 --> 00:34:14

understand something, ask with humility, right? Don't assume that

00:34:14 --> 00:34:18

the teacher just failed to explain it right? Just ask with humility

00:34:18 --> 00:34:21

and say, Teacher, I'm sorry, I didn't quite understand something.

00:34:22 --> 00:34:25

But remember that it might not be that you didn't understand it?

00:34:25 --> 00:34:30

Well, it might be that the teacher didn't explain it. Well, by asking

00:34:30 --> 00:34:33

with humility and a dove, this is always good. You allow the teacher

00:34:33 --> 00:34:37

to correct themselves, right. The teacher will come back and and

00:34:37 --> 00:34:41

hopefully explain it better for you inshallah. So but find that

00:34:41 --> 00:34:44

courage to be I'm going to ask that question. Okay. And then

00:34:44 --> 00:34:47

practice more courage and use judgment when you see something

00:34:47 --> 00:34:50

wrong or an injustice. For example, you know, I said about

00:34:50 --> 00:34:52

the bullying thing. If you're seeing a situation where there's a

00:34:52 --> 00:34:56

physical fight, you don't have to jump in. Okay. What I said earlier

00:34:56 --> 00:34:59

about stopping the fight and separating the people. I'm not

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saying to

00:35:00 --> 00:35:03

unnecessarily get in to the fight and hurt yourself or get hurt. You

00:35:03 --> 00:35:06

don't need to do that. The judgment comes in to say this is

00:35:06 --> 00:35:10

wrong. And instead of watching it happen and freezing, like, oh my

00:35:10 --> 00:35:13

gosh, this is Whoa, this is crazy. I'm just going to watch it. The

00:35:13 --> 00:35:18

judgment says, This is wrong, I need to go get an adult. And you

00:35:18 --> 00:35:21

you're the one that leaves your backpack tells a friend watch

00:35:21 --> 00:35:24

this, I have to go run. And you go get the nearest teacher and say,

00:35:24 --> 00:35:27

Teacher, teacher, come here, there's a fight happening. That is

00:35:27 --> 00:35:30

being a wise person, because what you're doing is saying, I don't

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want to just let this happen and unfold and have an injury and

00:35:34 --> 00:35:37

someone really get hurt. And there's been some really terrible

00:35:37 --> 00:35:41

accidents. You know, recently, like last year, I remember reading

00:35:41 --> 00:35:45

a story about a fight that happened in a school. And one of

00:35:45 --> 00:35:49

the students was unfortunately killed, he actually died because

00:35:49 --> 00:35:54

when the other student hit him, he fell and on a something like a

00:35:54 --> 00:35:59

cement piece that was very hard and his head, hit it really hard,

00:35:59 --> 00:36:03

and he was injured, and then he eventually died. So you never, God

00:36:03 --> 00:36:08

forbid, want to let people in that type of situation, get all the

00:36:08 --> 00:36:11

blood carried away. But imagine you can save lives just by going

00:36:11 --> 00:36:14

and getting an adult. Okay, so that's what courage does. And

00:36:14 --> 00:36:18

that's the opposite of this quality of blameworthy modesty. So

00:36:18 --> 00:36:22

inshallah that's the first disease of the heart, we need to move

00:36:22 --> 00:36:26

forward to the next one. So let's go ahead. This is going to this is

00:36:26 --> 00:36:30

about the next diseases of the heart. So did you know, sorry, let

00:36:30 --> 00:36:33

me move this. I don't know if you guys can see all of everything on

00:36:33 --> 00:36:36

my screen, like the chat box and everything. But if you can, sorry.

00:36:36 --> 00:36:40

So did you know that the average person the average person means

00:36:40 --> 00:36:43

you can't obviously go around asking every single person on the

00:36:43 --> 00:36:48

planet? So what we do is we just kind of take a poll and then

00:36:48 --> 00:36:52

determine how many people from that group of people this would

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apply to so the average person has about 12,000 to 60,000 thoughts

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per day. That's a lot of thoughts. Right? If you think about it, for

00:37:02 --> 00:37:04

the moment, you wake up until you sleep, you're thinking all the

00:37:04 --> 00:37:07

time, your brain never really shuts off. Even when you're

00:37:07 --> 00:37:13

watching something like on TV or playing a game, you're playing a

00:37:13 --> 00:37:14

game, your brain is definitely active. But if you're doing

00:37:14 --> 00:37:18

something more passive, like watching a show or a film, your

00:37:18 --> 00:37:21

brain is very active, because it's understanding everything, it's

00:37:21 --> 00:37:24

processing everything. It's taking all those images in. Right. So

00:37:24 --> 00:37:27

there's a lot of activity and thoughts that are happening. But

00:37:28 --> 00:37:32

of those thoughts, this is what's really fascinating. 80% are

00:37:32 --> 00:37:37

negative SubhanAllah. Isn't that sad? This is why is that the case?

00:37:37 --> 00:37:41

Why is that the case that 80% more than 50% of our thoughts are

00:37:41 --> 00:37:45

negative thoughts. Right? They're not good thoughts? Well, we have

00:37:45 --> 00:37:49

we know from our tradition, shaitan is real, right? He, He is

00:37:49 --> 00:37:54

the Whisper he likes to take away good feelings, good thoughts, good

00:37:54 --> 00:37:58

experiences, even our prayers, right? When we stand up for

00:37:58 --> 00:38:01

prayers, He loves to distract us. And suddenly we're thinking about

00:38:01 --> 00:38:03

things that we weren't even thinking about at all, because he

00:38:03 --> 00:38:06

likes to this, put all those thoughts in our mind. So 80% of

00:38:06 --> 00:38:10

those thoughts are negative, and then 95% are exactly the same

00:38:10 --> 00:38:14

repetitive thoughts from the day before. So we tend to think about

00:38:14 --> 00:38:18

the same things over and over and over and over again, this is the

00:38:18 --> 00:38:21

human being this is why you know, we say almost father created us

00:38:21 --> 00:38:25

with these, you know, issues and we have to do the work of

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purification of the heart and of the you know, of the of the mind

00:38:30 --> 00:38:33

and the tongue and all of the things that we have, we have to

00:38:33 --> 00:38:36

purify our thoughts. We have to purify these things. And there's

00:38:36 --> 00:38:39

ways to do that in sha Allah. Okay, so let's look here. Next

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slide.

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So what are specific things that we shouldn't think about? Okay,

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because negative thoughts can fall under a lot of different

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categories. You know, we could cover a lot of things, but we're

00:38:52 --> 00:38:56

going to talk specifically about two things. First thing that

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blameworthy thoughts are thoughts that are not good. Our thoughts

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are about the nature of ALLAH SubhanA wa at that okay. We have

00:39:04 --> 00:39:08

almost one has revealed Himself to us through the 99 names that a

00:39:08 --> 00:39:11

smile hosts now, which are the attributes of Allah subhanaw

00:39:11 --> 00:39:14

taala. And of course, we have the Quran which are his words, and

00:39:14 --> 00:39:18

only his words. And then we have the Hadith could see which are

00:39:18 --> 00:39:21

sort of like their revelations, that last point that I gave to the

00:39:21 --> 00:39:24

prophesy centum they're not in the Quran, they're in the Hadith. But

00:39:24 --> 00:39:28

all of these things are also part of the teaching us about who he

00:39:28 --> 00:39:33

is. Right? So for us, we only base our knowledge of all those ponds

00:39:33 --> 00:39:37

that aren't on what he's revealed to us. But sometimes our mind can

00:39:37 --> 00:39:40

start wandering and we start imagining things and we think

00:39:40 --> 00:39:44

about things that are not good to think about with relation to what

00:39:44 --> 00:39:48

does Allah look like and how is he all of those thoughts are we have

00:39:48 --> 00:39:52

to turn those thoughts off because there's always finances laser,

00:39:52 --> 00:39:55

laser committed he che Right? Which is what they're there's

00:39:55 --> 00:39:59

nothing in creation that is like Allah subhana wa

00:40:00 --> 00:40:04

Mmm, okay, nothing in creation, which means that, no, there's no

00:40:04 --> 00:40:09

way that we can try to imagine Allah subhanaw without it in our

00:40:09 --> 00:40:14

mind, because everything in our minds is from what we see and what

00:40:14 --> 00:40:18

we know in the universe, right? So it makes no sense to try to think

00:40:18 --> 00:40:22

about Allah Subhana Allah when he's told us that there's nothing

00:40:22 --> 00:40:27

that you can even come close to, that would be similar to him. So

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don't even try, but have the hope that inshallah we're going to

00:40:34 --> 00:40:38

inshallah see him in the next world. That's why we want to go to

00:40:38 --> 00:40:43

Jenner, the greatest prize that we could possibly have is to see

00:40:43 --> 00:40:47

Allah subhanaw taala in Jannah. Okay, so this is why it's so

00:40:47 --> 00:40:51

important that you just turn off that thought and say, I'm not

00:40:51 --> 00:40:54

going to have those thoughts about Allah, I'm going to wait for the

00:40:54 --> 00:40:57

great prize of seeing him agenda. So that's the first thing that we

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want to, you know, again, address. And then the other thing is to

00:41:00 --> 00:41:03

think about thoughts about other people like their faults, right?

00:41:04 --> 00:41:07

A lot of times people will just waste their time thinking about

00:41:07 --> 00:41:10

other people, whether it's a stranger or someone you know, if

00:41:10 --> 00:41:14

you're just wasting your those precious thoughts are 60,000

00:41:14 --> 00:41:17

thoughts? And you're thinking about things that you shouldn't

00:41:17 --> 00:41:21

this is the this is the what falls under blameworthy thoughts, right.

00:41:21 --> 00:41:24

And the problem was, Adams said here, he said, There is a tree in

00:41:24 --> 00:41:30

paradise reserved for people whose own faults preoccupied them from

00:41:30 --> 00:41:34

thinking about other people's faults. So Subhanallah, if you

00:41:34 --> 00:41:37

spend more time on your own self and trying to fix yourself than

00:41:37 --> 00:41:40

you do thinking about, Oh, why does this person dress this way,

00:41:40 --> 00:41:43

they have such a bad habit and look at, you know, oh, they you

00:41:43 --> 00:41:47

know, they play basketball like this, or, you know, you can get

00:41:47 --> 00:41:50

very judgy about what people do, right? We'll pick apart everything

00:41:50 --> 00:41:54

about them. That's how you shouldn't do that. Right. We

00:41:54 --> 00:41:56

talked about this a little bit, I think last time where we said

00:41:56 --> 00:42:00

there's Lee, but in the heart of a hub, where you actually can, you

00:42:00 --> 00:42:02

know, have bad thoughts about people in your heart. And this is

00:42:02 --> 00:42:06

libre, which is you know, gossiping, and it's really one of

00:42:06 --> 00:42:10

the worst sins. So we want to stop that right. And the problem was

00:42:10 --> 00:42:15

and promised a tree a special tree in paradise for people who are

00:42:15 --> 00:42:17

more worried about their own situation, so hum that are really

00:42:17 --> 00:42:23

important for us to think about. Okay, so next slide here. So how

00:42:23 --> 00:42:28

do we treat the this disease of the heart? What's the way to fix

00:42:28 --> 00:42:31

it? Well, we study the 99 attributes of the last part that

00:42:31 --> 00:42:35

up commonly referred to as a smile host. Now, we should know the 99

00:42:35 --> 00:42:39

names and try to really understand their meanings. And you can ask

00:42:39 --> 00:42:43

your parents questions like maybe one attribute every day, you know,

00:42:43 --> 00:42:46

and then in 99 days, you'll know all of us partners attributes or

00:42:46 --> 00:42:49

if you want to do more than one, but you can really make it a very

00:42:49 --> 00:42:54

good exercise of just getting closer and your better

00:42:54 --> 00:42:57

understanding of who Allah subhanaw taala is right, by

00:42:57 --> 00:43:01

studying them. And then remembering again, as we said,

00:43:01 --> 00:43:05

that it's beyond our abilities as human beings to really capture

00:43:05 --> 00:43:08

Allah subhanaw taala. So we shouldn't even bother, but at

00:43:08 --> 00:43:13

least if we try to connect to us further through his attributes, it

00:43:13 --> 00:43:17

will deepen our love for Him. And it'll help us to, again, follow

00:43:17 --> 00:43:21

His commands and prepares us for the hereafter where we hope to see

00:43:21 --> 00:43:25

Allah subhanaw taala and finally, all the questions that you have

00:43:25 --> 00:43:28

about, well, this doesn't make sense and I never understood this,

00:43:28 --> 00:43:31

you can ask him then Inshallah, you know, we just have to be

00:43:31 --> 00:43:35

patient, and then Imams was that he said, sorry. Oh,

00:43:37 --> 00:43:41

here we go. Sorry, was that he said that the way to work off

00:43:41 --> 00:43:47

distracting thoughts is to cut off their source, avoid the means that

00:43:47 --> 00:43:50

could create these thoughts, if the source of such thoughts is not

00:43:50 --> 00:43:53

stopped, it will keep generating them. Okay. So there are some

00:43:53 --> 00:43:54

things that

00:43:55 --> 00:43:59

and that, you know, are some people sometimes that make you

00:43:59 --> 00:44:03

have bad thoughts about other people, and you have to, you know,

00:44:03 --> 00:44:06

have don't have blameworthy modesty, right, you have to tell

00:44:06 --> 00:44:09

that friend, maybe you know what, maybe we shouldn't make a talk

00:44:09 --> 00:44:12

about people because it's not good, that's really good. You're

00:44:12 --> 00:44:15

showing courage to tell that person, it's wrong. And you're

00:44:15 --> 00:44:18

preventing yourself from falling into bad habits and cutting it off

00:44:18 --> 00:44:21

from the source. So sometimes, that's what you need to do.

00:44:21 --> 00:44:26

There's also other you know, like television can be bad music can be

00:44:26 --> 00:44:29

there's bad elements and television, bad elements and tell

00:44:29 --> 00:44:32

it and music. So if you're getting thoughts because of a certain show

00:44:32 --> 00:44:36

that you're watching, or music that you're listening to stop,

00:44:36 --> 00:44:39

very simple, because if you don't, then those thoughts will just keep

00:44:39 --> 00:44:42

coming back right just kind of have to cut them off at the source

00:44:42 --> 00:44:45

like you know what, this is making me not feel good or I don't feel

00:44:45 --> 00:44:49

positive after this. So I need to really, you know, stop this stuff

00:44:49 --> 00:44:52

in sha Allah. Okay, so that's how we correct this disease of the

00:44:52 --> 00:44:56

heart. So the next one is, let's see here.

00:44:58 --> 00:44:59

The next disease of

00:45:00 --> 00:45:03

hardest fear of poverty. Okay hopeful fucker. So let's talk

00:45:03 --> 00:45:07

about what this is well first, I was proud that assess to us and

00:45:07 --> 00:45:10

sort of the the Bacara. He says those who in charity spend of

00:45:10 --> 00:45:16

their good deeds by night and by day, in secret and in public have

00:45:16 --> 00:45:22

their reward with their Lord, on them shall be no fear, nor shall

00:45:22 --> 00:45:24

they grieve. So let's find out, it's telling us right here,

00:45:24 --> 00:45:28

whoever does, you know, good deeds we spend in charity, and we do

00:45:28 --> 00:45:33

our, you know, our good works in in secret. And in public, maybe

00:45:33 --> 00:45:36

there's times where we want to show good works, because we want

00:45:36 --> 00:45:38

to encourage other people. But there's other times where we just

00:45:38 --> 00:45:42

go more inwardly, and it's more private. And both of those

00:45:42 --> 00:45:47

situations are rewarded with Allah and he is telling us we, if you do

00:45:47 --> 00:45:49

these things, and you do them the right way, the way that the

00:45:49 --> 00:45:52

process has taught us, you won't have any fear, there's nothing to

00:45:52 --> 00:45:56

be afraid of, because you understand that Allah subhanaw

00:45:56 --> 00:46:00

taala is always with you. Right, and that he's the one who blesses

00:46:00 --> 00:46:05

us and He gives us all of our risks, our food, our water, our

00:46:05 --> 00:46:08

clothing, our shelter, our families, all of the things that

00:46:08 --> 00:46:12

we have are from Allah, He distributes them to everybody. And

00:46:12 --> 00:46:16

until the day until we leave this earth, we will have our

00:46:16 --> 00:46:19

sustenance, our portion, right, some people get more in this

00:46:19 --> 00:46:23

world, there's people who get more, more wealth, and some people

00:46:23 --> 00:46:27

don't, but everybody gets what is what Allah decides for them. And

00:46:27 --> 00:46:32

we have to respond by being patient, and grateful that's so

00:46:32 --> 00:46:35

important that we're grateful for whatever Allah has given us,

00:46:35 --> 00:46:39

because all of it is a treasure, right? And so here, the prophesy,

00:46:39 --> 00:46:43

Sam said, charity does not decrease wealth. No one forgives

00:46:43 --> 00:46:46

another, but that Allah increases his honor, and no one humbles

00:46:46 --> 00:46:50

himself for the sake of Allah, but that Allah raises his status to

00:46:50 --> 00:46:54

charity does not decrease wealth, when you are a giving person you

00:46:54 --> 00:46:58

should know especially be given charity that you you're not just

00:46:58 --> 00:47:01

because the money is leaving your hand, right? It's like, oh, here's

00:47:01 --> 00:47:05

$100 And I have to give it to this, you know, organization or

00:47:05 --> 00:47:09

this poor person on the street. It might feel like you lost $100, but

00:47:09 --> 00:47:14

you didn't this hadith is telling you, you're actually gaining more

00:47:14 --> 00:47:17

and the reward will come Allah subhanaw taala will bring that

00:47:17 --> 00:47:21

$100 back and more to you at some point. And I've had this happen to

00:47:21 --> 00:47:25

me so many times, I can't even tell you, where you know, you give

00:47:25 --> 00:47:29

for the sake of Allah and then all of a sudden, it is repeat its

00:47:30 --> 00:47:34

Hebrew pays you maybe the same day, you know, 234 times that

00:47:34 --> 00:47:37

amount, right. And I've had people have the same story, they've

00:47:37 --> 00:47:41

written a check. And then in the mail, like the next day, they get

00:47:41 --> 00:47:43

the exact same amount for that check that's happened to people

00:47:43 --> 00:47:47

before or twice the amount, you know, somehow we should never

00:47:48 --> 00:47:51

despair that Allah subhanaw taala is always with us. And he repays

00:47:51 --> 00:47:55

generosity with generosity. Remember that? he repays

00:47:55 --> 00:48:00

generosity with generosity. So the next slide here, remember that

00:48:00 --> 00:48:04

when you have hopeful factor, the problem is, if all you think about

00:48:04 --> 00:48:08

all day long is money and it's all you see, right? And it's You're

00:48:08 --> 00:48:12

just afraid of losing it, then what happens is, you're likely not

00:48:12 --> 00:48:15

going to do your obligations to Allah subhanaw taala or your

00:48:15 --> 00:48:19

family, you're probably not going to be very good with your prayers,

00:48:19 --> 00:48:23

you're certainly you know, won't be good with Zakat and giving away

00:48:23 --> 00:48:27

sadaqa you might not even want to go to on Hajj, because you're too

00:48:27 --> 00:48:30

worried about how much money it's gonna cost you. Oh, man, it's cost

00:48:30 --> 00:48:34

like $4,000 to go to Hajj, I don't want to do that. Because what if

00:48:34 --> 00:48:37

I, you know, don't have enough money for next year or this and

00:48:37 --> 00:48:40

you start thinking about all these things. So it prevents you from

00:48:40 --> 00:48:44

doing good deeds and even your prayers. Because if you're afraid

00:48:44 --> 00:48:48

of you have Harvard faculty, you might work overtime. And let's say

00:48:48 --> 00:48:52

you work so much that you forget to pray, because you're too

00:48:52 --> 00:48:55

worried about getting money. So this is a problem with being

00:48:55 --> 00:48:58

obsessed with money and not remembering that Allah is the One

00:48:58 --> 00:49:02

who gives to everybody, and everybody will get what they

00:49:02 --> 00:49:06

deserve. Nobody will take away if Allah Justin for you to have

00:49:06 --> 00:49:10

something and he it's written, nobody and nothing can prevent it

00:49:10 --> 00:49:13

from coming to you. So you just have to have that trust, right?

00:49:13 --> 00:49:17

But this is the danger of letting greed or you know, hope and factor

00:49:17 --> 00:49:20

which can sometimes lead to greed. Enter the heart. Okay.

00:49:22 --> 00:49:25

So another thing to also remember, excuse me,

00:49:26 --> 00:49:30

is this verse from the Quran where Allah Subhan Allah says, Take from

00:49:30 --> 00:49:35

their wealth, a charity by which you cleanse them and purify them

00:49:36 --> 00:49:40

and invoke blessings upon them. What does this mean? It means that

00:49:40 --> 00:49:44

whenever we give charity, it actually cleans our wealth for us.

00:49:44 --> 00:49:47

Okay, so I'm going to explain a little bit more what that means.

00:49:49 --> 00:49:53

Where did that oh, here we go. So this was supposed to be before the

00:49:53 --> 00:49:57

other one, but it's okay. So if you see this cute, adorable little

00:49:58 --> 00:49:59

boy, I'm thinking boy, me

00:50:00 --> 00:50:04

up girl because she's got earrings on. So let's just assume boy or

00:50:04 --> 00:50:09

girl, either way, doesn't matter. What is, let's, you know he doing

00:50:09 --> 00:50:13

right he's washing these, these clothes, okay, he's washing them

00:50:13 --> 00:50:16

with his hand. Most of us we probably have never done this

00:50:16 --> 00:50:18

because our parents are taking care of our laundry, they put it

00:50:18 --> 00:50:22

in the washing machine and it comes out magically clean, right.

00:50:22 --> 00:50:25

But if you really think about it, when we play right on the left

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side, let's read. Sometimes when we play, we get our clothes dirty

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in the mud. Sometimes when we eat, we get stains on our clothes from

00:50:31 --> 00:50:36

food. Or when we work on an art project, right, we get some paint

00:50:36 --> 00:50:39

or glue or glitter all over our clothing. When we cook or bake,

00:50:39 --> 00:50:43

right, there's eggs, platters, oils, flutters. You know, flour,

00:50:43 --> 00:50:46

and our clothes can get really messy chocolate, right? Whatever

00:50:46 --> 00:50:50

it is, we know that we have to wash our clothes to keep our

00:50:50 --> 00:50:54

bodies clean, and the rest of our clothes clean. Because otherwise,

00:50:54 --> 00:50:57

if you leave that dirt or that filth on your clothing, it's might

00:50:57 --> 00:51:01

get get on something else. Right? So we understand that when it

00:51:01 --> 00:51:05

comes to our clothing, or with our money with it's the same concept,

00:51:05 --> 00:51:08

that there's parts of our money that we're not always sure is it

00:51:08 --> 00:51:12

coming from a hello source? You know, is there anything that maybe

00:51:12 --> 00:51:16

this money was involved in at some point that wasn't clean? Let me

00:51:16 --> 00:51:20

clean my money. Let me clean my wealth, right, just like this boy

00:51:20 --> 00:51:24

is vigorously you know, scrubbing away the dirt from the clothing.

00:51:24 --> 00:51:28

And how we do that is through sadaqa and charity. When we give

00:51:28 --> 00:51:32

part of our money for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala Allah says it

00:51:32 --> 00:51:36

purifies the rest of our wealth. So whatever else we have saved is

00:51:36 --> 00:51:42

clean. Even if there was something you know, that maybe wasn't halal.

00:51:42 --> 00:51:46

It is part of that wealth, right? So this is how charity works. It

00:51:46 --> 00:51:49

helps to clean our wealth. And it's such an important part of

00:51:49 --> 00:51:50

that, right?

00:51:51 --> 00:51:53

So let's see here. Oh.

00:51:54 --> 00:51:58

So here's the treatment. Okay. So how do we treat for fear of

00:51:58 --> 00:52:02

poverty? First, we have a good opinion of Allah subhanaw taala.

00:52:02 --> 00:52:06

And we remember that he is the one who again distributes to his

00:52:06 --> 00:52:10

creation, whatever He wills, right, and we should have trust in

00:52:10 --> 00:52:14

Him. He has no need for anything that we do, right? So even when we

00:52:14 --> 00:52:17

give for the sake of Allah or anything we should remember Allah

00:52:17 --> 00:52:20

has no need for any of that, right? And he says here in the

00:52:20 --> 00:52:26

Quran, chapter 51, verse 57, he says, I do not desire from people

00:52:27 --> 00:52:31

any provision, right? Which is anything nothing, nor do I desire

00:52:31 --> 00:52:36

that they feed me. So nothing we're doing is increasing Allah

00:52:36 --> 00:52:40

subhanaw taala, He is above all of this, everything, right? He's not

00:52:40 --> 00:52:44

a human, he doesn't have needs, the way we have needs. So when we

00:52:44 --> 00:52:48

do something for his sake, we have to put a you know, remember that

00:52:48 --> 00:52:52

he you know, we're not losing anything, right? We're actually

00:52:52 --> 00:52:55

gaining it because he has no need of what we give. And that and then

00:52:55 --> 00:53:00

the promise is I'm told us that contentment is a treasure that is

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never exhausted. So we all want treasures, right? Everybody wants

00:53:03 --> 00:53:07

a lot of wealth and power and all of these things that we want one

00:53:07 --> 00:53:10

on one, while the greatest thing that you can have is to be

00:53:10 --> 00:53:14

content, which is to be just grateful, like 100 a lot. You

00:53:14 --> 00:53:17

know, Allah Spanner, you've given me a great life, and I'm grateful

00:53:17 --> 00:53:22

for my health, for my family, for my, you know, pets, for my

00:53:22 --> 00:53:25

siblings, for my clothing for my toys for everything, you just

00:53:25 --> 00:53:28

start naming things randomly, right? My books, my school, my

00:53:28 --> 00:53:32

teachers, right? I'm grateful for my friends. So to be in a state of

00:53:32 --> 00:53:35

contentment, it's like this treasure, you just, wow, there's

00:53:35 --> 00:53:38

so much of it, right? But you have to do that as an exercise, you

00:53:38 --> 00:53:41

have to think about all the things that he's given you, and really

00:53:41 --> 00:53:45

sit there and go, Wow, I have so much to be thankful for. Right?

00:53:45 --> 00:53:48

Because there's a lot of people who had everything and then boom,

00:53:48 --> 00:53:51

something might have happened, where they've lost things, and

00:53:51 --> 00:53:55

they spend the rest of their life saying, you know, I wish I could

00:53:55 --> 00:53:58

have those things back. And they might be simple things that we

00:53:58 --> 00:54:01

take for granted things that we don't even realize, you know, I

00:54:01 --> 00:54:04

remember like my teacher, Sheikh Hamza actually, he talked to us

00:54:04 --> 00:54:07

about, you know, think about like eyelashes, you know, how many of

00:54:07 --> 00:54:11

us have actually sat and thought Subhanallah we should be so

00:54:11 --> 00:54:15

grateful for eyelashes, because they're so tiny. They're so small,

00:54:16 --> 00:54:18

and we have we were born with them. But they have a huge

00:54:18 --> 00:54:22

function, because without eyelashes, things can get into

00:54:22 --> 00:54:25

your eyes, there's a lot of problems and then you can't see

00:54:25 --> 00:54:28

very well. There's people who have to constantly lubricate their eyes

00:54:28 --> 00:54:32

and keep them moist. Because they don't have you know, protection

00:54:32 --> 00:54:36

from these eyelashes. So there's things that say, what's the hairs

00:54:36 --> 00:54:41

in our nose? The hairs in our nose are so important because they

00:54:41 --> 00:54:44

protect us from having problems when we breathe. But how many of

00:54:44 --> 00:54:48

us, you know, look to that and go Well, thank God I have hairs on my

00:54:48 --> 00:54:51

nose, right? Because who thinks like that, but if you actually

00:54:51 --> 00:54:55

think about if I didn't have these hairs in my nose, and all the

00:54:55 --> 00:54:59

green stuff inside of it that traps the dust particles, that's

00:54:59 --> 00:55:00

what those things are

00:55:00 --> 00:55:02

All right, the B word, you guys know what I'm talking about people

00:55:02 --> 00:55:06

pick up them. Gross. But anyway, it's another conversation. But

00:55:06 --> 00:55:11

those things are important to our health. Because if we didn't have

00:55:11 --> 00:55:16

those, then all of those, the dust that is in the air would go into

00:55:16 --> 00:55:20

our lungs, and we'd be coughing all that time. So do you see how

00:55:20 --> 00:55:23

all those founders created us with this incredible machine? Where if

00:55:23 --> 00:55:27

you start thinking about all of its parts, it's like, wow,

00:55:27 --> 00:55:31

amazing, even a heart. You know how much blood it like pumps out,

00:55:31 --> 00:55:34

I don't know how many gallons hundreds of gallons of blood every

00:55:34 --> 00:55:37

day or maybe 1000s. It's a lot of blood, that the heart is pumping

00:55:37 --> 00:55:41

through our system. But it's like a machine. It's incredible. So

00:55:41 --> 00:55:44

this is what contentment does. When you're grateful to Allah

00:55:44 --> 00:55:50

subhanaw taala it just opens this feeling of like, I have so much I

00:55:50 --> 00:55:54

have a treasure already. I don't need more, and then you don't have

00:55:54 --> 00:55:59

fear of poverty. Okay, inshallah. So that is the session for today,

00:55:59 --> 00:56:02

you guys. So hamdulillah those are the first three that we're

00:56:02 --> 00:56:06

covering today. I want to hear from you. So we have a few minutes

00:56:06 --> 00:56:09

left. Very few. I'll take some questions if you have I know there

00:56:09 --> 00:56:12

was a lot of competition as we were going. But let's see if

00:56:12 --> 00:56:15

there's any questions about what we've covered. If you want to

00:56:15 --> 00:56:19

retype your question in a few minutes we have I'm happy to to

00:56:19 --> 00:56:21

answer your questions. Okay. This lit up

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and then just a heads up about next week. I think I have Missy.

00:56:29 --> 00:56:33

No, that's so next week we will go over I'm not sorry not next week

00:56:33 --> 00:56:37

on Thursday, we will go over ostentation, relying on other than

00:56:37 --> 00:56:40

God displeasure with divine decree and seeking reputation heads up

00:56:40 --> 00:56:46

just for FYI. But let me go ahead and stop screenshare here and we

00:56:46 --> 00:56:51

can now talk in short LA. Okay. So let's see here.

00:56:53 --> 00:56:57

Questions. I'm going to get back to the chat box. How many sessions

00:56:57 --> 00:56:59

will we have inshallah? Well, thank you for asking. So we heard

00:56:59 --> 00:57:02

we have Thursday, next Thursday, this Thursday, and then the

00:57:02 --> 00:57:05

following Tuesday and the following Thursday. So that's 123

00:57:05 --> 00:57:09

more sessions after today, altogether six sessions, though,

00:57:09 --> 00:57:14

and if, for whatever reason, we may need to add one more because

00:57:14 --> 00:57:18

we don't finish them all. I'll let you guys know if the possible

00:57:18 --> 00:57:21

seven session but for now, three more sessions inshallah. Okay.

00:57:22 --> 00:57:25

Okay, so quick questions here? What if you're terrified of losing

00:57:25 --> 00:57:29

something other than money? So very good question. You know, if

00:57:29 --> 00:57:30

you're afraid of

00:57:31 --> 00:57:35

in this world, you have to remember that Allah subhanaw

00:57:35 --> 00:57:39

taala. If you're, if you ever lose something of value, or important

00:57:39 --> 00:57:43

to you, in this world, inshallah you have the hope have, you know,

00:57:43 --> 00:57:47

be patient with that loss, because there's nothing happens in vain,

00:57:47 --> 00:57:49

which means there's always a wisdom of why things happen to us

00:57:49 --> 00:57:52

in this world, always. And you have to remember that Allah knows

00:57:52 --> 00:57:57

what's best for you. So maybe in that loss, something really good

00:57:57 --> 00:58:00

can happen, right? For example, I'll tell you, I'm there. You

00:58:00 --> 00:58:04

know, there's that organization called MADD Mothers Against Drunk

00:58:04 --> 00:58:09

drivers, right? There was a mother, I'm assuming, I think it

00:58:09 --> 00:58:12

was a mother, but she hurt she lost her child in a car accident

00:58:12 --> 00:58:16

because of a drunk driver. So what did she do, she took that energy,

00:58:16 --> 00:58:19

right? That terrible loss, it was a horrible thing to lose a child

00:58:19 --> 00:58:22

is the one of the worst things that a person can go through. But

00:58:22 --> 00:58:26

instead of, you know, doing just being in a state of sadness for

00:58:26 --> 00:58:30

her whole life, she said, I'm going to make sure nobody ever

00:58:30 --> 00:58:33

experiences what I went through. And she started this organization

00:58:33 --> 00:58:36

called mad and now it's international, I think are

00:58:36 --> 00:58:40

definitely national. But everybody knows it. And it's to prevent

00:58:40 --> 00:58:44

people from drinking alcohol and driving. So she took that loss and

00:58:44 --> 00:58:47

did this amazing thing that's helped millions and maybe billions

00:58:47 --> 00:58:53

of people in the world. So you can turn loss into something positive,

00:58:53 --> 00:58:56

if you always have a good opinion of Allah, but if he took something

00:58:56 --> 00:59:01

from you, there's a reason for it, and Inshallah, with your patience,

00:59:01 --> 00:59:05

he'll replace it with something better. And he'll use you to do a

00:59:05 --> 00:59:08

lot of good with it if you're patient. But if you think like,

00:59:08 --> 00:59:11

oh, no, I've lost it. And now the world is over, and I'm gonna fall

00:59:11 --> 00:59:15

into a state of depression, then you're forgetting that Allah is,

00:59:15 --> 00:59:18

you know, he can give you anything you want. And you have to turn

00:59:18 --> 00:59:22

back to him. And just ask him to give you patience with that loss.

00:59:22 --> 00:59:25

And to replace it for something with something better for you in

00:59:25 --> 00:59:29

this world. And or, or, and reward you in the next world with it as

00:59:29 --> 00:59:33

well. Because, you know, some things are hard on us. You know, I

00:59:33 --> 00:59:35

lost for example, my pet

00:59:37 --> 00:59:41

how many years ago, maybe nine years ago, and I think about her

00:59:41 --> 00:59:46

all the time and it hurts, it hurts because I loved her. And it

00:59:46 --> 00:59:49

was a difficult circumstance. But I'm hopeful that in sha Allah,

00:59:49 --> 00:59:52

she's going to be with me and Jana, I really do I pray that it

00:59:52 --> 00:59:56

was part of the helps bring her to me and Jana and I get to see her

00:59:56 --> 01:00:00

so I always hold on to that hope. So if you have a loss of some

01:00:00 --> 01:00:03

Something always remember Allah will inshallah reward you with

01:00:03 --> 01:00:08

with your patience. Okay? Um, let's see what if it's cyber

01:00:08 --> 01:00:15

bullying. So I'm assuming that has to do with blameworthy modesty. If

01:00:15 --> 01:00:17

it's cyber bullying, you should also speak up if you see, you

01:00:17 --> 01:00:21

know, someone on social media, you know, treating other people

01:00:21 --> 01:00:25

poorly, you can talk to them directly and say, hey, you know,

01:00:25 --> 01:00:28

I've noticed that you're leaving really mean comments and trolling

01:00:28 --> 01:00:32

people. If you know that, like, let's say it's a school classmate

01:00:32 --> 01:00:35

or something, you know, having the courage to say something, but you

01:00:35 --> 01:00:39

know, if it's a stranger, in your, you know, account, you're, you

01:00:39 --> 01:00:42

know, I would always say, be careful, because some of you are

01:00:42 --> 01:00:45

really young. But if you do have social media presence, and your

01:00:45 --> 01:00:48

name is visible, and people can easily find you, you want to kind

01:00:48 --> 01:00:51

of watch how you engage people online, because there are a lot of

01:00:51 --> 01:00:54

bad people online. But I think if you're a young person, I would

01:00:54 --> 01:00:57

just, you know, take it to your parents and say, Listen, I have

01:00:57 --> 01:01:01

you know, this person or this, whoever that's, I think they're

01:01:01 --> 01:01:04

being mean, and there'll be cyber bullying, what should I do about

01:01:04 --> 01:01:06

it and talk it through with your parents, they'll help you figure

01:01:06 --> 01:01:09

out if that's something you should get involved in or not. Okay, but

01:01:09 --> 01:01:14

be cautious. Just because again, the digital world we don't have

01:01:14 --> 01:01:18

full control, and there are a lot of evil people out there. Okay.

01:01:20 --> 01:01:23

So let's see. Mashallah, can you continue this class, I love this.

01:01:23 --> 01:01:28

Oh, how sweet. I just thank you. That is such a sweet comment. I

01:01:28 --> 01:01:33

love doing it. Well, I I wish we were all in one together, room

01:01:33 --> 01:01:35

together because it would be even more engaging. But I love that you

01:01:35 --> 01:01:38

guys love it. That really fills my heart. So thank you for that

01:01:38 --> 01:01:40

lovely comment.

01:01:41 --> 01:01:45

Yes, it's called blameworthy modesty. Okay, so the class is

01:01:45 --> 01:01:46

called blameworthy modesty.

01:01:47 --> 01:01:49

Mashallah, very good.

01:01:51 --> 01:01:54

Okay, awesome. You guys. Well, I think I answered all of your

01:01:54 --> 01:01:57

questions that I can see. Oh, wait, what did you do? Oh, yeah,

01:01:57 --> 01:01:59

no, how many sessions? Yeah, I think I've answered all your

01:01:59 --> 01:02:03

questions. Thank you for being here. Again. You guys are awesome.

01:02:03 --> 01:02:05

May Allah bless all of you and protect all of you have a

01:02:05 --> 01:02:09

wonderful Iftar if you're fasting remember me and my family and your

01:02:09 --> 01:02:13

daughters, okay? And remember to study because remember, I'm gonna

01:02:13 --> 01:02:17

quiz you guys on Thursday with the rest okay? And talk it over with

01:02:17 --> 01:02:19

your family teach that be the teacher. You know, if your parents

01:02:19 --> 01:02:23

weren't listening, say let me teach you about some diseases of

01:02:23 --> 01:02:26

the heart today. Okay, take it from there. All right, you guys

01:02:26 --> 01:02:29

have a wonderful evening. So I want to go what I happen to live

01:02:29 --> 01:02:30

here but I can't do

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