Hosai Mojaddidi – Purification of the Heart for Muslimahs (Monthly Sisterhood Halaqa Part 12)

Hosai Mojaddidi
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The speakers discuss the negative impact of envy, including pride, anger, and desire. They emphasize the importance of avoiding cultural views and class division, avoiding false accusations, and finding one's own happiness. The speakers also discuss the difficulties of traveling and the importance of protecting one's privacy, particularly in regards to death.
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I want to go fly over to get to Redmond. Thank you. Thank you for

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being here from the lab. And it's been a long program, especially if

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you were here for the earlier program. So that's why we're going

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to be doing a shorter session today. But for those who are here

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and watching, we're going to continue from where we left off

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last month, on the chapter of envy. So if you don't have this

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text, it's called purification of the heart. And this is on the

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spiritual signs, symptoms, diseases of the heart, and how to

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cure oneself of those diseases, which we all have. So this was

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translated by Sheikh Hamza Yusuf. So last month, we talked about the

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definition of envy, what it is, which is really wanting someone

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out someone to lose a blessing, being so envious or jealous of a

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person's blessings that you actually want them to lose it. And

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there, this is definitely something that afflicts people,

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they can't help, but see someone have something that they don't

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have that they want. And instead of just wanting to also have it,

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the diseases that you want them to actually lose it, and it's really

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about them as opposed to you, there's there's

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maybe it comes from a hatred or some other emotion as well. But

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it's, that's why it's considered a disease of heart. So we left off

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on page 31, where we were talking about the treatments of envy. So

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we'll pick up from there. It's a second chapter again, if you have

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the book with you. So another treatment is to know with

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certainty that holding envy against another person brings harm

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to oneself. So when you're envious, you actually really

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harming yourself, right? Human nature's most primordial instinct

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is to avoid harm. It's easier for a person to repel negative

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feelings when he or she realizes that these feelings hurt the soul.

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For example, if a disgruntled worker comes anxious and angry,

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because he has passed over a promotion, his anxiety and anger

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harm his soul, mind and body, and yield nothing for his future. In

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complaining at length and becoming obsessed with the objects of his

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envy, the person to whom the promotion was granted, He permits

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the disease to fester in his heart and cause him groups. These

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cascading feelings will neither help him ascend in his profession,

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nor alter the past. It is an entirely demoralizing exercise

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that can magnify the original injury who felt envy, in fact, can

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actually damage one's sanity, resentment may prevent one from

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accomplishing significant achievements. A person who shuns

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and even when others around him seem to be passing him buy is

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motivated to excel unimpeded by depression and resentment. This is

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a really important point, because if you think about the effects of

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envy is that you're harboring all of this resentment that Ben

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debilitates you from actually moving towards whatever goal you

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want, right? Because you're just festering, wallowing in self pity,

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anger, why be why not be you know, the person who's filled with these

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types of negative emotions, and up further harming themselves, you

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know, in addition to whatever loss they perceive in the beginning, so

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it's really like just taking a scope.

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That's the best way you can look at it, it's affecting you and

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unfortunately, the Muslim world is now filled with. For example, when

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many Muslims look at Americans and Europeans, they have all

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criticisms applying all kinds of rhetoric. Ostensibly one hears

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moral outrage. However, the root of much of this rhetoric is,

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they have worldly possessions, and we do not is what often comes

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across. Similarly, when many less fortunate Muslims was toward the

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Gulf nations that have great stores of oil, they cannot resist

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passing judgment about how Gulf Arab squandered Muslim money. This

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type of dialogue stems from envy. The issue is comparing what one

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has with what another has, and that only fuels envy and brings

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about no positive impact. This does not mean that one should not

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criticize. However, criticism should be done with the purpose of

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being constructive and not destructive. The Communist

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Revolution was largely a manifestation of envy. The

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writings of Karl Marx indicate that he was filled with

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resentment. Much of his theory is founded on observing the wealthy

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and desiring that they lose what they have. This is not to suggest

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that when the wealthy are unjust to the poor, and to the working

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class, they should not be censored. But from the point of

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view of sacred love both the affluent and the needy, have their

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respective obligations. The obligation of the poor is not to

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envy the rich and harbor resentment toward them. And the

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rich are obligated to not be little the indigent

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Well arrogant, hoard wealth or work to keep others. This is a

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really important point, especially today socially, because we're

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seeing this rise in,

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in this anti capitalist sentiment, there's a lot of socialism and

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communism, but into schools, starting at a very young age now

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in academia and other places where, you know, eat the rich, the

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1%. And there's all this hostility and anger that stems from looking

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at people who are wealthy. And not to say that, you know, there are

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all the guards, there are people who absolutely use their wealth

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and their power with that that's true. But we as Muslims have to

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make sure we don't adopt a worldview that is divorced from

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the fact that I lost power those districts, right, if you forget

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that point, it's very easy to follow fall into the modern, you

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know, spirit, which is to just, you know, hate everybody who has

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more wealth and do all of them as being somehow oppressive, right?

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Because that's a very postmodern worldview, it's to look at the

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those who have and those who have not, if this, like dystopian

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worldview is what's being perpetuated a lot. That's why

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you're seeing now we have class division, we have a lot of

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division, right? across racial lines, across gender, across

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religious lines, and now your class. It's because those, you

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know, who incite and like to cause division and this is, you know, a

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demonic impulse bliss loves nothing more than to sow discord,

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and promote anger in the hearts of the human being. So he knows what

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he's doing. And he doesn't this large scale, by just, you know,

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casting aspersions on everybody that's different than you. So

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again, it could be a racial thing it could do religious thing could

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be costing gender, but we have to remember as Muslims, that was not

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our worldview, it was kinda is the one who distributes, and he

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certain things are in our control, and certain things are not in

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control. And that's the bottom line. And at the end of the day,

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it's all from Allah. So you're on the side of wealth. By the way,

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that doesn't mean that you're just 100% entitled and privileged. And

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you're absolved of hardship. That's not true. And that's how a

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person who understands the deen or the I mean, the world in the right

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frame, will see it that everybody's being tested always

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whether you're wealthy, whether you're poor, whether you have

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power, or you're oppressed, we are all at all times being tested

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every single human being. And that's just a fact. Right? And

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wealth, actually, I would say is a huge tribulation, I would I mean,

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I know people who are very wealthy, and it's a burden that I

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would never wish for myself. Because you really don't know who

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is your true friend who is close to for you, or who wants to take

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something from the right, the same actually, with any blessing. It

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comes with a price, you're not sure right? Who's really

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sincerely, you know, you're close to you, for some people just

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covered people's, you know, blessings or power, because when

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you have wealth, you have usually status, usually a power. So

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sometimes it's just a matter of wanting to be close to you so that

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they can absorb and take and take advantage of you. So it's a very

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difficult life. And that's why you see a lot of people who become

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wealthy, what happens, they become reckless, right, they become

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recluse, they completely go off the grid, they're very small

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circles, they lose a lot of friends, people when won the

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lottery, there's some really outlandish stories of examples of

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people who've won the lottery, and then, you know, lost a lot of

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people in their life, or go and they get rich and these big, you

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know, get rich schemes. And then so money is a tribulation, but if

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you don't have it, what happens is che thought, of course, knows that

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we're vulnerable. So he will come and he'll, you know, make you

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think that it would fix all of your problems, you know, if you

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just had more money,

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but there's a lot of cautionary tales. And that's just not true.

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So, at the end of the day, the Muslim always knows that,

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to not be pleased with what Allah decrees for you is actually a

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criticism of your Creator. And that's, that's what we stay away

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from. Because if you're not happy with what Allah has decreed for

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you, who are you criticizing the one who decreed it for you? Right,

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and if I was kind of reminds us that His most Beloved, the

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prophesy centum had every tribulation you can imagine, and

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he was wealthy of the wealthiest human ever to exist, but in terms

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of material wealth, he did not have much right. So, if you if we

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forget that, you know, as as we are reminded that gender is

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is surrounded by poverty and hardship and disease and famine

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and struggle, because the people that are closest to us are

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actually people who tend not to have very much but remain very

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grateful for what they have. Right? That that is that it shapes

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your understanding that everything you have is from online, you just

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have to stay in a state of gratitude, but at least will will

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make us ungrateful and that is the core of a lot of the disease of

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the heart is that there's an ingratitude that you're denying

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something that is true, which is also kind of data

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gives to some, and he doesn't give to others, everybody's tested. But

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if you remain patient, and you remain grateful, as he promises,

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you will increase you and it is a measure of, it's not a measure of

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your worth, just because you don't have certain things, the way you

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accept and submit is a measure of your right to whatever it is. And

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that's truly what we should all aspire for. So then he goes on to

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say, you just

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don't have too much more. So I'll try to read the rest of this just

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so we can open it up if there's any comments or questions, so I'm

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just going to read a little bit more here.

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The man says that one way to uproot eat envy is to realize with

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solid reflection, that envy can never benefit its agents. One

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should also realize that what people attain in terms of material

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wealth or prestige is from God, He is all knowing and all wise, he

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knows best how to distribute his blessings and to whom while we do

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not possess such knowledge, the basis of the remedy for envy is

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step one, which is having a sense of awe of God and active awareness

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of him as the ultimate power over all creation. This diffuses false

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notions of misappropriated blessings. A Hadith states that if

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you have envy, do not wrong others. If one does not work to

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remove another person's blessing, then his or her envy is in check

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and is not the kind that necessarily devours one's good

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deeds. envy the devours righteous deeds is envy that impels someone

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to wrong others. The amount of Azadi makes a distinction between

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various strains of envy. The states that have one hates and VN

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is a shame that he or she harbors. If the person is not essentially

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an envious person. It is important to be aware of the feelings that

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reside in one's heart. This self awareness is essential for the

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purpose of purification. So now there's verses of the poem this is

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this text is actually a translation of a poem. So there's

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a few verses here that I'll read its ideology includes animosity,

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vying for the love of others, arrogance for self worth and

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vanity, love of leadership and a ver avaricious cupidity for

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things, these seven causes in gender and ask for a blessing that

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a disbeliever or corrupt Muslim has that enables one to harm

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others or show aggression because of it, then the malady of second

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wives is in such instances permissible. So that's just those

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are translations of the verses of the poem. So let's read what

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description of the further meaning is. The man now delves into the

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etiology of the disease, or without discovering the causes of

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envy, it would be difficult to excise it. The first cause he

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mentioned it mentions is enmity Adela, harboring feelings of

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animosity toward another makes one highly susceptible to developing

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envy. Another cause of envy is vying for another's affection or

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love, which can become vicious, and its effect can linger in a

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person for a very long time, which is often the case when siblings

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compete for parental love. On this topic, one may read Frank J. cielo

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is born to rebel, a book with a complex statistical study about

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birth order, and how children are affected by it. How competition

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for parental love and attention informs the child's personality.

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The Imam next mentions arrogance to come with a major cause of

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envy. An arrogant man who sees someone advancing ahead of him

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will feel that this person is not worthy of such advancement. The

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pre Islamic Arabs exhibited this when the bulbous eyes sort of

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preached the disbelievers among them, ah, like Abuja, *, maybe

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even color I love an allegory. Al Murray era Riera displayed their

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arrogance by rejecting them Hammonds a little how to set up

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this man among them, their own kin received revelation from God. The

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Quran exposes their feelings informing us that each of them

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secretly wished to receive a revelation from heaven the way the

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prophesy did. As mentioned in chapter seven, verse 52. This was

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flagrant envy aimed at the prophesy set. When people regard

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each other as equal arrogance does not foster

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However, when someone has suddenly elevated rank the dynamics change.

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Pharaoh grew arrogant and envious when Prophet Musa A sudden came to

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him with God's message, part of pharaohs problem was seeing that a

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prophet was chosen from among people who he had enslaved and who

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he regarded as lower than the Egyptians. Remember, that mentions

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as another cause for low self esteem causes the feeling that

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one's worth is compromised by the fact that another person has

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gained more. This also was a pathology found in the days of the

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chromosome seven, when the disbelievers have put h pretested

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out aloud. If only this plan had been set down to a great man of

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either of the two cities. That's chapter 43, verse 31. In other

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words, they were so entrenched in their mode of tribalism, that they

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could not accept the fact that whatever was said it was a true

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prophet, because he was not one of the elite of the two cities, that

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is Mecca and thought. In their view, Hammonds voice I was too

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ordinary for them, too much like them to have been chosen for such

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a lofty station. They felt how can he be a prophet while he is like

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us, and we are not prophets. Love of leadership is another major

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cause of envy, people in leadership positions often resent

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others achieving something significant. During a change in

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the equilibrium of power. The envious leader desires that others

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are deprived of accomplishment, and authority. This is akin to

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covetousness, which Imam also mentions in the same line. There

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is, though a distinction between covetousness and love of

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leadership, the latter, afflicts those who have position already,

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while covetousness relates to those who do not have it, but

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desire it, abolitionists, this type of covetousness, called short

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in Arabic is a desire to have what is in possession of another person

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says whoever is safe from the covetousness of his own soul is

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truly successful chapter.

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Lastly, according to the amount of anxiety, because these diseases

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are common to human nature, the objection of the parties with the

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objective should be to transform them into something beneficial to

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transform a disability into an advantage, which is what

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successful people tend to do. The bubbles I said, said there is no

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acceptable envy except for two people. So there's two times where

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you can have one of them is a person who has been given wealth,

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and spends it toward good causes. And being such a person is

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permissible, because because one desire is to have wealth in order

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to do the righteous deed of giving to the needy. One may envy such a

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person desiring to be able to do the same good as well, but not in

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the sense of hoping that he loses as well. The other person is one

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who has been given wisdom and teaches it to people, a person may

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envy the wise because he or she wishes to be imbued with some of

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that wisdom as well, in order to teach others. Hence, if one has

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envy, one should let it not be a fleeting things like worldly

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assets that are usually recorded and displayed for show. One should

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instead desire what will serve once you're after, this is how to

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convert negative feelings into positive ones. So

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the last to me at this point that was made, this is differentiated

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actually, it's not envy, it's called actually flipped up. So rip

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does Arabic word for permissible envy. So you can envy someone if

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your intentions are right, and that you want to have both just

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like they do. Because, you know, you want to be able to benefit

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people, or you want to teach knowledge and you see that they're

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teaching knowledge. And then you also want to benefit people. So in

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those cases, that's that's a perfectly acceptable degree of

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envy. Because your intentions are not a for them to lose their

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blessing, but also their noble intentions, you know, just to want

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someone you know, their car, their home, their marriage and children,

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their accessories, no, that's very petty and superficial, there's no

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benefit of wanting what someone else has, because you don't know

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if it's truly a blessing for you or not. But to see behavior or

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actions that are virtuous and wanting to have a part in that.

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And realizing that you need means to do that, whether that's wealth

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or knowledge. That's perfectly fine. So just briefly, before I

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break for q&a, in general payment of Joseba, in one of his tech

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scheduling has 10 cures for envy. So this is a pretty quick short

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list. I'll read from here. He says number one, if you feel like you

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have envy and remember, the definition is very clear. You

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actually are compelled to want to remove the blessing from another

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person so it's okay

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It's one thing to just you know, feel that maybe

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you know that constriction, you see someone has something you want

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it, you've been wanting it for a long time. But you don't want any

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harm to come to them, right. There's no desire for them to lose

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it or harm. That's not considered envy. You're just a human being,

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you know, we see the things, we want nice things, it's okay to

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appreciate good things. It's when you feel compelled to do

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something. And all the below there are people who will plot and

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scheme and plan to somehow sabotage a person's blessings. You

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know, people have lost marriage opportunities, they've lost job

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opportunities, because someone else interfered right, that is the

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degree that we're talking about. So if you feel you may have that

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affliction, then these are the cures that are recommended. Number

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one, we seek refuge with Allah subhanaw taala from its evil, that

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you are fully aware, and you make you know Toba and stuff them and

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ask or spanner to protect you from the evil of envy because you

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realize it's a terrible disease, to that you're conscious of Allah

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that you actually try to have that Kappa and implement a constant

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awareness that last time is watching you at all times nothing

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is escapes his knowledge, three, that you're patient with one's you

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know, the person that you have envy for, because sometimes it

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could be, again, a very close relationship, whether it's a

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family member, a co worker, but you don't retaliate against them,

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but you try to really, you know, prevent yourself from acting upon

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the envy that you rely on Allah Subhana Allah because whoever

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relies on Allah, he's advises him. And this is also an important

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point. Because if you seek something, instead of looking to

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the person who has it, pining for it, longing for letting all that

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negativity fester, redirect your heart to asking almost impaneled

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data for that thing, you know, as almost kind of for the benefit of

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whatever it is you seek. And that is more of a, you know, get I

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mean, there's more a higher chance you'll get the blessing because

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you're going to the source as opposed to just wanting it. And

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this is where if you look in the modern world, a lot of people

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through social media are afflicted with envy, because they just sit

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around, you know, watching everybody else's life and feeling

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like they're missing out, right? There's this, it's a real problem

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for many people, they can't help themselves, just jump from one

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person's life to another, and then they just sit in this healthy

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loathing and hatred, because that's exactly what shaitan wants,

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he wants you to feel terrible about your life. Everybody else is

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living a fabulous life, you're home, you're stuck you you're not

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going anywhere, your career stagnate, you don't have a

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relationship, you don't have kids, you know, whatever it is you don't

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have. And so all he does is focus on all the things that you don't

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have, and he wants you to sit there with just this feeling of

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inadequacy and failure, as opposed to being proactive and realizing

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that maybe what's missing is your reliance on Allah subhanaw taala.

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Maybe you're not using the means that we all have access to which

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is not right, how many of us actually go and ask almost

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directly for what we want. Some of us in our cultures, with our

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families, we may have been taught like, no, no, no, don't, you know,

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it's a bit shameful don't don't, you know, ask for certain things.

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But that's not good advice. You know, you have to realize that the

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only one who gives you your blessings, and everything is

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Allah, so having a report or a relationship with Him, where you

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really see him as the money, that source of all blessings is much

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better than turning your heart from him for certain things and

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only going to him in crisis mode, which is what a lot of us do,

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right? When we're in crises or when we have problems we turn to

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him, but almost Panda, you know, he wants us to, he wants us to

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have this connection with him, where we turn to Him always as the

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first point of every need that we have. Right? This is why our

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scholars remind us like the Sahaba they were known and even, you

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know, other generations for doing istikhara for pretty much

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everything. Like it's the hotter right, it's a dog that how many of

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us have been conditioned to think you only do it for big decisions,

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right? But they would do it for everything. Because their reliance

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on the last panel was so strong. They didn't want to make any move

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without feeling some assurance that they turn to Allah and first

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and foremost asked him if it's good for me, bring it to me if

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it's not keep it you know, keep it distant from me. They had that was

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like an automatic default. That was what they did. And then they

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acted as you know, their hearts

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felt compelled, but but the point is, is we've been disconnected

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from that, too.

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recommend, we only sometimes go to da for very specific things, but

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not for everything. You know, just imagine if you have a need, you

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know, you have a concern or fear. If you're always like, I'm going

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to drop to my knees and just turn to mobile, how much more that

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would solidify your relationship and also increase your dependence

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on him, emptying the heart of being preoccupied number five,

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emptying the heart of being preoccupied with or thinking about

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the object of one's envy, we need to turn away from you know, I

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mean, we need to find things to do because it's usually when you're

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not really engaged in beneficial or good acts. They have too much

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time that you started thinking about these petty things. But if

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you keep yourself busy and preoccupied with important

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matters, you won't have time to sit there and envy people,

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orienting oneself towards a law being sincere with him placing his

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love pleasure and countenance to him in a place of fleeting

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thoughts of a soul. And its baseless aspirations. That's

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number six. Number 77. Having pure repentance to a live from the

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sins, his enemies have led him to commit. So this is you know, just

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being a person of Tober really being a person of constant Toba

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and realizing that you were sitting all the time, and just to

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be in that habit, giving charity and engaging in acts of goodness

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to the extent possible, because that has an amazing effect in

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repulsing tribulations, that evil eye, and the wickedness of envy,

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this is the most difficult character, the ego and the

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weightiest opponent, no one is given the Providence to undertake

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it except one whose portion of spiritual strength from Allah is

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great, and it is extinguishing the fire of envy iniquity and harm by

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extending good to us person. So this is our scholars have

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mentioned this, if you envy someone, you have to force

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yourself to try to do good for them. Instead of you know, having

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these negative feelings and harboring them, try to you know,

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just do good make dua for them, be kind to them, compliment them, but

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go against your knifes, because your naps will want to somehow

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vilify them, because that makes it easy to justify the Envy a

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negative emotion toward them. And then, the last point he has here,

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number 10, is this is the compendium of all the of the other

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cures, they all revolve around it, namely pure Divine unity and

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elevating your thought from the effects manifested in creation,

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something nd revolves around to the mighty wise cause of those

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effects. So again, just having

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a broader, more metaphysical understanding of the world, you

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know, because when you get held to what we call, like, the horizontal

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material level, everything is reduced, it's very low. But when

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you started thinking of a broader level of this world is temporal. A

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lot, you know, nothing is lasting in this world. So even if a person

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has well, power status, there's no guarantee look at, you know, what

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we saw in these victims of the earthquake? In Turkey, they were

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fine, one minute, and then boom, everything is gone. That's the

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nature of the Zinnia. So why are we putting so much in this? Dunya?

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What do we know that nothing really is. We don't have security

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here. This is not a place of security. It really isn't. And

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that's why like I, you know, I My advice to myself, always in all of

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you, is to take every moment very seriously. Because sometimes, you

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know, people don't realize nothing is guaranteed, you know, when you

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go out of your home, how do you know you're going to come back?

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Like really think about it, there's no guarantee. So if you

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left your home, with negative emotions towards someone in your

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household, you need to have a jolt of telkwa hit your heart and say,

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Wait a second, why did I choose to take a chance? Right? Because is

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that the way I want to leave that relationship with negativity,

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anger, animosity in my heart,

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Fear God and realize like, that's a to me, I think that's like,

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probably

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akin to like, * on earth is to live with regret that you can't

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undo, you know that something happens to you or them or whatever

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something happens, and you can't fix you know, that you cannot do

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that. So be very careful with with you know, taking it for granted

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that you're just everything just routine, and it's all going to

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carry on as it does every day. There's going to be a day it's

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going to hit all of us were no routine you've ever had to be

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abruptly interrupted and stopped, and life will never continue as it

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did before then. But if you are aware of that, then you take every

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moment very seriously. So whether it's just going out to go grocery

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shopping or when you travel, please like take it very

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seriously. If you you know are departing and make sure that you

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you know you're there's no loose ends that you've really covered as

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much as you can especially for like international travel

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or far travel? Like, I just think we were just too comfortable. We

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think like, Oh, we're just gonna get on a plane and then hop right

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back. How do you know that? I really just, who told you that?

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Like it's a lie. It's a total deception. And that's the nature

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of this dunya is like it's a place of delusion, you know, we get

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diluted by what we think is normal, but what's normal? And

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that's why that quote is right, nothing is guaranteed except for

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what is it death and taxes. So the things that are pretty certain are

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gonna come after you but everything else is up in the air.

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So death is certain and may Allah protect us and make us people who

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are mindful, to not take our our days, our breaths, our lives, our

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loved ones for granted and to really have taqwa and,

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you know, be careful with with the amount of that we have. So, from

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the law, I know, this is a bit of a rushed session to them. Sorry, I

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didn't want to keep you for too long. It's 922. So if there are

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any questions, we can stick around until 930. But if you are tired, I

00:31:04 --> 00:31:07

completely understand. We can all go home and rest and get cozy in

00:31:07 --> 00:31:08

our pajamas.

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Any questions? Any comments? Anything to share?

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Number one, it's coming. Who's ready?

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Shalom.

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Ramadan in sha Allah, this is I know, it's it's amazing. I'm just

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kind of marveling at how fast the sphere went. As you all know, last

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summer was a bit difficult for me personally. And my mother was ill.

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I also had my

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my jazz a ceremony here at MCC so Claudia were reciting today was

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like,

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hit me in the heart of Charleville protect and preserve him but I

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can't believe it's been almost a year like it's, it's shocking how

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quickly time is running.

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So

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we're all blessed to see this beautiful month come in. But if

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you're not part of this community, move here. Because MCC is all

00:32:02 --> 00:32:05

about the system all of their experience, especially with our

00:32:05 --> 00:32:09

amazing bodied male not protecting Preserve. I'm so excited and

00:32:09 --> 00:32:10

looking forward to

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your questions, comments. We'll go ahead and like walk in.

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Or the hospital in the Linsanity facility Levina Avenue, white

00:32:24 --> 00:32:26

middle smiling happy with a lesser than happy with us over seven

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Subhanak Allahu

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Allahu masala was that a more manly fantasy than our momento?

00:32:34 --> 00:32:37

Have you been on? Let's move on to Salem. While he was.

00:32:38 --> 00:32:41

In Canada, we caught up with the MHC one and said I want to learn

00:32:41 --> 00:32:43

more to be 100 in need.

00:32:45 --> 00:32:48

Also, by the way, on Saturday, at the end of every month, we have

00:32:48 --> 00:32:51

this HELOC on Thursday. And then on Saturday morning, we have a

00:32:52 --> 00:32:55

kind of public support circle. It's a thick of circle we really

00:32:55 --> 00:33:00

have seen. We read the author we read a question on sister Sahara

00:33:00 --> 00:33:04

this here. Does beautiful begin. It's an opportunity for sisters to

00:33:04 --> 00:33:09

come together to hold each other in safe space. We really want

00:33:09 --> 00:33:13

people who are just going through things by themselves. If you are

00:33:13 --> 00:33:17

single, divorced, widowed, you have grief that you're carrying

00:33:17 --> 00:33:21

with you, maybe you're going through health issues, whatever

00:33:21 --> 00:33:24

your circumstances, whatever age you are, please count comments,

00:33:24 --> 00:33:28

you're welcome to come. That's why we created that. Inshallah, in the

00:33:28 --> 00:33:31

month of Ramadan, we'll do those weekly, but for outside of

00:33:31 --> 00:33:35

Ramadan, their monthly. So the Saturday will happen in Sharla.

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Here, nine o'clock to 11 o'clock in the morning in this room. And

00:33:40 --> 00:33:44

then in Ramadan, those will be monthly circles, where we invite

00:33:44 --> 00:33:48

all of you no strings attached, no registration, nothing just come.

00:33:48 --> 00:33:50

The doors always open for you.

00:33:52 --> 00:33:55

Thank you very much. Any other announcements so far also has a

00:33:55 --> 00:33:59

children's storytime that she does. If you're young children or

00:33:59 --> 00:34:03

grandchildren, please bring them the live sessions are amazing. You

00:34:03 --> 00:34:08

get to hear her sing and read and bring books to life. So we have

00:34:08 --> 00:34:10

some wonderful programs here. Any other announcements that you guys

00:34:10 --> 00:34:12

have or? No?

00:34:13 --> 00:34:18

Yes, thank you. Yes, Saturday is Wolfie job day and sister Santa

00:34:18 --> 00:34:22

sub honey from Lucila connections will be here. Mashallah. And I

00:34:22 --> 00:34:25

think she's speaking. So, you know, there's a lot of great

00:34:25 --> 00:34:29

programs. If you're not on the MCC newsletter, please join because

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you'll get updates every week. And then we'll have other programs for

00:34:35 --> 00:34:40

those who are interested next Friday, March 3, I will be at SRV

00:34:40 --> 00:34:44

I see with Sister hubba and her dad who's a therapist with call

00:34:44 --> 00:34:48

center her and I are going to do a teen youth talk on post modernism

00:34:49 --> 00:34:53

and a lot of the social kind of craziness that's happening around

00:34:53 --> 00:34:57

us to help navigate through those topics, you know, LGBTQ love the

00:34:57 --> 00:34:59

topics that I know parents are just overwhelmed with

00:35:00 --> 00:35:02

So we invite you to bring your teens to that. That'll be at

00:35:02 --> 00:35:06

srvcc. And I think those are different because I just like to

00:35:06 --> 00:35:07

thank you so much, everyone.

00:35:08 --> 00:35:11

Oh, that's right. I'm about to workshop. Yes. I'm sorry next

00:35:11 --> 00:35:16

Saturday, with Sister Amira and sister How about myself what we're

00:35:16 --> 00:35:20

doing on Amazon workshop also here in the morning from 10 to 1pm. And

00:35:20 --> 00:35:24

then on Sunday, I don't know if there's tickets available but NCAA

00:35:24 --> 00:35:27

all the way in San Jose is the women's conference with myself Dr.

00:35:27 --> 00:35:32

hypha, Yunus lead syndrome and dedication others so you're all

00:35:32 --> 00:35:35

invited. Hopefully there's tickets for those women that's

00:35:36 --> 00:35:40

yes. Yes, please go ahead. If you don't have

00:35:41 --> 00:35:42

no please keep it

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Keep it keep it for yourself. It's a gift and Sharma and good just

00:35:48 --> 00:35:52

make it offer us is that Goshen? Thank you so much. If you want the

00:35:52 --> 00:35:55

PDF of that file, like we can also give you the PDF for anybody who

00:35:55 --> 00:35:58

wants it. Thank you so much. Alright, take care of Dr. Walker.

00:35:58 --> 00:35:59

Thank you, everyone. Sit on

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