Hosai Mojaddidi – Lady Aisha (RA) Women in the Quran
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So the outline for today would go to the next slide,
we're going to talk about very, as much as we can three points
because there's certain things when you look at you know, the
biographies of different people, you'll notice that they're
obviously everything about their life especially someone
as a significant as her, everything is important, but there
are certain parts of their story that stand out. And we can glean
so many lessons from those aspects of of their stories. So we're
going to just briefly touch upon her birth and marriage which of
course, she mashallah we know who she is, but then we're going to
really spend a lot of time talking about the controversy around her
and I'll be more specific, and then we'll go into the legacy that
she left. So it is a bit information heavy, but you know,
this was the purpose Inshallah, that we all learn more and from
from one another, so I hope you're ready to take some notes and
inshallah learn. So Bismillah. With that said, we'll go to the
slide that says birth and marriage with the one so yes, right here,
this one. So these are just some biographical quick points that we
should all know about her her birth year, her parents, of
course, aboubaker, acidic, and Umbra man, they Lohan him. Her
siblings are smart and other human in the bucket. And then you know,
the date of her marriage. And that came, there's a difference of
opinion on exactly what year but we know that she was third wife of
the prophesy centum and that he saw a very significant and
beautiful dream where she was wrapped in green self presented by
the angel to the prophesy said, I'm foreshadowing that she would
be his wife, or for telling him that she would be his wife. And
then she had beautiful nicknames that he had given her. One of them
was Omar Abdullah, that might confuse people because she didn't
have children of her own. But she wanted to have a cornea as was the
custom of the people. And so Abdullah was her nephew. It was
the son of a smart, so that was her. One of her names. She was
also addressed as Permira, right? The red faced one, Michelle,
because she would blush often so we know that she was fair skinned.
And then a really other sweet nickname that the promise I sort
of gave her. Was I ish, right? So instead of Aisha, he referred to
in that cute way as Irish and there's a hadith if we go to the
next slide, where the prophesied said, once said that you told her
that Jabril Ali salaam was was giving her Salam. But he called
her by this specific nickname, and it's in the Hadith. So it's really
significant. I mean, we can tell obviously, their relationship and
when you read about their relationship, it was one of love
of, of, of great, you know, harmony and beauty, it their
rapport with each other was so sweet and tender. And she, you
know, in her hadith is most of the Hadith that we have about their
relationship come from her, you can just tell this was an
absolutely a love marriage. But it's also revealed in these
exchanges that they had with each other. And there's so much as I
said, content and so much about her marriage and her relationship
with the process. And I think all of us can independently study
those those stories and those moments of their life together.
But I would like to now just highlight some Hadith where the
prophets like Selim, again is reminding us of his love for her
so that we know who she is. And you know, and we, we realize how
significant she is here. The problems listed them says that the
superiority of Aisha over other women is like the superiority of
that to other meals, that it was a meal that was very beloved to the
Arabs. So he was basically saying that that's how great she is just
as that meal everybody craves and wants. That's how she is that's
one Hadith. Again, many, many. But here's another one, where I'm
going to have us actually asked the Prophet said who his beloved
was, and he first says her. So that is really significantly of
all the people all the great Sahaba every single person in the
process is orbit. He is talking about her that she is the most
beloved to him. And then he was, you know, a lot of the Sahaba when
they would ask these questions of the province, I said it because he
had the power of making everyone feel loved. Right. That was one of
his many, many, many virtues, is that if you were in his company,
you felt like you were the most important person to him. So there
are really many Hadith were some of the Sahaba would ask him
because they were like, Yes, I'm going to be number one on the
list. And there's another funny one, I don't remember what who the
sahabi was but the process of naming all these other people and
at a certain point, he was like, Okay, I'm done, because he wasn't
on the list. But of course, you know, Mashallah. He was just he
wasn't
where he thought he was. But that speaks to the power of being able
to really hold space with people with that type of emotional
intelligence that they feel loved by you, even if your heart, you
know, is divided in other areas that we learned from the
prophesies to them that everybody should be treated with that level
of respect and significance and validation and care that when they
walk away from you, that they feel really loved by you. Right. And
that was one of his many, many virtues. But then he proceeded and
he asked who from the men and the problem was him said her father of
a bucket. So again, we can see her lineage The apple doesn't fall far
from the tree, he we know that he was the most beloved of the
companions to the problems I said, and his daughter was the most
beloved person to him. SubhanAllah. So now, and this is
really what I wanted to focus the talk on, because it's such a
significant story, and it's so powerful. Honestly, if you read
this story, and you hear we have many great scholars, I know, Chef
Omar so they might just recently did a I think a three or four part
series on her biography we have Sheikh Hamza mashallah has the
first time I ever heard her story was from him many years ago, it
was incredible, it completely moved my heart, and then shift as
a party. So many of our scholars have spent a great deal of time
unpacking this story, because of the powerful lessons that apply to
all of us. And so there's significance to why some of the
great people of our over the world, I have been tested in such
hard ways, which we'll get into, but if you're not familiar with
this, this is called Hadith ipkat, which is the scandal or the
controversy. And so let's, let's explore what this is. And we go to
the next slide. So the prophets I said, Whenever he would travel, he
would draw lots between so that, you know, he would choose from
from the lots who have his wives who would take with them. And if
it was an expedition, like a military expedition, he would only
take them because obviously, for safeguarding reasons, if he knew
that this was going to be a victorious expedition, so he had
known they had the if you know, the backstory of this particular
one, which is Daniel musta, musta, left sorry, if you know the
backstory of it, the way that it planned out, there was signs that
the Muslims were going to be victorious the way that it all
happened. So that's why he was willing to take her but she
basically her name came up. And at that time, the verse of hijab was
revealed, so the wives of the Prophet, they the hijab versus
applied to the general masses, about quote, you know, the way
that we present ourselves, and we know that the women of that time
they all veiled but they didn't draw their femur over their
chests, which is, what the verses were teaching that they would take
their their veiling to the next level, and actually cover all of
their Outre. But when it came to the lives of the prophesy centum,
it actually was more than that, it was that they had to be in a
barrier. So when they would travel, they would have these
little mini tents called Holdrege that were placed upon the camel,
and the wives were hidden in those and that's how they traveled and
you know, they were protected and guarded. So she, she was placed
there and she they, she, you know that she went along with it and
the expedition that was successful, the Muslims were
victorious. So now they're on their way back. And a lot of this,
by the way expedition was also very unique because it was the one
with the most Mana 15 Were with with the companions. So there was
a very mixed bag of people there, let's just say, and there are a
lot of controversies that happened during this particular as well.
But
so, the Sahaba were tired or exhausted or certain events that
had unfolded. So some of them wanted to go back to Medina, this
was in the outlet kind of the outskirts of Medina. So they
wanted to go back. And, and so what happened was they were told
to camp overnight near the the where the battle had taken place
outside of Medina just to get some rest. And then at that time, I
said Aisha, she was, you know, camping when she was she went to
go relieve herself and when she came back, she felt her necklace
she touched you know, she went to go touch her, her chest and she
felt that her necklace was missing. And this was a very
significant necklace. It was something that her mother had
given to her. Some of the Hadees say that it was made from a Yemeni
bead that was black and white referred to as Zephyr and others
say that it was made of Onyx. So this was not gold. It was not you
know, something that would we would say was of value per se, but
it was valuable to her because who gifted it to her. So she went into
panic mode. Right? Like this is such an important necklace. So she
Subhanallah and you just imagine she's a teenager, you know she's
very innocent. She goes out wondering what
Did I leave this? She goes so far for so long trying to retrace her
steps, look for where this necklace is that by the time that
all that was going on, because some of the Sahaba were getting
tired, they were the problems and then had, you know, proceeded to
tell them to pick up and go. So they were able to pack it all up
and actually head back towards Medina while she's still looking
for her necklace. So she comes back, shocked that there's nobody
there. And you know, what does she do? So again, in her innocence,
she thinks, well, they'll probably notice that I'm gone. And if I
just stay put, they'll come back and get me. So she decides to stay
put, and it's panela fatigue overcomes her. So she falls
asleep.
And she's sleeping. And at that point, she's not she didn't have
her face covered. She's by herself. So she's just resting.
And all of a sudden, there was another as the heavy stuff, one
Ibn Mattel, a salami, he missed the call that everybody was gonna
pack up and go again. He fell asleep during that time. So he
wakes up. And he's like, Oh, I guess they all proceeded forth. So
he decides to get going when he comes across a figure wine. And
because he had seen her before the verse of hijab was revealed he
immediately knew who she was. And the only word he said, was La
Hawla, wala Quwata illa biLlah.
Okay, he felt the gravity of the situation. And he said this in
that moment,
to such a degree that they woke her up. And remember, if you read
the actual Hadith in Sahih, Bukhari and Muslim, I said that
Aisha 50 years or so after this incident is recalling everything
with incredible detail. So she is the one narrating this hadith. And
she says that Well lucky by Allah, he didn't say a word to me. Other
than that, he didn't even look at me. All he did was he lowered his
camel turned around, so that I could get on it. And then he
walked and took, they didn't exchange words, there was nothing
said, and he took her safely. Now, what happened was if we go to the
next slide,
they caught up to the army that had preceded them. Now remember,
this is kind of like a caravan. So you want to imagine as visualize
this as a caravan of camels, and a lot of people walking at the back
end of this caravan is Who other than the hypocrites, they call him
the snake head of the hypocrites, Abdullah bin obey Ibn salud. Now
he sees these two together and I want you to again, think of this,
he's a hypocrite, he does not believe he sees an opportunity.
And he decides this is fishy. The wife of the Messenger of Allah,
you know, or who thinks he is because remember, he's a hypocrite
he doesn't believe is with another strange man, and they're all the
way behind the rest of the caravan. So he decides, and that
moment, to me the rumor, you know, begins to spread, but it's comes
from Him. Now, the question is, why would he do that? He's a
hypocrite. So we can, we can, you know, assume certain things but
there's actually an entire backstory. And I wanted to really
give you the full context of what we're dealing with here because
they hit they went so low in trying to take down the province
instead of the Muslims that they were willing to cast aspersions
and, and, you know, start all these rumors about the wife of the
Messenger of Allah, a ye. So the backstory is really interesting.
The
just before this incident during biennial Mostel, Mr. left the
house where there was another major incident that happened,
which is sort of the mafia corner was revealed. And Allah subhanaw
taala, in the Surah of the first two verses, actually paraphrases
the very words that were said by Abdullah bin Salman, okay. Okay,
so the verses are right there. So these verses are actually
paraphrasing words that he said. Now, what's that backstory like
why, you know, to be in the Quran mentioned as a hypocrite revealed
in this way for everybody, and everybody knew that this was about
him. So he is angry, he is fuming, he is enraged that the surah was
about him and people are speaking about him in this way. So that's
why when he sees the situation, he's like, Hmm, you know, he gets
all these ideas, but why was the sort of reveal so this is another
part of the story. So
During the has worked to two young men, one from the unsolved and one
from the hygiene were sent to go get water. When they went to go
get water, they started having a scuffle a fight that actually got
really physical and they ended up beating each other up. But in the
course of them fighting with each other, they called who? Their
tribes. So they called the unsought animal hygiene to come
and defend them. So both of these groups are now at odds with each
other. Remember, I mentioned that this was what had more than one
asset point than any other. So they were there. And they don't,
you know, they're not looking to try to build bridges and bonds,
they wanted this type of fighting and tribalism to happen. So they
take their sides, and they start warring with each other fighting,
ready to fight drying their weapons. And the problem, of
course, here's of this and he comes out and he is upset, and he
actually tells them, how has the days of Jehovah come and you're
back there. And he gets so upset that he actually tells them, he
says, this is ignorance and filthy refers to what they're doing is
filthy. And the word he uses his month. Yeah. And he says, you
know, stop this. And that was it. There was no inquiry, there was no
let's you know, like, hash it out. It was this is wrong. Stop it
right now. And that's it. And as soon as that happened, Abdullah
bin obey because he was the head of the Manasa pain. And he saw
this as an opportunity to cause more division. He's angry at how
it was handled. It wasn't satisfying. And if he wanted to
fight, he wanted there to be all of this animosity in the hearts.
So he goes back to his tent, gather some of his little henchmen
with them, and he's speaking to them really angrily like this is
all your fault. If you hadn't welcome these, you know,
Mohabbatein, opened your homes to them, giving them food and
supported them. We wouldn't have all these problems. You did this.
So he's really angry. But he doesn't realize that someone
sitting in his company named who they have an uncommon couldn't go
to the next slide.
So they even ARPA was there, and he's a believer. So he's sitting
there listening, going, What is this man talking about? He's
completely inciting all of these people against the Muslims against
the prophesy centum he's speaking really, in low terms. So he's very
upset and he feels compelled to go to report to his uncle, his uncle
then takes him to the prophesy centum the prophesy Salam is cause
of the bit obey like I this this true? Are you in a tent, inciting
brothers against one another and against the Muslims? And, of
course, he's a hypocrite. So what does he do now? No, of course, not
me. I would never complete denial.
Now, the prophesies said I'm accepted his testimony in that
moment, for and he has obviously hikmah. We don't know, we don't we
can't access that, or we don't have that level of understanding.
But he knew what he was doing. So he accepted it. They,
unfortunately, because he thinks like, Oh my god. The problem was I
was accepting his testimony over mine. His heart is shattered. And
he says, It was the worst day of my life, like the process and
doesn't believe me, and he believes him. But he doesn't
understand the process of the nose. Right. He knows things. The
next morning, Allah subhanaw taala, vindicated. Boo Zaid,
because sort of the one article was revealed. So now say it says,
and it's a really beautiful part of the story, I don't think I have
it in the slides. But in the Hadith, it says that Satan, the
possum took him by the ear, you know, and, and he comforted him
and told him that he was vindicated by the sort of being
revealed. So he said that it was like the best day of his life. So
Subhan, Allah, Allah knows. But now back to the story. So that's
why of the obey was so angry. He wanted to get revenge, and he saw
a perfect opportunity. I'm angry, I'm humiliated. Everybody thinks
I'm a hypocrite he was, but he didn't like that being revealed.
Now I have an opportunity to take down because if I can get
everybody to doubt the wife of this man, and it all falls apart.
So he had this whole plot, and he decides to spread these rumors.
Now, I should have said, I showed her the Ohana, independent of all
of this that's going on. She became ill. She became very ill or
thinks she was like, so sick fever, everything. For one month,
she's sick. And all this controversy is spreading. It's
spreading to the hypocrites. Obviously, they love it. It's
spreading to even some of the believers who are kind of like,
they don't know what to do with this information because it's so
compelling. Maybe there's truth to it. Maybe there's not. They love
the prophecies and they don't know what to do. So there's all this
division happening. She has no idea because she's bedridden sick,
completely out of it. And then one day
she she also though, is picking up on certain things. One of the
things she's picking up on is that the prophesies that I'm
isn't as warm to her as he usually was when he would come to check on
her. He was always very loving, but now he's a little emotionally
removed. So she's beginning to think something's wrong. She
doesn't know what it's no idea, these rumors are being spread. And
so she's just kind of, you know, picking up things. But the next
thing event that happens is they had to at that time, you know,
they didn't have, you know, places to relieve themselves close, they
would go far to do that. So she ended up going with her second
cousin, the cousin of her father, we're going to see the name of Mr.
So they basically go to use the restroom and on their way back,
she trips over or massage trips over her skirt. So when she trips
over her skirt in her state, she just says, curse my son. And, you
know, mother's saying that about her son, so I just like has no
idea what's going on. And she says, Why Why would you say that
about your son? How could you say that about him? Again, not knowing
why miss that why why would her mother say this? mista was one of
the people unfortunately, embroiled in the gossip. He was
embroiled in it. So she says to Aisha, if we go to the next slide.
My dear child, don't you know what is going on? Don't you know what
is being said?
She's completely like, she doesn't know that she doesn't know. And
now she has to tell her.
So when she told her some of the reports say that she was so grief
stricken and horrified, mortified that she actually fainted.
Right, because to imagine you're a pure woman, and then these
horrible rumors are being spread around you. And she's also young,
we have to keep in mind. She's a teenager, right? So she's very
mature for her age. But she's, she doesn't have all this life
experience with these things. So for her, it's like, oh, you know,
she can't believe it. She's in shock. And she actually faints and
then she returns home. And she's in such a state of shock. She
doesn't want to, you know, reveal her state of shock to the province
of southern but she wants to investigate, she needs to know
what is being said. And how is this true? Like, is this true? So
she asked about this, I said, Um, can I go to my parents? Can I stay
with them? He says, yes. So he lets her go. She goes, and she
asks her mother, like, is this true? What is it what are these
rumors and her mother confirms them, but she tries to console
her. It's just not good enough for for say that i She's, she's so
heartbroken. She cannot believe again, that these things are being
said about her. So she, she goes and she basically she says, these
are her words. If we go to the next slide, she says, I cried, and
I cried until the morning came and my tears would not stop. And I did
not taste the sweetness of sleep. She spent that whole night crying,
not sleeping for even a moment because this is her life. This is
her, her name, her reputation, everything she can't believe in.
Now, who are the people that are involved in this rumor mongering
that's going on? We talked about ability video baby he had other
people missed that which was her second cousin. There's also Jimin
have been Jahaz. Now this is interesting to Zane had been judge
was was was the prophesy Sam's wife as well. So her mana is her
sister, and of all of the wives of the roses to them, Xena was the
closest in terms of rivalry. She was young, she was beautiful. She
had, you know, there was some competition basically there
between her and said Aisha and Amanda thinking that she's, you
know, looking out for her sister decides to add fuel to this fire.
You know, for her own motives, unfortunately. And then Hassan Ibn
sabots. Now there are others that were also those are the people who
were embroiled in the gossip. There were others who defended
when they heard about this. They were like no way. Osama bin Zayed
was one of them. The provinces have actually asked him if he saw
anything ever suspicious. He was like, Absolutely not. He was the
son of Zaid. And then earlier on Elon said earlier that Elon, he's
kind of has a very vague answer. Because again, we have to keep in
mind when you don't know all the answers. You know, some people
rely on their convictions other people rely on, you know, being
neutral. So he was kind of neutral and he was more interested in
seeking to protect the prophesies that um, so he just says the
process I'm going to ask Barrera. You know, who was
she was actually freed by said Aisha, she was a slave. She was
freed by her but she opted because she loves it. I should so much she
wanted to be her maid servants. So she still, you know, served her in
that way as a free woman. But she loved her and she said absolutely
not. So she completely confessed her innocence. She said the only
thing I
Ever seen her do as she would fall asleep when she was kneading
dough. And then the goats would come and eat the dough. That's all
I can complain about her. That's it, but nothing else that would be
this, you know to say indicate her character had any flaw. But so
they came to her defense. And said Aisha, of course, you know, is
hearing all of these things. But the pain is so overwhelming to her
that she just continued to cry, she became actually more violently
sick. After this rumor was shared with her, she was already sick for
a month. But now she became violently sick. And she said, I
continued to cry that day, my tears would not stop until I
thought my liver would burst open
Subhan Allah. And also,
I mean, this is a really beautiful point. And I brought it up just
because I think it's a really great model of how we share space
with people who are going through things that we cannot understand.
One of the women of the unsalted just came asked permission to
enter and all she did was sit and cry with her.
So sometimes, that's what people need. They don't need lessons and
lectures and advice given to them when they're falling apart. They
just need you to tell them, I am so sorry that you're going through
this, I want to take your pain, I want to share your pain, and
that's empathy. That is empathy. So it's really beautiful. But some
of the again, reports say that she becames it's just imagine this
happening to her is really difficult. She became so sick,
your hair fell out.
So during this time, you know the process, again, he's he has to he
has to maintain his place as the messenger of Allah. So isn't there
a lot of repercussions to a situation like this, he cannot
bypass his role as the messenger of Allah and then just tend to his
own heart. It's a huge inner conflict happening, right? He
knows who she is, he loves her he can handle that these things are
being said about her. But at the same time, there's just too many
ramifications that he has to think about. So he starts to again, he
comes in the room with her at one point. And he praises the last
part that he says Mr. Bad, this is all mentioned in the report from
said Aisha, and then he begins to console her in a way that is very
again neutral. He says if you're innocent, you know I was part of
authenticate you. But if you've done anything wrong make Toba.
He's trying to give her an se ha. And she's just like, stunned,
because from her angle, you actually think this is true? Or
maybe you think it's true. Her heart just cannot handle the idea
that there would be even little tiny Adam's weight of doubt in his
heart, that she just looks to her parents. And it's like, because,
you know, this is she's with her parents at this point. Like, can
you please answer him? She's asked her mother. And they're just like,
we have no idea what to say. This is the Messenger of Allah, how can
we possibly respond to him at in the term in the sense of like, you
know, advocating against him in a way that's what she was seeking,
like, be my advocate.
So her mother's like, I don't know what to say. And then she turns to
her father. I don't know what to say both of them's completely
silenced by the situation. And at that point,
she, in her in the narration, it's really beautiful. She's again, so
overwhelmed by emotions that she's, she has she, she's a half
of that, you know, at a certain point, she completed her hips and
she had this sort of use of memorize. She couldn't remember
Cynthia boobs name. So she called him a boo Youssef. And she said
that all I can do is say what Abu Yusuf said right, which is
festival, sorry for support Jamil and wala Hall, Mr. Han, Adama does
the code. So patience is most fitting and Allah is the One who
sought help for help against that which you describe. And you know,
she says later in the narration that she was memorizing she knew
it but she just couldn't even think of Jacoba isms name. So she
just called them up with us. Just to show you her state, like her
mind is just all over the place, because she can't believe that she
has to say this. But Subhanallah she had the most perfect response.
Right? And at that point, if you go to the next slide, she says,
After saying this, I turned my face so she actually was laying in
bed because she's still sick. She says these words her mother, her
father and her husband are standing there, all of them.
watching this unfold the scene unfold, where she says these words
and then turns her back to all of them.
It was not this was not an act of Albula any like we don't
Don't look at that and say, Oh, that was disrespectful. No, I will
double and never should we ever speak of our,
you know, of our of our mother in this way. What she was doing was
basically drawing a line that I need a lot and a lot only right
now in this moment.
Right? i That's all I just need my Lord. So that was her way of doing
that by turning her heart away from them towards Allah subhana wa
Tada. And these are her words, she says, I knew Allah would
eventually reveal my chastity honesty, perhaps maybe through the
dream, a dream of the prophesy said, and she knew she has full
confidence that Allah is going to vindicate her. But she said, I
never in my wildest dreams thought that Allah Allah would reveal put
an ad to vindicate me.
Subhan Allah, this is our Lord. Because she completely
surrendered to him and called on him, you this is you and me at
this point. And right then in there, remember in the process of
receive revelation, the signs were very obvious, this weight would
overcome him beads of sweat would form on his forehead, you could
tell what was happening if you were there with him. So in the
moment, in that moment, that she's just like, I have nobody but
Allah.
The revelation descends.
And immediately the province was sent, um, you know, recites,
there's two and a half pages of sort of the newer are to vindicate
her from all of what was said about her. And he's overjoyed.
Everybody's overjoyed. And her mother just says, thank the
prophesy set him.
And again, because she had her own relationship with her Lord, and
this was a huge proof of that. There was other proof, obviously,
but when her mother says to thank the balls, I said them, she says,
No, Wallahi, I will not stay Thank you, I will not stand up for him
or thank him, I will thank Allah subhanaw taala for revealing this,
these verses for me. So she was again, reiterating her, you know,
conviction and her relationship with her Lord in this moment,
Subhan Allah.
Again, the story is just so multilayered, so powerful, I'm
giving you the best summary that I could come up with, but the
lessons that we learn from this, there are books written about this
particular some of the scholars say, there are over 80 or more
specific lessons that you can get from this story. So I've just
compiled a few just so that we understand again, how much this
incident although it seems so like horrific on one hand, like, why,
you know, sometimes we don't understand things was like, Why
did you have to endure that, but then on the other hand, when you
see from you know, a societal perspective, right, because we
have to, you know, interact with each other as human beings, there
are things that are events that are going to happen throughout the
world, that need that need, you know, a way to, to, to process
them or deal with them. And sometimes, examples like this can,
can apply to so many right. So, here, we have from this story
related to women FIP related to dealing with non Muharram either
between the spouses between children and parents, or them of
receiving news and information above giving the see ha of
investigating affairs, right because there are things you know,
come up there steps to this guarding the tongue against
backbiting, the evils of suspicion, spying, curiosity, the
process of repentance, the rights due to other Muslims and the
significance of what really telecoil and surrender to the last
part that means, so this is a much much more this is just again, a
short list. But I wanted to take a moment to highlight specific
things on a practical level that I think all of us can take from this
story. First and foremost, this is Hadith everybody should memorize.
If you don't know it, please make it your goal to memorize it. Take
out your phone, take a snapshot or snapshot of the slide feel free to
do that for all the slides, but memorize this hadith and live by
this hadith inshallah you will have success. Min Hosni Islam will
Margarita Ramallah Yanni eautiful super short, concise, powerful,
beautiful Islam entails minding one's own business. Imagine how
much healthier our society and our world would be if everybody
minding their own business stayed in their own lane. When you hear
about someone going through something whether it's a marital
issue, or a problem with their children. Don't inquire it's not
your business.
You don't have the right to know people's pride.
have information and Don't delude yourself to be like, Oh, I'm
concerned. If you're concerned, go to the railroad, they'll make the
Go Go get set up on their behalf. But you wanting to know the
details just speaks to you wanting to inject yourself in another
person's life for whatever reason, but it's not our way we mind our
own business very important. Another one Yakko Milena for
innovation equitable Hadith. Another very important rule to
live by, beware of suspicion, for it is the most deceitful of
thought, don't become a suspicious person. And we live in the age of
social media where a lot of private information is shared or
implied, or somehow alluded to. And so sometimes you go down a
rabbit hole, because you want to know Ooh, someone went on
vacation. I wonder where, right let me go down and check their
Instagram stories and their, their you know, their posts and see if
they've shared something. Why did you mind your own business? No.
And now you're suspicious because you want to know who went with
them? Where did they go? How that's just all a waste of your
time. Right? And this is how shaytaan uses our our
vulnerabilities against us the next one, act federal haha Igni
Adam fidi Sani
the majority of Manson's emanate from his tongue we know from this
hadith and others, that the two reasons why more people are in
hellfire are because of what they do between their lips, and in
their with their private parts. That is a Hadith. So we have to
take our words seriously. Right, what we say how we say it, what we
don't say all of that can be applied. But in this case,
sinfulness that emanates from the tongue, it's one of the inroads of
the tongue, we have to be very, very watchful over that. And
that's why I just spoke to I teach sometimes I was with a group of
students these past few days, and we're talking about preparation
for Ramadan. And one of the advice I have for myself and for all of
us, Inshallah, is to really try to practice more silence
in as much as you can, like, really make it a goal, like, I'm
just going to try to take a vow of silence, you know, the Buddhists
and other people do this as a spiritual practice. But imagine if
we did that, because when you do that, you actually start to pay
attention to your thoughts. And when you pay attention to your
thoughts, and you'll be like, Whoa, this is what I end up
thinking about all the time, what a waste of time, and inshallah
it'll change from there.
If I build a model, E, Caliban, a your head, this equally mess me
up. This is another very powerful Hadith. A person has done enough
wrong in his life, if he simply repeats everything he hears, we
have to have a better system of vetting information. You know,
again, just because someone says something, always asked, I mean,
when it comes to religious knowledge, you should always ask
for citations. That's why from the My teacher and our teachers always
taught us cite your sources don't just speak from yourself.
Sometimes people speak from themselves. And we live in an age
of social media where there are a lot of people who are presumed to
have knowledge and presumed to be authorities on religion. literally
speaking from their knifes, there's no valid proofs that they
use, they just have opinions to share. There are a lot of opinions
that are shared and they're packaged as nicely Haha, you know,
counsel, it's good advice. But if they don't cite their sources, and
they don't give credible, you know, explanation of what they're
coming from, just know that it's from their knifes and then if you
repeat that to other people, guess what you're doing, you're
contributing to the spread of misinformation. So you want to be
very careful to make sure that when people speak, who are their
teachers, where they learn from? What are their citations? Like?
What sources are they learning from all of this will help you but
in the broader scheme, just in general, don't just repeat things
because you hear them, you know, be mindful.
And then liat call janitor PA, that's right, the tail bear will
not enter paradise. And the gossip monger will not enter Paradise,
very important reminders for all of us if we engage in these types
of things we are literally barring ourselves from from Paradise who
would do that willingly unknowingly? Well, these warnings
are given to us so that we catch ourselves and that we make better
choices and decisions. Right. And I have started just going to pull
up something quickly on my notes here, because related to this
particular one, give me a moment.
This is in this context. So it's mentioned one day that Ebola Ebola
inside his wife came home and said to him, this is actually related
to this to the hadith of Liske. Have you heard and she did not
even mention the slander. But Abu Aiyoo became angry and said how
can we speak about such a thing? Glory be to You our Lord, this is
heinous slander, so because he's had this beautiful reaction, like
how could we even think this and how can we spread this there was
no main names mentioned nothing right? Allah revealed and so
With a new quoting a valuable Ansari as a good example, even
though he said this in the privacy of his house, Allah's father
actually repeated the same words that are valuable inside he said
he said If only you had said upon hearing get the slander, how can
we speak about such a thing glory be to you this is a heinous
slander, so Subhanallah having that beautiful fit that our
reaction when you see something ugly and wrong, and and you know,
restoring what is hot, what is true, this virtuous act got
avoidable and sorry, mentioned or you know, in the tough scene in
the Quran, Allahu Akbar. And this shows us all that just because
this is a really important point this is why I wanted to share it
and these are by the way, the notes that Chef yes are the in his
commentary on how the LF convention so these are his
his observations, but I thought it was so powerful because I run into
this a lot. This shows us that just because we're married to
somebody doesn't mean we will get away with Liba.
Right? Even between husband and wife, we're not allowed to do
that. And this is a real serious problem in our community. There
are sisters and I this is why I caution sisters please be very
careful who you take as a confident because I guarantee you
if you have a sister who has doesn't understand this, her
husband knows all your business
because there are some women that's what they do they get in
the car oh my god, you won't believe us also told me and you're
like what you're sharing other people's private, marital or fam
familial problems when they came in to confide in you with your
husband. Why? Because he gets a pass card. Like he gets a card
that just says sure, whatever I know, he knows all the biller and
Majelis Amana if someone is speaking to you privately. And by
the way, our teacher taught us and I you know, we have much of the
federal here and others who know this, they you know, they would
actually demonstrate so they would they would show us, for example,
if you're speaking to someone and I'll show you, he's the show comes
out he said if you're speaking to someone in a private conversation,
maybe we can model this for our audience here. You're speaking and
the person does this.
Right? Right. What are they telling you is private, that
immediately makes that conversation and a manner and you
cannot say a single thing. They don't have to give you a
disclaimer that please don't share this with anybody. It's implied by
each chakra. The shahada is, I am looking out to see if there's an
eavesdropper, nearby. If that doesn't tell you this is private,
you need someone to actually have a contract with you like non
disclosure form, give me a break. We're Muslim, we should fear
Allah. So this applies to your spouses as well, please, we have
to remember this and also tell our husbands the same.
If we go to the next slide, just about again, there's so much to
say about say the Ayesha and the lessons, there's so many lessons,
but let's just quickly look at her legacy. And shall oh just like
okay, how much time is that?
10 minutes, okay. 10 more minutes. Bismillah. Okay, so if we go to
the slide that says legacy,
just so that we understand again, who she is, yeah, Allah.
She is, of course the daughter of Santa Clara Cydia and Romain with
Ilhan Omar. She was born and raised in a Muslim home, visited
often by the prophesy center before their marriage, the
proposition was always because it's Abu Bakr, his best friend. So
she was in his orbit and she came, she was there. Her parents were
already Muslim when she was born. So she never had, like many of the
other Sahaba period where there was you know, they were in a hurry
and never had that. The problem was and dreamt of her right
wrapped in a green silk, which we mentioned. She was the only wife
who was never married before. The brothers was sent and received
direct revelation directly about her right. And then he also passed
away so a lot of sort of in her house in her arms.
Subhan Allah so beautiful. She was a half of the Quran, she narrated
2210 Hadith. She was a public speaker, a teacher, jurist, etc,
and political consultant and military strategist for the Hall
of Fame. She went on to live to 64 year old years old, and her
Brilliant memory is to this day, there are still people who when
they learn of her whether they're Muslim or otherwise, they're
shocked at what she was able to produce. And that's, you know, one
of the great wisdoms of her marriage to the prophesy setup.
And we go to the next slide.
These are quotes about her. Zubaydah said that if we compared
it, she has knowledge to all women, all women, that means all
of us that everybody else in existence, I should surpass them.
That's how brilliant she was Subhan Allah, and this is another
beautiful quote, I have never seen anyone who could have knowledge of
an either an obligatory Act, a sunnah act poetry, history,
lineage, judgment or medicine.
I'm better than I should have a villa Anna, I wants to ask her.
Okay, like he understood a lot of the religious stuff, but he was
puzzled by medicine like medicine too. Is there any subject that you
haven't mastered?
How did you learn it onto and she answered when I was sick, the
problems I said, would prescribe treatments for me as did as he did
when the people became ill. I also learned from the people
prescribing the tremor to each other. So she was always a
learner. And this is also another really important part of her life
that all of us can. She was a lifelong learner. She didn't just
stop learning, sometimes we think, Oh, I'm not a student anymore,
because I'm a mom as if you've changed, you know, direction. And
now you don't need to learn. This is obviously wrong, we should all
be in the pursuit of knowledge until we take our last breath. And
I actually just occurred to me right now I was recently at a talk
with Chip Yahya Rhodus. And he's shared a beautiful story I think
it was a Buddha who said that he said that it's a quote from when
he said that if I was being like if he was to be executed, and you
know with it with a sword over his neck, and he said between the time
that the sword was lifted and brought down to my neck if I had
the opportunity within those seconds to teach something from
the prophesy Saddam, I would do it.
I was just blown away by that. Like how incredible were these
people that were in the province license company, they loved Islam
and they love to teach Islam so we take these lessons but she was a
lifelong learner. And I'm going to leave you before the I hear the
karma with something that again a lot you know, if you know me if
you follow me on Facebook, especially when I used to write
long form posts, you may recall one of my genres was well I did
the Trader Joe's ones that are as you guys know, those, those are
popular and then I did another one that that with the hashtag no
coincidences, because I don't believe there's ever coincidences
so I'm preparing for this talk, you know, over the past few weeks,
and my one of my dearest friends, she randomly at Fudger sends me a
picture. And I'm like, What's this? Just like two days ago and I
look and I just was like, Allahu Akbar. Wow, wow. Wow. And I I just
was like, I knew this was from Allah. So I wanted to share this
with you because this
the next the very last slide here. This is comes from Chef Mohammed
say that I'm abdominal booty said that when he read how much the
orientalist writers and the enemies of the religion were
attacking our mother, say the Aisha he decided to write a book
in her defense, which spoke about her blessed with life. Now, his
daughter was living in Riyadh at the time, and she had no idea
about the book that her father was authoring no idea.
She tearfully rang the chef one day and said, last night, I saw a
dream
that a lady walked into my room and said, I am the Mother of the
Believers Aisha
and I have come because I want to thank your father for the book he
has authored in my defense.
The share would burst out into tears when narrating the story.
May Allah continue to honor and raise our noble mother, Lady Aisha
the law and even in the Barza she's behind the barrier. She
didn't go to the author.
She went to his daughter, Allahu Akbar. These are real experiences
are real things that happen and it just as a testimony of her
greatness. Subhan Allah so we should love her. We should try our
best to emulate her in every way which is a tall order, but we
should absolutely know her. And I pray that Allah subhanaw taala
inshallah increases our love for her, and that we get all the
opportunity to meet her and to kiss her hands and try to fake
her. Does that go a little bit? It was said I'm on a camera with Leo,
but I can't tell