Hosai Mojaddidi – How Do I Know When I Am Ready to Commit to Hijab
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of marriage know and remind them to set deadlines for themselves. The speaker also suggests setting deadlines for relationships and not sharing personal information.
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This is a tough question, because what I really want to say is open
Tony answers. Right? You know, I feel like people just need to
respect boundaries. It's odd, like you couldn't imagine someone,
someone who you know what their prayer and asking them, What are
you going to do all five of your prayers, like, just the idea of
someone doing that it's just very intrusive. And
I don't know, I find it
just intrusive, but I think it depends on the person. And I would
say to the sister, this is your journey with hijab, it's very
private, it's between you. And I'll also point out that you
shouldn't feel pressured to rush your decision, because people are
putting these you know, questions before you and now you feel like
you have to answer to them. No, you don't, it's your, it's yours,
own it, claim it and you can respectfully just say, I'm, I'm
just in a transition in my life. And, you know, might take me more
time. But we know, you'll know when I start wearing it all the
time. But again, these are the types of questions that it really
depends on the relationship, you have what the one who's asking
you. But if you can, and if you feel comfortable, I'm a big fan of
being in control of your own narrative. So I am an open
communicator. And if I felt like, this was me, I would likely
announce to my siblings, for example, or my, you know, the
people my close, immediate circle, like, Listen, I'm, you know, going
to be, you know, wearing hijab, maybe here and there. And it's a
very personal thing for me, and I would love your support, and da,
and I would include them in that way. If you're comfortable, that
could be an option. That way they, they feel like they're partly with
you. But I do feel sometimes people especially around hijab, if
they don't wear hijab, they might feel uncomfortable, because they
don't know, if you are going to continue to change and they are
not, you know, in on the same path as you. So they sometimes I think
people may put their own comfort before your comfort. And that's
why you have to kind of assess the situation, what is the motive of
the question? Are they really curious about your path? Or is it
more that you're making them uncomfortable? And they're just
kind of putting you on the spot? You know, we don't want to
necessarily have sort of done or think the worst of people. But I
would just say when questions are posed like this, it's difficult,
because there's so many follow up details that I think would make it
easier to answer. But generally speaking, hijab is very personal.
And I think we have to as women own that it is a personal
decision. And somehow in the most graceful way, let our loved ones
know that. It's it'll take time, and I encourage you to continue on
your path. And Charlotte, if it takes you months hamdulillah if it
takes you years and Hamdulillah. But if you want to, you know,
really kind of have a solid plan, I would say and I have advised
sisters, and it's worked, set a deadline for yourself, you don't
have to share that with everybody. But you could just say, I'm gonna
give myself two months, three months, or you know, by this
point, maybe it's a personal milestone for you a year, a time
in your life where you feel like you really want to buy that point,
commit to the hijab, and that's your personal deadline. You don't
need to broadcast that to anybody, because as soon as you do it and
or if that time comes and then you're not ready, everybody's
gonna come and start judging you again. So I just feel like we have
to kind of be very careful with oversharing. But if it's, again, a
relationship where you feel comfortable, then just let them
know that you're on a journey. And just like all journeys, it takes
time