Hosai Mojaddidi – How Do I Know When I Am Ready to Commit to Hijab

This is a tough question, because what I really want to say is open

Tony answers. Right? You know, I feel like people just need to

respect boundaries. It's odd, like you couldn't imagine someone,

someone who you know what their prayer and asking them, What are

you going to do all five of your prayers, like, just the idea of

someone doing that it's just very intrusive. And

I don't know, I find it

just intrusive, but I think it depends on the person. And I would

say to the sister, this is your journey with hijab, it's very

private, it's between you. And I'll also point out that you

shouldn't feel pressured to rush your decision, because people are

putting these you know, questions before you and now you feel like

you have to answer to them. No, you don't, it's your, it's yours,

own it, claim it and you can respectfully just say, I'm, I'm

just in a transition in my life. And, you know, might take me more

time. But we know, you'll know when I start wearing it all the

time. But again, these are the types of questions that it really

depends on the relationship, you have what the one who's asking

you. But if you can, and if you feel comfortable, I'm a big fan of

being in control of your own narrative. So I am an open

communicator. And if I felt like, this was me, I would likely

announce to my siblings, for example, or my, you know, the

people my close, immediate circle, like, Listen, I'm, you know, going

to be, you know, wearing hijab, maybe here and there. And it's a

very personal thing for me, and I would love your support, and da,

and I would include them in that way. If you're comfortable, that

could be an option. That way they, they feel like they're partly with

you. But I do feel sometimes people especially around hijab, if

they don't wear hijab, they might feel uncomfortable, because they

don't know, if you are going to continue to change and they are

not, you know, in on the same path as you. So they sometimes I think

people may put their own comfort before your comfort. And that's

why you have to kind of assess the situation, what is the motive of

the question? Are they really curious about your path? Or is it

more that you're making them uncomfortable? And they're just

kind of putting you on the spot? You know, we don't want to

necessarily have sort of done or think the worst of people. But I

would just say when questions are posed like this, it's difficult,

because there's so many follow up details that I think would make it

easier to answer. But generally speaking, hijab is very personal.

And I think we have to as women own that it is a personal

decision. And somehow in the most graceful way, let our loved ones

know that. It's it'll take time, and I encourage you to continue on

your path. And Charlotte, if it takes you months hamdulillah if it

takes you years and Hamdulillah. But if you want to, you know,

really kind of have a solid plan, I would say and I have advised

sisters, and it's worked, set a deadline for yourself, you don't

have to share that with everybody. But you could just say, I'm gonna

give myself two months, three months, or you know, by this

point, maybe it's a personal milestone for you a year, a time

in your life where you feel like you really want to buy that point,

commit to the hijab, and that's your personal deadline. You don't

need to broadcast that to anybody, because as soon as you do it and

or if that time comes and then you're not ready, everybody's

gonna come and start judging you again. So I just feel like we have

to kind of be very careful with oversharing. But if it's, again, a

relationship where you feel comfortable, then just let them

know that you're on a journey. And just like all journeys, it takes

time