Hosai Mojaddidi – How Do I Know When I Am Ready to Commit to Hijab

Hosai Mojaddidi
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The speaker discusses the importance of respecting boundaries and not rushing to achieve personal goals. They encourage women to let their romantic desire
of marriage know and remind them to set deadlines for themselves. The speaker also suggests setting deadlines for relationships and not sharing personal information.

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			This is a tough question, because
what I really want to say is open
		
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			Tony answers. Right? You know, I
feel like people just need to
		
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			respect boundaries. It's odd, like
you couldn't imagine someone,
		
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			someone who you know what their
prayer and asking them, What are
		
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			you going to do all five of your
prayers, like, just the idea of
		
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			someone doing that it's just very
intrusive. And
		
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			I don't know, I find it
		
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			just intrusive, but I think it
depends on the person. And I would
		
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			say to the sister, this is your
journey with hijab, it's very
		
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			private, it's between you. And
I'll also point out that you
		
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			shouldn't feel pressured to rush
your decision, because people are
		
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			putting these you know, questions
before you and now you feel like
		
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			you have to answer to them. No,
you don't, it's your, it's yours,
		
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			own it, claim it and you can
respectfully just say, I'm, I'm
		
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			just in a transition in my life.
And, you know, might take me more
		
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			time. But we know, you'll know
when I start wearing it all the
		
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			time. But again, these are the
types of questions that it really
		
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			depends on the relationship, you
have what the one who's asking
		
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			you. But if you can, and if you
feel comfortable, I'm a big fan of
		
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			being in control of your own
narrative. So I am an open
		
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			communicator. And if I felt like,
this was me, I would likely
		
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			announce to my siblings, for
example, or my, you know, the
		
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			people my close, immediate circle,
like, Listen, I'm, you know, going
		
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			to be, you know, wearing hijab,
maybe here and there. And it's a
		
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			very personal thing for me, and I
would love your support, and da,
		
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			and I would include them in that
way. If you're comfortable, that
		
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			could be an option. That way they,
they feel like they're partly with
		
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			you. But I do feel sometimes
people especially around hijab, if
		
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			they don't wear hijab, they might
feel uncomfortable, because they
		
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			don't know, if you are going to
continue to change and they are
		
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			not, you know, in on the same path
as you. So they sometimes I think
		
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			people may put their own comfort
before your comfort. And that's
		
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			why you have to kind of assess the
situation, what is the motive of
		
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			the question? Are they really
curious about your path? Or is it
		
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			more that you're making them
uncomfortable? And they're just
		
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			kind of putting you on the spot?
You know, we don't want to
		
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			necessarily have sort of done or
think the worst of people. But I
		
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			would just say when questions are
posed like this, it's difficult,
		
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			because there's so many follow up
details that I think would make it
		
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			easier to answer. But generally
speaking, hijab is very personal.
		
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			And I think we have to as women
own that it is a personal
		
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			decision. And somehow in the most
graceful way, let our loved ones
		
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			know that. It's it'll take time,
and I encourage you to continue on
		
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			your path. And Charlotte, if it
takes you months hamdulillah if it
		
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			takes you years and Hamdulillah.
But if you want to, you know,
		
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			really kind of have a solid plan,
I would say and I have advised
		
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			sisters, and it's worked, set a
deadline for yourself, you don't
		
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			have to share that with everybody.
But you could just say, I'm gonna
		
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			give myself two months, three
months, or you know, by this
		
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			point, maybe it's a personal
milestone for you a year, a time
		
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			in your life where you feel like
you really want to buy that point,
		
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			commit to the hijab, and that's
your personal deadline. You don't
		
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			need to broadcast that to anybody,
because as soon as you do it and
		
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			or if that time comes and then
you're not ready, everybody's
		
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			gonna come and start judging you
again. So I just feel like we have
		
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			to kind of be very careful with
oversharing. But if it's, again, a
		
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			relationship where you feel
comfortable, then just let them
		
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			know that you're on a journey. And
just like all journeys, it takes
		
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			time