Hosai Mojaddidi – Foundations of the Spiritual Path (Monthly Sisterhood Halaqa Part 1)

Hosai Mojaddidi
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The speakers discuss the importance of hardship, loss, and desire in achieving success. They stress the need for gratitude and practice gratitude to avoid false expectations and feelings of pride. They also emphasize the importance of following Sharia's teachings and not abandoning others. The speakers stress the need for acceptance and embracing one's views, and emphasize the importance of staying the course to achieve contentment and happiness. They also mention the use of Sundays to avoid unnecessary harm and encourage viewers to watch Instagram.
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ease and blessings and all of this abundance, that's from him. And

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when he is testing you,

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that's from him. You can't just switch your heart or turn your

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heart on and off. Based on your circumstances. You got to take it

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all right. And that's why the process and taught us that and the

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beautiful Hadith, right? How wondrous is the affair of the

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believer, because in every circumstance, if you truly

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understood your deen properly, if you have a proper Elpida, you will

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see it's all really hard for you. Alhamdulillah Allah Cooley had no

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matter what you're going through, even if you're physically

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outwardly going through a lot of hardships. In the grand scheme of

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things, you are actually an immense blessing. And this is

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where again, that beautiful story of Ivanova Allah is very powerful

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as a reminder for us, because in our limited understanding, we

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sometimes perceive tests as only things that are difficult, right,

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but destroy them and apply that actually teaches us that no, every

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human being is being tested always right now, think of a person that

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you think hasn't made. Think of anybody that you think they're

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wealthy, they have beauty, they have lineage, they have all the

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things that people envy, right?

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Guaranteed. They're tested. Why? Because even in blessings or

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tests, right, so the story of him in Atlanta is that he was

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burdened, and he came to his to another teacher, Abu Seidel,

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Morris No.

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Mercy, I forgot his first name. But he's another great chef. And

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so he asked him, he said, I am really burdened in dunya. And I

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need guidance. And so he tells he asked him, you know, like, what's

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going on? And then he explained to him his situation. And so his

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shift taught him and he said, I'm going to teach you something. And

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if you really understand it, it'll free you of all your burdens. And

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he said, every human being is in one of four situations a

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possibility of or a mix of one to four. And then he goes on to and

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he says, All of them are tests, and each of them have a response.

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Right? So the first is the obvious one, tribulation. That's when

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you're in hardship, like all the things we just talked about, that

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we understand as human beings, because you look at someone who's

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being tested. Oh my god, they just lost someone. Yeah, Allah, that's

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a test. And so what is the appropriate response? Right, why

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does the last part I put some people through really difficult

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tribulations is because he is seeking from them. What, what was

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modeled to us by Sedna, are you right and saying they are cool,

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right? The subbrand Jamil, the beautiful, perfect patience. Those

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are the tests of tribulation is that you're going to go through

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really serious, severe hardships. But what Allah seeking from you is

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can you hold your tongue have beautiful patience, trust the

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process, trust that your Lord has your good in mind for you endure

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the grief? The loss? You know, not feeling like? Oh my god, the

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world's falling apart, enduring it enduring it? That's several Jamil.

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That's the first one. Okay, then the second one is that you have

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namah it's the complete opposite. So now some people will think

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well, how is a person who is in utter blessing or complete

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abundance and blessing? How are they being tested?

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Because they may know, how are they being tested?

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Excellent. Absolutely. So their test is do you have gratitude?

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Allah Subhana Allah is seeking from you. If you're in abundance,

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like right now, if you have higher in your life, if your marriage is

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really great, your kids are healthy, you have health, you have

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financial security, you've just maybe traveled or you have plans

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to travel, there's all these good things happening for you got a

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promotion at work. Your test is literally your test. It's not that

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you're just get a free ride is can you show

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the requisite gratitude, right? Or at least a portion of that? Can

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you show gratitude to Allah subhanaw taala for your abundance?

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And also what is gratitude look like? Practically speaking, it's

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not just sitting and saying Alhamdulillah because that's easy

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to do. Gratitude is actionable. Gratitude has to manifest in what

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we would say, paying it forward. Right? You have to share your

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blessing. So if you have money, you be you better be giving more

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sadaqa more Zeca because you recognize Allah has given me so

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much. I have to now help and redistribute some of this to the

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less fortunate. If you have more knowledge. You can't sit at home

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and just read books. You couldn't do it. But what is the point of

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that other than just benefiting yourself? Allah gave you

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knowledge. He gave you the ability to teach, go out and serve your

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community because there are people who

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need that right? If you have anything, any skill set, right,

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that you can share, Don't hoard it for yourself because Allah gave it

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to you as a test of your generosity as well as your

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gratitude to him, but also your generosity of spirit. So that is

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your test. And there, that's why many people, you know, they this

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point about the next one actually is really tied to that. They

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forget a lot in times of prosperity.

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Right? How many people do do we know? Who when things are going

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rough times are rough, they're like, oh, Allah, Allah. But as

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soon as things are easy for them, they become forgetful. It's really

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scary how common that is. Right? When you when you when you, you

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know, can when you tie your your practice of faith only with

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adversity, that's what we're talking about. There's a lack of

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consistencies there. But there's people suffer that. So, again,

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that's the second test that he mentioned. Many he mentioned, the

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test of obedience. Right? So how are those insha Allah who consider

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themselves Muslim? Who are in a state of submission to Allah

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Sparta? How are we being tested? What's our test? Because this is a

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test. You know, if you looked again at the world in in these

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dichotomies like oh, those who are guided and those who are not

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guided, you could it would be obvious like, Okay, if they're

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misguided, they're being tested, but it might not occur to you, the

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people who are guided are also being tested. But there is a test

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there. What's the test?

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For the obedience would be that I know what needs to be done.

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Why do I have to do is to get along? So I didn't follow the

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rules and regulations that I learned from Allah. Right? This is

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what I needed to do. Absolutely.

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No one was

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taught me in my life, has taught me something I should have done.

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Absolutely. So keep maintaining the purity of your practice of

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faith. Absolutely. Right, which is what we're talking about, right?

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Being mindful, adhering to the Sunnah, and trying to rebrand your

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own version of Islam. That's definitely there. The other part

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of it is also not becoming self righteous. Because this is it

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comes from that, right? It's a form of arrogance. Arrogance can

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work in many ways. It can be like, Oh, I'm better than you, but can

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also be I got my I'll figure it out, or I'm gonna create my own

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path, right? And it can also be what many people exactly that I'm

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always the right one, and you start to look down on people. And

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this is the danger of guidance. It's a blind spot, right? It's

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like, oh, I'm now wearing hijab. Oh, I went, and I am taking

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classes and I memorized Quran. So what's going on internally with

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you now? Do you feel suddenly that you're superior to other people,

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when you go out into the world? Do you look at people as Oh, those

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Kaffir? Right? Those kuffaar And you're just like speaking about

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people like They're lower than you the dirt of the earth, and you're

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the God's gift to humanity, like what's going on internally,

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because just because you're guided just because maybe you're you

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excel in your prayers, you fast in Ramadan, you're very righteous and

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pious does not give you any edge over any other human being until

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your until you die, your record is not closed. Right? Now, neither is

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theirs. And so the humility required with guidance is that,

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you know, guidance can be taken away at any minute from you and

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give it and reduce given to someone else that you may have

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looked down upon. So it's very dangerous to let self

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righteousness and arrogance enter the heart, because you're playing

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with your own station with God. So our, you know, test as Muslims is

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not to turn on our fellow Muslims, first of all, or our even fellow

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brothers and sisters in humanity. With this arrogant arrogance,

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where we think that we are more deserving we are more entitled we

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are somehow the chosen people, and they are left behind ultimately,

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that's, that's a very serious danger. So it's a test though. So

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the test of course, is again, always checking your knifes when

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you see someone doing something, and I remember again, when I first

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came to Islam, because we weren't taught properly, I was learning

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Islam from books and really figuring things out on my own. I

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was reading literally things into things that I had no understanding

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about. So this actually disease afflicted me, I would watch people

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pray, and I would presume that oh, there's they don't know what

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they're doing because they weren't doing certain things that I

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thought was the standard, right. So imagine Subhanallah you know,

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there are people unfortunately, that's what they think, you know,

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they're a mother I have we have four canonical schools of law that

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allow people to there's going to be some variance in certain

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things.

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Now, if you're not taught that, right, but you're taught one

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version, then you think this is this is a slam, then you're going

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to look at other people, for example, I mean, the most obvious

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one is prayer, right? There are some people who pray with their

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arms down by their side, in the Maliki. fifth position. This is

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the position of Imam Malik, right? To do to have your arms on your

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side, if you don't know of a mathematics position, he's Sunny,

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you may look at a person doing that and presume, oh, they're

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Shia. And then if you have a Sunni, Shia complex, you know, all

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of a sudden, you're thinking all these terrible things. Who are

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you, first of all, to think anything about another person

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praying to their Lord, whether they're praying with, you know,

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with their arms down, or maybe their clothing, and I remember,

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you know, many years ago, that was also a very common discussion

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point, because sometimes, you know, subhanAllah, some people are

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coming to the faith, you know, they're feel a turning of the

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heart, they might come in, they have nail polish on, they might

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come in with sweatshirts, and their, you know, pants are really,

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really tight, and their T shirts are high, or why are you looking

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at them? And,

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you know, in your mind, or to the what's even worse, by the way,

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it's riba to do this. It's Liba. If you and your friend or someone

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is sitting, and you want to do an A shara, like look at that person,

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you don't have to say a single thing. But it's all implied.

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Right? When you do the whole, check that person over there, and

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you're making a glance of judgment, that's Reba.

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Right? And it happens all the time. It'll happen here in the

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house of Allah and Juma tomorrow, you'll have people who look at

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someone that they don't approve of the way that they're dressed or

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behaving. And they'll make all these presumptions and judgments.

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And even while they're doing an act of worship, and you have to

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sit there and go what's wrong with me that I'm preoccupied with

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another person calling into question the sincerity of their

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faith, who am I? I don't know what's in their hearts. Maybe

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they're, and this is why many of our scholars said

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never look meet people, right. Like I think it was Imam Shafi

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that I never He never met anybody but that he presumed that they

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were better than him. Right? Because the Wali Aliyev Allah are

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hidden, and we don't know who they are. So it's, you know, again,

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that's it. So that's the third test is that if you're a believer,

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you have to check your ego. So these are internal checks. So when

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you have those thoughts, you don't share them. It's shameful what you

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should do is unworthy goes for the long male May Allah forgive me for

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that thought, right? Follow up a wrong deed with the right one the

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prophesy said I'm said, Now forgive me. And Don't, Don't

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wallow, don't sit there and, you know, feel like the worst person

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on the planet. We're human beings, we're going to have these

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intrusive, negative thoughts, what you do is you self correct and you

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move on, and you catch yourself. And if you do that, more and more,

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you don't think eventually you're going to stop and surely you'll

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stop because it gets tiresome to keep policing yourself, right?

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You're gonna get tired of yourself. So you'll be like, Okay,

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I'm done. I'm done looking at people. And this is where the

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Hadith of the Prophet SAW I said, I'm right. Which is, which is men

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who say Islam and moderator Kumala. Yeah, any part of the

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beauty of a person's of Islam is minding their own business, you

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will get to the point of I got no, I'm not looking anywhere. I'm not

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looking to the right or to the left of me and actually, one of

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our teachers, Sheikh Mohammed Jacobi, he told us that that's

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actually a really strong practice of fulfilling this hadith is even

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if you were like walking down the side of the street, and there was

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an accident, right, unless I mean, people needed help. But at least,

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you know, the whole Rubberneckers kind of phenomenon that we have

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now, where everybody wants to see what is going on, then, if it

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didn't have anything to do with you, and there's nothing you can

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benefit or nothing you can do to help mind your own business. Why

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do you feel the need to know what's going on in the first

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place? Right? The Inquiring minds want to know, this is the

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fundamental issue of the human being is we're nosy, we're

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preoccupied, we're distracted. And the more we focus on other people,

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we absolve ourselves of our own diseases and that's really at the

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root of it. Right. Your enough's would rather you be distracted

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looking at other people and judging them than inwardly facing

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your own diseases. And this is where our job is like, you know we

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reorient right? So your heart strays, you start looking and

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judging you reorient the focus back onto yourself. That's the

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state of the believer. So it's a test and it's a struggle that's

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what Mujahid enough says is like constant fighting, constant

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talking to yourself constant internal checks, constant lip

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biting, oh, I shouldn't have said that stuff at all. I Allah forgive

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me, constant apologies. Right. If you're not apologizing, often for

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your mistakes. You have an ego problem. Because it's not that

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you're not making mistakes. You just refuse to apply

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pologize so what does that mean? That means that you refuse to set

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right when you are proven wrong, right? And that's a big, you know,

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reflection of the ego that you can't admit wrongdoing. So that's

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also part of the spiritual practice is to bring in humility.

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Humble yourself, be willing to admit your mistakes. Don't look at

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other people, don't bother yourself with other people. Mind

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your own business. So this is the test. The third test, the fourth

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test, is misguidance. When you have strayed, and you're distant

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from Allah, you're in sinfulness. You're doing things you shouldn't

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be doing. Allah Subhan. Allah is testing you to see if you are

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going to pay more attention to every eye, every Hadith, where he

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is literally calling you back to him, right? He is a to web. I

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mean, how many verses how many Hadith how many stories has have

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had been revealed, that indicate to us that Allah subhanaw taala

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does not close the door of Toba? We are the only ones we either

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open it or we don't. Right, but the door is always open.

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So are you going to succumb to the whispering of shaytaan? Or to what

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people tell you Oh, your you know, your trash, your waste your waste

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of space. There are people who are so heartless when they're angry

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with someone, for whatever reason, they will use these types of this

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is a form of spiritual abuse, right? Like you're fighting with

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someone you don't you're so angry with them, that you start to read

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the their rap sheet to them. Oh, you're so disgusting. You've done

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this, this and this and this and it's all to basically tell them

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you're worthless, even in the sight of God, you're nothing

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that's a human being will say that to another person, to tear them to

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shreds to nothing, whereas Allah subhanaw taala the the one who is

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owed the obedience, the one who you have, you know, you have

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betrayed in the sinfulness. Will Never has never said that. He

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actually says the opposite. Even if your sins accumulate to the sky

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or the form of the ocean.

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If you seek sincerely come back to me returned to me. I mean, the man

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who killed 99, how many beautiful stories have we heard, where Allah

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Subhana Allah is teaching us over and over again, don't close the

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door of Toba return.

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Right? Because a bliss will come in, you know, the his station,

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right? A bliss, bliss despair. That's his station, he wants to

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pull us away from ALLAH SubhanA data. So he's not going to fill

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your mind with hope. He's going to fill your mind with disgust, with

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self loathing. And that's why we have a tragic problem of people

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falling into despair, and then spiritually going in the opposite

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direction because they don't have focus. So

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those are the four states. And they're all tests. So you can't

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find a single human being right now on the planet that's not being

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tested. Because everybody falls under one of those four, right? Or

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a combination, you could be guided, and in blessing, you can

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be guided and in tribulation, you can be misguided and in blessing,

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or misguided and tribulation, you're in one of those four or

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combination of those four. And that means that it's an equal

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system, right? Because everybody has their own tests, and nobody

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can say their test is not as easy as mine. And that's where we also

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have to check our knifes from falling into a victim mindset.

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Because if you victimize yourself, and you start to think like, oh,

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woe is me, I have more problems than everybody else, and I deserve

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this. And I deserve that. First of all, it's an allegation against

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Allah subhanaw taala you are literally accusing Allah of being

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unfair. When you think when you frame things that way, right? If

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you've ever had the thought that I'm being tested more than I

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deserve, why me? That's a inspiration from a bliss because

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he wants to turn your heart away from Allah. But you also have to

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read into what you're actually saying, which is I am accusing the

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Most Merciful of the Merciful the Most just a being unfair to me,

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because I somehow deserve less problems. And I'm comparing myself

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to this person and that person, I think, well, they are not tested

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and I am that's not fair. Who are you? Who are you accusing? You're

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accusing the most just of being unfair. So this is where again,

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calling your your, your your sincerity into question the claims

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you make into question and the sign of a true a person who's

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really on the path is that they are consistent with Allah, no

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matter what's going on. They have resolved with Allah.

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I lost something I'm going through problems. Allahu Akbar. I will

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My prayers just as I do when everything's going amazingly

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that's consistency so that's the fourth foundation the fifth

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foundation right and these are all the five that he that shift that

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CDM is the rock outlines for us as being the essential platform or

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foundation to build our faith upon the fifth one is is about you know

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being active right because the contentment is is your reaction

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right that you are that you are reacting to ease and hardship in a

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consistent way right the fifth one is turning to Allah so now you're

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actually the one who's doing this right. So you are turning to Allah

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and prosperity and adversity so there are different in this way

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Allah

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and shadow

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Madonna

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Madonna

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yo

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yo

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Allah

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No

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I mean 100 of them so, the fifth and final foundation is turning to

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a law on prosperity and and diversity. This is where you

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actively know what to do, whether things are going well for you or

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whether they're not, you are always turning to Allah you don't

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go to, you know, the the first line of defense basically in every

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situation is Allah. As soon as you have a worrying thought you're

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concerned, you're freaking out, you're having a moment of anxiety,

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you're having a moment of pure fear or panic. Or you're in a

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moment of joy and excitement, your words should come through Allahu

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Akbar Alhamdulillah Subhana Allah because you're exalting the one

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that deserves all praise, right? Or you're turning to the one who

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is the only one who can bring you relief. But in both situations,

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you have,

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you've calibrated yourself, you've calibrated your heart, to know

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what to do that it's always on law as your first line, you can then

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pick up the phone and call your loved ones, you can then tell

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whoever or seek advice and use the means the sub that he's given to

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you. But your first turning should be on law helped me with this.

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Right? And so it's an active thing, a practice that we do. And,

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and it pairs like I said with the previous one in that the previous

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one is about the way that you react to things and this one is

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about your actions, right? So they're, they're different and

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similar in the same way, right? That in both hardship and ease,

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you have to draw, that's the way you're you're perceiving the tests

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or perceiving the blessings, you're receiving them in that way.

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And then in this final one, it's that you are actively turning, you

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know what to do in all situations. And so then he you know, I'll just

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read this because inshallah prayers coming in soon, and I'll

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leave a few minutes for questions. But this paragraph here again, if

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you're reading along, he says, the realization of mindfulness of

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Allah is through scrupulousness and uprightness. So if you want

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that taqwa, right, the taqwa that is the first foundation, how you

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realize that how it comes into being is that you are upright, you

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have your your, you know, you you have scrupulousness, which means

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you're really as our sister said, You're upholding the integrity of

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your actions, you know, that you're actually following the

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rules. You're doing things according to how they're, you're

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instructed to do them. You're not improvising. You're not trying to

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create your own set of, you know, rules in Islam. And unfortunately,

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again, we do have that problem or sometimes people think that, well,

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if my heart feels it, what's the problem with it? Well, if it

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doesn't align with

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If Sharia, then there is a problem because you're doing your own

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thing. It's not Islam at that point, right? If you're gonna

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pray, you know, one prayer here and then abandon the others and

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you're thinking, Oh, well, my heart is clean. You sure you can

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tell yourself that until you turn blue in the face, but you're not

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following Sharia? That's it. It's that simple. So it's actualized

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through following the rules and being upright, right? And then the

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realization of adherence to the Sunnah is through caution and

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excellent character, we cannot develop

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or the prophesy systems, you know, sunnah is really about obviously,

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worshipping a lot, but it's also character development. So if you

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want to have the highest character, and really be the best

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version of yourself, emulate him, it will come through just by

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taking his practice on, right. So a very simple example of that is,

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if your temperament if your entire life, you have been more subdued

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and not very emotive, right, let's say there are some people who were

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raised in a family environment or in a culture where they weren't

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very demonstrative in their affection, maybe they're more, you

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know, their, their facial expressions are very limited, you

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know, to just being stone faced a lot of the time.

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If you want to develop and become a better version of yourself, you

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have to look at, what's the practice of the prophesy centum,

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he always welcomed people. So it will require you to step outside

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of what's normal for you, and force yourself into a prophetic,

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you know, way of being, which is, even if it's this isn't

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comfortable for me, because I wasn't raised this way. And he did

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it. I want what he did, and I'm going to fight harder. So, you

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know, even if you think, Oh, I look so foolish, I look so silly.

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Again, what do we say in the beginning? Stop caring about how

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you look to people? Do you think Allah subhanaw taala knowing that

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it's harder for you, because some people come from traumatic

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backgrounds, some people come from real pain. I mean, my parents

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generation, a lot of our parents generation, if you ask them, they

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suffered a lot of things, right? So it's not easy to just suddenly

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become smiley, but for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala when you're

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in a gathering, and I'm not saying the whole time, you have to

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sustain this fake smile and walk around, like, you know, no, it's

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about just at least receiving people with warmth, right with

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that feeling of I'm happy to see you. And the bonus I sent him. He

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was not excessive. So his laughter as we know, was not audible.

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Right? His laughter. So I'm not talking about suddenly becoming

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this exuberant, fake version of yourself. I'm saying to see where

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you're at and say, I want to at least push myself to try to

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emulate him. So that might look for some people, like, you know,

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just a pleasant smile, for other people might be an open mouth,

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smile, something that just is more welcoming, but find the balance

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for you as a way of trying to emulate him because this was his

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sunnah. This is one of the things that almost every description of

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him when you read is consistent, that he smiled at people. And it

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removes people and we now know through research, right? There's

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mirror neurons that are activated. As soon as a person smiles this is

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incredible science that now supports the power of smiling and

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this is a son of the Prophet setup. And he taught us up show

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Salam Avena, calm right, how do you spread peace between the

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hearts without conveying love and love is usually expressed not

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always in words, but through warmth through these these

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gestures, so that's how, you know we, we adhere to the Sunnah,

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right? And then it goes on to say the realization of indifference to

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others and acceptance or rejection is your prayer patience and trust

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in Allah that even if you're a suddenly excluded from people,

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right, don't worry. Allah could take all of your friends and

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replace them for you with better people. Right I mean, think of

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like I said, our convert brothers and sisters, they're to me

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incredible. Some of the some of them literally lost everybody,

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they lost their parents, their grandparents, their siblings,

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they've been cut off entirely from their whole tribe. But it was

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worth it because they've inherited the OMA of the Prophet. So I said

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I'm and of course, the replacement of whatever they lost is, you

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know, it's so great. So they don't feel the loss of it. But that's

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what patience and trust in Allah means is that you don't let your

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emotions or that sense of like, doom and gloom and loss overwhelm

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you, you just stay the course. You're in it for the right

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reasons. You're you're trying you're doing it for the sake of

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Allah he will give you topia right. And then the realization of

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contentment is through acceptance of what one is given.

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And turning over the management of one's affairs to Allah. So, you

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know, if you have a hard time, like with your circumstances, we

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have to remember that I was part of that as a distributor, right?

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He's, it's all portioned out. So to me, this is where even if you

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study, like the diseases of the heart, where they talk about envy,

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it's really important to reflect on these points, but it's already

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been divided your portion and my portion, it's already divided.

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Right? So just think of like, you know, if you had, you know, I'm

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thinking of like,

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you know, if you stumbled upon wealth, but the, the numbers were

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already kind of predetermined, like, everybody's gonna get this

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percentage, right? Or maybe there was a different distribution

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system, but it's kind of like the numbers were already worked out.

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So this is it's, there's no fighting, this is done deal.

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Right? Then everybody has to just kind of be content with their

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portion and, and not look at it, like, you know, oh, this is

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unfair, no, because you have your and the thing is, if we're really

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being honest, all of us have advantages in some areas over

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others. And maybe we are disadvantaged in some areas. And

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that's to show you, the incredible justice of God is that not

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everybody has everything, there's there is this system in play, we

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might not be able to see all of it, we might not be able to

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understand the design, or the way that it's all proportioned out.

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But we should trust the the one who's doing the division as being

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just unfair. And if we deserved more, we would get it. And if we

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don't get something, maybe it's because in this life, Allah

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subhanaw taala is choosing not to give us more of something like

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wealth, right? There are many people who spend their entire day

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and night just dreaming of wealth, and they have so much envy for

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people of wealth. And they don't realize that if you really knew

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your Lord, maybe your disease of wealth would be too much. And the

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perfect evidence of that is looking at what happens to many

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people who stumble upon wealth, right? Like these lottery winners,

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there's been a few different articles written about some of

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them who have completely become like their own worst enemy. As

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soon as they came into money, it destroyed their life. So could

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that could be the circumstance, right? That was preventing greater

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harm for you. So he's not giving you this thing that you want, so

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desperately, because he knows it'll cause more harm for you.

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And if you had that trust, you would, then just let go and say,

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Inshallah, in the next life, because this is not our permanent

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boat, we have, we're going somewhere else, this is one leg of

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the journey. And it's, it's a significant leg in that it

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determines where we go. But it is not the journey, the part of the

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travel that you want to invest in. Right, this is not the investment

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is in the Africa. So that's where, again, you know, being content

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with what he gives you, and just leaving the rest of us about that.

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And then the last point, the realization of turning back to

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Allah is through praise and gratitude in times of prosperity,

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and taking refuge in Him through affliction. So this is it, you're

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actually you're you're being proactive, you know what to do,

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when things are going rough, you are turning to Allah, when things

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are going ease with ease, and you don't ever feel safe. You know,

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part of, you know, the formula that I think is effective, and the

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students don't ever get too comfortable. Do not ever get

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comfortable, because you'll get blindsided real quick by dunya. If

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you start coasting, you know, it's kind of like when you're on the

00:33:36 --> 00:33:40

freeway, I'm sure it's happened to all of us before, sometimes, and

00:33:40 --> 00:33:42

whether you're driving late at night, or you're driving on a road

00:33:42 --> 00:33:46

that's really nice and smooth, right? You know, those beautiful

00:33:46 --> 00:33:49

drives, were just like, oh, this is such a beautiful, easy scenic

00:33:49 --> 00:33:53

drive. And it's like, I'm just enjoying it, everything feels so

00:33:53 --> 00:33:58

good. If you lose sight of the fact that at any minute, the road

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could bend, right? Or at any minute cop car could zoom right

00:34:01 --> 00:34:05

past you, it'll, you know, you'll completely lose yourself. So you

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have to be alert. And the dunya is a place that requires our

00:34:08 --> 00:34:14

alertness, that things can happen very quickly, things can suddenly

00:34:14 --> 00:34:18

change very quickly. But that doesn't mean it's the end. And it

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doesn't mean it's your you know, this is like you're being punished

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through this, it means that your test is that you know, change or

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it's sudden change or whatever it is in your life that's happened.

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But in sha Allah, if you respond according again to the or have the

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appropriate response, we'll get through it. So there's so much of

00:34:39 --> 00:34:44

this text, still to come and I really, really hope that inshallah

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as we meet month after month, we will continue to expand the

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discussion and I advise you all to please look over this PDF like

00:34:53 --> 00:34:56

beforehand and just kind of read through it, because it's really

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powerful and it gives and the way that again, the structure is we

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Start with the found five foundations and then everything

00:35:03 --> 00:35:08

that comes after is the building blocks that will get us to these

00:35:08 --> 00:35:13

foundations. So he's starting with the destination in a way in mind.

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Like if you want to get to all five of these, then the rest of

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the document tells you how in great detail so it's really

00:35:21 --> 00:35:24

structured beautifully by candlelight Xochimilco and I want

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to thank all of you again for attending and those of you who are

00:35:26 --> 00:35:30

streaming and watching Instagram Live does like more hit and we are

00:35:30 --> 00:35:32

going to be praying in a few minutes but are there any

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questions here at least yes

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welcome.

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Along

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Yeah, you know it's interesting you mentioned this that

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