Hosai Mojaddidi – Can I Wear Shab Clothes So I Do Not Appear Ostentatious
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The speaker discusses how wearing a mask helps people not look bad, but it is unclear whether it is true. They also talk about a woman who they believe was criticized for wearing a tank top and shorts and how they were criticized for their appearance. The speaker emphasizes the importance of dressing in a certain way for the sake of being seen and not being judged.
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We understand that one can still have Austin tation, right, which
is real, it's a disease of the heart where you show off, right?
You're you're performing basically in order for it to be seen
that we can have ostentation, when people purposely go out of their
way to not look boastful. Do you still have ostentation, if you go
out of your way, to not look too good around certain people, an
example is we're basically wearing a mask around men are purposely
dressed and purposely dressed with not the best attire around certain
people at a fear of judgment or being seen by them. So the
question again, that I'm hearing here is, is it still true? Yeah,
if you're trying to basically, you know, kind of tone down your
dress, so as not to attract or to appear a certain way right to
whether it's men or other people. And so I feel like this question,
I just, again, can speak to it, because many, many years ago,
before I even knew what the term ostentation was, which is like a,
you know, a mouthful of a word. Or yeah, we had studied the diseases
of the heart, I absolutely had it, I just didn't know I had it. But a
big part of my focus was on the outward and so wearing certain
clothes to not be perceived, as you know, as as attractive or, or
just to look intimidating was absolutely my game, I went out of
the house with the agenda to intimidate people to look scary,
to not be judged, you know, for for any physicality or anything
else, and to send a message, a strong message. And I thought that
that was, you know, something pious, I actually believed that it
was an active pod to do that. And I've told the story before, but I
don't know how many of you have heard it. So I'll just quickly
tell it because I think it's for me, it was a life changing moment
for me. And it just made me It helped me to shift focus, but I've
told the story. So if you've heard it, you can leave it right there.
I don't want to anyhow, I was this was many years ago. And so as I
mentioned, I used to dress like all kind of military style and
away had to toe black. And I would walk around with like a grimace
and just like not be very pleasant, because I wanted to
intimidate people. So I was at the airport waiting for a ride. And
this
you know, I'm just sitting there people watching waiting for my
ride dressed again, head to toe like that. And a woman she parks
her car right across the street. I mean, on the you know, in the, in
the where all the cars are coming, and she parked her car, and then
she got got out of her car, and she's wearing a tank top and
shorts. And she's, you know, white, I'm assuming white American
woman, but she, she was dressed very scantily. And I just
immediately just judged her and had a lot of negative thoughts,
let's just say, completely judged her. And this happened to me, she
closed the trunk of her car. And she looked right in my direction
as if she was piercing through my soul. And, you know, you make eye
contact with somebody who you're just judging, you know, that's not
comfortable, if you've ever done that before, but she did that. And
she walked directly towards me. And so as she's walking towards
me, my heart is like, you know, because I'm like, What is this?
This is kind of strange. Why is she coming towards me? And why he
she did that she came in, she stood in her tank top and short
shorts. And I'm sitting there and she she put her head down and she
said, said I want to go.
Last words I ever thought I would hear from someone dressed like
that. And she had so much humility it, she had her head to hand the
load the whole time, pretty much she was talking to me. She's like,
I know, I'm dressed so inappropriately, but I am Muslim.
And I want to raise my son Muslim, and I saw you and I thought it was
like a sign from God, that I come and talk to you. Because I want a
book. She's like, I need resources for my son. So she's saying all
this stuff. And I'm just sitting there like completely floored at
what just happened because I know the internal dialogue I was having
in my head. And of course, Allah knows what I was thinking. And he
sent this woman to me, he sent her to me to teach me a very, very
serious lesson that day, which is who do you think you are? Right?
You're walking around as though you are the personification of my
face. And you judge people and you think you're better than people.
And that's who I was for a really long time. And that day I learned
the lesson I am nobody because that woman I'm sure was was far
better than I was in that moment. And I had to sit with that. It was
like a I say it was it was like a punch to the gut. It was but it
was a huge awakening for me that my focus was on the wrong thing. I
was focused on the outward so RIA is a disease of the heart. Where
in both cases where you do something to be seen, or you don't
do something to not be seen. It is real because the focus is on
people. Our focus has to be on Allah subhana wa Tada.
Don't act for to be seen or to not be seen to be judged and not be
judged, to be accepted to not be accepted. That is not the state of
the believer, because people can benefit you and they can't harm
you. Everything is from Allah subhanaw taala so the believer
understands that and that's why if you're going to dress a certain
way, do it for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala don't factor in
people. Do it for the sake of Allah and He will give you tofu
inshallah.