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Hatem al-Haj – Prophet’s Management of Angry People
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The " anger mental" problem is a problem for men and women, as well as a mixed gathering of people and the Prophet's treatment of them. The importance of teaching practical practices and avoiding racism is emphasized, along with the need for forgiveness and finding a way to avoid violence. The importance of healthy simulation and healthy behavior is also emphasized, along with the need for forgiveness and avoiding distraction in discussing the Prophet's statement.
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As
soon as
you know somebody
wants to proceed,
just before I began talking about this particular topic of management, but angry he took
you know, last night, I went back to my room, and I was very uncomfortable about how
it was my own deficiency, how we scratched the surface of this issue of *, and we just moved on, we give like a few answers, and some people may have not been completely satisfied.
It is just like, in my own view, commander of this nature,
when you deal with it, you either completely, thoroughly
cover it, or not deal with it to begin with. Because if you do need at least each one, to walk away with 10, very good answers to this issue, in addition to this has a very unique to do playing beach, for the person who would not be comforted by your very strong sound that
logical
three bottles of this argument, you need to have Plan B, and that is quite believe what we need to talk about. And I would ask the management, the administration for permission to talk about this in the q&a session. And I will ask my partner in the q&a session should
allow you just a few minutes
to to basically wrap this issue or
make, make a more cohesive argument and also make Plan B and Plan C, because there is Plan B and Plan C, for those who will not be satisfied with your answers, that is in the capacity of a DI versus the capacity of a Muslim Hamas to basically submit an accepted act which has been related to us can be authentic connections.
Back to the issue of the anger mental, so if you have any
sort of inner thoughts about this issue, and you want to like some more country, on this particular issue, please come to this session, which will be number 8:15pm.
In the issue of the angry the management of angry people, and the best way to address this issue is to address a story in which is a proper cluster not practically showed us how to manage and repeat this, to try to glean some lessons from this beautiful story. That story was reported by a party from Osama bin is a story was reported in a book
from sunlight design, but there are variations. So, I will I will in this particular
sort of precise narration of the story and incorporate some of the additions from different variations of it to basically make it flow better as a story, but all of them are offended. So I will not be interpolating anything that is a fabrication on or not.
So the story goes like this a prophet sallallahu Sallam in Medina, before the bathroom, you know, so very early on is finding the Wii. And so this was about the first year of hedger right after the prophet SAW asylum, arrived into Medina, Southern Nevada fell ill and was taken home and the prophets of Allah Subhan decided to go and visit Santa Naga at home. And that's what the property is to do with his companions. He was he took, you know, care of each one of them individually you like he took a particular interest in, you know, form another relationship between him and each and every one of his companions. Something that is pretty much miraculous if you just look at this alone and
look at how many
intimate friends very close friends so someone had and how could a man in 15 years, make all of those friendships with those people very involved?
friendships, very close friendships is just like amazing.
And I'm talking about the
Sorry, I'm not talking about just 115 years of my career. I'm talking primarily now about the 10 years. And Medina because that is when the number of credits blossom.
So so the perfect embark on visiting Saba Naga so he sort of mounted his mind he got on his donkey
and the Prophet used to ride a donkey
in Medina, which you which gives you like a different picture of the province of salmon than that picture a lot of people who would like to portray for him, you know, opponents would like to portray for him as like a military leader or something of that nature. So the Prophet Musa right, he's been killed in the streets of Medina
and he have Kusama design. Behind him, he has some of the design behind the most animals about eight to nine years of age at that time, he went to the automated harness for the dwellings of Benny had, it's a clan from Amman, sod. And and on his way, he found that up, people are mixed gathering, the people
sitting together and chatting about mix gathering was the gathering of Muslims, Jews.
I'm sorry, he's from the different tribes. And it was the end of the gathering and God will live in saludos present and also have the Latin America and Java is one of the three popular names of a lot of celebrities popular for this hypocrisy and our fans are going to have the popular for their face and their belief.
On his way, he found this gathering so he made a slight turn to go and address them and get us around and greet them and address them. And he was driving his donkey so the donkey moving towards them, move some of the dust next to the gathering
of the loudness and all of a sudden was approaching man sakalava salute acted by he is extremely irritated and disgusted by the last
he put his footwork is garbage on his face. And he said to the Prophet some a lot in Sun Valley, co founder robotic or take your dust away. And when he when the Prophet sallallahu Sallam approached and more
lumber salute said to him one more time before the smell of your donkey bothers us. And then the prophets Allah, keep in mind that the Prophet is not replying to the sort of. So what's the Prophet did is that he gave them the the greeting of Salah, so Isn't he this mountain, he lists now walk towards them, greeted them with select. And then this is an opportunity to start to share with them some add from the forum here in scientists because when someone asked from beforehand, so their response about the saloon was Dr. Johann Miranda who lay sachet on accidental mega food. Now can I
tell you man, yeah, even more so many like, like, rude sort of crude way of addressing people who are not in the
local hospital happen, there is nothing better than what to say.
Or what you recited your speech. If it is true, it is true at the time of blindness I have not yet had not yet externally accepted as well have the opportunity accepted. It's not even outwardly he was still who he was from from the majority.
Then,
you know, so So why is that that this was a mixed gathering. So it was not only you know, when after feeling Below are some of the believers president so they got offended by Mr. Lewis treatment of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam and you know how faithful and sincere of the love of Morocco was and then Abdullah Morocco, Jonathan said
I'm sorry, before there's someone in this room, said to him, you know, after you sat down, there's nothing better than what you say. But you know, if it is true, he said to him, Well, I can not to reveal it to you
Listen, while I cannot but don't bother us in our gatherings hidden some roughly stay at your home from data come in my pastor, whoever comes to you when you're excited for them, but don't come and bother us in our gatherings so I'm gonna jump into the
law personality modulation if anyone
know or messenger of Allah come to us in our gatherings we love to hear from you. Keep in mind Milan Rafa was a young man
who was the chief strike was the chief with the highest authority in Australia, and he was going to be the highest authority in the entire city of Medina.
He was planning to be before in the province of Santa Margarita Marina
then Japanese may have been doubled our revenue centers or whatever amount that you know, separate the profits on the low end someone or central admin salute the smell of the bankia the profits are someone who is more beloved to us than your Smith.
You know, what would be expected in a farm like this, particularly from the faithful love the practice has gotten so much. And then after, you know, this affair, verbal altercation, they started to actually have a fistfight. And that's like a mixed gathering of people and the prophet SAW someone was the role of the practice of someone in this was to just pull them off, calm them down, until they come down, can be sat down, and then the practice of Salah greeted them can love, kindness way too solid Nobel when he arrived, when you know, in Santa Monica, he said to his father, about having tea seen or having heard of what Apple
did a
couple How bad is who considers to do but the preference was for like the dress and with his cornea. cornea is the opposite of respect, keeps when he called someone the father of so and so, Father, father said this, like genitive form in the Arabic language to address people with respect. So even though when minister Lula address the prophet of government, he said, Hey, man, the promises are made in the absence of in the central not even in the presence, when when he talked about the COVID enhancements, you know, has this effect respect for Korea as a whole but
then Southern Nevada said to the Prophet sallallahu sallam, or messenger of Allah, please forgive him and part of the non final rule was no one was
saying Allahu Akbar, Allah De Anza LA, we're in
Kuala Lumpur feroza you know,
how to Allah subhanaw taala had sent you with a truth that he has revealed to you, while we were
getting to the crown ready for him, the beads of account ready for him
to make him king as Medina or you know, the kingdom
and then founder of Africa mama with her for sorry for the bed. So when I last time, I thought I said to the students do when you when you have come to us,
like that causes an extreme aggravation, extreme stress for valic olalia. Right. That is what you saw. That is you know, that reason, the root cause behind his behavior for misconduct is that so he was not telling him, he is envious. Let us just, you know, punishing him or her. He was just sending him he's envious to forgive him. Basically, let us understand that in the background that he's coming from, let's understand his own
feelings and to forgive him and pardon him, because he's dealing with a lot internally. And the process of studying and the process of sort of forgive tests basically the story.
If we wanted to have a few starts over story. You want to begin from the very beginning of the story. So the prophets have a similar model on his donkey having suburbanization right behind him and walking towards the dwellings that Ben had
Talk about the issue of racism. So I don't need to spend a lot of time on this issue. But it was one of the points I wanted to mention.
comes out as it was,
as reported,
black was clearly African features, because he is the son of a main man who was African and
are the product of that marriage was someone who was black with clearly African features, as they reported in the history. And this is a very racist society. So the treatment of the Prophet the treatment of racism and the society.
You know, according to the prophets of Allah Salah is not just simply by giving beautiful speeches about equality, and about the evils of society, but giving a practical exam, a practical example, this is a son of
eight years old, and the professor, someone gave him a session here he was new is called in the Medina public health. He is a beloved son of the Beloved. And the Prophet takes them behind them, just like you would do without
his own cousin, he takes him behind them on the donkey, and allows him to witness you know, serious political
interaction, social interactions.
at a very early age at the age of eight or nine years, it is the same set of desires. later on.
The Prophet sallallahu Sallam
advised advice popping up in the face, I'm telling you this because it is very important. The difference between teaching by example teaching practical teaching, and just teaching by teachers, which is most of what we do is teaching through seizures, but for the purpose of someone, then another chance came when you're talking about the price that came to the prophet SAW somebody talk about what the price is from the liability of products, it is from the, you know, not just for Americans, but from the local clients within for life.
Can when she came on, she said to the prophet SAW something on Miley, another gentleman, you know, proposed marriage to me and he said to her, don't marry him, marry,
don't marry them, marry your son. Report in Sahih, Muslim from Fatima said that she getting up, she did math like she was resentful
that this is very many of the culture that is the names of the previous perceptions. When the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said to hurt marriage to some kind of then focusing on marriage and she feels that she would be fine. The order of the prophet SAW someone so she married herself. She was still not comfortable for a long period of time and Kofi Annan was a couple of the littlest Sankara put so much goodness, anything can end up marriage can see the happily ever after with them. So but that is sort of practical teaching here is the same set of desires afterwards. The preference of a lot is some walk the have
him behind and when you walk through the streets of Mecca, towards the Kaaba. So this is the epoch of Islamic history, the conquest of Mecca, the opening government, from Africa, to come into Mecca removed all of the ideal storm around the counterbalance effect of the Islamic history. The one who was writing behind the prophets was almost the same as in Israel. He was one of two people that were next to the Prophet sallallahu Sallam when you walk into the Kaaba, who was on his right side below, who was on his left side to stand up and say, it was seven days later the Prophet sallallahu Sallam
appointed as the chief of the army that was going to fight the Romans that had on the back of the Armada, Amara calm as to Office soldiers, so that is just like, just glancing over this particular part. But you could say, there's a lot more that we could say about this. I would say that Muslims are imperfect and I agree. We all have grievances against what was said to
me the same thing with the homeless going through the house. This is connected with
are from our legacy. But I would say, even though with all of this, because of this man, and only because of this, not because of our ethnic, national racial
background, or just because we're good people, it is because of this tribe, that despite all of the elements of diseases, and despite the fact that racism is alive, in Muslim within, the Muslim Ummah, is not dead, it is alive. Despite all of this, we have not formatted so deep into, you know, the ugliness of racism.
Like
other nations have different
religious affiliations, we did not have the lynching
of people and you know, the various practices, and to some extent, we were able to support Islam was able to at least suppress the most evil tendencies within us. Although they are not completely gone, they are they're alive. But at least this lab was able to suppress the certain extent that we have not really did too far down and just figure
when he was eight or nine years old at the time, Peter, nine years old at the time, what do you what do you hear from this? You know, and like an eight or nine year old boy, that is a company, the purpose of all some of that is witnessing firsthand the serious interactions between the profits or settlement of political opponents. And Senior social interactions. Do you expect this person to,
to mature fast and to become, you know, well groomed for leadership at an early age, certainly, silence wise, within 10 years, or about nine to 10 years, based on the
witnesses actually took place.
The first story within nine to 10 years or some organization was ready at age 18. To leave the army kind of go to an exhibition to confront the Roman Empire, and have abundant armor, so of his soldiers, and at work is almost, you know,
beyond our imagination nowadays, if you think about it, and how we treat our kids, and how we treat our teams, and you, it is almost impossible that we would have any one team that is up or anything like us or anything like this ever anything big like this. So this is something for us to learn. And it is really very important that we learn all of these things as we try to just reflect on them.
Certainly, you will not get it by the 18 year old leadership over an army in our claims, because we would have not had enough experience and enough training and enough, but but it and that is the problem between the people who want to make Islam so abstract that it is only about, you know, brotherhood, fraternity and beauty. And it's only about a popcorn title. It's about truth and beauty. And goodness, and the people who are extremely they have failed to adjust things for five in place, and that adjustment is necessary. And that's the role of
the jurors, that one well grounded in the knowledge and the effects of the tradition, the text and the tradition, both texts have a tradition to be able to make that adjustment.
But it is to tell us that it is important for us to give a chance to those people to allow them to blossom.
And it is not, it is not appropriate for us to not give them a chance to tell them that the upper crust is gone until all of our, you know uncles and aunts have died in the next generation. Now 16 and 17 year olds take, you know, positions of leadership because all of our 80 and 19 year olds have died. And that's what happens sometimes, so that you're not you know, or you're 50 or 70 on what what are you doing here and this gathering we're just 50 years old. And this is a gathering of evidence
So you just keep quiet, you know, know your place.
So it is just like very delay mature age.
Now moving on.
So when Mr. Lu said to the prophet SAW, he said, Hans very polite, but there are two points addressed here with regard to how the Prophet sallallahu Sallam addressed.
The first thing is when the Prophet is blind, and he said, you know, the bouncing, you think about, you know, your, the smell of your garden, he did not say to him, you know, what am I going to do that there is dust here, you know, why don't you take care of your dust? Or why don't you water that area? So that or, you know, what, what do you want me to do? And he just ignored it completely, because he knows that this is not a rational discussion, he knows that this is a frustrated individual, this is a individual with grievances, to engage with him in a rational discussion history.
Because it is not the rationality that is moving in, it is not reason that is moving in. So how can how can I add to the web, and a rational discussion of speech is driven by this negative emotion and be able to do anything with it? So you know, then he said that the salon article, and when he talked about something else, we started with a prayer, you know, in order to think critically, what does this tell us?
It tells you about the focus on the practice of the law of Southern the sincerity of the motion information, that emotion to, you know, the demon from the spread of Islam, that was his focus, he was never distracted, you cannot distract him from his focus, it is not about, you know, answering your concern. It is not about ego, forget about the ego, forget about all of this, my focus, my mission, my ultimate objective is to guide the people a lot sent me as a mercy to them, to guide them. Therefore, I would just ignore all of this kind of, however excited for him to come. And when he restarted the program, even at this level, there were a lot of mixed gathering of people in the
saloon, was very envious, a very envious person. So it was unlikely that things will even
say on accident, there is nothing that is better than your seat. So there is no that method this you know, he's about the acceptance that he didn't want he outcome verb except
internally, except
for the one internally accepted for imagine that there were many people that felt the same way, but did not have the grievances that
did not have the eagle that hidden this, I don't have. And for those people who they were skeptical, certain slam, if the market kind of decided in the same gallery to accept as well, but they were certainly a cynical circus that after we heard you the Prophet sallallahu sallam, so as a prophet initially address, you know, the negative comments or redness or rude that would have been defeating the mission.
Goal,
then the maximum 80 of the character of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam just said amazing, it is this is to see how we talked about different
you know, scenarios within central design. This is on the opposite side or sides that have been faithful, you know, the valve, and so on. This is the most strict and then the hematocrit and is sort of like
and no one ever did is just like not the Prophet was stole but the hypocrites this was the chief editor in Medina. So every time he knew this is that, you know, Ahmed will come, you know, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam was trying to prevent him from being preyed upon as a producer who isn't either one who said
Is he the one who said
that, Isn't he the one who said if we go back to the Medina, the mighty will drive out the the human nature, isn't it which is referring to himself as the mighty and the humiliation or the inferior is
a reference to the practice of a body of someone. And he is the one who says don't stand on those who are in the company of the Messenger of Allah, Isn't he the one who took one third of Barbie back in October that put us in jeopardy is intended. What How could you clarify
janessa Fran, but I didn't miss any rules. Every time, you know, the proper pattern encounter with Mr. Luna, the preference was about an antigen, very
beautiful, with a lot of generosity and locked in a subsidiary kind of the brand new character amazing to the point that I did miss a loan, when when he was alone, he received more clear from the practical solution than most of us who have his son came to the province of Kenya, imagine, listen, you have to put things in context too, because sometimes the theory will be applied
to individuals, there are there is so much that is involved. You know, so when we talk about how you will address how we will handle your family,
if you are recovered, and this is Thanksgiving, and then how you would enter your family, you have to put a lot of things with him, you know, you have to really put yourself within that complex, you know, and you have to put in you have to factor in that family relationship with bonds and listen, but in addition to
kind of if you want to be even clearer with the Christmas, like it was a Christmas gathering, and you're part of this family and how you just have a skin if you factor in the fact that we do not celebrate Christmas, we're not Christians, you'll factor in but he also factor in the bonds, the bonds, family ties, and all of this. So the proximate factors and the fact that this is this young man, the son of business, and he cares for his father, his father, after all, he wasn't hypocrite, but his father has this now his son is one of my devout followers. So his son comes to me and asked for my homies, to marry me saluted, and after all of this, after all of the harm and hurt and after
all the hypocrisy, and after all, that it just
conservancies are reminisce a lone wolf, a confederate is concerned, at every spot on every major incident that happened, and we salute the evil side, against the Prophet sallallahu.
After all, this, give me your police to bury my father
did he give him
his son once, you know, sort of, maybe this will make a difference. You know, my father was a hypocrite I you know, I was opposed to him. But maybe he
could make a difference. So the problem is going to be the, the profits that are made in the hotdogs have the ROI Tell me when he wants to bury them. So I can go out and
credit for Hamlet, report from the NASA prayer and the profit from that part of the solution was the longest that has a prayer is the compassion of the Prophet, he's trying to say,
he piece of armor, if I can.
If I if I if I know that it would be accepted for me, then I will seek forgiveness check in more than 70 times one must
seek forgiveness Remember, don't you seek forgiveness for them 70 times Allah will not forgive them.
But the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said if I know that, like I if it would work,
you will be forgiven I would seek forgiveness from him more than seven times that allow me forgive him. So this is the concerns that he had for his own motorhome as this. This is our automatic automatic response responded to him and accepted him. But the oma means the almighty humanity, because humanity is this moment of doubt. So he was addressing humanity with his our his concern that we have for humanity. It was was was amazing. But and this is a man who personally hurt so many times. This is the man who personally spread the word about our industry who personally insulted him concerning his honor concerning his wife and spread rumors about you know,
that you know, you're aware of
just imagine this and then he would go down in the grave have
Pick up a saloon and
blowing his
mouth. So the last thing that he would have had from dystonia would be the, the saliva. The prophet SAW a lot of sentiment trying every single way to benefit this man and to keep Hamas punishment away from him. That was the concern of the Prophet had for almost an hour, not only not only in the sense of Muslims, but the sense of humanity.
And very
there's so much to say about
treatment on the
Prophet statement
afterwards and before that,
but the next one I want to address is another point which is the fact that these people are Muslims, Jews, most Europeans were second together and chapter and the Prophet came and did not and why are you here together?
Biggest a door to this infant human interaction social interaction is the normal process.
Where I have
enforced seclusion because seclusion
walk around the room in a couple of smiling for any opinion on electromechanical seclusion is the tool of the comfort because they have no spirits, lack of confidence, uncertainty, ambiguity about the beliefs, we don't we have certainty or courage to set up the Cookware Set the Lena Cooper who said do not listen to this score and make noise while it is blurry sighted that you may overcome it the way is what do not listen. Because if you listen, you may become depressed.
But our waiting is different
than last time Apollo says
you have eaten via in mechanism to have a poodle he had eaten violin. And I must have revealed to you in the book that what
I have said to you in the book, that when they when you hear that verses or the findings of Allah V and Mark can really kill, do not sit with them until they take up some other discourse. Do not sit with the
tail, the teacup or the waiter into orally address something else, they pick up some other scores. And then you could go back and sit with them. So now you're sitting with them, they get into something, you know the marks, reversed, blah, blah, blah. Do not sit with them while they're marking the verses. Now the take up some other discourse, you may go back and say, isn't that amazing? You know, isn't about the most healthy assimilation. Now you will not be party to marketing the verses of Allah, you should not. And keep in mind that when we're talking about assimilation, we're not talking about the fetus. We're not talking about you know, being covered in order.
Here, this layer, you see on the left on the right has shown his true colors, that if the darker color shown his true colors, they felt offended for the profit independent the profit the spoken behalf part of the process of settlement. And then we went back and sat together with the same people. Yes.
If you can do this, then that is the healthiest simulation. If you cannot do this, then you should certainly stay away. If you don't have the courage to do this, then you should just keep yourself away. But most of the people I do notice particularly people who grew up here
they have more courage to sort of seek
permanency saying anything bad about people who grew up here, but I'm just saying that sometimes we tend to be like to tell people like myself, we tend to be two people who did not grow up here. So people who are born here and grew up here they still have this
courage, a good word.
The more I started
we tend to be a lot
too shy to speak up or
to be confrontational in discussion. And it's not true for all of us uncomfortable for everybody throwing up here. Gentlemen, Mr. nomina are just human phenomenon they are not mathematical equations. So there will be exceptions again exceptions as well.
But this is very important for you. So healthiness termination is the Islamic prescription. It is not seclusion, but rather healthy simulation.
There's one more point that I
wanted to discuss in my mind.
But
so we talked about the
the focus in the profits
you know, preclinical different scenarios to focus on he had on his mission and the fact that he was never he never allowed himself to be distracted. We talked about 911 his character we talked about taking care of the youth. Yeah, I guess we can we address the point about like currently preparation of the youth and we talked also about assimilation being healthy assimilation, being the answer can be a sonic prescription, cannot exclusion. And I think because we started the main points they want to address or many of us if they wanted to be from this particular story as to how many minutes 2020 seconds.
I'll leave them for questions.