Hatem al-Haj – Perfect Balance
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The speakers discuss the importance of finding a balance between the donia and the d union in society, balancing the d union and the donia, pursuing a regular job and healthy life, and balancing personal growth and work. They emphasize the need for a fear of the hereafter, a positive mindset, and a clear path for success. The speakers stress the importance of working hard and creating a clear path for success, as it is a personal choice.
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spinoff from that all sort of phenomenon said a lot earlier.
I'm about to proceed.
First of all, I miss you all.
I miss Minnesota and I miss the community here in Minnesota.
This is not to slide New Jersey in any way. But it was the movement. So they're very much
in the community here. You're all like a family to me.
And I hope that you continue to have that spirit of being one family
and providing that important social matrix for each other. As a community, particularly a Muslim community
that lives in a minority, the treaty needs this social matrix. The treaty needs this sense of family belonging, allegiance, affection between the members of the community cooperation, and so on.
The topic of the balance between the dean and the dernier. When we say that, when we say the perfect balance between the dean and the donia, or I'm sorry, between the Dhoni and Farah,
that name in and of itself, someone can contest the very title of the lecture right or wrong.
And it would be right. But I usually don't like to contest the contest titles or contest statements of that nature.
The way our righteous predecessors used to do and are great Americans used to do is to analyze them, if you mean this than it is right if you mean then that then it is wrong. If you mean that you really want to strike a balance between the dunia And Pharaoh
meaning that your your attention your your pursuit is equally distributed divided between the dunia and Farah, your longing, your pursuit, your aspirations are equally divided between the donor or after our divided in a balanced way between the donor and after I've done that is completely wrong. That that is that's a complete failure. That is complete destruction. You have to make up your mind and you have to choose because sometimes, Allah subhanaw taala could grant you both. And other times you will be tested by the choice by choosing between the donor and our fellow. What do you choose the dernier over Farah or a pharaoh over the dernier so if you have not made up your mind, which one
you actually want, which one truly matters to you, you will fail that test you will fail that challenge miserably.
So let's listen to Allah subhanaw taala tells us about the people who divide their
attention their per year long in pursuit aspirations between the Dhoni and Farah
Allah told us about those who wanted to hit on those who wanted dunya in many many verses of the Quran. When can I read Raja and Surah Surah mccannon read Raja Raja Lupita Manisha What do you mean read so much.
Name is Mona Matilda from another
woman for homeschool he mechanic region ideally he wants it ideally the quick passing life you know ideally means what quick passing?
It is a description of the dunya dunya is Atilla it is transient. It's temporary. It's the quick passing one. The quick passing one, if you want the quick passing one, if you want the short and transient one, if you want the temporary one, okay, a general manager already manually, we shall advance we shall promptly we shall readily grant to whomever we wish, whatever we wish to have it, we will give it to them, but to whomever we wish, whatever we wish. So there is no guarantee even there there how many people do want to donate and they don't get it. And they work hard for it and they don't get it and they don't care about the hereafter but they still don't get the donation. You
know,
famines all over the world are all of those people you know, seekers of the hereafter know many of them want to donate, they just want to donate but we still don't get it. Because our jungler houfy hamanaka Elementary we shall readily grant to whomever we wish whatever we wish, of of this donation. But there are no guarantees. But here is the guarantee your money.
For Ola, you can kind of sell your home or school, but whoever wants that fear of the hereafter and does the works that are due to the year after that after
appropriate for for their pursuit of the Hereafter, the proper work that is required for the seekers of the hereafter whoever does this whoever wants the after and does the proper work that is required to attain the hereafter for Ola ganesa homeschooler. For those that work will be recognized and appreciated. The work was definitely will certainly that's a lost promise. If you wanted a pharaoh, you will get it up there that you know there there are no contingencies here. If there are no conditional statements, you get an error if you wanted a filter, if you wanted a filter, and then act upon that desire. You're not only desirous of the filter and you're just sitting back and you
know not doing anything but you act upon this desire. You will get what you are working for. Allah subhana wa tada says in Surah, two mechanical dunya was enough to handle feeling him out here. Hello casued
Elena, Wahhabi Tama Sanofi How about Meccano, Yamato, he wants to have done in the life of this work, the lowly life, lower the lower life, the lower life of this world was it was enough to have its enjoyments its glitters, its enjoyments its adornments,
Monica Riedel jalapenos, noir fee mama home fee, we shall pay them in full which or compensate them in full for their good work in it in it feel for home soon and they will not be shortchanged in it. So if you work well, if you if you basically excel in your profession, whether you want an asset or not, you just want the dunya and if you excel, then Allah subhanaw taala will reward you for your hard work and reward you for your effort, he will reward you for
your, your diligence and your perfection. You're being punctual at work and so on.
So you will harvest what you what you plan, whether you're Muslim or not Muslim, whether you're a seeker of the pharaoh or not a seeker of the Pharaoh, you will not be shortchanged. And if you also do kindness and if you do acts of you know kindness towards people, you will be paid in the dunya and you will not be shortchanged like so,
but at the same time, like I live in la sala de la la, those are the ones who will have nothing in the after and the year after, because they did not desire that they were only working for the hereafter for the dernier and they were only working for the enjoyments of the dounia
they will have nothing in the hereafter except the Hellfire except the fire
later on, in the NA Wahhabi for NASA alpha and in ruin, you know void in vain. Everything we have done in the Dhoni will be invaded the you know, every good work that you have done in the dunya you will not find that in the Farah if you did not desire.
If you did not want to mirror while you were still in the dunya.
Keep in mind that even if you get from the dunya like you know you want the dunya and you will be rewarded in the dunya when ultimately your life in dystonia will be done. Which means a life of distress, a life of distress, despite the accomplishments and the achievements and despite all of what you have earned in that dounia you will live a life of distress or you will have a life of distress because that is a lost promise to anyone who abandons his remembrance stays away from his remembrance. Allah says in Surah Taha aman ARAVA, and Vickery Fenella whom he from Duncan, when I'm sure we have malkia mighty karma, karma be Bielema, Hassan yanaka, quintuple Sierra colloca, velika,
Taka, tuna fantasy Taka vertical Yamato and he who stays away from my remembrance, he would have a life of this stress my acertain Duncan when actually we are multi MTM and we will resurrect him on the Day of Judgment blind.
Okay. So, on the other side, even if you live a life
of external stress and external hardship, but you have true faith, you are a true believer, you will have that coolness of certainty but the opinion you will have the comfort that comes with with you know, certainty certitude with belief
In Allah subhanaw taala and your life will be a good life. Mohammed Hassan Surat, the National Human
talent he and
he who does solid, good works. Man Zachary now owns whether he's a male or female woman while in a state of Eman, fellow New Haven,
we shall certainly we must variably will give him a life that is good for yerba a good life, despite the fact that he may be broke, despite the fact that he may have lost his only two kids that he had, you know, in a car accident.
Or you know that he did not have kids and he's broke, or despite the fact that he had a crippling disease, a chronic, debilitating disease. But if he truly has the Barghouti appeal, you know, certitude is, is, is amazing, that that comfort of certitude to know where you're coming from, and where you're going to, to know what you're here for. This is irreplaceable this is, you know,
can you compare this to anything, you know, if you have a lot of things, but you don't know what you're here for in this journey. You don't know what will happen to you after this. You don't know you know, what is next. You know, you will enjoy your life as long as you're in your 20s or early 30s. And then once you start to hit your 40s, and you start to have some joint aches and pains here and there and your back hurts and you start to lose, you know, taste for certain foods that you used to like and stuff like that. And you you feel like it is behind you now, like what is ahead of you is senility.
That is the stressful, if you're not sure what you're what you're going to have afterwards, where are you going afterwards, after that's inability, then you see that people are taking, you know, six feet under the to be buried and those like graves, dark graves and then throw soil on them. You will go there one day after you live, you know, through senility and through
all of the hardships associated with being Medicare eligible.
So, that is really that is really stressful.
It's really stressful.
But after the last one tells us that those are the ones that wanted to hear after those are the ones that wanted to dunia this is what this is what the those will get and this is what the other party or other group will get.
After this, Allah, Allah tells us
if you want the hereafter and you seek the Hereafter, it does not mean that you will lose the dunya. First of all, you will have that bergerie opinion that coolness of certainty or certitude or comfort of certitude, which is you know matchless, you will have it That's for sure. Whether you know, regardless of your wealth or poverty, regardless of your health or sickness, you will have that this is guaranteed philosophy and
we shall give him a good a good life, but also also, it does not mean that you will not have the enjoyments of the dunya that you will necessarily since you will desire the Hereafter, that you will necessarily lose the enjoyment of the dunya that your dream car, your dream house and this and given that you have your priorities straight given that you're willing at any time to sacrifice all of this for the sake of Allah, given that you will never seek it, earn it attain it
through the displeasure of Allah subhanho wa Taala but you still have a very good likelihood that if you do the same thing other people do, and you know to earn those pleasures or enjoyment you will you may you may get them. Allah says in Surah Nisa, when can you retire but donia time Allah himself with diarrhea, while after Allah subhanho Sierra, he wants the word of the dunya. Let him know that with allies the word of the duty and if you're,
you know, you don't have to lose the dunya if you seek ally for as long as you're willing to sacrifice the dunya for the akhira and you're willing to forsake the dunya for the fairer and you're willing to desert and abandon the dounia if it is needed for the Farah, then you could get the boss find the lightsaber Daniela Farah will
Realize that he word of the donia and Farah of this life and the hereafter will come alongside me on basura.
So after we clarified this, this is a concept that we just want to clarify, he cannot balance between the dunya and Farah, he would be utterly crazy.
You will be utterly foolish since you know this is senseless to want the balance between the donor and fella our righteous predecessors used to say no gala dinner Herman feathers and yet our dunya menza have been here for now. Lambda alpha Latin, alpha levy.
Okay, for Well, I mean, they have been, yep, we're doing em and philosophy in the afternoon. So if the if the fly is made out of pottery, to be a healer is made out of money, and it's everlasting and the dounia is made out of gold, but it is temporary, no sane person will choose the temporary gold over the everlasting pottery.
Because everlasting is everlasting. It's infinite.
So what you know, so So what do you think if the if the case is different afra is made out of gold that is everlasting. And the donia has made our pottery cheap. That is temporary, that is transient.
So we're not balancing the between the dunya and Farah.
We are focused. We are, you know, our eyes are set on the reward of the Farah and this is you know, our focus is completely on the Federer.
And we're paying all of our attention to Allah and to Allah, Allah Soraka. Sir, we all remember memorize.
Allah says at the end of it worked Forever, forever.
We're in a bigger forest. Forever, Veronica fansub. I will come back to select a shot because, you know,
basically, sort of summarizes the entire topic of this lecture and these two statements. favor ferragosto fansub. whaler, a bigger forager. So when you are done with your occupation, labor Phase I found out meaning with your that when you're done, when you have free time, when you're done.
When you're done with your occupation, labor standards, you know, you can translate this as standard because, you know, most of the SOP is the rise the standard, NASA also a start up or tiredness, labor.
Do hard labor.
For a lot of bigger Farrago and your Lord should be all of your long game and to your Lord, the pay all of your attention to your Lord, you know, give all of your attention to your Lord. Your longing should be all dedicated to your Lord. What about a bigger antier Lord follows up should be all of your longing.
So
then,
on your way to the pleasure of your Lord, which is your ultimate pursuit. Here great your final objective, your ultimate objective and goal is to earn the pleasure of your Lord and to be admitted to his Dar Al kurama to his abode of
honor.
Agenda paradise on your way
you can get you know the enjoyments of the dunya and not only that, you could get the enjoyment of the Vernier you
will use those enjoyments for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala The people here are Israelites at the time of
qarun he said to him well photography may attack a low data fellow when attacks on a seebeck I'm in adonia wax and come axon Allahu la well I thought the facade of
the web may attack Allah that Allah Farah and seek without which Allah has given you over the wealth that Allah has given you. Seek with that wealth of battle ephedra, what am I pursuing here? What am I seeking at that I feel when I can send it back I mean adonia and do not forget your share of this work.
This is
not basically what you're after.
While you're
at work.
you're seeking what to pursue pursuing is not your share of the dunya This is not your goal.
This is not your goal. Your goal is a battle between the female attack Allah and seek with that which Allah had given you. At Darren, ephedra, the home of the Hereafter, the home of the hereafter will attend Sana seebeck. I'm in adonia. And on your way to your objective, Logan's recommended dunya during your trip,
you can stop by and get some snacks, you know, on your trip, do not forget your share of the dunya but that is
part of the journey, but the journey is for the Hereafter, the final destination is the hereafter the final destination should be the hereafter.
Sometimes, we have certain
hobbies or certain reports that may sound like there is actually there should be a balance between the donia and
like a real balance between the dunya and so, we have this report that is not traceable to the profits or loss element even the version that is traceable to early on who it is not traceable, as people
know is the wording is different from what the people know. So, this what do you know this report
sour size,
but sour, sour,
sour in worsen, and in the word of the, you know, a rejuvenation the work of the dunya and non work
for worship Salford members because hungama came to the prophet and said to him what that we play with our families and take care of our you know, business and so on and so forth. Can we forget some of what you tell us? So he told me how you will be yes. And that is the balance that we will talk about it is not balancing the balancing of the pursuit
of the money and I feel you're not balancing here one desire you're balancing the time that you will spend and so how does that how does not necessarily mean that equal division but even if it means that equal division look at us
you know you have eight hours of sleep 16 hours Tell me if you're doing eight hours in worship and the other eight hours are spent in you know conducting your business and having you know leisure the time and then so on so forth.
From his family, Dominica Kanika
Chica Kanika thermotoga work for your journey as if you will live forever and work for the pharaohs if you will die tomorrow. He heard this Now have you heard it? Yes, is that that we were we Muslims are good at you know spreading you know and exchanging those good reports that are comforting.
First of all people have different takes on
aside from the fact that this is not traceable to the Prophet number one
aside from the fact that the Quran and the Quran does not tell you this the emphasis on the sample is for the pharaoh Saudi always for the fella compete is for the Farah heysen is for the Farah Saudi right I'm gonna fill it in
with Jonathan I
call this analogy of
saga Wait I'm
sorry, oh, it becomes so Hasan compete
some people
some people are a bit more Jonathan COVID scenario.
So hasten and compete are used only for the accurate but when it comes to the issue.
Right from juvie, man, what's up man, I can be awkward on my wrist. So walk
through the land and seek out his provisions for each of his provisions meaning See, allows provisions so when it comes to the ACA is clearly compete. Brian Hayes and so on.
But the you know
Scholars have another take on this.
Or this report.
Even
even if you accept it as his
work for your life as if you will live forever and work for the author as if he will die tomorrow.
Many, some scholars have said something very solid and very beautiful
work for your ganya as if you will live forever meaning Don't be in a hurry. If you don't do it today or tomorrow,
there is no rise,
you will live forever. So don't be in a hurry. So the work the work for the dunya Take it easy with the word preferred.
Because if you if you
work
with a mentality of forever
the hereafter hasten, because you're working for linear after as if you're running tomorrow. So work fast, you know, don't defer the work of the hereafter until tomorrow because you get the feeling that you like enzyme. So get it today Now,
this should never be differ.
They say that, and that is good in everything. Which is deliberation is good at everything.
Exactly the thought of a lot, because is to do everything at the proper time. at the proper time, not hastily, and all of the time is proper for the favelas.
So the word worship of Allah subhanaw taala, there is no haste in worshipping Allah subhanaw taala. Because all of the time is proper for the worship of Allah subhanaw taala.
Now that we have not now that we said this,
how do we balance?
What are we balancing here?
between the work that you have to do for linear and the work of the author? How do you balance your time
on this journey through
the seek the pleasure of your Lord, how do you also
maintain your needs and sustain yourself, your community in dystonia and your needs in dystonia? And this is what we will be talking about.
The first thing in order for us to be balanced because we're not balanced, many times we think that we're balanced, we're not done.
Why are we not balanced?
It is quite obvious because the donia is right here in front of you. Because you drove to this place in a car that
is starting to get out on you or to get you in trouble. And you're you're busy thinking that you should replace this car, how am I going to replace this car, I need to make some more money, or you came to this place from your home, and you're renting that you want to buy purchase it is right here and now. So it is right in front of your eyes. It is occupying most of your
slot, because it's here, very visible.
very tangible. But as for the era, for many of us, we don't have the certainty that is required for us to be balanced. Why would Why were the Sahaba bands. They were perfectly balanced. Why were the bands because he theorem because if if balance is a good thing, because the hardware balance, if you think about the Sahaba were leaning more on the side of the river
and you want to be balanced. So you want to have a like a different lifestyle from the Sahaba you desire to be different, then you will deserve to be different than then you deserve to also be treated differently by Allah subhanaw taala but the Sahaba were balanced why they were dance, because they were certain of the Hara, as much as they are certain of
them then it was almost like
as visible
as
They can see, you can see,
just like they
see this,
they might have this done.
So the first thing that that will help us become balanced is to have certainty and filler. That means what? to basically strengthen our faith to have more email. And that would be a completely different lecture or a different talk, how do we strengthen our email, and not just the intellectually man the experientially man, not just the man that is comprehended by the intellect,
but the man that is felt by the heart, to different things, they really do different things. And as long as we have a man that is comprehended by the intimate.
Yes, makes perfect sense. Otherwise, there must be a creator. You know, no other division provides a better
roadmap to serve the Creator, no other
religion provides a crisp, clear and, you know, sensible
description of the Creator, and better roadmap to get back to the Creator,
Venice now, then, Islam is the right choice. It is the sensible choice.
But this is the intellectual face. But the expansion phase is when you start to taste the sweetness of space.
certainty that comfort of certainty, is when you have a relationship with a law that you converse with a lot. When you say my prayer, just like one thing I will tell you, if I have to give one tip on how to increase our faith
lensing, your prior by two minutes.
Can you lose? Every prior? How much do you spend on the prayer for four minutes, five minutes, lengthen it by two minutes. But commit that whenever you recycle
intensively that you will recycle
until you become obsessive, and then you stop. Because obsession is not good.
But, you know, make that commitment. When you're reciting Fatiha, you're saying welcome to the knowledge of anatomy. Are you aware of what you're saying? Or am I aware of my what I'm saying? Maliki Ahmed do? Do I know what this means? He is the Lord of the Day of Judgment. Reflect on this, just briefly.
Yakima Yakima style, only you do we worship only you do we seek help from conversing with a loved one is listening to you say the economic
has
what is in front of you listening to because yes, and he is looking at you as long as you are paying attention.
So, give yourself two more minutes for every prayer and see the impact of this on your relationship with Allah subhanaw taala your bilateral relationship with Allah, because we tend to have a multilateral relationship with Allah, so that we approach Allah,
say, through associations, like we're Muslim, because we're almost, you know, my kids are Muslim, and my parents are Muslim, but you're really bilateral relationship with
between you and him will grow
exponentially if you pay attention to the five daily prayers, and it is not an extra chore. You're doing it. But we're doing it and attentively keep in mind that I'm not preaching to you like I'm at this, you know, at the top of the mountain and I'm pointing at you sort of calling you to the top where I'm pointing it out to you and myself for 2030 each other.
So I thought it myself and you, if we just pay a little bit more attention to the prayer, spend a little bit more time dedicate two more minutes to each prior, have made that commitment that I will really recite the facts
attentively.
I will be conscious when I recite the Fatiha because we're really unconscious when we are South Africa. Most of us
American, the economic slowdown.
And if you're doing it also in your mouth and you're not speaking it out loud, then it's even worse.
You look sometimes and you figure what is this is this prayer in gymnastics.
So,
even mentally psychologically that psychological impact
you know, you know what meditate, what they teach in meditation, there has to be focus there has to be concentration. Prayer is your form of meditation, this is the ultimate form of you know, the proper meditation, there has to be focus there has to be concentration.
Okay, so develop that certainty. So you have the balance.
And after that, after you develop that certainty,
then the next step makes that when you have the certainty Now,
is this as visible to you as the dunya
The next step is
to be ambitious, that I don't want him to be ambitious, to not waste your life on us to say
that lovely Armenia, what are Amaya? I hate to see the man the
insignificant, worthless. I hate to see the worthless man who is not being occupied with the work of the dunya, or the work of the SLR, he's not doing anything.
If I may use I don't usually like to use those words, because, you know, but I just point them out because we use them frequently. Our youth use them frequently.
Some impact on your attitude.
You're chilling, baffling.
It is not if you're not setting the battery.
But
But what does it mean?
Like, sir,
those mean like wasting time, if you're going to recreate the rejuvenating, because you have a goal, you have a purpose and your interest, you got to get like fire, serious hard work, how you're trying to reason beneath that's absolutely permissible in Islam, not this this hour, one hour for this one hour for that that the prophet SAW Selim talked about. But you're doing this so that you can get back to work, please,
you're doing this and I think you get back to serious work. Because you are a person on a mission, you are a person with a purpose. So you get back.
You're serious work for funds when you're done with your occupation than labor.
But if you're just wasting time, then you will never have that balance, because you may not you may end up not having the money or the effort, if you're just wasting your time.
Next to this
be organized and disciplined and regimented and I am not going to talk to you about this because you should take classes on time management and I am not the best person to teach the subject. But really this is even if you take it from a completely secular perspective, how do you manage your time How do you get make yourself more organized, how do you prioritize your tasks and and all of this time management is very important for people who want to have
okay.
So, that So, then,
you know,
the next the next point is,
after all of this, all of this is needed for everyone to have the certainty of the actor to be able to have the balance, promote your faith and so on. To have this you know,
hardworking attitude and high aspirations and do not waste your time to be disciplined. organized, regimented and
All of this is important for everyone.
But now it is the time to separate between different people. How much time do I need to dedicate to this and that, at the end of the day, all of what he said is theoretical, how much time do I need to dedicate to this? And how much time do I need to dedicate to that? And how do I do it? It all depends on your role.
And your role will depend on your capacities, your talents, your position, your your time and place, all of this one
would have to be assessed to figure out how much time should you dedicate to this or that, for instance, if I have the best heart surgeon in the country, you know, my Muslim Brothers, heart surgeon in the country, when I tell him, I want you to go out and sell this or that.
brochures here
isn't what he already doing, if he's doing it for the sake of Allah, isn't that the way to paradise? If he's taking good care of his patients, that's as parasites. So this heart surgeon that is already 45 years old, I'm not going to tell him, you know what, you need to go back and sit down and learn. Romania, for instance, because you're missing out on
natural grammar yet, you have to go back and start from the beginning, beginning and build the foundation. And then I will give you the different materials and different manuals that you should memorize, so that you move on to the next step, and so on and so forth. That will be a waste of resources, waste of resources, he's already doing his job. However, there are just like a few points that he has to also keep in consideration. He will need some times to go out and, you know,
sort of visit the sick outside of his profession, take care of the homeless, pass out brochures, and do some community work for his own well being. Not because this is his role, primary role, no, but this is for his own safety for his own well being. And for his own humbleness as well. You do the rest, because that there is a feeling that you get, you can go online, can you donate $200,000 to IRS online, and you're not seeing the recipient, that's still different from going out of the recipient and taking care of them and giving them the money yourself. There is a completely different feeling that you get from from doing it yourself. So we will still need to do some of that
work.
For the people who are primarily vested in the work of the Dow and the hereafter, and they sort of work in the dunya just for their sustenance. I don't have time to tell them what needs to be done to
talk about it, because that's a lengthy subject.
But
all
applicable to them. But they need to have like a completely different strategy to handle
their their pursuit of iron mandawa and so on, while taking taking care of their families and providing for themselves politically.