Hamzah Wald Maqbul – Riyd alSalihin Salm and the Adab of Being a Wali of Allah.mp4
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This is the chapter with regards to salam.
Salaam is,
in this context,
the name of the greeting of a Muslim
for another Muslim which is prescribed by the
Sharia.
The word Salam also
is one of the names of Allah Subhanahu
Wa Ta'ala. It's one of Allah Subhanahu Wa
Ta'ala's,
divine attributes, one of his Sifaat. Salam
is
the one who is whole and free from
defect or blemish.
Salam
also,
oftentimes is,
translated as peace, but it's peace not as
opposed to war or,
strife,
rather it is peace as in freedom from
defect.
This is a chapter regarding the virtue
of reading the greeting of salaam and the
commandment
to spread that greeting.
Allah most high says in his book, all
you who believe,
do not enter
any house other than your own house, and
tell you, seek
permission. Until
you are,
you're given permission. You sought and and and
obtained permission.
And you, have said the greeting of Salam,
on on the people of that house.
And Allah says in,
his book,
when you enter houses,
then
pronounce the greeting of Salam
on yourselves
as a a a a greeting from Allah
to Allah, which is blessed and which is
pure.
And the idea is that
if you enter your own house even, the
first Ayah talked about what to do when
you enter other people's houses.
This Ayah talks about when you enter your
own house. Just the fact that it's your
own house, your own family, and your own
children sit sit up. Shay here sit up.
When you,
enter your own house
and you,
enter on your own family, you should say
Salam to them as well. In fact, when
you enter your own house and the house
is empty,
also a person should say salaam. And the
the form of saying salaam when you enter,
your own house is that you say,
like you would say if someone was there,
and then you say,
like you say in
the, in the in the in the,
the and
the
in the slot, you would say.
And if you receive no reply, you say.
These are both Ayahs of Surat An Nur.
Allah Ta'ala says in Surat An Nisa,
if you are greeted with a greeting, then
greet
that person or return the greeting to that
person
with a greeting that's superior to that greeting
or at least
return that greeting back to a person.
So someone says to you Assalamu Alaikum, you
say at least Assalamu Alaikum back, but you
can say, Assalamu alaykum warahmatullah,
Assalamu
alaykum
warahmatullah.
And then after that is the call of
saying that
there's no Ibafa on top of that. Some
people add some other stuff, but the the
correct opinion is that that you don't add
on top of.
So if someone says to you in the
beginning,
you should say to them,
If someone says to you,
then you should say to them,
You should at least return the greeting in
the same form that is given to you
or in a better form.
To return the greeting in a lesser form
is a,
breach of adab,
and it is a,
a a a a a a
a infraction and infraction of the commandment of
the book of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala. And
more often than not, it's a manifestation of
kibir. It's a manifestation of of of arrogance
in a person.
So there's nobody who doesn't deserve this right.
It's a very clear commandment of the Quran
that you return the salam in the equal
form or in the superior form. This also
happens sometimes you say salam to somebody,
and they don't say
to you at all. A person shouldn't fear
that. A person should the person that they're
commanded to say salaam to, they should say
the salaam to them.
If that person doesn't return it, the angels
return it, and the person received their reward
from Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.
If that happens, one shouldn't shouldn't worry. In
fact, those people who their arrogance prevents them
from returning the salam,
That person's salam is probably not worth a
whole lot anyway.
But you receive the greeting from the from
the angels, and you receive the reward from
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala, which is the whole
point of doing this in the first place.
Attack Hadith al Bayfi Ibrahim al Mukramin.
Did you did you did the news regarding
the
honored,
honored guests of Sayna Ibrahim reach you?
And these honored guests are who?
They're the angels. When the angels came to
visit him with prophecy,
did you did you receive the news regarding
the honored guests of Ibrahim? So they came
to him in the human form, and he
wasn't aware initially that these are angels.
That when they entered, they entered upon him,
they said it, salaam to him and he
said, salaam back.
And, you know, what you wanna take from
this is what? The nisbah of this this
practice of saying salaam to one another Is
that is the the Nispah is toward who?
It's toward the angels,
to the Malaika who are beings of light
that carry out the divine order,
and they don't sin, and they're purified from,
they're pure spiritual beings that are purified from
the,
from the impurities of animality, of being of
being an animal. Rather, they're purely
spiritual beings. And so the nisba is of
salaam is what it's from that celestial realm,
and from that spiritual realm, and from that
divine realm. And the returning of the Islam
is from the human beings,
the purview of the people of belief, and
the purview of the of nubuwa, of prophecy.
It's Sayedna Ibrahim alayhi salatu as salam. He's
the one that it comes from.
Obviously, it comes even before that from Sayedna
Adam, and we'll get to it. But, the
idea is that the Nisbha to this practices
to the prophets, salayhim, salaam. So whoever wishes
to be,
one of the followers of the prophets and
one of those who are like the prophets,
and whoever prefers that their sunnah be the
sunnah
of of the celestial realm, and of the
spiritual realm rather than that of the animal
realm, then let them adopt a greeting of
salaam.
Said Abdullah ibn Umar
ibn al Asir radiAllahu ta'ala and whom Allah,
gave him guidance. He was one of the
first people who accepted Islam,
Abdullah bin Amer, his father, Amer bin Az,
will accept Islam far later.
He accepts Islam during the early days of
the dua of the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa
sallam. He is a very educated person. He
is a literate person. 1 of 10 people
who know how to read from Quresh from
before,
from before Wahi came down.
And he will
accept
he will accept Islam,
during the early early time of the prophet
sallallahu alaihi wa sallam's preaching, and his father
will accept Islam
in the,
somewhere in, I think, the the 5th or
6th year of Hijra.
So he will accept his father will accept
Islam, like, more than a decade later. The
interesting thing about these two is that there's
only 13 years of age difference between them,
father and son. Mom, it's tough.
The record the, the mic. The mic? Mhmm.
Yeah. I think there's no battery in it.
Inshallah. I'll just shift over here and speak
loud. Inshallah.
So there's only 13 years of age difference
between the 2 of them,
and,
both of them are very interesting people. Sayedna
Amr bin Asr
the father, he's a very interesting person. He's
an extremely shrewd person except for his shrewdness
and his intelligence kinda hits a wall,
when he's opposing the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam.
This happens with some people, intelligent peoples.
They're, accustomed to getting their way because of
their, intelligence and being able to play off
other people,
especially more simple minded people, kind of being
able to play off of them, use your
intelligence to kind of get what you want
out of life but that will all obviously
hit a wall when you're
trying to, oppose Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala and
his rasul sallallahu alaihi wasallam
But at any rate, Abdullah bin Amr bin
Asr radiAllahu ta'ala and who is one of
the first people who,
who, accepts Islam,
and he narrates that a man asked the
messenger of Allah, sallallahu alaihi wa sallam,
which which
khasla, which
attribute
or,
which of the values of Islam or which
of the traits of Islam is superior?
And Rasulullah salallahu alaihi wa sallam answered. He's
like, what which trait is there in the
the the Islam of a person which is
makes that person's Islam superior to that of
another.
And Rasulullah salallahu alaihi wa sallam said that
you should feed people food,
and this is, a masha'Allah, a Shaykh Amin
classic.
He said that people are always ready to
get up on the ulema.
When you tell them not to eat at
McDonald's, they say, oh, but it says in
the Quran, the peep food of the people
of the book is permissible for you. And
that's another technical fit question. Right? Obviously, the
Quran does say that, and we don't discount
that. The problem is you don't know who's
actually slaughtering your your meat. And because of
the doubt, Whenever there's a doubt in a
matter, things stay on their original ruling, which
is that Mead is Haram and Tell. It
is, slaughtered through a ritual by either a
Muslim or by one of the people of
the book. So he said that people are
very keen to quote that in the face
of the ulama, but the ayah says what?
The the the
the
That the food of the people who are
given the book, being the people of the
book,
is
halal for you,
and your food is halal for them also.
The second part of the ayah people don't
really think about.
Meaning what? You're obsessed with eating their food.
Right? The way the Ayah mentions it is
that at least your obsession for feeding your
food to them should be equal. Shouldn't it?
And so this is the Rasul Sallallahu Alaihi
Wasallam, he's asked, what is the sifa of
the person whose salam is superior?
What is it?
Qala Tutu'amutaam.
You feed food to other people. This is
another thing that drives me utterly insane. It
kinda
it scratches the chalkboard of my soul,
which is what
even with your people nowadays with their own
friends, they don't buy food for one another.
There are things like, fine, you're not gonna
go to someone's house and pay their electricity
bill.
It's their problem. Let them pay for it.
But what? Buying food for another person, even
if you buy food for a bad person,
theoretically, you'll you'll still get reward for it.
Even if you buy food for a bad
person, you'll still get reward for it. You'll
still get the reward of sadaqa because nobody
no human being is Allah ta'ala that they're
free of need for anything. And you've taken
care of the need of 1 of Allah
ta'ala's creation, Allah ta'ala will reward you for
it.
Because Aslan, the riz comes from Allah ta'ala.
It's his his promise and it's his responsibility
he takes upon himself to feed his creation,
and you took that upon yourself to assist
and to participate in that process, Allah Ta'ala
will richly reward you for it. It's really
dollar for dollar. One of the best things
you can do with your money is to
feed people. This doesn't mean that if you
only, like, make, you know, $500 a month
that you should, like, go and
spend it all on everybody. But what it
does mean
is that if you can afford it from
the types of sadaqa that you give people
or from the types of, of money you
spend on people out of love for them
and out of hope for reward from Allah,
feeding people food is one of the best
of them. It doesn't necessarily always have to
be at a restaurant. It can be you
cooking something.
It can be you cooking something and bringing
it from home to the masjid, to the
gatherings of dhikr and elam, to the, to,
you know, your children's school or to your
to your own school for that
matter to,
you know, all sorts of different, you know,
gatherings of people, whether it's for Muslims or
for non Muslims or for,
the men or for the women or during
Ramadan or outside of Ramadan or any of
these things. You'll see this that Muslims are
very good about this, they'll always do something
or another. Even if you have to even
if you buy, like, a you know, if
you, like, you know, buy, like, drinks for
people or bottles of water. I think bottles
of water are abhorrent because the waste involved
in, like, the the packaging and all of
that stuff. But the idea is that even
if it's something as simple,
if you can do it in a way
that's not as, like, utterly wasteful as, like,
you know, the amount of garbage that just,
like, giving 5 people water
makes, which doesn't have to be there. You
can do it like, you know, you you
put put water in glasses or whatever. But
the idea is whatever you can do in
order to feed somebody,
dollar for dollar,
it is one of the best sunas that
you can do. And for dollar for dollar,
the one of the most amount of reward
you can get. In the sharia, when you
give something to somebody,
there are a number of benchmarks,
you know, by which you can know which
gets more reward and which gets less. So
giving food or drink or whatever to the
pious will obviously reward you more than giving
to the impious. Giving to a Muslim will
garner you more reward than giving to, someone
who's not a Muslim. Giving
to your own parents will garner more reward
than giving to someone else's parents. That being
said, there's no human being that you're going
to feed except for except for you'll receive
reward in it. Unless, maybe, if that person
is, like, actively
in the act of,
in the act of, like,
disobedience
to Allah Ta'ala right now. Right? So someone's
like, I don't know, like, murdering people actively
right now, And you're like, hey. You used
to look like you're thirsty. Here, have some
water. And he's like, thanks. Now I can
murder people better. Don't do that. That's that
but very few people are in that state
at the time. You know what I mean?
So even if a person is a person
of a different faith, there's still a lot
of khair in,
it doesn't matter. You know, you really shouldn't
we shouldn't be people who are like that.
Like, oh, I'm gonna give to the Muslims.
I'm not gonna you should give to every
Allah gives to everybody, and you don't know
what, you know, what you give with, maybe
that person will have a good effect on
them. The the pure risk of a believer
when, someone else eats it, it has an
effect on them. With the halal thing that
you feed another person, it has an effect
on that person. There are people so many
people I know, like, anecdotally, there's only one
person I've met who converted to Islam from
a different religion. Doesn't mean that there's not
more out there. But anecdotally, meaning only in
my own experience, not like some statistical
study, every single person that accepted Islam at
least cut out eating pork from their life
for some reason or another for some time
and then all of a sudden
starts to make a lot of sense to
them.
Or they became vegetarians or they did something.
All of the halal risk has a has
a great great effect on a person.
And, obviously, you don't just feed someone because
you're like, good. This guy will convert convert
score. It's like I have a app that
keeps track of it like a Fitbit or
whatever and, like, all these peep even if
nobody becomes them. But the point is there's
there's there's a lot of benefits to it,
and that's part of somebody, that's a part
of somebody's dean. And I think it's I
see it's a part of the dean that
people
have kinda, like, slumped off on and have
kind of lost.
So what is the what is the the
the the the the trait of, of the
best of Islam?
Is the Islam of the one who feeds
other people food.
That
you should recite the greeting of salaam
over the one that you know and over
the one you don't know.
Don't be clickish Chicago people.
Don't be clickish Chicago people.
People come from the outside. They're like, oh,
everybody's in their clique
and, you know, I don't feel like I
belong over here. That's exactly what the deen
shouldn't do. That's what the deen shouldn't teach.
Don't be one of those people that you
only say salam to the people at at
the Masjid that you know.
Okay? Say salam to the person you don't
know. Say salam to the person you obviously,
there's like, no one's gonna say salam to
them.
Someone who you know,
what is it? Right? We're not clan members
that we're supposed to, like, when someone comes
into the masjid, be like, boy, you don't
look like you're from around here. That's not
how that's, like, that's the chasla of people
we detest.
Those are people who
they're they're they're completely steeped in the in
the, practice in the attitude of Jahiliyyah.
What should we do? When someone comes into
the Masjid well, if you're if you're an
MSI,
someone's obviously not an you know, MSI, mashallah
is a wonderful masjid. I love it. Masha'Allah.
I go there myself from time to time.
I give Khutbah myself. One of the beautiful
things of MSI is it totally reminds me
of being in Karachi for some reason.
Okay?
If somebody is m in MSI that doesn't
look like they're from Karachi,
go say Islam to them if you're there.
If you're in a wherever you are, if
you're in a place someone someone looks like,
especially the one who's, looks like they're they're
not from around there, instead of, like, taking
crowbar and knocking a taillight out, go and
say salaam to them.
Say, you know, is there if people show
up early to a masjid, why? Because they
don't know when the prayer time is. Like,
when you see people like that, go say
salam to them. Walk over and say salaam
to them and,
you know, see what's going on. Sometimes they
there's some brothers,
that are, like,
really, like, they're scary looking brothers.
I'm one of them right now. There's some
real scary looking brothers. Some dudes, they walk
into the Masjid, they're like, oh my god.
What is it? What is this guy gonna
do? Some people have, like, tattoos and, like,
the hair is all wild or they they
look like they're from, like, a foreign country
or whatever.
Go and say salaam to those guys.
Okay? First of all, your weird fears that
puts inside of your head, that this guy
looks crazy and he's not gonna do nothing
or whatever,
or he's gonna do something crazy or whatever,
usually, they're actually very unfounded. I found that
those people are very nice people more often
than not. Okay?
Secondly is what? Once you make that people
once you make that person feel comfortable in
the masjid, you have drawn them closer to
the deen of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala. And
it's not even something for people who are
far away from the deen. I, myself, I
walk into a Masjid. I don't know how
people are gonna treat me. I go to
places. I give talks. I'm at the airport.
I'm this, that, or that. I don't know
how people are gonna accept me, not accept
me. Is someone gonna accuse me of something?
Is someone gonna say something weird to me?
Is are they gonna be like, oh, you're
not part of our group. You don't follow
our madhhab. You pray like a shia. You
this, that, and the other thing. You don't
know how how people are gonna react to
you. Right?
The old people in this ummah, the people
who came before us, they used to have
an understanding that a stranger is a Mubarak
person.
This understanding is not based on superstition.
This understanding is based on the sunnah of
Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam.
Sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Islam
started as a weird something weird. Right? Gharib
Gharib means something
like weird in, like, a slightly bad way.
Ajeeb means weird, strange as in, like, wonderful.
Like, what if you met a guy who
was, like, 7 feet tall and, like, whenever
he opened his eyes, like, rainbows came out.
That's like Ajib.
Everyone would, like, love someone like that. Right?
What if you met someone with, like like,
dude has, like, all tattoos and all this?
You don't know. Maybe somebody big, like, accepted
Islam, made Tova from all that stuff and
just don't have, like, the $10,000 for the
surgery or something like that.
Or you see someone with one eye and
you're like, oh my god. That guy looks
weird. And it's not his fault, whatever happened.
It's not like somebody, like, stabs their own
self in the face or what. Things happen
to people. Right?
That strangeness, Bada al Islam, al Khareeb and
Islam started like that. Why? The Rasul Sallallahu
Alaihi Salam, how many people met him and
all they knew about him is that this
man is a sorcerer.
That this man is out of his mind.
That this man is crazy. That this man
is a soothsayer.
That this man is a a a a
an oracle.
That this man is a a liar and
he's a cheater and he's this, that, and
the other thing. How many people that's the
first impression they had of the prophet sallallahu
alaihi wasallam. And what type of dirty looks
did they lay upon him, sallallahu alaihi wasallam?
What type of dirty looks did they lay
upon his sahaba radiAllahu ta'ala on whom?
Thinking that this is what these people are.
And guess what?
Same thing right now because you people are
such wonderful people. Look at you spending your,
Sunday evening learning rialu salihin,
and you're so, pious where everybody else is
is, partying and doing god knows what and
hasn't remembered Allah ta'ala in, you know, weeks
months years.
And still when you go in a group
of people, you're the one that everybody puts
the suspicion on. You're the one everyone thinks
this guy is gonna blow up the airplane.
Whereas, you should be the one there when
they see you. They're like, oh, this guy
is gonna, like, you know, buy a Coke
for everyone on the airplane. This guy is
gonna feed everyone on the airplane. This this
this sister, I can leave my baby with
her. This woman with hijab, I can leave
my baby with her if I need to
use the bath bathroom or something like that
because she'll take care of the the the
child the best because she she's the one
who loves everybody. Now they think what? She's
probably gonna, like, eat the baby or something
like that. God knows what. They watch so
much news and all this other nonsense that
scares the living daylights out of
them.
So
what?
Glad tidings Glad tidings.
Blessings to who? To the strangers. So you
see someone strain stranger at the Masjid. Dude,
they're they're coming to the Masjid. They're not
like they're not at a liquor store.
So you should assume,
right, you should assume
that 90 8% chance this person is, a,
a good person, and, b, they're here for
something good.
You don't have to hand your wallet to
them. You don't have to give them your
PIN number for your house, your credit card,
whatever.
You don't have to do any of that.
All you have to do is just go
say, salaam. How are you doing?
You know? Try to, like, in nice words,
you know, try to in a circum spec
way, find out what does this person need
and try to fulfill that thing for that
person if you're able to.
And this is this is what the old
the people who came before us in the
Ummah, they had an understanding that that strangers
are Mubarak.
If a stranger shows up, like, at the
Masjid, at the Nikah when you're getting married,
you invite them over to your your your
wedding. I remember when I was a kid
before I even knew what Indonesia was.
Indonesia is obviously the most populous,
Muslim country in the world.
I had,
the 2nd grade and 3rd grade teachers at
the, the the 2nd grade teacher I had
in elementary school, 3rd grade teacher in elementary
school I had,
they, you know, they have these, like, around
the world tickets. You can buy them, like,
within a certain amount of time. You fly
anywhere around the world. So they did did
this, like, around the world tour, and so
they showed a slideshow to us.
They showed a slideshow to us about this,
like, whatever year they took off and went
around the world.
And,
one of the places they went was Indonesia,
and as a kid, they're showing all these
I'm like, oh, cool. They're Muslims too. I'm
a Muslim. They're Muslims too. I don't know
where Indonesia is, but, like, you know, I
know where Pakistan is. And in Pakistan, we're
Muslims, and these people obviously seem to be
Muslims as well.
So they mentioned that. They mentioned that they're
they're it's a Muslim country. So they said
that they went to a place and there
was a wedding going on and they saw
that these people are foreigners and they called
us over and they said, you know, in
their
superstition,
right, strangers are are considered to be, like,
good luck. The good good luck, good fortune.
It's not that.
It's not it's not that. We don't have
an idea of good luck. We don't say
good luck to one another. Luck is not
a there's nothing by as a part of
our, the luck doesn't even exist. Everything is
the will of Allah that he willed before
he created the heavens and the earth.
The reason why they got a freebie invitation
to a wedding in Indonesia,
right, is what? Is because the people understood
that that that you're supposed to,
you know,
extend courtesy to the people that you know
and extend it to the people that you
don't know.
This is a direct quote of the prophet
sallallahu alaihi wa sallam. That the the best
khasla, the best,
trait and attribute superior
characteristic of a person's Islam, The one whose
Islam is superior, the characteristic of their Islam
is what? That they feed food to other
people and they say salaam to, who who
the people that they know and to the
people that they don't know. And so many
people in the Masjid, you you know, you
see them all the time. You never bothered
to ask what their name was. You never
bothered to ask anything. At least go and
say salaam to them. At least go and
say salaam to them. The person that you
don't know, go and say salaam to them.
And
this is, this is something that that, there's
a lot of khair and there's a lot
of barakah and there's a lot of secrets
wrapped up in it. InshaAllah, some of them
we will,
you know, continue to
to read just in a second.
Said, when Allah ta'ala, when Allah most high
created Adam alaihi salam,
he said to him,
go and say salaam to those
those those ones that are over there. And
when he said those ones, he meant that
there was a group, a small group of
angels at a distance that were sitting around
one another.
And go and say salan to them and
then listen to how they greet you.
Why? Because how they greet you, that will
be,
your greeting and the greeting of your,
your spring, meaning the the off spring of
yours that stays in Iman.
So he went to the angels and he
said, Assalamu Alaikum.
And they respied to him, Assalamu Alaikum.
So
they they returned his greeting and they added
on top of it, Warahmatullah.
So this is again the idea that the
the greeting of salam is from Wahid.
Allah taught it directly to sayna Adam alayhis
salam, and he he and and he revealed
it as a commandment to every one of
the prophets.
The second thing is what? Is that the
angels are the ones who taught Sayidna Adam
alayhi salam the adab of how to say
salaam. Remember we said in the beginning that
when you return when someone says salam to
you, you should at least return the greeting
at the level that they they gave it
or you should increase it. So the adab
that they learned from the angels is what?
That he he learned from the angels, alayhis
salam, is what? Is that they increased his
greeting when they returned it to him. That
he said,
And they said, Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullah.
Allah the may the peace and blessing be
upon you and the mercy of Allah Subhanahu
Wa Ta'ala.
So they said, Assalamu Alaikha. Why? Because he
was only one person.
We say Assalamu Alaikum. The difference in meaning
between Assalamu Alaikum is that Assalamu Alaikum is
when you're talking to one person only. The
reason we never say Assalamu Alaikum to a
person, we always say Assalamu Alaikum is what?
Is because you're not only greeting that person,
but you're greeting the host of angels that's
with them.
There are more than just 2 angels, the
angelic scribes, the kiram and katibeen, they have
a certain rank with Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala
because they bear witness. And nobody is allowed
to bear witness in court except for someone
who's upright and who is
considered in a maqam of honor. The kiram
and katibin, the word kiram means what? That
they're they're they're the noble angelic scribes of
Allah ta'ala, but there are other angels that
that are with a person as well. All
of them with that person, you say salaam
to them. That's why even if the person
doesn't return your salaam back, the angels return
it to you. Even if mistakenly
even if mistakenly you say salam to somebody
who's not a Muslim.
Because this is a salam only of the
people, the the the humans and the jinns
of iman and the salaam of the angels.
If a person is a a person who
has no iman, then you don't say salaam
to them. But the adab is a couple
of things. 1 is that you're not supposed
to if someone says salaam to you and
you don't know that the person is not
a Muslim, you're not supposed to say, are
you Muslim or not? You just return the
salaam. You give them the benefit of the
doubt. If afterward, you notice that they were
on the same flight with you to Detroit
because they were going to the whatever nation
of Islam Saviors Day celebration or something crazy
like that or, like, whatever. There's, like, a,
yeah. There's a, you know, party going on
at the local Qadiani joint. Okay. No salaam
for you from now on. But,
initially, when you see someone, these thoughts shouldn't
run through your mind. Is this person person
of bida? Is this person person of Kufr?
Is this person, like, you know, on some
kind of weirdo cult or whatever,
5%, 10% skim milk, homogenized milk,
lost found nation of the country of the
Islamical Isis of whatever. Don't you know, if
you don't know, you just assume that everyone
is a good person in the beginning. If
you find out that they're they're that that
that they, you know, that they're the skim
milk and diet coke version of whatever, then
that's a different fiqhih issue and different fiqhih
discussion. But don't say to somebody that you
that that says salam to you the first
thing you say, are you Muslim or not,
or that you're not a Muslim.
Rather return their salaam. Why? Because at least
the salaam will go to the angels that
are with them.
If that person is a person of Kufr,
maybe one day the the angels will beat
and strangle that person themself.
That's their job. That's not your job. You
shouldn't, like, fantasize about that, by the way.
It's not nice. Right? But the idea is
what? Is that at least in that condition,
in that case, you said salaam to the
angels that that that that are there with
that person.
And so this is the adam of the
malaika. This is this is a the this
thing has a very high nisbah. It's not
something a person should be afraid of. We
we have people like that. They're, like, kinda
undercover Muslim in public. They're like, oh, my
god. Oh, my god. They're they're watching us.
White people are gonna see us or whatever
color people are gonna see us or whatever
modern, rich people, this, that type of people.
All these people, oh my god, they're watching.
Don't don't don't worry about that.
Don't really don't worry about it. If you're
gonna get fired from your job, there's some
scope for whatever for, like,
not saying it. But most most likely, you're
not going to. I was in the TSA
line today,
in the airport coming here, and there's a
trainee and his supervisor was literally standing over
his shoulder and he said salaam to me.
I don't think, like, if in that context
the dude feels comfortable
saying salaam, then I don't think, I mean,
most people are gonna be in a situation
where it's gonna be, like, super precarious to
to say salaam to people.
Just, you know, say salaam. If you see
a Muslim, say salaam. Say it with confidence.
If they don't say it back to you,
the angels will say it back to you,
inshallah.
But there's a lot of khair and it
leaves a good effect. It leaves a good
effect with people. This is one of the,
actually, the interesting things. This is one of
the interesting things about the time and place
we live in.
He's gonna get to the hadith later, so
I'll I'll mention him at
the
correct
munasaba.
Yeah.
This is one this is the specific
instance of one of several narrations in Bukhari
on the topic
narrated by Sunnah Abu Urbada Al Baraibnu Azzib,
Radhiallahu Ta'ala Anhu.
Al Baraibnu Azib Radiallahu Ta'ala Anhu.
Who said the messenger of Allah Sallallahu Alaihi
Wasallam,
he commanded us to 7 things.
These are worth writing down. They're worth remembering.
We're worth worth
remembering for the person who has the,
for a person who has, like, a pen
or paper or whatever. They're worth remembering.
Why?
Because these are the adab of the oliya
of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.
If you wish to be one of the
people,
If you wish to be one of the
people that neither fears nor do they grieve,
if you wish to be the person to
live forever in Allah Ta'ala's rida, then these
are your adab.
These are thing the things that your heart
compels you to do, that you don't slack
in from, that you do that you practice,
that you make part of your code of
honor.
Rasulullah salallahu
alaihi wa sallam commanded us to do 7
things.
To visit the sick.
When somebody is sick, you hear about them
being sick. If you know them, visit them.
If you don't know them, visit them.
Obviously, visiting visiting the sick has its own
adab. Don't go there with a long face
and like, oh, man, you're gonna die. It's
gonna suck. You're this, that, and the other
thing. Many of us, we find it comical
because we're very,
social butterfly,
swan, graceful type people. Not everybody is so
graceful, and sometimes in the moment, people forget
their graces because, like,
face to face with the sickness, especially one
that is debilitating or has to do with
death, gets so real sometimes
that people forget about that. Don't remind people
don't tell people they're gonna die. Tell them,
inshallah, they'll make it, and and if if
they don't make it, don't lie to them.
Say, oh, yeah, a 100%.
You don't know. Don't lie to them, but
just give them a good optimism. Say, don't
worry. And if it if not, you'll go
to the rahmah of Allah ta'ala. Allah ta'ala
will take care of it. Make them feel
better. Whatever the outlook whatever the the outlook
is, for that person,
bring something positive to them. You know, encourage
them to to something positive. But at any
rate, you should visit people.
The you tell you can tell who's your
friend at that time. There are many people
you didn't think you're a friend, they'll come
and visit you. There are many people you
thought you're real tight with, you're real chill
with, and they're not gonna come visit you.
Because it's hard to visit the sick.
It's hard on the nuffs. It's one of
the best ways to, increase your rank. The
first one is visiting the sick.
The second is tiba'a and don't, like, you
know, go for, like, an hour and, like,
hey. Can I eat your food? Can I
this and that? No.
Go go go go in a way that's
that that
makes that person happy and helps that person,
does khidmat for the person rather than being
a burden on that person because when you're
sick, even a small burden becomes very heavy
for you.
And the second
is
is that when a person dies, whether you
know the person or you don't know the
person, that you follow their janaza. What does
that mean? That not only do you attend
and pray the
janaza, but if you're able to, and you
should make time for it, that you follow
the Janaza to the place of its burial
and that you witness the the burial of
that Janaza. You help with the burial of
that Janaza. You take the dirt. If you
have a shovel with the shovel, if not,
do it with your own 2 hands.
Right? You with your own 2 hands and
say, you know,
the the the the words of that
we created you from it. This dirt we
created you from it. And from it,
shall we return you? And from it shall
we bring you back another time.
From it shall we bring you back another
time.
Be there to help. Don't be the,
icky, the dead person. Right? Good news. All
of you are gonna be the icky dead
person one day.
Get over it.
Help wash the body.
There's always somebody who dies that has no
relative. They need someone to help wash the
body.
Has a place that they, they wash bodies.
Go and find whoever is in charge of
it. Sign up. Say, hey. Yeah. If you
need some help it's hard. Sometimes especially
a a really big person,
sometimes you need several people to pick them
up. Even a person who's, like, not super
big, you know, you need at least 2
people to
to to to move the body around, put
it on side, things like that, to wash
the body. Learn how to do that,
and do it. And then afterward, when the
body is being buried, right, someone has to
go into the grave,
go down into the grave with the body,
put the body on its right side,
make it face the qibla,
take some dirt or a rock, make it
like a pillar so that it rests against
the cheek so the head is not crooked
down, so the head is the the the
line of the back is straight with the
neck.
Someone has to get into the grave and
do that.
Somebody has to,
you know, you know, they have, like, sometimes
the the the the the coffin liners, they
make you put those in, the cement liners.
They're very heavy. Someone has to get into
the grave and and unhook those.
Don't hesitate to do that.
Right? Don't hesitate to do that. This is
the job of the men, by the way.
The the the women are are are are
forgiven from going to the graveyard unless it's
absolutely necessary. There's no one else to bury
the body.
So be a man.
Go into the don't don't hesitate. There are
some people,
They wouldn't even do it for their own
father. That's how that how much of a
princess they are.
This is ridiculous. This is really bad. All
of us are gonna go into our you're
not no one's that much of a princess
that they're not gonna go into their own
kabr.
Right? The help or the the service or
the honor of the the dead is one
of the the best acts of piety. Why?
Because it's a act of sincerity. That person
will never be able to repay you in
this world. You know they're not gonna be
able to repay you. It's completely an act
of iman for the for an act of
iman and an act that that there's no
benefit for in the dunya. In in as
much as you don't you know you're not
gonna get any benefit from it in the
dunya, it's an act of great ikhlas or
great sincerity.
As much benefit you're not gonna get in
the dunya, that's how much benefit you should.
Look forward to,
from that act in the
Everybody wants to give the khutba.
My God, if you wanna make money nowadays
in the Muslim community, you know what you
do? Run a katib workshop.
You'll have, like, your katib workshop. It will
sell out. There'll be, like, 40, 50 sisters
that'll come to it, masha'Allah.
No. Seriously.
And the the the you run a katib
workshop, you don't know alif. You don't know
the difference between a alif and a Chevy
Camaro.
You don't know the difference between Fata Hadamah
Kasra and, like, you know,
Tuesday on a leap year. You have no
idea anything about the deen but khalas. The
people are taking katib workshops. Why? Nobody wants
to do quote unquote khidmat unless they're making
money or it puts them in a position
of power or spotlight or or shoharah or
something like that.
And look, you're like, well, you you give
Bayans for a living. Honest to god,
like, when I stand in the member, I
look at the crowd and I I say,
a lot of these people can't do anything
for me. This is for your sake. And
still I wonder if am I gonna get
any reward for it or not. These things,
you gotta do these types of things. Why?
Because these are the things that they don't
happen in front of other people,
And so you,
you have a higher level of certainty that
you're gonna receive the reward for them.
That grave at any rate, you're gonna have
to go into it yourself one day. Don't
act like you're better than other people. Don't
act like you're better than that dead person
or that you can't just take your clothes
at home and throw them in the washing
machine or whatever. Sometimes the body comes in
various states of decay,
so actually a smell emanates from the body.
That's why it's, you know, you sither the
lote tree leaf in order to eat up
the odor, and they use camphor in order
to eat up the odor, and they perfume
the shroud, and they perfume the body. So
that's not a problem. Sometimes the smell overwhelms
it even then, right? Guess what?
All of us are gonna smell that way
one day.
Maybe if you've been, like, hitting the Hajjid,
like, consistently for, like,
the last, whatever, 20 years,
maybe
you won't smell like that. Right? But if
you did think that, yeah, that's me. I'm
not gonna smell. Then you're definitely one who's
gonna smell like that. Okay? So just trust
me. It's gonna be all of us.
If it's not one of you and you
get to that point and you made it,
then please make dua from Ovihamza and for
the people who come to and listen to
it, or whatever. But that that's the the
fact of the matter is this is going
to be the end for all of us.
Don't be too good. Don't be too cool
for school. Just just do it. Just perform
the help. It's good. If you fear it,
then do it. You need it even more
than another person does. It'll keep it'll keep
you in check. These by the way, these
things are the way that the dhikr of
Allah Ta'ala descends from the heart and tongue
into the heart,
is by doing things like this. So the
second is it Tiba Al Jana is to
follow follow,
the the the funeral to its burial, to
read the janazah, the funeral prayer, and to
follow the person to its burial until
that that that that body is completely buried.
And to say
to to say
after the person who sneezes says
This is what these are the adab of
the oliya.
That a person when he, sneezes, it's a
sign of the vigor of the body.
It's a sign of what? A sign of
the vigor of the body. That the sneeze
is something that happens, the air comes out
so fast with such with such,
strength that,
literally the heart stops for a second,
in order to let that happen.
And so you thank Allah Ta'ala for for
the for the vitality and the vigor of
the body
and then afterward,
the person who, hears that person thanking Allah
also invokes
Allah's rahma
on them.
The,
yahud there were some of the yahud of
Madinah, they saw the barakah of
and,
they,
they wanted they they saw his barakah and
they saw the the the the righteousness that
he had. So they would try to sneeze
in front of him because they know the
Dua, this who came to our city, it's
it's always accepted. They saw it happen again
and again, even though they didn't wanna accept
Islam.
So they would try to sneeze in front
of Rasulullah
so that he would he would,
give them the,
du'a of So
he would give them the du'a instead of
saying,
you give them the du'a.
May Allah guide you and rectify your your
your shortcomings.
But this is what this is what part
of the adab of of wilayah and it's
taught by by by Wahi,
by by revelation that when someone sneezes and
says, Alhamdulillah,
this is this is something you should do.
You should say, you're
and, when a person says you're hamakumullah,
then there's another
there's another response. You either say to them,
you hadikumullah,
you said you're
May Allah
forgive us and forgive you.
And
when you see a poor a weak person
getting picked on, that you show up to
help them.
This includes your brothers and sisters, and your
relatives.
It includes every Muslim, and it includes non
Muslims as well.
Right? These are the adab of wilayah. These
are the adab of nubuwa. Sayna Musa alayhi
salam, he saw someone from Banu Israel getting
picked on by
one of the
by an Egyptian. What did he do?
He intervened.
Obviously, the intervention didn't go exactly how he
intended it to go.
But what did he do? He intervened.
This is part of your Islam.
People should see you with your beard,
with your hijab, with whatever. Obviously, if you're
not in a position to intervene, then this
is not for you. But if you are
in a position that you can do something,
when you see someone getting picked on because
of a disability, because of their race, because
of some weakness that they have, you see
someone getting robbed, you see someone getting abused,
you see something like this, the the person
who's picking on a weak person should see
you and be scared.
The weak person who's getting picked on or
who get who's getting abused should see you
and say, this one this one, he's gonna
he's gonna she's gonna show up for me.
They're gonna be in my corner. They're gonna
now I have some help that's arrived.
This is what this is what what is
this? This is part of,
making,
the creation of
reminding them of the favor of Allah
and making teaching them to love Allah
Because what?
Ultimately, the only one who who who
who
the one who,
replies to the to the one who's in
dire straits, in a dire situation when he
calls out to him, who is it? It's
Allah Ta'ala.
So if you yourself, then take take, you
know, take the the path that you be
the vehicle of the help of Allah Subhanahu
Wa Ta'ala.
First of all, Allah Ta'ala will help you
And secondly, your,
you know, what you will do is you'll
cause people to love Allah Ta'ala because nobody
will see you except for that they should
remember Allah and his messenger Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam.
Someone once asked a rabbi, what do you
say about
atheists? And the rabbi says, I don't believe
that they exist.
Everyone knows Allah Ta'ala. There are many people.
The reason they say we don't I don't
I don't believe in God is because they
just don't they're not happy with Allah Ta'ala
for some reason or another. They have complained
with Allah Ta'ala.
Imagine if you're the one who were the
was the cause of somebody to love Allah
and to mend the the the the
the broken tie between them and Allah or
the tie that's there to strengthen it, how
much will Allah reward you?
If you had, for example, a child you
hadn't seen for years or hadn't spoken to
you for years
and, somebody convinced that child to come back
to you, How happy would you be? How
much would you want to reward that person?
Allah Ta'ala loves his creation more than more
than what any parent loves their child.
99 parts of Rahma Allah Ta'ala.
Allah Ta'ala uh-uh kept sorry, a 100 parts
of Rahma and one part of it, he
distributed over all of the creation. They all
share that one part.
Every animal, plant, everything, a human being from
the beginning of time until the end of
time, the stars,
the sun, the moon, all of these things.
The the the, you know, the the water,
if it, you know, if it
if ice was more dense than liquid water,
rivers would freeze from the bottom up and
life wouldn't be possible because every winter, the
oceans would freeze over. Like, simple things like
that. Right? This is all in that one
part of Rahmah,
and 99 parts he kept for himself. This
doesn't mean literally 1% of Rahma. It's a
this is a figure of speech because the
Arabs are enumerate people. They're not people who
know mathematics. This means, like, there's a very
small amount of rahma that you guys are
all sharing, all the rest of it was
with Allah, Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala. So imagine that
that the weak the weak one who has
nobody nobody to,
see for you know, ask for help from,
If you're the one who helps that person,
you you increase that person to iman, you
decrease that person's kufr, you make that person
love Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.
How much reward will you get for it?
Wa'unulmafloom
and someone's gotten cheated, someone's being wronged and
you you're the one who shows up to,
help that person. Well, ifsha'as Salam, and you're
the one who amongst the people of Iman,
you spread the you spread the greeting of
peace.
I said muxim when I was sorry. It's
It's
This is a typo in the in the,
in in the the edition that I have.
That if someone swears a a pious oath
by Allah, someone asks like someone, you know,
you go to
whatever,
a fundraiser for, like, orphans, and they're like,
who's gonna sponsor an orphan? And someone's like,
oh, I'll do it. And then that person
is, like, you know, like, after, like, 4
or 5 months, they're like, you know, I
don't have any money. It's difficult. I thought
my father would give some, my brother would
give some, but they're all out of money
as well. What is it what is part
of iman, one of the adab of will
lies? You take that person by the hand
and say, don't worry. We'll do this together.
We'll fulfill this this oath together.
This thing these services all these services people
are doing. Right? Khalil Center, do you think
Bayouman is, like,
robbing the liquor store, by treating peep mentally
ill people. Mentally ill people are not known
for their capacity to, like,
earn money for their family and things like
that. They need help. Then when they're well
done, they can do a lot of stuff.
Right? Do you think he's robbing the Baha'i
Fahad? Do you think these guys can't get
get a job with the skills that they
have that makes more money? No. They're having
their fundraiser, by the way, on 15th April.
Right? Help them out.
You couldn't, like, make Halil Senor yourself? Go
help them out. Right? Ribat, we have these
classes.
Right?
Help out pitch in to to, like, whatever
toward the expenses.
Darul Qasim, Sheikh Hamin, Darul
Salam,
Mufti 'Aarim, and and Mufti Minhaj and Mufti
Azaz and all the masha' that are teaching
there. All of your local places where khidma
is being done, Islamic relief and this relief
and that. All of these places. Right?
What should you do? Those people set out
to do ambitious goals that a normal person
can't do.
Be the one that takes them by the
hand and helps out. If you can't give
them money, give them your time, if you
can't give them your time,
lend them some sort of expertise that you
have. If you can't do anything for them
at all, make du'a for them, be be
one of the people who makes du'a for
them.
But these seven things are what? The,
visiting the sick, following funerals,
responding to the the the the one who
sneezes, the benediction of the one who sneezes,
helping the weak,
or sorry, and and helping out the person
who is being cheated or the person who's
mavloom that someone did voom on them, that
someone is oppressing them,
and,
spreading the greeting of salam
and taking the person who made an oath,
a pious oath in the name of Allah
Ta'ala and helping that person to fulfill that
oath. And helping that person to fulfill that
oath.
Allah Adulukum
Allah Shayin Ila Faa'atumuhu
tahababtum
Afshasalam.
Rawahum Muslim.
Sayd Abu Hurair radiAllahu ta'ala who narrates that
the Messenger of Allah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said,
you will not enter Jannah until you
believe.
Fair enough?
And you will not believe until you love
one another. Slightly more difficult.
This is the Taha Bu is is the
the the the Bab of Tafaa'ul.
And the Bab of Tafaa'ul, the hasi of
it is that there's no there's no mafaa'ul.
It's just everyone is a co file.
There's no recipient of the action, rather everyone
equally co participates in doing the action.
That you will not believe until you all
love one another.
This is very difficult.
There are some people in the Ummah that
make it hard for you to love them.
You still have to love them.
This is why I'm not excited about people
bad mouth other people in the Ummah.
Bad mouth countries,
bad mouth races,
bad mouth
sinners,
but I find a person is a sinner.
Yeah. I never saw you bad mouth the
kafir that much.
They have la ilaha illallah. If Allah didn't
love love them, they wouldn't have given it
to them. It doesn't mean that bad stuff
people do do, you have to say good
about it. But there's a there's a line
a person crosses in their heart when they,
switch from from from objecting to a sin
to hating the person who's doing it.
And you're not gonna be able to do
that until you love one another.
Even even a kafir, you have to love
them enough that what? That if that person
came to you tomorrow with that
you would embrace them.
I remember I was sitting in a majlis.
Right? I I don't I don't know if
you remember there was there was a a
particularly detestable individual by the name of Ariel
Sharon.
He was like a war criminal. He killed
all these people, whatever. So I was sitting
in a in a Muslim country, in a
majlis with with several people,
and they were just taking turns cursing the
guy.
And so,
I said I said, but if he became
Muslim, I would he would be my brother.
They said, no, Allah. If he became Muslim,
we'd still punch him in the face and
blah, blah, blah. I said, this is a
sign of this is a sign that you're
this is not for the sake of Allah.
This is just for the sake of your
own nafs.
Imagine Rasulullah
Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam forgave the person who
killed his uncle.
It was so difficult for him to forgive
that person. He just asked him like, look,
Allah ta'ala, you know, accept your iman and
all this stuff. Is I'm having a hard
time. It's difficult for me. If you just
if you could do me a favor, make
it easy for me, just don't show up
so much.
It's not like he was saying I hate
you or anything. It's that what? He's a
human being. It was hard for him. It
was hard. Even that person, he forgave him.
Even Hind who ordered him to do that,
he accepted her Islam from her and he
forgave her.
She afterward will ask him for a number
of other things and he'll be like, okay.
Okay. Whatever. You know? Like, what whatever you're
asking for here.
What is it? It's a it's it's it's
what you have to you have to love
one another. This is amount of love you
should have even for a person who is
the worst and most detestable enemy of Islam.
Your love for Islam, your Haqq of Islam
is what? That you should be able to
make the saawur in your mind, that if
this person came to your door with la
ilaha illallah, you will forgive them and you
will in fact have love for that person.
Even no matter how hard it is. And
it's sometimes really hard.
It's sometimes
really, really hard, especially when it's something personal.
Especially when it's something very personal that happened
to you. You lost a loved one, or
you were let down, or you're betrayed at
a time that you, you know, you really
trusted someone or whatever.
All of the situations, this is something that
you're not going to enter Jannah until you
love one another, until you love one another.
And the Nabi sallallahu alaihi wa sallam says,
should I not indicate to
you, such a thing? If you do it,
you will love one another?
Spread spread salam.
This is an indicator of a couple of
things. One is that when you say salaam
to someone and they say to
you, the amount of love in your heart
for that person increases.
This is why, you know, the hadith of
the prophet, sallallahu alaihi wa sallam, that it's
unlawful to,
it's unlawful to,
leave talking to a person for more than
3 days.
The Mutashah hinain, the people who bear grudge
for one another, there's a lot of there's
a lot of harm in bearing grudges for
with for people, especially a Muslim.
And one of the harms is what is
that on the day of Eid, Allah ta'ala,
he, or on certain occasions and on top
of it, he makes an announcement in the
heavens that the to the angels that say
to my,
say to my servants that you're forgiven. That
this day you're forgiven,
for your sins. Your is accepted and you're
forgiven.
And the angels will ask Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala, what about so and so 2 people
that have they have a grudge against each
other? He'll say, leave them. Don't give them
the glad tidings of forgiveness until they forgive
one another, then they can also be forgiven
as well.
This is really, really, really detrimental. It's really
harmful. Getting into fights with people will waste
you
bandwidth. It will it will waste your time.
It will waste your resources, avoiding people, arguing
with people, plotting and scheming against people. Even
if you have a right over that person,
getting into fights with people is extremely,
like, horrible and useless waste of time most
of the time, like, 98% of the time.
If you can avoid it or if you
can just get over it, just get done
with it, dispense with it because you have
too much stuff that you need to do
in your life and you have too much
and I have too much forgiveness that we
need from
Allah to waste our time getting into it
with people again and again and again.
So this salaam, one of the one of
the wisdoms is what? When you're have a
grudge with someone and you're not talking to
them,
in the Sharia, the minimum to take you
out of that is that at least you're
willing to say salaam to that person. You
see them
It's also recommended
once you've done that, then you're out of
the haram.
If you recognize, like, look, we're not gonna,
like, get along like peanut butter and jelly,
that's fine.
You don't have to, like, invite them over
to your house and watch the Super Bowl
with them or whatever.
You probably shouldn't be watching Super Bowl at
at all.
That's not my, like, fatwa. That's just my
own, like, personal thing, so you can disagree
if you want.
But,
but the idea is what? Is that that
once you said salam, you're out of that.
And then after that, it's recommended to be
like, yeah. How's your mother doing? How's the
weather? Blah blah blah. Okay. I gotta go
now. Then that's fine. If you're not gonna
get along after that,
that's that's cool. That's you you you you
can just be tactful about it and just
extricate yourself from that person's company, even if
they're like a relative or whatever.
But at least you should say salaam. One
of the benefits of saying salaam is what?
Is it increases your love the love in
your heart for another person. This is actually
one of the reasons the fuqaha say that
it's it's haram for a a non Mahur
man to say salaam to a non Mahram
woman because you put her in a bad
position that she has to respond to your
salaam, and you're using the sharia for your
own,
for your own, conflict of interest purposes.
So and this is one thing.
It's something that the Fuqaha say in this
country because of, like, weird, like, gender and
identity politics and things like that. People take
it really badly when you don't say salaam
to them. Sometimes you have to say salaam
to somebody who's, like, a a non Nahram
person of the opposite gender just in order
to prevent a greater fitna of them, like,
you know, going on to Facebook and saying
that, like, you know, whatever, and then just
making your life living * for, like, the
next god knows how long. Right?
The point is is this. If you if
you feel so strongly or your your ada,
your habit is to say salam or whatever,
when you pass by somebody, just say you
can and and that person, you know, that
that person, for example, attends dars with the
ulema, that person has studied fiqh before, that
person sits in rial al salihin and the
gatherings of dhikr and they're a person of
deen or whatever, then what you can do
when you pass by them, you just say
salaam under your breath. You don't have to
say it audibly. And then that person, you
know, you that that person, you can say
wa alikum salaam to them in there and
their heart like in your heart like that.
But this is one thing that the Ullam
actually mentioned. This is a reason why,
a majority of the Fauquaha actually consider it
to be,
not permissible to say salam to a person
of the opposite gender who is
who is possibly,
someone possibly that you may be attracted to
or they may be attracted to you. And
Allah
knows best. So this is something that shouldn't
be abused. There's a reality in it. There's
a there's a,
there's a reality in it. And, you
know, once
someone special,
is chosen and, you know, you're gonna get
married or whatever when you're writing your, little
mushy and embarrassing text messages and WhatsApps to
each other,
Hey. Don't short share it with Molanasab because
he's probably gonna
make fun of you to, like, the level
of persecution
relentlessly,
and he and your children will probably laugh
about it one day, hit your grandchildren,
because he's not gonna let it go. So
do the smart thing.
The other thing is then you can write
salaam in it. Why? Because you should love
each other.
So that's double reason that you should always
make sure to say salaam to your wife.
Because sometimes we're not formal with the people
that we that are like our direct relatives.
You should say salaam to each other. You
know? You should say salaam, not just salaam,
say You know,
if you say it to your wife, if
you say it to your husband,
what skin is it off your back if
they love you?
It's a nice thing. Say it to your
children. Make them say it back to you.
Don't like let them go until they say
it back to you. There are certain people
in the Sharia that it's good that you're
you're supposed to love them. They're supposed to
love you. So use this as a tool
in your belt in order to in order
to, get that benefit. Allah
give all of us, so much