Hamzah Wald Maqbul – Riyad Al Salihin Honoring Guests
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The transcript discusses the origins of the term "hammood," which refers to behavior or behavior. It describes the concept of love and the need for acceptance of women as full human beings. The transcript also touches on the importance of honoring guests and maintaining kinship bonds with people.
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So we continue
the chapter regarding honoring guests.
Allah
says
This is describing the incident of the calm
of Lut alaihis salam.
Sayna Lut alaihis salam is
the nephew of Sayna Ibrahim.
So Ibrahim alaihis salam
is
a person who,
is the one that the Tawhid survives with
him. He's the only person in the entire
world that carries the oneness of Allah with
him and he rebels against his,
against his family and against his people
and he leaves them. He leaves them. They
try to kill him because he refuses to
worship their idols and because he'll lampoon their
idols and he will break their idols and
he will
be an enemy to their idols. And so
they try to kill him and they're unsuccessful
and so he has to leave. And so
only 2 people leave with him.
1 is Saidasara,
his wife
and one is,
is this,
Lut alaihis salamuz's
nephew.
So they make hijrah not to a specific
place like in their immigrants with the e
not with an I.
Right? They're immigrants with an e not with
an I. Immigrant with a e is someone
who's leaving their home because their home is
not a good place to stay. Immigrant with
a I is someone who's going somewhere because
it's where we're going is good. This is
an English language,
an American usage.
It's an American usage because the word immigration
had a bad context and they wanted people
to immigrate to America
so they would they would they would they
just flip the word around and they there's
a whole bunch of propaganda that happened in
America. People would write letters all about how
amazing it is in America and it really
wasn't that that amazing, but just to encourage
more people to move here. So he was
an immigrant with an e in the sense
that he was he had to leave because
they tried to kill him and it wasn't
working out and he couldn't just hang out
there and have them try to kill him
again and again. So they all agreed, you
know, why don't you just go?
And so what happens is Lut alaihis salam
then goes and pre you know, Allah to
Allah he gives him nabua, gives him prophethood
just like Sayyidina Ibrahim has prophethood.
And then he sends him to who? He
sends him to the the the people of,
Sodom and Gomorrah, which are two places
that are near the Dead Sea,
in the Holy Land, and he preaches to
them. And those people are well known for
a specific sin that that that they,
kind of take as their shia, as their,
as their
symbol that they're
recognized by, which is what? It's homosexuality.
And it's something that, you know
I'll tell you this much. There's very few
things that Muslims agree with each other about.
Homosexuality
being completely unacceptable is one of them. It's
one of them. It's complete jama'ah. You will
not find anyone tolerating anything,
from it
for literally the, you know, centuries of of
of of Muslim scholarship.
And now you have a set of people
who will try to justify or reinterpret it
reinterpret Muslim texts
in order to justify that. Why? Because of
Western
cultural norms and the influence that that has
on Muslims. Otherwise, classically, Muslims never considered this
to be anything other than,
to be a sin. It's not that it
never existed amongst Muslims. Like every other sin
in the book, the Muslims commit sins just
like other people do, but, it was something
they considered to be a sin.
And the strange thing about it is that
this is a Shia. It was like a
kind of a distinguishing character of that civilization
that he was sent to preach to, and
it's becoming now a distinguishing
character of the civilization that we,
that we live in right now to the
point where people will say, well, do gay
people have the right to do this? Do
gay people have the right to get married?
Yes or no. If the answer is yes,
then you're a good country. If the answer
is no, you're a bad country. If the
answer is yes, you have a good religion.
If your answer is no, you have bad
religion. If your answer is yes, then you're
tolerant. If the answer is no, you're a
bigot. It's something that you define people. You
stamp people by that one thing.
And this is something that until very recently,
this was unique only to this,
story from the Quran and from the bible
that these people this was their defining characteristic.
Otherwise, there are people who had this issue
and had this problem amongst the Muslims
for centuries.
But those people, they would still pray. Those
people, they would still come to the masjid.
They would still make Hajj. They would still
get married. They would still have families.
They would still pay zakat. They would still
do everything and then they would make Tawba
to Allah Ta'ala for their sins and they
would try to suppress it. And every temptation
is different for everybody. Some people, it's enough
that they're strong enough, and the the temptation
is weak enough that they can suppress it.
Some people, they're they're absolutely, like, a prey
to their, temptations, but at least as long
as people kept,
feeling bad about the sin and regretting their
sin and not allowing it to get between
them and their iman, between them and Allah
subhanahu wa ta'ala, it was it was still
okay. Once that one act takes over,
takes over a person,
then it becomes their deen. It becomes their
deen in and of itself.
And let's not make any, let's not make
any mistake about it or let's not mince
words about it. Okay? Homosexuality
is, a, it's a sin in Islam,
and, b, it's an ugly act.
It's an ugly act. Right? They say love
wins, love triumphs. Let me tell you something.
I'll be very frank with you,
if one person loves another person, okay,
you don't have to have * with that
person in order to show that you love
them. You don't have to * another man
in order to show that you love him.
You understand what I'm saying? This is something
that in in in the western civilization, they've
confused,
in in in the western civilization,
they've confused,
kind of physical impulses
with the ideal of love.
They've confused that with the ideal of love
and it's not I shouldn't even say western
civilization. It's something more of a contemporary issue.
Even the ancient Greeks understood how to differentiate
between these two types of things. They should
ideally go hand in hand, but they don't
always go hand in hand. There's a difference
between them. That's why when in America, if
you see a man 2 men walking and
holding hands down the street, what are you
gonna think right away? Right? Person will think
that these people are homosexuals. Whereas you'll see
this in the Muslim world all the time.
You'll see 2 men walking with their hand
hand in hand with each other, and all
it means is that they're friends. It doesn't
even occur to them, you know. And I
remember the first time, like, when I went
to Sham, the first time, I would see
that, like, all the time. And I'm like,
what is this? Like, it, like, really causes
it causes, like, distress and grief. You're like,
what is and then, like, the local Arabs
would be like, what's your problem? You know?
And I'd be like, dude. Like, why are
these guys walking around like that? So they're
friends with each other. I said, no, man.
It looks like
and they're like they're like mortified. They're like,
oh my god. Like, you know, what are
you like, no. Like, why would you even
say that? Or why why would you even
think that? You know? And it's it's it's
what? It's because we have this idea. We
have this idea. Our civilization wants around us.
It teaches us that, well, you know, 2
people cannot love each other,
except for, you know, for this reason. And
it means what? That the love is all
physical. It's all material. Right? If people don't
believe the spirit exists, that people only believe
believe in the material world and say, I
don't believe an imaginary friend in the sky
and pie in the sky heaven and all
this stuff. I live for today, and I
live for what's here. And now what I
can see, feel, and touch. For them, love
is a is an abstract concept. It doesn't
really mean anything other than what? Other than
this abstract concept. It doesn't really mean anything
other than what? Other than this physical impulse.
They don't believe in love. They don't believe
in love. This is not love wins. This
is like
this is this is like physical impulse. If
this is what love is, then, you know,
like lizards and snakes and, you know, fish
in the sea and,
squirrels and rabbits are like the greatest lovers.
They should write stories about them. But no
one will read you know, Romeo and Juliet
will beat, like, the story of, like, a
bunny rabbit mating a 100 times in a
month every every every day of the year.
Why? Because we're human beings. We have something
inside of us that's more than just that.
Right? But this is this thing is according
to the Aqidah of people, this is what?
The Aqidah of the people of the civilization?
This is what love is.
And, you know, make no mistake about it.
Right? I'll be explicit. Maybe you sort of
you let's shut your ears or something or
at least don't tell your mother that we
talked about this. Right? When a man and
woman if it doesn't make sense to you,
don't worry about it. You'll someone will explain
it to you later. Okay? Like, a lot
later.
When a man and woman when a man
and woman are, you know, like a husband
and wife and they, you know, make love
with one another. Okay?
What is it? It's it's an act of
of creation.
It's an act
of of of function. There's function. You're doing
what you're made to do. That person the
the woman is doing what she's made to
do. And from it, a child is born,
and there's all these emotional things that are
are are connected with that. You know? What's
his name? You remember Abu Bakr, young man
who came to learn to read read a
book of faith with me? Nice guy, He
did he did, like, he did a a
a degree in psychology. And he was he
was explaining to me, you know, like, in
the manner of people who just learn something,
very excited to share with people. He explained
to me very excitedly about, you know, that
the the the,
the the private part of a woman
that what during *,
what happens is that if something passes through
there, it causes a release of a hormone
called oxytocin.
Right? Which is
it's like the destressing hormone. Right? So that's
why a woman, when she shares this relationship
with a man, she becomes attached to that
person. And it not only happens during the
act of *, it also happens during the
act of birth
as well. That when the child goes through
that goes through that area, right, it causes
a release of that that hormone and the
woman literally becomes attached emotionally attached to the
child. You understand what I'm saying? This is
a this is this is, you know, although
all the proof we need is that Allah
commands something and that's the proof that it's
an obligation
And all the proof we need is that
Allah prohibits something and that's a proof of
its prohibition. But look at the hikmah of
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala. People say that like,
you know, you know, you should not judge
and people should be free to do whatever
they want and, you know, you know, this
idea of chastity and abstinence is completely outdated.
This is all nonsense. Let me tell you
something. Very, very, very bluntly and very frankly.
Okay? This is all a scam that men
have used
in order to get women to,
get women to give them what they want
physically
and and and motivate them to do that.
Why? Because a woman, Allah Ta'a, created a
woman with a natural amount of Haya.
What is Haya? A natural amount of shyness
and bashfulness. You understand? If you walk up
to a woman in the street and say
something indecent to her, if you say something
indecent to a guy, he'll probably laugh and
give you high five, and if you say
something indecent to a woman, she'll, like, feel
scared and afraid and run away from you
right away. You understand what I'm saying?
That's the natural that's the natural reaction.
So western civilization, okay, now men are like,
oh my god. Like, I don't wanna marry
this woman and raise children with her. I
just wanna do x, y, and z with
her. Okay? So khalas, we have these institutions
that are are are in western civilization in
order to get over that barrier of that
natural hayah that this woman has in order
to, in order to get her to see
things your way. So what are the institutions?
You're Halloween. Whereas a girl who dresses normally
for the whole year, you have an an
opportunity to make her like, you know, expose
herself in a way that she normally wouldn't
be able to because it's Halloween, you know,
we're all having fun. You have the mistletoe,
you know, oh, you're under the mistletoe. Now
you have to kiss me even though you're
you don't want to. Right?
You have, like,
you know, you have the institution of alcohol,
which is probably
to be thanked for the birth of, like,
many of many of our, you know, like
many of our neighbors and many of our
friends. Right? Why? Because it's these are all
ways if you take alcohol away, what happened?
People freak out. People are it's like, yo,
man, it's you know it's bad for you.
It's killing you. You have no smoking areas
everywhere. Right? You take alcohol away, what's gonna
happen? Right? The girl is gonna be inside
of her wits and in her senses, and
she's gonna understand that. No. Like, I don't
wanna, like, do this with this person. I
don't even know who who he is. And,
like, then you do this, you imagine a
woman who is forced to, you know, do
that for a living. Right? And so well,
it's her choice if she wants to, she
can do this. It's a on her. It's
a on her. Imagine if this is the
case where a woman, if she shares this
relationship with a man and it causes her
physiologically to become attached to that person.
Right? And then she has to do with
a different person or 2 or 3 different
people every day,
What does it do? It scars her. It
scars her. These are physiologically scarred. The greatest,
one of the best frauds of this age
is what?
People through the
institution of false feminism. Right? If feminism means
treating other you know, treating women with respect
as full human beings, then Islam is a
very feministic
religion.
But if feminism means that making women into
men, women are not men. It's a zulman
then. Imagine that poor woman, what is she
gonna be what is she gonna do? What's
there if she's been attached to every man
that she's had relations with? She's had relations
with 20 men by the time that she's
before she's gotten married. Will she have that
ability anymore? No. Because that that complete, like,
physiologically, she's she's done. Like, that that ability
to be attached to somebody that you shared
this love with, it's gone. It's completely shot.
Right? That's there. If a woman and a
man love each other in a proper way,
in a halal way, they love each other,
they get married, they care for each other,
they raise a family with each other, there's
something that that's meant to be with that.
Now compare that with homosexuality,
Right? Where the the the act of making
love between a man and a woman,
right, it's something that that that it's supposed
to be that way and literally it's something
people will consider indecent. Many of the uncles
will probably talk to me afterwards, say, Beata,
you should have talked about this in the
masjid, but it's part of there's no haya
in the deen. It's part of the deen.
People need to understand this. When a man
and woman make love with each other, for
example, right, the the the the the the
the
the the fluid that the, man deposits in
the woman, it's actually like it actually, like,
has, like, an effect. It makes her feel
better. You understand what I'm saying? Compare that
contrast that with what? Sadameen.
Right? Whereas the the the place where the
the
* happens between a man and a woman
is a place where life comes from.
A child will be conceived and a child
will be born from there. Okay? Whereas a
man and another man, if * occurs, where
is that? That seed that has the genetic
material to
literally start a new life. It has, like,
your whole DNA inside of you. It's the
whole procreation cycle of birth and death, which
is part of who we are as animals
and as physical beings. Right?
Where is it going? Is it going to
the place of death, in the place of
dirtiness, in the place of where the thing,
the food that that person ate that I
used to have life in it, it's completely
devoid of anything. It's completely dead. It's completely
gone. It's completely shot. No life will come
from there. Nothing good will come from there.
It's not even meant to do that. In
fact, your one side is a waste and
the other side is damaged. That's all that's
happening.
Don't tell me love wins and don't tell
me that this is something that's equal. This
is something we're sharing with each other right
now. Maybe this is gonna be the last
few days that we can share these things
openly. Perhaps one day they will make it
a criminal offense to speak this way. So
we share it with one another just so
that there's no,
no sort of doubt about it or no
sort of confusion about any of these things.
If a person does it, they do it.
I'm not saying that they're shaitan and that
we, you know, go get our guns and
kill them and take a baseball bat and
beat the crap out of them or whatever,
all these other things, but it's wrong. It's
not right. And if a person choose to
make that
the defining
characteristic of who they are, then know that
this is a pattern of what will happen
at the end of time. Right? The the
prophet
is the best of Allah Ta'ala's creation.
Right? Who is who is the the worst
of Allah Ta'ala's creation in the end of
time?
You got you you went to church before,
you guys know?
What the The right? The the antichrist. Right?
The Dajjal Musiif Dajjal. Right? Even a Christian
knows about it. Right? Even a Christian knows
about it. So you knew about it from
before. It's a hadith of the prophet sallallahu
alaihi wa sallam that every nabi that came
before me, all of them warned their people
about the the Dajjal,
and, he said that I warned you about
him as well,
and I will tell you one thing that
that nobody ever told their people before and
that is that he has one eye, That
he has one eye, that the antichrist has
one eye, which is very creepy when you
look at the back of a dollar bill.
But at any rate, what is it? It's
not funny. It's like really it really is
creepy. Right? It's like a pyramid with the
eye on top of it. Right?
And it says what norvus Novus ordo secullorum,
a new secular world order, a new materialistic
world order. That's what it that's what it
means. It's there on the dot. It's not
a conspiracy theory. I don't know whose bright
idea it was. Right? You know, but the
thing is what? The Dajjal is what? Dajjal
in Arabic language means
to gild gold over over lead because lead
is the heavy after silver and gold, lead
is the heaviest, most dense element. Right? So,
you know, as you pick up a gold
bar, if it's gilded aluminum bar gilded with,
like,
gold, then you'll know it's not gold because
it's too light. Right? But lead is similar
in density to gold and silver.
And so it's you get a better chance
of fooling people with it. Right? What is
it? It's gold on the outside. Inside is
just lead. It's worthless. Right? What does dajjalah
mean? One of the meanings of it is
that if an animal has mange or has
some sort of skin disease, the way one
of the ways the Arabs used to cheat
people cheat each other
was in Jahiliyyah
and probably unfortunately in Islam too,
except for, you know, this was, you know,
made haram in our Sharia is what? If
the animal has a disease or a mange
or something like that or a wound that
that looks like it's like a
defect in animal.
What did they used to do? They would
take the tar and put tar on the
wound or on the defect, and then they
would take
the fur fur
of of of similar color and just stick
it on there. And if you're not looking
really carefully,
right, you won't notice that. You won't notice
that defect. It's like one of those things.
Like, a car may drive down the street.
It looks really good. Ask the owner, and
he'll in a minute, he'll point out this
scratch, that thing, that thing, and you'll realize
that that, okay, the car is not as
perfect as it as it first looked
because that person knows it better than another
person. But this is what the Dajjal is.
Right? The the there's there's the the real
the real messiah, Usayna Isa alaihis salatu salam,
and then there's the Masih al Dajjal. Both
of them will preach peace and love,
but one of them will be
a
godless and self centered egoistical,
message
underneath the surface and the other one will
be a message of sincerity and of purity
and of sacrifice and of love for Allah
Ta'ala and love for one another, etcetera, etcetera.
Right? This whole issue of homosexuality
is just like that.
Okay? If imagine the
strongest
feeling that every human being will agree about,
right, we'll say, okay, what's the strongest thing?
It's the love of Allah
and the Rasool
alaihi. So a Kafir is not gonna agree
with that. He's gonna say, well, I don't
believe in Allah and I believe your prophet
made everything up, khalas has done. That's end
of story. They don't agree about it. The
one strongest thing everyone agrees about is human
beings. The strongest feeling anyone ever has is
what? It's love.
If you can make
people, fool people, trick people to make the
dajal dajalic love
stand in the place of real love,
right? Real love is that you want for
some that you concern have concern for someone
more than what you have for yourself.
Real love is that you would do anything,
you'd give anything, you'd prefer that person over
yourself for every single thing. And what is
the fake love?
The fake love is just, you know, like
a a a couple of minutes of of
satisfying someone's physical pleasure and it's done.
Right? It's done. There's no,
you know, there's no there's no,
comparison between one and the other except for
that sometimes there's a physical relationship in
in in real love if it's between a
husband and a wife. Otherwise, there's no physical
relationship in the love of a father and
a son and the love of a parent
parents and children and between siblings and between
friends and all of that. All of that
complete tradition, you're throwing it into the garbage
and what are you doing?
You're making this dajal love. It looks like
gold on the outside,
but inside it's just what? It's lead. It
looks like a healthy animal, but it's just
tarred and furred up. It's just mange on
on on the bottom. It's a very sick
animal. It's not a it's not a healthy
animal no matter what it may look like
at first glance.
Right? So this is something this is something
that,
you know, it's important to know. It's important
to understand and share,
while we still have the chance. Right? What
is it what is it in the Quran?
Right?
They they say the people of of of
of Saddam say,
that that these people
and that that kick kick these people out
of kick these people out of the our
city. Why? Because there are people who love
cleanliness. There are people who love purity. Get
them out of here. Get them out of
here. And,
the the fear I I have this fear
that this one day, this thing will overcome
people, so completely that,
that that this is something that they're going
to then turn on us as well because
we're people that speak the haqqan. We don't
we don't have we can't we cannot afford,
we cannot afford to,
lie about our deen in order to please
other people because we have an appointment that
we remember that we have an appointment with
Allah Ta'ala, and that's going to be a
more important appointment to keep rather than to
make our, our friends and our neighbors happy.
So Allah ta'ala says in Suraj Hud, he
says,
that Sayna Lut, his people came to him,
rushing to him. Why? Because these angels came
to him, the angels that are going to
destroy the the city, they came to him
and they came to him in a beautiful
in a beautiful form.
The angels always come in a beautiful form.
So they come as these 2 beautiful young
men,
to say, Lut alaihi salam, and they see
it, and they come rushing toward they come
rushing toward them. Why? Because they have bad
intentions. They have bad intentions. They say, oh,
who are these handsome young men who came?
And they have bad intentions for them. So
they come to him
rushing toward him,
and they were already in a state that
they were doing you know, they were already
enjoying their their their bad times that they
were that they were enjoying. They're already doing
their bad things they were doing, not just
this act, but probably drunk and probably out
of their mind from God knows what other
things. And so they're already in this this
type of bad, condition that they're in.
And so he says to him he says
to he says to his people when they
come rushing to the house, he says to
them he says that I have daughters. If
you if you want, marry my daughters.
If you want, marry my daughters.
Don't. This is a, this attraction you have
is unnatural, and it's wrong.
And if you have some sort of,
some sort of desire for true love, I
have daughters, You can treat them in a
you can marry them and you can treat
them in a good way, and that's where
you will find love. You won't find love
in this.
And he says then to them, he says,
fear Allah, don't
dishonor me with regards to my guests because
he doesn't know that they're angels yet. Right?
He doesn't know he all he knows that
there are guests, people who came to come
see him. And so this is a concern
of his at this time that what? Don't
dishonor don't dishonor me by mistreating my guests
and by,
you know, acting in a way that's indecent
with my guests. And this is the reason
why Imam Nuhu, you mentioned this aya over
here in the chapter regarding honoring guests, is
that he was concerned about this. This was
something that he was concerned about. It's a
shame on a person if a guest comes
to their house and feels any discomfort,
large or small.
It's a shame on a person. It's a
shame on a person if a guest comes
to someone's house and feels any sort of
discomfort, large or small. If a guest comes
to our Masjid, it's a shame on us
if our guests feel discomfort. This is one
of the reasons, like, there's fundraisers, for example,
that come. There'll be a fundraiser that will
come tonight also from out of town. If
you want to give to them, please give
to them. If you don't want to give
to them, you don't have to give to
them.
Right? As a sunnah, if someone comes and
asks, you should at least give them du'a.
Make Allah ta'ala, make du'a'ala,
fulfill whatever need they came with. But a
person who comes as a guest don't talk,
don't, like, act like, oh, this guy is
here again, and he's wasting my time, and
I got this and that and that. Don't
do that. This is a dishonor. It's a
dishonor on the entire community. It is a
dishonor on everybody who comes comes and stays
in the masjid. Even if he talks, even
if he was given 5 minutes and he
goes a couple of minutes over, you know,
don't don't don't dishonor don't dishonor. Let's not
dishonor ourselves by not honoring our guests.
The guest that comes to your house, if
you dishonor them, it's a dishonor on you.
It's a shame enough.
The guest who comes to the house of
Allah Ta'ala, he's like the guest of Allah
and his rasul sallallahu alaihi wa sallam to
dishonor that person is an even greater tragedy,
and it's an even greater infraction of the
sharia and it's an even greater crime and
it's an even
greater
anger from Allah Ta'ala that a person incurs.
So he says he says he says he
says,
do not dishonor me with regards to my
guests. Alayasam min kumrajudun Rashid. He asked, isn't
there anyone who who has a right mind
in your head? Rushd is the ability that
a person has. Rushd means someone who's guided,
but rushd means the ability that a person
has to to be able to tell the
difference between,
what's good and what's bad, what's right and
what's wrong, what's beneficial and what's not beneficial.
Right? Rush does what? Rush does something like
stick children don't have. Right? Small children. Right?
What is it? The small children, you may
see them praying 1 minute, and then another
minute, they're running around and jumping. You may
tell them, okay. Listen, son. Don't run-in the
masjid. They haven't reached the age of rush
yet. So you'll see them, like, okay, Sheikh,
I'm not gonna run-in the masjid, and then
like 5 minutes later they run. And you're
like, oh, what did I say about running?
Oh, yeah. Yeah. Sorry. They just don't that
it's an ability that some people have,
and usually with age, a person gets it.
Not everybody gets it with age. Allah ta'ala
be our help. Not everybody gets it with
age, and people definitely
receive it in varying amounts, and some people
get it earlier than others. But he asked,
isn't there any one of are all of
you people who don't have any nurush? All
of you don't have this ability to tell
what's good and what's bad. Or all of
you have all of you gone wrong?
And this is all all of these things,
like I said, these are all this is
all groundwork
being laid for the coming of the Dajjal.
It's there to get people to accept fake
substitutes for real things. We've already accepted fake
food in the place of real food. We've
already
accepted, fake,
you know, money in the place of real
money. We've already accepted fake friends, you know,
on Facebook
for instead of real friends. We've already accepted
fake followers instead of real followers. So, you
know, the greatest sheikh of all time is
grumpy cat because grumpy cat has a 100,000
followers, masha Allah, and or a 1000000 followers
or God knows how many. Right? And we
already accepted, and now now we've accepted fake
love in the place of real love. The
only thing left, right, the eye that's on
the top of the pyramid, what is it?
That all we need is the the top
piece of the pyramid that we put in
place, which is what? A fake fake din
and a fake god instead of a real
god.
And this is the thing that this is
the thing we should all fear. This is
something that's coming together in front of our
eyes. The person who takes heed and tries
to save themselves and save their family will
save themselves and save their family. The one
who doesn't, they'll watch themselves perish, and they'll
watch the ones that they love perish in
front of their eyes in this world, which
is a small matter. It's in the hereafter,
the people who the the Quran who've been
is what? It says literally in the Quran,
I just finished the red Surah Zukrul before
coming out of the
enclosure, that what? Those people who will watch
themselves be lost and have to suffer watching
their families be lost on the day of
judgment is going to be, something that that
that's like humiliation in a way and a
heartbreak in a way that a person cannot
even imagine over here. And then at that
humiliation and that heartbreak, that torment, that punishment,
be patient with it or don't be patient.
And bear it quietly and and try not
to scream, keep your dignity, or scream and
shout like a maniac. It's not gonna make
any difference at that point. May Allah be
our protection. As we talk about these things.
Why? Because so you know you know to
guard against them and to know not to
be
made a
not to be made a victim
of these things.
Even if other people are victims, you ask
Allah Ta'ala to protect you and he
answers the prayer of the one who calls
upon him.
Narrated by Bukhari and by Muslims, very well
known hadith.
That the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said,
whoever believes in Allah and in the last
day, let them honor their guest. Meaning what?
Honoring your guest is a sign of iman.
Even if your guest is irritating and annoying,
let them honor their guests. The benchmark is
what? The benchmark is what? That every Muslim
who comes and knocks on your door, they
have the right to stay with you for
3 days 3 nights.
Right? So you have to put up with
a lot more than what you think initially.
If they ask you, they have the the
right to stay with you for 3 days
3 nights. Now this being said, a person
does have the have the the discretion that
some people are very shady.
You know, if the brother who's in the
masjid and constantly talking about, like, you know,
weird things overseas and, like, you know, you
never met him before and he's, you know,
kinda always, like, fidgeting with, like, something in
his ear or whatever, and he's, you know,
taking pictures of everything in the masjid. Right?
If you think that this guy is, you
know, gonna cause you harm, then you have
the right to
apologize to him and just say, listen. I'm
sorry you can't stay with me. I apologize.
Please forgive me. But even then, you have
to do it in a nice way. Okay?
If somebody, you know, somebody is just, you
know, brother so and so just got out
of, you know, whatever, got out of prison
for, you know, whatever aggravated, like, assault or
whatever. You don't have to keep them keep
them in your house that you have jewelry
in or whatever. You understand what I'm saying?
But that being said that being said, in
general, right, unless there's an extenuating circumstances because
what? The mind fixates on exceptions.
The mind fixates on exceptions, especially the western
mind fixates on exceptions,
doesn't understand the rule. What's the rule? That
if a normal person or seemingly normal person
comes to you, right, you, again, don't have
to tell them the combination you're safe. You
don't have to tell them your,
what you call it, your your your PIN
number or your Social Security number, but they
do have a right. If they ask
if they ask from you, they do have
a right from you, and you do render
that right for them. And the rendering of
that right is what? Because you believe in
Allah in the hereafter. Right? If you believe
in Allah in the last day, this is
a sign of your belief in him and
the sign of your belief in the yawmul
qiyamah that you will render the service for
that person. And if that's the right that's
over you for a stranger,
then imagine what the right is for your
relatives or your friends or for people that
you know.
You understand what I'm saying? There are many
people
that
are really irritating,
but you know they're not gonna kill you.
Right? So you have to you have to
give them that right, you know, and you
have to honor them too. You can't just
be like, listen, you know, you got 36
hours, live it up. Well, you can.
You understand
Right?
Right? It will be approved for you on
the day of judgment. So, yeah, Allah,
I did this out of iman in you
and in your Rasul salallahu alayhi wa sallam
and out of fear of meeting you on
this day. You know. You bear witness. You're
the one who knows what's outward and what's
inward.
What's what's what's what's,
accessible to everybody and what's a secret inside
the hearts. You know that I didn't like
this person.
Yeah. But I I I out of out
of fear of you and out of,
Iman and you, I kept this person in
my house. It will be a proof in
your favor on the day of judgment.
There are many people who are very good
at this. This is a
a a trait even of the Arabs in
Jahiliyyah as well.
And there are many people if you go
to the Muslim world, it's something people have
completely forgotten about over here. But if you
go to the Muslim world, there are many
people. You know? I mean, not to say
I'm not saying bad about anyone, and I'm
sure there are many other good people. But
one thing I've seen that the the the
people of Afghanistan,
this is something that,
whatever other thing there may be or may
not be, is that amongst the people I've
seen, this is very strong amongst them. When
a person enters into your house, you're like
king. You're king in their house. They tell
us they tell a story, and these stories
are probably true, not just one time, but
probably happened several times. They tell a story
about a person who did what?
Who,
who who ran and knocked on the door
and said, Listen, people are trying to kill
me. Can you please host me in your
house? I said, Okay.
And so they say, okay. What happened? The
guy's in the house. So what happened? He
said, I I killed a man in the
next village over,
and, people are trying to get me. And
thank you for hiding me.
And, he says, yeah. I promised you I'd
hide you, and so no problem. I promised
you that you're safe inside of my house.
And so he says, I have a brother.
My brother lives in that village. You know?
So,
Yeah. What's his name? It's so and so.
Oh,
his brother is gonna kill us. So they
they say that he he'll say he'll say,
hey. As long as you're in the house,
you're safe.
People will stay in the house for months
years sometimes.
They say, I promise you, as long as
you're in my house, you're safe. Right? This
is obviously somewhat of an exaggeration,
but the the sentiment is praiseworthy
even if the actual
modality and details of the way the story
unfolds may be a little bit excessive.
But the sentiment is praiseworthy that what? When
somebody enters into your house, you have to
honor them. Right? Some brothers,
we have some, guests,
staying staying here at Jamat Tabli there in
the path of Allah to Allah Allah that
I accept from them and give them tafib.
One one, Madrasah classmate of mine, he told
me a story. They went up north, you
know, to Swat and, you know, these northern
areas on Jamat one time. And so what
happened was the people in the village, they
went to a village, the people in the
village said anything you need, anything you want,
anything you need, just tell us it's there.
So they would ask for food, it would
be there. They'd ask for chai, it would
be there. They didn't do anything. Right? Sometimes
on Jamani, if you cook cook for yourself,
sometimes you don't even have I mean, sometimes
it's really rough. This village was so honored
that these guests came in the in the
path of Allah to their village and say
anything, and you just snap your fingers and
we'll
get it for you. Don't don't do anything
yourself. Everything we're gonna do for you. Okay.
Fine.
And so what happened was some of the
brothers at night, they were chatting. It was
late, maybe like 2 in the morning or
whatever.
And so they they said, oh, I want
some, you know, green tea. So what happened,
they started a fire and they had their
pots and pans with them. They're not you're
just not supposed to go to a place
and expect people to do this stuff for
you. You're supposed to be prepared to cook
for yourself. So they said, why should we
wake wake up the people from the from
the village,
you know, to make our tea for us?
Right? These are villages. Islam has been there
since the time of the salaf, mashallah. These
are villages that and these people, you know,
these villages perhaps the sahaba passed through them.
That's why they have these strong traditions. So
what happens is that the the,
you know, they make this green tea. They
lit a fire in pitch black. It's night.
It's no electricity. So pitch black. So you
can see the fire from the whole village.
You know? And they put some water on
the kettle to make green tea. It's simple
enough. It's you just put the green tea
in it and maybe sugar if you want,
and not everyone even drinks
it with sugar. Right? And so, what happens
is that the fire gets started and the
the the water is warming up, and then
they hear the sound of gunfire.
And the kettle gets knocked over, and the
water puts the fire out. And these guys,
you know, they hit the deck, man. They
run for the masjid. They cover and start,
you know yeah. That's what you learn in
Jamat. If you gotta ask something, you ask
from Allah to a'la. So they're making their
du'a that like, you know, whatever just happened,
you know, that Allah saved them from it.
And,
what happens is this angry angry villager comes
into the masjid with this, a Khalajnikov
rifle, his automatic rifle, and he says he
says to he says to them in Urdu,
he goes he goes,
are you gonna make the tea? Are you
gonna make the tea? Didn't we didn't we
tell you if you need anything to tell
us? You're gonna you're gonna roll up into
our our village and insult us like that?
That everyone from the other villages is gonna
say, look. The jamaat came. The guest of
Allah and
came to visit these people, and they were
so lazy they didn't make the tea for
them. You're gonna you're gonna dishonor us like
that? What did we you know what? What
did we do that you disrespect us? This
guy was upset. He was upset out of
his mind. You know, You know what I
mean? Again, the sentiment there's some good in
the sentiment, the modality. Please don't do this
to, like, you know, guests if they ever
make tea in your house or your village,
but, you know, because you could have killed
somebody. Right? So, obviously, there's something very wrong
there. Right? But but this is this is
how strongly they felt about how you have
to honor your guests. And so this brother
said, he says that I said, you're making
I told him. I said, I this is
what whenever someone tells me a story, I
always you know, because it's western mindset, you're
always skeptical about everything. Say, you're making this
up. He's like, I'm not making it up.
I go, what's I go, how do I
know you're not making it up? Because you
come to my house, I'll show you the
I still have the kettle with the bullet
hole in it.
The guy who has a good shot, he
took out the kettle in the first in
the first shot.
Yeah.
So I mean,
that's Iman.
Obviously, Iman should be coupled with having a
brain.
You know what I mean?
Yeah. It should. That's when it works really
good. Right? But for those of us who
are not endowed with that, we talked about
it, Rursa before, not everybody has the same
mental capacity or faculty.
Not everyone's going to like win the imam
Ghazali award for being a genius and that
doesn't happen. But the iman is what gets
you your mutliyama it's not your brain. There
are many smart people who go to jahanr.
So we we, you know, Allah gives us
a tofik to combine between the both of
them. So this is what is it? Whoever
believes in Allah and in the last day,
let them honor his guest. Whoever believes in
Allah in the last day,
let him,
keep his kinship ties, keep his kinship bonds.
And this also, you know, this intersects with
what's from before, right? Everyone of us has,
relatives that are irritating and annoying.
Masha'allah, some of us are the irritating and
annoying relatives
to other people. Right? You have to be
you know, you still just, you know, reach
out and keep kinship bonds with people. You
don't have to like them in order to
keep good bonds with people. You know, if
you know somebody, you're like, well, so and
so doesn't pray and so and so doesn't
this and they're mean and use bad language
and they every time they come they say
something bad about my furniture. Okay then
take them out to eat somewhere else outside,
you know if they don't pray
you know, you remind them if they don't
pray it's on their head. You're not Allah
is not gonna ask you why didn't your
cousin pray.
Allah is gonna ask you why did you
keep relations with them.
Right? You you know, there's many ways to
deal with these things but you have to
keep the the bond. Literally some people their
kinship ties are so toxic really you shouldn't
you shouldn't you know, you shouldn't do much
more than at least make it clear to
that person if they ever need anything that
you're there for them or if they say
Salam, you say Wa Alaikum Assalam. If they
smile at you, smile back. There's some people
their kinship ties are so toxic, there's really
not a whole lot of benefit in doing
more than that. But Allah Tala sees what
your circumstances are and you have to do
what's according to your circumstances.
So if the only thing you can do
without that person like really
harming you emotionally or physically or or, you
know, financially or whatever
is just send them an email on Eid,
then you have to send the email on
Eid. If the only thing is to say
Wa Alaikum Assalam and they say Assalam Alaikum,
then you don't have an excuse not to
return their salaam. You understand what I'm saying?
The only thing you do is visit them
once a year or once every couple of
years, then visit them for a short amount
of time. Make sure it's all smiles and
yous and, you know, happy, short and sweet,
and then leave. Nobody nobody said you have
to, you know, harm each other by by
by by by, keeping the company of people
you don't like. Right? The thing with with
with with kin and with relatives and with
the entire ummah, it's the same thing. It's
the same rule. You don't have to like
them. You just have to love them.
And some people only come to you when
they have a problem. Alhamdulillah.
You don't wanna like be bothered by their
company otherwise anyway. So if they need money,
just send it to them. You don't have
to go and like chat with them for
6 hours and ask them what their opinions
about life are. You know? Just, oh, you
need money? Here you go. Right? And this
is one of the things this is one
of the things I do. And, I don't
know. You know, you'll know
things that you do whether it's successful or
not. Because many times you do something you
don't know until afterward. Like, if I can't
do anything else, whatever nieces and nephews and,
you know, relatives I have, sometimes I have
relatives that that
that are. They've been pastated from the deen
or relatives that are they don't pray or
they don't fast. They when they see me,
they say, oh my god. This is like
Taliban Al Qaeda bin, you know, like, whatever,
Bin Laden, you know, guy, you know, like,
to them, it's like whatever. Right? So what
I do, you know, you're not gonna talk
to the kids about how Ramadan was because
they didn't even fast. What do I do?
I just say, oh, assalamu alaikum assalam. How
are you doing? Masha'Allah. I'll just hand them
a 20.
Why? Because you never know. One day some
kid will remember like, okay. At least this
guy cared, you know, because I don't feel
like handing twenties to nobody. So he you
know, whatever. Whatever you can do, just do
it. You know, cash is beautiful. Even if
you can't afford handing him a 20, hand
him a 5. Nobody is gonna, like, dislike
cash, you know. It's one of the strange
things about, like, traveling overseas. In America, it's
considered like rude. I think there's a feeling
it's rude to give people cash as a
gift because it's not very
Trust me, your thoughtful gift doesn't help people.
Cash helps people.
Just, you know, take a 55 out or
take a 1 out or take, you know,
take something out and, you know, give give
it to somebody. Sometimes keeping keeping kinship bonds
is like simple as that. So you don't
need to, like, kill yourself and become best
friends with everybody. You don't even wanna be
best friends really honestly with most people.
To be very frank with you, you don't
wanna be best friends with most people.
Sometimes better just to get it off your
back. The only thing is what,
Did you do something to keep them happy?
Yes. Were they happy with you?
That's that's all you need to do. You
have other stuff to do in your life.
Don't don't get bogged down with with these
types of things.
So in the the hadith continues that whoever
believes
in Allah and in the last day, let
them say good say something good or let
them stay silent.
Right? Right?
So Thamper is a play it plagiarized the
prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam.
And no one's here seen Bambi before? You've
seen Bambi. Right? You can't say anything good,
don't say anything at all. Look at that
Sharia law in Disney movies.
Imagine that.
That's the Islam that everyone's afraid of Mashallah.
Abu Shureh is a very, important Sahabi that
not many people know a lot about. I
suspect it maybe because you know there's not
like
a lot of kind of like battle exploits.
But he was a Muslim. He
was part of the army that conquered Makkamukarana
with the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam.
And he was
Khuzai.
Khuzai is the tribe that that used
to run Maklamukarrama
before Quraish
and they are
he's part of that tribe and they're Khulafa
of Quraysh they were Confederates of the Quraysh.
And Abu Shureh is
is a very learned person
He becomes a judge and he becomes a
judge when in the time of conquest.
The Khuddafah keep him as a judge and
he narrates a number of Hadith, important Hadith
from the prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam.
He's known as Abu Shurayhi al Qadi.
His name is Khulaylid bin Amr radiAllahu ta'ala
Anhu. He said, I heard the messenger of
Allah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam say,
whoever believes in Allah and in the last
day,
let let them
let them honor his guest
for his Ja'izah.
They said You Rasulullah,
what is what does this mean his Ja'izah?
And he says,
that that that his night his day and
his night and to host him for 3
days.
And whatever is after that, if he
continues to host that that guest,
then,
it is considered a sadaqa. You'll receive the
reward of charity for that.
And in the narration of this hadith that's
narrated by Imam Muslim, he says it's not
permissible for a Muslim
to stay with his brother until he makes
him a sinner.
And they asked, oh, messenger of Allah, how
how would he make him a sinner? He
says he make him a sinner by staying
with him,
to the point where he, doesn't have anything
that he can honor him with anymore. Meaning,
you eat all of his food or the
person is broken, you completely have.
Now you make them unable to,
honor you and to entertain you and unable
to then, you know, meet their own needs.
That that's not permissible either that if you're
becoming a burden on someone too to keep
staying with them, that's not permissible either.