Hamzah Wald Maqbul – Mlik Fiqh Averting Sight From the Harm Addison 03312020
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The speakers discuss the importance of showing leadership and taking care of others, acknowledging the negative impact of social interaction and the need for better equality. They stress the importance of acceptance of the new world order and acknowledging the dysfunctional behavior of men and women. The speakers also emphasize the need for a person to be safe from harm and protecting people from harm, and emphasize the importance of remembering things and the reality of the world.
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just to make sure that,
we don't have technical debacle like we've had
in the past.
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Well, this is a great, effect from Allah
We were able to
get this,
live stream going,
by
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There's
it wasn't a 100% Facebook's fault.
And this is something I wanted to mention
before,
beginning
or I should say continuing with the dars,
which is that,
you know,
I upgraded the internet significantly
in order to increase the the
uploading
bandwidth.
And I went and purchased a new router
and, several
other components of new equipment to try to
make the quality better.
I,
have been looking into mics to try to
get rid of
some hissing,
noises,
in the background,
and,
you know, we're trying to make it better.
So
none of that is free.
So inshallah, if somebody would,
like to participate and,
help out with this process,
inshallah, they can always go to rebat.orgforward/donate.rabat.orgforward/donate.
I I don't wanna make any, you know,
like, everything into a fundraiser because, you know,
people are not tuning into this darks in
order to, like,
get stuck up for money, and probably a
good number of people who will benefit from
the are not in that position to donate
anyway.
But if a person sees and appreciates or
thinks that someone else could take benefit from
it,
do,
do go ahead and help out.
And this is one of the things Sheikh
Amin actually mentioned
in one of my talks with him,
near to the beginning of the lockdown.
He said that,
he said that, you know, the Olam oftentimes
complain about,
you know, that they should be consulted or
they should kept be kept in leadership. This
is the time to show leadership.
If people don't step up into the void
and try to help out,
in this time, then there's really no other
time for them to do so.
So,
you know, for those those who are doing
their part,
Allah
reward them and give them madad,
and it's time for all of us to
kinda step up and make
things,
push in the direction of the of of
what they need to be rather than what
they are because,
it's very interesting. I hear a lot of
people,
you know, they complain about the state of
the the the Ummah and the state of
the
in particular, the community here, in the United
States. And they say, oh, when the elders
passed, then the new generation takes over. They're
gonna fix everything.
And my experience is actually quite the contrary.
The elders, for whatever hang ups they may
have or may have had,
amongst them or amongst great numbers of them,
There's a lot of things that the youngers
really don't have that the elders have, and
one of them is generosity,
that,
their people like, if their friend their friendships
are real and if their friend called and
said, hey. Put your house on a mortgage
and, like, you know, I need the money
for this and that and the other thing.
They don't really question back and forth a
lot. They go ahead and do it,
and they take care of each other that
way.
I'm obviously not asking anyone to do that.
In fact, I'm encouraging you actively not to
do that. In fact, if someone like some
shade is like, hey. Put your house up
on mortgage and, like, send me your money.
You know, just think about it.
It it may not be the greatest idea,
but,
that doesn't mean that we don't need to
step up. You know, we do need to
step up and and,
you know, help out with these things. Because
if every sheikh has to pay for his
stream out of his own pocket,
then, you're not really gonna have many sheiks,
and you're not gonna have many streams. And
the type of people who will be doing
this will be the ones who are,
adept at making money.
And, that's a skill set that is
very different than than than spiritual enlightenment and,
intellectual stimulation
and, you know, learning for the sake of
Allah and at the end of the day.
You know, pure pure purity in your intention.
And so, you know, but we do have
to live in this, you know, we have
to live in this dunya. So go ahead
inshallah. If you benefit and if you think
there's some benefit in it, inshallah,
go ahead and and chip in whatever you're
able to at rebat.orgforward/donate.
And,
Insha'Allah.
You know, if you're not able to yourself,
but you know somebody who would appreciate something
like this happening, go ahead and and, chip
into that or or hop out with that
as well.
So we continue,
we continue where we left off.
So
it's,
so and so he mentioned that it's also
far because we think about as just being
with 5 daily prayers or whatever.
It's also far to lower your gaze from
those things which are haram.
Anyway,
so,
this is an interesting discussion.
And this is a,
discussion which is
oftentimes overlooked in its entirety. And even when
it's discussed, it's discussed in a very,
like, pigeonholed fashion,
which is what? That it is,
far just like it's far to pray 5
times a day, just like it's far to,
you know, fast in Ramadan, etcetera.
It's far for everybody to,
avert their gaze
or to lower their gaze
from everything that's haram.
From everything that's haram.
And so, Nafrawi, in his, commentary, he mentions
that,
this includes all haram things. This includes all
haram things.
And,
the first thing that he mentions is not
is not,
permissible
to, look at a a a woman who
is
neither your marriageable relative,
nor your your wife.
Now
that's the beginning of the discussion.
I guess if we were having this, class
like in Berkeley or something like that,
people would say, oh, look, it's the patriarchy,
and it's like assuming a male,
you know, a male, bias and blah blah
blah.
Yeah. I guess maybe. Maybe Nafrawi is a
is a male, and, so is.
So,
yeah, they'd probably write from a mill perspective.
But,
you know,
if you read further,
he will mention,
that,
that just like it's haram for
a,
a person to look at, a woman who
is not
a marriageable can. He also mentions that it's
also haram to look at a beardless boy.
And definitely, they're,
you know, this mess Allah
comes in
most
fiqh books after a certain
a certain length in a certain era.
And,
you know, it's
statistically improbable that all of these books were
written by homosexuals or pederast.
So
that's one that's one issue. And the second
issue is also that
women also look at women as well.
And,
you know, women also look at women with
haram, and men also look at men with
haram, although it's not always exactly the same.
And, there's there's there's, like, there's a lot
going on,
there's a lot going on here. So he
continues. Some of it will unfold on its
own, and then we'll add some comments as,
you know, as our process moves along.
He says that it is it's haram to
look at a, a woman,
who is
not one's close relative,
Mahram as defined,
in other places in the books of fiqh,
nor
a person's wife.
And,
that's that's that's
So that's what the intention of,
deriving, some sort of, like, pleasure or charm,
of
a sexual nature
or or without that. So the rule is
that it is haram for somebody to look
at a,
a non mahram of the opposite gender.
And there are exceptions to that rule.
What are the exceptions? Like, for necessity, like,
for example, if you are,
in the court and you're a judge and
you have to take testimony from somebody,
or you're out in the marketplace and the
shopkeeper happens to be a a person of
the opposite gender, whatever gender it may be.
And there's a number of shari'a countenance necessities
that are,
you know, that are included in this,
in this in this pool of exceptions.
And this is one of the founding values
of our our civilization,
think about original sin or mankind
being,
created in sin
or that somehow, there's something inherently wrong with
sexuality.
Rather, it is a creation of
and duality is a characteristic of the creation
and unity is a character characteristic of the
creator.
SubhanAllah, exalted as Allah above blemish,
who created everything in pairs that comes forth
from the earth and from yourselves and from
those things you don't even know.
And so we have,
for example, in,
you know, even in the, like, the most,
microscopic, nanoscopic,
picoscopic,
fem femtoscopic,
level. We have even subatomic particles which are
paired.
We have orbitals, which are paired.
We have, you know, that electrons inhabit. We
have
even even in in the sub subatomic,
level. We have things that
that function with duality. And it's really interesting.
I'm not a physicist,
so I'm not gonna be like one of
those, like, Sheikh
who talk about this. Oh, this Sheikh doesn't
know what the * he's talking about. Okay.
Fine. I don't know what I'm talking about.
I'm not claiming to talk about it with
authority. I barely talk with authority about Maliki
Fitra. How am I gonna speak about authority
with physics or anything else?
But,
they theorize, you know, or or at least
they think about they they vex about why
is it from the 4 fundamental,
forces that,
that are there in the universe, the whatever,
strong nuclear force, weak nuclear force, electrostatic
force, and, gravity? Why is it out of
all of them, gravity doesn't have a negative.
Right? Gravity has an attraction, but it doesn't,
have, you know, it doesn't repel. And this
is something that, like, you know, it's, like,
somewhat counterintuitive
to, many physicists, and they think about that
and they talk about it. And what the
answer to it is, a lot knows best.
The point is that just the fact that
the intuition of a person is that there
should be some sort of,
repulsion here. It's a sign that that people
understand innately that duality is a,
is a is a quality of the creation.
And so it's beautiful. Allah
made this system,
and he made people who are suited for
each of these, 2 different natures of of
a human being just like of the
other creation.
And it's beautiful that he, you know, if
you think about the system of how
you how
through this,
you know, cycle of life and death and
mating and and the independent assortment of genes
and natural selection,
that life is able to,
like, strive and thrive in a a planet
that's constantly changing.
And,
it's, you know, it's able to, like,
get through insurmountable
or otherwise seemingly insurmountable
challenges.
And so as Muslims, we
we embrace that, and we,
I guess, live through it in the best
of ways rather than
rather than just discounting it as evil, and
it's from the dunya, and oh, it's so
horrible, and just run like, you know, like,
like the plague from it. Because
this is one of the things that the
Nasara do. They,
you know,
they consider celibacy to be a virtue,
and they consider sexual * in all cases
to be something that's evil,
that's something that takes you away from from
God.
And,
why would why would you be surprised that
they do that? The Catholic church is in
many ways more the successor of the ancient
pagan Roman religion than it is of the
teachings of Sinai Isa alaihis salam, although that's
not totally true. But I think in a
great, you know, in in great deep a
great amount, it is true. And that's why,
for example, Gandhi also, like, you know, had
this obsession with
with, like, abstinence from sexual pleasure and resisting
sexual pleasure. Why why do you wanna resist
it? It's something that is
it not only feels good, but it's also
vital for the survival of the human race.
And so,
Islam just manages it in a way that's,
like, not,
you know, that's not harmful.
Rather than having people who are like, oh,
look, I'm Superman, you know, like, I'm not
attracted to women or I'm not attracted to
men or I'm not gonna get married or
I'm not gonna any of these things because
I love God and that's all I love
and and and that's it. And then,
thereafter, like, you don't spend 100 of 1,000
of dollars on, like,
lawyers
dealing with, like, you know, priest scandals and
cover ups and all that other stuff. And
I'm not saying that to, like, to, like,
mock Catholics or whatever.
We have pederasts and abusers in every community,
including the Muslim community. And it's a problem,
but it's not a systemic problem.
Whereas trying to cover it up makes it
into what? It makes it into a systemic
problem.
And,
and so we're not gonna say that men
and women are exactly the same.
There's a type of equality that they have,
in the eyes of the
law, and the type of spiritual equality that
all human beings have, share with one another
regardless of gender, race, etcetera.
And,
you know, we acknowledge those things. But, like,
you know, a man is a man and
a woman is a woman.
And, there's a certain type of proper interaction
between them that's beneficial, and there's a certain
type of interaction that's not beneficial.
Saying this much makes me a demon of
the patriarchy according to,
many,
people,
who are,
I guess, the the mureeds of of the
Tarikhav of modernism and postmodernism.
So be
it, you know, so be it. We're people
who cherish the idea that,
we know who our fathers and who our
mothers are,
and we are people who cherish the idea
of growing up in a household with a
father and a mother as much as we're
able to. We cherish the idea of at
least trying, making good faith effort to make,
marriages work. We cherish these ideas, and we
see that there's benefit in them for society.
And, a lot of modernity,
a lot of its, pressures are exerted on,
replacing
the family as a a central or as
a center of authority and replacing it with
the state.
And it makes everything so difficult. It makes
look. Just look at coronavirus right now. Right?
If you could deal with family units as
integrated units. Right? Not just nuclear family, extended
family. People live with their extended families. Right?
And,
you have, for example, like,
grandpa, grandma, you know, and, like, 7 brothers
and sisters. Each of them are married and
they have their family. So, you know, like,
several 100 people in a compound together, which
is not all that far from what the
picture of economic,
and material success looked like, not all that
long ago.
If you want to do a quarantine, it's
very easy.
You have,
1 or 2 designated people who go out
and do the shopping,
and everybody else is
in the compound. Children play with each other.
The women help each other out with the
with what the women do. The men help
each other out with what the men do.
You know, the the classes go on. The,
you know, everything like life by and large
goes on as normal, and you can
you can have, like, people take care of
each other,
in a way that allows them to survive.
Whereas
nowadays, a lot of those functions, we expect
the state to take them over.
The state is the protector
of of people and their physical safety. The
state is the source of education.
The state is the source of jobs and
careers. In the old days,
a child would generally grow up to do
the job that their father did, and they
would, be trained for that from a young
age.
Now children have nothing to do with their
parents.
They wanna go run as far away from
their parents as possible, which is a byproduct
of modernism because your new parents is the
state.
Now I get the fact that some people
are like, oh, look, you know, well, the
family is abusive sometimes, and some people have
abusive parents, and some people have abusive, you
know, siblings, and some people have abusive relatives,
and some people have abusive spouses, blah blah
blah. Okay. Fine. Replace replace your your,
annoying family with Donald Trump. You know what
I mean?
Replace your annoying family with Joe Joe Biden.
Or maybe if it's like, you know, if
someone is really feeling that jah chu fever,
you know, we replace your your family with
a burning sandwich. Still not a replacement for
your family.
And that family unit cannot
cannot cannot exist in any useful shape, or
form when men and women have casual *
with one another.
Not only because of children that are born
without lineage, but because
when you do want to have children,
the relationship and the bond between a husband
and wife does it kinda become meaningless if
if,
you know, that thing that you should get
from your from your wife is, you know,
something that's basically being spilled about freely or
from your husband for that matter is basically
spilled about freely, in public. And I'll say
very clearly, there are a lot of people
who are,
committing zena in our community more than we
want to admit, And there are a lot
of people oftentimes will, like, think about it
like, you know, like people have problems, addictions
to * or, you know, this and that
type of stuff.
Those things are probably nearly ubiquitous.
And there's another type of, an aspect of
zina, which is not, like,
as animalistic.
It's more human,
but it's still wrong, which is emotional zina,
that there'll be many, women that will form
relationships with men, and men that will form
relationships with women
that are not really normal or healthy,
outside of the, relationship between a husband and
wife. And because of that, the husband and
wife don't get along with each other,
and, people do that with their sheiks and
with their students, and they do that with
their coworkers, and they do that with, you
know, with, you know, their classmates and things
like that. And it's just really, really, really
dysfunctional.
And it's like putting a piece of bread
in water. What happens when it soaks when
you soak it too much, it's gonna start
to disintegrate.
That that, that those relationships that are the
the cornerstone of civilization, the bedrock of civilization,
they start to disintegrate.
And,
you know,
a person you know, modernist people are like,
well, we don't need rules. We don't need
people to tell us what to do. We're
gonna do what makes us happy.
Well, the problem is this is that there's
a kind of, like, a tension about what
makes you happy sexually as a human being.
One part of the tension is that we're
we're mammals
like whales and like monkeys and like,
dogs and like cats. We're mammals.
Right?
This is not a plug for a human
being,
being a descendant of apes, which is not
what I believe.
But according to zoology, we're mammals. Right? We
have a 4 chambered heart. We're warm blooded.
You know,
genetically, we line up with with,
we will we line up with the other
mammals.
And, you know,
that those are just objective facts, you know.
Whether or not a person believes in in
in in the descendant of of of a
human from from great apes or whatever. That's
not an objective fact. We don't believe that.
But it's an objective fact that we are
we have these similarities with with the mammals.
And so,
we have the sexual urge like other mammals
do,
and
but however, like, what's different between us and
other mammals?
Unlike
whales, unlike cats and dogs, unlike,
lions and cheetahs and hyenas and,
you know, all these other mammals.
You know? And there's nothing, again, like, there's
nothing wrong with admitting that a human being
is an animal.
Forget about animal. We're from the earth.
We created you from it,
and we will return you to it. Meaning,
when you die, you'll become part of the
earth.
Again, Genetically, we're not only similar to mammals
or to other animals. Literally, we have the
same our proteins are made out of the
same amino acids that trees and fungus are
made out of the bacteria and protein that
bacterias are made out of. That virus is
like coronavirus are made out of.
You know? That's life. It's like it's life.
Right? The all that created
mankind from 1 ness, from 1 prime primordial
soul. We're joined to that. We're connected to
that. That's an that's a spiritual fact, and
we're animals. That's an objective fact. After that,
I don't believe that we're descended from apes,
and you don't have to in order
to follow this discussion along with me. But
at any rate, coming to the coming to
the issue is that, like, we're like we
are mammals and we have these, like, mammal
like tendencies of, like, you know, mammals
enjoy mating. Like,
you know,
mammals enjoy it and other animals from other
branches of the, like, the tree of life
enjoy it as well.
But on the flip side, we have civilization,
and civilization is built on what? On cooperation.
And cooperation is what? It's a distribution of,
of
of of tasks and distribution and division of
labor is what the the the term I'm
looking for. It depends
on that. Division of labor.
Division of labor means what? You know, I'm
the person I'm I make shoes, and the
next guy makes hats, and the next guy's
a tailor, and the next guy makes bricks,
and the next guy knows how to mix
those bricks into a wall and into a
house. And another guy's a plumber, another guy's
a carpenter, another guy's an electrician, another guy,
you know, teaches books, another person
troubleshoots IT. People do all these different things.
That's how you get civilization,
because one person can't do all of those
things alone.
One person cannot even build a house alone.
Or if they do, they're so specialized in
house building, they're not gonna be able to
write the or
teach hadith
or or, you know,
they're not gonna, you know, have the skill
set that's necessary in order to,
you know, stitch up a wound or treat
the sick or do any of these things.
Right?
And so the issue is this is that
when you don't wanna have a proper division
of labor,
you're going to have to have everybody
able to specialize in the one thing that
they're doing
so well that they're really good at it,
and they're able to do it more efficient
than others,
and
to be able to focus on it. Right?
And in order to be able to focus
on something, you have to have a place
to live, you have to have something to
eat, you have to have your basic needs
taken care of. Well, what's a basic need?
A person's shahwa,
a person's sexual desire is a basic need,
and it should be fulfilled. You shouldn't have,
like, these massive, like, huge gangs of young,
unmarried, and and frankly, you know,
there's not a family friend friendly there. So
if your children are listening, maybe it's time
to let them, you know, go play or
whatever. But you can't have,
like, gangs of unruly,
* young men walking around. They're just gonna
cause trouble. They just cause trouble. They cause
trouble. Wherever they are, they cause trouble.
This is the same issue that you have
in India. Why is it that you have
this kinda, like, real super
nationals or China for that matter, hyper nationalistic,
ideologies that make very little sense, like, logically,
rationally.
And they have these young men that are
basically just headstrong and crazy that are,
willing to do all these irrational things for
the service of that ideology.
You just have all these young men, and
they have no place in life.
Unfortunately, many parts of the Muslim world, unfortunately,
are like that as well.
Tell me,
you know, I'm not being, you know, someone
may say, oh, he's being racist against I'm
not being racist against Arabs. Okay? I'm an
Arab myself,
both in in in in dissent. Someone might
say, oh, you're *. You're Pakistani. You talk
you talk you read Punjabi poetry in your.
Arnasab is is that of Arabs, and
even though, Ami and Abu don't really speak
the arbi real well,
but,
we learned a little bit of, like, you
know, fa'ala yafalu along the way. Alhamdulillah,
we're Arabs as well, and it's not a
racist thing. Why is it them? And it's
it's not even an Arab issue. It's masha'riqah.
It's the Arabs of the east. You know,
like, places like,
Sham, Palestine,
Jordan, Lebanon,
Egypt.
Why, you know, why is it that it
costs so much money to get married?
Do you think that's a really good thing
for society? Absolutely not. You have all of
these people. They cannot afford to get married
until they're the age of 40. Some of
them can't afford to get married at all
ever.
And,
you know, so, you know, like, it's a
darsa about Maliki 5th, and we're getting questions
about the which
I think is a very good indication. The
fact that people are thinking about that right
now,
you know,
there's a great deal of people who are
worried
about, feeding their families and keeping the lights
on.
You know, this the thing is that then,
you know, when you have a bunch of
people who don't have families and they're not
thinking about it, what is their mind frame?
Their mind frame is Malhamma,
and,
those people are able to you know, like,
large numbers of people like that are able
to do those things that are disruptive for
society,
that that usually family people, don't do and
cannot do. It's not good for society. It's
good for society for people to be married
and to be stable in their homes
you whoever amongst you goes to the marketplace
and sees a a a woman and their,
desires are inflamed, let him go home and
fulfill his
desire with his wife,
because he'll find with his wife the thing
that he he he saw in the in
the marketplace.
So the point is the point is is
what?
Is that if
that person is
not able to eat,
Are they gonna be able to perform their
task in the division of labor properly? No.
They'll be hungry. They'll be out looking for
food. They'll be stealing food in order to
survive.
The person who saves themselves, nobody can blame
them afterward for saving themselves.
Right?
If that person doesn't have a place to
live, are they gonna be a good doctor?
No. Because they're gonna be cold. They're not
gonna be rested. They're gonna I mean, they're
gonna have a 100 problems because they have
no place to live.
Just like that just like that, if a
person is unable to fulfill their,
sexual desires properly,
they're gonna be disturbed and perturbed. They're not
gonna be able to function properly.
This is why our Sharia has, like, so
many, like, rules about this. That if a
man, for example, refuses to make love to
his wife,
his wife doesn't have the unilateral right according
to the most of the schools of the
Sharia. In fact, according to the well, you
know, like, I don't know of any exception
of this. Right? That a woman doesn't have
the right to unilaterally divorce her husband. However,
if a husband withholds a sexual,
fulfillment from his wife without any excuse,
for more than a certain period of time,
she has a right to go to the
judge and and and and have her marriage
annulled.
And,
likewise, a man, you know, if he, if
he's not finding fulfillment,
enough fulfillment, or a fulfillment that, like,
will able you know, make him able to
function, function properly in society,
he has he has the ability to marry,
another woman in the Sharia. And, like, fine.
You don't wanna do it, don't do it.
If there's a sister listening to this, Darcy's
like, oh my god. How come they keep
bringing it up? Or I'm not saying you
have to go and tell your husband, hey.
You know, like, my best friend from college
is looking for you. Not that you don't
have to do any of that. You don't
even have to like it for yourself.
I'm just saying the system is this, is
that imagine there's a man somewhere who's not,
fulfilled
properly. Now I'm I'm not talking about, you
know, I'm not talking about,
you know, somebody who doesn't bother to,
control themselves, somebody who doesn't bother to
fast and doesn't, you know, doesn't try to
control. But there are some people some men
are are like that. Some women are like
that their husband is not enough man for
them. A woman cannot have several husbands because
it will ruin the lineage of the children.
He cannot know who who's,
you know, which child is belongs to who.
Someone might say, well, we have genetic testing
nowadays. What if a woman marries 2 brothers
or 2 cousins or there's all kinds of
problems with it.
And that's just looking at it from a
very cold steel science perspective. Human being is
much more than just that.
But there is
accommodation in the Sharia through all of these
different routes in order to, what, ensure that
a person is also sexually fulfilled and sexually
stable.
Why? Because if they're not, they're just gonna
cause they're just gonna cause problems. They're just
gonna, like, rove around in huge bands. They're
gonna be up to no good, and they're
going to then start to unstabilize,
destabilize society. They're gonna be looking at the
wives of other people. They're gonna be looking
at other,
women's husbands. They're gonna be doing things like
you know, it's very strange. It's very bizarre.
Like, there are many
respected individuals in Western society, like, from from
the church
that for this reason that I'm mentioning right
now, they praised the institution of prostitution.
Why?
Because they said if it wasn't for prostitutes,
men would go and mess with the, like,
abuse
or confuse
or lure or trick or charm or whatever,
the wise of, of other men who otherwise
would be part of stable,
family units and stable parts of society.
Their idea is what is that these women,
who are prostitutes are women of low moral
repute. So they may as well get their
abuse out, take their abuse out on them
so that the other women are no longer,
like, you know, getting flirted with by every
guy who walks by, etcetera, etcetera, which I
feel I find is, like, a complete moral
failure.
Why? Because it doesn't take into account the
fact that those women are themselves,
the product of abuse most of the time
and definitely the receivers of abuse, and it
encourages immoral behavior on behalf of men and
sweeps it under the table and makes it
somehow acceptable from society, and it doesn't
solve so many problems.
And,
in the deen, we have other accommodations that
westerners bulk at. So, for example, you know,
just the first marriage itself,
westerners have to have a problem with it.
And the idea that a a man should
enjoy,
should enjoy having
relations with his wife. Westerners bulk at it.
In fact, one of their,
one of their, objections against Islam is what
you people are perverts because you have *
in Jannah.
And,
it's like, look, you know, if it was
so bad, then your mother wouldn't have enjoyed
it. You know what I mean?
Your mother wouldn't have done it. So just
speak with a little bit of respect,
and don't try to act like, you know,
Don't don't don't try to pretend like you're,
like this, like,
pure,
angel made out of light.
Knows who fears him and who doesn't fear
him. Otherwise, this is something that, all of
us all of us have to deal with.
So the point is is this.
For this reason, free mixing is haram between
non Nahram men and women. And for this
reason, looking is haram. For this reason, even
* is haram. Now
there is a
a legal
difference between
looking at, the of a a a non
woman,
like, directly, and looking at a digital image.
Okay? We may between 1 and the other,
and so,
necessarily, the the original thing that the is
there for its, the the text is there
for its,
for its,
prohibition
by rational necessity will be more haram than
the thing that we that that analogy is
made with it. Although the thing that analogy
is made with it is haram as well.
And it's not just a fact. See, someone
might say, like, well, I'm just looking at
a screen right now. I'm not actually looking
at a a naked body. The problem is
this is yes. You are just looking at
a screen right now. But
neurologically, you're processing it as another human body.
Spiritually,
you're processing it as disobedience,
and your
spirit is becoming
accustomed to disobedience. It's being taken away from
the it's being taken away from,
the the the mode of obedience, and it's
moving toward the mode of disobedience.
As a living being, you're starting to, you're
starting to
move toward the the the
the model of the other animals
in terms of how the male and female,
interact with each other versus the human model,
which is a civilizational
model. It's a model that needs civil that
civilization needs in order to function. It's the
model that is
based on,
on on division of labor, and it's
the model based on civilization
being predicated on having a stable
and happy and thriving,
family.
And so you undermine that. You know, you
undermine that when you,
when you break any of these norms. And
I get the fact that, like, you know,
there are some women who'll be like, well,
when men and women can't freely interact with
one another, then, like,
that's no fair to me. Or I get
the fact that there are many men who
are like, well, men when men and women
can't interact free freely, that's no fair to
me. I get that. I get the fact
that there are people who wanna interact with
the person of the people of the opposite
gender.
Many of them do for,
for reasons of sexual desire. Many of them
claim that they don't for reasons of sexual
desire, and it's disingenuous. And many of them
claim that they don't for sexual desire for
for reasons other than,
sexual desire.
And they've fooled themselves, but that's what it
is. And some of them even it's not
for reasons of sexual desire.
Some of them, it it really is for
legitimate,
reasons,
morally, you know, whether it be the desire
to
treat people with equality or with a type
of respect that they think in their mind
is necessary for equality or whether it's for
some other, you know, Sharia accountants to benefit,
you know, in a if it was looked
at,
without reference to the the the the
issues that we just talked about right now
that, for example, like, what if there's a
woman who knows a lot about
a particular art or a particular science, and
wanna benefit from her.
The Sharia
doesn't stop you from benefiting from her, but
there's definitely an an impediment as a man
from benefiting from her. And there's an impediment
as a woman from benefiting from the knowledge
of a man. What's the so we recognize
I recognize that that's also the case. I
think it's the case for diminishing the small
number of people, but it is the case
for certain people.
There are certain women of scholarship that I
would love to be able to freely sit
with, but I'm not able to.
There are,
you know,
you know, there are probably sisters who there
are that they would love to freely be
able to sit with and take from like
the men are able to, but they're not
able to.
What's the problem? The problem is you have
to put all these things in the scale
pan, and you have to look what is
the net benefit and what's the net harm.
And if the net harm in something outweighs
the net benefit, then what happens?
Then we don't do those things. And this
is also an principle
that,
That wording of harm
is
is
is prioritized
over,
gaining benefit when the 2 are equal when
the 2 are equal. This is not like
a rule. I mean, sometimes, like, for example,
there's a little bit of harm in a
very, very minute amount of harm in something
that's really, like, a universe of benefit in.
We're not talking about that. But when the
two things are equal, then what do we
do? We give priority of,
of warding off harm
over over garnering,
benefits.
And it's it's you know, the reason for
that is is very elegantly summarized by Imam
Nawi and
when he's talking about,
when he's talking about, you know, deciding whether
you should say something or not in a
in a particular situation.
The being safe from harm, there's no there's
nothing,
there's nothing that that matches it. There's nothing
that matches it. It's literally the the the
the quality of Jannah The jannah
being free from harm or blemish. Nothing nothing
matches it. It's it's it's it is the
the the muxed that all of us are
striving for. It's the goal that all of
us are striving.
And I know, like, this is like someone's
like, well, Sheikh, you said Maliki,
and now,
you know, you're going off on this tirade.
It's not a tirade. Why? Because it's making
you understand why this hookahum is, what it
is, and why it's important.
And further than that,
and we mentioned that it's always been usually,
when we talk about double bass or lowering
gays from what's haram, it's it's in a
heterosexual context. Okay. We mentioned it in the
homosexual context as well.
Right? And it's also in a nonsexual context
as well.
And that's the part that we oftentimes,
miss out,
which is what? Which is that looking at
the haram is haram for things other than
just,
of a sexual nature,
looking at somebody with the eye of jealousy.
Haram,
look away.
If you're gonna be jealous of people, don't
mix with them.
What else is haram?
If someone is doing a a a a
sin
and, you're looking at it in a way
that you're pleased with it. This happens all
the time. So and so is, you know,
their income is haram, but you're like, oh,
look at their how nice their car is
and how nice their suit is and how
nice they stock and whatever.
Look away from it.
That they were
through their eyes seeing the the the calf,
the kufr, the disbelief of even looking at
that idol was,
was they were made to drink it into
their hearts.
By the way, someone asked what's a good
book for studying Malek Ipik, and,
brother Muhammad
answered that,
the Mu'ta of Imam Malik. The Mu'ta is
not a book of fiqh,
and,
you're gonna learn almost nothing about Maliki by
by reading Muwata.
As a beginner, there are a number of,
there are a number of,
books that you can read, a couple of
which are translated into English.
One is
Ali Al Arati's,
his translation of
of of.
I think it's like someone can put put
a link up to it for one where
it's, available.
I think it's like an introductory to Malik,
etcetera.
If you can learn Arabic, then the is
a very
good book to to learn from.
That's a whole another discussion. I wanna finish
the train I thought I'm on before getting
distracted too much. Shef Musa actually upgraded my,
upgraded my Internet, bought a new router, bought,
like, a bunch of stuffs in order to
try to make clean the stream up. But
coming back to to to what we're talking
about from before, it's haram to look at
it's haram to look at all of all
of the haram. It's haram to look at.
You know? If someone's mocking another person, you
know, it's haram to look at them with
the eye of pleasure. You know? It's haram.
If you're a person
and I'm racist against purple people, it's haram
to look at a person purple person and
look down at them.
The
he mentions this, the the
the the
the the the,
looking at somebody as if they're detestable.
This is Haram,
and the only thing that you can look
at as detestable is that thing that Allah
Hazrassul, sallallahu alaihi wasallam said is detestable.
So if you don't like people from a
particular country, that's your problem. Allah didn't
make, being from a particular country a reason
that you can detest people.
Even sins themselves, we we look,
with the eye of,
detest,
at the sin,
and and pray for the person to to
stop
and for the person to make toba.
And,
this is the stock of the hadith of
the Nabi
narrated in,
that let not a person look down on
his brother for a sin that he commits.
And he mentions that the punishment for the
person who does that is what is it?
They won't die until being tested and tried
from
or tried by that same
from that same sin.
Meaning what? If you I mean, they not
only is that haram to look down on
another person even if they're a sinner, especially
your Muslim brother, that that that the punishment
of that is what? Because one thing is
to look down on the sin. That's an
obligation. The second thing is to look down
on the person. The punishment of looking down
on the person is what? Is that Allah
punish you by making you commit that same
sin that you're looking down at that person
for from before.
And,
this is where Aqidah is very important in
understanding your haram is bad. Sin is bad
for sure. But if you become so Protestant
about your, your hatred of sin
that that you,
looked down on people for a particular sin
that's
in a way that's worse than Kufr,
then,
you know, you're gonna run afoul of the
spiritual system of Islam. You're gonna run afoul
of the creedal system of Islam, And that's
gonna force you that's gonna force you even
despite your
your your,
lack of desire to do so. It's gonna
force you, against your own self to run
a follow a follow of the legal system
of Islam. Because we made Islam all into
fiqh, and fiqh is important.
But, we made, Islam.
Then we made Islam into, just a a
a a a law, and we forgot the
intellectual
bedrock that it's built on and the spiritual,
earth on which that bedrock is laid.
And,
so it's yeah. It's haram to look down
on people. You know? And I think that,
in in in many ways,
in many ways,
a person who,
looks
down on other people. You know, a person
who looks down on people from a particular
country or from a particular background or of
a particular social class or of a particular
cast or of a particular color or of
a particular,
economic
status or that has a particular passport or
doesn't have a particular passport. We have these
ridiculous things in the Muslim world. You know,
Allah, subhanahu wa ta'ala, protect us. You know,
some of us should carry umbrellas with us
so that the rocks that really are, like,
on the verge of raining down in the
sky and bashing our heads in because of
how egregious these and we have certain literally,
we have certain Muslim countries.
A kafir, if they did it, is bad
enough. A Muslim doesn't make no sense whatsoever.
They'll literally
give you different protocol in different places because
of your passport.
And Allah ta'ala in his book, who's the
king of kings and to whom sovereignty belongs.
Allah
is what,
is,
is the one who says,
that the most honored of you are the
ones,
the most honored of you in the eyes
of Allah are the ones that that fear
Allah the most. So looking down on people
because of any of these things,
I, you know,
I I I would say and, you know,
I guess we have a couple of students
of knowledge, and Sheikh Mufti Musa is on
you know, at least was on for a
minute. If he's still on, you can tell
me if you have a difference,
of opinion or you think this is out
of line for me to say that there
are certain things that people look at, certain
harams that they look up, and they they,
agree with or they they they,
look with certain sins
of, of arrogance and takabbur and and looking
down on people and
and belittling people, that literally probably would have
been less of a sin for that person
to watch * than it would have been
for that person to look down on another
human being with the satanic like arrogance
that people look at each other. And,
When when are you gonna come back to
Toronto?
Inshallah, when the zombie apocalypse is over, if
any of us are still alive, Inshallah, we'll
meet in happiness Inshallah.
And I'll also apologize, and I'll try to
be nice to you.
But the the point the point the point
that was being made, I think it's it's
something that we should think about.
And the the another of a person, the
eyes of a person,
and the the way you look at things,
it's really,
it's it's really important.
You know?
It it's what made the companions who they
are, that the prophet salallahu alaihi wa sallam
looked at them and they looked back at
the prophet salallahu alaihi wa sallam. That's what
made them that's what made them the companions.
The the rabbis, they say what? They it's
very interesting. It's very interesting. Some of their
bayan, they listen on YouTube. I probably should
be doing something better with my time. But,
they mentioned this one thing that,
that,
the
Cain and Abel, Habil and Kabil,
Allah
that Allah accepted the sacrifice of 1 of
them and didn't accept the sacrifice from the
other. They mentioned this that that the reason
the sacrifice wasn't accepted was that when it
was put on the altar, he looked up,
you know, and he he looked up toward
the heavens with the gaze of of no
of having no other.
And,
that's why his sacrifice wasn't accepted.
And, looking at people, looking at things in
the wrong way is a very toxic practice.
And we're people who believe that a human
being has a spirit. We're not just like
a random collection of,
you know, proteins,
that that that happen to assemble themselves in
a particular way, and, that happens to be
animated and, like, fooled itself into being alive.
If you believe that, then, like, you know,
I should take your wallet and
run with it because there's no real moral
reason I shouldn't.
And even then, like, who's to say that,
you know,
I,
as a Hamza, exist that I should be
morally responsible for taking the wallet. Anyway, this
just degrades into, like, a a whole, like,
philosophical
discussion. But the point is is what is
that? We don't believe that. We believe that
you're a human being. You have a you
have a spirit inside. What you look at
has a big effect on on who you
are.
And,
he's saying right now sheif is saying right
now that,
that that, it's it's it's far
to avert your gaze from,
from haram.
Every
every negative thing, there's another side of the
coin, which is a positive thing as well,
which is what?
If looking at bad stuff in a bad
way is
bad and toxic for your spirit and it's
haram and it's a sin,
then looking at good stuff is good. So
go ahead. You know? Grab
grab, the books of Ilm. Look at them.
Read them. You know?
In whatever language you're able to. Look at
the musthaf and read it. Look at the
letters of it. You know? Go look at
the masjid. Right now, most massages are locked.
Protect us.
Open our massages up for us again one
day soon.
Look at it from the outside if you
can't go and look at it from the
inside. You know? Look go go home. If
you're married, go look at your wife. If
you're, you know, go look at your husband.
You know? Look at your children.
Look at your parents. Say, these are my
my mama and baba. Allah
commanded me to respect them, so I look
at them with the eye of respect right
now. You know, some people you can't win
with your relatives, you can't win with your
parents, can't win with your husband, can't win
with your wife. You know? So just look
at you don't have to say anything. If
you say anything, they'll probably yell at you,
right, if you're in that situation. Just look
at
them. You know? Look at look at the
good look at something that's permissible. You know?
If you like eating a hamburger and there's
a halal burger in front of you, just
look at
the, just look at that thing and say,
this allowed allowed me to look at it,
and,
and there's there's great spiritual benefit in those
things.
And what's even higher than looking at a
burger or whatever? Right? Go find the ahlulah.
Go find the ulama. Go find the oliya.
Go find the atqiyah. The people who fear
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. The people who are
practicing what they preach, the people who Allah
chose their hearts to be the receptacle of
this knowledge. Go look at those people.
Go go go look at those people and
think about it. That, you, Allah, all those
things I wasted stuff for Allah stuff for
Allah, wasted my eyes on looking at from
the haram,
whether it's sexual or whether it's arrogance or
whether it's,
you know, belittling,
you know, those things. Allah made haram, so
I, you know, looked at something that I
shouldn't have looked at, or I looked at
someone committing a sin and thought it was
funny and laughed at it or whatever.
Say, now you all love. This is my
for that that I'm looking at the people.
Right?
That that that I'm looking now at your
your manifest signs that are,
that are housed and carried and that the
custody of which is, inside the hearts of
the people who are given knowledge.
And, look at it and benefit. Go up
and rank. You know, not everything is haram.
Not everything is sin. Not everything is gonna
send you to * and destroy you.
Anyway, so that the those masala,
I think we we took up our
time talking about this. We'll talk about them
later. Musti, Musa, he mentioned he says making
toba from an individual,
instance of Ihtikar, of looking down on somebody
and its lasting influences seems to be much
harder than making toba from an individual instance
of looking at the haram.
Both come from deep rooted problems, and it
can be very difficult to compare them.
Someone asked about how to weigh things.
He said that, he gives many things to
consider like wrongs that affect the individual being,
worse than wrongs that affect another person too.
Expressing Ihtikhar or looking down, on somebody hurts
the person who expresses it,
the person who it is about, and the
person who hears it. Looking at the haram
hurts the one who looks and does not
necessarily
hurt the one who's looked at.
Yeah. It's possible in that and and
and it's possible,
that it does hurt that person as well.
Is it been of the sun? Because many
other things to examine when just weighing the
2 acts, That was just one aspect to
look at. So, yes, it's definitely a more,
it's a it's a more complicated,
issue. It's not a straightforward issue.
At the at the risk of becoming Masood
Wahidi's
next meme,
I might,
I might,
say that there's more nuance to the issue.
But,
yeah. There's a lot to look at. I
mean, the what I was saying was it
was merely
it was based on I remember reading,
Hafiz ibn Hajar.
I visited one of my, Asatiz's classmates, and
so he grabbed out a a small book
by Hafiz ibn Hajar called,
or something like that.
Preparation for the day that you returned to
Allah ta'ala.
And,
he mentioned something very simple.
Just thought I was urging the people to
consider. I
Muftisab, your kalam is is based on
what?
On
the,
But at any rate so,
reading that for
is is Alastair Adad,
Lyom Al Ma'ad, it
he mentions this. He says that if you
commit a sin he said one of the
Aslav said it. I think it was Sufianna
Thore, but it maybe have been someone else.
Based on the Qaida, and so on.
We have
reading reading it and reading other books together
one day soon.
He mentions that one of the aslaf said
that if a person commits a sin, if
you commit a sin
based on your
on your,
carnal desires,
repent from it and hope for Allah's forgiveness.
And if you commit a sin,
based on arrogance, repent from it and fear
Allah will never
forgive you. And that's the reason for that
is that the mistake of Sayna Adam alayhislam
was,
one, of of of desire,
and the the sin of Iblis was one
of arrogance, of takabur.
And, definitely, there is more,
there's more
there's more to look at and everything.
Things are not, like like, so super simple
cut cut and dry black and white.
But, that was just, I guess, the one
angle that I was I was looking at
at it from.
Allah,
protect us.
Allah protect us like a mother protects,
the newborn baby
from everything that distances us from him,
from everything that that,
cuts us off from him,
from everything that poisons our relationship with him,
from everything that poisons our deen and poisons
our our our our hereafter.
Will Allah
protect us. There's just so much, like,
there's just so much,
harm out there.
Allah protect us from it and, purify us
from
from from it. And,
belittling or thinking little of somebody if expressed
is likely gonna be tied to
and
backbiting and tail bearing as well and other
things.
And he says that it's gonna be tied
into other vices as well.
Allah protect us from all of these things
that will steal our iman
and that will make our our our portfolio
crash before we have to retire to Jannah.
Allah protect all of us.
Allah lift and raise this
this calamity from the heads of,
the Umasayid and Muhammad
from the heads of the creation.
You know, we talked a real big game
tonight,
as we do every time we crack the
books open,
because that is a, you know, just thinking
about that mode of living in that mode
of being free from sin
and, and spiritually thriving.
It's, it's,
it's it's it's real big talk. And, you
know, when the camera is done and
when, you know, we all, go our separate
ways, then Allah knows what the reality is.
But, you know, take heart inshallah
that even sitting and thinking about that goodness,
you know, together for for for for the
couple of minutes that that we sit in
this darso or another dudus or other,
halapatth or whatever.
It's a great nama and blessing from Allah
and there's great and there's great noor that
comes from it and there's great benefit that
comes from it. So Allah
because of the barakah, this act that we
came together for his sake in order to
learn something
and, in order to remember something,
better. Allah
forgive us our sins and ward this calamity
off from our heads and open our masajid
again and,
give us the
of dying living by iman and dying by
iman.