Hamzah Wald Maqbul – Khutbah Amnah & Children Hir 12162022
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The importance of marriage in Islam is discussed, including the trust of the Lord and the importance of carrying it into behavior. The benefits of carrying the " AMENT" and avoiding catastrophe are also emphasized, along with the deification of children and parenting. The speakers stress the importance of preserving American marriage and avoiding loss, while also warning against trying to substitute for lack of time with money and suggest giving children time to manage their life.
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Alhamdulillah.
Alhamdulillah
who guided us to this, who guided us
to Islam and to Iman
and to his Mubarak house, in this Mubarak
hour, this Mubarak day.
And we were not to be guided. Was
it not that Allah ta'ala had guided us?
Oh, Allah, to you is praise as is
commensurate with the majesty of your countenance and
the greatness of your authority.
Oh, Allah,
we do not limit you with any praise
that we can come up with ourselves.
Rather, we admit that you're the only one
who knows the true extent of your praise
worthiness.
And may the peace and blessings of Allah
Ta'ala be upon his servant and messenger,
our master, Sayyidina Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam.
May the peace and blessings of Allah Ta'ala
be upon him
and upon his noble companions
and upon his pure wives and upon his
Mubarak family and progeny
and upon all of those who follow their
way until the day of judgment.
Before I had gone to Sicily, we spoke
for several weeks
on end with regards to the importance of
marriage,
And we spoke about one of the primary
objectives of marriage being
the
custodianship of the human race,
being the propagation of the human race,
being the
conception,
birth,
and raising of children
that will
propagate not just the human race, but who
will keep,
the message and the
mission of Islam
bright and fresh
and moving in the world,
which was one of the mandates,
that Allah Ta'ala created mankind with. The chief
mandate with which Allah Ta'ala created mankind
so that somebody could carry this, Amanah from
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, and he didn't need
anybody to do anything ever.
Allah ta'ala said,
that we indeed offered this amana, this trust
to the
heavens and to the earth
and to the mountains,
and they
refused to take it. And they were fearful
of it. They were afraid of it.
But insan
carried it.
In Nahukana
valuman jahulan.
Indeed, he was
a man filled with
transgression.
He was one filled with transgression
and filled with
ignorance.
Not just a normal transgressor or a normal
ignorant person.
Valim and Jahil is a person who is
the
actor in a particular matter. He acts in
such a way that he acts with transgression
and with ignorance.
The Valoom and the Jahul is the one
whatever he does, it's transgression. Whatever he does,
it's ignorance.
From the tafasir of this ayah
is that it does not refer to every
single person.
Rather, it refers to the person who doesn't
keep the Amana, who doesn't keep the Amana,
who doesn't keep the trust.
This begs a very important question, which is
what is the amana?
What is the trust?
To summarize
rather than synthesize,
what is a very rich exegetical tradition that
we have in Islam?
The amana is what that a person should
take moral responsibility for their deeds, taklief.
Take moral responsibility for their deeds and that
a person should keep the light of iman
there inside of their heart.
This is something
that
makes you and me different than the animals.
It's something that makes you and me different
than the
inorganic matter that makes up the rest of
the world. It's something in fact that makes
us different than the angels
and makes us different than most of the
creation of the Lord.
Now tell me something.
If
Allah ta'ala
refers to something as al Amanah,
the alifla meaning the trust.
Inna Arabdal Amanata.
Al Amana.
Not
Inna Arabdalna Amanatan, not an Amanah, not a
trust, but the trust. The
trust. The trust. The trust.
Does it mean that it's important or is
it not important?
You don't have to be sheikhul Islam.
You don't have to be sheikhul Hadith. You
don't have to be the Grand Mufti of
the Ottoman Empire or of Banu Abbas or
of Andalusia in order to know that it's
going to be something what? Important or not
important?
It's going to be important. Right?
That this Amana, we offered it to everybody.
It's going to be important.
And if the heavens and the earth
and the mountains not only refuse it
Imagine if you bury something inside of a
mountain.
I'm like in living memory we've seen, even
like air force jets and
all sorts of weird
modern military bombardment
cannot
penetrate into the core of a mountain. If
the mountain itself is like, Yeah. No. Thank
you.
Fa abayna yah minneha. I said, We we
cannot carry this.
Wa shfaqna minneha. And they were actually afraid
of it.
Is it going to be something easy to
carry or is it not going to be
something easy to carry? Obviously, it's not going
to be very easy to carry.
However, the problem is what? Is that we
don't think about this thing as an emana.
We don't think about it as a trust
from the Lord.
Your boss gives you a job. Boss gives
you a job. People are coming from work,
I'm assuming. Right? Your boss gives you a
job. Why do you go to work in
the 1st place? What's the point? That's why
I remember I had a friend. He's like
he's like, I don't know why everybody's like,
oh, Mig, do I get job, Mig do
I get a job. He said, Job ain't
nothing but work.
Right? Why go in the first place?
You're gonna get paid,
but you're gonna get paid only if you
do the job.
If not, you're gonna get fired.
But carrying this emana, why would someone take
it in the first place?
Because through it, a person occupies
the prime position amongst God's creation.
Through it a person will attain that level
that
that cats and dogs in the street are
not going to obtain.
Through it, a person might,
if they do it well,
might obtain
that station with the Lord
that even the angels don't obtain, and it
will be forever.
It will be what? It will be forever.
How many of us woke up in the
morning, the first thing we did is check
our phone for like text messages? And how
many of us woke up in the morning,
the first thing we did was
think about this Amana.
There are some people who do that. I
mean, that's the genius of Islam.
The person who wakes up for Fajr, that's
what they do, right? That's the first thing
they do in the morning when they wake
up. The person who wakes up for Tahajjud,
that's the first thing that they do when
they wake up.
Not getting to work on time, not getting
the school on time, not like getting the
kids ready for school, not, you know, how
the weather is gonna be, not whether, you
know, your favorite team won the World Cup
match or not. It's just a game. It's
just a game. I'm sorry. I'm sorry to
say it like that. You can beat me
up outside the mustard afterward if you want
to. It's just a game. If you win,
it's a game. If you lose, it's still
just a game.
How many people think about what and how
many think about the Amana? The Amana is
there, every one of us carries it
anyway.
That's why the Sharia allows you to go
out and like
kill a snake. It allows you to go
out and cut down a tree. It allows
you to go and slaughter cattle and goats
and eat them.
They can't do it with people. Why?
Because they're carrying something that the others are
not carrying.
So you and me are enjoying the benefits
of all of that.
We're enjoying the benefits of all of that.
We're part of the royal entourage.
This job, how many of us think about
it first thing when we wake up in
the morning? How many of us think about
it last thing we go to sleep? Look,
if you were like, hey, you know, I
I'll be honest, I didn't really think about
it this morning.
Right? You can still fix it. The catastrophe
is what? If you waste the Amana.
Just like if someone says, hey, stand guard,
you know,
you know, and watch over, like, my phone,
and a person's, like, texting and whatever and,
like,
whatever engrossed in something or another, and then,
like, half an hour passes and they say,
oh, wait, I have to, like, make sure,
did someone steal the phone? So you look
around and you see is it okay, it's
still there. Still there. We've averted catastrophe thus
far.
But this doesn't mean that this is a
wise and sagacious
plan for the future.
So coming to
the issue about children,
coming to the issue of children which is
the prime focus of marriage which we talked
about is half of the deen and, you
know, all of the other fa'vi'il and whatever
to the point where somebody,
you know, joked with me, you know, in
the parking lot and said, oh, Sheikh, looks
like you're looking for a second wife. I
go, if I'm gonna look for a second
wife, do you think mustard hira is the
place to find it? Look around.
Right?
It's a part of the deen. It's part
of the deen.
Slim pickings at Mustard Hera. Right? It's part
of the deen, it's part of Islam.
One of the primary objectives one of the
primary objectives of
The marriage is what? Is that you can
have the custodianship of this Amanah that it
communally
beheld because you cannot hold it alone. If
one of us were the only Muslim in
all of America, what do you imagine would
happen?
Would it be good for your iman or
bad for your iman? Someone might say there
may be some people over here, they'll be
like, well, you know, I'm not gonna let
anyone,
change me. I'm gonna go live in a
cave up at, you know, I'm gonna go
to move to like,
you know, some
forest preserve or state park or whatever or
like somewhere in the middle of nowhere in
the mountains, and I'm just gonna worship Allah
Ta'ala until I die. As an individual, this
is a solution. It is. It's a solution.
It's actually mentioned by the Rasool Sallallahu Alaihi
Wasallam
as one of the things near the end
of time people are going to have to
do in order to preserve their iman, when
everybody everybody is completely
a people of mischief and chaos.
Alhamdulillah,
we haven't gotten there yet. We try to
make ourselves feel better by making us think
that making ourselves feel like we got there.
We're not there yet. Actually, it's mashallah. There's
masajid, madaris. You can read everywhere from alifba'tatha
all the way to the qira'at 'ashara and
the suhasitha of Hadith and the Hidayah and
all the books of different Madahib Afik, etcetera,
all in DuPage County, Masha'Allah. Right? We're not
there yet.
That solution of moving out to the middle
of nowhere and dying on iman, it's for
an individual, it's a good solution.
For
the community, it's a bad solution because what
will happen? It will last for
10, 15, 20, a 100 years.
Then the person will die. And then what
happens to the amana? Communally. Individually, that person
is not gonna be asked, but communally the
Amana then gets wasted. It's done. Islam is
not effaced from the earth.
The issue is this is just like we
asked the question how many people woke up
and the first thing they thought about was
the amana,
and it's a mixed bag.
Sadly, and for reasons that perplex
me,
how many people think about the amana when
they look at their children
and say, I want this child to be
successful to keep the Amana because if he
waste it, the Quran describes this child or
her him or her as daloom and jahul.
The Valim, the Jahul, where do they end
up? They end up in the hellfire.
If a person the one reason for which
they were created, they waste it.
What's the point? Yet, yet, and this is
the summary of this entire buildup, yet,
there are people who wake up in the
morning
and go to sleep at night and they
weep and they're happy
and they freak out and they find calm
because of what?
Which college did the children get into?
Even less explicably to me
something they did on a sports team.
Will they marry a person from this particular
village, in this particular place, of this particular
complexion, of this particular height,
of this particular income
because we don't marry the people who are
exactly the same from the next village.
And all of these stupid things that really
matter not a bit.
They really matter not a bit in the
sense that, okay, I'm not telling you, you
marry whoever you want, you have your children,
marry whoever is good for them, hamdullam, mashallah.
Not who you want, but who's good for
them because they're also part of your Amanah.
Get them into the best school. InshaAllah, they
win the Heisman Trophy or whatever, you know,
they get, you know, they're
physically and all of this are active and
they get into Harvard and they become all
of these things. Right?
All of those things, they're beautiful with the
condition.
Their beauty has a prerequisite which is what
is Is the amana fulfilled or not?
And that's the one thing we never talk
to them about, that's the one thing we
never fulfill for them. And a person may
say, well, it's difficult in this country because
they go to school and
nobody's a Muslim, and then they go to
work and nobody's a Muslim, and then they
watch TV and nobody's a Muslim.
And then say, okay, cielo t guy, threw
the TV out of the house.
And now they go to Islamic school. Even
the kids at the Islamic school,
none of them care about these things, which
is sad, but true.
In several cases, not every case.
Even my own relatives,
my kids mix with their own relatives and
this is all that they talk about is
like other stuff. Nobody ever talks about this.
They mock them in fact for talking about
this.
Whatever your circumstances, whatever your circumstances, Allah Ta'ala
will ask you about it on the day
of judgment. The day of
judgment is
This
many people probably read this in Maktab. It's
not like, you know, it's from the from
the last surah of the Quran. It's the
day that what?
The day that they're not going to be
they're not going to speak. Nobody's gonna speak.
And no one will give the and they
will not be given permission to speak. Why?
Because if they were given permission, they would
have given some very beautiful and flowery excuse
for failure.
For what?
For failure. Yom Kiyama is not like soccer
or basketball. There's nobody to pass the ball
to.
When the ball is in your court, if
you're asked about it, Allah Ta' doesn't even
ask a person if there's a way that
they can answer the question.
If he asks you, That's it, you're gonna
pay for this, I'm gonna pay for this,
I'm gonna pay for this, Iyadubillah, Allah, Ta'bi
our protection.
So all of it is to summarize one
thing is that with the children, whatever you
do, whatever you don't do.
If they don't understand this from you, if
they don't get this from you, you're a
failure as a parent and they're going to
be failure as a human being.
I mean, Allah ta'ala be our protection. Illa,
illa, illa bi famdullahi tabaraku ta'ala that there
are some people from here and there that
Allah ta'ala guides, but it's not a good
plan.
And if they're guided, you still pay for
your
wastage of this
one. You just had one job, just one
thing that you had with regards to them.
My law, ta'ala, protect us. Someone says, this
is a really big thing. You know, it's
a very big job. You didn't even tell
us how to do it. I'll give one
small piece of advice because who's gonna talk
about all of these things when we're already
over time? Which is what?
InshaAllah, they get into Harvard, they become doctor,
whatever it is that you want them to
do. They do all of those things.
The one small piece of advice is what?
Your children,
2 things. 1 will ruin them and 1
will benefit them. The thing that will benefit
them is you're giving them time. And the
thing that will ruin them is giving them
money.
Like without reason. Obviously necessities need to be
taken care of. You take care of them
directly
and teach them how to manage money and
all of that other stuff. Those are skills.
But again, give them time. Don't try to
substitute for lack of time with money because
what are you doing?
The one thing that harms them, you're augmenting
the harm by what? Giving them the other
thing that harms them.
Your money will ruin them, you're like spoiling
them. Your money will ruin them and your
time will benefit them. If you can't give
them time, just giving them ridiculous amounts of
money will do what?
It will be one harm on top of
the other because at least if you didn't
teach them how to survive, let them learn
how to survive on their own,
especially your sons, especially your sons.
Your daughters need your time as well.
Your daughters need your attention as well. Maybe
even more than your sons do, all of
them need your time and your attention.
You will fix them through your what?
Time. You will ruin them through your what?
Money. If you feel guilty that you're not
giving them time, and you try to make
up for it by giving them money and
stuff,
then what is it? You will just plunge
them even deeper and deeper into this, into
this hole. May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala protect
us all, may Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala protect
our children, may Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala put
the amana in front of us in such
a way that we can't ignore it even
if we try, May Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala
make us from the people of foes and
sa'adah of of of success on the day
of judgment and of happiness, happiness not for
one day or for one night or a
week,
but the happiness that lasts forever and ever
in Jannah and Bliss. WassaAllahu Tabarakahu Ta'ala. WassaAllahu
ala Sayedina Muhammadu Wa'ala Alaihi wa sahabi Ajmain.