Hamza Tzortzis – The Shepherd’s Way #09 – How You Relate is What You Create

			Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim Al hamdu lillah wa Salatu was Salam ala Rasulillah salam Wa alaykum
Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh, who brothers and sisters and friends and welcome to the penultimate
episode, the ninth episode of our virtual Hero series The Shepherd's way. And this knife, timeless
leadership lesson is how you relate is what you create. In other words, be a mentor, develop people
and power people get the best out of people. So what does how you relate is what you create actually
mean? Basically, the way you relate with other people, your linguistic utterances and your behavior
towards other people can be a means of getting the best version of that person. Think about it. If
		

			you are genuinely sincere, as you should be as a leader, in that you committed to the well being of
that person, you want goodness for them and guidance for them, you want to elevate them, then the
way you speak to them and behave is a way as if you are relating to the best version of that person.
Even if they're not displaying the best version of themselves. That means you have to be able to see
in them what they can't see in themselves, you have to see the best version of who they are, and
communicate to them via your body language, your behavior and your linguistic consciences, the way
you speak to them in a way, as if they are the most optimal version of who they are. And once you do
		

			that, you will get the optimal version of that person. It's such a powerful experience brothers and
sisters, and even in my own leadership experience, when I've attempted to do this, it has benefited
me, the organization, the dour and Islam immensely, but we have to be sincere. We can't just fake
it. We can't just show this as an actor, it can't have pretense, we have to be sincere and truly
believe that they have this potential, they have goodness in them. And there is a version of
themselves that is optimal. That is a great, amazing, phenomenal version of themselves. And we're
going to relate to them and communicate to them via our linguistic utterances the way we speak and
		

			via body language in a way as if we are speaking to the optimal version of that person. And once you
do so, they will become the optimal version of themselves. And brothers and sisters, we see these
principles and these teachings in the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. For
example, in an authentic hadith narrated in Sahih Muslim, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
said, there is good in everyone. So have that as a default principle. There is good in everyone. And
we see that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam the way he related to people was such that he
got the best version of the person. And this is an amazing characteristic of the Prophet sallallahu
		

			Ailey he was selling remember, how you relate is what you create. So why is this important in the
context of leadership anyway, it's important, because you're leading people, you're leading people
to execute a strategy in order to fulfill a particular vision.
		

			And the way you lead those people has to be in a way that you get the best out of them, that all of
those people are performing at an optimal level and they're sincere to the vision, this sincere to
you as a leader, and fundamentally, this sincere to Allah and his messenger sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam. This is why it's so important to relate to people in a way that gets the best version of
them. Remember, how you relate is what you create. And we see many examples in the Sunnah of the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam, and a great example in the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam is the incident between the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam and Fidella Ibn
		

			Amir. Now after the conquest of Mecca, for Allah ibn Ahmed was nominally a Muslim, but he vowed to
take revenge and he wanted to commit a despicable act and kill the Prophet sallallahu ala he was
sending. So as the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was circumambulating the Kaaba Fidella had
been on air he had hidden a sword under His clothing was preparing for the most despicable deed.
Instantly he found himself close to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam the Prophet then looked
at him and asked, What is it that you are saying to yourself? Now for dollar brushed off the
question by saying, he was simply praising Allah, and then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
		

			said, so listen to her really
		

			to his potential assassin, he said, ask Allah to forgive you. And he placed his hand on the chest of
his potential assassin.
		

			And then later, his potential assassin would say, By Allah, from the moment he lifted his hand from
my chest, they remain nothing of Allah's creation, except that he was more beloved to me than it
SubhanAllah. This is a striking example. And there are many other examples in the Sunnah of the
Prophet sallallahu ALA, who are seldom the example of unfold and the example of GDB. But this
example is so striking because why? Because of the context,
		

			there was a potential assassin
		

			that wanted to assassinate the Prophet sallallahu, ALA, who was salam. How did the Prophet relate to
him, he related to his potential assassin in a way that got the best version out of him in that
particular context. And what is the best version, think about what the best version was in this
context. He didn't attend the assassination.
		

			Not only that, he became the most beloved person to him.
		

			Because look how the prophets of Allah who it was, I'm related to him. He said, ask Allah to forgive
you. He placed his hand on his chest, there was verbal utterances. And there was a behavior towards
his potential assassin that related that relate to him in a way that got the best version out of
him. And what was the best version in this context, he didn't assassinate the Prophet sallallahu,
ala he was salam. And the Prophet sallallahu, ala he was an became the most beloved person to him,
Allahu Akbar. So brothers and sisters, a knife. leadership lesson is how you relate is what you
create, you are a leader, you need to lead your people and get the best version out of them,
		

			brothers and sisters. And the way to do that is to be sincere in the way you talk to them. And in
the way that you behave with them in a way that you know that there is a better version of them,
there is an optimal version of them, and that you're using your linguistic utterances and your way
of being and your behavior to create that optimal version. Even though sometimes some of the people
that we're leading, don't even realize what the potential is. Two brothers and sisters relate to
people in a way that gets the best version out of people. And this is what leadership is all about.
Because you want people to work and act in the most optimal way to execute a strategy in order for
		

			the vision to become a reality. So brothers and sisters, this is the end of the ninth episode, let
me just remind you, we're experiencing beautiful days, we're experiencing very special days of the
ledger and as you know, the good deeds performed during the day. And as you know, performing good
deeds during these days are more affordable than deeds performed during the days of Ramadan. So help
us as an institute, a sequence Institute, relate to people in a way that gets the best version out
of them, in order for us to have a great team and a great Dow community. So we execute a strategy of
sharing and defending Assam academically and intellectually in order for us to see a world that
		

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