Haleh Banani – Breach of Trust – Infidelity

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The speaker discusses the importance of trust in relationships, emphasizing the need for transparency and patient communication. They stress the need for forgiveness and remorse in relationships, as it can lead to tension and heartache. The speaker also warns against venting off and suggests taking steps to protect the trust.

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			salaam aleikum, this is your sister Khalid bin Ani, this Lillah wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah.
Another very common problem that I see is when trust is broken in the marriage. Now, we all know how
critical it is to feel that we can trust the person in any relationship, whether that's with our
friends, or with our children. And it's critical with our spouse, if the trust is ever broken, then
it can really damage the relationship. Now, it can happen one of two ways a breach of trust can
happen when infidelity occurs. And infidelity. It's a cancer in the marriage. Now, it can break your
heart, but it doesn't have to break your marriage. And let me tell you how you can determine whether
		
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			you can laugh or make it through this or not. First of all, if there is genuine remorse, if there is
a feeling of regret, apology, and you feel like your spouse truly made a mistake, and they want to
correct themselves, and that's definitely a good sign, because I've seen individuals who will commit
adultery, who will do all sorts of things, and they somehow justify their act. So if it's a case
like that, where they feel they're justify, or they don't see anything wrong with what they have
done, then this is going to be a very serious situation, and it will definitely break the marriage
apart. But if your spouse feels like they got weak, and they made a mistake, and they want to redeem
		
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			themselves, then then it is possible, I've worked with hundreds of individuals who were able to
restore their marriage after that, the key is to any kind of communication with that individual to
break off that relationship. Because if they're still on the sideline, if there's still some level
of communication, your marriage cannot thrive. So put an end to that. And then second of all, you
have to be completely transparent. If you want your spouse to trust you, once again, you're the one
who breached this trust. So you need to be very accepting of them, seeing your phone, seeing your
emails, and be completely transparent. And you need to be extremely patient and reassure them. When
		
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			there is any form of infidelity in the marriage, what happens is that it shakes the security of the
spouse. So what you need to do is make sure that you're constantly reassuring them making them feel
they are a priority in your life, that they're, they're attractive, because people start questioning
themselves wondering, what am I lacking, for my spouse to be seeking someone else. So make sure that
you reassure your spouse, you're there for them. And you have to be very patient because it takes
quite a bit of time to be able to forgive and let go. I know, it's easy to say, you know, a lot of
times, I had recently, a client that came in, and the man was a bit frustrated, he's like, you know,
		
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			I've apologized at the end of the relationship, I'm trying to do everything that I possibly can. But
she can't get over, she's not letting go. And what I have to say is that you just have to be
patient, it's not so easy. If you put yourself in her shoes, trying to conceptualize what it's like
to feel that that trust has been broken, you will you would understand. So just be patient, it's
going to take time, but eventually, if you reassure her enough, and if you're transparent enough,
and you're patient enough, this could be all behind you. And it could actually bring you closer
together. I remember a client I had in Canada, that they had this experience. But after the
		
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			incident, the husband became so committed. And he became like that ideal spouse and she was able to
forgive and let go. And they had a better relationship than when they first started off. So it
doesn't have to be the end of your relationship. But as long as you're completely honest, you make
sure that this trust is never broken again, because it's so much harder the second time around, to
be able to forgive and let go. So protect the trust. And if this has not happened in your marriage,
I really warn you against venturing off. Because it may seem very appealing, it may seem very
innocent. And you may think that you can just hide it but in reality, a lot exposes the sins and
		
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			when that sin gets exposed, then what happens is that the marriage can fall apart. And it will
create a lot of tension, a lot of hardship and a lot of heartache for both of you. So if that has
not happened in your marriage, cherish the trust, cherish it and don't let anything get in the way
between you and your spouse. So if your marriage has been affected by it
		
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			breach of trust if there was infidelity in your marriage whether emotional or physical, you can
restore your marriage just do the steps that I said inshallah work hard. We all know the importance
of forgiveness and if we're able to forgive an overlook and that goal, then that is a huge emotional
deposit in our marriage, so inshallah, that you found this video to be beneficial I want to help as
many people as I possibly can inshallah, if you liked it, share it with your friends and family and
leave comments let me know what you think and what else you would like me to cover, inshallah.