Haitham al-Haddad – Sunnah way of Talaq Divorce & it’s wisdom

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			The sooner we have Allah
		

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			she should be divorced in the purity period
		

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			provided that the man did not have full relation with his wife in during that purity period.
		

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			Is it clear? So if a person wants to divorce his wife, according to this enough
		

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			he should wait until his wife is what you see is her menses.
		

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			Then once she is
		

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			she had muscle
		

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			and now she's clean.
		

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			Okay. And instead of him going to his wife as men do when they are waiting for their lives to be
free from the idea and instead of having intimacy with his wife, he will have a fight with his wife
and he will divorce it
		

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			okay as soon as not too far to have fight with her but just wait
		

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			Okay, she's free from her. She had also okay no intimacy but
		

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			that is the
		

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			son of Allah
		

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			which means as some scholar said that should not paddock should have seven conditions will not get
into them because they might be confusing
		

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			which means that don't divorce while he is in
		

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			blood in half while she's in her menses
		

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			Moreover, don't forgive Paula while she is what inherit period if you had intimacy or full relation
sexual relation with her a during that purity period
		

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			is it clear?
		

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			So, if a person had a fight with his wife, look at the wisdom
		

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			Okay, look at the wisdom if a person had a fight or another argument or whatever and he wanted to
divorce his wife, he should follow the suit.
		

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			So, he should ask her Are you in your menses or not? Obviously a man will know this okay. But if he
doesn't know he should ask if he is inheritances he should not divorce her.
		

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			He should wait until the man says is what
		

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			is over
		

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			Okay, she takes also and then if he wants to divorce, then he will divorce if you follow the same
		

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			way of divorce, the divorce rate will be reduced so much because most of the divorces that take
place are happening in the middle or immediately after an argument
		

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			agree or not.
		

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			Yeah. So, if a person had an argument and he wanted to divorce just told them hold on wait,
		

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			okay, tomorrow things will change.
		

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			I agree.
		

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			Yeah, later on, if he wants to wait for 345 days
		

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			mode over.
		

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			If Normally, the man will wait for his wife to finish her head in order to have the * would have
have any sexual intimacy with her.
		

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			If the man look at this, if the husband insisted on divorce, even during that time, when he is eager
to have intimacy with his wife, it means that he has taken a decision and he cannot even sleep with
his wife which means that he hated her.
		

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			Then Yes, divorce
		

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			okay, because if you really divorce her knowing that you can have intimacy with her now, still you
prefer to divorce her rather than having intimacy between means that you have hated your wife
		

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			or you cannot bet her at all.
		

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			Is it clear? This is the wisdom
		

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			and I wish if people follow this enough in divorce,
		

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			okay, when divorcing their wives and the rate of divorce will be what will be reduced
		

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			Okay fine. So
		

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			that in a divorce them in the beginning of their death
		

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			and we said that there is a divorce he
		

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			who is not a male who is not pregnant and who sees her period is either three periods, four three
sorry 34433 menses or three purities.
		

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			Okay. So, he said that the sooner is to vote to divorce her in the beginning in the beginning of
data, which means when she is what
		

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			people after the man says, provided that you don't have you did not have any intimacy or sorry, you
did not have full intimacy with her.
		

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			Okay. Now, this color
		

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			said, This means that the person who wants to follow this in that he will divorce her in the
beginning of the
		

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			period.
		

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			Is that clear? In the beginning of the purity period, why? Because if he does this, that the period
will be long
		

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			and sherea wanted to prolong the period
		

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			in a moderate way, of course, in order to give both husband and wife an opportunity or opportunities
to think again and to reconsider the panel.
		

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			Okay.
		

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			What is the default divorce See? If we say