Haifaa Younis – Who are you to Allah
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The speakers discuss the definition of a servant of Allah and emphasize the importance of knowing the reasons behind behavior. They also touch on the importance of submitting to Allah's commands and not giving out personal information. The speakers stress the need for personal growth and work rather than fasting, and emphasize the importance of learning and working on one's behavior to become a better servant of Islam.
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So when Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is looking
at each one of you now
and of course looking at me,
what is he saying about you?
What definition
he will define you?
Mother,
wife,
professional,
servant of Allah?
Really?
So the first thing is I need to
know who am I.
Where am I in the journey with Allah
subhanahu wa ta'ala? Well, I'm gonna add or
a question.
Do you have a journey with Allah,
or we are so immersed
in our, as I call it, daily
rat race.
Meaning when I go to bed
because we need practical,
When I go to bed in the night
exhausted
and everything you did is halal, alhamdulillah, I'm
not talking about anything not pleasing to Allah,
but have you put your head when you
put your head on that pillow
and says you Allahu Akalhamd,
you helped me to be a good wife,
a good
mother. I did well at in my job.
I prayed for the people of Gaza.
Is Allah in your daily life?
When you say I'm the servant of Allah,
of
course we are,
but are we really the servant of Allah?
Meaning, and I ask this myself before anyone,
when I'm walking in that street, yes I'm
wearing my hijab, alhamdulillah, I'm an obvious Muslim,
Am I really internally
different than this person next to me in
line in the grocery shop
who doesn't know anything about Islam.
She knows there is God but doesn't know
anything about Islam.
Are you all with me?
So the servant of Allah
is not a word,
it is not a claim. I use this
word all the time with me
because it's so easy to claim.
If I do a survey right now between
the mothers
without
names, every one of you will say I
did my best with my children.
Only Allah knows
and the result is not the
the test
or the result of the test.
So what is a servant of Allah?
True servant of Allah which means if I
know
at this moment, and Allah is my witness,
if I know next to my name
he put
the servant of Allah, I'm gonna tell him
take me right away
before things change
because then that's it.
That's it.
What a servant he is. Allah describes Sayid
N Ayub.
What a servant he is turns to Allah
all the way.
So I'm gonna take you back to the
seerah
and I'm gonna tell you
how Allah described
in the Quran
the real servant of Allah.
It's 7 criteria.
7.
All of us are either
the 7 one, the last one is every
woman in this room
because there is option. It's the first six.
So it is the verse in Surat
at Tahrim,
but before I tell you the verse
I'm gonna take you through the reason.
You always have to know why did Allah
say this?
And I'm not questioning his wisdom,
I'm asking what are you teaching me, Allah?
So the story short,
the wives of Rasul 'alaihi wa sallam were
women like you and me. They had emotions,
they loved the rasool, salatu wasalaam, and do
you blame them?
And they were very jealous
from each other.
So there is
many narration,
who was who, the most agreed or the
most probably Allahu Alam correct. It was a
and
a
together
against a.
Listen because this is a big lesson to
every one of us.
Don't let us go to the superficial.
Superficial is an incident.
So this story is as simple as this.
They
were jealous.
They they both of them, Sayida Hafsa and
Sayida Aisha, they said he stayed too long
in the house of Sayida Zainab.
So if he's gonna come when he comes
out, whoever he's gonna go to first
tell him that you smell a bad smell
from his mouth.
It turned to be the most probably, Sayd
Hafsa,
the daughter of Saydna Umar.
Sawama tul kawama. This is how they describe
her. You know what Sawama? Always fasting. Kawama
always up in the night. So he came
to her and he was greeting her and
she says, oh, I smell something not good.
Magafir they call it in the Arabi, which
is not a good smell. What did you
eat?
He said I just had honey
in the house of,
Sayedah Zainab.
He says, maybe
that honey was not the best.
Wait,
wait, because if you're gonna, again, if you're
gonna look superficial
you're not gonna get
the message that we all need to leave
today with.
So she and then he went to Saida
Aisha, Saida Aisha was the second,
and she said exactly the same.
He told Sayida Hafsa, don't tell anyone that
I ate honey in the house of Zainab.
She went and told the Seda Aisha.
Now,
Araswari Sathusser was unhappy.
He decided to divorce them
and there's a story he probably did not
and you're talking about who? The daughter of
Sayidna Umar and Sayidna Aisha, the daughter of
Sayidna Abu Bakr.
So Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala revealed this
when he decided he was contemplating
on divorcing
them. Allah was telling him it's your choice.
He didn't tell him don't. He said
If he decided to divorce you,
Allah will replace them. You're talking about whom?
Sayyid Aisha
and Sayyid Hafsa, not you and me.
If he decide
he wants to divorce them, Allah will replace
him with
better than you, you Allah.
Better than the mothers of the believers
and now he described
the following is the servant of
I'll translate.
You don't want them?
Leave them.
I will I Allah will replace them
or replace you with the following.
This is the criteria,
Muzlimat.
You're gonna say well that's me. Okay, fine.
I know. I'll come to it. Muzlimat,
believer. We are all, right? Sure. Okay. 2
checks, alhamdulillah.
Qani tatin,
now I have to say obedient
because that's obedient to Allah. Or
is the person who's obedient to Allah but
listen to this.
Obedient to Allah without if and but,
without I don't like it, it's not fair,
I live in the States, it's 2023,
I am not ready yet, all the list,
the laundry list of excuses.
Is the one that really hits me,
those who repent.
What does that mean? That means they sin.
No one is perfect.
When do you return? When do you return
to Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala? When do you
ask for forgiveness? Tawba is returned to Allah.
When do you do that? When you are
away
or when you
disobeyed him.
Now you follow it. The sequence is not
just because.
You return to Allah and then you are
in constant worship.
The only one that we don't have a
choice, and each one of us in this
room can be one of them, is
and there is a beautiful Arabi
beauty I'll share it in a second. They
can be virgin or they can have been
married before. So the Allah is telling Rasool
alaihi wa sallam doesn't matter because Sayida Aisha
was virgin.
And she used always to say I'm the
only one that he married.
That I was, Allah says fine, we'll replace
you with a virgin.
Meaning she has been married before,
Taib Sayid Hafsa.
Now are you those?
Do you have these 6? How many of
you say yes? Show me hands.
Alhamdulillah.
What is a Muslimah?
Muslimah is not the one in this context
and most of the meaning of Islam in
the Quran is not the
Islam in the hadith Jibril,
the 5 pillars of Islam.
The 5 pillars will qualify you
to be buried in a Muslim
cemetery and they will prey on you and
me.
But in the sight of Allah it's the
beginning.
The real Muslim.
The person who submit
to Allah.
He wants me to be in a difficult
marriage.
I am not gonna argue, but you're gonna
take me through it or you're gonna guide
me to get divorced. Did you see the
way?
You're not gonna live in misery because he
doesn't want that, but I'm not gonna do
it unless he tells me.
I am
not gonna apply to this college or that
college although I qualify forever unless he tells
me.
Somebody one day asked me this question straightforward
and said how do you know?
And my answer was when you beg him,
he will tell you.
If you are really connected, he will tell
you. How many Muslim are in this room?
Did you see my point? Is you submit
to his will.
Exactly, and
you may dislike something and there's a lot
of goodness in it, then you are a
Muslim.
The moment you start arguing,
and we are especially unfortunately in this day
and age,
Everything is why I'm not convinced, why
me, show me.
The only word I take these days is
why me, I turn and add a letter
to it. Why not me? A woman of
Gaza.
Why you and me living in discomfort now
and they are bombs on their head
and they are the real Muslimah?
And you say what is the difference? Huge.
Huge.
I'm not talking about the 6 Pillars of
Iman, of course, otherwise I'm not.
You really believe,
you really believe with not a single doubt
that he
already have decreed you are sitting here because
he had decreed it upon you. You believe
Yaqeen,
that's what we are seeing in the woman
of Gaza.
When I look at them,
I see the real faith.
The real faith because the real faith comes
in the first time when you're hit, in
the first time when something happens to you,
not later on.
Your immediate reaction
tells you who you are with Allah.
If you say
Allah decree and whatever Allah decree will happen,
you're a believer.
If I have to remind you you're a
believer but you're a second,
not a first.
So I submit to Allah, I believe in
him, then I am fully obedient.
And pay attention, he didn't say or.
He didn't say or. When he talked about
virgin versus not he said or, but this
one is not or. This is all the
criteria.
You cannot pick and choose.
Today I'm a Muslim because I'm in the
Masjid, tomorrow I am not because I'm going
to college or I am at work. My
husband got me upset. I'm not a Muslim.
Well he gave me a gift and now
I'm a Muslim. It doesn't work this way.
24
hours.
Learn to be obedient to Allah.
It is so hard for us, especially women.
True or false?
We by nature,
and I am not
feminist or against feminist. I'm feminist when it
comes what pleases Allah and I'm against feminist
if it doesn't please Allah,
But by nature we are rebellion.
Actually scholars say this is one of the
reasons that hadith,
Allah have said it
about the intimate relationship.
Because women by nature, like women by nature
are givers,
by nature you get up at 3 AM
and the baby is crying and the husband
doesn't, not because you are better. That's how
he put in you.
And by nature we are resilient.
That's why
the were more in the Quran about women
than men.
The only men was described Qanit who was
he?
Sayyidna Ibrahim,
Qanit.
And who are the women?
Sayyidna Mariam.
Are you Qanita?
You know when you say about somebody Qanit?
You're at 4 AM in the morning
in your corner
facing Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, sobbing and crying,
standing up, praying for the people of Gaza,
praying for your children,
but praying for your relationship with Allah.
You Allah love me.
You Allah make me the one that you
look at her and says what a servant
of mine.
Are you?
Doesn't matter you're a wife, doesn't matter you're
a daughter, doesn't matter you're a professional, doesn't
matter you're single, doesn't matter you don't have
children, it doesn't matter.
He didn't say anything about children. Do you
see the verse?
Nothing about husband,
nothing about career.
It's all about you and him.
Taibatin, how many of you did not wake
Kafur Fajr or missed her salah
and sobbed and cried and says you Allah
please forgive me, versus okay,
we're all
masala. And then when you sin and turn
to Allah show me the better.
Follow sins by good deeds
then the sins will be raised. That's hadith
of Rasool, alayhisattu,
and treat people with good manners.
And then.
So interesting,
when you read it there is a long
in it.
In the Arabic language those of you who
know Arabic you think it's the traveler,
right? Siaha is you travel,
but who is she?
The woman
who's in constant state of fasting.
Fasting,
and you really need to take a break
and look him back and says,
why did he say saihat?
And why didn't he say something else? Why
didn't he say dua hijab?
Why didn't he say Muatamira?
Why?
She's in constant state of fasting,
why?
How much you know your Quran ladies?
It's not only stay away from sins, fasting
control you.
It's the only ribadah
that control you, the nafs.
You want this coffee, you want that tea,
you want that water, you want that lunch,
you want to go with your friends.
No, I'm fasting.
And especially
when it is not Ramadan, when you're the
only one
and no one knows.
That's the servant of Allah.
If you put 10
in each one of this, the one I
just shared with you,
what's your score will be?
What's your score will be?
If you are a real Muslim,
a real mumina,
a real Qanita,
Taiba,
Abida,
Sa'ih, you will be the best wife, you
will be the best mother, and you will
be the best one in your profession, and
you will be the best daughter.
The problem is
our relationship with Allah
needs a lot of work,
a lot of work, and we think we
are fine.
Everybody think what's wrong with me, alhamdulillah.
So let's change.
Let's put the goal
put the goal that I really want to
be the servant of Allah. If you say
the Aisha and say the Hafsa,
Allah said there is better than you. I
have a long work
but let's start.
Let him see
the truthfulness in you, each one of you
young before the not very young because
the earlier you change the life is much
easier and the struggle is much easier.
Start the process today
before tomorrow.
Why did Allah make me or he's making
you and me see this constant
nonstop
reels and videos and shorts about Gaza? Why?
So I say you Allah I'm sad and
I cry. Really?
That's it?
What does he want from me?
Change.
Exactly.
Change, change,
start
step by step,
1 by 1. You change, your children change,
lead by example, Walk the talk as we
always say.
So
and I always say, you Allah, make me
from
among those. It was a question Musallamah most
probably asked Rasul alaihi salatu was salam, said,
you Rasulullah, everything in the Quran is for
the women for for the men.
What I'm gonna, what are we gonna get?
She's not feminist.
She is a woman focused on her akhira.
She didn't say how much, why do you
pay them that much and you don't pay
me?
She said all the rewards in the Quran
is for the men. What about us?
Allah revealed this verse.
And it's exactly almost the same sequence, a
little bit more detail.
So be the Muslimah,
the one who submit to Allah
day and night. That's what you want, I'll
do it.
Show me, I'm doing it.
I don't care I like it, I don't
care I don't like it, I don't care
everybody does it, I don't care nobody does
it. Maslima, momina,
faith, Yaqeen, the woman of Gaza.
That you know Allah will never let you
down, that you know whatever comes to is
higher.
Even if I'm not seeing it, that faith
in you,
that faith in you for everybody
is making you scared.
Don't be afraid from people. You're a believer.
You're connected with the one who's strong. You're
strong.
That's the believer, not the believer who comes
here wear a hijab, praise and leave and
nothing changed.
Alhamdulillah, I'm not belittling this, we all are,
but there is way more,
way more, and we need to work on
it before it is
too late.
Before a day when I'm gonna tell Allah,
you Allah please send me back.
I'm gonna do good
and he will say no,
nay,
it's a word from the tip of the
tongue
and you're not gonna go back, you're gonna
stay in the barzakh.
Let's all
make today a day of change.
May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala make everything that
the woman of Gaza
going
through is a reason
we become real Muslims.
We become real Muslims that Allah is proud
of us. That the woman of Gaza
who lost all her family, when they tell
her the woman when they saw their video
they are all closer to Allah, what do
you think she will say? So let's be
the tool for the change
and the one that we start the change,
and may Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala respond to
all our dua, may
Allah make us better, may Allah
make the path for getting better easy, may
Allah lift all this
atrocity and suffering that we are seeing, and
may Allah make us all keys,
keys for khair and keys for jannahi.