Haifaa Younis – The Real Muslim #02

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External if you are not this internal.

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Meaning, no one know in your room.

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Where does your relationship go

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I'm only external.

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And then I go to my room, Allah

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knows what I see or speak or do

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or where is my salah or where is

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my personal relationship with Allah. That's what you

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need.

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And honestly, honestly, this is way easier now

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in spite of everything you are seeing than

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when I was in your shoes.

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When I came to that Washington University day

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1, you know the first question I was

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asked, what's your religion?

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I was like, that's gonna be a very

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difficult for you. They don't even know what

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this now is.

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I doubt anyone now will ask you what's

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your

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religion. Very unless you're gonna go to Dakota

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in one of these whatever, they don't have

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anything. And then I was like, they've never

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seen.

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So now it's very easy. But what is

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the problem? And please forgive me. I don't

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mean you but in general. I mean, as

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you most of you know, I just came

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back from Gaza.

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And it's it's it's sad. I was in

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the Arab world and then I was in

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Gaza without say it as a.

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Numbers,

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the numbers are useless.

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Like the phone

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That cannot

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be me. Every one of you here,

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literally, 5 years ago, put it. I wanna

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get married and have children. That'll be, I

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mean, I wanna whatever you wanna do,

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don't forget.

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And a 5 year old with Allah.

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Even if Allah decide to take you or

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take me before I reach that goal, he

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will

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reward me as if I reached it. You

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know that. Because that's a principle in the

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Quran.

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So

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ever migrated for the sake of Allah. For

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the sake of Allah, meaning you left everything.

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You left your comfort zone. You left a

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good job because it was displeasing to Allah.

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You add your

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peace for the sake of Allah.

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Love.

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Whomsoever

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leave his house,

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migrating for Allah his

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then he does.

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Meaning, you didn't reach, you didn't finish.

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Your reward will be given by Allah Subhanahu

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wa'anahu.

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And then my leadership in doing.

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Hassan for after that,

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Hassan in my

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Muslim personal relationship with Allah and then my

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Muslim

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relationship with this.

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You cannot get here

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if you don't have it.

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You cannot have a deal if you cannot.

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If you don't have a relationship with Allah.

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And again, the relationship can be from simple,

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Just bear witness

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to a person who 24 7 think of

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Allah. If you don't have this

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very unlikely will end up having a son.

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Some of their work that's why please forgive

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me. The more you are in leadership,

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the opportunity to be corrupted.

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I can't tell you.

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It is there, and everyone is doing it.

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And you have to stay steadfast. And if

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you don't change, then Allah is number 1.

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That's easy said.

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Unless you have him in your life and

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he will protect you, will pull you out

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before you slip or he will open the

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opportunity for you to strip away

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from what this is. But he's not gonna

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do it unless you start.

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Unless you put him number 1 in your

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life.

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That's your son.

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So I hope I made it very easy

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and clear for

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you. Each one of you go home today

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and write it on a piece of paper

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and put the date.

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And say, today,

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25th or 20 what's today? 25th

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April. 25th April,

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my relationship will all engrave your relationship.

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A lot. She is.

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Now I make me better than what you

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think.

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You grade your relationship with

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And you to to make your grading easy,

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there's couple of

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things. Practical.

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Reality. Not words. I'm not gonna say big

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words.

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Number 1, where are you with the salah?

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Don't tell me you have a relationship with

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Allah and your salah is not there.

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Big imams, they struggle. As Said Ali said,

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if I know Allah accepted 2

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units of salah from me, I want to

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die.

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So where are you in your salah? Is

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it the last thing after you do everything?

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It's like, oh, 2 minutes left for.

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Then Allah is the last thing.

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So look at your salaf.

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Look at your relationship again. I don't know

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any one of you I'm saying in general,

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but I know what youth

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are exposed to. May Allah protect you.

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What's your relationship with Halal?

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Don't answer me. That's for you.

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Else is doing. But tell me about Hassan.

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You didn't see a law in the decision.

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Did you get the point? Once once you

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see a law in every step getting married,

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why did you get married to this person

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or to that

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girl? Well, I love her. You didn't see

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Allah.

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You saw your

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He's not a physician. I said, really?

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Is that the reason? Is that what I

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was saying?

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Honestly,

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very nice family, amazing young girl.

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And I was quite so comfortable. How a

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lot does this one reality comes in.

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Or I don't want her because she wears

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her hijab.

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Breathing, and you tell me you're a good

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Muslim?

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So here you go. Every step in your

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life, including

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the coffee. Why did I buy this coffee

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at 5 PM? How much does this cost

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me? I'm not this is real.

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Don't get sucked in

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to what everybody else is doing.

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I took you with me to us.

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You will not put this in your mouth

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because this will save a family for a

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month. Unless I feel for the others,

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even if I am not from them or

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among them,

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then I what what what is Islam? What

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are you talking about?

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I need to prepare for the stuff.

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I took my niece for for shopping.

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I said, let's find it. I said, why?

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Do you need it?

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He said, no. I said, no.

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Right. So, again,

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practically,

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see a law in every step. I wanna

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give some time for discussion.

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So in every step in your life,

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you're gonna have

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as you're making decisions, yes or no,

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is never you see you.

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You always see a lost.

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As you see a lost

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everything at this stage, then you are learning

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how to do with the Islam.

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Then when you come to leadership,

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Islam and leadership. What is leader? You're a

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leader to somebody.

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Family,

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company.

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And I say whatever it is,

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the first question if you are a person

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of Hassan is

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what?

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Why do you wanna be a leader?

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Why do you wanna be an MSA president?

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Why? I always ask people. All the medical

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students ask me, I wanna go to mess

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I wanna go to OID. I said, why?

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And the young boy, I love him. Ahmed,

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he's 14.

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Okay. Great. Why?

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Because I wanna help people.

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I said, why don't you be a garbage

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man?

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Fool me.

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Tell me why you wanna be a physician.

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This is you need to be why you

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wanna be a leader?

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Leadership brings a lot of

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dunya. A lot of

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good feedback. You know? I I tell people,

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you wanna be arrogant? Be a physician.

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The profession itself

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inject

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in you without you knowing elements. I don't

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mean you, but here I am. It's in

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there. Absolutely.

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Everyone tells you whatever you

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say.

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Right? Everybody in your office, the patient. Or

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why if it was not you, you had

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the Torah, I would have the it's not

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me. It's Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. So unless

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you have this Islamic knowledge that keep reminding

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you. So when you want a leadership position,

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why?

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Why? Why do you wanna be a CEO

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of a company?

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Why?

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To help Muslims. Really? Show me.

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And all the shaitan lure you in giving

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you

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excuses

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that you are not. You don't even do

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it on your daily basis.

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So the second question is always why.

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So the first question is this is pleasing

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to Allah. Number 2 is why.

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If you say I like it,

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that's not for Allah. That's you. Nafs mean.

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We're talking that the Imam Al Khazali. He

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is the psychologist of Islam. That's your mess.

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Why you wanna do it? To please my

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parents. That's for people. It's good, but that's

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for people. That's not for

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Allah. Or it's a good job. It's gonna

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give me a good income. That's for dunya.

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So you have to be in Islam again

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every decision. Why do you say no to

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this?

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I'm like, I'm not interested.

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Right? So now after I see this, I

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was like, my niece actually didn't apply for

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Georgetown. Now I'm gonna go home and say

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why?

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Why didn't? Because normally the the answer, I

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know. Where is the rate of this,

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university and with in colleges?

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What is it? What number? What is it?

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I don't know. But that's what they all

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look at. Right?

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But that's not pleasing to all. If I

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was applying for a college, the first thing

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I would look at is what is the

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MSA?

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How strong is the MSA in this university?

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Right? What's the closest month to do this?

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What's the rate of the crime in there?

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What is the the rate of hate crime?

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Can I practice my then you are acting

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that sound?

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I hope this is clear for everybody.

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Simple?