Haifaa Younis – The Real Muslim #02

Haifaa Younis
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The difficulty of finding out who is in a room is now resolved, and the importance of witnessing and staying steadfast in leadership is emphasized. The speaker also emphasizes the need to understand someone's relationship and not giving too many false assumptions, and the importance of practicing Islam in every decision. The speaker offers advice on what to ask for in a leadership position and emphasizes the importance of leadership in shaping one's life.

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			External if you are not this internal.
		
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			Meaning, no one know in your room.
		
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			Where does your relationship go
		
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			I'm only external.
		
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			And then I go to my room, Allah
		
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			knows what I see or speak or do
		
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			or where is my salah or where is
		
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			my personal relationship with Allah. That's what you
		
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			need.
		
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			And honestly, honestly, this is way easier now
		
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			in spite of everything you are seeing than
		
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			when I was in your shoes.
		
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			When I came to that Washington University day
		
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			1, you know the first question I was
		
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			asked, what's your religion?
		
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			I was like, that's gonna be a very
		
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			difficult for you. They don't even know what
		
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			this now is.
		
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			I doubt anyone now will ask you what's
		
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			your
		
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			religion. Very unless you're gonna go to Dakota
		
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			in one of these whatever, they don't have
		
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			anything. And then I was like, they've never
		
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			seen.
		
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			So now it's very easy. But what is
		
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			the problem? And please forgive me. I don't
		
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			mean you but in general. I mean, as
		
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			you most of you know, I just came
		
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			back from Gaza.
		
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			And it's it's it's sad. I was in
		
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			the Arab world and then I was in
		
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			Gaza without say it as a.
		
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			Numbers,
		
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			the numbers are useless.
		
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			Like the phone
		
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			That cannot
		
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			be me. Every one of you here,
		
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			literally, 5 years ago, put it. I wanna
		
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			get married and have children. That'll be, I
		
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			mean, I wanna whatever you wanna do,
		
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			don't forget.
		
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			And a 5 year old with Allah.
		
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			Even if Allah decide to take you or
		
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			take me before I reach that goal, he
		
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			will
		
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			reward me as if I reached it. You
		
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			know that. Because that's a principle in the
		
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			Quran.
		
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			So
		
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			ever migrated for the sake of Allah. For
		
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			the sake of Allah, meaning you left everything.
		
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			You left your comfort zone. You left a
		
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			good job because it was displeasing to Allah.
		
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			You add your
		
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			peace for the sake of Allah.
		
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			Love.
		
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			Whomsoever
		
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			leave his house,
		
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			migrating for Allah his
		
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			then he does.
		
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			Meaning, you didn't reach, you didn't finish.
		
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			Your reward will be given by Allah Subhanahu
		
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			wa'anahu.
		
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			And then my leadership in doing.
		
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			Hassan for after that,
		
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			Hassan in my
		
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			Muslim personal relationship with Allah and then my
		
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			Muslim
		
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			relationship with this.
		
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			You cannot get here
		
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			if you don't have it.
		
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			You cannot have a deal if you cannot.
		
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			If you don't have a relationship with Allah.
		
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			And again, the relationship can be from simple,
		
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			Just bear witness
		
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			to a person who 24 7 think of
		
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			Allah. If you don't have this
		
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			very unlikely will end up having a son.
		
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			Some of their work that's why please forgive
		
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			me. The more you are in leadership,
		
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			the opportunity to be corrupted.
		
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			I can't tell you.
		
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			It is there, and everyone is doing it.
		
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			And you have to stay steadfast. And if
		
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			you don't change, then Allah is number 1.
		
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			That's easy said.
		
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			Unless you have him in your life and
		
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			he will protect you, will pull you out
		
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			before you slip or he will open the
		
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			opportunity for you to strip away
		
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			from what this is. But he's not gonna
		
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			do it unless you start.
		
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			Unless you put him number 1 in your
		
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			life.
		
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			That's your son.
		
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			So I hope I made it very easy
		
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			and clear for
		
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			you. Each one of you go home today
		
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			and write it on a piece of paper
		
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			and put the date.
		
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			And say, today,
		
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			25th or 20 what's today? 25th
		
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			April. 25th April,
		
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			my relationship will all engrave your relationship.
		
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			A lot. She is.
		
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			Now I make me better than what you
		
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			think.
		
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			You grade your relationship with
		
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			And you to to make your grading easy,
		
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			there's couple of
		
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			things. Practical.
		
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			Reality. Not words. I'm not gonna say big
		
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			words.
		
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			Number 1, where are you with the salah?
		
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			Don't tell me you have a relationship with
		
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			Allah and your salah is not there.
		
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			Big imams, they struggle. As Said Ali said,
		
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			if I know Allah accepted 2
		
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			units of salah from me, I want to
		
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			die.
		
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			So where are you in your salah? Is
		
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			it the last thing after you do everything?
		
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			It's like, oh, 2 minutes left for.
		
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			Then Allah is the last thing.
		
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			So look at your salaf.
		
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			Look at your relationship again. I don't know
		
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			any one of you I'm saying in general,
		
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			but I know what youth
		
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			are exposed to. May Allah protect you.
		
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			What's your relationship with Halal?
		
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			Don't answer me. That's for you.
		
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			Else is doing. But tell me about Hassan.
		
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			You didn't see a law in the decision.
		
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			Did you get the point? Once once you
		
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			see a law in every step getting married,
		
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			why did you get married to this person
		
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			or to that
		
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			girl? Well, I love her. You didn't see
		
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			Allah.
		
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			You saw your
		
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			He's not a physician. I said, really?
		
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			Is that the reason? Is that what I
		
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			was saying?
		
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			Honestly,
		
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			very nice family, amazing young girl.
		
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			And I was quite so comfortable. How a
		
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			lot does this one reality comes in.
		
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			Or I don't want her because she wears
		
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			her hijab.
		
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			Breathing, and you tell me you're a good
		
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			Muslim?
		
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			So here you go. Every step in your
		
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			life, including
		
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			the coffee. Why did I buy this coffee
		
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			at 5 PM? How much does this cost
		
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			me? I'm not this is real.
		
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			Don't get sucked in
		
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			to what everybody else is doing.
		
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			I took you with me to us.
		
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			You will not put this in your mouth
		
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			because this will save a family for a
		
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			month. Unless I feel for the others,
		
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			even if I am not from them or
		
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			among them,
		
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			then I what what what is Islam? What
		
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			are you talking about?
		
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			I need to prepare for the stuff.
		
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			I took my niece for for shopping.
		
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			I said, let's find it. I said, why?
		
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			Do you need it?
		
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			He said, no. I said, no.
		
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			Right. So, again,
		
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			practically,
		
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			see a law in every step. I wanna
		
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			give some time for discussion.
		
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			So in every step in your life,
		
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			you're gonna have
		
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			as you're making decisions, yes or no,
		
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			is never you see you.
		
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			You always see a lost.
		
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			As you see a lost
		
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			everything at this stage, then you are learning
		
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			how to do with the Islam.
		
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			Then when you come to leadership,
		
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			Islam and leadership. What is leader? You're a
		
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			leader to somebody.
		
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			Family,
		
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			company.
		
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			And I say whatever it is,
		
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			the first question if you are a person
		
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			of Hassan is
		
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			what?
		
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			Why do you wanna be a leader?
		
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			Why do you wanna be an MSA president?
		
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			Why? I always ask people. All the medical
		
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			students ask me, I wanna go to mess
		
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			I wanna go to OID. I said, why?
		
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			And the young boy, I love him. Ahmed,
		
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			he's 14.
		
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			Okay. Great. Why?
		
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			Because I wanna help people.
		
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			I said, why don't you be a garbage
		
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			man?
		
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			Fool me.
		
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			Tell me why you wanna be a physician.
		
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			This is you need to be why you
		
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			wanna be a leader?
		
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			Leadership brings a lot of
		
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			dunya. A lot of
		
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			good feedback. You know? I I tell people,
		
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			you wanna be arrogant? Be a physician.
		
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			The profession itself
		
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			inject
		
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			in you without you knowing elements. I don't
		
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			mean you, but here I am. It's in
		
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			there. Absolutely.
		
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			Everyone tells you whatever you
		
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			say.
		
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			Right? Everybody in your office, the patient. Or
		
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			why if it was not you, you had
		
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			the Torah, I would have the it's not
		
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			me. It's Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. So unless
		
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			you have this Islamic knowledge that keep reminding
		
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			you. So when you want a leadership position,
		
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			why?
		
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			Why? Why do you wanna be a CEO
		
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			of a company?
		
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			Why?
		
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			To help Muslims. Really? Show me.
		
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			And all the shaitan lure you in giving
		
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			you
		
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			excuses
		
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			that you are not. You don't even do
		
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			it on your daily basis.
		
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			So the second question is always why.
		
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			So the first question is this is pleasing
		
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			to Allah. Number 2 is why.
		
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			If you say I like it,
		
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			that's not for Allah. That's you. Nafs mean.
		
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			We're talking that the Imam Al Khazali. He
		
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			is the psychologist of Islam. That's your mess.
		
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			Why you wanna do it? To please my
		
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			parents. That's for people. It's good, but that's
		
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			for people. That's not for
		
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			Allah. Or it's a good job. It's gonna
		
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			give me a good income. That's for dunya.
		
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			So you have to be in Islam again
		
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			every decision. Why do you say no to
		
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			this?
		
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			I'm like, I'm not interested.
		
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			Right? So now after I see this, I
		
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			was like, my niece actually didn't apply for
		
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			Georgetown. Now I'm gonna go home and say
		
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			why?
		
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			Why didn't? Because normally the the answer, I
		
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			know. Where is the rate of this,
		
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			university and with in colleges?
		
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			What is it? What number? What is it?
		
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			I don't know. But that's what they all
		
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			look at. Right?
		
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			But that's not pleasing to all. If I
		
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			was applying for a college, the first thing
		
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			I would look at is what is the
		
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			MSA?
		
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			How strong is the MSA in this university?
		
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			Right? What's the closest month to do this?
		
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			What's the rate of the crime in there?
		
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			What is the the rate of hate crime?
		
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			Can I practice my then you are acting
		
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			that sound?
		
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			I hope this is clear for everybody.
		
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			Simple?