Haifaa Younis – Knowledge Is A Weapon Against Misogyny

			Our last speaker, Dr. Hay for Yunus. She's an American Board Certified obstetrician and
gynecologist. She's a graduate of both the mecca Institute of Islamic Studies in Jeddah, a graduate
of alhuda Quran memorization school in Jetta. She's the founder and chairwoman of Gemini Institute
for women, where she teaches classes and conducts seminars on the Quran, and its relevance to our
day to day living. She also offers retreats on key topics to inspire a connection to God.
		

			Well, the floor is all yours now Dr. Yunus salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato Bismillah
Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala rasulillah. While early he was a woman who Allah La Muslim
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wahala. The Tamil assignee of ko holy salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah everyone, I would love to see
you all. But unless pantalla has a reason for us, for the last year, actually, in a few weeks
		

			becomes a year where we lived in this way, when we became much more connected, but distantly. So
hamdulillah. I mean, it's a pleasure to be with you all. It's beautiful to have this subject to be
talked about and discussed about because it's real. Yeah, and I am sure if there was time, and I
would have the ability or the opportunity, and maybe in the questions and answers to ask every woman
listening to me today, I am sure she will have at least one. If not two, not three stories personal
about feeling this, living this. And Allah knows how she managed it. So misogyny or, or, or
discrimination or hatred, or looking down at women in general? It is there. It is absolutely. There
		

			it is.
		

			Toward Muslim woman. You probably gonna say it is more Can everyone hear me? Yes, you can hear you
can hear, you know, audience fine. So me as a Muslim woman, you as Muslim woman, and we have double
or triple or four issues that we are facing. This is how I'm going to start singing. Look at
everything that happens in your life as a blessing from Allah.
		

			I have set in Arabic for those of you who know, everything comes from Alaska, Hawaii, Maya, Tina
llahi. Everything comes from Allah is here. So when I am being discriminated against, you may find
this is strange, but look to what I'm going to share with you. Everything comes from a wise hire is
good. I am being discriminated. Have I been discriminated as a woman as a Muslim woman living in the
in the States? The answer is absolutely. I lived in England before. Absolutely. As a Muslim woman,
as a professional as a physician. But where is the *? Where is the goodness in this, this is what
you, every Muslim woman listening to me, I want you to know this. This topic will not be changed. We
		

			cannot fight it. Unless I number one, acknowledge it. And number two, each one of us as an
individual fighted. Don't expect somebody else to do it for you. You do it, I do it. How do I do it?
It's not fighting. You change the perception by you changed. You change I can share with you stories
of what's mis perception, the way I look gives people beyond beyond I'll just share one quick story
with you. So you can imagine and this is this is like 15 years ago, I was flying back from South
Africa. And just just in the plane, we did not even take off yet. And they announced Is there a
physician in this on this plane. And I stood up and I was supposed to law sitting at the end of the
		

			back of the plane and I came forward and another man came with me. And it took about 45 minutes It
was about with talking with the pilot. Finally we had to have the passenger moved out because he was
very sick.
		

			So I was coming back and I was waiting Of course my Muslim attire. And when I travel I usually wear
a bio because it's very comfortable.
		

			And as I was coming back, this is 15 years ago but I will never forget it till the day Allah Subhana
Allah will take me back and I was on on an airline. Of course Western aim without names were
publicly and in the middle of the aisle.
		

			I was called, excuse me, excuse me. And I looked, and he said, Are you a doctor in front of
everybody in the plane?
		

			And I said, Yes. And he said, are you? And I said, Yes, three times. I was about to joke because the
third time said, Oh, yes, I was about to say, you want me to show you my license? What is that?
perception, wrong perception? Because of the way I look? Definitely because I am a woman. If not,
it's number one, because I am a woman. Number two, the way I look it doesn't fit. So number one, my
beautiful sisters, and if the brothers are hearing me, we have to accept it. This is one of the
wisdoms of Allah that we don't have an explanation.
		

			But there has to be hearing it has to be good in it.
		

			And Islam is not this. This is what the whole topic is. Islam is not this, that the the neither the
scripture the Quran itself says this, nor are Swati salatu salam says this nor the teaching of Allah
Swati saw to us. As I was thinking, one verse came in my mind and probably most of you may be
familiar with it. It's the first verse in the surah course or to the mandala and Mandala is
basically argumentation. What is this first verse?
		

			A lot of people don't talk about this verse, or refer to this verse. You know, what is this verse
about this verse about? This is a woman and they even differ in her name. So you can imagine it's
not like somebody who's well known and public Hola, Hola. Hola. Been Salah, but if you read the, the
commentary, they will give you like five, six names.
		

			What did this woman do? She came to this rally Software Center. He was with a say die show. And they
say die says narrating this. And she said this woman came to her Swati site or Sarah complaining
about her husband.
		

			And she said you're also Allah, the meaning of explaining it. You said you're also Allah. He managed
me when I was young. I got pregnant and gave children and now I am older now, quote, unquote, even
to describe like I gain weight. And now he doesn't want to me and he told me You're like my mother,
meaning no marital relationship.
		

			What should I do? Allah Swati Salatu was set out the Messenger of Allah pantalla the answer gave
what Allah taught us up till now. And he told her, you are haraam Ali, you are not any more man and
and a husband and a wife. She responded, I need you to feel this. This is a woman, not a scholar.
		

			Right, has a marital issue came to the best creation of a law. Right? And he answered her number one
and the answer is not what she want. responded again, she said Yasser Allah, I lived with him all
these years, served him gave children now I am older, and quote unquote gain weight. And now he
doesn't want to me how how often you hear this. He responded for him to lay you this is what Allah
taught him so far. There is no compromise. Third time third time, said I saw that there was a slot
to sit on face change.
		

			And she told her to hold on to say that he knows when the Quran when the revelation being revealed
Torah Swati Sato said she said to her, don't speak anymore. Wait. And then this verse was revealed
to them to roswaal risotto Sara are the semi Allahu cola lucky to Jai DeLuca zodia with a sticky in
a law because at the third time, she said I'm complaining to Allah.
		

			Basically what we say these days is not fair. What did I do? And Allah who responded, or an use that
to this day, you and I recited up till today.
		

			Allah have heard a semi Allah, Allah, Allah had heard the saying or the speech of the one the one
let's see, meaning the woman to Jagielka she is arguing with you or discussing with you the matter
of her husband or law who yes smell the How would Akuma Allah hear what you are saying meaning how
you responded? Imagine this is also a slight twist.
		

			And then an Allah then send
		

			the How come the ruling because of a woman not a scholar? What does that teaches me as a Muslim
woman and this is to all my beautiful
		

			There's number one and you if you have ever heard me speaking or you will follow us, our programs on
gender Institute, you know, what is my first focus in life? Learn your Diem my beautiful sisters,
learn it well, and learn it properly, not what you were taught by your family, by my mother or
grandmother, may Allah bless them and give them genuine dose and talking about study, learn while
learn not only your rights, but what's your obligations also towards Allah towards Allah Swati saw
to Sarah toward your family. Look at this woman. She didn't know but when she went, and when she
went to Roswell resort to sit down, she was explaining she wanted an answer. And Allah supported
		

			her.
		

			So massage, massage, massage genie is there it is there. And as you put it to beautifully in your
introduction about the the conference, it's painful, what comes from the inside, let alone from the
outside. So basically, we women have to two sides we have to take care of inside my house. And this
is of course not general. But I'm saying we hear this and we see this that inside my house, I'm
being looked down, discriminated. And then I go out and I am the Muslim woman I am discriminated
against looked down or even attacked.
		

			It is there. What should we do? Number one, as I said, learn this fact. Don't be surprised. Get your
ID.
		

			What does that mean? And all of you we live in a non Muslim world.
		

			Get ready when you are in the supermarket. When you are in a waiting room of of the physician when
you are in public as a Muslim woman, get your ID that you will be asked maybe nicely, maybe not
nicely, in a way to
		

			express or reflect this. You need to be ready how to respond. Don't be shy. But be nice and be
polite. And show the beauty of your deen. If you don't know the beauty of Islam, you cannot give it
to people.
		

			One, two, when you are contacting or communicating with the other people, show them the other face.
Show them show them by action. That what they hear and what they read and what they see is not true.
Smile. Talk to people. When you see a child comment on it. Be sweet and nice. That's my Dean. That's
my religion. Excuse me. Thank you I'm sorry I didn't pay attention. Sometimes I see when you are
walking in the street and you see another Muslim woman say Salaam to her. spread peace. Be proud of
who you are. shyness is beautiful modesty is beautiful, but that doesn't mean it's weakness. And I
am hiding the beauty
		

			what most of the woman I think one of the problems if I am looking at it from the woman's side of
our point of view is that we women don't see that don't see the beauty in it. I don't know what
Islam gave me I don't know why Islam told me do this and don't do that. I don't know the wisdom the
Hikmah from some of the things that we look at it and say this is not fair. All these things we need
to learn we need to learn the number one
		

			weapon if I'm gonna use this word
		

			that woman will need to fight this hatred is education is educate you stand up and as the woman
where she stood up to say normal, say it normal if there was a prophet or Swati saw it was Salaam
service there was to be a prophet after meat will be online. And you know what, what a personality
here when he was giving the hot one and gave the ruling that it has been the dowry has basically the
meaning of dowry became out of limit and I am gonna put a limit to it.
		

			Of course he had the reason she stood up woman we don't even know her name. But we know she was a
woman. She stood up and she said you're gonna make what Allah made a tunnel, you're gonna make it
harm. And she quoted the idea from the Quran.
		

			When you look loose, it means it. Everyone let them spend according to what they have. You cannot
put a limit if someone is richer
		

			them give more.
		

			But I can do this. You can do this without education. We're scared.
		

			Scared of what? Scared of what? You as a woman, Muslim woman attached and connected with away the
strong, who can hurt me? Who can you relate to me? And you're going to tell me but it's happening.
And I'm going to say yes, but I'll away when the strong is with me two things will happen when one
lady died. And I'm saying this, again, from experience, I'm not saying it, you don't read this,
these things in the books by the way, he will be with me in two ways. Either he will give me the
patient and the calmness to completely ignore this or he will give me the strength and the hjem the
absolute way of responding.
		

			So you need unless I have the education, unless I know this, I cannot do that. I absolutely cannot
do that. So they're not forced to step in fighting this disease that is becoming pandemic I think
it's number one come from the woman and I'm not saying you're going to become argumentative and
you're going to that's not how it is. That's not how it is it's just like when I am in my office and
I am discussing a point with a patient is not the argument is explaining
		

			and if third if you did all this and still things doesn't change that's where my connection with
Allah I am going to say your law that's that's personal connection that we are missing Also, I'm
going to say your own law. I did what you taught me. I tried to be strong, you helped me
		

			in nalle and also also now watch pantalla in many places in the Quran, but this is specifically
about the messengers we will give victory to Our Messengers yes we are not messengers but we are
fighting for a loss pantai and I want to end up because I know I have only 15 minutes Nadia Tell me
if I if I passed my time You know what? I could listen to you God such a soothing voice so couple
more minutes is fine don't worry.
		

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			late to go over our time. But this is what I want to tell you.
		

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			Hello. Is that good? Yeah, I can hear you maybe put your volume up a little bit. Yeah.
		

			I'm gonna put my volume up.
		

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			my inner volume. Okay, I'll give you my beautiful sisters. With the three things and this is Allah
is my witness. I did not prepare anything. I actually in fact just came from the hospital. Oh, wow.
Thank you for taking the time anyway. No, yeah, exactly. I have like a patient who's in a handleless
he's getting better but it's a serious so I had to go and see her. And I was so glad when it is one
o'clock. I thought it was 12 my time. So hungry. Now. I will leave you with three things. Okay, new
sisters. Number one, it's all from the Quran. Number one. You want dignity. You want to be strong.
You want to live with, as with again, with dignity with honor, get connected with Allah don't get
		

			connected to any human being. And Allah said it, when can you reduce his fellow penalized Allah He
Jamia whomsoever once dignity, power, honor, exit to Allah, conduct with a law, learn about Allah,
learn about your dean, learn about his book, and see what Allah will give you. It's not going to
come right away. It will, but it will come. That's number one. Number two, this process to change
needs time. I have to be patient. I and you all of us have to be patient, not lazy. Not, don't give
up. But be patient. Things needs time to change. And who's going to give me patient a sobald Allah,
your subordinates are Bumi that's how I always say when things gets really tough and tight. I was
		

			lucky also Musab Bernie, you're Allah, you are the patient. Give me patient. That's number two.
Number three, which is also related to Allah. Rely on Allah. He is the one who will change
		

			things not you and me, he will change it. But how? By you serving Him. So when I am here today
talking to you, if my intention Allah knows my intention, if my intention was to impress you or to
get the likes or to get the followers don't expect anything from Allah, because that's not from
Allah. I fight for this Deen for Allah because it's his religion. I practice it because it's his
religion. The last word I will leave you with, get connected with the last punk dollar properly and
see what Allah will give you this akmola here Please forgive me for all the technical issues.