Haifaa Younis – Jannah Gems #39 – The Three Skills of Emotional Intelligence

			So there are three skills actually, that you acquire when you become more emotionally intelligent.
The first is becoming aware of your own emotions, but not just emotions in general, you know, just
to be able to know yourself, but this ability to identify, you know, distinct qualities of yourself,
including your emotions, right, is one thing that you will get by becoming more emotionally
intelligent, you also become more in tune with, with the are able to regulate those emotions. So
it's not just the knowledge of those emotions or the awareness of them, but also the ability to
harness those emotions and then use them effectively, because certain emotions absolutely have have
		

			utility, I mean, that's why we have that right, almost one has blessed us with a range of emotions.
And each of them are useful in the right time in the right context. And so what learning about
emotional intelligence does is it gives you that ability to know when to use those emotions, how,
when effectively. And so that's regulation and then management. So now that you have, you know, this
knowledge of awareness and regulation, you also need to know how to manage your own emotions, but
the emotions of others too, because you're going to have people in your life, right? That I mean, we
all do family members, co workers, neighbors, people, of all different community members,
		

			backgrounds that are different than us. And if we don't know how to manage those types of emotions,
or other people's emotions, it will impact our own states. And this is why you see a lot of people
just not being able to do this, whether they're new parents, and they're feeling overwhelmed with
the demands of their, you know, an infant, or a person, you know, thrown into a new work situation
or new school environment. And there's just too many personality types too many different people
that they don't know how to, you know, to work with. And so what happens is, you know, they shut
down and so this is what emotional intelligence offers you. It offers you this ability to again, be
		

			aware to regulate and then to manage. So the simple acronym that you can remember from this is arm
and think of it like a strength, right? Because this is a tool, and there's a lot of great tools out
there. But this particular tool, you want to think of it as a tool that strengthens you, it's
associated with your arm, you know, kind of like you're working out, you know, this muscle is a good
way to remember that this is what your objective is when learning about emotional intelligence,
right? You want to get really strong